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Kids, I Tell Ya... · Billy & Lisa in the Morning: The After Show

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  Speaker 1: All right, let's see what's going on there and after
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  Speaker 1: show Army Land. What's up? Friends justin here? Thank you
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  Speaker 1: so much for listening and tuning in. I appreciate it
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  Speaker 1: as always. On this Little Podcast That Could, That's what
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  Speaker 1: I like to say, the Little Podcast that Could. This
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  Speaker 1: thing rages on and I love the participation. I love
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  Speaker 1: when people hit me up and tell me they listen
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  Speaker 1: to the podcast. My friends that listen, people that I know,
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  Speaker 1: people that I don't know. It's this, you know, this
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  Speaker 1: little thing that I do after the show that I've
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  Speaker 1: done with other people in the past, obviously, and now
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  Speaker 1: it's by myself. I just have guests here and there.
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  Speaker 1: But people like listening and I appreciate that so much.
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  Speaker 1: And a lot of reactions still with my wife and
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  Speaker 1: that podcast. If you have not listened to it, go
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  Speaker 1: back and listen. It was the longest podcast we've ever
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  Speaker 1: done on the after show. It came in I think
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  Speaker 1: in an hour and fifteen minutes somewhere around there. But yeah,
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  Speaker 1: a lot of reaction to the queen.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, I just listened to the Queen's story.
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  Speaker 2: I have had the neuro virus for three days recovering.
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  Speaker 2: I tried to listen to it, kept falling asleep. Anyways,
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  Speaker 2: I love your story. It's so wonderful to see the successes.
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  Speaker 2: Of course, there's ups and downs in every marriage, but
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  Speaker 2: it's just such a great love story to hear. God
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  Speaker 2: bless mmm.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you so much. And yeah, thank you for saying that,
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  Speaker 1: and thank you for saying about the ups and downs
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  Speaker 1: and marriages, because that's a big one. That's a real
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  Speaker 1: big one.
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  Speaker 2: You know.
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  Speaker 1: I've talked about that endlessly before, about these struggles and
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  Speaker 1: the peaks and valleys of relationships. And you know, I
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  Speaker 1: never wanted to get it twisted when people look at
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  Speaker 1: my marriage to my wife and hear me talking about
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  Speaker 1: how great it is and how much I love her,
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  Speaker 1: and you know, this really powerful love story. You know,
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  Speaker 1: there were times in our marriages, in our marriage, we
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  Speaker 1: didn't think that it was gonna last. I mean, there
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  Speaker 1: were times when we thought to each other, is this
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  Speaker 1: it is the love over? You know? But I'm so
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  Speaker 1: glad that we walked we worked through it and were
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  Speaker 1: able to talk, talk through it and be better. And
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  Speaker 1: when I say be better, I mean me, me, be better,
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  Speaker 1: because a lot of times it's me. I mean, obviously
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  Speaker 1: it takes two to tango. You know, all of us
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  Speaker 1: have character defects. You know, things that you know, the
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  Speaker 1: way that we act, are things that we say, and
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  Speaker 1: you know, we bring those into a relationship. But it's
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  Speaker 1: about working through those things and finding solutions and man,
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  Speaker 1: just keeping the spark alive. Like that's a big one.
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  Speaker 3: I'm just finishing the podcast with Jen, which was amazing.
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  Speaker 3: You two are so cute, But you guys also compliment
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  Speaker 3: each other all the time, and neither one of you
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  Speaker 3: when you say the compliments, are like, oh, that's so
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  Speaker 3: nice to hear that. And that only means that you
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  Speaker 3: guys say it in everyday life and tell each other
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  Speaker 3: often so that when you repeat it, it's not like
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  Speaker 3: a one off special thing. You two just know that
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  Speaker 3: about each other. So admirable and I hope I find.
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  Speaker 1: That mm, thank you, thank you. Yeah, we're an interesting couple.
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  Speaker 1: You know, we're not super We're not super like a
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  Speaker 1: touchy feely I guess she would say lovey dovey. My
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  Speaker 1: wife's not like that at all. I don't know if
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  Speaker 1: you got that vibe when she was on. She is
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  Speaker 1: very reserved and infamously when people meet her they think
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  Speaker 1: that she hates them. It has happened over and over again,
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  Speaker 1: you know, because she has kind of a resting bitch face,
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  Speaker 1: and when she first meets you, she definitely has a
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  Speaker 1: wall up and she I don't know what that what
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  Speaker 1: that is, you know, it's kind of a defense mechanism.
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  Speaker 1: But then once you get to know her and talk
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  Speaker 1: to her, it's completely different. But she gets that, you know,
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  Speaker 1: all the time. And I remember recently, well not recently,
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  Speaker 1: maybe a year or two ago. I have a good
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  Speaker 1: friend of mine. He has three young daughters, and he
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  Speaker 1: was kind of talking about what he's going through raising
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  Speaker 1: his three daughters and him and his wife and kind
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  Speaker 1: of balancing it all, and he said something to the
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  Speaker 1: effect of, you know, I make an extra effort to
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  Speaker 1: be touchy feely with my wife, meaning hug her, kiss
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  Speaker 1: her in front of the children. So my daughters grow
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  Speaker 1: up seeing that if they grow up seeing me never ever,
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  Speaker 1: you know, hu hug their mom, kiss their mom, they're
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  Speaker 1: not going to learn about what, you know, affection is
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  Speaker 1: and what true love and marriage is. So that's something
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  Speaker 1: that's always in my mind too, because you know, we're
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  Speaker 1: not really this touchy feely, just in general, couple, So
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  Speaker 1: I try to, you know, when we're in the house
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  Speaker 1: and you know the kids are around, not not just
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  Speaker 1: to like put on a show for them, but genuinely
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  Speaker 1: like walk up next behind her, give her a hug,
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  Speaker 1: give her a kiss, tell her I love her. And
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  Speaker 1: I remember when I first started doing it. And this
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  Speaker 1: goes to show you that kids notice everything, because when
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  Speaker 1: I started doing it, I remember we were in the
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  Speaker 1: kitchen and I and I came up behind her and
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  Speaker 1: I gave her a hug and a kiss, and I
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  Speaker 1: told her I loved her, and we kind of embraced,
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  Speaker 1: and my daughter had this look on her face, like
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  Speaker 1: what are you doing? She had never seen that. She
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  Speaker 1: wasn't used to us touching each other and showing affection,
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  Speaker 1: and it was kind of mind blowing. Now I do
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  Speaker 1: it and it's normal. And I think my son did
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  Speaker 1: the same thing too. He saw us like kissing or
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  Speaker 1: you know, kind of holding each other, holding hands, and
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  Speaker 1: he was like, what are you guys doing. It's kind
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  Speaker 1: of like the reading thing, right, I never read, and
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  Speaker 1: now I'm reading. The first time he came in and
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't on my phone, but I was reading. The
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  Speaker 1: look on his face was like, what are you doing?
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  Speaker 1: So yeah, I mean, relationships work, marriages work, and sometimes
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  Speaker 1: they don't. And you know, I think a lot what
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  Speaker 1: happens in my life. I find is people compare their
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  Speaker 1: relationships to our relationship, and every marriage is different. You know,
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  Speaker 1: I really believe that. But I do believe that we
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  Speaker 1: can be better humans and be better partners. So that's
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  Speaker 1: kind of the effort that I put into it. And
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  Speaker 1: at the end of the day, I just loved my wife.
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  Speaker 1: So there you go. So my son has baseball. He's
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  Speaker 1: in baseball season. He's got practice, you know during the week.
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  Speaker 1: Opening day is Saturday, well, Friday night they have the
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  Speaker 1: big parade and Saturday night is his first game. So
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  Speaker 1: I was at practice last night. I took him, took
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  Speaker 1: him there. He's doing well, but there's this thing going
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  Speaker 1: on where I don't know if anyone can identify with
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  Speaker 1: this as a parent to young kids. So whenever my
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  Speaker 1: wife is around, okay in the house, my son asks
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  Speaker 1: ax one way. When she's not around and it's just
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  Speaker 1: him and I, he's a completely different kid. And you know,
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  Speaker 1: yesterday was kind of a tough day, annoying day. So
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  Speaker 1: I picked him up from school before baseball. Took him
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  Speaker 1: to the dentist. He had to get a filling. So
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  Speaker 1: I pick him up, dismiss him early. We have a
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  Speaker 1: great car ride. I mean, he's like my boy. You know,
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  Speaker 1: he's my son, but he's like my buddy. We listened
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  Speaker 1: to music, we talked, He told me about school. There
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  Speaker 1: was no whining or yelling, you know, it was just cool.
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  Speaker 1: Man was it was nice. We went to the dentist,
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  Speaker 1: he was tough through that, he got the filling. We
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  Speaker 1: went home. As soon as we get home, it's like
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  Speaker 1: he completely changes. And this is the same for my
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  Speaker 1: daughter too soon, completely changes when my wife is around,
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  Speaker 1: all of a sudden, he's like, you know, being fresh,
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  Speaker 1: you know, he raising his voice, you know, just acting
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  Speaker 1: like a complete fucking idiot, you know. And I'm watching
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  Speaker 1: this and I said to my wife, do you don't understand?
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  Speaker 1: We just spent two hours together and it was great.
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  Speaker 1: As soon as we came home and she said, it's me.
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  Speaker 1: I know, it's me. And I thought to myself, was
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  Speaker 1: this what it was like when I was a kid?
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  Speaker 1: And I'm pretty sure it was, you know, because it's
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  Speaker 1: your mom, So you feel like you kind of have
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  Speaker 1: a pass or you have more leeway to, you know,
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  Speaker 1: get what you want or push the envelope a little
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  Speaker 1: bit further, whereas with dad, like, I'm not gonna put
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  Speaker 1: up with that, so he doesn't even try it. So
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  Speaker 1: what gets me so mad is I'm like, I know
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  Speaker 1: he's nine years old. Why can't you be like that
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  Speaker 1: all the time? You know, why can't you be how
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  Speaker 1: you are when it's just you and I? But as
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  Speaker 1: soon as your mom is around, you know, the whining
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  Speaker 1: and you know, he wanted to he wanted to do
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  Speaker 1: something before practice, and she said no, and he started
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  Speaker 1: like bugging out. And I was thinking to myself, if
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  Speaker 1: he asked me that question, it was just him and
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  Speaker 1: I anything he asked me, and I have to say
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  Speaker 1: no to him, he'll be like, Okay, he doesn't do it.
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  Speaker 1: But if it's her, it's like, mom, no, come on
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  Speaker 1: mad he whines and oh man, it just just bothered me.
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  Speaker 1: I just wanted to get that off my chest. So
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  Speaker 1: if anybody identifies with that and can feel what I'm saying,
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  Speaker 1: with kids just acts one way and then acts another,
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  Speaker 1: you know. And I feel for my wife because she
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  Speaker 1: admits it. She's like, you know, I know how it
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  Speaker 1: is it's me. I'm the problem. It's me, And I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: you know, you know you're doing fine. I mean, you're
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  Speaker 1: doing great. You're the best mother. I know. It's not
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  Speaker 1: anything that you're doing. It's just kids. They're pains. So
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. My daughter's not been feeling well. She
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  Speaker 1: was no daycare yesterday, she had has daycare today she's
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  Speaker 1: not going. She feels better, but that's what the kids do.
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  Speaker 1: They get sick. So I don't know. Keep the talkbacks coming.
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  Speaker 1: Anything you want to say or comment, you can always
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  Speaker 1: jump in. I will do my best to play them back.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know what's coming up this week. Well, you know,
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  Speaker 1: every day is a new day on the After Show podcast.
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  Speaker 1: You just have to listen and you'll find out. It's
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  Speaker 1: that easy. So it's gonna be warm today. Looks nice
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  Speaker 1: outside of my studio, blue skies. What's the temp seventy
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  Speaker 1: two degrees. Let's go. Let's sick a complaining about the
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  Speaker 1: weather anyway, We'll see tomorrow.
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  Speaker 2: Bye.