Latest / The Breakfast Club / INTERVIEW: Sherri Shepherd Talks 'Straw,' Tyler Perry, 'Shading' Nia Long Rumors, Intentions In Media + More
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- 0:00Speaker 1: Wake that ass up in the morning. The Breakfast Club morning.
- 0:05Speaker 2: Everybody's envy just hilarious, showing me the God we are
- 0:09Speaker 2: the Breakfast Club. Law On La Rosa is here and
- 0:12Speaker 2: we got a special guest in the building. We have
- 0:14Speaker 2: Sherry Shephard.
- 0:14Speaker 1: Welcome back.
- 0:15Speaker 3: Hey y'all, are you feeling I'm so glad to be here.
- 0:18Speaker 1: Lauren.
- 0:19Speaker 4: Hi.
- 0:20Speaker 3: My admiration for you. It's like my baby hair that
- 0:22Speaker 3: is growing. It just grows every day for you. You follow
- 0:25Speaker 3: me back on Instagram. I cried, oh are you serious,
- 0:28Speaker 3: Like not.
- 0:28Speaker 4: Like ugly cry, but I was just I called John
- 0:30Speaker 4: and I was like, she just followed me back on Instagram, Like,
- 0:32Speaker 4: oh my god, I.
- 0:33Speaker 3: Really do admire you. You like an intelligence sister, and
- 0:35Speaker 3: you like you boss mode. I love that. Thank you
- 0:40Speaker 3: like little brown girls look at you and go I
- 0:42Speaker 3: want to be like you.
- 0:43Speaker 5: Somebody just told her that. Somebody just told her that,
- 0:45Speaker 5: like like literally three minutes ago.
- 0:47Speaker 3: Well, God is trying to tell you something. I hear
- 0:49Speaker 3: you better receive it. Won't nobody ever do that to me.
- 0:53Speaker 3: I never get it, Like it was on my way
- 0:56Speaker 3: to tell you for me.
- 0:58Speaker 4: I remember your trends, not the trance but when you
- 1:00Speaker 4: first stepped into the role on the show, right, and
- 1:02Speaker 4: it was a lot going on and a lot said it,
- 1:05Speaker 4: but you handled it really gracefully.
- 1:07Speaker 3: When she.
- 1:12Speaker 4: Look at you, you know you have one support of you.
- 1:19Speaker 3: But there was a lot of conversation that was happening.
- 1:21Speaker 3: But the way that you handled it out, I thought
- 1:23Speaker 3: was you handled it very well. Thank you. You know
- 1:25Speaker 3: this season life is too short. You got you got
- 1:28Speaker 3: to know what energy you're walking in and create your
- 1:30Speaker 3: own energy. That's how it works. And it worked out
- 1:33Speaker 3: what set what life?
- 1:35Speaker 1: Uh?
- 1:36Speaker 3: Where in your life did you learn that? Because it
- 1:38Speaker 3: was loud? Yeah, but but I think from being on
- 1:41Speaker 3: the view, that's why I learned how to get the
- 1:43Speaker 3: criticism because I learned, you know, Joy Bayhart said, when
- 1:46Speaker 3: you you know, when you have this kind of platform,
- 1:48Speaker 3: when you open up your mouth, half the world is
- 1:50Speaker 3: going to hate you. So you know, so you stopped
- 1:53Speaker 3: trying to chase validation because I would go on this site.
- 1:57Speaker 3: It was a site called I Hate Talk Shows, and
- 2:00Speaker 3: I would going there to see what they said about me,
- 2:02Speaker 3: and then they would say, oh, Sheerry's doing this. She
- 2:04Speaker 3: didn't even mention this, So I would mention it the
- 2:06Speaker 3: next time they go. Did you see how conceited she
- 2:08Speaker 3: was when she mentioned this, you can't win? So I
- 2:10Speaker 3: don't is I stopped reading all that stuff? They don't
- 2:16Speaker 3: care about you, and so I stopped. But what I
- 2:18Speaker 3: realized is nobody's sending me money to take care of
- 2:21Speaker 3: my son. Nobody is offering to help me when I'm
- 2:24Speaker 3: going through it. Nobody. You got your diehards that will
- 2:26Speaker 3: pray for you. So why am I listening to all
- 2:28Speaker 3: this is chatter from people who probably when they come
- 2:31Speaker 3: at you on social media, they want to do what
- 2:34Speaker 3: you're doing. They just don't want to put in that work.
- 2:36Speaker 3: That's what Kevin Hart says, and it's so true.
- 2:39Speaker 1: Have you heard that from Laura all right?
- 2:42Speaker 3: Because you never said that to me, Charlamage, I never
- 2:45Speaker 3: knew that was your You knew a lot of talk yet,
- 2:49Speaker 3: but you never said that.
- 2:51Speaker 1: But I'm the same way. I'm stop reading the comments,
- 2:54Speaker 1: Like why don't I don't.
- 2:56Speaker 3: Go looking for the comments? But no, I don't, But no,
- 2:59Speaker 3: I do not. But every now and then you want
- 3:01Speaker 3: to see what people.
- 3:02Speaker 4: But I also like, for what I do, I have
- 3:04Speaker 4: to kind of know what people are talking about. Why
- 3:07Speaker 4: what are angles to care? How we dive in and
- 3:09Speaker 4: what I talk at them. But it's hard.
- 3:11Speaker 3: Now you just have to be discerning because I read
- 3:14Speaker 3: my comments because sometimes people are very they have really
- 3:16Speaker 3: good critique. Some people are commenting share you talk a
- 3:19Speaker 3: mile a minute. I can't understand what you're saying. So
- 3:22Speaker 3: I learned to slow down. Yes, then those people who go,
- 3:25Speaker 3: you ain't cute, you ain't got no hips, you ain't
- 3:27Speaker 3: got no or you're gonna you know, I don't pay
- 3:30Speaker 3: attention to that because you look at it for what
- 3:32Speaker 3: it is. You got to have your own self for it.
- 3:34Speaker 3: So you do when it's just discern what is edifying,
- 3:37Speaker 3: what is going to help you. The other stuff you
- 3:40Speaker 3: throw out, but it means nothing, even.
- 3:42Speaker 4: Your topics on your show, because that was another thing
- 3:44Speaker 4: as well too, Like people were upset when you talked
- 3:46Speaker 4: about Meg the stallion on the carpet and being you know,
- 3:49Speaker 4: nude or whatever you called her right, and people respond
- 3:52Speaker 4: to that and when that happens, Yeah, I changed.
- 3:55Speaker 3: You for that. When I said that about Meg, I
- 3:57Speaker 3: was ready for the backlash. But I am I'm a mum,
- 4:00Speaker 3: I'm a woman. I mentor girls, and I just go
- 4:03Speaker 3: at some point we have a responsibility. We have to
- 4:06Speaker 3: speak up. And I love meg da Stallion. I love it,
- 4:10Speaker 3: but I think that women are going too far and
- 4:14Speaker 3: sometimes we forget that there are people who are watching
- 4:17Speaker 3: us and they can't do what we do. They don't
- 4:19Speaker 3: have security. They can't walk around and say I want
- 4:22Speaker 3: to do the same thing. So we also we are
- 4:25Speaker 3: our brother's keeper. To who much is given, much is required.
- 4:28Speaker 3: So I knew I was gonna backlash. They told me,
- 4:31Speaker 3: you know you're gonna get and I said, but no, no,
- 4:33Speaker 3: I got to stand up. I got this platform, and
- 4:35Speaker 3: it's really important that I say it. And if you
- 4:38Speaker 3: listen to the context of what I said, you know
- 4:41Speaker 3: I did love everything. People look at you because you
- 4:44Speaker 3: have a degree. You went and graduated. You didn't just
- 4:47Speaker 3: let it go. So you inspire girls to want to
- 4:49Speaker 3: go to college. But also over here you inspire girls
- 4:52Speaker 3: who want to do this. And I named other women
- 4:54Speaker 3: who do it too, so you know, you just got
- 4:57Speaker 3: to be I got this platform for a reason, know
- 5:00Speaker 3: what it is, and I try to use it wisely.
- 5:04Speaker 1: People should listen to the elders. What happened to that
- 5:07Speaker 1: we used.
- 5:07Speaker 3: To listen too. They don't do that now.
- 5:11Speaker 4: They're old, you know, the push back at you, like,
- 5:14Speaker 4: I know you're intentional with the topics that you choose
- 5:16Speaker 4: when you get pushbacks like oh, this is an age thing.
- 5:18Speaker 4: It's because you're older. She don't understand. She actly, she
- 5:21Speaker 4: didn't have her day like right, those type of things.
- 5:23Speaker 3: That I have a lot of grace. I know. You
- 5:26Speaker 3: know there were things that we did when we were young,
- 5:28Speaker 3: and you know and I do. But also you know
- 5:30Speaker 3: what the assignment is. There's an assignment on your life.
- 5:32Speaker 3: There's an assignment that you've been given and you got
- 5:35Speaker 3: to carry it out. And it's just stuff that comes
- 5:37Speaker 3: with this. With this, you know, position that you're in,
- 5:40Speaker 3: it is gonna come. You can't escape it.
- 5:42Speaker 1: That's right.
- 5:43Speaker 2: So just before we get into straw.
- 5:45Speaker 3: Before we're getting a straw.
- 5:46Speaker 2: When you came in there today, you said your son
- 5:48Speaker 2: just texted you and said, mom, I have off of
- 5:50Speaker 2: school today and I have nothing to do. That's right,
- 5:53Speaker 2: And he's twenty years old.
- 5:54Speaker 5: Yes, that's not what she said. She had part that's
- 5:57Speaker 5: always get through what she really said.
- 5:58Speaker 2: But then you said that you're and also said he
- 6:00Speaker 2: wants to smoke. He wants to smoke some marijuana.
- 6:02Speaker 3: So yes, because that's what all everybody talks about at school,
- 6:05Speaker 3: you know, they talk about that, and so he that's
- 6:08Speaker 3: one of his things. He came. I was doing my
- 6:10Speaker 3: podcast with Kim Whidley, two Funny Momas. He came. He
- 6:13Speaker 3: was like, I want to talk to you, and that's
- 6:14Speaker 3: what he was going to the basketball center and he said,
- 6:18Speaker 3: you know, when can I get hi?
- 6:20Speaker 2: First of all, it's amazing that he came to you
- 6:22Speaker 2: and feel comfortable again, Yeah, what did you tell him?
- 6:25Speaker 3: But he comes to me and I don't know nothing,
- 6:27Speaker 3: Like that's the problem. And he was just like I'm
- 6:29Speaker 3: a single mom. He was like, you know, I want
- 6:31Speaker 3: to when can I do this? And I was sitting
- 6:34Speaker 3: here praying and speaking in tongues, and I said, when
- 6:36Speaker 3: you twenty four? He asked me that when he was
- 6:38Speaker 3: like nineteen or eighteen. That's just the number that came
- 6:41Speaker 3: to my head, envy saying a mother like it's too much,
- 6:45Speaker 3: Like I still look at my son as like my baby,
- 6:48Speaker 3: a fourteen year old. So when he came and was
- 6:50Speaker 3: asking these questions about where, you know, when can you
- 6:53Speaker 3: go and see you know, women dancing and stuff, And
- 6:55Speaker 3: when I didn't know what Yes, so I said twenty four.
- 6:59Speaker 3: That's just the number. But it came to my head.
- 7:01Speaker 3: So he you know, so he my my the person
- 7:04Speaker 3: who does my hair, theo. He has locks in his hair.
- 7:07Speaker 3: So when my son saw him, he said he immediately
- 7:09Speaker 3: said do you get high and stereotyping. But here's what happened.
- 7:15Speaker 3: They looked at him. It was like yeah, But so
- 7:19Speaker 3: I said, well, I wanted to have the experience of
- 7:23Speaker 3: I said, well, maybe if they put the medicine and
- 7:25Speaker 3: make you go to the bathroom, the diarrhea medicine in
- 7:29Speaker 3: the brownie. That way, when he does it, he'll, you know,
- 7:33Speaker 3: just have diarrhea. They don't want to do it again.
- 7:36Speaker 3: That's what everybody says, like you give him so much
- 7:38Speaker 3: liquor that they get sick.
- 7:40Speaker 5: No, give him some sativa, some high grade sativa.
- 7:43Speaker 3: And what is that?
- 7:44Speaker 5: What if the kind that induces panic attacks and makes him.
- 7:50Speaker 1: That will make him not want to do it again.
- 7:52Speaker 1: Not the diarrhea.
- 7:53Speaker 3: But I got to go to sleep wanting and my
- 7:55Speaker 3: son gonna smother me, and I don't want him to
- 7:57Speaker 3: have a pan. I just wanted to diarrhea.
- 7:59Speaker 2: That No, nothing, he'll fly You see him on Madison
- 8:02Speaker 2: avenue trying to fly for cars or something. Don't do that.
- 8:03Speaker 5: The panic attackers was gonna make him not want to
- 8:05Speaker 5: do it. That promise you okay, I want to do that?
- 8:08Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, m be saying no, Lauren saying no, should
- 8:12Speaker 3: do it. When I when I first got hot, I
- 8:14Speaker 3: think I was like eighteen seventeen.
- 8:16Speaker 1: He got to wait till twenty four, because that's the look.
- 8:19Speaker 3: I am a single mom. This is hard. You don't understand.
- 8:22Speaker 3: It's not a man. This is where I get mad
- 8:24Speaker 3: when I need some men to come in and help
- 8:27Speaker 3: me because I don't know what to what to say
- 8:29Speaker 3: to him. I don't get high. So when he came
- 8:32Speaker 3: to me and was saying that, I was just like,
- 8:34Speaker 3: I didn't know what to say. The judgment. I don't
- 8:38Speaker 3: like Charlotte Magne. That's what I was saying to you.
- 8:40Speaker 2: Well, when he's twenty four, me and uncle Charlotte take
- 8:42Speaker 2: him to a landa strip club magic.
- 8:44Speaker 3: Well, thanks a lot.
- 8:45Speaker 2: Oh my god, we're handle that part.
- 8:47Speaker 3: I'm just can y'all let him intern with y'all then
- 8:49Speaker 3: and do what you will. I won't even look. I'll
- 8:51Speaker 3: just close my eyes.
- 8:54Speaker 5: But you would never say that a bad boy record, wowser, wowser,
- 9:03Speaker 5: Like everybody have my suoena court.
- 9:08Speaker 3: Oh my god, So single mother life for you? Like
- 9:11Speaker 3: what other things are you figuring out on your own?
- 9:14Speaker 3: Are you single mom? Like there's no communication anymore with
- 9:17Speaker 3: your son's father or well, I mean, you know, we
- 9:19Speaker 3: communicate with y'all. We don't as much because he turned eighteen. Like,
- 9:23Speaker 3: I don't have to. I don't have to pay child
- 9:25Speaker 3: support anymore. I don't have to. I don't add the
- 9:28Speaker 3: court paper set. I have to tell you everything that's
- 9:30Speaker 3: going on with school. I don't have to do that. Now.
- 9:32Speaker 3: It's up to you to call him to check on him.
- 9:35Speaker 3: That's not my that's not my thing. I've made you
- 9:37Speaker 3: look good in his eyes. Now it's up to you
- 9:39Speaker 3: to keep that going. That's not on me. I've never
- 9:42Speaker 3: talked about his father badly in front of him. Now.
- 9:45Speaker 3: When Jeffrey left the room, that was a different conversation.
- 9:47Speaker 3: It's a lot going on at one point. Yeah, so
- 9:49Speaker 3: but you know it's so this is on you.
- 9:51Speaker 1: Now.
- 9:51Speaker 3: It's on you to talk to your dad. I'm not
- 9:53Speaker 3: in that.
- 9:54Speaker 4: What things do you deal with on your own with
- 9:57Speaker 4: your son that you're like, man.
- 9:58Speaker 3: All of that trying to teach him how to be
- 9:59Speaker 3: a man. I don't know how to be a man
- 10:00Speaker 3: because I'm not a man. I don't espouse that belief
- 10:04Speaker 3: of you know, I can be everything for you. You
- 10:07Speaker 3: don't need no daddy. You don't know you need a
- 10:10Speaker 3: man in your life. A boy needs a man, especially
- 10:13Speaker 3: in this day and age, A young black boy needs
- 10:16Speaker 3: a black man because men what they do to my
- 10:18Speaker 3: son because I'm not allowed to say his name, he
- 10:20Speaker 3: told me don't talk about him. But what they do
- 10:22Speaker 3: to my son is they say, look God, look me
- 10:24Speaker 3: in the eye, shake my hand, you know, give me
- 10:27Speaker 3: your deepest voice when you talk to me. I don't
- 10:29Speaker 3: know how to say that. What he gets from me
- 10:31Speaker 3: now is he's like you always, like you keep nagging
- 10:34Speaker 3: because I feel like I only got maybe twelve minutes
- 10:37Speaker 3: to give him the rest of life's lessons. And he's like,
- 10:40Speaker 3: you told me already. And so I think with mothers
- 10:42Speaker 3: and boys, as they get older, there's a frustration. That's
- 10:45Speaker 3: why they keep wanting to pull away. They're longing from
- 10:48Speaker 3: that male energy. So when he's around, when he's around
- 10:52Speaker 3: my glam team, he likes being with them because they're
- 10:54Speaker 3: just men, are you dating? And I'm single. I'm single,
- 10:58Speaker 3: so I'm just I'm out here, I'm open.
- 11:00Speaker 1: I was crazy.
- 11:03Speaker 3: I never got my DM, so I don't. I really
- 11:05Speaker 3: don't go on my dms because the last time it
- 11:07Speaker 3: was somebody didn't have no finger, so it was missing
- 11:09Speaker 3: the third digit. So I don't what happened. Let me
- 11:13Speaker 3: tell you why not something that's a deal breaker when
- 11:15Speaker 3: you're missing digits. I need, I need you to have
- 11:17Speaker 3: a finger, no fingers, because it was in it. I
- 11:20Speaker 3: went to his uh, I went to his profile, and
- 11:22Speaker 3: I looked and he didn't have no finger, so which finger?
- 11:25Speaker 3: Though he was a third finger? Not that you don't
- 11:28Speaker 3: know if you really need your third finger til you
- 11:30Speaker 3: got your third finger.
- 11:32Speaker 5: What if this man was good looking, it was had
- 11:34Speaker 5: a nice career, was a great man, he was going
- 11:37Speaker 5: to be the love of your life and you could
- 11:38Speaker 5: because you don't got a finger.
- 11:39Speaker 3: You don't have a finger. That's just that's a big deal,
- 11:42Speaker 3: not having a finger, because you need all ten of
- 11:44Speaker 3: your fingers. I'm just saying, if you want to caress
- 11:47Speaker 3: my neck and you ain't got that finger, you feel
- 11:50Speaker 3: I feel emptiness. But on one hand, on it I
- 11:53Speaker 3: didn't you know. I guess I saw the finger was
- 11:55Speaker 3: missing Lauren. I just didn't stay. But it does that
- 12:01Speaker 3: you get in this season. It's it's different now. Now
- 12:04Speaker 3: I'm not looking at potential. When I was in my twenties,
- 12:07Speaker 3: it was about, oh he got he got potential. I
- 12:09Speaker 3: don't look at potentially. You have to have be living
- 12:12Speaker 3: in your You have to be living your dream. It
- 12:15Speaker 3: has to be your reality. You have to be a
- 12:17Speaker 3: certain financial and a financial place because I'm not here
- 12:22Speaker 3: trying to help you move forward. So it just changes.
- 12:26Speaker 3: If I bring you into my space, you can't be intimidated.
- 12:30Speaker 3: You can't be like looking at it around, going well,
- 12:32Speaker 3: there's nothing I can do. So it just changes a
- 12:36Speaker 3: little bit.
- 12:38Speaker 2: So how was shooting straw I know you loved it?
- 12:40Speaker 2: Four days shooting your Brain?
- 12:41Speaker 3: No, I was six days.
- 12:44Speaker 2: He was six days.
- 12:47Speaker 3: She was doing Fight Night at the same time, and
- 12:49Speaker 3: Tianna was also doing a movie at the same time. Look,
- 12:52Speaker 3: I was the only one I had time, so mine
- 12:55Speaker 3: was six days. I had I had a ball. It
- 12:58Speaker 3: was a different experience step into the Tyler Perry world
- 13:02Speaker 3: breaking death because I'm used to, you know, doing a
- 13:06Speaker 3: movie and it'll take weeks to do. You know, I'm
- 13:09Speaker 3: on location for a number of weeks. So even when
- 13:11Speaker 3: Tyler had asked me and I wasn't available, I said,
- 13:14Speaker 3: we I'm trying to work it out. How many weeks
- 13:15Speaker 3: do you need me? He said, I don't need you
- 13:17Speaker 3: for I need you for five days. And I had
- 13:20Speaker 3: never heard that before because it was I was one
- 13:22Speaker 3: of the stars of the movie. But with Tyler, he's
- 13:26Speaker 3: got a world that he lives in. He's really he
- 13:28Speaker 3: knows what he wants. He has a lot of cameras
- 13:32Speaker 3: covering you. So when you go to a movie they
- 13:33Speaker 3: do a master shot, you know, you go back and
- 13:36Speaker 3: you wait till they turn it around and do a
- 13:37Speaker 3: single shot. Then they got to turn those cameras around
- 13:40Speaker 3: and do the other shot. Then they got to get
- 13:42Speaker 3: a wide shot, then they got to get a close up,
- 13:44Speaker 3: and you're you're doing maybe three pages in a whole day.
- 13:48Speaker 3: Tyler does not do that. He has a ton of
- 13:50Speaker 3: cameras in and they they're catching shots. So when I'm
- 13:54Speaker 3: looking at the movie, they caught shot. To me, I
- 13:55Speaker 3: didn't even realize because it was so many cameras. So
- 13:58Speaker 3: he can do ten or twelve pages in a day.
- 14:02Speaker 3: But he knows what he wants and he gets it done.
- 14:05Speaker 1: And Tyler was a man of his word.
- 14:06Speaker 5: Because I remember y'all just had to be like maybe
- 14:08Speaker 5: four or five months ago, you was.
- 14:10Speaker 1: Asking him to put you in.
- 14:11Speaker 5: I don't know if it was a specific movie, or
- 14:13Speaker 5: was it why did I get married, or I just
- 14:14Speaker 5: remember you asking him to be in something.
- 14:15Speaker 3: I ask everybody who comes if they could put me
- 14:17Speaker 3: on something, he can put you in, and he put
- 14:19Speaker 3: me in the movie. He called me, he said I
- 14:20Speaker 3: have this part and I want you to do it.
- 14:22Speaker 3: And it conflicted with the talk show. You can't really
- 14:26Speaker 3: take off, but they moved and around. I said, I
- 14:28Speaker 3: don't care who sits in the chair. I need to
- 14:31Speaker 3: do this movie. And they we ended my show a
- 14:33Speaker 3: week early so I could go and do it.
- 14:35Speaker 1: Wow.
- 14:35Speaker 3: But when I let me tell you something about Tyler Perry.
- 14:38Speaker 3: He takes care of you. Now everybody talks about the
- 14:40Speaker 3: money he pays you. Yes, But in terms of I
- 14:44Speaker 3: walked into my trailer, you have to negotiate your trailer size.
- 14:48Speaker 3: From the front of everything is negotiation, and I always negotiate,
- 14:52Speaker 3: you know, I get the less one less of what
- 14:56Speaker 3: the star gets. So I get a big trailer, but
- 14:58Speaker 3: he I walked in my trailer and I said, it
- 15:01Speaker 3: is Brad Pitt doing the movie to you. I walked
- 15:03Speaker 3: in my trailer. It was a double staircase. I had
- 15:06Speaker 3: a kitchen. I had an office I had I had
- 15:08Speaker 3: a full kitchen with I tried to I was like,
- 15:11Speaker 3: if I could take this refrigerator. It was a full
- 15:13Speaker 3: size refrigerator. It was a bedroom. It was a walk
- 15:16Speaker 3: in closet. It was I had a living room, a
- 15:19Speaker 3: family room, reclined. I was like, I cried, I've never
- 15:23Speaker 3: had in my wildest dreams, I never imagine said something
- 15:28Speaker 3: like that. You know where he put me up at,
- 15:31Speaker 3: where I stayed at night. It was just it was unbelievable.
- 15:35Speaker 3: It was unbelievable. When I tell you, I mean even
- 15:40Speaker 3: on my show. He came and we did a giveaway
- 15:43Speaker 3: show where Tyler Perry came in and he just gave
- 15:47Speaker 3: stuff away. He paid the mortgage off for one of
- 15:49Speaker 3: our guests. He gave a colleague of mine who's a
- 15:55Speaker 3: comic who had a stroke, Bonehampton. He was a Christian comic.
- 15:59Speaker 3: Now he's in a wheelchair. He gave him one hundred
- 16:01Speaker 3: thousand dollars so he could figure out. So he had
- 16:03Speaker 3: a cushion to figure out what he wanted to do.
- 16:06Speaker 3: I mean he gave, he just gave away. It was
- 16:09Speaker 3: really wonderful what he did. Did that public le Yes,
- 16:12Speaker 3: we did it on my show. Why are you thinking
- 16:14Speaker 3: you need one hundred thousand dollars show?
- 16:16Speaker 1: No, I just wouldn't want nobody to know that because
- 16:18Speaker 1: everybody be asking.
- 16:21Speaker 3: Yeah, that's that's the down side.
- 16:23Speaker 1: But the beauty about Tyler he had no problem saying no.
- 16:25Speaker 3: He says, no, that's right because when I had to
- 16:27Speaker 3: pitch it to him, I would say to him, we
- 16:29Speaker 3: had this, and he goes, tell me what you're talking about. No, Like,
- 16:32Speaker 3: when you come to Tyler, it has to be very specific.
- 16:35Speaker 3: It has to be very well thought out, and you
- 16:37Speaker 3: have to have research. Because he says, okay, so if
- 16:40Speaker 3: I do this, then what about this? How are they
- 16:42Speaker 3: going to pay this? And I said, I don't know.
- 16:43Speaker 3: I'm just coming to you asking for the money. I
- 16:45Speaker 3: don't know all that. He goes, well, when you know what,
- 16:47Speaker 3: then you call me back. So he's you have to
- 16:50Speaker 3: be on your business.
- 16:51Speaker 1: Can you speak about that real quick?
- 16:52Speaker 5: You're how important is it to actually say what it
- 16:55Speaker 5: is you mean, because.
- 16:56Speaker 1: We live in a generation with these kids be like,
- 16:58Speaker 1: well you know what I meant to say?
- 17:00Speaker 3: Yeah, you know what I meant to say. I think
- 17:02Speaker 3: that we're in the age of communication is harder for
- 17:05Speaker 3: because we're in the social media age where you swipe
- 17:07Speaker 3: and swiping, so you're putting in initials for you know,
- 17:10Speaker 3: laugh out loud lol, So people you know you're not
- 17:14Speaker 3: saying what you mean. And I think it's a big problem.
- 17:17Speaker 3: I don't know how to fix it because I keep
- 17:19Speaker 3: trying to talk to my nieces and nephews and say,
- 17:21Speaker 3: tell me what you're saying. Don't think I know what
- 17:24Speaker 3: you're saying. I don't know if it's a life lesson
- 17:26Speaker 3: that they have to go through because I had to
- 17:28Speaker 3: go through to get it. Whoopie was very hard on
- 17:30Speaker 3: me on the view, tell me what you're saying, and
- 17:33Speaker 3: I had to figure out and articulate so that came.
- 17:36Speaker 3: That was hard for me. What was that like having
- 17:38Speaker 3: Whoopy be like, yoh, tell me what you're saying. Oh,
- 17:41Speaker 3: she was hard on me. Whoopy was very, very hard,
- 17:43Speaker 3: but she loved me and she didn't want to see
- 17:45Speaker 3: me go through a lot of stuff which has served
- 17:47Speaker 3: me well doing having my own show and dealing with criticism,
- 17:51Speaker 3: being able to say no, I say what I mean
- 17:53Speaker 3: on my show. But I'm grown, you know. I think
- 17:56Speaker 3: that's why I got the success at this age, you know,
- 17:59Speaker 3: because I know how to stand up for myself. I
- 18:01Speaker 3: know how to say no, I know how to say yes.
- 18:04Speaker 3: I know what I am bringing to the show and
- 18:06Speaker 3: what I want to see. So it's you know, sometimes
- 18:09Speaker 3: you just have to go through life. You got to fall,
- 18:12Speaker 3: and you gotta get You got to learn to get
- 18:13Speaker 3: back up. You gotta fall, you gotta learn to get
- 18:15Speaker 3: back up.
- 18:15Speaker 5: And I'm sure whoop, you saw the greatness in you.
- 18:17Speaker 5: Like a lot of times, people see things in you
- 18:18Speaker 5: that you may not see seeing yourself.
- 18:20Speaker 3: Sometimes, yeah, maybe she did. I would hope that. Yeah, yeah,
- 18:26Speaker 3: I know we came a long way saying we came
- 18:28Speaker 3: a long way from when you call me to Tasmanian devil,
- 18:30Speaker 3: mister Charlemagne to God.
- 18:32Speaker 2: That's remember remember, And I don't know if you heard
- 18:35Speaker 2: earlier when you started talking about yourself, he was like,
- 18:37Speaker 2: damn as soon as you said that. I don't know
- 18:38Speaker 2: if you if you heard it, but you know, he
- 18:40Speaker 2: still took a little shot at you earlier today.
- 18:41Speaker 1: What were talking about? Exactly what is he talking about?
- 18:44Speaker 3: I don't know, but I went envy that right. What
- 18:47Speaker 3: do you say?
- 18:48Speaker 2: Watch him?
- 18:49Speaker 1: You got to watch.
- 18:52Speaker 2: Got to watch him. So I want to congratulations you
- 18:54Speaker 2: were pregnant April first.
- 18:57Speaker 3: Oh my god, you every celebrity confusing me with somebody.
- 19:04Speaker 1: Do you'll want to stop this?
- 19:12Speaker 3: I think I am. That's my calling card. I'm not
- 19:18Speaker 3: getting pregnant.
- 19:21Speaker 1: Oh my god, just that you're a man.
- 19:24Speaker 2: You said it was a joe quickly because you said
- 19:26Speaker 2: you didn't want to manifest that I did.
- 19:27Speaker 3: I didn't want to. Yeah, because I found out I'm
- 19:29Speaker 3: stelling perry menopause. So I still can get pregnant. And
- 19:33Speaker 3: when the doctor told me that, I was like, no,
- 19:36Speaker 3: they cannot be because at this age. Here's the thing,
- 19:39Speaker 3: men don't want to hear. And at this age, they
- 19:41Speaker 3: don't want to hear that you've been celibate for thirty years.
- 19:44Speaker 3: That's not nothing. If you and your twenties, men like
- 19:46Speaker 3: to hear that, oh you a virgin, Oh that is good.
- 19:49Speaker 3: But when you dog onto your fifties and you're like,
- 19:51Speaker 3: I've been celibate for the last twenty five years, waiting
- 19:54Speaker 3: on the right one. A man will run, will run
- 19:58Speaker 3: as fast as he can, and a man want here.
- 20:00Speaker 3: I can't get pregnant. You can't get pregnant. Oh shoot.
- 20:04Speaker 3: So when they told me that, I was just like, Okay, this,
- 20:07Speaker 3: this don't make no sense. So that was my April
- 20:09Speaker 3: Fool's joke, and everybody believed it. But I cut it
- 20:12Speaker 3: short because I don't want to manifest that kind of thing.
- 20:16Speaker 3: If I told y'all I was pregnant right now, if
- 20:18Speaker 3: you had to report that, y'all would be laughing at me, wouldn't.
- 20:22Speaker 3: Why I can't at this age?
- 20:24Speaker 1: Janet jackcident and you got why not?
- 20:27Speaker 3: Jennet Jackson is yeah, but no, And I love Janet
- 20:29Speaker 3: and Janet No, Janet's one year older than man. She
- 20:34Speaker 3: was fifty fifty five. No, I believe I don't want
- 20:39Speaker 3: to be dealing with you. I'm not dealing with a
- 20:42Speaker 3: two year old. At this sage. You have to have
- 20:44Speaker 3: the energy and the stamina and the patience you have
- 20:48Speaker 3: to go through when your child goes mommy, mommy, mommy, mommy,
- 20:50Speaker 3: bo why but why but why? When they have temper tantrums,
- 20:53Speaker 3: because they can't articulate. I don't have that kind of energy.
- 20:56Speaker 3: At nine o'clock, I'm winding down.
- 20:59Speaker 1: Well, I say, you look good. I'll be honest with you.
- 21:01Speaker 1: I didn't even know you was for detail. I looked
- 21:02Speaker 1: it up just now.
- 21:03Speaker 5: Yeah.
- 21:03Speaker 1: I only looked it up because.
- 21:05Speaker 3: I said that. And I earn every one of these
- 21:07Speaker 3: stripes absolutely.
- 21:09Speaker 1: I don't know why I said it. Yesterday went to
- 21:11Speaker 1: Rodger was here.
- 21:12Speaker 5: Why would you want a young girl when black women
- 21:15Speaker 5: age like this?
- 21:16Speaker 1: It don't make no sense to me.
- 21:17Speaker 3: I think though, a lot of younger men they do
- 21:20Speaker 3: come to me because they do want an older, seasoned woman,
- 21:23Speaker 3: because I think we know what we want. You know,
- 21:26Speaker 3: we don't take a lot of mess. We're very we're
- 21:28Speaker 3: very We're very articulate about what we want. We are accomplished.
- 21:32Speaker 3: And I think a younger a lot of younger men
- 21:34Speaker 3: like that. But I don't see there are women that
- 21:37Speaker 3: like younger men. I like a man my age. I
- 21:39Speaker 3: like a man that is seasoned. We want the same
- 21:42Speaker 3: things in life. He's healthy, we can talk about things.
- 21:45Speaker 3: If I say something, he knows who I'm talking about.
- 21:48Speaker 3: That's right, Like my my hair got THEO every time
- 21:51Speaker 3: we talk about stuff. He like, who is that? I said,
- 21:54Speaker 3: I said, somebody doing a tour. They're doing a tour.
- 21:56Speaker 3: It's El DeBarge, it's baby face, he said, who.
- 21:58Speaker 2: El de Barge?
- 21:59Speaker 3: He? Who is eld the bars. I need you to
- 22:02Speaker 3: know who these people are and what they've done.
- 22:05Speaker 5: And I want older men to like older women because
- 22:07Speaker 5: we see what happens.
- 22:10Speaker 3: And they get in trouble. That's the problem. But but
- 22:13Speaker 3: I understand young young people bringing energy. They bring an
- 22:16Speaker 3: energy into your life. I like, like, I would like
- 22:18Speaker 3: to have a daughter so I could do a TikTok.
- 22:20Speaker 3: I want to do a TikTok. That's how I want
- 22:23Speaker 3: to We do TikTok together. Because my son won't do
- 22:26Speaker 3: a TikTok for me, to save his life. We do
- 22:28Speaker 3: a TikTok, he just walk out the frame. He just
- 22:30Speaker 3: walk out the camera. Boys is different, you know, That's
- 22:33Speaker 3: why I want a daughter. Like I was with Kadeen
- 22:34Speaker 3: Devou's wife, Kadeen and like, she looks like she could
- 22:38Speaker 3: be my daughter. Like I look like the cool sexy
- 22:40Speaker 3: mom next to her, and I'm like, we look we
- 22:43Speaker 3: look good together. A TikTok No, but we did. We
- 22:46Speaker 3: was dancing together. We got we was twerking together. We
- 22:48Speaker 3: got pictures. It looks so good, y do you know?
- 22:52Speaker 3: And I'm mentored than I dudes, So that's why, so
- 22:54Speaker 3: we can do what we do our tiktoks. They take
- 22:55Speaker 3: me to boots on the ground. They told me that
- 22:58Speaker 3: I know that to me a challenge I noticed to
- 23:00Speaker 3: men't t ugh. They're keeping you a little safe though.
- 23:03Speaker 4: They teach you like the things you should know at
- 23:05Speaker 4: your age, like younger TikTok friendly stuff.
- 23:07Speaker 1: I've been looking at it though.
- 23:08Speaker 6: Some of that stuff to my knees, I'm like, mm hmm,
- 23:11Speaker 6: seen the pop the pussy for a good chown?
- 23:12Speaker 3: No, I ain't seen. No what that doesn't come up
- 23:16Speaker 3: in my algorithm.
- 23:16Speaker 1: That's gonna show you. It's going to show you what
- 23:18Speaker 1: is popped.
- 23:20Speaker 3: Oh my god.
- 23:21Speaker 2: Now you've been you've been very open about your health
- 23:23Speaker 2: and your finances.
- 23:24Speaker 1: Right, yeah.
- 23:25Speaker 2: Why are you so open? Because most people are kind
- 23:27Speaker 2: of keep it to themselves. Maybe they'll feel embarrassed. But
- 23:29Speaker 2: you've been open, You've been discussed, you've been talking about it.
- 23:31Speaker 3: Why Because I think that a lot of people are
- 23:34Speaker 3: going through health challenges like if you don't if you
- 23:36Speaker 3: don't have your health together, you're not able to fulfill
- 23:39Speaker 3: the purpose that you've been put here for and just
- 23:42Speaker 3: do basic step. How do you want how do you
- 23:44Speaker 3: want to live ten? What do you want your life
- 23:46Speaker 3: to look like ten years from now, twenty years from now? Well,
- 23:49Speaker 3: it's that starts today. So I'm really open about showing
- 23:53Speaker 3: that I go to the gym. I get up at
- 23:54Speaker 3: four thirty in the morning, four times a week to
- 23:56Speaker 3: go to the gym. You know, however you want to feel,
- 23:59Speaker 3: you got to start today, and I want people to
- 24:01Speaker 3: know it's not over. Like you can start and go
- 24:04Speaker 3: to that gym and work out, start eating healthy. You're
- 24:07Speaker 3: able to accomplish so much more. Your outlook on life changes,
- 24:11Speaker 3: your confidence changes. So I'm just really big and diabetes
- 24:16Speaker 3: is really big in our community, and I'm a Type
- 24:19Speaker 3: two diabetic. So I want people to know that life
- 24:21Speaker 3: is not over because you're diabetic, but it can start
- 24:24Speaker 3: and it can be amazingly wonderful. So I tell people,
- 24:27Speaker 3: don't pray that the diabetes goes away. When they say
- 24:29Speaker 3: I'm a pray for you that to go, No, don't
- 24:31Speaker 3: pray that because having diabetes has saved my life. Having
- 24:34Speaker 3: diabetes makes me look at everything that I put in
- 24:37Speaker 3: my mouth. That sounding nastiesting. I just realized that. But
- 24:41Speaker 3: it really makes me look at everything. Wow, it makes
- 24:44Speaker 3: me look at everything that I do, that I eat.
- 24:46Speaker 3: It makes me go to the gym. I look at
- 24:48Speaker 3: my son and I go, he still needs me. So
- 24:51Speaker 3: I need to do things different. So that's why I'm
- 24:52Speaker 3: so open about it. I really am.
- 24:55Speaker 1: And they changing everything at the doctor now.
- 24:56Speaker 6: Like I went to the doctor the other day and
- 24:57Speaker 6: they told me that I'm a five. Wait seven, you
- 25:02Speaker 6: right on the cut. Youre bet and they come back
- 25:04Speaker 6: in six months, and I'm like, you need to start
- 25:06Speaker 6: walking more.
- 25:07Speaker 1: I'm crazy.
- 25:09Speaker 3: You need to watch what you eat. You eating starches,
- 25:12Speaker 3: yeah you cut off? Oh you predisposed, Yeah, but a lot.
- 25:16Speaker 3: You know, you can change that because you're over here
- 25:18Speaker 3: on this side. You can modify stuff that you're eat
- 25:21Speaker 3: because wen't you coming over coming over to my side?
- 25:23Speaker 3: That stuff that you just can't have, like you know,
- 25:26Speaker 3: chocolate chip cookies I'm addicted to. I had to stop that.
- 25:29Speaker 3: I had I drink my tea with no sugar. I'm learning,
- 25:33Speaker 3: I know, but I have to do it because otherwise
- 25:36Speaker 3: my my gluecoast level goes up, so you then you
- 25:38Speaker 3: wear a patch so you could see you know what
- 25:40Speaker 3: your blood gluecoast level. That's what that is. What do
- 25:43Speaker 3: you think is just a white thing you gonna have?
- 25:45Speaker 3: Ring make me say you got to have everything you
- 25:53Speaker 3: thought market? It is my glucoas, my continuous glue cooast
- 25:58Speaker 3: monitor for my freely break. Haven't you see my diabetic commercials?
- 26:03Speaker 3: We'll be skating around Ring Mark.
- 26:09Speaker 5: You know, I did want to ask you, did me
- 26:12Speaker 5: Along ever take you up on your conversation to come
- 26:15Speaker 5: on your show? I guess that's who you was alluding
- 26:19Speaker 5: to what they said alluding to when they said she
- 26:21Speaker 5: rolled up on you.
- 26:22Speaker 3: When I said unnamed celebrity, it rolled up a reporter
- 26:25Speaker 3: that a source had told me that it was Along. Yes,
- 26:27Speaker 3: did Neolong take me up? Because I didn't say her name,
- 26:30Speaker 3: but yes, it was Along. You know if here's the thing,
- 26:34Speaker 3: I don't know who Na Along had me confused with?
- 26:39Speaker 3: And what I appreciate, Lauren, this is why I love you.
- 26:41Speaker 3: You did your research, you did your homework, and you
- 26:43Speaker 3: pulled up a clip. The only time I've ever talked
- 26:45Speaker 3: about Na Along is when she went through it with
- 26:47Speaker 3: her partner who it was infidelity, and I supported her
- 26:52Speaker 3: and that she should she deserves to have a good
- 26:54Speaker 3: man to be with her. And you pulled up that clip,
- 26:57Speaker 3: so thank you for that. You handle it very well.
- 26:59Speaker 3: So I have no idea. I think Neilon maybe confused.
- 27:03Speaker 1: Me with someone not a lot of black women on TV,
- 27:05Speaker 1: so it's not I have.
- 27:06Speaker 3: No idea who she thought was shading her, but it
- 27:09Speaker 3: was not me. I have no beef with Nie Along.
- 27:11Speaker 3: I'm a fan of hers with grown women. We're both
- 27:14Speaker 3: the same age, so like we can discuss it. That's
- 27:16Speaker 3: why I invited her on my show, you know, And
- 27:19Speaker 3: a lot of people said, well, why would you say
- 27:21Speaker 3: something like that publicly? Well, number one, I did, never
- 27:23Speaker 3: said her name. There was a lot of women that
- 27:25Speaker 3: attended the Othello premiere, and number two I do. I'm
- 27:29Speaker 3: a stand up comic, so everything that happens in my
- 27:32Speaker 3: life is material for me and my stage. My comedy
- 27:35Speaker 3: stage is the talk show. So I got on stage
- 27:38Speaker 3: and I just talked about it, and I said, you know,
- 27:40Speaker 3: it was a fun it was this happened. You wanted
- 27:43Speaker 3: to know why I went to the bathroom, because I said,
- 27:45Speaker 3: I went to the bathroom and had a meeting in
- 27:46Speaker 3: the ladies room. That was actually a joke with you know,
- 27:49Speaker 3: because Climax. This is why I don't give a younger man.
- 27:53Speaker 3: It was climax meeting in the ladies room. I'll be back,
- 27:57Speaker 3: and she says, don't. She said, don't test me because
- 28:01Speaker 3: I might slap you. Remember, you know a DJ god
- 28:05Speaker 3: don't know anybody, And so I did. I said the joke.
- 28:09Speaker 3: Norman Baker, who's ahead of our hot topics. He was like,
- 28:12Speaker 3: that's funny. Everybody got it, and you over here go.
- 28:15Speaker 3: I don't understand why she went to the was waiting
- 28:17Speaker 3: in the bathroom. You and jes So that's what that was.
- 28:21Speaker 3: That was a joke. But yeah, but I don't have
- 28:23Speaker 3: any beef. I don't I don't like to tear down people.
- 28:26Speaker 3: But I honestly was was just confused. And I also
- 28:30Speaker 3: don't like when you when you touch me and you
- 28:32Speaker 3: pull at me, I don't like that, like grabbed me
- 28:36Speaker 3: and spun me around. And here's the thing, I'm a
- 28:39Speaker 3: really nice yeah like you.
- 28:45Speaker 1: Oh that's what you mean?
- 28:49Speaker 2: I hate him? You know you shof by the way.
- 28:55Speaker 3: Never you know, but now I can't un see it.
- 28:57Speaker 3: This is why I tell women stop getting with stand up,
- 29:00Speaker 3: because you got to sit in bed and they go
- 29:02Speaker 3: over the same joke and punchline over and over, and
- 29:05Speaker 3: you got to hear that all night long. Charlamagne your wife, God,
- 29:10Speaker 3: bless her, Lord, open up doors for her, bless her.
- 29:14Speaker 3: Just bless her father, God.
- 29:15Speaker 2: It could be your darkest moment. You could be crying.
- 29:18Speaker 2: He's not gonna be sympathetic.
- 29:19Speaker 1: No, I am sympathetic. I just wanted to bring some joy.
- 29:21Speaker 3: That's a lot. No, But it's like, but when people
- 29:24Speaker 3: when people tugget you, when they want to picture and
- 29:26Speaker 3: they tugget you, it's like, so I'm still I think people,
- 29:29Speaker 3: I'm so nice, but you can't confuse that. I am
- 29:32Speaker 3: a Chicago girl. So when that happens, you know, then
- 29:36Speaker 3: I go there. But you know, I'm cool. I'm so cool.
- 29:39Speaker 3: It's done. If Nilon would love to come on my show,
- 29:41Speaker 3: I would love. I'm a fan, we're both actresses. I
- 29:45Speaker 3: would love to talk to her and just clear it up.
- 29:47Speaker 3: That's such a That's why these beefs that come on
- 29:50Speaker 3: social media like it's easily cleared up.
- 29:53Speaker 5: So I would love suck and this young girl behavior
- 29:55Speaker 5: like I wonder, because she's been around for so long,
- 29:58Speaker 5: what could she think you her tone, I don't.
- 30:01Speaker 3: Think it's younger behavior, charlamage. Sometimes you don't see a person,
- 30:06Speaker 3: you know, sometimes these things fester. This is what Woopy
- 30:09Speaker 3: told me, and this is why I'm very nice. On
- 30:11Speaker 3: my talk show. She said, we were about to do
- 30:14Speaker 3: a story. I wanted to do a story on the
- 30:16Speaker 3: view about a certain rapper. The baby mama was asking
- 30:20Speaker 3: for more money. Then something happened bad and I wanted
- 30:23Speaker 3: to blame it on this this rapper. And I said,
- 30:25Speaker 3: I want to talk about this, and Whoopy said, we're
- 30:28Speaker 3: not going to talk about it. And I said, no, no, no,
- 30:30Speaker 3: we got this platform and I'm gonna let people know.
- 30:33Speaker 3: And she said no. So Barbara Walter said, if Whoope's
- 30:36Speaker 3: not going to talk about it, we're not going to
- 30:38Speaker 3: talk about it. And I went into a whoopees room
- 30:41Speaker 3: and I said, why would you kill this story? It's
- 30:44Speaker 3: very interesting. Everybody knows the rapper. And she said, let
- 30:47Speaker 3: me tell you something to Sharry. She said, celebrities have
- 30:49Speaker 3: long memories. And you know this, y'all know this. They
- 30:53Speaker 3: have long memories. You have a career beyond the show
- 30:56Speaker 3: and she said, and what will happen is you might
- 30:58Speaker 3: go to a club encounter this rapper. You are black women,
- 31:02Speaker 3: we'd at least protect it. And if they get mad
- 31:05Speaker 3: at you want to do something, ain't nobody gonna do nothing.
- 31:07Speaker 3: Now if Elizabeth hasseback goes to the club because she
- 31:09Speaker 3: didn't say something and he does anything, everybody gonna be
- 31:12Speaker 3: calling the police.
- 31:13Speaker 1: He ain't even gonna do nothing to.
- 31:14Speaker 3: Won't even do nothing to it. She said, you always
- 31:16Speaker 3: had to keep that in mind. And she said, and
- 31:18Speaker 3: you want to work beyond this show, because you're not
- 31:21Speaker 3: gonna be here for long. You're gonna be working. And
- 31:23Speaker 3: these and celebrities have very long memories, and you're in
- 31:25Speaker 3: the business and your career is important. And I just
- 31:29Speaker 3: always remember that. And I'm a kind person. So when
- 31:32Speaker 3: I come at stories, Lauren always go is it edifying?
- 31:35Speaker 3: I would rather you be laughing with me, going that
- 31:38Speaker 3: girl is talking about me today. That is so funny
- 31:41Speaker 3: what she says, Rather than I'm too old to be
- 31:44Speaker 3: in the club and somebody comes up to me goes,
- 31:46Speaker 3: my name is Thunn Thun, And I don't you know
- 31:48Speaker 3: I heard what you said. It ain't gonna be I'm
- 31:51Speaker 3: not gonna be having that, and you bet not. First
- 31:54Speaker 3: of all, I'm fifty, I don't even know who you are.
- 31:56Speaker 3: I don't remember what I said. And wait, does she
- 31:59Speaker 3: just slap me? I don't be fighting no more like that.
- 32:02Speaker 3: So you know, it's like life is too short. I
- 32:05Speaker 3: want to put out good energy on my show. I
- 32:08Speaker 3: want you to feel good. I want you to know
- 32:10Speaker 3: that when you come to the show is a safe space.
- 32:13Speaker 3: If you don't want to talk about something, there's a
- 32:15Speaker 3: ton of other stuff we can talk about. If you
- 32:18Speaker 3: want the shady stuff, it's a bunch of blogs you
- 32:20Speaker 3: can go to. And I think that people, even though
- 32:23Speaker 3: they like that, they turn on you quick. They turn
- 32:26Speaker 3: on you quick when you're always giving out bad stuff
- 32:29Speaker 3: and talking about people. I think I have more fans
- 32:32Speaker 3: that will stick with me if I go through something
- 32:35Speaker 3: then not. So that's just the way I operate, and
- 32:37Speaker 3: it has worked.
- 32:38Speaker 1: I feel like God is talking through Did you.
- 32:42Speaker 3: Just say that three minutes ago?
- 32:43Speaker 4: No, he just always talking to me. Yes, We've had
- 32:47Speaker 4: a lot of conversations this weekend. Yesterday aways yeah, really, yes,
- 32:53Speaker 4: I mean I literally was recording my podcast The Latest
- 32:56Speaker 4: Who Learned the Roads? But before you came in here.
- 32:58Speaker 3: And on my podcasts, I was talking about how I
- 33:00Speaker 3: talked to guy yesterday and was like, look, I hear you.
- 33:03Speaker 3: I get it. I know what I need to do
- 33:04Speaker 3: to doll back and you know, focus and whatever whatever,
- 33:06Speaker 3: And then you come in here. You're literally it sounds
- 33:09Speaker 3: better coming from you, though you look a lot better.
- 33:11Speaker 3: So when you're dealing with you understand. But there are
- 33:19Speaker 3: people who do that. I just think that you have
- 33:21Speaker 3: to go You're going to have to answer to what
- 33:23Speaker 3: you put out in the world, right and sometimes stuff
- 33:26Speaker 3: your parents even say that. Sometimes stuff you can say it,
- 33:29Speaker 3: but do you need to say it?
- 33:31Speaker 1: Now?
- 33:31Speaker 3: That's not for everybody. I'm I'm not judging anybody. There
- 33:35Speaker 3: are blogs that I go to because I just got
- 33:37Speaker 3: to know what's going on, and they give their opinion
- 33:40Speaker 3: and I figure out how I'm going to form my opinion.
- 33:42Speaker 3: But in a different way. For me, I'm like, it's
- 33:44Speaker 3: going to edify you? Is it going to add to
- 33:46Speaker 3: your life? If it's not, then let's go to another one.
- 33:49Speaker 3: But a lot of this stuff doesn't add to my life.
- 33:51Speaker 3: Like a lot of this stuff is like their topics.
- 33:53Speaker 3: There's conversation and then we move on. So where's that balance? Well,
- 33:57Speaker 3: what's your intention and what is your heart when you're
- 33:59Speaker 3: doing it? Like, you know, I got Didy jokes too.
- 34:02Speaker 3: Those I do on stage, I'm not gonna do him
- 34:03Speaker 3: on the talk show. So you know, I just think,
- 34:06Speaker 3: what what is your intention when you're saying it? So
- 34:09Speaker 3: I don't know if you're talking about the fact that
- 34:10Speaker 3: you want to do negative stuff. You got to report the.
- 34:14Speaker 4: News, That's what I'm saying. Like, sometimes you got to
- 34:15Speaker 4: touch on things that people are not happy touching on.
- 34:19Speaker 3: But there are people who are intentionally mean about stuff.
- 34:22Speaker 3: There are people intentionally trying to take down folks. So
- 34:25Speaker 3: if you're not like that, but you have to report
- 34:27Speaker 3: on the news. I don't have to do that a man.
- 34:30Speaker 5: If you hear about a man nothing and then the
- 34:32Speaker 5: man taking the nuting and rubbing it on his nipple,
- 34:34Speaker 5: YEA heard that.
- 34:34Speaker 3: The sperm shake. But but she's covering a trial. They
- 34:39Speaker 3: are trying to show character. They're trying so you have
- 34:43Speaker 3: to tell us what's going on. That is what they
- 34:45Speaker 3: discuss in the courtroom. Yes it's gross, but that's what
- 34:50Speaker 3: they talked about. They put him on the witness stand,
- 34:52Speaker 3: so you're just you're just telling that and giving your opinion.
- 34:55Speaker 3: This ain't nothing you said. Oh this is what I heard.
- 34:58Speaker 3: This is actual fact. If he was on the he
- 35:00Speaker 3: was on the witness stand, so you know, yes it was.
- 35:03Speaker 3: I was like, that's disgusting. But I never looked at
- 35:05Speaker 3: you like, oh, Lauren, why are you saying that the news?
- 35:09Speaker 3: But I mean, like even relationships stuff like the big
- 35:11Speaker 3: celebrity breakups and the divorces and the you I think
- 35:15Speaker 3: you have to you know, you you have to report that.
- 35:17Speaker 3: I try to do it too, like the way I
- 35:19Speaker 3: come from with divorces. I'm upset because I looked at
- 35:22Speaker 3: you know, there's I'm sad because they got divorced, and
- 35:25Speaker 3: then I have some jokes in there. I'm sad they
- 35:27Speaker 3: got divorced. But is he available now?
- 35:30Speaker 1: You know?
- 35:31Speaker 3: Do you mind if I got to bring some lightness
- 35:34Speaker 3: to it? Gotcha? But it is your job to report
- 35:36Speaker 3: what is going on. Otherwise we wouldn't know what.
- 35:39Speaker 2: She hasn't been so much. I get the calls, Yeah,
- 35:41Speaker 2: we did, We do numerous times.
- 35:44Speaker 3: Biggest conversation right now when breakups is CARDI b offset.
- 35:47Speaker 3: So when we're covering those things, it's very temperamental for
- 35:50Speaker 3: the people that are going through and I try to
- 35:51Speaker 3: understand that.
- 35:52Speaker 4: But at the same time, it's like these things are
- 35:54Speaker 4: put out there. Cardi's on spaces talking about it, there's tweets,
- 35:57Speaker 4: there's all these things. So the balance sometimes and.
- 36:00Speaker 3: You're going to get it. You are going to get it.
- 36:02Speaker 3: I've seen people who come on the show who don't
- 36:04Speaker 3: want to know. Who was the one that didn't want
- 36:05Speaker 3: to talk to Jess when she was six? He read
- 36:08Speaker 3: I'm like, you know, and she's very, very sensitive, and
- 36:11Speaker 3: she had to say numerous times, I just have to
- 36:13Speaker 3: report it. I'm gonnam, this is what I do. We
- 36:15Speaker 3: have to report it for them. I'm like, this comes
- 36:18Speaker 3: with the territory. People are going to report. That's why
- 36:20Speaker 3: I'm so private about my life, because otherwise people are
- 36:23Speaker 3: going to report on it.
- 36:24Speaker 2: It's just when people take sides though, right, because we don't.
- 36:27Speaker 3: Know all the facts, and they want to know why
- 36:30Speaker 3: you didn't say this because we only got three minutes
- 36:33Speaker 3: and this is the information I was given you always
- 36:35Speaker 3: I have to say that too. People get mad at
- 36:37Speaker 3: me and I go, I didn't know. I didn't know
- 36:39Speaker 3: that fact before. This is what we read and I'm
- 36:43Speaker 3: I have to comment on it.
- 36:44Speaker 1: But what Sherry said is true.
- 36:45Speaker 5: Intention matters, right, Like, yeah, Lauren, you know we would
- 36:48Speaker 5: have a dinner with the Wendy Williams.
- 36:51Speaker 1: Yeah, and this was how long ago? I don't remember that.
- 36:54Speaker 5: And Wendy said, verbatim, I think that I'm in the
- 36:58Speaker 5: space that I'm in now because.
- 36:59Speaker 1: Of how to talk about people.
- 37:01Speaker 3: That's pretty powerful, that's what she says.
- 37:04Speaker 1: And she was like, well, I just was and we
- 37:06Speaker 1: don't even talk that.
- 37:06Speaker 5: She was like, I don't know, I just I just
- 37:07Speaker 5: think God, Like wow, for her to have that self awareness,
- 37:11Speaker 5: then I mean, now it's good.
- 37:13Speaker 3: But yes, and see, now here's the thing. No matter
- 37:18Speaker 3: what I say about Wendy, it'll be it'll be taken
- 37:21Speaker 3: out of context. So I don't get upset because I
- 37:24Speaker 3: know my intention. I feel that's very powerful. And sometimes
- 37:28Speaker 3: we get in the season of our life we started
- 37:29Speaker 3: looking back over stuff and God is we're open more
- 37:32Speaker 3: to hearing God. The fact that she said that is
- 37:35Speaker 3: pretty deep because that means that at night she's been
- 37:38Speaker 3: laying there thinking about some stuff. Now, she has a
- 37:41Speaker 3: plethora of fans who if you if we said that,
- 37:44Speaker 3: they'd be on us like on our asses about that.
- 37:48Speaker 3: But Wendy said that, and it was a deep you
- 37:52Speaker 3: can feel the sorry like I don't know, but maybe
- 37:56Speaker 3: I've never seen her like that, And I was like,
- 37:58Speaker 3: oh wow, I don't want to end up like that.
- 38:00Speaker 3: And I would say this sometimes when you I remember
- 38:03Speaker 3: my girlfriend said one time she didn't let The Real
- 38:05Speaker 3: Housewives be played in her house. Her kids liked it,
- 38:07Speaker 3: and she said, I don't want that energy in my
- 38:11Speaker 3: house of always arguing people now with a man they do,
- 38:15Speaker 3: because I don't want that any kind of seeds to
- 38:17Speaker 3: be planet of energy in my house and I'm arguing
- 38:20Speaker 3: with my friends, and so she wouldn't. So I feel
- 38:23Speaker 3: like sometimes when you're in negative space all the time,
- 38:27Speaker 3: negative energy seems define you. That's like how it is
- 38:29Speaker 3: with Straw. It's the same thing with Straw. Like this girl, Taraji,
- 38:34Speaker 3: her character, it was always negative stuff. And so everything
- 38:38Speaker 3: you see these people that can't catch a break, they're
- 38:40Speaker 3: always it's always something negative finds you because you're in
- 38:44Speaker 3: such a negative space. So I think you have to
- 38:46Speaker 3: look at that when I say, is it edifying how
- 38:49Speaker 3: you were reporting the news? That's what you're doing. But
- 38:52Speaker 3: when you know when you start to veer over into
- 38:55Speaker 3: the shady, the mean, the shady Charlotte may when you
- 38:58Speaker 3: veer over into that space. Because God get on me
- 39:01Speaker 3: all the time. I'll veer over and He'll go stop stop,
- 39:04Speaker 3: and I'm like, ah, but it's funny. Yeah, but it
- 39:06Speaker 3: ain't from me. You know now, I'm not gonna open
- 39:09Speaker 3: up a Bible and do malla co icept.
- 39:10Speaker 1: No.
- 39:11Speaker 3: I'm funny. I do dirty jokes. I talk about people.
- 39:13Speaker 3: But I can feel when I'm veering over into the
- 39:17Speaker 3: I know you got to go your character instro you
- 39:19Speaker 3: brought back up.
- 39:20Speaker 4: It's such it because we're talking about women in all
- 39:22Speaker 4: these spaces, right, Your character is such an advocate for
- 39:24Speaker 4: black women in distress.
- 39:25Speaker 3: Yes, in real life. Where does that come from for you?
- 39:30Speaker 3: You know what I just I'm I feel for women
- 39:33Speaker 3: who go I don't get along with other women because
- 39:35Speaker 3: they treacherous. They this that's what you're draw into your life.
- 39:38Speaker 3: I'm a big believer. Way you speak is what comes
- 39:41Speaker 3: to you. And we cannot exist without other women. We
- 39:44Speaker 3: really cannot. Like our strength comes from women. We change
- 39:49Speaker 3: the world. I know when I was going through my
- 39:51Speaker 3: worst moments, when I would be on the floor crying.
- 39:54Speaker 3: It would be my girlfriends that would pick me up
- 39:57Speaker 3: and hold me like I Just who would encourage me,
- 40:00Speaker 3: who challenge me, who get on me? Is women. So
- 40:03Speaker 3: if you don't have a good, good female friends in
- 40:05Speaker 3: your life and you think they treacherous and you think
- 40:07Speaker 3: they trying to get your man, then you need to
- 40:10Speaker 3: let them go. And also you need to look at
- 40:12Speaker 3: yourself because what is that saying? Show me the four
- 40:15Speaker 3: people you hang out with, and I'll show you who
- 40:17Speaker 3: you are. So if you feel that all the women
- 40:19Speaker 3: in your life are treacherous, then what are you? Who
- 40:22Speaker 3: are you?
- 40:23Speaker 5: So?
- 40:23Speaker 3: I just think that women we have to we have
- 40:26Speaker 3: to galvanize because young girls. I have a heart for
- 40:29Speaker 3: young women. They don't have these they don't have enough
- 40:32Speaker 3: role models, and they are looking to us to figure out.
- 40:36Speaker 3: We have coping mechanisms all this stuff that's happening politically adults,
- 40:40Speaker 3: we barely have coping mechanisms. Think about these kids that
- 40:43Speaker 3: are out there. They got nothing, So they need to
- 40:46Speaker 3: see positive women in what they are doing. We need
- 40:49Speaker 3: more women like you, We need more women like me,
- 40:52Speaker 3: We need more women who are We need more women
- 40:54Speaker 3: like Megs the stallion who says, I'm gonna go to college. Yes,
- 40:57Speaker 3: I got this, but I'm gonna give my education because
- 40:59Speaker 3: I know I'm gonna make a differ with this thing
- 41:01Speaker 3: behind me, this piece of paper. And they wanted they
- 41:03Speaker 3: want to go to they want to go to college.
- 41:05Speaker 3: When I looked at a different world, I wanted to
- 41:07Speaker 3: go to college. So I think that we have to
- 41:10Speaker 3: really reach back and health these young ones like y'all
- 41:12Speaker 3: have to reach back. There's no reason why y'all have
- 41:15Speaker 3: not reached out and said, can free come and help?
- 41:19Speaker 3: Say his name, Oh damn it, my son. Okay, I
- 41:24Speaker 3: would like him too. He needs he needs an intern.
- 41:26Speaker 3: Perhaps he needs the intern. I need somebody to help.
- 41:29Speaker 3: That's what he needs to do. Intern, because you know
- 41:31Speaker 3: he's on he's on the spectrum, and so it just
- 41:33Speaker 3: he needs some black men in his life to you know.
- 41:36Speaker 3: He tell I had to teach him to take the
- 41:37Speaker 3: train by himself. I deal with people way different than
- 41:41Speaker 3: a man, would you know. So I tell I tell him,
- 41:43Speaker 3: when you're on the train and somebody says something crazy,
- 41:46Speaker 3: just get up and move. Maybe you might tell him
- 41:47Speaker 3: something different. I tell him, if the police say this,
- 41:50Speaker 3: do this, And he said, Mom, They're not going to
- 41:52Speaker 3: say that to me. I don't know what to say
- 41:53Speaker 3: to him when he goes. They're not going to say
- 41:55Speaker 3: he's manifesting great stuff, that that's not going to happen.
- 41:58Speaker 3: But you might say something different.
- 42:00Speaker 5: That is the hardest thing raising kids, because you don't
- 42:01Speaker 5: want to put that on them. If they feel that
- 42:03Speaker 5: way and they have that positive energy, you don't want
- 42:05Speaker 5: to take that away from them.
- 42:06Speaker 1: But you still want them to deal with the reality.
- 42:08Speaker 3: Absolutely they have to deal with. But my reality and
- 42:11Speaker 3: the way I'm a nurturer, maybe he shouldn't be a nurturer.
- 42:14Speaker 3: I'm a protector, you know, I'm a Look. Look, if
- 42:17Speaker 3: somebody mess with you, run, if a girl messed with you, run.
- 42:20Speaker 3: You know, maybe he's not supposed to do that. You
- 42:22Speaker 3: might have different advice for him. You know. He obviously
- 42:24Speaker 3: would talk to y'all more about brownies and all of
- 42:27Speaker 3: that other stuff. He found a site to sell them
- 42:28Speaker 3: seven ninety nine, so y'all can tell him something different.
- 42:31Speaker 3: I didn't know what to say. He submitted, Lincoln, everything.
- 42:36Speaker 2: You owns part of a dispensary to please don't tell
- 42:39Speaker 2: him that.
- 42:40Speaker 1: I'm not gonna give him nothing. Give him to you
- 42:43Speaker 1: and you can have them.
- 42:44Speaker 5: Oh my god, I do want to end with this
- 42:46Speaker 5: last question, miss Shepard, because you have been in here preaching.
- 42:48Speaker 1: I mean, you do not know how God has been
- 42:50Speaker 1: talking through you.
- 42:51Speaker 3: Wow over that.
- 42:53Speaker 5: Now, there is a generation of women watching your show
- 42:56Speaker 5: who feels seen and heard. So what do you want
- 42:58Speaker 5: to share his show to represent in this messy meme
- 43:01Speaker 5: driven media landscape.
- 43:03Speaker 3: I want I want the young brown girls to look
- 43:07Speaker 3: at me and say, it's possible I can do that.
- 43:10Speaker 3: I think you got three shows out with three black
- 43:12Speaker 3: women running them. I don't know if you're gonna see
- 43:14Speaker 3: that again in this temperature, but I want them to
- 43:18Speaker 3: be able to look at us, look at me, and
- 43:20Speaker 3: say I can do it. You know, That's why representation matters.
- 43:25Speaker 3: People keep saying no no, we all won no no no.
- 43:28Speaker 3: I saw Oprah Winfrey doing it and she looked like me.
- 43:31Speaker 3: We had the same kind of hair, sayings the wig.
- 43:34Speaker 3: We had the same kind of hair, her skin color.
- 43:37Speaker 3: I saw Stephanie Mills and in the Whiz and I said,
- 43:40Speaker 3: I want to do that. It matters. And so when
- 43:43Speaker 3: little girls look at me and they come and see
- 43:45Speaker 3: me and they call me untie, I'm like, yes, you
- 43:48Speaker 3: can do this. There's a space for you. I want
- 43:51Speaker 3: you to feel like there's a space. I want you
- 43:54Speaker 3: to I want you to come up to me and
- 43:55Speaker 3: ask me for advice. I want you to get ready
- 43:58Speaker 3: because it's there for the taking. The money is here,
- 44:02Speaker 3: the you just gotta be ready. So that's what I
- 44:05Speaker 3: want to impart. It's doable, it really truly is. But
- 44:09Speaker 3: you gotta do the work. So I think a lot
- 44:11Speaker 3: of social media people, it comes to them so fast
- 44:15Speaker 3: and when the crash comes, they're not able to rebound,
- 44:18Speaker 3: you know, So put in, put in the work, and
- 44:21Speaker 3: it's it'll happen.
- 44:24Speaker 2: Check today.
- 44:27Speaker 3: Can I tell you I'm also gonna be an NJ
- 44:29Speaker 3: Pack Kim Whitley and I two Funny Mamas, three time
- 44:32Speaker 3: na A CP Image Award winning podcast, Two Funny Mamas.
- 44:36Speaker 3: We're gonna be at the NJ Pack at the North
- 44:38Speaker 3: to Shore Comedy Festival June twentieth, and then we're gonna
- 44:41Speaker 3: be in Philly. I'm gonna be in Philly July eleventh
- 44:44Speaker 3: at the Riverside Casino. Is it the Riverside Casino? Rivers
- 44:48Speaker 3: rivers Casino, Because I'm about to go on tour and
- 44:50Speaker 3: do stand up. But Kim Whitley and I are the
- 44:52Speaker 3: only comics who can stand on stage and do two
- 44:55Speaker 3: hours of comedy improv. I don't know anybody else who
- 44:58Speaker 3: could do it the way Kim will and I can
- 45:00Speaker 3: do it. So come for the Shenanigans.
- 45:02Speaker 2: That's right, New Jersey Pack, that's June.
- 45:03Speaker 3: And I don't be preaching. I'm funny. No, no, no,
- 45:06Speaker 3: I'm funny.
- 45:06Speaker 2: Sherry Shepherd, Ladies and Gentlemen, Straw Netflix, It's the Breakfast Club.
- 45:11Speaker 2: Good morning, Wake that ass up in the morning.
- 45:14Speaker 1: The Breakfast Club