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Long term Partners · Life and Love Podcast

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What's going on? What's going on? What's going
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on? You're now tuned in to life and love with
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Erica and Sean here on the network that got what
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you need because we got what you need. Right?
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How you doing tonight? Did you tell this dark?
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Yes, it is dark outside. We were recording late.
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Yep, it is. But it's been getting dark earlier.
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Yeah, yeah, it's definitely been getting dark
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earlier. That time is winding down. Fall is here.
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Right. I love it. I love the feel of it. But
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I just know what's coming next after it. And
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that's what I don't like. It be so long before
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it come down. Don't be till January, end of January,
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beginning of February. It gets cold in November
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for me. Yeah. After Halloween, that's it. It's
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cold. All right. Yeah. Alright. I'm cold now,
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you see. Already done stopped. All day. Hoodie.
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Hey man, get some more iron in. I'm not the only
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one like that. It's a lot of us. A lot of y 'all
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like that. Iron deficient black women. That's
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what it is. Nah. It's a long line of iron deficient
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black women. We just don't like the cold women.
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That's all. I ain't mad at it. I wanted to kind
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of... be like this anywhere. I'm tired of all
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this soup about 90s and 98s. I'm about tired
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of it. So I was outside today like, yeah, I can
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put on some clothes. I got big boy clothes I
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can put on. It was warmer today though than it
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was a couple of days ago. Yeah, it definitely
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was. Yeah. See, see, see, see. That's what I
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prefer. All right, man. Well, let's get into
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the show, man. Let's get things going. Let's
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get into it, y 'all. Right. All right. First
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topic of the show is how do long -term partners
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fall into the roommate trap and what should they
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do to help them, you know, rekindle things? I
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hate you. The glorified roommates. Glorified
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roommates. Right. It can easily fall into that
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trap of roommates. It can. Because you've been
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there together for so long and everything kind
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of just become routine. And so now it's like,
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okay, I do my part, they do they part. It's kind
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of like the whole roommate thing. It is easy
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to fall into that trap. give them tools and tips
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on how they can get back together. Yeah. Or just
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not even get into that space. Well, if you are
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in that space, do things together. Right. They
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don't have one person take on, you know, all
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the load split up task. Why are you and also
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why are you doing task and stuff? Have a conversation
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with each other. Start talking to each other
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and stuff like that. It's easy it's easier to
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say it's easier to say hey people turn into that
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this is what they do even Splitting the task
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and talking each other. That's roommate shit.
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That's if you ever had a roommate you when your
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roommate split shit Yo this week may you watch
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the dishes or you watch your dishes I watch mine
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and we do this and we talking or we laughing
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and joking. I think I think um To me, I feel
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like once you get to that roommate phase you
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kind of It's kind of over. It's kind of lost
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cause almost it's kind of the kind of thing like
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this at that That door of like, you know, we
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closing it the same ain't working out. We we
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just walking past each other We ain't really
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talking is it's not fun anymore. You know me
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but if it's not like that if it's like one -sided
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in that respect retrospect and it got to be some
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level of rekindling, you know, yeah doing the
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things that y 'all did to Even fucking like each
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other, you know, I mean start back liking each
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other You might love you can love a person but
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you can also not like that person as well It's
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like let's get back to liking one another liking
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who each other is and what what each other brings
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to the table you know me shit like that like
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but Look, I've been in a relationship where it
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was like I had no feelings. We just we just walk
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around this motherfucker You know, I mean right
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I'm sleeping right in the bed or I'll sleep on
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the couch, but we not there's no interaction
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You don't even feel a person in the bed, you
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know, that's bad when the person y 'all sleep
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together You don't even feel a person. So you
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won't even like give a fuck. Yeah Yeah You do
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have to you can love somebody. Yeah, you love
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each other You do gotta like that part. I like
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each other you have to like Yeah, some form of
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like you know me and I'm not talking about lust
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and so I like Yeah, like really like you know
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like oh I really do like him You got to like
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somebody right if it's worth saving You got to
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figure it out if it ain't worth saving you can
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move on with the move on but if it's worth saving
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Yeah, you both got to figure out try at it. Yeah
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Yeah, you know me both try at it All right, how
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do you talk about changing of desires like sex
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drives physical changes? You know like women
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postpartum both of us aging stress, you know
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saying Without making the other person feel some
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type of way. Yeah, you know, I mean like if If
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you if you're feeling certain things within your
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body where you like Sean, I'm not what do you
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do? You know, I'm your sex driving day. You don't
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feel loved one. You don't feel wanted. You don't
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feel sexy because a lot of that stuff is internal.
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Yeah. What do you what do you do? To make me
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be like. To let me know that this is what's going
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on. Yeah. That's here. What do you I will come
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to you and let you know you will, because if
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something is off with me, I'm quick to say, all
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right, something right. You know, I'm not feeling
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right. And then, you know, I'll go and I correct
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it. You know, I'll, you know, try some things.
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We'll ever get it together. But I think I don't
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even know even in the past that I've ever had
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any issues of telling you, you know, something's
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not right or, you know, even when you went through
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postpartum, you did tell me. Yeah. So. I don't
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think I have a problem in that department, but
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I can see how it can be uneasy in some relationships.
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Because you don't want the other person to look
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at you different. You don't want them to think
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that you're losing what you had. Because you
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are used to them seeing you here and then you
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would think that they're gonna look down on you
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or whatever and stuff like that. Can see how
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it can be hard Right, but it's but it's a conversation
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that must be had though. Yeah, you you got it
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I don't think it happens often, but it should
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be had because people fall into You know like,
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you know as a guy as a man I hate saying as a
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man because they don't turn that into a phrase
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as a man you should be but as a as a man myself
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Like with my diabetes, like when I found out
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I was diabetic and I'm not much really now but
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when you find out you're diabetic, it start affecting
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certain things in your sexual life, especially
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I was overweight and diabetic so it affects some
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things within your sex life and that you have
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a hard time having that conversation with your
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partner because like you said, your partner is
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used to you Doing the do and doing what you're
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supposed to do and then when you have a couple
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moments, uh, I You know and then in your man
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in your mind you like, oh, I'm definitely not
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you know saying which that affects your man Your
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manhood now he like a bro. I'm down here, you
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know, I mean, but I ain't I ain't shaking it
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baking for you You both you know I'm saying everything
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is just be awesome. Now you like always scrambling
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to be like or you lying on yourself, I'm tired.
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You know what I'm talking about, man, I'm so
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sorry, I'm tired. Like, no, you're not tired,
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nigga, dick could get up. So you out of it. You're
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trying to avoid, you're right. And you know how
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y 'all get, y 'all like, yeah, like you just
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say, you're trying to avoid me. You don't love
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me. So now you all messed up over that stupid
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shit, so. Yeah, like I say, I can see, I can
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see that. But, like, postpartum. I really didn't
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even thought about that, that that's what I had,
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to be honest. No, you didn't. I didn't thought
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about it. I thought it was just, you know, normal.
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And plus, I thought that I was doing right. You
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know, I thought I was doing me. How did you thought
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she was doing you? Like, I thought everything
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was the same as normal. You knew that I had changed,
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like things wasn't the same. and stuff like that.
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How you ain't know you you had some issues man?
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I really didn't. I just know that I got skinny
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I lost weight. Your sex drive was zero. Yes sex
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drive went low but it went to zero but at that
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time I didn't thought that it was an issue I
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just knew I just had a baby right and you know,
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you suppose take some time off, you know? A year
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and some change. That's take time off. I mean,
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I figured doing a little bit of stuff in between
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was okay. It made up for it, you know? That's
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the problem, y 'all. It's the sad part is this.
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Men can't fully express and say, y 'all selfish
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as fuck because the first thing I'll say is and
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what everyone is gonna say she just had your
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baby and So fucking what? I'm here. I'm dealing
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with the baby to like yes, it came out your body
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That is a fact, but I'm also right here dealing
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with the baby, too I'm taking them taking on
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the brunt of taking care of this motherfucker
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as well You know saying you right and it's like
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yo I feel like this after six months of no sex
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or whatever that is, whatever that was. Okay,
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after six months, it's like I need you to make
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a little more effort. I need you to make a little
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more effort, a little attempt to be effort. That
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doesn't happen often because one, men can't come
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to y 'all, we can't come to y 'all and say, I
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need you to make one, because then y 'all turn
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it around on us, because you did that. You did
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that to me. You turned it around and made it
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up. That's a me issue. So then I just got busy.
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Then I got busy. Now you ain't never around and
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this, that, and the third, right? You gotta be
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fucking someone. No, nigga, I'm not fucking you.
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Why I gotta be fucking someone? Like, give up
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the goods then. Right. Because you not taking
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care of the baby on your own, because I know
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that's right. Well, she had to take care of that
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baby too. Okay, cool. While I was at work, she
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took care of the baby while I was at work. When
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I came home, you ain't had nothing to do with
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that little nigga. You had nothing to do with
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it. As soon as I walk in the door, right or wrong.
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As soon as I walk in the door, I'm tired, long
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day at work as well, exhausted, mentally strained.
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I go in, my daily, I get home routine. I shower
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and put some different clothes on. After I done
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kiss you and the baby, play with him real quick
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before I go, went to the bathroom, got my life
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together, snatch him. Yeah, now you did now he
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gone for the rest of day. You ain't even gotta
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worry about him. He getting fed He getting his
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diaper change. He going he might go outside You
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know, I mean he used to be like hey He knew as
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soon as I walked in the house his head turned
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He put his arm could barely move he knew where
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he was going He knew where he was going Shoot
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for a long time till up until he started going
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to school Yeah, he knew where he was going. All
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right, and then who took him to school and picked
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him up. So So that was so it'd be like I'm doing
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all this shit. So what's up? Yeah, I'm doing
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my fish I'm paying the bills in the house. You're
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not worried about nothing. We're going places.
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You're getting a break from the baby On a weekend.
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We're doing a family shit. Yeah That's when all
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that conversation comes in it. Okay When you
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start to see those things like you say six months,
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okay, right cuz you understand that what first
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of all You shouldn't be doing too much of nothing
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for how long they say six weeks six weeks, right?
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So be doing much nothing. You let that shit heal
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Relax your mind. Let your conscious be free Yeah,
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you won't even realize we slept a separate room
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for a little while Yeah Yeah, I mean your late
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nights are not coming in right. Yep Yep, yeah,
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you went to the other room You and I remember
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you make an excuse it's just uncomfortable I'm
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not come to bed ain't got me. I'm not comfortable
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in bed and I said And I slept in this room and
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I refused to come in the other room if you think
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about it For a little while, we slept in several
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rooms. I must admit, yeah, it was bad. It did.
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It was bad. And it took a long time to come back.
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It did? Yeah. It took a long time. I don't know
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what happened with that first child, but it took
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a lot. It took a long time. Yes, it did. For
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me, for real. It was literally, it was literally
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almost over a year, but I'd say a year in general.
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Yeah, yeah, it was. It was. But it's like, Then
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also it was it was my first time so, you know,
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I'm sitting here I'm taking care of this person.
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So all my focus is on this little person. Mm
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-hmm. It's not on you Yeah, and I'm understand
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I let everything overly understand, you know
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consume me, right, you know, and then I just
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you know forgot about you and Until you thought
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I was fucking someone else now your attention
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count now back to the person y 'all do that shit
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Soon as y 'all think now is like, oh Like no,
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nigga No Now you back Look you trying to think
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about you like, huh? You know, it was a it was
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a circumstance with that but um that played a
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part in that yeah, but um It'd be weird it'd
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be weird no it is cuz you can start thinking
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yes, you know your mind can start going But no
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one on both sides, man or woman, no one thinks
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about, as Trey would say, the root cause of things.
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No one really gets down to the root cause of
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what's going on. And it all stems to a lack of
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communication for both sides. Because I, you
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know, myself, especially younger me, I shut down.
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Like, all right, cool. But I'll get focused into
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work. Now I'm going all the time. I'm working,
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I'm working, I'm working, I'm working. I come
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in, I still do my routine, still boy, and then
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wait till everybody sleep and then I'm on. Right.
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You know what I mean? And then while you doing
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all that, now my mind is realizing like, oh,
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he's not really paying me no attention. You know,
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he's just doing his thing. Yup. That's when light
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bulbs start going off. It may not be a good idea
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or a bright idea, but it's an idea. I used to
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take the baby to the studio, put the headphones
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on him, he'd be in there chilling. He had his
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bassinet at the studio, the recording studio,
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just a bassinet sitting over there. Especially
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when I moved into the bigger one, I'd be running
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sessions in the booth, he'd be over there chilling.
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Inside the area, no music, just real low on the
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headphones. He'd be on my lap chillin'. I got
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benjam pictures of him on my lap, lookin' at
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the board and stuff like that. Even with headphones
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on his hair and everything. Yeah, Sean been at
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the studio for a long time. He been around music
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for a long time. Right. But that's what I'm saying.
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I think this is a good topic when it comes to
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both sides, one, communication. Especially when...
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when either party feel like they're not getting.
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But everybody has to receive the information.
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It can't be an automatic argument. We fight.
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So you're not receiving that because no one can
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take when someone is telling the other person
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that it was some deficiencies of what we got
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going on. You know what I mean? So you gotta
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come to some, right? So you gotta talk, gotta
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say something. I didn't have no shame and you
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were the one being rejected. Until you had that
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conversation with me and that's, you know, like
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that deep conversation. Yeah, I remember that.
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And it was after way after the fact, you know,
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and it's like, wow, I did all that. Yeah. You
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know, and then I start thinking I was like, yeah,
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I did. Like I've been I've been holding back.
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Right. Right. Right. Because you was fully engulfed
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in the board. And I'm like, I'm like, hey, you
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know, it's two of us. Right. You know what I
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mean? I'm giving both of y 'all the same amount
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of attention. I'm not receiving the same. You
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know what I'm saying? And that shit used to be
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rough, yo. That shit used to be rough. It's not
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fair on you. Cause you look at him like, and
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the first thing people gonna say to me, he gotta
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suck it up. Just had a baby. Man, fuck that shit.
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No. Cause it gotta be both sides. He did got
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the short end of the stick. Like I realized that.
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Like I say, you know, in my mind at first, I
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was doing everything that I was supposed to do.
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But my focus was on this little new thing here,
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not really paying him any attention. And also,
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you know, the sex drive and all that, like it
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went down. A lot of things happened. But to me,
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you know, I thought it was normal, you know.
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So like I said, I started getting skinny, seemed
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like I got skinnier. I'm like, okay, what's going
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on here? And that's when it was like, all right.
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It came back. Yeah, it did. With Devon. It did
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when we had the second one. It was like it never
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left. Right. I'll tell you, leave me alone. All
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right. Why traditional dinner and a movie stopped
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working after a few years? Why do you think it
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stopped working? Guess cuz you do it all the
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time and it gets boring. It's boring. Yeah, they
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go watch this movie Just didn't shut the fuck
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up now. They eat it all in the same place. Now.
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It's all in the same place now back in the day
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We had to go over here. Yeah, hey, we got a call
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time at Go over here the movie. Yeah. Yeah now
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everything is in one spot, right? Yeah, I do
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say you if you keep doing the same date over
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and over and over and over again It could get
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boring. Yeah, it gets super boring. You gotta
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change things up. Yeah, you know, I mean, so
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you're right. I'm talking shit, but as a movie
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guy, yeah Dinner and date is old school. So huh?
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Dinner and date is old school like dinner what
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dinner? I said dinner and date dinner and movie
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is old school. See I like food, you know go out
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on date I gotta eat. It's old school. So that
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has been going on for a very long time. So it's
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like, now you gotta kind of switch it up. That
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shit is a luxury item now. That shit expensive
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as fuck now. Oh, it is. It is. Don't even include
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eating. Just going to the movies by yourself
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sometimes can be more expensive than the dinner
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part. I think 60 almost. Yeah. So it could be
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a little pricey. It's a luxury item. You better
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give it up old -ass dinner in the movie skills
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But I say yo try different things that drive
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in movies, you know I'm saying or don't go to
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the movie Try just go dinner and find something
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else. It's bowling axe throwing. Yeah. Oh Just
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walk downtown. No, nobody don't like to walk
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down Because we you know why I like to do it
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because we can whole hands, or I can get in your
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arms. And it just means you. I love that part.
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How you gonna be getting in my arms and hands?
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That time. No, no, no, I get it. I definitely
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get it. And you make make a great point. Yeah,
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man. Yeah. All right. Why? Quiet or withdrawing
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during an argument feel like feel like safety
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to one partner and feels like Abandonment to
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the other Yeah, I knew why you Abandonment to
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me because now I feel like you shutting me off
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You trying to make me be quiet But I'm trying
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to prove my point and make a statement here.
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And I know you're going to say, well, you don't
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always have to prove a point. Yes, I do. Because
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I feel like my points are valid. I do. Because,
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see, I explain things different. I'm a different
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type of person. I'm a different type of person.
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I know I explain things differently. After being
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together all these years, he's trying. He's coming
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around a little more. He's coming around a little
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more accepting of it. That's just me. It's your
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girl. That's how I am. Let me tell y 'all. Because
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I shut down. I ain't go for it. I get quiet.
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And it burns me up. The problem is this. Erica
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don't believe it. During the podcast, she don't
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do all that talking. When she in the argument,
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She do a whole lot of fucking talking. It'd be
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all about, it'd be a bunch of run on sentences
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for days. And it's like, don't let nobody get
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a word in. So now we over talking to each other.
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And then when I feel like we get to a point where
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it's just starting to be pointless, all this
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over talking. I go to, all right. And now stranger
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danger has arrived. Now she's yelling even more
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and I'm like following behind you know, why are
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you doing all that? Yep Follow behind me Leave
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me alone. You'll never let me get out what I
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need to say. You've been talking. You've been
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the only one talking I ain't finished getting
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my point out. I don't see why you not finished
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yet Now you mad as sin Now I'm yelling, leave
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me the fuck alone. Switch your ass down and listen
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to me. We ain't done yet. That's what it be like.
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That's funny. I still got some things I need
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to get off my chest. I get it though. Also get
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that. It's coping mechanisms for both. You feel
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like, yo, I got to say everything I need to say.
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I need to get it out. Me feeling like I don't
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want to hear that shit. It can get overwhelming
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both sides because it's like my knee is not being
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met but I also feel like Just yelling to be yelling.
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You're not gonna get nowhere. Anyway, it's probably
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best for everybody to just Woosah come back later.
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I Mean that that would be the more realistic
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thing to do but But I'm probably gonna forget
25:37
a lot of things that I want to say so I want
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to say it now I'll be on fall back in love all
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over again and you get away Scott No, let me
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get away Scott No, I don't want you to get away
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so I'll be off all back in love and forgot everything
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No, we're not doing that. But my thing is, what's
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your thing? Sometimes you need to solve the argument.
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Next topic is why you don't always need to solve
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the argument right away, but you must know how
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to repair the emotional. Here you go emotional
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rapture after Yo, she won't wrote these topics
26:35
Once again her topics her topics are good, but
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they written like how she talked bad long -winded
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Get to the point In order to know me you got
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to understand me but But yeah, you the opposite
26:52
of this this right here. I'm very much the opposite.
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I want to solve things right now That's how I
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am sometimes it ain't gonna get nowhere. I get
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that but I still gotta try I still gotta try
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Because I feel like I get shut out but you don't
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I tell you that all the time you don't you always
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Yes, once you get to We don't ran through this
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already, but I'm not we don't ran through we
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don't ran through the scenario eight Times on
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a knife time. I'm listening still tip time. Um
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That's my way my mechanism I start to go Now
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he's 10 man, yo, I'm done I'm like, I'm done
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with all that Hey, you can say you done. I'm
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done with all that It'd be like that sometime
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and the way we repair it afterwards Is Come and
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give me a kiss right and I forgot about everything
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that's a fact I mean I think you're very intelligent
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How are with all that going on it's all about
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postpartum and all that stuff how to keep your
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marriage the foundation at the home without letting
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your um identity get completely consumed by Parenthood
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motherhood Wifehood You got to do what you want
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to do You've got to do what you want to do Mean
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sometimes you just gotta go get outside. Go go
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good. Go do something for yourself. I'm a big
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I'm a big advocate of Will do something for yourself.
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Yeah. Yeah, cuz you wasn't always that way. You
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was always I'm in the house I'm in the house.
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You gotta get things to do. No, you don't Go
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to fuck outside go do something go to the store.
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Go get your nails done. Go get your hair done.
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Go do something Because you always in here don't
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do nothing but start a fight Cause you always
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in here. Cause you always in here. Go outside.
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Remember I used to ask you all the time. You
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got anything you need to do? No. You got no friends?
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Nope. Go do something. Alright, I'm going to
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the grocery store. I'll be back. Look. That's
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my outside. That is your outside now. And guess
29:40
what? I sit back. Cause you going to that motherfucking
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too. So you better enjoy your time while I'm
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gone. Because I'll be back soon. Okay? But yeah.
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Yeah, I think even for myself, man, I go do some
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things that I want to do, like she said. You
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know what I mean? You just got to go do some
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things for yourself. You got to communicate that
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with your partner though. Hey, I'm about to run
30:03
out for a little bit. You know what I mean? Yeah,
30:05
because if one day you just start going outside
30:08
all the time and just say, I'll be back, and
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then you're going to be thinking like, okay,
30:12
what's up? What you been doing? You ain't been
30:14
going outside. So you gotta communicate then
30:17
we'll pop just to say God rest his soul don't
30:20
get Japs lap won't get Japs lap I'm pretty sure
30:25
that I'm pretty sure that's a racist slur I'm
30:28
saying it that way, but that shit was hilarious.
30:31
I'm gonna get Japs lap. You won't get Japs lap.
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Go do what you need to do Yes, please communicate
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better Hey, babe, remember that conversation
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we had? You was like, I need to go outside. I
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need to do more. I'm starting to feel a little
30:46
overwhelmed in the house. I'll be back. I'm going
30:50
to do this such and such. Whole ass. But if you
30:53
just start leaving, I'll be back. Make sure you
30:56
hear the keys rattling. Car is already gone.
30:59
Where's she gone? Yeah, looks a little suspect.
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All right last topic, this is a fun convo topic.
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What was your childhood crush? My childhood crush?
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Yep, did you have a childhood crush? It was coming
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up. A celebrity? I don't know, you could be a
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celebrity, that's fine. We could say that, what's
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your celebrity? childhood crush. You ain't had
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one? My mama had one for me though. Nick Cannon.
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I don't know why, but she, for some reason, she
31:47
saw me with Nick Cannon. I don't know why, but
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I'm glad that wasn't it, because that's not your
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girl. That's not your girl. Mine was Gabrielle
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Union. Gabrielle, yeah. Oh, I know. Them dimples.
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But now, like, because the second part of the
32:12
question, second part of the question is, do
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your celebrity crust still look good? She still
32:19
look good, but to me, she too reachable, you
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know. No disrespect to D -Way, none of that.
32:26
Respect to you, my boy. But. That shit too, it
32:30
looked like it was too accessible. It was like
32:34
when Janet Jackson got with Jermaine Apri, it
32:36
was like, ah, I'm cool. Love J .D. J .D. is phenomenal.
32:43
Great at what he do. Yeah, a lot of people feel
32:44
that way. But looking at Janet, it was like,
32:47
come on, man. That's some hated shit, but it
32:52
is what it is. But yes. I'm still over here thinking.
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One of them dimples used to do it for me. When
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she was in the little movie with the cheerleaders
33:05
and shit. Oh yeah, I remember that. Then they
33:10
had her in Bad Boys real fast. Fire. I don't
33:18
know why. After Bad Boys, I think you kind of
33:21
got off her. Too accessible. Too easy. I came
33:25
into the picture, that's what it was. I would
33:29
have left you for her. Another pretty brown skinned
33:31
girl came into the picture. I would have left
33:32
you for her. Whatever. I know right. She will
33:35
bring your ass right back. I know right, I know
33:36
right. Matter of fact, she ain't gonna bring
33:37
you back. She gonna let you stay right where
33:40
you at. She gone. I know right, I know right.
33:44
Well, that was it. You got a thing with that?
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No. Oh, I still was over here trying to think
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about my own celebrity crush. Yeah, not childhood
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celebrity crush. You ain't had one? I'll never
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name names, but I didn't have a regular crush.
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Yeah. You know what I mean? I didn't have a regular
34:11
crush coming up. It was like, yeah. Motherfuckers
34:15
was easy, breezy, beautiful, cover girl minus
34:19
the cover girl. so alright then well shit this
34:25
is life in love with Erica and Shawn here on
34:33
the network they got what you need because she
34:35
gonna beat my ass up over that postpartum shit
34:38
but it is what it is the sake of content the
34:43
sake of content alright well I'll let y 'all
34:46
later man peace