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I DISCOVERED that my boyfriend's nephew is actually HIS son, and everybody already knew! | Reddit Stories | EP2948 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Riley. And this is Dakota, your favorite
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  Speaker 2: I discovered that my boyfriend's nephew is actually his son
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  Speaker 2: and everybody knew.
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  Speaker 3: Hey, how come I wasn't invited to the party?
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  Speaker 2: My boyfriend, Andrew, 28 male, and I, 27 female, met
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  Speaker 2: about six years ago. We attended the same state university
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  Speaker 2: and worked at the same local restaurant. At most, waitstaff do.
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  Speaker 2: Our coworkers would go out together after our shift. Andrew
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  Speaker 2: and I would always find ourselves gravitating toward each other
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  Speaker 2: during these hangouts. Eventually... We began making plans alone, and
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  Speaker 2: he became one of my best friends. I would go
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  Speaker 2: to him for advice on dealing with my terrible family
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  Speaker 2: situation at the time, and he would complain to me
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  Speaker 2: about his absolutely crazy ex-girlfriend. I developed a huge crush
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  Speaker 2: on him very quickly, but I was way too shy
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  Speaker 2: to make the first move. Besides, I could tell Andrew
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  Speaker 2: was very hesitant about getting back into a relationship after
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  Speaker 2: how terrible his ex had been. One night after a
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  Speaker 2: particularly bad shift at work, we wanted to get pretty
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  Speaker 2: buzzed at the bar and grab some pizza. Sounds fun. Afterward,
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  Speaker 2: we hopped in a cab and went back to my place.
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  Speaker 2: After lots of liquid courage, he made his move. And
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  Speaker 2: he kissed me very passionately, and I was hooked instantly.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I was so excited. I invited Andrew over for breakfast
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  Speaker 2: the next day to make sure it wasn't a one-time
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  Speaker 2: drunken thing. He told me he had strong feelings for me,
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  Speaker 2: and the rest is history. It's now our story, not
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  Speaker 2: his story.
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  Speaker 3: Aww.
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  Speaker 2: We fell in love and have the most wonderful relationship
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  Speaker 2: that I've ever had. And by the way, this comes
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  Speaker 4: I'm Savannah.
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  Speaker 3: I'm Sophia.
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  Speaker 2: And we're here to give good advice goofily. We don't
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  Speaker 2: know everything. We only know what we'd do. So let
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  Speaker 2: us know what you'd do in the comments down below.
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  Speaker 2: As Opie says, Fast forward to last night when we
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  Speaker 2: were visiting Andrew's family. We were sitting around the dinner
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  Speaker 2: table with his parents, two sisters, brother-in-law, brother, and nephew, Anthony.
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  Speaker 2: He has one older sister and the rest of his
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  Speaker 2: siblings are younger. We were all laughing at a story
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  Speaker 2: his mom was telling about one of her ex-boyfriends. After
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  Speaker 2: the end of that story, his older sister Mia said,
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  Speaker 2: that's nothing compared to Andrew's psycho story. We all laughed,
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  Speaker 2: knowing full well the ridiculous things she had done. Mia
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  Speaker 2: then made an offhanded comment to her husband, which I
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  Speaker 2: had overheard. She said something like, we can't be too
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  Speaker 2: mad at her though, right? He's responsible for so much
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  Speaker 2: joy in our lives. Andrew stated her incredulously for what
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  Speaker 2: seemed like an eternity. I didn't put two and two
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  Speaker 2: together until I saw everyone else's reactions and how they
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  Speaker 2: were all staring at me. This is weird.
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  Speaker 3: I'd be like, spotlight on me. Do you guys want
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  Speaker 3: me to sing? I'll sing.
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  Speaker 2: That's crazy.
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  Speaker 3: I would not put two and two together for the
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  Speaker 3: life of me. I'd be like, oh, that's weird. Can
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  Speaker 3: you pass the mashed potatoes?
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  Speaker 2: Oh, it's quiet. Opie continues saying, you could cut the
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  Speaker 2: tension with a knife. Andrew looked at me with the
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  Speaker 2: saddest look he has ever given me. At that point,
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  Speaker 2: Mia realized that I didn't know about Anthony, and she
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  Speaker 2: put her hands over her mouth and said, I'm so sorry. Oh.
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  Speaker 2: I sort of blacked out in the moment. I feel
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  Speaker 2: like no one spoke, but I'm sure that's not true.
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  Speaker 2: I think I just stood up and left, to be honest.
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  Speaker 2: I wound up taking a cab home without Andrew and
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  Speaker 2: saying something along the lines of, I'll call you later.
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  Speaker 2: I put everything together in my mind very quickly, which
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  Speaker 2: was surprising because I felt like my mind was both
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  Speaker 2: racing and blank at the same time. That makes any sense.
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  Speaker 2: It does. Andrew had previously told me, even before we
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  Speaker 2: started dating, that Mia is incapable of having her own children.
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  Speaker 2: He told me that she adopted Andrew's nephew in 2006.
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  Speaker 2: My thoughts immediately went to that conversation that we had
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  Speaker 2: so many years ago. The timeline made sense. Andrew impregnated
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  Speaker 2: his crazy girlfriend, and his sister wound up adopting the baby.
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  Speaker 2: Andrew called me about an hour after I'd gotten home.
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  Speaker 2: He asked to come over and explain himself. He was
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  Speaker 2: so upset and begging me to come see me. When
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  Speaker 2: he came over, he sat me down and told me
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  Speaker 2: the whole story. They'd accidentally gotten pregnant. He said her
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  Speaker 2: parents would have disowned her had they found out if
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  Speaker 2: she was pregnant out of wedlock. So they kept it
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  Speaker 2: a secret from them. They'd moved into a tiny studio
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  Speaker 2: apartment by the time Anthony was born. They were doing
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  Speaker 2: well until money became an issue. Both of them were
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  Speaker 2: stressing big time. His girlfriend told him she was leaving him.
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  Speaker 2: After several problems, Andrew decided she was not good for
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  Speaker 2: him or Anthony. So he left her and took the
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  Speaker 2: baby with him. She basically disappeared from his life after that.
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  Speaker 2: Andrew struggled big time as a single father. He asked
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  Speaker 2: his parents for help and, skipping many details, they ultimately
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  Speaker 2: arrived at the solution of me adopting Anthony. She was
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  Speaker 2: married with a great job and it all made sense.
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  Speaker 2: Andrew was very emotional telling me all the details. He
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  Speaker 2: was crying and apologizing the whole time.
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  Speaker 1: Time.
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  Speaker 4: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: Take a brief pause there. Sophia, Savannah, how do we feel?
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  Speaker 3: It's really weird.
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  Speaker 4: One time I was, I almost dated this guy and
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  Speaker 4: then I found out he had a kid and I
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  Speaker 4: was like, why did you not tell me that? He
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  Speaker 4: was like, well, no, no, no, all this stuff. And
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  Speaker 4: I was like, that's weird to not open with that.
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  Speaker 4: I don't, you know, cause what if we started dating
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  Speaker 4: whenever I go over his house and then there's boom, baby. Boom, baby.
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  Speaker 3: Well, In this case, it seems like OP's partner wasn't
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  Speaker 3: taking care of the kid. Like, yeah. Not abandoned, but
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  Speaker 3: gave him up for adoption. But it's still a super
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  Speaker 3: relevant thing to bring up, especially because Andrew's kid is
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  Speaker 3: still in the family. Like, Mia's looking after the kid now.
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  Speaker 2: OP's going to be running into the family a lot,
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  Speaker 2: or at least occasionally. Andrew should have brought this up
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  Speaker 2: a lot sooner.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Do we think this is breakup worthy?
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  Speaker 3: Well, how long have they.
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  Speaker 2: For a while.
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  Speaker 4: Six years they've been together, and oh my god, I
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  Speaker 4: really don't know.
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  Speaker 3: It just really depends.
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  Speaker 4: Do you think that it is something you can overlook
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  Speaker 4: or something that is... going to bother you yeah is
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  Speaker 4: it going to bother you for the.
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  Speaker 2: Rest of the chat ones for this is breakup worthy
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  Speaker 2: two for staying together one for breaking up two for
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  Speaker 2: staying together oh we'll keep going yikes he kept asking
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  Speaker 2: for my forgiveness and telling me how much he loved
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  Speaker 2: me he said he didn't know how to possibly bring
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  Speaker 2: it up to me without ruining what we had We
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  Speaker 2: cried together all night. I am still in complete shock,
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  Speaker 2: but I feel like my emotions are starting to come
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  Speaker 2: around to me now. Sometimes I'm angry and wonder how
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  Speaker 2: he could lie to me for all this time. How
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  Speaker 2: come when we were friends he didn't bring this up?
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  Speaker 2: I told him things about me that I haven't told
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  Speaker 2: anyone else, and this is how he repays me? Sometimes
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  Speaker 2: I'm just sad for him. It's a lot of stuff
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  Speaker 2: to go through at the age of 20. Other times,
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  Speaker 2: I am proud of him for making such a mature decision.
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  Speaker 2: I really think it has led to a much better
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  Speaker 2: life for both Andrew and Anthony. I'm feeling such a
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  Speaker 2: wide range of emotions right now and my head is swimming.
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  Speaker 2: So my question, Reddit, is when I see him again,
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  Speaker 2: what the heck do I say? We have an update.
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  Speaker 4: I would say, what would you do in my position?
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  Speaker 4: What do you think is the correct response? Because I
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  Speaker 4: really don't know what to think. I've been lied to
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  Speaker 4: this whole time. I feel like an idiot. I don't
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  Speaker 4: know what to believe.
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  Speaker 2: And.
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  Speaker 4: Now I'm just supposed to overlook it and be like,
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  Speaker 4: everything's fine.
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  Speaker 2: Why couldn't you be honest with me this entire time?
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  Speaker 2: Do you think I was going to break up with you?
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  Speaker 2: Do you think it's going to change how I see
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  Speaker 2: who you are? There's a lot of questions and hopefully
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  Speaker 2: we can get some answers because we have an update.
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  Speaker 2: Let's find out. I figured I would update you all
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  Speaker 2: on what happened with Andrew and myself. Before I do so,
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  Speaker 2: I would like to clarify a few things about my
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  Speaker 2: last post. Because the comments were a bit concerning for
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  Speaker 2: a few reasons. A few people were upset with my
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  Speaker 2: use of crazy as having described his ex. I apologize
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  Speaker 2: for having offended some people with my use of that word.
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  Speaker 2: That again was not my intention. She was a sort
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  Speaker 2: of love relationship crazy if that makes sense. She was
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  Speaker 2: incredibly controlling and manipulative of Andrew. She would not allow
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  Speaker 2: him to be friends with any woman on Facebook or
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  Speaker 2: any other social media outlet. She did not allow him
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  Speaker 2: to watch porn. She installed spyware on his computer and
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  Speaker 2: read his emails and texts. She threatened to leave Andrew
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  Speaker 2: if he spent weekends with his friends instead of her,
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  Speaker 2: if he didn't make her favorite dinner. For real, I
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  Speaker 2: can't make this crap up. Or if he didn't answer
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  Speaker 2: her text messages immediately. He showed me some of her
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  Speaker 2: emails and texts, and they were just, yeah. They were absurd.
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  Speaker 2: The list goes on and on. You get the idea.
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  Speaker 2: So that's what I meant when I said crazy. I
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  Speaker 2: probably should have used controlling or manipulative. My apologies for that.
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  Speaker 2: Anthony was playing in the backyard with the neighbor's kids
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  Speaker 2: during our dinner conversation. He did not hear any of it.
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  Speaker 2: They don't talk about Andrew's ex in front of Anthony.
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  Speaker 2: The adoption was done legally and by the book. Anthony
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  Speaker 2: was about two years old by the time the adoption
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  Speaker 2: was official. I had mentioned he was adopted in 2006,
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  Speaker 2: but it was probably 2008 by the time the legal
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  Speaker 2: issues were cleared. Andrew had previously told me an entirely
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  Speaker 2: different story about Anthony's adoption. I would never consider telling
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  Speaker 2: Anthony or mentioning anything to him about his biological parents. So,
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  Speaker 2: that clears some stuff. Back to the update. I had
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  Speaker 2: gone back to my hometown yesterday, which is about an
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  Speaker 2: hour away, to sit on the beach and just clear
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  Speaker 2: my mind. I thought long and hard about what I
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  Speaker 2: wanted to say and about what you all had said.
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  Speaker 2: I came back last night to talk to Andrew. I
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  Speaker 2: told him that I wanted to get out of the
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  Speaker 2: entirety of my feelings before he said anything. The first
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  Speaker 2: thing I said to him was that he made the
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  Speaker 2: absolute correct choice for himself Mia, and for Anthony. I
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  Speaker 2: told him how much I respected him and how proud
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  Speaker 2: I was of him for making such a mature decision.
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  Speaker 2: I told him I was so happy for him for
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  Speaker 2: wanting to bring joy to both Anthony and Mia's lives
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  Speaker 2: and maintaining a healthy relationship with Anthony. I told him
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  Speaker 2: that I can never understand the pain and heartbreak he
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  Speaker 2: must have felt when he realized he could no longer
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  Speaker 2: care for Anthony in the way that he deserved. I
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  Speaker 2: respect him so much for removing Anthony from a dysfunctional
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  Speaker 2: situation and trying to care for him on his own.
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  Speaker 2: I reassured Andrew that I would never have expected him
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  Speaker 2: to tell me such a personal, emotional issue while we
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  Speaker 2: were friends or even during the first few years of
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  Speaker 2: our relationship.
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  Speaker 3: I would, but I guess we're different people. First few years?
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  Speaker 3: Imagine years later you find out your partner has a child. Like,
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  Speaker 3: they're not looking after this child. Like, they're not, you know,
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  Speaker 3: this child is no longer under their care, but they
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  Speaker 3: have a child. I'd be pretty pissed. I would be like, what?
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  Speaker 2: Especially if you're meeting the family and this is serious. Like,
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  Speaker 2: maybe within the first couple of months, it's still withholding information.
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  Speaker 2: But of course, you're just trying to gauge who you're dating.
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  Speaker 2: But the first couple of years, this is a major
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  Speaker 2: thing should have been brought up. Especially again, I don't
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  Speaker 2: know how often you're meeting the family or seeing Anthony.
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  Speaker 2: You're like, oh, that's just his nephew. That's Mia's daughter
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  Speaker 2: or Mia's son. Opie continues saying, After I was sure
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  Speaker 2: he understood that I loved both him and Anthony, I
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  Speaker 2: told him why I was a bit upset with him.
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  Speaker 2: I told him that it was fine for him not
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  Speaker 2: to tell me about Anthony's adoption, but it was not
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  Speaker 2: okay for him to blatantly lie to me about it.
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  Speaker 2: He could have just said he was adopted and left
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  Speaker 2: it at that. I also tried to replay to him
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  Speaker 2: that the reason I was so shocked was the manner
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  Speaker 2: in which I found out. I was upset that if
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  Speaker 2: Mia hadn't let it slip out, I could have never
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  Speaker 2: found out. He agreed completely, and he apologized profusely for that.
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  Speaker 2: I also explained that the only reason I wanted to
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  Speaker 2: know was to be there for him and support him
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  Speaker 2: when the time comes to tell Anthony or when Andrew
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  Speaker 2: is feeling down about everything. I can only imagine how
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  Speaker 2: hard that would be for Andrew. I'd like to be
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  Speaker 2: his rock for anything that comes his way in life,
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  Speaker 2: like he has been for me so many years. At
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  Speaker 2: this point in time, a bit of a curveball was thrown.
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  Speaker 2: After we had talked for an hour, the doorbell rang.
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  Speaker 2: Mia was at the front door. Not a good time.
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  Speaker 3: Um, what is she doing there?
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  Speaker 4: Like, hey, I'm gonna pick up the kid that I
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  Speaker 4: don't want and abandon.
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  Speaker 3: Mia's the older sister. She's the adoptive mother.
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  Speaker 4: Oh!
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah. So Mia is Andrew's older sister who
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  Speaker 3: adopted Anthony when Andrew was like, I can't take it
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  Speaker 3: as a kid.
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  Speaker 2: Not the ex.
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  Speaker 3: Did they say the ex's name?
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  Speaker 4: No.
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  Speaker 3: I thought that was Mia this whole time.
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  Speaker 2: Let me look at your whiteboard.
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  Speaker 4: I put Andrew's nephew is actually a son and then
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  Speaker 4: kept it a secret from her family.
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  Speaker 3: Eyelashes. I made this one from my tears. But guess what, guys?
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  Speaker 3: I'm back on track. Cut it out.
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  Speaker 2: Mia rushed in and hugged me and apologized to me
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  Speaker 2: for everything. She was the most frazzled I have ever
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  Speaker 2: seen her. She told me that in no way did
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  Speaker 2: she mean to reveal that. That was Andrew's decision and
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  Speaker 2: she felt awful. We put on a pot of coffee
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  Speaker 2: and the three of us just talked for a while.
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  Speaker 2: They told me all about how they came to the
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  Speaker 2: decision and the emotions that they had all gone through.
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  Speaker 2: She told me that Andrew was devastated at the time
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  Speaker 2: and the relationship between Mia and Andrew was pretty rocky
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  Speaker 2: for a while. Andrew became withdrawn and distant from the
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  Speaker 2: whole family for a long time. It was heartbreaking to
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  Speaker 2: watch them relive it again. I told them over and
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  Speaker 2: over that if they did not want to tell me,
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  Speaker 2: or if it was too painful for them, they didn't
• 11:42
  Speaker 2: have to talk about it right away. They both agreed
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  Speaker 2: that they wanted me to know. After they told me
• 11:46
  Speaker 2: all about the process of the adoption and the family's
• 11:48
  Speaker 2: emotional rollercoaster, the mood began to lighten as we got
• 11:51
  Speaker 2: back to the everyday conversation. There's a little bit left.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like Andrew should have been upfront But it
• 11:56
  Speaker 2: seems like this is going in a positive direction. And
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  Speaker 2: six years in a relationship of being with someone and
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  Speaker 2: this has been withdrawn from you or not told to
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  Speaker 2: you in any way, shape or form. I think Opie's
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  Speaker 2: handling this very good way.
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  Speaker 4: She's coming from a very understanding place, which honestly, I
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  Speaker 4: feel like a lot of people would be like, nope,
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  Speaker 4: I would be one of those people. I would definitely
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  Speaker 4: be like, I cannot do this. I wish you luck
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  Speaker 4: in everything, but I am just... This has ruined what
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  Speaker 4: this is. And I hate that it has. You know,
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  Speaker 4: this just should have been something that was discussed maybe
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  Speaker 4: like five years prior.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, I'd be like, is there anything else you're
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  Speaker 2: fighting for me from the last six years?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: It's crazy because you think his family like, have you
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  Speaker 2: told her or does she know any sane person? Be like,
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  Speaker 2: they've been dating for six years or they've been together
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  Speaker 2: for a while. How has she not known that this
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  Speaker 2: is like the reality of things?
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  Speaker 4: It's just, I don't know, looking at it from all
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  Speaker 4: different angles, I'm just.
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  Speaker 2: Again, difference from like three months to maybe even a year,
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  Speaker 2: but six years?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, six years and you just didn't think to mention it? Like,
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  Speaker 4: that was not the smartest move. But obviously, OP, you're
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  Speaker 4: very understanding. You want to make it work. And if
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  Speaker 4: you think this is the right choice, then yeah, go
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  Speaker 4: for it.
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  Speaker 3: I'm not going to say you're dumb or.
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  Speaker 2: No, I mean, I hope he didn't do anything.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I hope he didn't do anything. You just if
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  Speaker 4: you feel like you can move on from not knowing this,
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  Speaker 4: do it.
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  Speaker 3: Why not?
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  Speaker 4: If it's a happy relationship other than that, then if
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  Speaker 4: this isn't going to bother you or the rest of
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  Speaker 4: your life or make you overthink, then do what you
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  Speaker 4: need to do.
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  Speaker 2: A little bit left, Mia towards the end suggested Andrew
• 13:25
  Speaker 2: and I come over to hang out with her and
• 13:27
  Speaker 2: her family, Anthony included. We happily obliged. We now have
• 13:30
  Speaker 2: playdates with Anthony every month, which Andrew and I are
• 13:33
  Speaker 2: both so happy about. Mia told us that she plans
• 13:35
  Speaker 2: to tell Anthony when she feels that he's capable of
• 13:38
  Speaker 2: understanding why Andrew did what he did. After Mia had left,
• 13:41
  Speaker 2: Andrew and I relaxed and went back to our... normal routine.
• 13:43
  Speaker 2: He told me that he feels embarrassed that he waited
• 13:45
  Speaker 2: so long to tell me. He couldn't figure out the
• 13:47
  Speaker 2: best way to approach the situation. Hey, buddy, you just
• 13:49
  Speaker 2: approach it. Sometimes there is no best way. You just
• 13:52
  Speaker 2: got to rip off that bandaid and be like, got
• 13:53
  Speaker 2: to be honest with you.
• 13:54
  Speaker 3: I kind of, I agree with Christy Cameron.
• 13:57
  Speaker 4: In all fairness, I think this was a traumatic thing
• 13:59
  Speaker 4: for him.
• 14:00
  Speaker 3: And I honestly think it affected him. And it did.
• 14:01
  Speaker 3: It did.
• 14:02
  Speaker 4: I also think that it's a tough situation. A lot
• 14:05
  Speaker 4: of people don't want to be put in that situation unknowingly.
• 14:09
  Speaker 4: You like did not run this by someone who you're
• 14:13
  Speaker 4: keeping close to you, who's going to be there for
• 14:16
  Speaker 4: you think so long of your life. That's a big
• 14:18
  Speaker 4: thing to mention. Me personally, I don't want to date
• 14:20
  Speaker 4: someone with a kid. I just and that's on me.
• 14:23
  Speaker 4: That's not on them.
• 14:24
  Speaker 2: Anthony is not really his. I mean, it is his
• 14:27
  Speaker 2: biological kid. But at the end of the day, Mia
• 14:29
  Speaker 2: and her partner are Anthony's parents.
• 14:31
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 14:31
  Speaker 2: He also feels relieved that I now know. We wound
• 14:34
  Speaker 2: up curling up in bed and telling each other silly
• 14:36
  Speaker 2: things about our past the whole night. We even had
• 14:38
  Speaker 2: some amazing alone time. Weiss.
• 14:39
  Speaker 3: What do you mean by that? Amazing alone time?
• 14:42
  Speaker 2: Why you have to go and ruin it?
• 14:43
  Speaker 3: She there had a very deep talk. Him and her
• 14:46
  Speaker 3: under the sheets.
• 14:47
  Speaker 2: Today, we called out of work and are spending the
• 14:49
  Speaker 2: day together watching Netflix and just drinking adult beverages. It's
• 14:52
  Speaker 2: wonderful and much needed. We are both so happy and relieved.
• 14:55
  Speaker 2: Thank you all for your support. And that's the end
• 14:57
  Speaker 2: of that story.
• 14:57
  Speaker 3: Dang.
• 14:59
  Speaker 2: I guess it's true with, I mean, you would think
• 15:01
  Speaker 2: you would know a person within a year of like,
• 15:04
  Speaker 2: this is somebody I want to, you know, continue this
• 15:06
  Speaker 2: with and they can trust me and understand where I'm
• 15:08
  Speaker 2: coming from. But I think it's just because how OP
• 15:11
  Speaker 2: found out is just like the worst, probably the gut punch.
• 15:14
  Speaker 3: Yeah, you don't even hear it from your partner. You
• 15:16
  Speaker 3: hear it from.
• 15:16
  Speaker 2: And then all the family, the family's reaction of just
• 15:18
  Speaker 2: staring at you like, oh, she doesn't know.
• 15:20
  Speaker 4: That's a great feeling.
• 15:22
  Speaker 3: But that's the end of that story. And we got
• 15:24
  Speaker 3: another one coming right up.
• 15:26
  Speaker 2: Katie says, my therapist says it's okay to do and
• 15:28
  Speaker 2: approach a situation badly. The important thing is getting something
• 15:32
  Speaker 2: addressed is the point. You can plot, you can plan,
• 15:34
  Speaker 2: you can think about how do I approach the situation? Sure,
• 15:36
  Speaker 2: there are ways.
• 15:37
  Speaker 3: Guys, we have a special guest here. Special guest! What's up, guys?
• 15:41
  Speaker 2: Look at it.
• 15:42
  Speaker 3: Look at that.
• 15:43
  Speaker 2: Look at your upper lip.
• 15:43
  Speaker 3: I'm back.
• 15:44
  Speaker 2: The mustache is here. It's so good. Ever since you
• 15:46
  Speaker 2: started growing your mustache, I haven't grown mine back out.
• 15:49
  Speaker 3: No, why not?
• 15:50
  Speaker 2: It's nice during the summer when it's, like, clean.
• 15:52
  Speaker 3: He doesn't want to get mistaken for you.
• 15:54
  Speaker 2: Yeah, white.
• 15:55
  Speaker 3: What ethnicity are you?
• 15:56
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I think Savannah just figured- I feel like this
• 15:58
  Speaker 4: is a great way to really have.
• 16:00
  Speaker 2: Savannah just figured out ethnicities from a story earlier. Actually,
• 16:03
  Speaker 2: you know, chat, guess.
• 16:04
  Speaker 3: What ethnicity are you?
• 16:05
  Speaker 2: Irish. Hey, there it is.
• 16:07
  Speaker 3: Hey, I knew it. I knew it, eh?
• 16:09
  Speaker 2: Someone said Jewish. I gotta blast guys, but it's great
• 16:12
  Speaker 2: to say hey. Oh my gosh, Vince is gonna go
• 16:13
  Speaker 2: blast guys.
• 16:14
  Speaker 3: Pride month, happy pride.
• 16:16
  Speaker 2: Happy pride.
• 16:16
  Speaker 4: My sister's friend ruined my birthday and nobody did a
• 16:20
  Speaker 4: single thing. It's the worst birthday ever. I, 30 female,
• 16:24
  Speaker 4: and my twin sister, 30 female, have planned a birthday
• 16:27
  Speaker 4: weekend away with each other this weekend. Our actual birthday
• 16:30
  Speaker 4: was two weeks ago and.
• 16:31
  Speaker 3: We had a small get together with family.
• 16:33
  Speaker 4: A couple months ago, we decided for our 30th birthday
• 16:36
  Speaker 4: that we wanted a weekend away at a beach house.
• 16:38
  Speaker 4: Very low key, but still fun. I don't have a
• 16:41
  Speaker 4: lot of friends at the moment. Most have lost touch
• 16:43
  Speaker 4: or moved away, but I have befriended my sister's friends
• 16:47
  Speaker 4: through meetups and weddings and such. So just her friends
• 16:50
  Speaker 4: were coming with us.
• 16:51
  Speaker 2: I don't like that.
• 16:52
  Speaker 3: That she doesn't have friends.
• 16:53
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 16:53
  Speaker 3: And she uses her sister for friends.
• 16:55
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 16:55
  Speaker 3: I hate that.
• 16:56
  Speaker 2: We're twins. We share everything.
• 16:57
  Speaker 3: Me and my sister share the same friends.
• 17:00
  Speaker 2: You could have, yeah, but I think having your own
• 17:01
  Speaker 2: friends too. And like, yeah, you can integrate friend groups.
• 17:04
  Speaker 2: The only friends that are coming are my sister's friends. Like,
• 17:06
  Speaker 2: we're all friends together, but those are my sister's friends first.
• 17:08
  Speaker 4: Yeah, for you not to have your own group of
• 17:10
  Speaker 4: friends is kind of alarming.
• 17:12
  Speaker 3: But maybe you're just weird.
• 17:13
  Speaker 4: Along with that, my brother-in-law and my sister's friend, we'll
• 17:16
  Speaker 4: call her Francine, husband is coming too. So to recap,
• 17:21
  Speaker 4: my sister, myself, my brother-in-law, Francine, and her husband, and
• 17:26
  Speaker 4: one other friend are coming to our B-Day. That's six people, guys.
• 17:29
  Speaker 4: After months of planning and organizing, Francine complained that she
• 17:32
  Speaker 4: couldn't afford the price at the beach house. It was
• 17:34
  Speaker 4: like $ 150 per person for the whole weekend. which was
• 17:38
  Speaker 4: great for that area, and we asked for no gifts
• 17:40
  Speaker 4: so no other expenses were required.
• 17:42
  Speaker 3: We're also buying the food for meals for everyone.
• 17:46
  Speaker 4: Francine is constantly spending beyond her means and then expecting
• 17:49
  Speaker 4: everyone to pay for things for her because she can't
• 17:51
  Speaker 4: afford it. She also barely works, even though she's fully
• 17:55
  Speaker 4: capable of holding a regular job, and her husband works
• 17:58
  Speaker 4: overtime to pay for her spending. Damn. So we told her,
• 18:02
  Speaker 4: don't worry about it because otherwise she wouldn't come. And
• 18:04
  Speaker 4: my sister and I paid her and her husband's portion ourselves.
• 18:08
  Speaker 4: Then her other friend couldn't pay either. So we ended
• 18:11
  Speaker 4: up with my brother-in-law paying for the entire beach house.
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: Why is everyone pay? Why are the birthday people paying
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: for everyone to come celebrate your birthday?
• 18:18
  Speaker 4: If they can't, if no one can do that, then you, that's,
• 18:21
  Speaker 4: you just can't have people come. Truly.
• 18:23
  Speaker 2: Some people do do that and that's, they're allowed, they're
• 18:25
  Speaker 2: allowed to, but this just seems so stressful for no reason.
• 18:29
  Speaker 4: If I was planning something and like a lot of
• 18:31
  Speaker 4: my friends couldn't afford it, but I wanted them there,
• 18:34
  Speaker 4: I would just plan something else.
• 18:35
  Speaker 2: Bingo.
• 18:36
  Speaker 4: I'd be like, oh, you know what? We can actually
• 18:38
  Speaker 4: just like hang out at Sophia's house. Great birthday present
• 18:41
  Speaker 4: to us, but at least everyone was still coming. By
• 18:44
  Speaker 4: the way, this comes from Waves Over Blaze. And if
• 18:46
  Speaker 4: you want to submit your own stories, go to the
• 18:48
  Speaker 4: r slash okay story time subreddit. As OP says, cut
• 18:51
  Speaker 4: to yesterday, two days before the weekend birthday party. My
• 18:55
  Speaker 4: brother-in-law was talking to Francine's husband and they were joking
• 18:58
  Speaker 4: about drinking too much this weekend. Then Francine's husband said, Yeah,
• 19:02
  Speaker 4: then Ava will have to carry me to bed. Ava
• 19:05
  Speaker 4: is Francine's daughter, who we assume was being left with
• 19:08
  Speaker 4: her grandmother that weekend because it's a weekend spent drinking
• 19:11
  Speaker 4: and partying. My brother-in-law clarifies by asking if Ava is coming,
• 19:15
  Speaker 4: to which Francine's husband says, Yes.
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, no, no. When was that confirmed
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: with us? Oh.
• 19:20
  Speaker 4: Wow, that's crazy to invite your daughter when this is
• 19:24
  Speaker 4: a dirty 30 trip.
• 19:25
  Speaker 2: No kids allowed.
• 19:26
  Speaker 4: Now, I don't know if my brother-in-law asked why or
• 19:29
  Speaker 4: anything else, but I know nothing else was said until
• 19:32
  Speaker 4: I heard about it last night from my sister. I
• 19:35
  Speaker 4: lost my crap.
• 19:36
  Speaker 3: I was furious.
• 19:38
  Speaker 4: Not only was she not paying for literally anything, she
• 19:42
  Speaker 4: also was now using this as a vacation weekend for
• 19:45
  Speaker 4: her and her daughter, who is five, and will change
• 19:48
  Speaker 4: the entire.
• 19:48
  Speaker 3: Vibe of the weekend.
• 19:50
  Speaker 4: Okay you don't need a five-year-old there what is she
• 19:52
  Speaker 4: gonna do that's just irresponsible in my opinion i'd be.
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: Like ava ava come here grab this ping pong ball
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: and and throw it in the cup.
• 19:58
  Speaker 4: Come on like what is a five-year-old gonna do around
• 20:01
  Speaker 4: a bunch of adults drinking like why would you want
• 20:03
  Speaker 4: your child to see you like that.
• 20:04
  Speaker 2: Even This is an adult party. Why are we having
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: a child here?
• 20:08
  Speaker 3: And they didn't even pay. Now I'm just double mad
• 20:10
  Speaker 3: at you.
• 20:10
  Speaker 4: And she had plenty of time to get a babysitter
• 20:12
  Speaker 4: and either left until last minute and couldn't find one
• 20:16
  Speaker 4: or just had this plan the entire time. I wouldn't
• 20:18
  Speaker 4: put it past her if it was both. I told
• 20:20
  Speaker 4: my sister to tell her to find a sitter or
• 20:21
  Speaker 4: something that she isn't bringing a child. My sister told
• 20:25
  Speaker 4: me I was overreacting. She's not happy about it either,
• 20:28
  Speaker 4: but that she can't do anything about it now.
• 20:30
  Speaker 3: Yes, you can. You cannot come. Actually, you can definitely
• 20:34
  Speaker 3: do something.
• 20:35
  Speaker 4: You can literally tell her, hey, by the way, your
• 20:38
  Speaker 4: five-year-old daughter can't come to a weekend drinking trip.
• 20:42
  Speaker 2: Remember that money that we put down for you guys
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: as guests? We refunded it.
• 20:46
  Speaker 3: Ooh, ouch.
• 20:47
  Speaker 4: Whatever. That she would just not come and then no
• 20:50
  Speaker 4: one would be there, even though that other friend is
• 20:53
  Speaker 4: coming too and is a much better friend to me
• 20:55
  Speaker 4: and my sister. I asked my mom if I was
• 20:57
  Speaker 4: overreacting and she told me to let it go. It's
• 20:59
  Speaker 4: not a big deal. And to enjoy my weekend anyway.
• 21:01
  Speaker 3: That's my mom.
• 21:02
  Speaker 2: Can't really enjoy my weekend when we have babysitting, do we?
• 21:05
  Speaker 3: Yeah. Like if I'm going to be like not sober,
• 21:08
  Speaker 3: I don't want to be around children.
• 21:09
  Speaker 4: Sorry. That's the last thing I want to be around that.
• 21:11
  Speaker 4: Like I did it once and I was like, hate
• 21:14
  Speaker 4: this really weird. I don't like this at all. Yep.
• 21:16
  Speaker 4: I don't think I'm overreacting because inviting a child to
• 21:19
  Speaker 4: a weekend of drinking and possibly other things is pretty
• 21:22
  Speaker 4: irresponsible and presumptuous, especially when we are paying for literally everything.
• 21:27
  Speaker 4: Francine is also notorious for acting like she's closer to
• 21:31
  Speaker 4: my twin sister than I am and making comments about
• 21:34
  Speaker 4: things that I wasn't there for, essentially cutting me out
• 21:37
  Speaker 4: of the conversation. I live around four hours away from
• 21:39
  Speaker 4: my sister, so I don't get to spend as much
• 21:42
  Speaker 4: time with her as I'd like to. Francine lives about
• 21:44
  Speaker 4: half an hour away from my sister, and Francine spends
• 21:47
  Speaker 4: almost every weekend with her.
• 21:49
  Speaker 3: So, am I the a-hole?
• 21:51
  Speaker 4: Also, I will be updating as the weekend goes on
• 21:53
  Speaker 4: if anything happens or any drama ensues. And there is
• 21:57
  Speaker 4: an update, so both of those must have happened.
• 21:59
  Speaker 2: This is your sister's birthday, but this is also your birthday.
• 22:01
  Speaker 2: Shouldn't have kids at your 30th birthday if you don't
• 22:04
  Speaker 2: want them there. Yeah. Especially if you're paying for Francine
• 22:08
  Speaker 2: and her partner to be there. Very weird. How inconsiderate
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: of you.
• 22:12
  Speaker 3: Yeah, this she's not a friend.
• 22:14
  Speaker 4: I think honestly, truthfully, now that you said like she
• 22:17
  Speaker 4: kind of thinks that she's closer. I think she's jealous
• 22:19
  Speaker 4: of you, OP. Don't know why, but I think she's
• 22:21
  Speaker 4: jealous that you and your sister are close. And she's like, no, no, actually,
• 22:24
  Speaker 4: I'm closer. I am.
• 22:25
  Speaker 2: We're like twins. Ew. Get over yourself.
• 22:28
  Speaker 4: And also, you're stingy. Don't pay for anything and then
• 22:30
  Speaker 4: expect everything in return.
• 22:31
  Speaker 3: Bye.
• 22:32
  Speaker 2: Sorry, I'm not paying for your vacation with your family.
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: It's not for you. It's for us.
• 22:37
  Speaker 4: You're probably going to do things that the five-year-old can't do.
• 22:40
  Speaker 4: As in, like, go out to a bar. When are
• 22:41
  Speaker 4: you going to stay home or something? Like, what's happening
• 22:43
  Speaker 4: with that?
• 22:44
  Speaker 3: There is an update.
• 22:45
  Speaker 4: So I'm home from the weekend and it went as
• 22:47
  Speaker 4: well as you all predicted. Friday night, we went up,
• 22:50
  Speaker 4: just the three of us, me, my sister, and my brother-in-law.
• 22:53
  Speaker 4: Francine doesn't like to stay overnight for more than one night,
• 22:57
  Speaker 4: so they planned to come Saturday. My sister had messaged
• 22:59
  Speaker 4: her and told her not to come until late Saturday
• 23:02
  Speaker 4: afternoon as we weren't going to be there, hoping to
• 23:05
  Speaker 4: get more time with just the three of us. She
• 23:07
  Speaker 4: said that she wanted to come early because her daughter
• 23:09
  Speaker 4: is antsy and won't stop nagging us to leave. So
• 23:12
  Speaker 4: they came around noon.
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: I hate you, Francine. I mean... Everything we just said,
• 23:17
  Speaker 2: you just ignored.
• 23:18
  Speaker 4: This reminds me of one of my friends. Like, you
• 23:20
  Speaker 4: say something, and then she just completely ignores it. And
• 23:22
  Speaker 4: it was like, well, but for my sake, though, we
• 23:24
  Speaker 4: should do it this way. And I'm like, oh, so
• 23:27
  Speaker 4: it doesn't matter what I want at all. Doesn't matter,
• 23:29
  Speaker 4: you know, this is my house, my place, but let's
• 23:32
  Speaker 4: do what you want. Huh? Uh, this was frustrating because
• 23:36
  Speaker 4: we had planned to go to a nice Italian restaurant
• 23:38
  Speaker 4: with just the three of us and then have time
• 23:40
  Speaker 4: to decorate before everyone else came. So no nice lunch.
• 23:44
  Speaker 4: And she got her way again. We were going to
• 23:46
  Speaker 4: just go to lunch and let Francine figure it out.
• 23:49
  Speaker 4: But my sister felt bad doing that to her. So
• 23:52
  Speaker 4: we skipped it and got takeout instead.
• 23:54
  Speaker 2: No, you know what I would have done? I'll be like, cool.
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: This is also my birthday weekend. Brother-in-law and I are
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: going to go get that Italian food. You can help
• 24:00
  Speaker 2: out your friend who you are allowing to let, you know,
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: do this. Good plan? Great plan.
• 24:05
  Speaker 4: I just don't understand how this is your guys' celebrating
• 24:08
  Speaker 4: your birthday.
• 24:10
  Speaker 3: She didn't even pay for it. And she's like, let's
• 24:12
  Speaker 3: do things that I want to do.
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: Oh, my child's coming.
• 24:15
  Speaker 4: Oh, my God. Everyone prepare for her.
• 24:17
  Speaker 2: She's really asking.
• 24:18
  Speaker 4: She's really excited about this, even though I told no one.
• 24:20
  Speaker 4: The audacity of people is so annoying. So she arrives
• 24:23
  Speaker 4: and it's a whirlwind of chaos with the child bouncing
• 24:25
  Speaker 4: off the walls, playing with balloons, and listening to videos
• 24:28
  Speaker 4: loudly on her iPad. So Francine sits down and yells
• 24:31
  Speaker 4: to her daughter to put on some headphones and to
• 24:34
  Speaker 4: not bother her, which obviously doesn't work, and she just
• 24:37
  Speaker 4: whizzes around the room for a few hours. Francine then
• 24:39
  Speaker 4: starts monopolizing my time with my sister and reminiscing about
• 24:43
  Speaker 4: times they've had together without me and bonding over that.
• 24:46
  Speaker 4: My sister is trying her best to keep me in
• 24:48
  Speaker 4: the loop, giving me context where she can, but mostly
• 24:51
  Speaker 4: gets bulldozed by Francine. So I go to my room
• 24:54
  Speaker 4: for a while to give them and myself some space.
• 24:57
  Speaker 4: Later that night, my sister's other friend arrives and that's
• 25:00
  Speaker 4: when I learned.
• 25:01
  Speaker 3: That no one will be drinking.
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: I'm drinking.
• 25:04
  Speaker 3: I will literally leave and go to the bar right now.
• 25:06
  Speaker 3: This is my weekend.
• 25:08
  Speaker 2: Huh? Crazy.
• 25:09
  Speaker 4: I won't get into why, but for one reason or another,
• 25:12
  Speaker 4: I will be the only one drinking out of everyone.
• 25:15
  Speaker 4: So now everyone is sober and talking to each other
• 25:17
  Speaker 4: about all their fun times they've had without me. I
• 25:20
  Speaker 4: break out some pizza kits to make our own pizzas
• 25:22
  Speaker 4: and no one is eating. They're all talking to each
• 25:24
  Speaker 4: other and not interested. So not only am I drinking alone,
• 25:27
  Speaker 4: I'm now eating alone too.
• 25:28
  Speaker 2: And this is why I said at the beginning of
• 25:29
  Speaker 2: the story, when Opie said- These are my sister's friends.
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: They're going to do what your sister's doing.
• 25:35
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 25:35
  Speaker 3: I mean, it's true.
• 25:36
  Speaker 4: Like they are technically like they're not really close to you.
• 25:40
  Speaker 4: Like they're friends of, you know, your sister. So obviously
• 25:43
  Speaker 4: they're going to want to see your sister more. It
• 25:45
  Speaker 4: just stinks that no one's like including you, though.
• 25:47
  Speaker 3: I'd be so upset. I'd be like, OK, this is
• 25:48
  Speaker 3: my weekend and go to.
• 25:49
  Speaker 2: The bar and make friends. It's my 30th birthday. Friends. Oh, yeah.
• 25:53
  Speaker 2: The perfect icebreaker. Oh, my gosh. It's my 30th birthday.
• 25:55
  Speaker 2: And everyone abandoned me.
• 25:56
  Speaker 4: What?
• 25:57
  Speaker 2: Who wants to be friends yeah oh my gosh it.
• 25:59
  Speaker 3: Is the perfect icebreaker i uh i'm gonna use that
• 26:01
  Speaker 3: i went to this um bar a while ago with
• 26:04
  Speaker 3: my boyfriend and some of our friends and it was
• 26:06
  Speaker 3: getting like super hot in there and so i i
• 26:08
  Speaker 3: and they were all dancing and stuff so i i
• 26:10
  Speaker 3: walked out i was just like sitting down because i
• 26:12
  Speaker 3: they were gonna come out in a little bit and
• 26:14
  Speaker 3: uh it's like one guy comes up to me and
• 26:16
  Speaker 3: he's like starts kind of like flirting i'm like oh
• 26:19
  Speaker 3: And he's like, oh, is it your birthday? And I'm like, no.
• 26:22
  Speaker 3: And he's like, oh, like, do you want to dance?
• 26:23
  Speaker 3: I'm like, no, I have a boyfriend. He like walks by.
• 26:24
  Speaker 3: Then another person comes over and they're like, oh my God,
• 26:27
  Speaker 3: happy birthday. I'm like, what are.
• 26:28
  Speaker 2: You guys talking about?
• 26:31
  Speaker 3: It's not my birthday.
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: Well, no, Sophia, you're supposed to say thank you. It
• 26:34
  Speaker 2: is my birthday.
• 26:34
  Speaker 3: No, but I'm like, why do they keep saying this?
• 26:37
  Speaker 3: And they're like, uh, and they like point above me
• 26:39
  Speaker 3: and I look up and there's a huge 30. There's
• 26:42
  Speaker 3: a huge like 30 balloon.
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: That's crazy. They thought you were 30? Yeah, they thought
• 26:45
  Speaker 2: you were 30.
• 26:46
  Speaker 3: I would never in a million years think you were 30.
• 26:48
  Speaker 3: But like, if you're sitting under balloons that.
• 26:51
  Speaker 4: You're sitting under 30 balloons, I'm going to think you're 30.
• 26:52
  Speaker 3: You're going to think you're 30. I was like, why
• 26:54
  Speaker 3: do people keep saying.
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: And it's a great icebreaker when it's your birthday.
• 26:59
  Speaker 3: Yeah, people came over to me. I was like, stop.
• 27:01
  Speaker 4: Oh, no, I love, like, I'll go to the bar, like, with,
• 27:04
  Speaker 4: you know, my sister and her friends. Not my best crowd.
• 27:08
  Speaker 4: Don't really like going drinking with all them because just reasons.
• 27:12
  Speaker 4: But I always try to, like, go off on my
• 27:14
  Speaker 4: own at some point every time I meet a friend.
• 27:16
  Speaker 4: Last time it was the DJ.
• 27:17
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 27:18
  Speaker 4: And her name was Miss Frizzle. And she was so cool.
• 27:21
  Speaker 4: And then I actually did meet a guy that night,
• 27:23
  Speaker 4: which he was cool. But yeah, but it's just like
• 27:25
  Speaker 4: any time a girl alone, swoop.
• 27:28
  Speaker 3: Here they come girls.
• 27:28
  Speaker 4: Around this time is when Francine goes to put her
• 27:31
  Speaker 4: kid to bed and figures out what I've done to
• 27:34
  Speaker 4: the sleeping arrangements.
• 27:35
  Speaker 3: And you paid for it.
• 27:36
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 27:37
  Speaker 3: And it's your birthday. Exactly.
• 27:38
  Speaker 4: And they have, they're the only people with three people.
• 27:40
  Speaker 4: You never know who's going to.
• 27:41
  Speaker 3: Be in that bed with you. Your twin sister.
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 28:03
  Speaker 2: No, I make it weird.
• 28:04
  Speaker 3: The five-year-old? Yeah, who was going to be in the bed?
• 28:07
  Speaker 2: Oh, they're going out to the bars. Ah.
• 28:10
  Speaker 3: That wasn't clear to me. They're not going out to
• 28:11
  Speaker 3: the bar.
• 28:12
  Speaker 4: OP is probably going to just bake this pizza and
• 28:14
  Speaker 4: drink and go to bed, which honestly sounds like a
• 28:16
  Speaker 4: really good night as well. Francine comes down after seeing
• 28:20
  Speaker 4: the beds and says, which room is mine again? And
• 28:22
  Speaker 4: I say, the one at the top of the stairs,
• 28:24
  Speaker 4: two singles. Or the one in the hallway, trundle. She
• 28:27
  Speaker 4: purses her lips and gets her daughter into bed, pouting
• 28:29
  Speaker 4: upstairs for the next hour or so. Drama queen! There's
• 28:34
  Speaker 4: a little bit left here. What are you doing if
• 28:36
  Speaker 4: you're OP?
• 28:36
  Speaker 2: I'm making the best of it. I'm not letting anyone
• 28:39
  Speaker 2: bring down my birthday. It's my 30th. I'm going out
• 28:41
  Speaker 2: to celebrate. Me, myself, and I? great i don't care
• 28:44
  Speaker 2: about francine you are irrelevant to me i'm gonna get
• 28:47
  Speaker 2: my sister i'm like i'm going out to go celebrate
• 28:48
  Speaker 2: and have fun if this is your way of having
• 28:50
  Speaker 2: fun great i'm gonna do my way of having fun
• 28:52
  Speaker 2: i'm gonna do my own thing i'm gonna do my
• 28:54
  Speaker 2: own thing i really really hope francine does not take
• 28:56
  Speaker 2: your bed i'll freak.
• 28:58
  Speaker 4: Out yeah i hope not i hope she didn't go
• 29:00
  Speaker 4: up there and just go like in yours oh i'd
• 29:03
  Speaker 4: call her out immediately i'd be like hey um i
• 29:06
  Speaker 4: i said the other room was yours actually Not much
• 29:09
  Speaker 4: happens for the rest of the night. Uh, we cut
• 29:11
  Speaker 4: the cake, we play a game, and everyone is in
• 29:12
  Speaker 4: bed by midnight. Speaking on the bed situation, Francine ended
• 29:16
  Speaker 4: up not making the trundle up and slept in a single,
• 29:19
  Speaker 4: making her husband sleep with their daughter in the other single.
• 29:23
  Speaker 4: This morning, we all left pretty early, and I'm home now,
• 29:25
  Speaker 4: pretty frustrated and defeated. My sister asked if I was
• 29:28
  Speaker 4: upset about the weekend, and I tried to pretend like
• 29:30
  Speaker 4: I was fine, but it was hard.
• 29:31
  Speaker 2: Tell your sister that you are upset. This is supposed
• 29:34
  Speaker 2: to be a fun weekend that you guys... I mean,
• 29:36
  Speaker 2: maybe she had a good weekend. But you can be up,
• 29:38
  Speaker 2: you can be upfront and be honest and be like,
• 29:39
  Speaker 2: I expected more. I wanted to have do more things.
• 29:42
  Speaker 2: You only turned 30 once.
• 29:43
  Speaker 4: True.
• 29:44
  Speaker 3: You got to make the best out of it. And
• 29:45
  Speaker 3: it sucks.
• 29:46
  Speaker 4: It sucks that you didn't get to like do anything
• 29:48
  Speaker 4: like that.
• 29:48
  Speaker 2: Oh, sorry.
• 29:49
  Speaker 4: Definitely not the 30th I had in mind.
• 29:52
  Speaker 3: I still don't know if I.
• 29:53
  Speaker 4: Will do a makeup birthday or if this was the
• 29:55
  Speaker 4: update you've all been waiting for, but this is it.
• 29:58
  Speaker 4: I'm hoping next year we just keep it basic and
• 30:00
  Speaker 4: maybe just do dinner with each other. This was a
• 30:02
  Speaker 4: lot to be okay with and I'm pretty content with
• 30:05
  Speaker 4: not involving Francine in any more plans with myself in
• 30:07
  Speaker 4: the future. Yeah, Francine seems like a witch. Like, she
• 30:11
  Speaker 4: just makes everything about herself. It's like, well, what about
• 30:13
  Speaker 4: my priorities? What about my needs?
• 30:15
  Speaker 3: What about my wants? Shut up.
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: Just take yourself on a nice vacation on your own, OP, personally.
• 30:21
  Speaker 2: If you know you don't have any friends that are
• 30:24
  Speaker 2: close to you, go visit someone. Or take yourself somewhere
• 30:27
  Speaker 2: that you've never been to.
• 30:28
  Speaker 4: Or do a spa day.
• 30:29
  Speaker 2: But that is the end of that story, and we
• 30:30
  Speaker 2: have another one coming right up.
• 30:31
  Speaker 3: Yeah, we do.
• 30:32
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• 30:40
  Speaker 2: My mother-in-law took my money for years and lied about
• 30:43
  Speaker 2: where it went. Mama, that's mine! I live with my
• 30:45
  Speaker 2: boyfriend at his parents' home. His parents charge me rent
• 30:47
  Speaker 2: every month, and they told me that the rent I
• 30:49
  Speaker 2: pay will be put away for my future. They said
• 30:52
  Speaker 2: that this money will be kept aside for me to
• 30:54
  Speaker 2: purchase a home or get an education. I've been living
• 30:56
  Speaker 2: with them for three years and thought I had a
• 30:58
  Speaker 2: substantial amount of money set aside. A few weeks ago,
• 31:01
  Speaker 2: his mother told me that this money is no longer
• 31:03
  Speaker 2: aside for me. She said that this money will be
• 31:05
  Speaker 2: used for food instead. However, this caught me off guard because...
• 31:09
  Speaker 2: She is well off and can't afford to go on
• 31:11
  Speaker 2: multiple trips a year and go out every single weekend
• 31:14
  Speaker 2: and is planning to take a long trip to Europe.
• 31:16
  Speaker 2: I feel like I was lied to. For the last
• 31:17
  Speaker 2: three years, I thought I was saving for a down
• 31:20
  Speaker 2: payment on a home just to find out that instead
• 31:22
  Speaker 2: I have nothing aside for the future. I am hurt
• 31:24
  Speaker 2: and I'm upset. What would you do in my situation?
• 31:27
  Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from user LostKittensUniverse. And if
• 31:30
  Speaker 2: you want to submit your own stories, go to the
• 31:31
  Speaker 2: r slash OKStoryTime subreddit. OP says, Edit 1. My boyfriend
• 31:35
  Speaker 2: thinks that this is not a big deal. He says
• 31:37
  Speaker 2: that his mom has been a liar and manipulative his
• 31:39
  Speaker 2: whole life, so there's nothing he can do about it
• 31:41
  Speaker 2: now because she won't change. So why did you allow
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: this to happen, boyfriend?
• 31:46
  Speaker 4: Him knowing this and literally say nothing, like not even
• 31:49
  Speaker 4: warning or being like, yeah, you know, like, I don't
• 31:51
  Speaker 4: think you should do this with my parents and stuff
• 31:53
  Speaker 4: because they're not going to be truthful about it.
• 31:55
  Speaker 3: I know them. You know, it seems like a good idea,
• 31:57
  Speaker 3: but it's not. Instead, he's like, oh, yeah, I don't know.
• 32:00
  Speaker 3: You shouldn't worry about it.
• 32:02
  Speaker 4: It's just like thousands of dollars.
• 32:04
  Speaker 2: Egal says you're living with your boyfriend in his parents' house.
• 32:06
  Speaker 2: They stole your money. You can do bad by yourself.
• 32:09
  Speaker 2: You gave your money to them. You took their word
• 32:11
  Speaker 2: for it.
• 32:11
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I guess there was no like contract or anything. Yeah,
• 32:14
  Speaker 4: I would ask for that.
• 32:15
  Speaker 3: Yeah. Do we have an age? I didn't get an age.
• 32:17
  Speaker 2: If Sophia maybe can check, but.
• 32:19
  Speaker 3: No age. Yeah, see, I don't know how.
• 32:21
  Speaker 4: It seems like they're pretty young. I'd say like teenagers, maybe.
• 32:24
  Speaker 2: Upi continues saying, Therefore, my boyfriend and I just have
• 32:27
  Speaker 2: to accept her behavior. However, this makes me upset because
• 32:30
  Speaker 2: it seems like he's not ready to stand up for
• 32:32
  Speaker 2: me when needed. And it feels as if he doesn't
• 32:35
  Speaker 2: value my feelings enough. Anyways, we came to the conclusion
• 32:37
  Speaker 2: that we should have a talk with his mother next
• 32:39
  Speaker 2: week when we see her to explain how I feel.
• 32:42
  Speaker 2: Edit 2. I am a student, and if I knew
• 32:44
  Speaker 2: that this money was not going towards my future, I
• 32:47
  Speaker 2: would have made different choices. I would have chose to
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: move back to Italy with my family, where I wouldn't
• 32:51
  Speaker 2: have to pay for rent, and where school is free.
• 32:54
  Speaker 2: I would have stayed in Canada, but instead of going
• 32:56
  Speaker 2: to school, I would have worked full-time and saved up
• 32:58
  Speaker 2: as much as possible. As a student, I am working part-time,
• 33:01
  Speaker 2: and everything I earn goes towards rent. We have a
• 33:03
  Speaker 2: third edit. More than once, his mom said, You should
• 33:05
  Speaker 2: be grateful that I let your girlfriend live here. She's
• 33:08
  Speaker 2: the one that offered me to move in their home
• 33:10
  Speaker 2: to begin with. This type of comment made me feel
• 33:12
  Speaker 2: very unwelcome. Edit 4. We have a lot of edits.
• 33:15
  Speaker 2: I like this. On top of paying rent, I often
• 33:17
  Speaker 2: cook for the whole family and help clean the house.
• 33:19
  Speaker 2: I also look after their kids when they leave for
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: vacations or weekends. You guessed it. Edit five. Looking back,
• 33:25
  Speaker 2: I was treated unfairly on multiple occasions. I feel used,
• 33:28
  Speaker 2: and I'm looking forward to moving out. And we have
• 33:30
  Speaker 2: an update.
• 33:31
  Speaker 3: Is she, like, not gonna.
• 33:33
  Speaker 4: I guess, like, she did try to talk to the
• 33:35
  Speaker 4: boyfriend about it, but I would be mad at the boyfriend, too.
• 33:37
  Speaker 4: I'd be like, tell your parents to do something about this,
• 33:40
  Speaker 4: because this is not okay.
• 33:42
  Speaker 2: I think they took full advantage of you, and they
• 33:44
  Speaker 2: knew this. And your boyfriend knew this, too.
• 33:46
  Speaker 3: Ugh.
• 33:47
  Speaker 2: Uh, go back to Italy.
• 33:48
  Speaker 3: Why would you leave?
• 33:49
  Speaker 2: Some people like to change the scenery.
• 33:50
  Speaker 3: Nooo!
• 33:51
  Speaker 2: But there is an update. I'm sorry, OP, but you
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: should have had something in, like, in writing. Update. After
• 33:57
  Speaker 2: talking to her and explaining to her how hurt I
• 33:59
  Speaker 2: am about the whole situation, she had the courage to
• 34:01
  Speaker 2: go to my boyfriend and invent that I haven't been
• 34:03
  Speaker 2: paying rent for half the time I was there.
• 34:05
  Speaker 3: Oh.
• 34:07
  Speaker 2: She then dismissed this lie in my presence as I
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: have proof that I always paid rent. She also had
• 34:12
  Speaker 2: the courage to call me ungrateful. I have always went
• 34:15
  Speaker 2: above and beyond for her. As the tenant who was
• 34:17
  Speaker 2: paying rent, my only duty should be to pick up
• 34:19
  Speaker 2: after myself. But I've been helping her with chores and
• 34:21
  Speaker 2: I've been cooking for her whole family every day. This
• 34:25
  Speaker 2: is like an evil, not even stepmother or mother-in-law. This
• 34:28
  Speaker 2: is like your boyfriend's mom. This is just evil.
• 34:30
  Speaker 4: Did they ask you to cook or you just cook,
• 34:33
  Speaker 4: you know, like, are they like, oh, that's part of
• 34:35
  Speaker 4: why you get to stay here?
• 34:37
  Speaker 3: Why don't you ask?
• 34:38
  Speaker 2: Because I have the answer. Oh. So no one asked
• 34:40
  Speaker 2: me to do this. I chose to do it from
• 34:42
  Speaker 2: day one as a gesture of appreciation and thanks. So
• 34:45
  Speaker 2: when she called me ungrateful, this really hurt me because
• 34:48
  Speaker 2: I've done everything I could to show my appreciation for her.
• 34:52
  Speaker 2: She asks if she did me a huge favor by
• 34:54
  Speaker 2: letting me move into her home and as if I
• 34:56
  Speaker 2: owe her something, but I Don't. I saw her as family,
• 34:59
  Speaker 2: so the fact that she chose to screw me over
• 35:01
  Speaker 2: like this really hurts. Anyways, I decided to leave, and
• 35:05
  Speaker 2: I moved back to Italy with my family. Smart.
• 35:07
  Speaker 3: Screw that guy.
• 35:08
  Speaker 4: I'd be pissed at him too. I'd be like, wow,
• 35:10
  Speaker 4: screw you for not sticking up for me.
• 35:12
  Speaker 2: Bye. Yeah, get the receipts, tell your boyfriend, probably your
• 35:15
  Speaker 2: ex-boyfriend now, because he's not standing up for you, and
• 35:18
  Speaker 2: he knew this was going to happen.
• 35:19
  Speaker 3: So just manipulative family.
• 35:21
  Speaker 2: She tried being the manipulative bee that she is, saying
• 35:24
  Speaker 2: things like, I am so sad that you are leaving.
• 35:26
  Speaker 2: I wish things could be different. But I'm so over
• 35:30
  Speaker 2: being mistreated, manipulated, and just used. As said in the
• 35:33
  Speaker 2: previous post, I feel like she robbed me of my
• 35:35
  Speaker 2: future because I'm a full-time student making minimum wage. So
• 35:39
  Speaker 2: every bit of money I'm making goes towards school, rent, food,
• 35:42
  Speaker 2: and bills. I have... Nothing. And all this time, I
• 35:45
  Speaker 2: was convinced that I had money going towards my future.
• 35:48
  Speaker 2: I will never forgive her for what she did. There's
• 35:50
  Speaker 2: a little bit left here. Could you sue?
• 35:51
  Speaker 4: I don't know.
• 35:52
  Speaker 2: I don't think you can because nothing was in writing.
• 35:54
  Speaker 3: No, there's not.
• 35:54
  Speaker 4: Yeah, nothing's in writing. Nothing's set in stone. It was
• 35:56
  Speaker 4: just word of mouth. So you can't you literally just
• 35:59
  Speaker 4: have to suck it up and take the loss.
• 36:01
  Speaker 3: Oh, that sucks, though.
• 36:02
  Speaker 4: Three years of rent just down the drain.
• 36:04
  Speaker 2: I want to know how much.
• 36:06
  Speaker 3: I'm sure it's thousands.
• 36:08
  Speaker 2: A hundred percent.
• 36:08
  Speaker 4: She probably didn't pay too much. Like I'd say like 280,
• 36:11
  Speaker 4: like 300 or something. I'm not really sure. But you know,
• 36:14
  Speaker 4: going from that times 12 times three.
• 36:16
  Speaker 3: What's 12 times three?
• 36:19
  Speaker 2: 36.
• 36:20
  Speaker 3: Nice. I know my times tables.
• 36:22
  Speaker 2: There's a little bit left here. Let's go ahead and
• 36:24
  Speaker 2: finish this up. I'm sorry, OP. Hopefully Italy is good
• 36:27
  Speaker 2: to you. My boyfriend still lives with her and his family.
• 36:30
  Speaker 2: He says that he's on my side, but he still
• 36:32
  Speaker 2: loves his mommy because she is his mommy. I get that.
• 36:36
  Speaker 2: But at the same time, I don't, because my parents
• 36:38
  Speaker 2: would never treat anyone like that. My parents even offered
• 36:41
  Speaker 2: me and my boyfriend to live with them for free,
• 36:44
  Speaker 2: even though they are in a financially tight position. I
• 36:47
  Speaker 2: would never forgive my parents for doing something similar to
• 36:49
  Speaker 2: my boyfriend. This is insane behavior.
• 36:52
  Speaker 4: Agreed.
• 36:53
  Speaker 2: And here we are with more edits. Edit one. Throughout
• 36:56
  Speaker 2: the three years living there, she mentioned this money multiple
• 36:58
  Speaker 2: times and called it my money fund.
• 37:01
  Speaker 4: Okay, so it wasn't just like the first time she
• 37:03
  Speaker 4: ever mentioned it and then it was never mentioned after
• 37:05
  Speaker 4: that and you were just like, well, you said.
• 37:06
  Speaker 2: No, she was rubbing it in your face. She knew
• 37:08
  Speaker 2: what she was doing.
• 37:09
  Speaker 4: Oh my god, ew.
• 37:09
  Speaker 2: She was like, this girl never signed anything.
• 37:12
  Speaker 3: What a conniving little.
• 37:13
  Speaker 2: And when she said my money fund, she meant her
• 37:15
  Speaker 2: money fund.
• 37:16
  Speaker 3: Actually, bye.
• 37:17
  Speaker 2: Edit 2. Her lies also affected my choices. Because if
• 37:21
  Speaker 2: I knew that this money was not actually being saved
• 37:23
  Speaker 2: for me, I would have chose to study for free
• 37:25
  Speaker 2: in Italy while staying with my parents. Edit 3. Mother-in-law
• 37:29
  Speaker 2: also committed tax evasion slash tax fraud as she did
• 37:32
  Speaker 2: not declare the money.
• 37:33
  Speaker 3: Of course she did. Whatever.
• 37:36
  Speaker 2: I'm sorry that you had to go through this for
• 37:37
  Speaker 2: three years.
• 37:38
  Speaker 3: Yeah, literally.
• 37:39
  Speaker 2: But hopefully everything is going. If you start from the bottom, OP,
• 37:43
  Speaker 2: you can only go to the top.
• 37:44
  Speaker 3: Now we're here. My landlord's child screams on purpose to
• 37:48
  Speaker 3: wake up the tenants, so I confronted them.
• 37:51
  Speaker 2: What is she, the rooster?
• 37:52
  Speaker 3: I live in a large three-story house with my landlords
• 37:55
  Speaker 3: and two other tenants. My landlords are a married couple
• 37:58
  Speaker 3: in their late 30s with two daughters aged five and nine.
• 38:01
  Speaker 3: And they have the basement and first floor. I and
• 38:04
  Speaker 3: another single tenant live on the second floor. And there's
• 38:06
  Speaker 3: another couple on the third floor. It's a really nice
• 38:09
  Speaker 3: living situation. The rent for the neighborhood cannot be beat.
• 38:12
  Speaker 3: And our landlords are great except for this one thing.
• 38:16
  Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from Pork Burp. And if
• 38:18
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• 38:20
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• 38:20
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 38:20
  Speaker 1: Storytime.
• 38:21
  Speaker 2: Separate it.
• 38:21
  Speaker 3: OP says, so before we moved in, the landlord mentioned
• 38:25
  Speaker 3: to us that sometimes the girls get loud, particularly the
• 38:28
  Speaker 3: older one, but you probably won't even hear it unless
• 38:31
  Speaker 3: you're by your door. That means you're going to hear it.
• 38:33
  Speaker 2: That means you hear it a lot.
• 38:34
  Speaker 3: Given their ages, we figured this meant noise from playing
• 38:38
  Speaker 3: and the occasional tantrum. On questioning the other tenants, they
• 38:41
  Speaker 3: said it's mostly the nine-year-old having tantrums, but it's infrequent.
• 38:45
  Speaker 3: We've been living here for three months now, and the
• 38:47
  Speaker 3: nine-year-old has a screaming tantrum at least twice per week.
• 38:52
  Speaker 3: She screams with the intent to wake up the house
• 38:54
  Speaker 3: because she knows it'll make her parents embarrassed. I have
• 38:57
  Speaker 3: only ever heard them say things like, stop yelling, go
• 38:59
  Speaker 3: wake everyone up, and never heard them talk about punishment. Although,
• 39:03
  Speaker 3: to be fair, I couldn't hear everything over the screaming.
• 39:05
  Speaker 3: I've tried casually to bring it up with them, saying
• 39:07
  Speaker 3: something like, wow, that kid can scream with a chuckle,
• 39:10
  Speaker 3: to which they would say, oh, and she was so sorry.
• 39:12
  Speaker 3: She's so bad today. We don't know what to do. Girlies.
• 39:15
  Speaker 2: You discipline her.
• 39:16
  Speaker 3: You can't not know what to do twice a week.
• 39:19
  Speaker 2: This is where you parent her.
• 39:21
  Speaker 3: Personally, I would love to go down there during a
• 39:23
  Speaker 3: screaming episode and have words with the child, but I
• 39:25
  Speaker 3: feel like that would be crossing a huge red line.
• 39:28
  Speaker 3: I gather that as parents, they want to be the
• 39:30
  Speaker 3: only ones making decision about their children and don't welcome
• 39:33
  Speaker 3: outside input. So I don't want to say something like,
• 39:35
  Speaker 3: you should ground her or whatever. Also being mindful of
• 39:38
  Speaker 3: the fact that they are my landlords. I don't want
• 39:40
  Speaker 3: to have too much tension in the household. I really
• 39:43
  Speaker 3: like the place otherwise. So I might be asking the impossible,
• 39:46
  Speaker 3: but what's a good way to bring this up with
• 39:47
  Speaker 3: my landlords? When I feel like they might not be
• 39:50
  Speaker 3: open to the advice or criticism, even though it's neither
• 39:52
  Speaker 3: of those things, I think they would perceive it that way.
• 39:54
  Speaker 3: And we've got an edit.
• 39:55
  Speaker 2: It is hard because you don't want to... Did you
• 39:58
  Speaker 2: tell your kid to stop it? And they're like, are
• 40:00
  Speaker 2: you talking to a parent? Let's increase your rent kind
• 40:02
  Speaker 2: of thing. Like you don't want to have bad terms
• 40:04
  Speaker 2: or bad blood or step on anybody's toes, especially if they're,
• 40:08
  Speaker 2: you know, they're... your landlord. The fact that they know
• 40:11
  Speaker 2: that this exists and they don't do anything about it,
• 40:14
  Speaker 2: I feel like the best thing you can do, you
• 40:16
  Speaker 2: have to bring it up, but I feel like you
• 40:17
  Speaker 2: can bring it up with more than just yourself. If
• 40:19
  Speaker 2: there are other tenants who are affected by this, have
• 40:22
  Speaker 2: them talk as a group meeting of the tenants of
• 40:25
  Speaker 2: this building. This is an issue.
• 40:27
  Speaker 3: No, I think it definitely needs to be a conversation.
• 40:30
  Speaker 3: People are sensitive about kids' A hundred percent. So it's tricky,
• 40:34
  Speaker 3: but I think just like go to your landlords and
• 40:36
  Speaker 3: sit them down and say, Hey, totally understand that this
• 40:39
  Speaker 3: is tricky and hard for you too. But as I
• 40:42
  Speaker 3: am paying rent for a certain level of peace, I
• 40:45
  Speaker 3: really need this issue.
• 40:46
  Speaker 4: To be resolved.
• 40:47
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and I guarantee you, like I said, you're not
• 40:49
  Speaker 2: the only one going through this. So if you can
• 40:51
  Speaker 2: get a handful of people saying this needs to be
• 40:54
  Speaker 2: worked on. Yeah. Because saying, oh, we're sorry, we don't
• 40:57
  Speaker 2: know what to do with her is not being worked on. No.
• 40:59
  Speaker 3: I thought it.
• 41:00
  Speaker 2: Was going to be the five-year-old.
• 41:01
  Speaker 3: She's old enough.
• 41:02
  Speaker 2: Sophia, am I wrong? Yeah. Is it going to get
• 41:04
  Speaker 2: worse before it gets any better?
• 41:06
  Speaker 3: It's absolutely. I mean, if you try and, you know,
• 41:08
  Speaker 3: she's probably going to keep screaming louder and more, but
• 41:10
  Speaker 3: you definitely need to... Nah, not anymore.
• 41:13
  Speaker 2: Yep. Edit.
• 41:14
  Speaker 3: I wasn't sure how to sit down with my landlords
• 41:16
  Speaker 3: and get this out in the open positively, and there's
• 41:19
  Speaker 3: a number of good angles mentioned here that I will
• 41:21
  Speaker 3: be using. An update nearly two months later, I borrowed
• 41:24
  Speaker 3: the advice of making the conversation not about myself or them,
• 41:27
  Speaker 3: and instead discussed the possibility of soundproofing. I also decided
• 41:31
  Speaker 3: to do it right around 6am when it was starting
• 41:33
  Speaker 3: so I could sort of catch it in the act.
• 41:35
  Speaker 2: Sorry, I just thought of something even better.
• 41:37
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 41:38
  Speaker 2: Yell louder.
• 41:39
  Speaker 3: Yeah, you go, ah!
• 41:41
  Speaker 4: Shut up!
• 41:41
  Speaker 3: Shut up! Shut up!
• 41:43
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 41:44
  Speaker 3: I went down to my landlord's floor and simply said,
• 41:46
  Speaker 3: hey guys, just FYI, I could hear that in my
• 41:48
  Speaker 3: apartment as though it's happening right outside my door. I
• 41:51
  Speaker 3: guess the walls are thin and the door is right
• 41:53
  Speaker 3: here by the stairs. You might want to consider some
• 41:55
  Speaker 3: kind of soundproofing for the benefit of future tenants. My
• 41:58
  Speaker 3: lease runs out in a month and I'm not renewing,
• 42:01
  Speaker 3: so didn't bother to ask for it myself. I was
• 42:03
  Speaker 3: surprised when my landlord said they had no idea I
• 42:06
  Speaker 3: could hear it. Apparently the other building residents, both of
• 42:09
  Speaker 3: whom have lived in my unit, didn't hear it. Or did,
• 42:12
  Speaker 3: but didn't say anything about it. Bet they just didn't
• 42:14
  Speaker 3: say anything.
• 42:15
  Speaker 2: I think it's the second option there.
• 42:16
  Speaker 3: My landlords were also very apologetic and said they were
• 42:19
  Speaker 3: really sorry. The next thing that happened was awesome. The
• 42:22
  Speaker 3: nine-year-old was in the room sitting facing away and now
• 42:24
  Speaker 3: totally silent. The mother said, see, your behavior has consequences
• 42:28
  Speaker 3: and you've disturbed our neighbors. I think you need to
• 42:31
  Speaker 3: turn around and apologize to pork burp. or to OP
• 42:34
  Speaker 3: for waking her up. She did not turn around. I
• 42:36
  Speaker 3: wasn't really expecting it. She's shy around the tenants and
• 42:39
  Speaker 3: her body language really seemed to communicate that she was
• 42:41
  Speaker 3: embarrassed and ashamed. When I came home from work, I
• 42:44
  Speaker 3: had a handwritten letter from the girl where she apologized
• 42:47
  Speaker 3: for disturbing everyone and will try harder next time not
• 42:50
  Speaker 3: to behave like that. I believe every tenant got one
• 42:53
  Speaker 3: of these. I kind of wish her parents had made
• 42:54
  Speaker 3: her apologize to me on the spot, but I'm okay
• 42:57
  Speaker 3: with the letter. This happened a couple weeks ago, and
• 42:59
  Speaker 3: so far there's been no further 6am tantrums. At least
• 43:02
  Speaker 3: that I can hear, anyway. So I think confronting the
• 43:04
  Speaker 3: family was a success. Okay, we've got an edit to
• 43:08
  Speaker 3: finish this off, but any final thoughts?
• 43:10
  Speaker 2: Great.
• 43:11
  Speaker 3: Yeah, success.
• 43:12
  Speaker 2: You did it in a very respectful manner.
• 43:14
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 43:15
  Speaker 2: They took it pretty dang well, actually.
• 43:17
  Speaker 3: They took it super well. Not only did they actually
• 43:21
  Speaker 3: just fix the tantrum stuff, but it seemed like they
• 43:23
  Speaker 3: were also open to doing other things.
• 43:26
  Speaker 2: Great. I think it's great all around for you. I
• 43:28
  Speaker 2: think great parenting.
• 43:30
  Speaker 3: Finally.
• 43:31
  Speaker 2: Yeah, finally. And honestly, good on the daughter to also,
• 43:34
  Speaker 2: I mean, we don't know what happened behind the closed doors,
• 43:37
  Speaker 2: but good on the daughter to like actually write a
• 43:40
  Speaker 2: handwritten letter to every tenant saying that she's sorry. I mean,
• 43:45
  Speaker 2: her parents probably forced her, but it's something and that's good.
• 43:47
  Speaker 3: And we've got an edit. Got a few more things
• 43:49
  Speaker 3: to say in response to these great comments. Some people
• 43:52
  Speaker 3: have pointed out that a nine-year-old apologizing through a letter
• 43:55
  Speaker 3: as opposed to on the spot isn't so bad considering
• 43:58
  Speaker 3: she's nine. In fact, it might be an even bigger
• 44:00
  Speaker 3: punishment because she would have to sit and really think
• 44:03
  Speaker 3: about each letter. That's something I didn't consider. And when
• 44:05
  Speaker 3: it's framed that way, I agree that that's sufficient. Some
• 44:08
  Speaker 3: people also think my post was about asking whether or
• 44:11
  Speaker 3: not to discuss the issue with my landlord, but it
• 44:14
  Speaker 3: was actually about how to bring it up in the
• 44:15
  Speaker 3: most non-offensive way possible. As some people here have mentioned,
• 44:19
  Speaker 3: some parents can be really sensitive to anything that seems
• 44:22
  Speaker 3: like criticism. I wanted to minimize the possibility of them
• 44:26
  Speaker 3: turning around and trying to make this about me versus them,
• 44:29
  Speaker 3: since that's not what it is at all. And that's
• 44:31
  Speaker 3: the end of that story.
• 44:32
  Speaker 2: Great.
• 44:32
  Speaker 3: Seems like you did it well. Congrats.
• 44:34
  Speaker 2: Good job.
• 44:35
  Speaker 3: I wonder if OP is still moving out.
• 44:37
  Speaker 2: I was like, maybe if you did say like, I'm
• 44:40
  Speaker 2: going to not renew my lease. It's kind of a
• 44:42
  Speaker 2: slime ball move, like after a conversation, but like.
• 44:44
  Speaker 3: Well, if they already knew it.
• 44:45
  Speaker 2: Give me free rent.
• 44:46
  Speaker 3: Yeah, give it to me. But that's the end of
• 44:48
  Speaker 3: that story. And we got another one coming right up.
• 44:50
  Speaker 2: Yes, we do.
• 44:51
  Speaker 3: Oh boy.
• 44:52
  Speaker 2: Hey, it's Keon, your host with the cakes here. We're
• 44:54
  Speaker 2: going to get back to the stories, but here's three
• 44:56
  Speaker 2: minutes of ads from our sponsors. My roommate said I
• 45:00
  Speaker 2: was difficult to live with. He can't even take out
• 45:02
  Speaker 2: his own trash.
• 45:03
  Speaker 3: Look who's talking.
• 45:05
  Speaker 2: I've been in my rent-stabilized apartment for seven years. I
• 45:08
  Speaker 2: originally moved in as a subletter at the beginning of
• 45:10
  Speaker 2: a friend's lease. A year later, when we got the
• 45:13
  Speaker 2: renewal offer, my friend was moving away. I found someone
• 45:15
  Speaker 2: else to renew with, and the landlord rolled over my
• 45:18
  Speaker 2: friend's security deposit from the first lease onto our lease,
• 45:20
  Speaker 2: and I bought out my friend for her portion of
• 45:22
  Speaker 2: the deposit. By the way, this comes from user... Slow
• 45:25
  Speaker 2: Education 1982. And if you want to submit your own stories,
• 45:27
  Speaker 2: go to the r slash OKStoryTime subreddit. As Opie says,
• 45:30
  Speaker 2: at the time of the new lease, she signed a
• 45:32
  Speaker 2: document relinquishing ownership of the deposit to me. Since we
• 45:35
  Speaker 2: renewed two months before the end of the lease, it
• 45:37
  Speaker 2: was two months after relinquishing the deposit that I actually
• 45:40
  Speaker 2: paid her out. The roommate who replaced her was great,
• 45:42
  Speaker 2: but he left last year and I found a replacement
• 45:45
  Speaker 2: for him who turned out to be a complete nightmare.
• 45:48
  Speaker 3: No, you found a bad replacement.
• 45:51
  Speaker 2: Oh no, it's Freddy Krueger. No.
• 45:53
  Speaker 3: Oh, he would be a terrible roommate.
• 45:55
  Speaker 2: I won't get into specifics because that is a whole
• 45:58
  Speaker 2: other post, but it was a lot of gaslighting. Often
• 46:02
  Speaker 2: this tactic was used to defuse responsibility over apartment stuff
• 46:05
  Speaker 2: or to get out of paying something extra.
• 46:07
  Speaker 4: Owed.
• 46:08
  Speaker 2: Confusion and acting like he doesn't understand are his main tactics,
• 46:11
  Speaker 2: and it's exhausting. We just got the lease renewal offer,
• 46:14
  Speaker 2: and I've decided to not renew since he is on
• 46:16
  Speaker 2: the lease, and I can't force him off. It's not
• 46:19
  Speaker 2: worth fighting him over this place, and as sad as
• 46:21
  Speaker 2: I am to leave it, I think this makes the
• 46:23
  Speaker 2: most sense for me. Now he's about to re-sign the
• 46:25
  Speaker 2: lease with a new roommate. The security deposit process will
• 46:28
  Speaker 2: be like it was with my friend. In a few weeks,
• 46:30
  Speaker 2: I will have to relinquish ownership of it to him,
• 46:32
  Speaker 2: but I don't trust him enough to pay it to
• 46:34
  Speaker 2: me once I move out in a few months. would
• 46:37
  Speaker 2: I be the a-hole if I make him pay at
• 46:38
  Speaker 2: the same time I sign the document? I know he
• 46:40
  Speaker 2: won't be on board for this. I can already hear
• 46:42
  Speaker 2: his complaints. Whenever I continued on to this apartment without
• 46:45
  Speaker 2: the prior roommate, it was always my understanding I was
• 46:47
  Speaker 2: absorbing any sort of damage they may have caused. When
• 46:50
  Speaker 2: I leave, I'm sure he's going to make some executive
• 46:52
  Speaker 2: decision about how much should be taken out of the
• 46:54
  Speaker 2: deposit instead of giving me the full amount. The way
• 46:57
  Speaker 2: I see it is that this new person moving in
• 46:59
  Speaker 2: is essentially borrowing my security deposit to lock in their
• 47:02
  Speaker 2: new lease. This person gets to sign a lease without
• 47:05
  Speaker 2: paying anything until they move in. So before we get
• 47:08
  Speaker 2: into any more of this story, do you think Opie's
• 47:10
  Speaker 2: an a-hole for making, not making him, but like at
• 47:12
  Speaker 2: the time of signing the new lease?
• 47:15
  Speaker 3: Just saying, give me back my deposit.
• 47:16
  Speaker 2: You pay it up front rather than wait?
• 47:18
  Speaker 3: I mean, no, you don't like him.
• 47:19
  Speaker 4: Who cares if you're an a-hole to him?
• 47:21
  Speaker 2: I don't think it's even an a-hole move.
• 47:23
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't think it's either, but like who cares
• 47:24
  Speaker 3: what he thinks?
• 47:25
  Speaker 2: I think this is a smart move on you because
• 47:28
  Speaker 2: you know he's not going to do it. Or it's
• 47:31
  Speaker 2: not going to be paid in full. Because my roommate
• 47:33
  Speaker 2: and I aren't on good terms, I think I can
• 47:36
  Speaker 2: totally shut down the renewal process if I want to.
• 47:39
  Speaker 2: Rather than leave willingly, I just don't give them my
• 47:41
  Speaker 2: official notice that I'm leaving until after the date that
• 47:44
  Speaker 2: our offer expires. If it expires, he and this new
• 47:47
  Speaker 2: roommate will have to apply for this apartment again. They
• 47:50
  Speaker 2: can't just use our security deposit. I have the leverage here,
• 47:53
  Speaker 2: but I'm wondering, would I be able to use it?
• 47:56
  Speaker 2: And there's an update. I think it's a sly move
• 47:58
  Speaker 2: in this case because you know this roommate sucks.
• 48:01
  Speaker 3: I honestly, it's like sly or not. We don't like them.
• 48:06
  Speaker 2: They're not reliable.
• 48:07
  Speaker 3: Yeah, we don't. Who cares about upsetting him? Upset him.
• 48:10
  Speaker 2: This is your money.
• 48:11
  Speaker 3: Yeah, get your money.
• 48:12
  Speaker 2: Get your security deposit. I think this is totally fine.
• 48:16
  Speaker 2: Especially if it was like a good roommate and they
• 48:17
  Speaker 2: didn't cause you any issues. There's probably no reason for this.
• 48:20
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, like, hope he would just trust them.
• 48:22
  Speaker 2: But this guy is a scumbag.
• 48:24
  Speaker 3: Get that money. Update.
• 48:25
  Speaker 2: So, I posted about this roommate before. I didn't want
• 48:28
  Speaker 2: to sign over the security deposit from my name to
• 48:30
  Speaker 2: his until he paid me out for my share. He
• 48:32
  Speaker 2: originally agreed, but of course, his agreements mean nothing.
• 48:37
  Speaker 3: Dang.
• 48:37
  Speaker 2: And now he's trying to find ways out of paying
• 48:39
  Speaker 2: me before I sign over the deposit.
• 48:41
  Speaker 3: Well, there's your answer.
• 48:43
  Speaker 2: There you go. Give me my money and then I'll
• 48:45
  Speaker 2: sign the deposit.
• 48:45
  Speaker 3: You almost had it.
• 48:47
  Speaker 2: Oh, you almost had it. He also wants me to
• 48:49
  Speaker 2: move out before the end of the lease to make
• 48:51
  Speaker 2: it easier for the new roommate coming in. Not happening.
• 48:54
  Speaker 2: When I said no to this, he called me difficult.
• 48:57
  Speaker 3: You want to talk about difficult?
• 49:00
  Speaker 2: What difficulty are we talking about here? We're talking about easy, normal, hardened, veteran, impossible.
• 49:05
  Speaker 3: I can make it difficult.
• 49:06
  Speaker 2: He wants to assess any sort of damage so the
• 49:09
  Speaker 2: buyout of my security deposit is less than what I
• 49:11
  Speaker 2: put in. You already thought of this.
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 49:13
  Speaker 2: I've been here six years. I have not caused any
• 49:16
  Speaker 2: damage other than wear and tear. If this were a
• 49:19
  Speaker 2: normal lease ending... the landlords would not be docking the
• 49:21
  Speaker 2: deposit i've had roommates come and go it's a stabilized
• 49:23
  Speaker 2: apartment and every other roommate has understood they're inheriting the
• 49:26
  Speaker 2: apartment as is you aren't getting a deep clean and
• 49:30
  Speaker 2: new paint when you move in but if people continue
• 49:32
  Speaker 2: after you you also get your full deposit back This guy,
• 49:35
  Speaker 2: for whatever reason, thinks everything is catered to him. He
• 49:38
  Speaker 2: expects me to be inconvenienced to benefit him. And this
• 49:42
  Speaker 2: is a guy who can't even take out his own trash.
• 49:44
  Speaker 2: If I don't transfer the security deposit to the new lease,
• 49:47
  Speaker 2: I know that he and this new roommate can't move in.
• 49:49
  Speaker 2: They don't have enough to cover that. All I asked
• 49:51
  Speaker 2: was to pay me my portion of the deposit and
• 49:53
  Speaker 2: let me live out the end of my lease. We have...
• 49:56
  Speaker 2: two months left and I want to live in peace.
• 49:59
  Speaker 2: And he is not doing that. At this point, I
• 50:02
  Speaker 2: can say I'm not relinquishing the deposit at all. And
• 50:04
  Speaker 2: his new lease wouldn't be finalized. So he should be
• 50:06
  Speaker 2: kind of catering to you.
• 50:08
  Speaker 3: You have all the cards here.
• 50:10
  Speaker 2: I'm making the demands and the request, but I have
• 50:12
  Speaker 2: no powers.
• 50:13
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 50:13
  Speaker 3: You've got like, you've got the weapon and he's like,
• 50:16
  Speaker 3: you're going to give me all the money.
• 50:18
  Speaker 2: And you're like, no. Who are you?
• 50:20
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 50:21
  Speaker 2: What's going on?
• 50:22
  Speaker 3: Going on.
• 50:23
  Speaker 2: I want to do this to be petty, but I
• 50:24
  Speaker 2: also want to do this as some sort of protection
• 50:26
  Speaker 2: for myself for the next two months. If this is
• 50:29
  Speaker 2: how he treats me now, how is he going to
• 50:31
  Speaker 2: treat me once I don't have the leverage of the
• 50:33
  Speaker 2: deposit anymore? Good question.
• 50:35
  Speaker 3: Exactly.
• 50:36
  Speaker 2: So don't give him any leverage. Yeah. If I don't
• 50:39
  Speaker 2: sign it over, he doesn't get the deposit money until
• 50:41
  Speaker 2: after the lease. And ideally, that means he won't treat
• 50:43
  Speaker 2: me horribly in the final months of living here. There
• 50:46
  Speaker 2: is a little bit left here. I think you know
• 50:48
  Speaker 2: what to do, OP. You have hope. It's very easy.
• 50:51
  Speaker 2: Just don't give him any power.
• 50:52
  Speaker 3: Literally, it's just no.
• 50:54
  Speaker 2: It's just easy. No, I'm going to keep doing this.
• 50:57
  Speaker 2: You may think it's petty. You may think it's an
• 50:59
  Speaker 2: a-hole move, but this guy is an a-hole and he's
• 51:01
  Speaker 2: also petty. So you're playing on his level.
• 51:04
  Speaker 3: Petty with petty.
• 51:05
  Speaker 2: Tom Petty. I'm not considering signing anything over before I
• 51:09
  Speaker 2: get the money. That isn't happening. I am considering telling
• 51:12
  Speaker 2: him I won't relinquish the money at all and just
• 51:14
  Speaker 2: wait to get it from the landlord in two months.
• 51:16
  Speaker 2: Would ultimately prevent him from being able to sign the
• 51:19
  Speaker 2: new lease. We got a second update here.
• 51:21
  Speaker 4: Oh boy.
• 51:21
  Speaker 2: It better be.
• 51:22
  Speaker 3: I got my money.
• 51:23
  Speaker 2: I got my money and then I moved out and
• 51:26
  Speaker 2: I'm done with that guy and don't have to see
• 51:27
  Speaker 2: him ever again.
• 51:28
  Speaker 3: And now I live in a mansion.
• 51:30
  Speaker 2: I live in the clouds.
• 51:31
  Speaker 4: Yes.
• 51:32
  Speaker 2: Update number two. I've stayed strong on not sending the
• 51:34
  Speaker 2: letter until I get the payment. He's not handling it
• 51:37
  Speaker 2: well that there is nothing he can do and is
• 51:40
  Speaker 2: going personal. He's trying to gaslight me and say I'm
• 51:42
  Speaker 2: gaslighting him. Again, you're playing on his level.
• 51:44
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 51:45
  Speaker 2: He also said the reason all my old roommates left
• 51:47
  Speaker 2: is that I'm difficult to live with.
• 51:48
  Speaker 3: That's so funny.
• 51:50
  Speaker 2: Which is laughable.
• 51:51
  Speaker 3: That's so funny.
• 51:52
  Speaker 2: He's a comedian. I didn't know that.
• 51:53
  Speaker 3: You're a funny guy.
• 51:54
  Speaker 2: He doesn't know them. They are close friends who moved
• 51:56
  Speaker 2: for jobs or boyfriends. In their early years, one of
• 51:59
  Speaker 2: them stayed on the lease without living here just so
• 52:01
  Speaker 2: I could stay. Again, this guy has no power or
• 52:04
  Speaker 2: leverage over you. Everything he says is nothing.
• 52:07
  Speaker 3: Got no idea.
• 52:08
  Speaker 2: And you go, keep saying what you say. I still
• 52:10
  Speaker 2: have to sign the deposit.
• 52:11
  Speaker 3: Sorry.
• 52:12
  Speaker 2: I think that's the end of the story.
• 52:14
  Speaker 3: And that's that. I think you're fine, bud.
• 52:17
  Speaker 2: I think you're so good.
• 52:18
  Speaker 3: Truly, like, who cares about upsetting someone you don't like?
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  Speaker 2: All his words mean nothing. You're fine.
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  Speaker 4: Bye.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, sorry. That is the end of the story. And
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  Speaker 2: we have some comments now that we're going to read.
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  Speaker 4: These comments are from the story, My Stepdaughter Wants.
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  Speaker 3: Me to Be Daddy. Her dad is furious.
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  Speaker 4: And this was posted April 18th, 2026. And this is
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  Speaker 4: the TLDR for story three. Opie is a self-described neat
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  Speaker 4: freak mom who has always demanded her four kids keep
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  Speaker 4: their rooms spotless or right down to folding their clothes
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  Speaker 4: a very specific way. She'd read about a parenting trick
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  Speaker 4: where a mom would dump out messy drawers or so
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  Speaker 4: the kids would reorganize them the right way. And she'd
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  Speaker 4: been holding on to the idea for years. Then one day,
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  Speaker 4: she walked into her 16-year-old's room while the girl was
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  Speaker 4: on FaceTime with her boyfriend, spotted clothes shoved in a drawer,
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  Speaker 4: and started flinging everything onto the floor. Her daughter burst
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  Speaker 4: into tears, and by the next morning, there was a
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  Speaker 4: note on the bedroom door. If you're curious to know
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  Speaker 4: the full story, you can go watch the full video.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, wow. That sounded like a huge mess. And I'm
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  Speaker 2: not talking about the pile of clothes on the floor.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I remember that one.
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  Speaker 4: My mom would dump the laundry on our beds.
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  Speaker 3: That's different.
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  Speaker 4: If we didn't do like, if we didn't like clean
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  Speaker 4: up after ourselves, she would take it and put it.
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  Speaker 3: On our bed. That's different from the first thing too.
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  Speaker 3: Like dishes, schoolwork, whatever. If we just like left it somewhere,
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  Speaker 3: she'd just throw it on her bed. She's like, go
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  Speaker 3: sleep in it then. Yeah. And I learned not to
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  Speaker 3: do that. Michelle Brickner says, Story 3, OP's daughter in
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  Speaker 3: five years, and that's why I only own three shirts,
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  Speaker 3: three pairs of pants, and three pairs of underwear.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, dang.
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  Speaker 3: Bomb.com says, Immediately the a-hole. The clothes stuffed in a
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  Speaker 3: drawer is only an inconvenience to the kid. It's ridiculous
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  Speaker 3: to create a mess to solve an issue like this.
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  Speaker 3: They remind me so much of my own mom, who
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  Speaker 3: would mess up my bookshelf, throw my clothes and stuffed
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  Speaker 3: animals out of their place, then make me clean up
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  Speaker 3: the mess how she liked it to be done. All
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  Speaker 3: it did for me was create anxiety and aversion to
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  Speaker 3: doing those tasks as I got older, because if they
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  Speaker 3: weren't done right, they'd be ruined. So I had to
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  Speaker 3: try again. Sherbert says, OP sounds like my nasty third
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  Speaker 3: foster mom. And Avery Swamp Mystic says, this something my
• 54:29
  Speaker 3: parents always did was apologize to us when they felt
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  Speaker 3: they made mistakes. They were firm in some ways, but
• 54:34
  Speaker 3: they were kind and loving always. They would be real
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  Speaker 3: with us in a pretty healthy way. This taught us
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  Speaker 3: empathy pretty decently, I think. They value mental health, too.
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  Speaker 3: I have an incredibly positive opinion on my parents and upbringing.
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  Speaker 3: The way Riley describes his mom and dad is very
• 54:47
  Speaker 3: similar to how I would describe my own, actually.
• 54:50
  Speaker 2: He's here.
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  Speaker 3: He's back.
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  Speaker 2: I knew I smelled New York in here. I smell
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  Speaker 2: New York. I knew I smelled a New York slice
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  Speaker 2: in here.
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  Speaker 3: But that's the end of those comments and the end
• 54:59
  Speaker 3: of the episode.
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  Speaker 2: And see you tomorrow.