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Dinner At Five And Other Quiet Wins Of Aging · Aging ain't for Sissies

0:04
SPEAKER_00: Well, I figured this episode was close enough to Halloween.
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SPEAKER_00: We can have our fun Halloween music.
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SPEAKER_00: Hello, everybody, and welcome to Aging Neighbor Sissies.
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SPEAKER_00: My name is Marcy and I am your host.
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SPEAKER_00: And today I would like to I would like to issue a small correction on behalf of my younger self.
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SPEAKER_00: She had opinions.
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SPEAKER_00: Many opinions.
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SPEAKER_00: She knew exactly which things she would never do when she got older.
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SPEAKER_00: She would never eat dinner that early.
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SPEAKER_00: She would never become particular about a chair.
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SPEAKER_00: She certainly wasn't going to get excited about a quiet evening home.
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SPEAKER_00: Well, I'd like her to come over around 4:30 and we'll discuss it over dinner.
0:48
SPEAKER_00: Today's episodes is things I thought I'd hate about getting older but secretly love.
0:53
SPEAKER_00: And some of these aren't even secret anymore.
0:56
SPEAKER_00: I may need a bumper sticker.
0:58
SPEAKER_00: Ask me about having eaten already.
1:01
SPEAKER_00: Or already eaten, however you want to say that.
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SPEAKER_00: Here's your question right up front.
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SPEAKER_00: What's something you enjoy about getting older that your younger self would never understand?
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SPEAKER_00: A little pleasure, an unexpected preference, perhaps, the thing you once made fun of and now vigorously defend?
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SPEAKER_00: I want you to hold on to that answer.
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SPEAKER_00: By the end, we may have enough material to start a club.
1:30
SPEAKER_00: The meetings will be held at a sensible hour in a room where we can hear one another, where it's not too loud, and nobody has to sit on a backless stool.
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SPEAKER_00: Are you getting my drift?
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SPEAKER_00: We aren't giving a lecture today.
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SPEAKER_00: We are enjoying the perks, the tiny upgrades nobody put in the brochure.
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SPEAKER_00: If one of these isn't your thing, that's fine.
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SPEAKER_00: You may still love midnight dancing and impractical footwear.
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SPEAKER_00: I support you.
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SPEAKER_00: I will support you from this comfy, comfy chair in my comfy shoes.
2:05
SPEAKER_00: The scandal of dinner at five.
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SPEAKER_00: Let's begin with dinner at five o'clock.
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SPEAKER_00: When I was younger, that sounded like something you did because you you had just given up.
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SPEAKER_00: Given up what exactly?
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SPEAKER_00: Waiting, standing in a restaurant entrance, staring at somebody else's dessert.
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SPEAKER_00: There's a wonderful moment when you realize you can enjoy a restaurant before it becomes a sporting event.
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SPEAKER_00: You can walk in, sit down, have a conversation without leaning across the table like you're trying to hear a confession through a wall.
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SPEAKER_00: The server comes over, you're ready, you know what sounds good.
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SPEAKER_00: Nobody needs another 20 minutes to establish their relationship with the menu, and the food arrives while you're still hungry enough to appreciate it.
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SPEAKER_00: When you finish, there's still an evening left.
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SPEAKER_00: An entire evening, by the way.
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SPEAKER_00: You can take a little walk, watch something, read, change into comfortable clothes while other people are still texting.
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SPEAKER_00: Where should we go?
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SPEAKER_00: I've already gone.
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SPEAKER_00: It was delicious.
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SPEAKER_00: The parking was great.
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SPEAKER_00: Of course, somebody will say, five, that's so early.
3:18
SPEAKER_00: Yes, dear, that's the future.
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SPEAKER_00: We are not confused about the time.
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SPEAKER_00: We selected it on purpose.
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SPEAKER_00: There's no rule that an early dinner means a dull dinner.
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SPEAKER_00: That's the thing.
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SPEAKER_00: We can have wonderful food, we can laugh, we can order dessert.
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SPEAKER_00: If anything, dessert deserves us at our most alert.
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SPEAKER_00: I don't want to, I don't want to meet a beautiful piece of cake when I'm too tired to form an opinion.
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SPEAKER_00: I have opinions about cake, my younger self, and I agree on that.
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SPEAKER_00: I've always had opinions about cake.
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SPEAKER_00: Fruit does not belong on a dessert.
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SPEAKER_00: That's my opinion.
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SPEAKER_00: Here's another pleasure.
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SPEAKER_00: Knowing your order.
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SPEAKER_00: I used to think ordering the same favorite meant you were stuck in a rut.
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SPEAKER_00: Now I wonder why we're slandering a reliable sandwich.
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SPEAKER_00: The sandwich has done nothing wrong.
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SPEAKER_00: It's been excellent on repeat for occasions.
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SPEAKER_00: That's a record of achievement.
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SPEAKER_00: I mean, I love myself a club sandwich.
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SPEAKER_00: If there's a club sandwich on the menu, I'm gonna order it.
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SPEAKER_00: It's not a rut.
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SPEAKER_00: It's what I love.
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SPEAKER_00: You can still try something new when you want, but sometimes you came for the thing you came for.
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SPEAKER_00: There's joy in being reunited with a very good lunch.
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SPEAKER_00: I have a salad that I absolutely love at Pisano's on State.
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SPEAKER_00: It's a chopped salad.
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SPEAKER_00: They make their own salad dressings there.
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SPEAKER_00: And I'll tell you what, that's all I order whenever I go there.
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SPEAKER_00: I don't need to try the rest of their menu.
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SPEAKER_00: I love my salad there.
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SPEAKER_00: So whether it's a favorite booth or a familiar order, I enjoy knowing that one small decision today can be easy.
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SPEAKER_00: The world will supply plenty of complicated decisions that need far more assistance on what than what I'm going to eat, I'm telling you.
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SPEAKER_00: So you don't have to order something new and different every time you go to a restaurant.
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SPEAKER_00: And if that's your thing, good for you, do it.
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SPEAKER_00: But for the rest of us that enjoy our comforts and our food that we love, it's fine.
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SPEAKER_00: It's fine.
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SPEAKER_00: Order the fried chicken.
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SPEAKER_00: I know you've had it 20 times.
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SPEAKER_00: Order it again.
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SPEAKER_00: Is it good?
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SPEAKER_00: Do you love it?
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SPEAKER_00: Order it.
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SPEAKER_00: All right, now we're gonna discuss shoes.
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SPEAKER_00: Now, this is really, I thought I would never choose comfort over style.
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SPEAKER_00: Ever.
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SPEAKER_00: I wore shoes that have deformed my foot.
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SPEAKER_00: Uh, I stood behind a chair as a hairdresser in high heels in the 80s.
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SPEAKER_00: Like I never thought I would choose comfort over style.
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SPEAKER_00: I do my best to find both now.
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SPEAKER_00: Specifically, the shoes, we're gonna talk about the shoes that when we were younger, and we would dismiss anything that was not stylish.
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SPEAKER_00: So now I try to combine that.
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SPEAKER_00: There was a time when the plan for an evening could be built around my footwear.
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SPEAKER_00: That is so true.
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SPEAKER_00: How far is the parking lot?
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SPEAKER_00: How are there stairs?
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SPEAKER_00: Will we be sitting?
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SPEAKER_00: Can I make it from the door to the table without you know, you know what I'm saying, right?
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SPEAKER_00: Remember those days?
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SPEAKER_00: Shoes were a fashion statement.
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SPEAKER_00: We may have had to arrange for like shoes for when we got to the car, but nonetheless, we loved our shoes.
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SPEAKER_00: All right.
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SPEAKER_00: And we negotiated with those shoes.
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SPEAKER_00: Like, honestly.
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SPEAKER_00: Honestly, I do love now that I see girls at dances, they put on chucks, converse, um, and weddings and stuff.
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SPEAKER_00: Like, okay, the shoes look good for a hot 10 seconds.
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SPEAKER_00: We got our pictures, now we're in the real shoes.
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SPEAKER_00: I do love that I see that as a trend because man, having your feet hurt is the worst.
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SPEAKER_00: But I will tell you, there's pleasure of wearing something you don't have to negotiate with.
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SPEAKER_00: Shoes you put on and you stop thinking about.
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SPEAKER_00: Like, that's a concept.
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SPEAKER_00: You don't have to think about your feet.
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SPEAKER_00: Suddenly, the afternoon is about the afternoon and not the shoes.
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SPEAKER_00: And I'll tell you, moving to Chicago also changed my shoe game because we walk everywhere, which means we walk to dinner.
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SPEAKER_00: So back in the days when I thought, okay, I could wear these shoes because Craig and I are gonna get to the restaurant, all I have to do is walk in and out of the restaurant.
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SPEAKER_00: I can't do that anymore.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm walking to the restaurant.
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SPEAKER_00: So it has changed my shoe game completely.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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SPEAKER_00: So there is a pleasure in just throwing shoes on and not thinking about it, but I still want to look good.
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SPEAKER_00: And that's fine.
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SPEAKER_00: You can do that.
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SPEAKER_00: It takes a little bit more of an art, but you can still look good and have comfortable shoes.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm living proof now.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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SPEAKER_00: All right, you can still have color, you can still have style, you can own a shoe with a personality.
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SPEAKER_00: It's I simply prefer that it's a cooperative personality, right?
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SPEAKER_00: And we can do that.
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SPEAKER_00: And while we're at it, let's discuss pockets, a real pocket, not the suggestion of a pocket, not a decorative seam where a pocket could have lived if the manufacturer had believed women carry things.
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SPEAKER_00: You try something on, you put your hand in the pocket, and suddenly you understand why people announce this to strangers.
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SPEAKER_00: Oh, and it has pockets.
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SPEAKER_00: Dresses are, if I have a dress with pockets and somebody compliments me on the dress, you better know that I'm gonna tell them it has pockets, right?
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SPEAKER_00: That's not small talk.
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SPEAKER_00: It's a service announcement, right?
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SPEAKER_00: Public service announcement, and it has pockets.
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SPEAKER_00: And the comfortable outfit you actually enjoy wearing.
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SPEAKER_00: I used to think a favorite outfit should be reserved for the right occasion, right?
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SPEAKER_00: Now I think owning it is pretty good is a pretty good occasion.
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SPEAKER_00: Wear the sweater, enjoy the soft pants.
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SPEAKER_00: You don't have to save all your satisfaction for a dinner reservation.
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SPEAKER_00: If you have a beautiful outfit, wear it.
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SPEAKER_00: Wear it.
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SPEAKER_00: If it's comfortable and beautiful and you love it, wear it.
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SPEAKER_00: Wear it, enjoy it.
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SPEAKER_00: I like looking nice.
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SPEAKER_00: I also like being able to take a full breath after lunch.
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SPEAKER_00: You can certain you can pursue both of these glows, glow goals.
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SPEAKER_00: I can't even talk today.
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SPEAKER_00: Wear the comfortable clothes and look fabulous.
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SPEAKER_00: You can do it.
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SPEAKER_00: You don't have to like wear your shapewear and suck it all in all the time, people.
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SPEAKER_00: Enjoy your clothes.
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SPEAKER_00: The real surprise isn't just comfort.
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SPEAKER_00: It's how much time we get back when we're not managing discomfort.
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SPEAKER_00: You stop wondering whether a wastebat is going to ruin your relationship with the afternoon.
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SPEAKER_00: You get on enjoying the afternoon.
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SPEAKER_00: All right, here's another one.
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SPEAKER_00: Home has become a destination.
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SPEAKER_00: Here's something that would have baffled the younger me.
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SPEAKER_00: Having no plans can feel like having the best plans.
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SPEAKER_00: How about having plans canceled?
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SPEAKER_00: It's not always bad, is it?
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SPEAKER_00: You kind of go, ooh, good.
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SPEAKER_00: My evening just freed up.
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SPEAKER_00: As much as you'd love going out to dinner with those friends, uh there's nothing wrong with being home.
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SPEAKER_00: There was a time when blank space on the calendar looked like a clerical error.
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SPEAKER_00: Shouldn't somebody be doing something in there?
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SPEAKER_00: Was I being left out?
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SPEAKER_00: Was there a party in a department that they haven't contacted me?
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SPEAKER_00: Or did my friends forget that I'm alive?
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SPEAKER_00: Now I see an empty evening and think, oh, nice.
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SPEAKER_00: Especially an empty weekend, right?
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SPEAKER_00: Somebody has made an excellent arrangement.
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SPEAKER_00: Home has your mug, your blanket, a bathroom you can locate without asking anyone.
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SPEAKER_00: It doesn't require uncomfortable shoes or uncomfortable clothes.
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SPEAKER_00: It's everything you love all in one place.
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SPEAKER_00: And your seat is available.
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SPEAKER_00: You don't have to negotiate for it.
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SPEAKER_00: There's no ticket.
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SPEAKER_00: It's not a specific place.
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SPEAKER_00: That's important.
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SPEAKER_00: I understand having a favorite chair now.
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I do.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm not like Craig.
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SPEAKER_00: Craig has his spots and you can't take them.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm I'm negotiating, I'll negotiate mine, but I do know a comfy place when I've been to a comfy place, right?
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SPEAKER_00: In your house, you know what's comfortable and what's not.
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SPEAKER_00: The younger version of us might say, but don't you want to go somewhere?
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SPEAKER_00: Well, sometimes I do.
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SPEAKER_00: I love a good outing.
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SPEAKER_00: This weekend, we have uh thousand jack-o'-lanterns out at the Chicago Botanical Gardens, and the weather this weekend's gonna be wonderful.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm very excited about it.
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SPEAKER_00: I made the plans quite some time ago.
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SPEAKER_00: Sometimes when you make plans a long time ago and they come up, you're like, no, but the weather's gonna be great, and that makes all the difference here in Chicago.
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SPEAKER_00: You know, having no plans is great.
12:31
SPEAKER_00: Having plans is great.
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SPEAKER_00: Finding a balance is even better.
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SPEAKER_00: When I was young, I wanted to be somewhere I would I was out and about all the time.
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SPEAKER_00: By myself a lot of the times.
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SPEAKER_00: I didn't like to be home.
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SPEAKER_00: I didn't like to be alone.
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SPEAKER_00: But as I get older, I find beauty in being home.
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SPEAKER_00: I I'll tell you, after my surgery and all of that fall dural that I went through, I got home and I didn't want to leave.
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SPEAKER_00: And I really love I was like in the house for like four days, and it didn't bother me at all.
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SPEAKER_00: Right?
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SPEAKER_00: I went down to the the our uh deck area because the weather was beautiful, but I don't think my younger self could have done that.
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SPEAKER_00: Eventually I got out.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm back to life now.
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SPEAKER_00: I also thought I would hate becoming particular.
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SPEAKER_00: Being particular sounded difficult.
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SPEAKER_00: Particular sounded like somebody who would hold up the entire group over a restaurant table.
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SPEAKER_00: Now I think particular can be efficient.
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SPEAKER_00: I know I don't want to spend lunch underneath a speaker.
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SPEAKER_00: We could all discover that after 20 minutes of shouting, we could all discover it after 20 minutes of shouting, or I could say, while we're standing there and they're trying to seat us under the speaker, say, now can we have another table?
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SPEAKER_00: I realize that's particular, but I also realize that it is efficient.
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SPEAKER_00: There is a difference between having a preference and requiring a royal procession.
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SPEAKER_00: I don't need everybody to reorganize the building.
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SPEAKER_00: I can ask whether there's another spot.
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SPEAKER_00: If there isn't, I can make a decision.
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SPEAKER_00: Very civilized, hardly worth the reputation of being particular.
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SPEAKER_00: And I like knowing my preferred temperature.
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SPEAKER_00: The restaurant may be a may be staging a polar expedition, but I brought a layer.
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SPEAKER_00: I always bring a jacket with me.
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SPEAKER_00: Winter, spring, summer, fall, a jacket.
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SPEAKER_00: You may need it.
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SPEAKER_00: I have, I would have resisted that when I was young.
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SPEAKER_00: If it ruined my outfit if I was looking hot, there was going to be no coat.
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SPEAKER_00: I mean, I didn't live in Chicago either when I was hot and young.
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SPEAKER_00: But uh no, definitely I bring a layer because I don't trust restaurants or anywhere, theaters, anything.
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SPEAKER_00: And yes, I enjoy a good parking space.
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SPEAKER_00: I won't pretend I don't.
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SPEAKER_00: The kind with an easy exit.
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SPEAKER_00: It's funny how you can get particular about your parking spots now.
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SPEAKER_00: The kind that says, whenever you're ready, this part will be simple.
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SPEAKER_00: Younger me might have assessed the glamour of the entrance.
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SPEAKER_00: Current me appreciates the logist the logistics of the departure.
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SPEAKER_00: How am I going to get out?
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SPEAKER_00: Am I going to be able to back out?
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SPEAKER_00: I don't mind walking a little further if I it's it's easier in and out, like all these things, right?
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SPEAKER_00: Not when I was younger.
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SPEAKER_00: It's an unexpected pleasure recognizing a good arrangement.
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SPEAKER_00: You don't need applause.
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SPEAKER_00: You just get out of the car and think, nicely done, Marcy.
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SPEAKER_00: Come on, I know you do.
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SPEAKER_00: Favorites.
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SPEAKER_00: There are things we genuinely enjoy that we used to feel obligated to explain.
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SPEAKER_00: The familiar television show, the music we love, the hobby that produces absolutely no income and impresses nobody except for the person doing it.
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SPEAKER_00: Come on, people, you know what I'm talking about.
15:57
SPEAKER_00: Someone asked, haven't you seen this before?
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SPEAKER_00: Yes.
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SPEAKER_00: And you have eaten a potato before.
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SPEAKER_00: Yet here we all are enthusiastically repeating successes of the past.
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SPEAKER_00: I could watch Steel Magnolias every day.
16:13
SPEAKER_00: I love that movie.
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SPEAKER_00: I've seen it a multitude of times.
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SPEAKER_00: It's fine.
16:19
SPEAKER_00: I enjoy it every time.
16:21
SPEAKER_00: I know the ending.
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SPEAKER_00: I don't care.
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SPEAKER_00: I watch Law and Order.
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SPEAKER_00: I've watched it for what, 30 years now?
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SPEAKER_00: I know every episode by heart, but guess what?
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SPEAKER_00: I still watch it because I like knowing a program's going to entertain me.
16:38
SPEAKER_00: Now there's room for discovery.
16:39
SPEAKER_00: I've added, oh, the Apple TV.
16:43
SPEAKER_00: I love shrinking.
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SPEAKER_00: I love Bad Monkey.
16:46
SPEAKER_00: Um Taylor Sheridan shows.
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SPEAKER_00: I haven't met one that I didn't love.
16:52
SPEAKER_00: I'm currently watching the one with the guy from Rocky.
16:58
SPEAKER_00: Uh Tulsa King is back on.
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SPEAKER_00: Love Tulsa King.
17:02
SPEAKER_00: Um, Love Landman.
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SPEAKER_00: Um, I have a lot of new things, but man, those old things.
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SPEAKER_00: Craig and I will watch Andy Griffith.
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SPEAKER_00: We'll watch um all those old shows.
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SPEAKER_00: Dick Van Dyke.
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SPEAKER_00: Love them.
17:17
SPEAKER_00: Do we know them?
17:17
SPEAKER_00: Yes, but there's something about the familiar.
17:23
SPEAKER_00: There is something about the familiar.
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SPEAKER_00: Sometimes I want suspense.
17:27
SPEAKER_00: Sometimes I want people.
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SPEAKER_00: Sometimes I want just my trash housewife shows.
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SPEAKER_00: Music is another one.
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SPEAKER_00: We listen to the same songs over and over.
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SPEAKER_00: We always have.
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SPEAKER_00: What's wrong with that?
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SPEAKER_00: Nothing.
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SPEAKER_00: I love that we can stop treating personal taste like a job interview.
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SPEAKER_00: At this age, this is what I like.
17:50
SPEAKER_00: This is what I enjoy.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay?
17:53
SPEAKER_00: I have the same hobbies.
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SPEAKER_00: I do the same things.
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SPEAKER_00: I go to the gym every day.
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SPEAKER_00: I have a life that I enjoy.
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SPEAKER_00: Do I leave room for new stuff?
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I've never been to the thousand jack-o'-lanterns before at the botanical gardens.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm going.
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SPEAKER_00: Something new, something exciting.
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SPEAKER_00: Craig and I go every year to zoolites.
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SPEAKER_00: Do we know what it's going to be like?
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SPEAKER_00: Yes.
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SPEAKER_00: Do we go every year and enjoy it?
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SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
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SPEAKER_00: There's something about the familiarity, and as we get older, we accept it.
18:23
SPEAKER_00: Here's another thing.
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SPEAKER_00: The surprising fun is saying what you mean.
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SPEAKER_00: Another little perk is how delightful a clear answer can be.
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SPEAKER_00: No, no, thank you.
18:33
SPEAKER_00: Yes, I'd love that.
18:34
SPEAKER_00: I'd rather sit here.
18:36
SPEAKER_00: I'm ready to go.
18:37
SPEAKER_00: I don't have to guess what you want.
18:40
SPEAKER_00: I don't feel like guessing what you want.
18:42
SPEAKER_00: It's so funny because this just made me think of a story.
18:46
SPEAKER_00: Um, I go to eight o'clock service, Craig, and I go to eight o'clock service.
18:49
SPEAKER_00: It's small, it's usually around 20 or 30 people.
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SPEAKER_00: It's in the small chapel attached to our cathedral.
18:54
SPEAKER_00: And I do the offering.
18:57
SPEAKER_00: But it's so funny.
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SPEAKER_00: Everybody hides their offering till I'm like in their row and then they whip it out and put it in the plate.
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SPEAKER_00: It's like I'm trying to figure out who's giving offering, but because everybody hides it, so I like things to be clear.
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SPEAKER_00: Yes, no, may not maybe.
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SPEAKER_00: Do I have money or don't I?
19:15
SPEAKER_00: And then you're looking at people that don't.
19:16
SPEAKER_00: You know, we give electronically.
19:18
SPEAKER_00: People give all kinds of ways now.
19:20
SPEAKER_00: And then I feel bad for looking someone in the eye, but I can't tell who's got money and who doesn't.
19:24
SPEAKER_00: So a clear answer is something that is very well appreciated by me.
19:28
SPEAKER_00: And I think the older we get, the more we want things clear.
19:32
SPEAKER_00: Sometimes we're clear and the young ones think we're rude.
19:35
SPEAKER_00: Nope, we're just being clear.
19:41
SPEAKER_00: Your younger self might be surprised.
19:44
SPEAKER_00: If I could give younger me a little preview, I wouldn't lead with a number.
19:49
SPEAKER_00: I'd show her a very pleasant afternoon, some good food, people that she likes, clothes that cooperate but still look great, and a calendar with a little breathing room.
20:02
SPEAKER_00: She may ask, is that all?
20:04
SPEAKER_00: And I'd say, wait until you try it.
20:08
SPEAKER_00: Because some pleasures sound small until you get to enjoy them without arguing with yourself.
20:14
SPEAKER_00: And stop adding the apologies.
20:16
SPEAKER_00: You stop saying, I know it's boring, but is it boring?
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SPEAKER_00: Or do you just like it?
20:25
SPEAKER_00: Those are different questions.
20:26
SPEAKER_00: And I find the second one much more easy to answer.
20:30
SPEAKER_00: Do you just like it?
20:31
SPEAKER_00: Yes, I do.
20:33
SPEAKER_00: I love watching the Andy Griffith show.
20:35
SPEAKER_00: Don't care how many times I've seen it, I enjoy it.
20:38
SPEAKER_00: It makes me laugh.
20:39
SPEAKER_00: It's funny.
20:40
SPEAKER_00: And the fact that everybody in Mayberry is single makes it even funnier when you think about it.
20:48
SPEAKER_00: All the main characters are single.
20:50
SPEAKER_00: Think about it.
20:51
SPEAKER_00: Maybe next week we'll want the late reservation and the unfamiliar restaurant.
20:57
SPEAKER_00: Wonderful.
20:58
SPEAKER_00: The pleasure is being able to choose whether I want what I know or something new.
21:04
SPEAKER_00: And there's nothing wrong with doing what I know.
21:08
SPEAKER_00: We all don't love the same parts of getting older.
21:11
SPEAKER_00: We don't need to.
21:12
SPEAKER_00: Somewhere there's a woman listening to this while choosing shoes that I wouldn't dare stand in.
21:18
SPEAKER_00: And I hope she has a spectacular evening wearing those shoes.
21:22
SPEAKER_00: I truly do.
21:23
SPEAKER_00: Somebody else is already home, delighted that nobody's going to ask them to do anything and they don't have to get dressed, and she's whipped off her bra.
21:32
SPEAKER_00: Hope she has a spectacular evening too.
21:35
SPEAKER_00: Now, tell me yours.
21:37
SPEAKER_00: What's something you enjoy about getting older that the younger self would have never understood?
21:43
SPEAKER_00: What did you expect to hate?
21:45
SPEAKER_00: I expected to hate eating early, and I cannot stand eating past five.
21:51
SPEAKER_00: Because you know what?
21:52
SPEAKER_00: What you realize is if you eat late, tomorrow you're going to wake up three pounds heavier.
21:56
SPEAKER_00: It's the facts.
21:57
SPEAKER_00: This is a fact.
21:59
SPEAKER_00: And I'm not willing to get gain weight.
22:01
SPEAKER_00: And that's the whole reason.
22:03
SPEAKER_00: If I know Craig and I are going out to a late dinner, I will not eat all day.
22:07
SPEAKER_00: I may have like a protein drink, and that's it.
22:11
SPEAKER_00: So tell me yours.
22:13
SPEAKER_00: Is it the clothes?
22:13
SPEAKER_00: Is it the shoes?
22:14
SPEAKER_00: Is it what is it?
22:17
SPEAKER_00: Send me some information to Marcybacchusmedia at gmail.com.
22:23
SPEAKER_00: That's Marcybacchusmedia at gmail.com.
22:26
SPEAKER_00: And there's many of you that do write me emails and I answer.
22:29
SPEAKER_00: I'm here, I'm listening.
22:30
SPEAKER_00: I want to hear.
22:31
SPEAKER_00: What do you want to hear on this podcast?
22:34
SPEAKER_00: Tell me if I'm missing some thing that you think I should talk about, tell me.
22:40
SPEAKER_00: All right.
22:41
SPEAKER_00: I want to thank you for joining me on Aging A for Sissies, because it's not.
22:45
SPEAKER_00: But it's fun.
22:47
SPEAKER_00: Share this with a friend who knows exactly which chair we're talking about and which shoes are the best.
22:53
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22:57
SPEAKER_00: I am Marcy.
22:59
SPEAKER_00: Enjoy something you used to make fun of.
23:01
SPEAKER_00: Ask for the table you like, wear the outfit that feels good.
23:05
SPEAKER_00: And if you're heading out to dinner, have a wonderful time.
23:08
SPEAKER_00: I recommend five o'clock.
23:10
SPEAKER_00: You may get my parking space.
23:13
SPEAKER_00: I'll already be on my way home.
23:17
SPEAKER_00: All right, everybody.
23:18
SPEAKER_00: Have a great week.
23:20
SPEAKER_00: I hope you enjoyed this episode.
23:22
SPEAKER_00: I look forward to talking to you next week.
23:24
SPEAKER_00: And again, my name is Marcy, and aging ain't for sissies.