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Chosen Families – Friends as family · The Road Doc Podcast

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  Not everyone is lucky enough to be born into a loving family,
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  but beautiful thing about life is sometimes we get to choose
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  our family. And those people likely to be
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  your friends who stand beside us when life gets hard, they become
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  even more than more real than your own blood family.
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  Hello everyone, welcome back to the Road Dog podcast.
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  I am Doctor Mukul, your host the Road Dog.
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  Today's episode is all about something very personal,
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  something many of us can experience but rarely talk about
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  openly in general, right? And that topic is chosen
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  families, friends, basically who becomes your family in the long
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  run, right? So welcome you all.
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  Let's dive into it with no further tube, right?
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  And before that, I would like to thank you all.
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  Now we are currently live in 30 plus countries and Rodo podcast
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  YouTube Music and so on and so forth.
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  So yeah. And also I started very recently
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  posting long formatted videos of the podcast on my YouTube
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  channel as well. The channel name is Dog Mukum
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  and their own dog as you might be already watching if you find
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  this video. So yeah, let's just get into it.
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  The myth of blood is everything. Since childhood, most of us are
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  told something like families, everything.
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  Blood is thicker than water. You must always stand with your
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  family. And in many cases that is
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  beautiful. Yeah, sure, and also true.
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  But life also shows us another reality, isn't it?
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  It does most of the time. So not every family support you.
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  Not every family understand you, US, or in general, and sometimes
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  the people who are supposed to stand by us simply do not.
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  That is a difficult realization for many people, but it is also
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  where something powerful can begin.
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  Like what? Many things based on so many
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  people's experience. And so for what turned out to be
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  the worst can be your big breakthrough point.
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  You know, life has unexpected ways of dealing with things and
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  it does works in a miraculous way.
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  We have no idea, just it works, it always does.
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  So there you go and you can interpret it as you like.
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  Like for example, for instance, because of the toxic family or
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  let us say toxic family you grew up in, you might be the
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  breakthrough point. You might end up creating a best
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  family for yourself. Who knows life, you experience
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  it in a very, very different way in general.
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  So you might become the breakthrough point by breaking
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  the generational curses of your family, or you will have a good
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  sorts of friends that becomes your family.
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  And then your life can change like just just like that.
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  And so on and so forth the same. Alright, let's move on to the
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  next one. When friends become family in
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  real life, we meet a lot of people.
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  Some might be just acquaintances, some are simply
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  colleagues, some are temporary companies.
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  But every once in a while, you meet someone who show up when it
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  really matters. They check up on you when you
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  are quiet. They support you when you are
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  struggling. They celebrate your wins like
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  their own. Those people slowly stop feeling
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  like friends and they start feeling like family.
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  Not because of the DNA, but because of the loyalty, presence
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  and genuine care. I know many of us, been there,
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  Some of us are privileged enough to have those friends.
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  Unfortunately, I do not have any such kind of ones, but fine, I
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  am fine by myself so that is OK. That is a whole different story.
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  But I have heard from many, many people that they did find a good
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  friends and they became like a family in general.
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  And that's a cool part. And if you talk with them, they
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  will say like, we are just friends like around in our 20s
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  and then we are still friends at 60s.
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  You heard this many, many times. And yes, those are the real
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  things. And it's true.
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  These things are there is a possibility.
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  All I'm saying is so, yeah. So those who got such kind of
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  friends are really, really lucky.
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  Let's just say if they didn't, maybe they will get in some part
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  of point of time soon enough. We never know.
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  We will see about that life will bring it in some way or another.
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  Like when you least expect life can happen and change everything
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  just like that in a snap of a finger, like everything changes.
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  I know many of us have been experiencing this kind of thing
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  and yes, these do happen in a regular races.
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  So I mean not in a regular basis, but these two happen in
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  regular life. I have seen that many people
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  there told me like when we had conversations, they said our
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  life went down, everything went South and then miraculously few
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  friends gathered and then things just changed drastically in just
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  in very short amount of time like they said like this.
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  I mean we can't even believe ourself that life just changed
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  in such a drastic way. Like we found like wow, this
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  person or this group of friends literally changed everything
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  like everything. Just these are possible things
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  and this can happen to anyone at any point of time, but we can't
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  predict those. If they happen, they happen.
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  Next, we will move on to the freedom of chosen families,
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  right? The interesting thing about the
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  chosen families is this. There is basically no
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  obligation. No one is forced to stay.
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  No one is forced to care, yet they do.
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  That's the beautiful part about this.
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  Even if you ask them to leave, they won't.
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  That's what makes it so powerful, right?
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  Chosen families are built mostly on mutual respect, trust, and
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  emotional safety. And sometimes that kind of bond
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  becomes even stronger than the traditional family ties.
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  Believe it or not, it's true sometimes.
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  Because not everything in life goes according to your plan.
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  Because if everything goes according to your plan that is
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  not your life, some things will go not so according to your
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  plan. And that can still turn out to
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  be the best one. We never know.
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  Everyone will go through good times, bad times, great times,
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  worst times and so on and so forth.
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  Sure, but finding this kind of people is very very rare kind of
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  a thing in present situations. But I will not say this is
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  impossible. There is a possibility for
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  everything. It is just all about timing,
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  that is all. If you are lucky enough to have
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  this kind of people, then thumbs up for you.
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  You are lucky if you do not. Don't get sad.
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  Watch my videos, you will be fine.
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  Next we will move on to the quality over bloodline right?
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  At the end of the day, what truly matters is not just your
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  blood, family and blah blah blah but how people treat you.
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  Do they respect your boundaries? Do they support your growth?
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  Do they show up when life gets messy?
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  If the answer is yes, those people deserve a place in your
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  life. And sometimes those people are
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  your friends who become family by choice.
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  And that's the beautiful part. Like, if you ask so many people,
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  I have seen that they tell openly that I love my friends
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  more than my own family. Something like that.
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  When we like, even like phrases, like when I hang out with my
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  friends, I feel like world is very, very nice place to live
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  in. And so something like this
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  phrases, you might have heard it.
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  Apparently I had heard them a lot.
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  So yeah, everything is possible, just need to have some time,
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  that's all. Anyways, so if you are someone
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  who has built a chosen family, cherish them because real
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  connections is very, very rare and sometimes the greatest
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  family we ever have is the one way to build ourselves, right?
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  Let us sink in for a while. So yeah, I think I covered
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  everything in this episode. I think it's going to be a very
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  short episode because what can we say about friends and good
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  friends and stuff? It's like almost
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  self-explanatory kind of a thing and you gotta experience it.
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  If you don't, it's very hard to explain in words as well.
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  But I will try my best though, because many, many people have
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  like in life, they go through very, very difficult situations
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  and so on and so forth. But when they have good friends
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  with them, everything just disappears.
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  Like all the problems will be like, it doesn't mean the
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  problem will disappear in one minute, but they will be with
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  you through thick and thin and will have the burden will be
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  like a little lesser compared to you facing it alone.
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  That's all. And I know these days this is
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  not really happening, but Once Upon a time this was there.
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  These days it's very hard to find such people in life.
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  And definitely it's going to be very, very difficult to pick
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  those kind of friends and have them in your life.
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  But if you do have them, I can tell that you might be the
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  pretty lucky person if you don't also find.
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  But just saying. So yeah.
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  What do you think? Do you have such kind of people
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  in your life or you don't? Comment down below.
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  I would like to hear from you. Or do you have any chosen
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  families that you maintain it for years and years and you
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  still thrive on that? If you do, good for you.
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  I would like to hear your stories as well.
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  How did you guys meet and how this went on Further, further,
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  how did you maintain and how did you face challenges and so far
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  and so on? South.
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  Yeah. I would like to hear from you,
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  your take on this. Yeah.
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  Because as far as I heard, the stories are crazy because I
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  didn't hear from 20 years, 20 something old people.
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  I heard from 60 plus and I even heard actually there was one
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  story just now I had some cup of coffee at the cafe and I just
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  sat there and I met three people.
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  They are in their late 60s and they were friends from like
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  literally in from the 20s. Like they meet every once in a
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  mile and they talk and so on and so forth and they are like crazy
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  good morning. They are all like a family kind
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  of a thing and so on and so forth.
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  Because I have seen witnessed with my own eyes and they told
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  me what I even ask like what is the secret for maintaining?
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  And then they told there is no secret.
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  That is the actual secret. I am like wait, wait, wait what?
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  They said there are no secrets, that is the actual secret
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  because they share everything. That is loyalty basically.
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  They share everything, every problem, every so on and so
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  forth. So basically everyone knows
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  everything about everything that's going in their family
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  kind of thing. And that's the beautiful part.
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  And over now they are told me like their and their 60s and so
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  on and that's OK kind of a thing.
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  That's is the beautiful part. If you really have those, if you
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  don't, so you don't, it's also fine.
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  Don't get discouraged by Oh my God I don't have a great
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  friends, then you are your own friend.
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  You can be your own friend. You be kind to yourself, you
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  cherish your things. That's a good thing.
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  Don't get sad because just because you don't have a group
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  of friends. They said they did not plan to
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  have that friendship just form naturally over the period of
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  time. So do not force it.
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  If it happens happens, good for you.
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  If it does not, does not, still good for you.
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  So yeah, that is my take on this.
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  So like I said, I would like to hear from you.
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  If you have any crazy stories, I would love to hear the stories.
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  Kindly comment down in the comment section how you your
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  friendship started, how many years you were going on and so
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  on and so forth. I would love to hear that and
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  share your insights as well. Happy to hear.
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  So yeah, that's all from my side.
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  And this is Rd. Doc Doctor Mukul.
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  Thank you so much for taking the time and listening to this
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  podcast. So I'll see you in the next one,
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  hopefully. Until then, take care of your
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  health and bye.