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Season 3 - Episode 338 - Debriefing your mind chatter! · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermindset
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the house because it's freezing
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  and dark and I cannot get out there in time before I need to
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  get this out to everybody. So we are talking today about
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  making sure you don't keep all that mind chatter in your head.
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  This is a very important time of the year as we enter into the
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  end of it where there's obviously stressors around us
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  about getting things done, dealing with people, so many
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  different varieties of things, trying to check off the last
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  things of the To Do List, whatever it might be.
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  It really doesn't matter. But what matters is what you're
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  telling yourself. What matters is the story that
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  you're sticking to. What matters is listening to the
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  mind chatter, because that is the key.
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  When you can listen to your mind chatter and you can hear what
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  all those different emotions are telling you, you understand why
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  you're acting and feeling the way that you are acting and
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  feeling. The key is always stopping and
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  pausing and saying, What is that?
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  What is that saying? What is the reason that keeps
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  showing up? What is that trying to tell me?
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  It's best to refrain from asking why, Like, why am I doing this?
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  That used to be my favorite thing to ask myself, why am I
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  doing this? Why am I having anxiety?
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  Well, the answer to that immediately in my head was
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  always because that's what you do.
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  You, you're anxious. And then that was an excuse.
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  It, it gave me permission to have the excuse of saying I have
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  anxiety. So it became my identity and
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  that mind chatter took over and it drove everything.
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  Instead, when you ask the what question, when you stop and
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  pause and say, OK, what is the reason this is showing up right
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  now? You get a different answer.
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  It's showing up because I have all these things to do.
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  OK, yes, I understand we have all these things to do.
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  Is there a better way to handle this?
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  Is there a better way to approach this?
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  What other ways can we handle this?
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  What other ways can we leverage things out?
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  What other ways can we divide the list?
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  You can ask different questions to get control.
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  And it all comes back to one simple factor, my friends.
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  It comes back to can you hear the cat crying because she wants
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  to go on the porch and it's too cold?
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  In any event, you it all comes back to one simple thing,
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  understanding what emotion you're speaking to and what mind
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  chatter is there. What is that mind chatter that's
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  showing up? I cannot stress this enough.
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  If you can understand the emotion and the chatter it's
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  giving you, then you can have a conversation with it to detangle
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  it. But you have to understand the
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  emotion and then you can understand the chatter.
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  So think of it like this. If you are trying to discern
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  something and you're in a conversation with a child, OK,
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  let's say you're talking to a 2 year old at this moment and
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  you're trying to figure out what they're crying for.
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  And they're crying and they're hysterical.
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  Their emotions are high and they're hysterical and they're
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  too. So they're not having lots of
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  language to work with, but they have lots of emotion.
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  You have a different response to that child than you do if that
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  child is 10 and the 10 year old has more emotion.
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  So it's under control and more words to come at you with so
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  that you can help them. So think of your emotions the
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  same way. You have to know who you're
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  dealing with. So I know when I'm dealing with
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  anxiety in my head, sometimes she's like a 2 year old.
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  She doesn't use the best language and she is often high
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  in emotion out of control. So I know when I feel that
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  anxiety, I have to immediately have that conversation to say,
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  OK, what do I need to do before she gets out of control and the
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  emotion gets even bigger. I also know that my certainty
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  girls like dealing with a 10 year old.
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  Let's use that example because she has more words and she has
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  more of an ability to talk to me about it.
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  And when you and you can listen to that chatter and discern it.
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  So when you hear when I hear the blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, I
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  know I'm dealing with a 2 year old and I have to handle it
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  quickly. I have to get it under control.
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  Otherwise I'm going to be that person in the middle of Target
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  with somebody on the floor freaking out.
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  Like what happens when a toddler takes a fit and you don't want
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  that. So discerning your mind chatter
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  is going to change is a game changer, especially going into
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  the stressful end of the year. Put a pin in the fact that
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  you're going to make notes on the this mind chatter.
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  You're going to listen to what you're saying to yourself
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  because that gives you all the clues that gives you what you
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  need to know. And then you can go on from
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  there. You can make massive shifts and
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  changes and pace yourself. Now, do you have to keep
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  switching emotions? Yes.
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  You've heard me say this a million times.
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  Yes, you do. They come and go quickly.
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  But that's the reason we do this.
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  That's the reason I am here all the time doing these episodes
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  for you because you need to stay on top of it.
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  So today, discern your mind chatter.
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  This week, discern your mind chatter.
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  This month, discern your mind chatter moving forward.
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  Keep doing it, but now critical to your success the end of this
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  year. All right, my friends, I hope
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  you have a blessed day and I will see you all tomorrow.
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  Bye.