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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just-The Prudent Path: Navigating Strictures and Leniencies 7.22.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  So such a thing as a person being portish in halacha.
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  What does that mean? That means the concept of
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  following a humra. Ever wonder about this question?
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  The following thing you have a question, Sonny's allowed and
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  not allowed and they tell you all this many opinions.
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  Really. You allowed to do it, but better
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  not to. Or someone who avoids doing so.
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  Tabuallah Baraka, he's even blessed he avoids relying on
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  alien sea. Or they say classic line, a
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  person wants to be a bomb nefesh.
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  A person you know, it's a person of the soul.
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  He'll avoid that food. So what do you mean?
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  Is it allowed or is it not allowed in America?
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  If something is legal, it's legal.
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  I don't care if it's frowned upon, not frowned upon.
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  If it's legal, it's according to the law, it's going to the law
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  against the law, against the law.
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  It's flat out what is this thing called?
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  The Gray area called humrah. Being strict, being lenient,
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  going with the strict opinion, being wary of the possibility.
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  I don't understand. You have all the how you have a
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  ruling is done right. So he says there's a concept
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  called preshut bidini. Preshut bidini means lahmir ban
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  Tami. A person wants to be actually
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  careful when it comes to laws. They're going to be strict in
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  themselves. Lahush to follow a few little.
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  Let's say this is the topic that has a big debate about it.
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  I'll give you an example that he's going to bring up.
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  How many hours do we wait after meet for there?
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  So we wait. Six people do an hour.
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  How many pennies have you heard of?
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  Give me some numbers. You've heard of three, six.
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  You've heard of an hour, you've heard of three hours, You've
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  heard of within the six hours, which means 5 1/2.
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  There's also an opinion exactly from thinking about how that's
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  much stricter than us, that says 24 hours.
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  You wait a full day for me to dairy, it would mean 24 or mean
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  overnight without either one. That's a very strict opinion we
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  have. Somehow we go with the middle.
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  With some of the middle one, we do six hours.
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  So what does it mean? You have all these opinions.
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  Which are you choosing? One opinion has his work, so
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  he's saying there's such a thing called going with a strict
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  opinion where people if they're held to hold the opinions,
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  they'll be more Mahmir. Does that mean that some of us
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  should be careful and hold 24 hours?
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  It does not mean that because not really considered a a
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  relevant opinion. But if it was, if it was an
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  option, the holding of it being wary of it would have been a
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  Huma. What is this?
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  If the opinion makes sense, you go with it.
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  Afilish and Alakamoto, even if it's not the right opinion or if
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  it's nice, but be careful. Don't be over restricting
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  yourself and then somehow create a leniency.
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  You're overstricting this area. Maybe you'll be leaning in
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  another area. He gives examples of persons
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  over strict over Mahmir and then we can keep what I've am for
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  that reason. He has an example that they
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  bring bringing the bottom over here was there's a person who
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  was the being. She used the Jerusalem a roof
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  and the Jerusalem a roof is a very good roof to push his
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  father. I think he was in a wheelchair
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  and now the guy wanted to be strict and not keep the Eruf,
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  not hold to the Eruf. But in the process he's not
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  going to do kubura ban for his father talking about the Eruf.
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  That has no debate, no dispute, no question about it.
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  And still the rabbi commented and said he'd be mahamir, but he
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  also being weak in a different area.
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  So don't overdo A humra, don't over be poor ish and be careful
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  because you ought to be aware of every opinion if you're going to
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  be and in fact lean in other areas, OK, fine, but overall,
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  there's such a constant to be extra strict la mere Pacific
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  court to be tough when you have a doubt.
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  I feel with my comme shave Charlotte Calvin, me and the
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  Galilean. See these are many examples of
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  this concept. So what is this idea?
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  He gives more examples. What is this?
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  What does it mean? What is the shot with going with
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  one opinion, Strict opinion? So the overall theme that he's
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  playing out for us is not because a person is whole that
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  the Hellenic opinion is wrong. No, it's just because a person
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  wants to be separate from sin. He wants to have no connection
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  to something wrong. He's going to go so far to avoid
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  an opinion, to follow a path that is extra because he just
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  wants to avoid doing something wrong.
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  Basically, this was an example. Basically, if I told you that
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  food is the mindset, it's an opinion that says that food
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  might be poisoned. Those who think that food might
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  be poisoned, you run the other way, right?
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  If I tell you these germs, reality is today, most of the
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  germs that we worry about don't exist.
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  Some do, some don't, and yet we all avoid something.
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  If I gave you, there's a couple of oranges here, I'm not sure if
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  it's yours or someone else drink from it, right?
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  This cop right here, I'm not sure if it's mine or someone
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  drinking. I'm not drinking.
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  No shop. If I'm debating because it's a
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  small chance, 10% chance, whatever, it's just sitting in
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  front of me, it's most probably mine and I have all the reasons
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  to believe it's mine. Any small chance that's not
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  mine, I'm out. That's the theme in every area.
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  And that theme is people don't want to have anything to do with
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  anything, even if they're pretty confident that's not a problem.
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  Anything to do with anything that's problematic possible.
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  The same thing is true with I don't want to get stepped down
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  the road of doing something that's even debate.
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  Again, there's no reason to do so.
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  There's no legal need to be careful.
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  It doesn't matter. It's and you got to be and
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  there's an opinion and that opinion has a launch to it.
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  I made a hold of him. I might not need to go with him,
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  but I want to be extra careful. And it's the theme of being
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  extra careful in areas. Now, why?
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  I believe that's the reason why. The reason why is because you
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  don't want to relate to anything that relates to anything that
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  has to do with a sin. That's the thing.
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  So it's a different concept. It's not because we're afraid
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  it's going to lead to a sin. No, it's not because we're
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  afraid you're going to indulge in our way.
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  We just want to show how much we have nothing to do with a sin.
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  So we keep waiting for natural level.
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  Is that something we have to do? No, definitely not.
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  But it's something that makes you a finer person eventually.
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  It's not something you need to try to do at all.
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  It's something that makes you a finer erson overall, that's good
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  over there. O what's that with us?