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Rise Above It All: Choose Peace Over Pettiness · R.E.A.L. Talk for REAL L.Y.F.E.

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  Welcome to Real Talk for Real Life, where we're realizing everyone is always
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  learning and living your full experience.
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  I'm your host, Coach C, and this is Season 4, Episode 5, Above It All.
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  Today's episode is called Above It All.
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  Now, before anybody gets it twisted, this isn't about acting superior.
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  This isn't about looking down on people. This isn't about walking around like
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  you're too good for anybody.
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  That's not what I'm talking about.
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  I'm talking about having enough wisdom to recognize what deserves your energy and what doesn't.
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  At the end of the day, we have to learn to be above it all.
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  You've heard people say, that's above my pay grade, or it's above me now.
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  One of my favorite coaching reminders is simply this, rise above it all.
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  Real talk, if we're ever going to triumph over our triggers,
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  we've got to learn not to respond to everything that invites us.
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  Because every invitation doesn't deserve your RSVP.
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  Can I say that again? Every invitation doesn't deserve your RSVP.
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  Every argument, every opinion, every rumor, every comment, every text message,
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  every social media post, every opportunity to prove somebody wrong.
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  You don't have to attend every battle that has your name on it.
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  Here's the truth. Some of us are exhausted, not because life is heavy,
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  but because we're carrying conversations, offenses, comparisons,
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  and distractions that never belonged to us in the first place.
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  Somebody says something sideways. We carry it for three days.
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  Somebody gets promoted.
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  Now we're questioning our own journey.
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  Somebody unfollows us. Now we're wondering if we're enough.
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  Somebody misunderstands us. Now we're rehearsing imaginary conversations in the shower.
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  We descended into places our purpose never asked us to visit.
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  Can I challenge your thinking? Not everything deserves your response.
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  Sometimes the greatest response is your continued obedience.
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  You know why eagles don't spend their time chasing flies?
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  Because they're built for different altitudes. Now, don't hear arrogance in that. Hear wisdom.
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  When God is elevating your perspective, you can't afford to keep circling conversations
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  that only pull you lower.
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  Sometimes people aren't trying to steal your peace.
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  They're simply operating from the only perspective they know.
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  You don't have to join them there. Here's something I've learned.
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  If it isn't helping you become, it may very well be beneath you.
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  Not beneath you because you're better, beneath you because your purpose requires something different.
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  Bitterness? Beneath your purpose. Constant comparison? Beneath your purpose.
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  Pettiness? Beneath your purpose. Living offended? Beneath your purpose.
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  Fear making every decision? Beneath your purpose.
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  You were created to live at the mercy of every emotion that knocks on your door.
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  You were created to lead your emotions, not let them lead you.
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  Listen, there will always be distractions, always.
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  The question is whether you'll confuse activity with assignment.
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  Because being busy isn't the same as being effective, and reacting isn't the same as responding.
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  Sometimes elevation simply looks like saying, no thanks.
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  I'm not engaging. I'm not explaining. I'm not defending. I'm not chasing.
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  I'm not competing.
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  I'm not carrying that. Not because you're weak, but because you become wise.
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  Jesus himself didn't answer every accusation. He didn't correct every misunderstanding.
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  He didn't respond to every critic.
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  Sometimes silence wasn't avoidance.
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  It was alignment. What if the
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  peace you've been praying for isn't waiting for life to become quieter?
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  What if it's waiting for you to stop giving your attention to everything beneath
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  your assignment? Remember this.
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  The quickest way to lose your altitude is to entertain things that were never
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  meant to occupy your attention.
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  Rise above the offense, above the comparison, above the fear,
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  above the distraction, above the pettiness.
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  Not because you're trying to be greater than people, but because you're becoming
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  more like the person God created you to be.
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  That's your real talk for today. Keep learning, keep living,
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  and whenever life tries to pull you down, rise above it all.
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  Here's your fearless homework. This week, I want you to perform an altitude audit.
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  Ask yourself these five questions what has been occupying my mind that doesn't
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  deserve a permanent residence there,
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  Who or what consistently pulls me out of peace and into pettiness,
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  comparison, fear, or offense?
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  What argument, disappointment, or distraction have I been carrying that God never asked me to hold?
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  Before I react this week, I'm going to ask, Will responding to this move me
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  closer to my purpose or further away from it?
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  Choose one thing to rise above this week.
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  Maybe it's the need to have the last word. Maybe it's comparing yourself to
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  someone else's timeline.
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  Maybe it's replaying an old offense.
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  Maybe it's proving yourself to people who have already made up their minds.
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  Then end each day with this declaration.
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  Today, I choose purpose over pettiness, peace over proving, and wisdom over reaction.
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  I refuse to come down from the place God is calling me to because something
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  below me demanded my attention.
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  Remember this, elevation isn't measured by how high you climb.
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  It's revealed by what you no longer have to stoop down and carry.
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  This is Real Talk, where we're realizing everyone is always learning and living your full experience.
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  This is Coach C. I'll see you in the next one.