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I let my in-laws live RENT FREE in my home… they pushed my parents to a hotel! -r/AmITheAsshole | Reddit Stories | EP3107 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 2: I let my in-laws live rent free in my home
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  Speaker 2: and they pushed my parents into a hotel.
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  Speaker 3: Well, I'm pushing them out of this house.
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  Speaker 2: My 36 female parents and I own a property in
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  Speaker 2: a tier one Asian city that has been in our
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  Speaker 2: family for three generations now.
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  Speaker 4: Tier one Asian city.
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  Speaker 3: Tier one Asian city.
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  Speaker 1: Shanghai.
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  Speaker 4: I'm going Hong Kong.
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  Speaker 2: My parents were considering selling it a while back, but
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  Speaker 2: I bought them out. Though I paid lower than market price,
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  Speaker 2: my parents were happy with the deal. and they still
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  Speaker 2: have a place to stay when they come back. Usually
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  Speaker 2: the property is being rented out, but my husband's younger
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  Speaker 2: brother fell on hard times, and we offered to let
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  Speaker 2: them temporarily stay at the property rent-free so they can
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  Speaker 2: save up.
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  Speaker 1: They've been there for the past two years. Have they
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  Speaker 1: been saving?
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  Speaker 3: That's too long. You've got to put some sort of rule, agreement,
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  Speaker 3: contract that says, hey, you've got to be out by now.
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  Speaker 3: Two years is too long.
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  Speaker 2: Is he still jobless?
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  Speaker 3: Do they have any money?
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  Speaker 1: What are they doing?
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  Speaker 2: Whenever we've gone back to visit, usually once a year
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  Speaker 2: for two weeks, I've had to specifically request that they
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  Speaker 2: temporarily vacate the primary bedroom. They hemmed and hawed the
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  Speaker 2: first time until my husband, 38, reminded them that we
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  Speaker 2: were doing them a favor. This year we are not
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  Speaker 2: going back, but my parents are. I gave them a
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  Speaker 2: half year heads up on the dates my parents were going.
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  Speaker 1: And it all seemed fine.
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  Speaker 2: Last week, I got a call from my parents saying
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  Speaker 2: they were staying in a hotel. Apparently, they arrived and
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  Speaker 2: my brother-in-law and sister-in-law said they were hosting friends and
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  Speaker 2: the only space available was the home office with a
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  Speaker 2: pull-out couch. My parents are in their 70s and did
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  Speaker 2: not want to fight them after a long flight and
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  Speaker 2: also did not want to antagonize my relationship with my
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  Speaker 2: in-law's So they decided to just move themselves to a hotel.
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  Speaker 3: I'm Sophia.
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  Speaker 4: I'm Keon.
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  Speaker 2: And we are here to read this story and have
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  Speaker 2: our thoughts. And you get to have yours in the comments.
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  Speaker 2: And we all get to get along and.
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  Speaker 1: Have a wonderful time getting along. Always. So I was furious.
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  Speaker 4: And fast.
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  Speaker 1: Typing this, I am still furious.
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  Speaker 4: And fast.
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  Speaker 2: I told my husband that he should be the one
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  Speaker 2: to handle this because no one would like the way
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  Speaker 2: I handle it. My husband basically told his brother that
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  Speaker 2: he's done and he needed to move out immediately.
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  Speaker 1: Nice. And that's what we do.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. The second they disrespect the fact that you guys
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  Speaker 3: have been housing them for two years for free, they're gone.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Get him out of here. Get him out of here.
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  Speaker 4: Get him out of here.
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  Speaker 3: This should have been gone after maybe six months at
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  Speaker 3: the most.
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  Speaker 2: My brother-in-law and sister-in-law texted me and left me voice
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  Speaker 2: notes calling me a bunch of names.
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  Speaker 1: That'll make you change your mind.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I just text them. I let you live for
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  Speaker 3: free for two years. If you say anything, I'm taking
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  Speaker 3: you to court. I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: Taking you to court.
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  Speaker 2: Taking you out back and I'm dunking on you.
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  Speaker 4: Take you to court.
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  Speaker 1: Take me to court.
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  Speaker 2: My in-laws have called me begging me to reconsider and
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  Speaker 2: to give them grace. You already gave them two years worth. Frankly,
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  Speaker 2: I don't really care what happens to brother and sister-in-law anymore.
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  Speaker 2: I haven't responded to any messages, and I am just
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  Speaker 2: letting my husband handle it.
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  Speaker 1: And there is an update.
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  Speaker 3: That's exactly what you should be doing. That's not your problem.
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  Speaker 2: It's not their problem. They had no problem. You were
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  Speaker 2: preventing their problems.
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  Speaker 3: They had the best deal ever. For two years, and
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  Speaker 3: then they squandered that. They probably could have gotten away
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  Speaker 3: with living there for a long time if they had
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  Speaker 3: just acquiesced to OP's rules, OP and her husband's rules.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's all it took.
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  Speaker 3: Couldn't have been there for four years.
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  Speaker 1: Update, brief update.
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  Speaker 2: My husband ended handling the situation and had to take
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  Speaker 2: time off to travel back, which he was not pleased about.
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  Speaker 2: We had decided it was prudent for us to pay
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  Speaker 2: for a few months of alternative housing for them as
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  Speaker 2: a way to cover all our bases, and I'm so
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  Speaker 2: glad we did. I had, in a fit of temper,
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  Speaker 2: jokingly said to husband that they were going to tell
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  Speaker 2: us they couldn't move out because they're pregnant, and lo
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  Speaker 2: and behold, when brother-in-law used that excuse, apparently it just
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  Speaker 2: set my husband off. This is a man that has
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  Speaker 2: never raised his voice to me above an excited rambling.
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  Speaker 2: I think the rage he went into genuinely... scared his family.
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  Speaker 1: Get him out. Get him out. Put him in the woods.
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  Speaker 1: I used to put people in the pit. I used
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  Speaker 1: to put people in the ocean. Now I'm putting people
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  Speaker 1: in the woods.
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  Speaker 3: You're running for your life, child above.
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  Speaker 2: Brother-in-law and sister-in-law are now situated in the alternative housing.
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  Speaker 2: My in-laws call my parents to apologize and overall the
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  Speaker 2: whole atmosphere is tense. But at least brother and sister-in-law
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  Speaker 2: are no longer living in my house, and we can
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  Speaker 2: have peace of mind there. All in all, through this experience,
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  Speaker 2: I feel incredible love and pride.
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  Speaker 1: To have married my husband.
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  Speaker 2: I married this straight-off-the-boat dude based on his principles, integrity,
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  Speaker 2: and kindness. And time and time again, he's shown me
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  Speaker 2: why I have zero regrets over it. Boom.
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  Speaker 1: That's the end of that story.
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  Speaker 3: Boom diggity. Look at you go up here. You got
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  Speaker 3: them out of your house. And now you have a
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  Speaker 3: nice house that you can go hang out in. And
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  Speaker 3: they will not bother you.
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  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story. Let's head to
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  Speaker 1: the next one.
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  Speaker 2: A stranger matched with me on an ancestry test and
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  Speaker 2: turned out to be my son.
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  Speaker 3: Guess he's not much of a stranger anymore.
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  Speaker 1: My wife, 45 female, and I, 45 male, have three kids.
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  Speaker 1: 19 male, 18 male, 11 female.
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  Speaker 2: My 18-year-old son is Blake. He's not me or my
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  Speaker 2: wife's biological son. He's my best friend's son.
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  Speaker 1: Wow.
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  Speaker 2: My best friend tragically passed away when Blake was seven.
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  Speaker 2: My best friend was like a brother and he was
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  Speaker 2: a single father. My wife and I ended up getting
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  Speaker 2: legal guardianship of Blake after my best friend passed away
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  Speaker 2: and Blake was seven. We got guardianship of Blake for
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  Speaker 2: a lot of reasons, but that isn't my story to tell.
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  Speaker 2: That's Blake's story, so I will not go into detail.
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  Speaker 2: But Blake is my son. I will always respect and
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  Speaker 2: honor his biological father, but Blake views me as his
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  Speaker 2: dad and he views my wife as his mom. My
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  Speaker 2: other kids, 19 male, 11 female, are his siblings. Things
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  Speaker 2: have not been easy, but Blake has grown into an
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  Speaker 2: amazing man that I am so proud of.
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  Speaker 1: A little backstory.
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  Speaker 2: My wife and I broke up like six weeks after
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  Speaker 2: our oldest son, Danny, was born because the stress of
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  Speaker 2: parenthood was driving me and my wife apart.
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  Speaker 1: We were not married at the time.
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  Speaker 2: So we went off and lived our own lives as
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  Speaker 2: single people for about a year. I was of course
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  Speaker 2: still an involved father towards my oldest son. During the
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  Speaker 2: beginning of me and my wife's breakup, when Danny was
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  Speaker 2: maybe four months old, I met a woman who was
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  Speaker 2: a lot older than me, Lily.
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  Speaker 1: Me and Lily were never a couple.
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  Speaker 2: We met up a few times and never spoke to
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  Speaker 2: each other after that. By the way, this comes from MajesticB7045.
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  Speaker 2: If you want to submit your own stories, go to
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  Speaker 2: the r slash OKStoryTime subreddit.
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  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
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  Speaker 3: I'm Sophia.
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  Speaker 1: And we're going to read this story.
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  Speaker 2: We're going to have our goofy little pieces of advice,
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  Speaker 2: and you can put yours down in the comments, and
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  Speaker 2: we can all get along and have a wonderful time.
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  Speaker 1: And OP says, Lily has a son, James.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, you're a Harry Potter fan.
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  Speaker 4: Mm-hmm.
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  Speaker 2: Apparently, she thought James was the son of Lily's husband,
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  Speaker 2: who she's still with to this day, despite the fact
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  Speaker 2: Lily cheated on her husband.
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  Speaker 1: I had no clue she was married, by the way.
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  Speaker 2: James took an ancestry test when he turned 18, had
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  Speaker 2: some results that didn't quite match who he thought was
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  Speaker 2: his biological father. He matched with me on ancestry because
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  Speaker 2: I took a test a few years back. James got
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  Speaker 2: in contact, which obviously was a shock to me, but
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  Speaker 2: my wife and I have welcomed him into our family
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  Speaker 2: with open arms.
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  Speaker 1: It's great.
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  Speaker 2: Now I have four kids, 19 male, 18 male, 18 male,
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  Speaker 2: 11 female. I'm still figuring out my father-son dynamic with James,
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  Speaker 2: but he is a great guy, and I'm so happy
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  Speaker 2: he's part of our lives now, despite how confusing this
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  Speaker 2: whole situation was at first. But James seems to have
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  Speaker 2: some issues with Blake.
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  Speaker 3: Ruh-roh.
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  Speaker 2: Classic. The two adopted kids are fighting, but one of
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  Speaker 2: them's not really adopted.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like, no, I'm adopted. It's like, well, I was...
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  Speaker 3: I mean, I never knew him until I was an adult,
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  Speaker 3: but I am his actual bio son.
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  Speaker 1: No, they're fighting over who's the adopted child.
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  Speaker 4: Oh.
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  Speaker 2: Someone to be a rival with for all time. Blake
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  Speaker 2: does not know. I'm not entirely sure why James seems
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  Speaker 2: to resent Blake. Earlier today, James asked me if we
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  Speaker 2: could go on a father-son camping trip with Danny. I was,
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  Speaker 2: of course, very much enthusiastic about a camping trip with
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  Speaker 2: my sons, especially since I missed so much of James's life,
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  Speaker 2: but I obviously mentioned that Blake is invited, too.
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  Speaker 1: And James got annoyed.
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  Speaker 3: James is jealous. You took in Blake at seven years
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  Speaker 3: old and James, who in his eyes is like, well,
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  Speaker 3: I'm your bio son and I haven't seen you at
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  Speaker 3: all my whole life.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't know about you, though, dude. Exactly.
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  Speaker 3: But he's a young kid.
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  Speaker 1: He's what, 18, 19?
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  Speaker 3: Mm hmm. He's young. He's jealous.
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  Speaker 2: He kept telling me that Blake doesn't have to be
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  Speaker 2: invited to everything. Then he told me that it would
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  Speaker 2: be nice for me to just spend time with my
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  Speaker 2: actual sons for once without Blake.
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  Speaker 1: Now that.
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  Speaker 3: You just got here, James. We can't be saying these things.
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  Speaker 1: He's spreading out those elbows and knees. He's making himself
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  Speaker 1: real comfy in this place. He sure is.
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  Speaker 2: Now that annoyed me. Blake is my son just as
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  Speaker 2: much as Danny and James are. So I told James
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  Speaker 2: that either Blake is invited or the camping trip's not happening.
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  Speaker 2: James is now accusing me of loving Blake more than
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  Speaker 2: I love him, so am I overreacting?
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  Speaker 3: Episode of Full House where one of the girls is like,
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  Speaker 3: you're always favoring the younger one over me.
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  Speaker 1: What was that show? This Is Us, I think. This
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  Speaker 1: Is Us.
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  Speaker 3: It's just the life lesson, the moral of the story
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  Speaker 3: is going to be OP sitting James down and saying, hey, bud,
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  Speaker 3: I know it's been tough for you. I know it's
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  Speaker 3: all new, but we're a family here. You, me, Blake, simpatico.
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  Speaker 2: It would probably be a good idea to do some
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  Speaker 2: one-on-one just to set the record straight.
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  Speaker 1: We got some comments.
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  Speaker 2: Coxel Anonymy says, it's great that you're welcoming this new
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  Speaker 2: addition with open arms, but what do the people who
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  Speaker 2: raised him, Lily and stepdad, think or say or act
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  Speaker 2: about it? How does your wife feel about it? After
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  Speaker 2: such a monumental discovery about his existence, is James an
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  Speaker 2: individual therapy and has he been given avenues to process
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  Speaker 2: emotions or feelings in a healthy way? OP says, Lily
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  Speaker 2: says she genuinely didn't know James was my son, but
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  Speaker 2: I don't really speak to her.
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  Speaker 1: James is an adult.
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  Speaker 2: He contacts me and I have no reason to contact
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  Speaker 2: his mother apart from my initial conversation with Lily. asking
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  Speaker 2: why she didn't tell me. Hey, that's the dumbest thing
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  Speaker 2: I've heard in this story so far. You don't have
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  Speaker 2: anything to ask Lily about your son that she raised
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  Speaker 2: for eight years?
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  Speaker 1: Really? You don't think there's anything relevant y'all could talk about?
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  Speaker 3: That's a good point.
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  Speaker 2: I think Lily and her husband are in a bad
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  Speaker 2: spot right now with their marriage. My wife, bless her heart,
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  Speaker 2: has been incredibly understanding. Of course, this was difficult for her,
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  Speaker 2: but she seems to be handling the situation well.
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  Speaker 1: Huntress145 says.
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  Speaker 2: Have you asked James how the man he thought was
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  Speaker 2: his father is treating him now? Opie says James is
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  Speaker 2: kind of reserved about that topic. I know he had
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  Speaker 2: a good bond with the man he thought was his
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  Speaker 2: father for years, but based on how reserved James is
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  Speaker 2: about the topic now, I would assume Lily's husband has
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  Speaker 2: been acting distant.
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  Speaker 1: Uh, germ... Grimflick? Germfunkle. Yes.
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  Speaker 2: Sorry for the questions, but I am confused. Did something
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  Speaker 2: happen that caused James to have to come live with you?
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  Speaker 2: Was he not raised by his mom's husband as his father?
• 12:11
  Speaker 2: Does James have a good relationship with his mom and
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  Speaker 2: her husband? Everyone else is focused on his relationship with
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  Speaker 2: you and Blake, but what is the nature of his
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  Speaker 2: relationship with the people that raised him? By the way,
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  Speaker 2: you're not the a-hole. Yeah, buddy, I think something happened.
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  Speaker 2: I think it came to light that that wasn't his kid.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and then he walked away.
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  Speaker 1: We actually don't live too far apart.
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  Speaker 2: James has been staying with us more because Lily and
• 12:34
  Speaker 2: Lily's husband have been arguing a lot because of the situation.
• 12:38
  Speaker 2: What is the Brendan Lee Mulligan quote about laws just
• 12:40
  Speaker 2: being threats of violence?
• 12:42
  Speaker 3: Laws are just the threat against... I actually don't know
• 12:44
  Speaker 3: if I... But yes, I know what you're talking about.
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  Speaker 1: This arguing has gone on for months.
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  Speaker 2: James feels resentment towards his mom right now, and I
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  Speaker 2: get the impression that Lily's husband didn't react well to
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  Speaker 2: James not being his biological son. Although James isn't exactly
• 12:59
  Speaker 2: telling me much about the situation. Major specific, 127. Why
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  Speaker 2: were you not using protection when you already had an
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  Speaker 2: infant baby you were responsible for? Are any more surprise
• 13:10
  Speaker 2: children from your year of fun going to show.
• 13:12
  Speaker 1: Up on your doorstep?
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  Speaker 2: You should appreciate a wife who will keep rolling with
• 13:16
  Speaker 2: all this. Also, I hope you consider how all these
• 13:19
  Speaker 2: changes impact your daughter and give her some extra time too.
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  Speaker 3: That was an entirely unhelpful comment.
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  Speaker 1: It's too late. Except for the last part.
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  Speaker 3: Except for the last part.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. OP says, my wife broke up with me.
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  Speaker 4: Oh.
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  Speaker 2: I will be honest and admit that I was not
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  Speaker 2: the best partner to my wife at the time.
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  Speaker 1: We went to therapy and we have gotten through that.
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  Speaker 2: I will always own up to the fact that I
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  Speaker 2: was not the best man I could have been at
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  Speaker 2: that time.
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  Speaker 1: My wife is amazing. I will never take her for
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  Speaker 1: granted again. And there's an update.
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  Speaker 2: Folks, are we going to get a James versus Blake
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  Speaker 2: wrestling duel to find out who's really.
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  Speaker 3: Who's the best child? Who's your favorite child, me or Blake?
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  Speaker 1: Who's on top?
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  Speaker 3: King of the hill type showdown. Whoever stays on top
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  Speaker 3: of the hill is your son.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm good with that.
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  Speaker 2: I'm good with turning this into like a feat of strength.
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  Speaker 2: To answer a few questions I saw, Lily and her
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  Speaker 2: husband have been arguing the past three months since James
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  Speaker 2: found out I'm his biological father. James never told me
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  Speaker 2: specifically how Lily's husband reacted, but I have a feeling
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  Speaker 2: that the reaction was not good.
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  Speaker 3: I favored a guess. I'd agree. I think they were
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  Speaker 3: just arguing a bunch and James was like, I don't
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  Speaker 3: want to be around this.
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  Speaker 2: Prior to James doing an ancestry DNA test, Lily's husband
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  Speaker 2: was a great father to him. James did not live
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  Speaker 2: with us full time, but he often stayed at our
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  Speaker 2: house to get away from the arguing.
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  Speaker 1: And now on to the update.
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  Speaker 2: After I made that post yesterday, Blake came and spoke
• 14:40
  Speaker 2: to me about some incidents that have happened with James
• 14:43
  Speaker 2: the past three months. Unfortunately, James has some views that
• 14:46
  Speaker 2: our family does not agree with. And Blake was a
• 14:48
  Speaker 2: target of those views, leading to some really rude interactions
• 14:51
  Speaker 2: the past few months. The only reason Blake told me
• 14:53
  Speaker 2: now is because he heard from James that James did
• 14:56
  Speaker 2: not want to invite Blake on the camping trip. Blake
• 14:59
  Speaker 2: had tried to keep the peace these past three months,
• 15:01
  Speaker 2: bless him. Obviously, I was angry at hearing how James
• 15:04
  Speaker 2: had treated Blake. So I spoke to James this morning
• 15:07
  Speaker 2: and confronted him about this topic. He didn't even deny
• 15:10
  Speaker 2: his views. He tried to convince me that I should
• 15:13
  Speaker 2: boot Blake out.
• 15:14
  Speaker 1: Of the house.
• 15:15
  Speaker 2: I don't think this is the full reason he dislikes Blake,
• 15:17
  Speaker 2: but this doesn't help James's resentment. As of right now,
• 15:20
  Speaker 2: I have told James he's not welcome back in my
• 15:22
  Speaker 2: house while he still holds these views. Nor am I
• 15:25
  Speaker 2: interested in informing a father-son bond with somebody who has
• 15:30
  Speaker 2: these views.
• 15:31
  Speaker 1: Conspiracy. Yeah, he's like, he's got straight hair.
• 15:35
  Speaker 3: Straight hair. I hate straight hair. Disgusting.
• 15:40
  Speaker 2: If and when James matures a bit, he will be
• 15:43
  Speaker 2: welcomed into our lives again, but not right now.
• 15:46
  Speaker 1: Let's see how this story ends.
• 15:47
  Speaker 2: Oh boy. Blake deserves to feel that his home is
• 15:50
  Speaker 2: a safe space. James is not welcome back here. I'm
• 15:54
  Speaker 2: taking Danny and Blake on the camping trip because they
• 15:56
  Speaker 2: do still want to go camping. I have empathy for
• 15:59
  Speaker 2: James's family situation, but at the end of the day,
• 16:01
  Speaker 2: I don't tolerate those views in my life. This was
• 16:04
  Speaker 2: not the update I wanted to give, but that is
• 16:06
  Speaker 2: the situation.
• 16:08
  Speaker 1: And that is the end of that story. Good for you.
• 16:10
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 16:10
  Speaker 1: Good for you protecting your son.
• 16:12
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I think James needs to learn that to be
• 16:15
  Speaker 3: welcome into your home, he has to respect you and
• 16:18
  Speaker 3: your family. Even if he is your biological son, you
• 16:21
  Speaker 3: can't just get away with saying anything.
• 16:23
  Speaker 1: Yeah, truly. And that's the end of this story. Let's
• 16:26
  Speaker 1: head to the next one.
• 16:28
  Speaker 3: I pay my parents' mortgage, but my mother told me
• 16:30
  Speaker 3: to move out.
• 16:31
  Speaker 1: Hey, I paid for this place, Ma.
• 16:33
  Speaker 3: I genuinely cannot tell if I'm the A or not.
• 16:36
  Speaker 3: Most of my family seems to think I am, but
• 16:39
  Speaker 3: I feel as though they don't know why I feel
• 16:40
  Speaker 3: this way. I, 22 female, live with my parents. I
• 16:44
  Speaker 3: also pay $ 1, 200 in rent, which covers their mortgage.
• 16:47
  Speaker 1: That's pretty steep parent rent.
• 16:50
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I would move out.
• 16:52
  Speaker 2: Did you know you can just live somewhere for.
• 16:57
  Speaker 1: $ 1, 200?
• 16:57
  Speaker 3: And maybe less.
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: I mean, I guess it depends on where you live, but.
• 17:01
  Speaker 3: And we have a lease agreement signed and notarized. Everything
• 17:04
  Speaker 3: for the most part is fine, except when they try
• 17:06
  Speaker 3: acting like I'm still a child. I can easily brush
• 17:09
  Speaker 3: this off because I'm their youngest and they will always
• 17:12
  Speaker 3: feel this way about me. About two weeks ago, my
• 17:14
  Speaker 3: mom has told me she was having my niece's party
• 17:17
  Speaker 3: at her house. I was excited in the beginning because
• 17:20
  Speaker 3: I absolutely love my niece. My mom's history with having
• 17:24
  Speaker 3: parties at her house is about a 50-50 chance that
• 17:26
  Speaker 3: people will fight or everything will be fun. Oh, it's
• 17:29
  Speaker 3: not a Great odds there.
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: I'll take those odds.
• 17:34
  Speaker 3: My dad was a little bit irritated that she told
• 17:36
  Speaker 3: everyone that my niece's party was going to be here,
• 17:39
  Speaker 3: but he quickly got over it. Last week, my mom
• 17:42
  Speaker 3: came to me saying that they didn't have any extra
• 17:45
  Speaker 3: money for the party. I think you can see where
• 17:48
  Speaker 3: this is going. So she asked if I could pitch in.
• 17:52
  Speaker 3: I asked about how much she needed and she said
• 17:54
  Speaker 3: about $ 500. I told her I'd give her $ 250 because
• 17:58
  Speaker 3: my dad would get paid two days later. She said
• 18:00
  Speaker 3: that she couldn't buy everything she needed with $ 250. And
• 18:04
  Speaker 3: $ 500 might not even cover everything. For your niece's birthday?
• 18:07
  Speaker 2: Time to buy some other things, girl. What are we
• 18:10
  Speaker 2: talking about?
• 18:11
  Speaker 3: You don't need that much money for your presumably minor
• 18:16
  Speaker 3: niece's birthday. By the way, this comes from Shoddy Rice, 730.
• 18:20
  Speaker 3: And if you want to submit your own stories, go
• 18:21
  Speaker 3: to the r slash okay story time subreddit. I'm Sophia.
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
• 18:25
  Speaker 4: I'm Keon.
• 18:26
  Speaker 3: And we're here to give good advice goofily. And if
• 18:28
  Speaker 3: you have advice, put it down below. Opie says. So
• 18:31
  Speaker 3: I asked her to ask my niece's mom or my
• 18:33
  Speaker 3: brother for the money as she is not my child
• 18:36
  Speaker 3: and I can't afford to give her $ 500 at the moment.
• 18:39
  Speaker 3: My dad makes over $ 150, 000 a year in salary. I
• 18:41
  Speaker 3: do all of the grocery shopping and pay for it.
• 18:47
  Speaker 3: So my mom can do her outdoor projects at the house.
• 18:50
  Speaker 3: You do all of the grocery shopping and pay for
• 18:53
  Speaker 3: it and also pay $ 1, 200 in rent a month? Live alone.
• 18:59
  Speaker 2: How certain are you that your dad makes $ 150, 000?
• 19:03
  Speaker 3: Live alone. Your dad is broke.
• 19:06
  Speaker 4: Hold on. That's why he's making that much because he's
• 19:09
  Speaker 4: not paying for it.
• 19:10
  Speaker 3: Yeah, he's not paying any other money.
• 19:11
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: Wow.
• 19:12
  Speaker 3: My mom has been upset with me ever since that conversation.
• 19:15
  Speaker 3: Skip forward to today. She is once again upset with
• 19:19
  Speaker 3: me because none of the housework is done for the party,
• 19:22
  Speaker 3: and I'm not working fast enough to help her. I'm
• 19:25
  Speaker 3: the only one doing the housework today. The party is
• 19:28
  Speaker 3: at 2.30pm and it's currently 10.15am, and all the housework
• 19:34
  Speaker 3: is done, plus I made all the sides she was
• 19:36
  Speaker 3: going to make. She's been yelling at me to do
• 19:38
  Speaker 3: everything and I understand that she's stressed because a lot
• 19:41
  Speaker 3: of people are coming over. But I told her in
• 19:44
  Speaker 3: a moment of anger to quit having parties at our
• 19:47
  Speaker 3: house if you're going to get so angry at everyone
• 19:49
  Speaker 3: trying I mean, not going to lie, OP cooked with
• 19:41
  Speaker 3: that one.
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: Hey, if parties make you mean to everyone, stop throwing parties.
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: Stop it.
• 20:02
  Speaker 3: If I'm going to be ungrateful for living in her home,
• 20:05
  Speaker 3: then I can move out. Honestly, yes. OP, do that.
• 20:08
  Speaker 2: She says that like you don't actively pay like close
• 20:11
  Speaker 2: to $ 2, 000 a month.
• 20:13
  Speaker 3: Yep. My dad told me that I have every right
• 20:15
  Speaker 3: to be upset, but I need to not talk to
• 20:17
  Speaker 3: my mom like that. I agreed with him and went
• 20:19
  Speaker 3: to apologize to my mom, but she just said the
• 20:22
  Speaker 3: damage is done and asked when I'd be finding a
• 20:24
  Speaker 3: new place to live. Tell me one benefit of living
• 20:27
  Speaker 3: with your parents. Just one.
• 20:30
  Speaker 4: I get headaches. I get stressed out. I have anxiety.
• 20:33
  Speaker 4: I'm spending way too much money. All the benefits.
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: Those are all the benefits.
• 20:37
  Speaker 2: Learning how to not get manipulated in the future. Also,
• 20:41
  Speaker 2: I just have to point out, someone in the comments said,
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: is this a Bruno Mars casino situation? And I got
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: to say, If Bruno Mars was Bruno Marsh, what a
• 20:51
  Speaker 2: different world.
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: We would live in.
• 20:53
  Speaker 3: Talking to the Marsh.
• 20:55
  Speaker 2: Just really quick, what kind of music does Bruno Marsh make? First,
• 20:59
  Speaker 2: off the top.
• 21:00
  Speaker 4: Punk rock. Yes.
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: Creole banjo.
• 21:04
  Speaker 3: My dad doesn't want me to move out because they
• 21:06
  Speaker 3: are really relying on me to pay my rent during summer.
• 21:09
  Speaker 3: Because they have so much to do on our property
• 21:12
  Speaker 3: that they can't afford the mortgage and projects.
• 21:14
  Speaker 4: What do you mean they can't afford it?
• 21:16
  Speaker 3: I don't think your dad makes $ 150, 000.
• 21:18
  Speaker 4: Maybe under 50 bucks.
• 21:19
  Speaker 3: Asked my brother and uncle that are here. And they
• 21:22
  Speaker 3: both said that I'm the a-hole for talking to my
• 21:24
  Speaker 3: mom that way. And that I should find a new
• 21:26
  Speaker 3: place to live because I'm 22 and living with mommy
• 21:29
  Speaker 3: and daddy time is over.
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: I pay rent! You paid your rent.
• 21:35
  Speaker 3: So Reddit, am I the a-hole for telling my mom
• 21:37
  Speaker 3: to quit having parties at their house? Genuinely, you're self a-hole.
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: Move out.
• 21:42
  Speaker 4: Move out.
• 21:42
  Speaker 3: Self a-hole, get out of there, girly. You are paying
• 21:45
  Speaker 3: their mortgage. And they rely on you to pay your mortgage.
• 21:49
  Speaker 3: I think the mom is bluffing. I think she's kicking
• 21:51
  Speaker 3: OP out and then she's going to realize, oh, shoot,
• 21:54
  Speaker 3: we need her here because we can't afford this.
• 21:56
  Speaker 4: Too late.
• 21:56
  Speaker 3: Yeah, definitely don't pay that month's rent. If she's already
• 22:01
  Speaker 3: kicking you out, don't pay any rent.
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: Any more money. Yeah, make sure they can't just take
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: it out of your account either.
• 22:08
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 22:09
  Speaker 3: Didn't expect to get very many comments on this and
• 22:11
  Speaker 3: started to think I was the a-hole. Thank you to
• 22:14
  Speaker 3: everyone in the comments for your advice. A little background
• 22:18
  Speaker 3: on my family dynamic. My brother is 25 and has
• 22:21
  Speaker 3: two kids with two different moms. He's single and has
• 22:26
  Speaker 3: zero custody over either child. and lives in an apartment.
• 22:30
  Speaker 3: My dad works out of town all the time, which
• 22:32
  Speaker 3: leaves my mom by herself a lot. She hates being
• 22:35
  Speaker 3: alone at night, which caused me to switch jobs a
• 22:38
  Speaker 3: little over a year ago. With my new job, I'm
• 22:40
  Speaker 3: making roughly 73K a year. For 22 years old, pretty good.
• 22:48
  Speaker 3: You absolutely could afford to live on your own. Or
• 22:51
  Speaker 3: just not live here.
• 22:52
  Speaker 4: Truly.
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: Or with a roommate.
• 22:54
  Speaker 3: Truly, you could... live anywhere for that amount of money
• 22:58
  Speaker 3: it just maybe not dubai but you could live anywhere
• 23:01
  Speaker 3: for that amount of money it just depends on how
• 23:04
  Speaker 3: big a place you want.
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: You could probably live in dubai you just really wouldn't
• 23:06
  Speaker 2: like it uh you.
• 23:07
  Speaker 4: Live in a box in dubai really tight.
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: Didn't what'd she say about her mom was scared or something.
• 23:12
  Speaker 3: Her mom was scared to be alone at night because
• 23:15
  Speaker 3: the dad's out often.
• 23:16
  Speaker 2: So yeah so that was that was the whole so
• 23:19
  Speaker 2: she reason for living.
• 23:20
  Speaker 3: There moving there No, I think that OP had a
• 23:26
  Speaker 3: job where she was working at night and then she
• 23:29
  Speaker 3: shifted it. What I don't spend, I put into savings. Smart.
• 23:33
  Speaker 3: My dad was the one to initially ask me to
• 23:35
  Speaker 3: pay rent because they were struggling. They are constantly giving
• 23:39
  Speaker 3: my brother money and your brother had the audacity to
• 23:41
  Speaker 3: say anything about you. I agreed, but I told them
• 23:44
  Speaker 3: I want a lease agreement. No, I do not need
• 23:47
  Speaker 3: to give them notice to move out. It was more
• 23:49
  Speaker 3: so that I could also gain renter's history for when
• 23:52
  Speaker 3: I move out.
• 23:53
  Speaker 4: Oh.
• 23:53
  Speaker 3: They both agreed, and that was it for about a month.
• 23:56
  Speaker 3: Then my brother was constantly coming over and eating all
• 23:59
  Speaker 3: of the groceries. So I started buying my own and
• 24:03
  Speaker 3: keeping it in my room or in the fridge with
• 24:05
  Speaker 3: labels on it. I have always done house chores, but
• 24:07
  Speaker 3: when my dad is gone, I take on all of
• 24:10
  Speaker 3: the house chores.
• 24:12
  Speaker 2: So you....
• 24:14
  Speaker 3: I genuinely don't understand.
• 24:16
  Speaker 4: What are the perks of living at home?
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: You're getting none of them.
• 24:19
  Speaker 4: Because usually there's at least a tiny perk of living
• 24:22
  Speaker 4: at home. Yeah, the benefits don't outweigh them. It doesn't
• 24:25
  Speaker 4: seem like OP.
• 24:26
  Speaker 3: Did it for any perks. It seems that her parents said, hey,
• 24:28
  Speaker 3: we need help. And then she was like, okay, yeah,
• 24:31
  Speaker 3: I'll help you guys.
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: I think she might have already lived there.
• 24:35
  Speaker 3: She might have.
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: She might have.
• 24:36
  Speaker 3: But she totally could have moved out. It seems that
• 24:39
  Speaker 3: she chose to stay to help them.
• 24:41
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's time to move.
• 24:43
  Speaker 3: Getting groceries started getting expected of me when my dad
• 24:46
  Speaker 3: came home and my mom refused to go to the
• 24:48
  Speaker 3: grocery store because she was doing her projects. So I
• 24:51
  Speaker 3: took it on because it wasn't fair to my dad
• 24:53
  Speaker 3: for him to work all day and not have any
• 24:55
  Speaker 3: food in the house for him. My brother will come
• 24:57
  Speaker 3: over unannounced and pillage through our pantry and fridge. Now
• 25:01
  Speaker 3: for the actual update. My dad is furious with my
• 25:05
  Speaker 3: mom over this. Of course he is. You were paying
• 25:08
  Speaker 3: their mortgage.
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: Your mom is stupid and.
• 25:11
  Speaker 3: Didn't realize that. My dad isn't speaking to my mom
• 25:15
  Speaker 3: or my brother at the moment. He doesn't want me
• 25:18
  Speaker 3: to move out and even talk to me about doing
• 25:20
  Speaker 3: less around here. Yeah.
• 25:22
  Speaker 4: Now he's realizing, oh, no, my golden goose or my
• 25:25
  Speaker 4: golden cow is leaving.
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: Oh, no.
• 25:27
  Speaker 3: Who's going to pay my mortgage? Shoot.
• 25:30
  Speaker 4: Who's going to pay for the groceries? Who's going to
• 25:33
  Speaker 4: do the household chores?
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: Oh, no.
• 25:35
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it really feels like mother played a hand that
• 25:37
  Speaker 3: she just didn't have. He wants me to be able
• 25:40
  Speaker 3: to go out and have fun with my friends without
• 25:42
  Speaker 3: feeling like I have so much to do. He said
• 25:44
  Speaker 3: it was their house before I started paying rent. He
• 25:47
  Speaker 3: asked if I would like to get on the paperwork
• 25:48
  Speaker 3: for the house because I'm paying the mortgage. I said no,
• 25:51
  Speaker 3: I would rather move out and try to have a
• 25:53
  Speaker 3: better relationship with both of them. My dad suggested going
• 25:56
  Speaker 3: no contact with my brother because he's mad over money.
• 26:00
  Speaker 3: My dad told my mom to grow up and learn
• 26:02
  Speaker 3: a budget. Now I feel like I'm causing a huge
• 26:04
  Speaker 3: split in my family.
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: Why?
• 26:06
  Speaker 3: It's not you at all. It's your mom and your brother.
• 26:09
  Speaker 4: It's just showing how dependent they are on you.
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Your mom has given birth to this problem. Yep.
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: And it's not you.
• 26:18
  Speaker 3: It's not. You're not the problem. You are their only
• 26:21
  Speaker 3: savior because brother is bleaching off of them. Mom is
• 26:26
  Speaker 3: not contributing at all. You're doing all the household chores
• 26:31
  Speaker 3: and paying the mortgage. I told them I can move
• 26:34
  Speaker 3: out tonight. I have a friend that's been trying to
• 26:36
  Speaker 3: get me to move in with her, but my mom
• 26:37
  Speaker 3: is refusing to let me take any of my stuff.
• 26:40
  Speaker 3: I own everything in my room. Just take it. That's crazy.
• 26:44
  Speaker 3: Just take it.
• 26:45
  Speaker 4: What is she going to do?
• 26:46
  Speaker 3: We're still waiting for the party to happen, but one
• 26:48
  Speaker 3: of my friends said he would come help me move whenever.
• 26:51
  Speaker 3: He works for my dad, but he doesn't want to
• 26:52
  Speaker 3: get too involved in everything. We have a second update.
• 26:56
  Speaker 3: It's crazy that the party is still happening.
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: She's a party monster.
• 27:01
  Speaker 3: Yeah. She's like, the party has to go on, but
• 27:03
  Speaker 3: also I'm going to stop you from moving out tonight.
• 27:07
  Speaker 3: Update two. The party ended a few hours ago, and
• 27:10
  Speaker 3: my dad actually told my mom that he needed to
• 27:13
  Speaker 3: talk with her. She kept insisting she was tired and
• 27:16
  Speaker 3: wanted to go to bed, but he basically told her
• 27:19
  Speaker 3: to sit down and listen. I asked if I could
• 27:21
  Speaker 3: also talk to both of them, and my dad eagerly agreed.
• 27:26
  Speaker 3: Everyone in my family knows I'm not very confrontational, so
• 27:29
  Speaker 3: the fact that I asked to talk to both of
• 27:31
  Speaker 3: them scared my mom. I told them both that I'm
• 27:33
  Speaker 3: going to move out, and I can stay with my
• 27:36
  Speaker 3: friend until I find a place. My dad said that
• 27:39
  Speaker 3: he totally understands and will give me the money from
• 27:41
  Speaker 3: this month's rent. My mom blew up.
• 27:45
  Speaker 2: Oh, no.
• 27:46
  Speaker 4: Don't care.
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: Oh, man. Wasn't it her suggestion in the first place?
• 27:50
  Speaker 4: Didn't she say move out anyway? I'm just like, I'm
• 27:52
  Speaker 4: following what she said.
• 27:54
  Speaker 3: I don't know what you want, Mom. She started saying
• 27:56
  Speaker 3: how close we are, and it's completely silly to take
• 28:00
  Speaker 3: what we each said to heart.
• 28:01
  Speaker 4: Oh, no. Don't care.
• 28:04
  Speaker 3: That we both said things out of spite and hurt,
• 28:07
  Speaker 3: but we can move past it. I told her that
• 28:09
  Speaker 3: I'm really not comfortable paying for everyone in the house
• 28:12
  Speaker 3: to live while they are building things to make their
• 28:15
  Speaker 3: home prettier. I also told her that I'm a tenant,
• 28:18
  Speaker 3: not a freeloading child, thus I have tenant rights. She
• 28:21
  Speaker 3: came back with, you will always be my child and
• 28:24
  Speaker 3: I will always be your mother. I have your best
• 28:27
  Speaker 3: interest at heart. Not all of these boys you bring
• 28:30
  Speaker 3: to my house. The boys in question are a few
• 28:32
  Speaker 3: of my dad's coworkers that come over with their wives
• 28:35
  Speaker 3: to hang out with my dad and learn to make sourdough.
• 28:38
  Speaker 4: Maybe that's what all the money's going into.
• 28:41
  Speaker 3: So they're your dad's friends? And she's like, oh, you're
• 28:44
  Speaker 3: bringing all these boys over.
• 28:45
  Speaker 2: Your mom sounds like she's losing it.
• 28:48
  Speaker 3: I think so. This happens once a week at most.
• 28:51
  Speaker 3: I told her there is only one guy that has
• 28:54
  Speaker 3: my best interest at heart, and that's her husband. I
• 28:58
  Speaker 3: have to wholeheartedly disagree with that statement.
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: Why?
• 29:03
  Speaker 3: I don't think that her dad has her best interest
• 29:06
  Speaker 3: at heart.
• 29:07
  Speaker 4: Okay.
• 29:07
  Speaker 3: He was making her pay $ 1, 200 and all the groceries.
• 29:09
  Speaker 2: Well, it turned out that was to have the rent,
• 29:12
  Speaker 2: you know. So when she does move out and they go, oh,
• 29:15
  Speaker 2: have you ever rented before? You go, yeah, look, here's
• 29:17
  Speaker 2: my renting history.
• 29:18
  Speaker 3: But OP asked for that afterwards.
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: I don't think so.
• 29:22
  Speaker 3: Yes, that's what it said. He said, hey, can you
• 29:25
  Speaker 3: pay rent? And she said, okay, but I want to
• 29:28
  Speaker 3: have a contract.
• 29:29
  Speaker 2: Well, yeah, that would be when they first started paying rent.
• 29:33
  Speaker 4: Please give me rent.
• 29:34
  Speaker 2: I think just given the way that he's acting now,
• 29:36
  Speaker 2: I don't I think he does.
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: Look out for her first because he's like, yeah, get
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: out of here.
• 29:41
  Speaker 3: I don't know. I personally think that dad is not
• 29:44
  Speaker 3: looking out for her. I think.
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 29:46
  Speaker 3: My mother became more and more irritated, so I decided
• 29:49
  Speaker 3: to leave for the night. I'm currently at my grandpa's
• 29:51
  Speaker 3: house sitting and watching TV with them, eating snickerdoodles that
• 29:55
  Speaker 3: I taught him how to bake. Fire. He told me
• 29:57
  Speaker 3: that I'm always welcome to come stay with him for
• 29:59
  Speaker 3: however long I want, free of charge. See that? That's nice.
• 30:03
  Speaker 3: As long as I do the cooking, only because this
• 30:05
  Speaker 3: man cannot cook anything other than hot dogs over a fire.
• 30:08
  Speaker 2: That's all you need to know.
• 30:10
  Speaker 3: My grandfather is so disappointed in his son, grandson, and daughter-in-law,
• 30:15
  Speaker 3: and that makes me kind of sad. I've always been
• 30:17
  Speaker 3: very close to him, so he knows everything that's been
• 30:19
  Speaker 3: going on for a while. He was telling me that
• 30:21
  Speaker 3: I needed to see things for myself the way they were,
• 30:24
  Speaker 3: and I will finally understand. He was right, and I'm
• 30:27
  Speaker 3: very happy to be here with him. I have to
• 30:29
  Speaker 3: go to the house tomorrow to pack my things and move.
• 30:32
  Speaker 3: And we've got an update. It keeps coming.
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: It just keeps happening.
• 30:37
  Speaker 4: I like the title of the update.
• 30:39
  Speaker 3: Update I don't know anymore.
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: I can't keep track.
• 30:42
  Speaker 4: Hashtag I don't know anymore.
• 30:44
  Speaker 3: I think it's number I don't know anymore.
• 30:45
  Speaker 4: Oh, probably that.
• 30:46
  Speaker 3: I've lost track of the numbers.
• 30:47
  Speaker 4: Update number.
• 30:48
  Speaker 3: I am officially moved out.
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: You're out of there.
• 30:53
  Speaker 3: And I'm living with my grandfather till the 25th. Then
• 30:56
  Speaker 3: I move into my own place. That's awesome. I love
• 30:59
  Speaker 3: that you have a grandfather that cares about you. I
• 31:01
  Speaker 3: think he's the only guy that actually cares about you.
• 31:02
  Speaker 3: It's not big, but it's perfect for me. My mom
• 31:05
  Speaker 3: has been calling and leaving voicemails, either screaming or crying.
• 31:09
  Speaker 3: My brother is beyond pissed about the situation. Yeah, because
• 31:12
  Speaker 3: he lost his free income. You were paying for his
• 31:16
  Speaker 3: rent and also his groceries every time he would sneak
• 31:20
  Speaker 3: into your house and steal all that.
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 31:24
  Speaker 3: But luckily, my dad and him left to go out
• 31:26
  Speaker 3: of town for work. I am happy where I am
• 31:28
  Speaker 3: for a little bit, but we'll be looking for a
• 31:30
  Speaker 3: bigger place with a roommate after my six-month lease is up.
• 31:33
  Speaker 3: To answer some questions about my family that I've seen
• 31:36
  Speaker 3: asked a few times, my grandfather owns the company that
• 31:39
  Speaker 3: my dad and brother work for. I was always welcome
• 31:42
  Speaker 3: to work there, and I did for a year, but
• 31:44
  Speaker 3: my relationship with my family was very strained at the time,
• 31:48
  Speaker 3: hence why I changed careers.
• 31:49
  Speaker 4: Gee, I wonder why. Why was it strained? Hmm. Hmm.
• 31:56
  Speaker 3: My parents bail my brother out of every situation he
• 31:59
  Speaker 3: finds himself in, They have asked me on multiple occasions
• 32:02
  Speaker 3: to help my brother out with money for all types
• 32:05
  Speaker 3: of reasons.
• 32:06
  Speaker 4: Uh, yeah.
• 32:07
  Speaker 2: Don't pay $ 1, 200 in rent to live at home.
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 32:11
  Speaker 3: I think you were swindled, and I'm glad that your
• 32:14
  Speaker 3: grandfather's on your side and that you're moving out.
• 32:17
  Speaker 4: Very easy.
• 32:18
  Speaker 3: But we've got a little bit left. The project's at
• 32:20
  Speaker 3: the house. My mom started her own lavender farm and
• 32:24
  Speaker 3: spends 99% of her time and my dad's money trying
• 32:27
  Speaker 3: to make it look presentable. Other projects include, but are
• 32:30
  Speaker 3: not limited to, regraveling the driveway, replanting grass, planting trees,
• 32:35
  Speaker 3: building a shop, painting the house, building an awning for
• 32:39
  Speaker 3: the back porch, adding a concrete pad for a back porch,
• 32:42
  Speaker 3: getting chickens, building a chicken coop, and everything else you
• 32:46
  Speaker 3: can imagine for 25 acres of land.
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: There was a farm. What?
• 32:51
  Speaker 2: You probably want to get the chicken coop first.
• 32:54
  Speaker 3: My parents' money situation. My parents bought a camping trailer
• 32:58
  Speaker 3: a few years ago and owe big money on that.
• 33:01
  Speaker 3: My mom bought a new car about two years ago
• 33:03
  Speaker 3: and the majority of the rest of the money goes
• 33:05
  Speaker 3: to my brother. He can't save any money and will
• 33:08
  Speaker 3: spend his last cent at coffee shops. Once again, thank
• 33:11
  Speaker 3: you all for everything and being so kind. Your family
• 33:15
  Speaker 3: sounds like they have no clue how to deal or
• 33:18
  Speaker 3: handle money, so.
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: That is true.
• 33:21
  Speaker 3: Glad you're out of there.
• 33:22
  Speaker 2: And that's the end of this story. Let's head to
• 33:25
  Speaker 2: the next one. Hey, it's Dakota, your favorite rat brain
• 33:28
  Speaker 2: host here. And we're going to get back to the
• 33:30
  Speaker 2: stories soon. But here's three minutes of ads from our sponsors.
• 33:34
  Speaker 2: I discovered that my girlfriend is a Reddit troll and
• 33:37
  Speaker 2: I can't move past it.
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: Oh, come on.
• 33:40
  Speaker 2: I mean, is she funny at least? I, 35 male,
• 33:43
  Speaker 2: came home from work today and noticed my partner, 37 female,
• 33:46
  Speaker 2: just sitting at the desk laughing to herself with her
• 33:49
  Speaker 2: headphones on. So I assumed she was watching a movie
• 33:52
  Speaker 2: or something and left it at that. Not long after,
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: I poked my head around as I was going to
• 33:56
  Speaker 2: ask her what she wanted for dinner. And to my surprise,
• 33:58
  Speaker 2: she was on Reddit, which was odd to me because
• 34:00
  Speaker 2: she is anti-social media, blah.
• 34:02
  Speaker 3: Blah, blah.
• 34:02
  Speaker 2: But I thought it was nice she was trying something
• 34:05
  Speaker 2: as she suffers from agoraphobia and doesn't get out much
• 34:08
  Speaker 2: without me. I briefly got a glimpse at her name
• 34:11
  Speaker 2: and thought it would be interesting to see what she
• 34:13
  Speaker 2: had posted. Yes, I know this was an invasion of privacy.
• 34:16
  Speaker 2: And to my shock, the account was eight years old.
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: Oh, dang.
• 34:21
  Speaker 3: She's been at this for a while now.
• 34:23
  Speaker 2: This means it has predated our relationship by a couple
• 34:25
  Speaker 2: of years. What is even more shocking was the stuff
• 34:29
  Speaker 2: she had said on there. So much hate towards random
• 34:31
  Speaker 2: people for seemingly no reason at all.
• 34:34
  Speaker 3: I mean, the reason is that she's stuck inside.
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: Yeah, she's in a prison of her mind.
• 34:40
  Speaker 2: Yep.
• 34:41
  Speaker 3: And so she must bring other people down with her.
• 34:44
  Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from ThrowawayTrollSO. If you want
• 34:47
  Speaker 2: to submit your own stories, go to the r slash
• 34:48
  Speaker 2: ok story time subreddit.
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: Why don't ya? I'm Dakota.
• 34:51
  Speaker 3: I'm Sophia.
• 34:52
  Speaker 4: I'm Keon.
• 34:53
  Speaker 1: And our solemn duty.
• 34:55
  Speaker 2: Is to read this story and give as good as
• 34:57
  Speaker 2: goofy advice as possible. But that might not always be right,
• 35:01
  Speaker 2: so let us know what you think in the comments.
• 35:03
  Speaker 1: All right.
• 35:04
  Speaker 2: This wasn't just the occasional rude comment either. She had
• 35:07
  Speaker 2: an entire account dedicated to hating on people, and she
• 35:10
  Speaker 2: even seemed proud of it based on her comments. One
• 35:12
  Speaker 2: recent example was when she spent an entire day bothering
• 35:15
  Speaker 2: a single person.
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: It did not stop there.
• 35:18
  Speaker 2: She would make up stories, shame people, bully others, and
• 35:21
  Speaker 2: claim that anyone who told her she needed help was
• 35:23
  Speaker 2: just projecting. I would sometimes come back from work and
• 35:26
  Speaker 2: she would be in a bad mood but wouldn't tell
• 35:28
  Speaker 2: me why. Upon looking at her comment history, a lot
• 35:31
  Speaker 2: of her bad moods seem to line up with days
• 35:33
  Speaker 2: she got downvoted a lot. She even goes as far
• 35:36
  Speaker 2: as to lie about her physical appearance just to bring
• 35:39
  Speaker 2: down others.
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: It is sickening.
• 35:42
  Speaker 3: What was she saying?
• 35:43
  Speaker 2: How do I even approach this? This stuff is just
• 35:46
  Speaker 2: downright hateful and I don't want her to.
• 35:48
  Speaker 1: Freak out at me. What do I even do?
• 35:50
  Speaker 2: I'm scared she is one argument away from someone coming
• 35:52
  Speaker 2: to find her.
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: And there is an update.
• 35:56
  Speaker 3: Um, you confront her because this is weird behavior.
• 35:59
  Speaker 4: No, you start trolling her.
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: You start trolling her back.
• 36:03
  Speaker 3: Oh, Lord. That could make it 10 times worse. I
• 36:07
  Speaker 3: think she's just deeply insecure and lonely and stuck in
• 36:12
  Speaker 3: the house. And she wants to make people feel bad, too.
• 36:16
  Speaker 3: And you need to confront her and say, hey, not cool.
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: Go to therapy. Update. I want to address some comments
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: from the last post.
• 36:24
  Speaker 2: I'm pretty sure she's blocked from this subreddit as all
• 36:26
  Speaker 2: of her comments on this sub were removed according to
• 36:28
  Speaker 2: a remove Reddit site. And I also blocked her account
• 36:31
  Speaker 2: while slightly adjusting the ages after sitting for a good
• 36:33
  Speaker 2: hour last night, looking down her profile in depth and
• 36:36
  Speaker 2: bookmarking her worst stuff. I decided to bring it up
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: with her. I was going to ask a mutual friend
• 36:40
  Speaker 2: to come around, but I didn't want to embarrass her.
• 36:42
  Speaker 2: So I instead put my phone on record in my
• 36:45
  Speaker 2: pocket in case she was going to claim I did
• 36:47
  Speaker 2: anything against her. I waited until after lunch and asked
• 36:51
  Speaker 2: her if she could just stay there for a minute,
• 36:53
  Speaker 2: set my phone to record, and then brought up screenshots.
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: On a tablet.
• 36:56
  Speaker 2: Her face dropped. She walked out of the room after
• 37:00
  Speaker 2: a few seconds of scrolling. I was going to go
• 37:02
  Speaker 2: after her, but I left it. She came down and
• 37:05
  Speaker 2: just said sorry. I asked why she was saying sorry
• 37:08
  Speaker 2: to me, to which she responded, I don't know. I
• 37:11
  Speaker 2: asked why she did it, and I just got another,
• 37:13
  Speaker 2: I don't know. I showed her one of the screenshots
• 37:16
  Speaker 2: where she claims my friends love how much of a
• 37:19
  Speaker 2: See you next Tuesday.
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: I am online. And I asked if any of her
• 37:23
  Speaker 1: friends knew. She said, no, just me.
• 37:26
  Speaker 2: I brought up the fact that I couldn't wrap my
• 37:27
  Speaker 2: head around why someone would dedicate so much time to this.
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: And she said at first it was just a way
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: to blow off steam.
• 37:32
  Speaker 2: But then it felt nice because I saw people were
• 37:35
  Speaker 2: agreeing with me and it became a part of my
• 37:37
  Speaker 2: daily routine, I guess. After some more talking, I addressed
• 37:41
  Speaker 2: how much she hurt me with her attacks on people
• 37:44
  Speaker 2: with mental health problems. to which she just said, I
• 37:47
  Speaker 2: doubt they even had any issues. They were just playing
• 37:49
  Speaker 2: victim because they were losing the argument.
• 37:52
  Speaker 3: Oh, she's really in it.
• 37:54
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's going to be every nail in the coffin
• 37:57
  Speaker 2: all at once right there.
• 37:57
  Speaker 3: It's like she's not sorry. Well, one, she didn't even
• 38:00
  Speaker 3: know why she was apologizing. And then when they, you know,
• 38:04
  Speaker 3: started to get into it, she was not sorry.
• 38:06
  Speaker 1: She does, though.
• 38:07
  Speaker 2: You know, we've all been there when someone asks you
• 38:09
  Speaker 2: something and you know the answer and instead you say,
• 38:13
  Speaker 2: I don't know, because it's too hard to say the
• 38:15
  Speaker 2: real answer out loud. So, you know, if she's going
• 38:18
  Speaker 2: to respond like that, I have packed my things and
• 38:21
  Speaker 2: I'm going to stay at a friend's house. I'm going
• 38:23
  Speaker 2: to block Reddit on the ISP and ask her to
• 38:25
  Speaker 2: not contact me for a couple of days while I think.
• 38:27
  Speaker 2: I've also asked her to find a place to stay
• 38:29
  Speaker 2: as I can't stay at my friend's for long and
• 38:32
  Speaker 2: I want to go on a break. If I'm honest,
• 38:35
  Speaker 2: I don't know if I will ever want to see
• 38:37
  Speaker 2: her again. I was going to ask her to apologize
• 38:39
  Speaker 2: to everyone she caused crap for, but at this point,
• 38:42
  Speaker 2: I know.
• 38:42
  Speaker 1: She won't mean it. And that is the end of
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: that story. At the end of the day, it's just
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: words on the internet, you know?
• 38:51
  Speaker 2: It's like all kinds of people do this, but it's,
• 38:54
  Speaker 2: I think her attitude about it after you confronted her
• 38:57
  Speaker 2: Especially after saying specifically like the way you dog people
• 39:00
  Speaker 2: for their mental health really upsets me.
• 39:02
  Speaker 1: And she's like, ah, they're lying. It's like, you're lying.
• 39:05
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 39:06
  Speaker 2: It just speaks to a level of like unwellness that
• 39:09
  Speaker 2: I'm like, I don't think I can stick around for
• 39:11
  Speaker 2: this if you're unwilling to admit that it's really, really bad.
• 39:15
  Speaker 3: Agreed. And I think OP is not sticking around. So
• 39:18
  Speaker 3: there you have it.
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story. Let's head to
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: the next one.
• 39:22
  Speaker 2: My boyfriend is intensely close with his female best friend,
• 39:26
  Speaker 2: and it made me uncomfortable.
• 39:28
  Speaker 3: Back up!
• 39:29
  Speaker 2: Leave room for the big j man i 26 female
• 39:33
  Speaker 2: have recently started dating rupert 28 man we have known
• 39:37
  Speaker 2: each other for seven years and have some history together
• 39:40
  Speaker 2: but we never attempted a relationship until now that we're
• 39:43
  Speaker 2: both single The current issue is that I met his
• 39:45
  Speaker 2: parents two weeks ago, and next week I'm invited to
• 39:48
  Speaker 2: go to their beach house again with his auntie, his brother, and.
• 39:51
  Speaker 1: His brother's girlfriend. That's all fine.
• 39:54
  Speaker 2: I'm happy to get to know them, even if I'm
• 39:56
  Speaker 2: a person that doesn't really like being surrounded by so
• 39:58
  Speaker 2: many people in a space I don't really know. I
• 40:01
  Speaker 2: really need personal space and alone time, which will be
• 40:03
  Speaker 2: a bit hard to get with all his family around.
• 40:05
  Speaker 2: And I'm nervous because... He basically kept me a secret
• 40:08
  Speaker 2: until the last moment.
• 40:10
  Speaker 3: I hate that.
• 40:11
  Speaker 1: What does that mean? You said you've known each other
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: for seven years.
• 40:13
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm sorry. The second that we're official, if your
• 40:17
  Speaker 3: parents don't know about me. Honestly, even before. We've been
• 40:21
  Speaker 3: dating for a minute, but definitely when we're official. Why
• 40:25
  Speaker 3: don't your parents know about me?
• 40:26
  Speaker 2: Understandably, in a way, because I hadn't finished my move
• 40:29
  Speaker 2: from my last flat with my ex-boyfriends. And what I
• 40:31
  Speaker 2: mean by moving some stuff and my kitty. I haven't
• 40:34
  Speaker 2: actually lived there for months. So, I met his family,
• 40:37
  Speaker 2: and I'm still nervous. And now he invited his very
• 40:40
  Speaker 2: best female friend. His parents already know her and love her,
• 40:43
  Speaker 2: and I'm the new one, and I just don't feel comfortable.
• 40:46
  Speaker 2: I wanted to just spend time with his parents and him,
• 40:49
  Speaker 2: and not have to deal with a random girl that
• 40:51
  Speaker 2: is so dang important to him.
• 40:53
  Speaker 4: Mmm.
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: Honestly, I'm not liking... I don't know.
• 40:57
  Speaker 3: All of this is a little bit red flags on
• 40:59
  Speaker 3: every sign so far.
• 41:01
  Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from Internal26571.
• 41:03
  Speaker 2: If you want to submit your own stories, go to
• 41:05
  Speaker 2: the r slash OKStoryTime subreddit.
• 41:07
  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
• 41:07
  Speaker 3: I'm Sophia.
• 41:08
  Speaker 4: I'm Riley.
• 41:09
  Speaker 2: Our job is to tell you that that's Keon and
• 41:11
  Speaker 2: not Riley. And also our job is to read the
• 41:14
  Speaker 2: story and try to.
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: Give as good advice as we can.
• 41:16
  Speaker 2: But we're a bunch of goofballs, so keep that in mind.
• 41:18
  Speaker 2: And leave comments of your own advice.
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: And OP says.
• 41:22
  Speaker 2: I guess it all boils down to me not feeling
• 41:24
  Speaker 2: established in the relationship and not really secure.
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: And I feel threatened.
• 41:28
  Speaker 2: Mostly because he has her saved as girl's name beautiful.
• 41:32
  Speaker 3: Well, um, so I would have immediately called that out.
• 41:38
  Speaker 4: Ruh-roh. Let's split up, gang.
• 41:40
  Speaker 1: What if you're saved in the phone as OP very beautiful?
• 41:44
  Speaker 3: Oh, it's still bad. Honestly, even worse.
• 41:47
  Speaker 2: Uh, my boyfriend also had pictures of her all over
• 41:50
  Speaker 2: his flat, plus a bookmark with a picture of them,
• 41:54
  Speaker 2: and he has written her poems. Then he says that
• 41:57
  Speaker 2: I'm the love of his life, but I just can't
• 41:59
  Speaker 2: seem to get over this. I don't want to be like,
• 42:02
  Speaker 2: don't ever see her again, as that's not going to
• 42:04
  Speaker 2: happen anyway, but I'm living very anxious every day now.
• 42:08
  Speaker 2: Should I just give up on the relationship and take
• 42:10
  Speaker 2: more time to deal with my jealousy? Do you guys
• 42:12
  Speaker 2: have any advice? There is an update. Girl, talk to
• 42:15
  Speaker 2: your boyfriend.
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: Oh my god.
• 42:17
  Speaker 3: I just want you to know that your jealousy is
• 42:20
  Speaker 3: not just appearing from within you. You're on hard mode.
• 42:25
  Speaker 3: You're on hard mode in this relationship.
• 42:27
  Speaker 1: Okay, there is an update.
• 42:29
  Speaker 2: Three months later, I asked him to call her because
• 42:31
  Speaker 2: the situation was just not working out and not just
• 42:35
  Speaker 2: for me. There was literally no space in his parents'
• 42:38
  Speaker 2: beach house to accommodate us all. And he kept insisting
• 42:41
  Speaker 2: it could be done when that would have implied she
• 42:44
  Speaker 2: would have had to sleep in the living room with
• 42:46
  Speaker 2: both his parents and his auntie. I made him call
• 42:49
  Speaker 2: her and she basically figured it out by herself when
• 42:51
  Speaker 2: he mentioned all the family members that were going to
• 42:53
  Speaker 2: be there.
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: So she didn't come. But the issue is not over.
• 42:57
  Speaker 1: I saw his texts. I know I shouldn't have snooped.
• 42:59
  Speaker 2: And he was still calling her beautiful, telling her that
• 43:01
  Speaker 2: she's his best friend and a source of inspiration for him.
• 43:04
  Speaker 1: And that he doesn't want to lose her.
• 43:06
  Speaker 3: He's calling her beautiful?
• 43:08
  Speaker 4: Well, I guess he's going to lose you.
• 43:10
  Speaker 3: Oh, he's in love with his best friend.
• 43:13
  Speaker 2: I am, of course, not okay with this level of
• 43:15
  Speaker 2: intimacy with another woman. Her answers were vague. I don't
• 43:19
  Speaker 2: think she's interested, but I'm just not comfortable with my
• 43:21
  Speaker 2: boyfriend being this way. So I have talked to him
• 43:24
  Speaker 2: because this jealousy is eating me up. And I think
• 43:26
  Speaker 2: that whenever I'm not available for a plan, like a concert,
• 43:29
  Speaker 2: he'll just quickly go to her. I also saw a
• 43:31
  Speaker 2: message where he suggested going to visit her. I have,
• 43:35
  Speaker 2: of course, questioned him if he still calls her beautiful,
• 43:37
  Speaker 2: if he planned on visiting, and he denies everything.
• 43:41
  Speaker 4: He's just like, babe, I'm quoting Sean Kingston from Beautiful Girls.
• 43:45
  Speaker 4: That's the song.
• 43:46
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm just saying, you're too beautiful, girl. That's what
• 43:50
  Speaker 3: he's saying.
• 43:51
  Speaker 2: Now, I understand it's okay to have friends of the
• 43:53
  Speaker 2: opposite gender, but not like this. And I'd rather save
• 43:56
  Speaker 2: the term best friend for the person you actually end
• 43:59
  Speaker 2: up marrying.
• 44:00
  Speaker 1: Well, the issue is, I know he's lying, and now
• 44:03
  Speaker 1: he's saying I'm his best friend.
• 44:04
  Speaker 2: And it all sounds so childish, I know, but I'm
• 44:07
  Speaker 2: seriously struggling.
• 44:08
  Speaker 3: I was on your side, but I don't like that.
• 44:11
  Speaker 2: You should seriously not be struggling at all at this point.
• 44:13
  Speaker 2: It should just be like, I'm leaving. He's denying that
• 44:15
  Speaker 2: he's saying this stuff. That means he knows that he's
• 44:18
  Speaker 2: guilty in some way, which means you should leave.
• 44:21
  Speaker 3: Just go.
• 44:22
  Speaker 2: Just go. A little more background. He has lied to
• 44:25
  Speaker 2: me before in the past, right to my face. We've
• 44:28
  Speaker 2: been intimate twice. Without me knowing, he had a girlfriend.
• 44:32
  Speaker 1: What are we doing?
• 44:33
  Speaker 3: That's new information.
• 44:35
  Speaker 1: And then you dated him?
• 44:36
  Speaker 3: Yeah, you dated him after you found out that he
• 44:39
  Speaker 3: was cheating on his girlfriend with you and also lied
• 44:42
  Speaker 3: to you about that and made you complicit? Without your knowledge?
• 44:47
  Speaker 3: I have, I'm good now. I've got all the information
• 44:50
  Speaker 3: I need.
• 44:50
  Speaker 1: Leave him.
• 44:51
  Speaker 2: He told me he was living alone but was actually
• 44:53
  Speaker 2: living with a girlfriend and I found out. Now he
• 44:56
  Speaker 2: swears and double swears that I'm the love of his
• 44:58
  Speaker 2: life and have been since he lost me to my
• 45:02
  Speaker 2: ex-boyfriend of five years.
• 45:05
  Speaker 1: I just can't shake off a bad feeling in my gut.
• 45:09
  Speaker 2: So I guess my real question is, can people really change?
• 45:12
  Speaker 2: Can I really forgive? I ended my five-year relationship and
• 45:16
  Speaker 2: he jumped on asking me out. And I said, let's
• 45:19
  Speaker 2: take it easy. But he wants marriage and kids and
• 45:21
  Speaker 2: tells me I'm the love of his life. But I
• 45:23
  Speaker 2: can't trust him. Is it me and my own insecurities?
• 45:27
  Speaker 2: I have asked to see the chats with her next
• 45:29
  Speaker 2: time we see each other. I have asked that he
• 45:31
  Speaker 2: no longer calls her beautiful and posts pictures of her
• 45:34
  Speaker 2: or talks about our personal life. My boyfriend agrees with
• 45:38
  Speaker 2: all of this, but then gets defensive and he gets mean.
• 45:42
  Speaker 2: He said out of the blue that he doesn't think
• 45:44
  Speaker 2: he can love my cat because I adopted him while
• 45:47
  Speaker 2: I was with my ex.
• 45:49
  Speaker 3: I just don't think I can love your cat because
• 45:51
  Speaker 3: he's adopted. I know that's not what he said, but
• 45:54
  Speaker 3: that's what.
• 45:54
  Speaker 1: It sounded like. It did. It is what it sounded like.
• 45:57
  Speaker 3: I can only love a cat that is my own
• 45:59
  Speaker 3: flesh and blood.
• 46:00
  Speaker 2: I really hope this story ends with just like a dot, dot, dot. Wait,
• 46:04
  Speaker 2: I just realized everything I wrote means I need to
• 46:07
  Speaker 2: break up.
• 46:08
  Speaker 1: Edit.
• 46:08
  Speaker 3: Wait a minute. I just read this back and I
• 46:10
  Speaker 3: realized I'm insane and I've broken up with him.
• 46:14
  Speaker 2: The cat has always been mine, even if my ex
• 46:16
  Speaker 2: helped take care of him. I adore this cat and
• 46:19
  Speaker 2: he hurt me by saying that. Then he said he
• 46:22
  Speaker 2: was hurt, and that he already almost loves him. He
• 46:26
  Speaker 2: says a lot of beautiful things about how much he
• 46:28
  Speaker 2: loves me, and I can see love in his eyes,
• 46:30
  Speaker 2: but I'm always missing some action, not just words. In
• 46:34
  Speaker 2: all honesty, there are many things about him that already
• 46:37
  Speaker 2: annoy me a lot, like when you get.
• 46:38
  Speaker 1: Annoyed years into a relationship.
• 46:41
  Speaker 2: My best friend, 33, female, does agree that he acts immature,
• 46:44
  Speaker 2: and she also wouldn't allow some things. Regarding the best friend,
• 46:48
  Speaker 2: she thinks it's okay to have friends of the opposite gender,
• 46:50
  Speaker 2: and she has many guy friends, but she agrees that
• 46:53
  Speaker 2: posting pictures and calling.
• 46:54
  Speaker 1: Her beautiful is too much.
• 46:56
  Speaker 2: I think I just don't want to get into a
• 46:58
  Speaker 2: bigger mess after barely recovering from a breakup.
• 47:01
  Speaker 1: Oh, my God. That's you.
• 47:02
  Speaker 2: You also just broke up with your boyfriend of five years.
• 47:06
  Speaker 3: And you got into a relationship immediately after. And you're like, oh, wow,
• 47:10
  Speaker 3: this guy that, you know, immediately pounced when I got
• 47:15
  Speaker 3: out of this five year relationship and didn't give me
• 47:17
  Speaker 3: any time to heal. Who was also in a relationship. Yeah.
• 47:22
  Speaker 3: Is this a good idea? No, obviously it's not.
• 47:25
  Speaker 2: I have voiced some of these concerns to him, and
• 47:28
  Speaker 2: what he last told me was that I don't have
• 47:31
  Speaker 2: to go through the mourning alone. I don't want to
• 47:33
  Speaker 2: break his heart, but I can't live with this jealousy
• 47:36
  Speaker 2: and mistrust. I do love him, but I don't like
• 47:40
  Speaker 2: how he acts, and there's another update two months later.
• 47:43
  Speaker 2: You don't want to break his heart, the guy who
• 47:45
  Speaker 2: cheated on his girlfriend with you?
• 47:47
  Speaker 3: We can break his heart. It's okay. We can break
• 47:50
  Speaker 3: his heart.
• 47:50
  Speaker 4: OP, reading this is exhausting, which means... Your relationship with
• 47:56
  Speaker 4: him is probably exhausting.
• 47:59
  Speaker 1: Let's see what the update has in store for us
• 48:01
  Speaker 1: two months later. So he still called her beautiful.
• 48:05
  Speaker 2: Suggested going to visit and told her she's his best
• 48:08
  Speaker 2: friend and a source of inspiration. I laid down some
• 48:11
  Speaker 2: boundaries and he has agreed not to do or say
• 48:14
  Speaker 2: any of the above. Recently, months after this, I had
• 48:18
  Speaker 2: a weird feeling again, so I asked.
• 48:20
  Speaker 1: To see his chats. Gone. Everything deleted.
• 48:23
  Speaker 3: Yeah, when OP said, oh, well, I asked him if
• 48:26
  Speaker 3: I could look at his chats. Next time I see him,
• 48:30
  Speaker 3: my first thought, those are not going to exist anymore
• 48:33
  Speaker 3: by the time you get there. He deleted those the
• 48:35
  Speaker 3: second you brought them up.
• 48:36
  Speaker 4: So wait, I love how OP posted this. She probably
• 48:39
  Speaker 4: got really roasted or at least like, hey, wake up,
• 48:43
  Speaker 4: break up with him. And she said, no. Two more
• 48:45
  Speaker 4: months of this.
• 48:46
  Speaker 2: I know that they have talked and texted, but there
• 48:49
  Speaker 2: was no text records for the past months.
• 48:51
  Speaker 1: No call records and no Insta chats. All of it
• 48:53
  Speaker 1: was gone. He said it was to protect me so
• 48:55
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't get jealous.
• 48:56
  Speaker 3: It's like, babe, no, no, no, you're welcome. The only
• 49:00
  Speaker 3: thing that I had in there was cheating. I didn't
• 49:02
  Speaker 3: want you to see that.
• 49:03
  Speaker 4: I did this for you.
• 49:05
  Speaker 2: But if there was just friendship, why would I get jealous, right?
• 49:08
  Speaker 2: I was so hurt. I said I couldn't keep going
• 49:11
  Speaker 2: in the relationship. He asked her to send him screenshots
• 49:14
  Speaker 2: of the past conversations, and it was just him saying
• 49:16
  Speaker 2: happy birthday and her taking a pic of the picture
• 49:19
  Speaker 2: he had mailed. to her as a birthday present. Why
• 49:22
  Speaker 2: did he delete that? I feel like when I start
• 49:24
  Speaker 2: to trust him, he messes it up. We have kept going.
• 49:28
  Speaker 2: A friend of mine gave me advice and said he's
• 49:31
  Speaker 2: just a very sensitive boy who needs to express his feelings.
• 49:34
  Speaker 2: But he lied to me. To my face again. We
• 49:37
  Speaker 2: are still together, but I feel like the trust is broken.
• 49:40
  Speaker 2: I have asked to speak to her, and we're pending
• 49:43
  Speaker 2: on that today. She is not the issue. It's the
• 49:47
  Speaker 2: way he behaves with her.
• 49:48
  Speaker 4: OP, you're an issue right now.
• 49:50
  Speaker 3: You're my issue now. You're my only issue. You're bringing
• 49:52
  Speaker 3: me the story. You're my only issue. Break out with him.
• 49:55
  Speaker 2: I have read more of their conversations. He says things like,
• 49:58
  Speaker 2: how can you be so beautiful? And I'm emotionally hungover.
• 50:02
  Speaker 1: After your visit because I miss you so much.
• 50:05
  Speaker 2: He is always asking for FaceTimes and he's the one
• 50:09
  Speaker 2: to initiate conversation. He also told her we just started
• 50:13
  Speaker 2: dating in July with the whole going to the beach
• 50:16
  Speaker 2: with his family issue when we've been dating since March.
• 50:20
  Speaker 2: Let's finish this. And I know it's in the past
• 50:23
  Speaker 2: and he doesn't treat her like that anymore, but I
• 50:25
  Speaker 2: feel it's because I basically forbid it.
• 50:28
  Speaker 1: I don't want to act like this. I feel toxic.
• 50:31
  Speaker 2: But I also can't accept this. He says he's showing
• 50:34
  Speaker 2: me with actions, but then why did he lie? And
• 50:37
  Speaker 2: I feel like I hate this poor girl and I
• 50:39
  Speaker 2: don't even know her. Now I'm supposed to talk to her,
• 50:41
  Speaker 2: but the issue is my boyfriend. This is affecting my sleep.
• 50:44
  Speaker 2: It gives me anxiety. And I want to be able
• 50:47
  Speaker 2: to understand if I can accept this or if I'm
• 50:49
  Speaker 2: just not wired to accept a female best friend and
• 50:51
  Speaker 2: should end the relationship. I really feel toxic. And like
• 50:54
  Speaker 2: a red siren is going off in my head all
• 50:56
  Speaker 2: the time.
• 50:57
  Speaker 1: Should I listen?
• 50:58
  Speaker 3: Oh, you know what? I don't think you can listen.
• 51:01
  Speaker 3: I think you've plugged your ears.
• 51:04
  Speaker 1: He's otherwise sweet, caring, and attentive.
• 51:07
  Speaker 2: I think I have trust issues and I'm jealous, but
• 51:10
  Speaker 2: I've never been like this. I'm thinking of getting psychological help.
• 51:14
  Speaker 1: You know what?
• 51:15
  Speaker 3: Best thing you said all day. Finally, someone can tell you, girl,
• 51:18
  Speaker 3: what are you doing?
• 51:20
  Speaker 2: You definitely need someone to help you understand... What is
• 51:24
  Speaker 2: going on in your train of thought?
• 51:27
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story. Let's head to
• 51:29
  Speaker 1: the next one.
• 51:30
  Speaker 3: My boyfriend proposed at my aunt's funeral. I was mortified
• 51:33
  Speaker 3: and said, no!
• 51:35
  Speaker 1: What's a better time than right now? Life is short.
• 51:38
  Speaker 3: My 26 female boyfriend, 30 male, and I have been
• 51:41
  Speaker 3: dating for three years. We don't live together because we
• 51:45
  Speaker 3: both want to get married first, since our parents wouldn't
• 51:47
  Speaker 3: agree to cohabitating before marriage. I've been fairly obvious about
• 51:51
  Speaker 3: wanting to get married and my boyfriend has picked up
• 51:53
  Speaker 3: on it. Last week, we went to my great aunt's funeral.
• 51:56
  Speaker 3: Although I didn't know her very well, I was still upset.
• 51:59
  Speaker 3: And it was really hard to see how much it
• 52:01
  Speaker 3: hurt my mother. After the funeral, we went to a
• 52:03
  Speaker 3: hall we rented to cater to the other mourners and
• 52:06
  Speaker 3: to remember her. And my boyfriend saw this as a
• 52:09
  Speaker 3: chance to propose. That is possibly one of the worst
• 52:14
  Speaker 3: times to propose.
• 52:16
  Speaker 1: I mean, lowering her into the ground would have been
• 52:19
  Speaker 1: worse as well.
• 52:20
  Speaker 3: No, he goes, he goes, if everyone could just pause
• 52:23
  Speaker 3: for a moment as we lower my beautiful girlfriends into
• 52:28
  Speaker 3: the ground, I would like to also lower myself onto
• 52:31
  Speaker 3: my knee and propose. What say you?
• 52:34
  Speaker 4: While we celebrate, we also celebrate marriage.
• 52:38
  Speaker 1: Everybody there just gets him and pushes him into the
• 52:41
  Speaker 1: hole too.
• 52:42
  Speaker 3: This left me mortified, and everyone was staring at us
• 52:45
  Speaker 3: for using this to make it about ourselves. I said, no,
• 52:49
  Speaker 3: and he got angry and walked off, saying that I'm
• 52:52
  Speaker 3: the one who wants to get married, so I shouldn't
• 52:54
  Speaker 3: care where he proposes. Huh.
• 52:57
  Speaker 4: There's a time and a place for everything.
• 52:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah, well, I.
• 52:59
  Speaker 3: Wanted to get married in the past tense. He also
• 53:03
  Speaker 3: said that if I truly loved him, I would say yes.
• 53:05
  Speaker 3: He's ignoring me right now and won't give me a
• 53:07
  Speaker 3: chance to explain. By the way, this comes from BunnyRabbit304.
• 53:11
  Speaker 3: And if you want to submit your own stories, go
• 53:13
  Speaker 3: to the r slash OKStoryTime subreddit. I'm Sophia.
• 53:16
  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
• 53:16
  Speaker 4: I think I'm Keon.
• 53:17
  Speaker 3: And we're here to give good advice goofily, but we
• 53:19
  Speaker 3: don't have all the answers. We only know what we do.
• 53:22
  Speaker 3: So let us know what you would do in the comments.
• 53:23
  Speaker 3: And Opie says, In any other scenario, I would say yes.
• 53:27
  Speaker 3: But I didn't think it was the right place or time.
• 53:29
  Speaker 3: The fact that you think that you need to explain
• 53:32
  Speaker 3: why that wasn't the right time is crazy.
• 53:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, this is a shocking level of non-understanding.
• 53:40
  Speaker 3: I was wondering if I'm the a-hole because I rejected
• 53:43
  Speaker 3: him even though I want to get married. When I
• 53:45
  Speaker 3: asked my co-worker, she agreed that what I did was wrong.
• 53:49
  Speaker 3: You have weird co-workers.
• 53:50
  Speaker 4: Co-worker marry him then. Go for it.
• 53:52
  Speaker 3: But I want some more opinions from people who don't
• 53:54
  Speaker 3: know me. So am I the a-hole? And we do
• 53:57
  Speaker 3: have an edit. What do you think, Dakota? Do you
• 54:00
  Speaker 3: think that OP's the a-hole? No.
• 54:02
  Speaker 2: The only time I've ever felt someone's an a-hole for
• 54:05
  Speaker 2: rejecting a proposal has been that guy proposed to his
• 54:07
  Speaker 2: girlfriend in a stadium full of people for a basketball game,
• 54:10
  Speaker 2: and she just walked away.
• 54:12
  Speaker 1: But you know what? You're right for that.
• 54:14
  Speaker 2: You're allowed to not get married to someone if you
• 54:18
  Speaker 2: don't want. But yeah, just because you want to get
• 54:21
  Speaker 2: married doesn't mean you have to accept a proposal at a...
• 54:24
  Speaker 2: And then his explanation is what's getting me.
• 54:28
  Speaker 1: You're the one who wanted to get married, so why
• 54:30
  Speaker 1: didn't you say yes? It's like... So do you not want?
• 54:33
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that would really piss me off. Just finding out
• 54:36
  Speaker 3: that he didn't even want it.
• 54:38
  Speaker 1: It's just like your whole family's here. Even your aunt.
• 54:41
  Speaker 1: They're all watching.
• 54:42
  Speaker 2: It was the last chance I had to propose to
• 54:44
  Speaker 2: you in front of your aunt that you don't really
• 54:46
  Speaker 2: know that well.
• 54:47
  Speaker 3: Edit. I'm seeing a lot of comments talking about how
• 54:49
  Speaker 3: we let our parents dictate our lives. So I just
• 54:52
  Speaker 3: want to clarify that we both live on our own
• 54:54
  Speaker 3: and have spent long periods of time at each other's apartments.
• 54:58
  Speaker 3: The only reason we don't live together is out of
• 55:01
  Speaker 3: respect for our parents' views. I have a roommate and
• 55:04
  Speaker 3: he doesn't, so I spend most of my time at
• 55:06
  Speaker 3: his place. We just don't officially live together. Thank you
• 55:09
  Speaker 3: for all your responses. We're both speaking to each other
• 55:12
  Speaker 3: about everything and we both agree that we should have
• 55:14
  Speaker 3: communicated more about our future together. The situation is progressing. However,
• 55:19
  Speaker 3: I'm reevaluating our relationship and things that have happened recently
• 55:22
  Speaker 3: and in the past. He's adamant about being in the
• 55:24
  Speaker 3: right because he believes he was trying to cheer everyone
• 55:27
  Speaker 3: up by giving us something to celebrate instead of mourn.
• 55:30
  Speaker 3: He's like, this party was such a downer anyway. I
• 55:33
  Speaker 3: didn't realize how emotionally immature he really is. And there's
• 55:36
  Speaker 3: an update.
• 55:37
  Speaker 1: I get, I get that.
• 55:39
  Speaker 3: I don't get that. That's crazy.
• 55:40
  Speaker 2: I mean, it's not right, but it's like, I understand like, okay.
• 55:44
  Speaker 3: I'm uncomfortable with passing.
• 55:47
  Speaker 2: He's a silly guy. And maybe he got so upset
• 55:49
  Speaker 2: about it because he felt.
• 55:50
  Speaker 1: Embarrassed that you rejected him in front of your entire family.
• 55:53
  Speaker 3: Could be, could be, could be.
• 55:55
  Speaker 1: I'm really latching onto that whole, hey, I want to
• 55:57
  Speaker 1: get married. Not, not we, not we.
• 56:00
  Speaker 3: That's truly the most important issue to me. Update. A
• 56:05
  Speaker 3: lot has happened since my first post. Firstly, me and
• 56:08
  Speaker 3: my boyfriend have since broken up. This was for a
• 56:10
  Speaker 3: multitude of reasons. The biggest one being that he cheated
• 56:13
  Speaker 3: on me.
• 56:14
  Speaker 4: Oh.
• 56:15
  Speaker 3: It makes sense. Well, now we know why he didn't
• 56:19
  Speaker 3: want to marry you.
• 56:21
  Speaker 2: Now he proposed at a funeral because your relationship was
• 56:24
  Speaker 2: also gone already.
• 56:26
  Speaker 1: You know?
• 56:26
  Speaker 3: We had not been living together, but I did spend
• 56:28
  Speaker 3: most of my time staying in his place. However, when
• 56:31
  Speaker 3: I went to visit him, his friend told me that
• 56:33
  Speaker 3: he had been cheating on me and had gotten another
• 56:35
  Speaker 3: girl pregnant.
• 56:36
  Speaker 1: He's doing the Lord's work, you know?
• 56:37
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm so glad he's respecting your parents' wishes. This
• 56:42
  Speaker 3: crushed me because we had been dating for nearly four years.
• 56:46
  Speaker 3: This led to us breaking up. Makes sense. When I
• 56:48
  Speaker 3: questioned him about why he had cheated, he told me
• 56:51
  Speaker 3: he wasn't the type to commit to anyone, despite initially...
• 56:54
  Speaker 3: pursuing me with the promise that we would be in
• 56:57
  Speaker 3: a committed relationship.
• 56:58
  Speaker 1: This man said I'm not the type to commit to
• 57:00
  Speaker 1: anyone to his four-year girlfriend. Yeah?
• 57:05
  Speaker 3: That he proposed to?
• 57:07
  Speaker 1: What?
• 57:07
  Speaker 3: This was hard for me to understand, as we had
• 57:10
  Speaker 3: been speaking about marriage and the future. When we used
• 57:12
  Speaker 3: to talk about marriage, he would always say that he
• 57:14
  Speaker 3: would never be happy in a marriage where he got
• 57:17
  Speaker 3: proposed to, as it would be an insult to his masculinity.
• 57:20
  Speaker 1: Wow. All right. Well, you'll never be in that.
• 57:23
  Speaker 3: So don't worry.
• 57:24
  Speaker 1: You had a perfect out right there.
• 57:26
  Speaker 3: Looking back on this, I should have realized that he
• 57:28
  Speaker 3: had many noticeable toxic traits. He proposed to me at
• 57:32
  Speaker 3: my aunt's funeral, which is something I will never understand.
• 57:35
  Speaker 3: When I asked him why he did that, he initially
• 57:38
  Speaker 3: claimed it was to make everyone happy. It feels very
• 57:41
  Speaker 3: like childlike.
• 57:43
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 57:44
  Speaker 3: To just assume that you can always make any like
• 57:48
  Speaker 3: emotion go away if you just, you know, are a
• 57:52
  Speaker 3: little goofy.
• 57:53
  Speaker 1: Yeah, true.
• 57:54
  Speaker 2: Well, and also I now very much doubt that that
• 57:57
  Speaker 2: is what he, that that was true.
• 57:59
  Speaker 3: But when I pushed him for more information, he told
• 58:01
  Speaker 3: me it was to show his lover that I was
• 58:03
  Speaker 3: a bad person.
• 58:04
  Speaker 1: Whoa. Okay. Well, that. You know what?
• 58:08
  Speaker 2: Thinking that a proposal at a funeral will make everyone happy,
• 58:11
  Speaker 2: I thought that was the dumbest thing that you could think.
• 58:14
  Speaker 1: But that's even dumber.
• 58:15
  Speaker 3: So he knew you were going to say no. And
• 58:17
  Speaker 3: he was like, oh, I can go back to my
• 58:19
  Speaker 3: affair partner and say, look, she rejected me. Isn't that awful?
• 58:24
  Speaker 1: Oh, brother.
• 58:25
  Speaker 3: This is because he was cheating on me with my
• 58:27
  Speaker 3: aunt's friend's daughter who was at the funeral.
• 58:34
  Speaker 4: Before the funeral or after?
• 58:35
  Speaker 1: What?
• 58:36
  Speaker 4: How did they meet?
• 58:38
  Speaker 3: Oh, before the funeral because they were having an affair.
• 58:41
  Speaker 3: So he proposed to me to show that our relationship
• 58:43
  Speaker 3: is over to that girl in order to justify why
• 58:45
  Speaker 3: he was cheating.
• 58:46
  Speaker 4: This guy makes zero sense. There's no logic.
• 58:49
  Speaker 3: Dude, you can just break up with her.
• 58:51
  Speaker 4: He has zero logic.
• 58:52
  Speaker 3: You're so stupid. Even though he knew that I was grieving.
• 58:55
  Speaker 3: Opie continues, since we broke up about three weeks after
• 58:59
  Speaker 3: the funeral, his friend who exposed the affair to me
• 59:02
  Speaker 3: told me that because she was pregnant, he had to
• 59:04
  Speaker 3: find a way to make her not leave him and
• 59:06
  Speaker 3: chose the funeral to make a public display for her. What?
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  Speaker 1: That also makes no sense because she's pregnant he has
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  Speaker 1: to find a way for her to not leave him.
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  Speaker 3: I don't understand why he's acting like this.
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  Speaker 2: No logic no logic he's biracial dude put me in
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  Speaker 2: the ground next to auntie i'm done I can't even.
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  Speaker 3: I can't move on from this. I haven't seen him
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  Speaker 3: since the breakup and his friend moved all of my
• 59:33
  Speaker 3: stuff out of the apartment for me so I don't
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  Speaker 3: have to see him.
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  Speaker 1: Hey.
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  Speaker 3: Nice friend.
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  Speaker 1: Do not date his friend. Do not date his friend.
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  Speaker 3: His family are very strict, and because he's having a
• 59:43
  Speaker 3: kid out of wedlock, they have refused to help him.
• 59:46
  Speaker 3: So he's been contacting me for help. I have not responded,
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  Speaker 3: nor do I intend to respond, because I will not
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  Speaker 3: lower my self-worth to help someone who never truly cared
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  Speaker 3: about me. Since our breakup, my life has improved. as
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  Speaker 3: I can now do the things that he never wanted
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 3: me to do. And I've now realized how lucky I
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 3: am that we never married. And that's the end of
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 3: the story. You are really lucky. Lucky, lucky, lucky girl. Yeah,
• 1:00:13
  Speaker 3: sometimes you find out at the last minute that these
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 3: people are terrible.
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  Speaker 1: I just don't understand, man. How do you cheat on
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  Speaker 1: your partner?
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  Speaker 4: Of four years.
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  Speaker 2: And it's like, you know, when you get to that
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  Speaker 2: moment of like, oh, I really, oh, I'm like really
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 2: wanting to pursue this person.
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  Speaker 1: I want to, I want to, it's like, oh, this is, well,
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  Speaker 1: I guess I should break up with my.
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  Speaker 2: Partner because clearly I want to be single.
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  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story. Let's head to
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  Speaker 3: My parents discovered that I kissed my boyfriend. It made
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 3: my whole family act crazy.
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  Speaker 1: Well, yeah, you're a sinner. You're a dirty little, dirty
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  Speaker 1: little sinner.
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  Speaker 3: My parents discovered that my boyfriend and I kissed. Yes,
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 3: a kiss.
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  Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, guys, it started out with a kiss.
• 1:01:12
  Speaker 4: How did it end up like this?
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  Speaker 3: As a result, I've had my phone and all electronics
• 1:01:17
  Speaker 3: confiscated for two weeks. Well, now I have a strict
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 3: phone limitation and I'm apparently being issued a landline so
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 3: I can still communicate with civilization once my screen time expires. Additionally,
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 3: my parents have declared that my boyfriend and I will
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 3: never be alone together ever again. and even accused us
• 1:01:36
  Speaker 3: of kissing in my mom's car, which we did not do. However,
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 3: the accusations did not stop there. I've also been accused
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 3: of sneaking around and secretly kissing my boyfriend, or potentially
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 3: doing more, despite there being absolutely no evidence of this. Apparently,
• 1:01:52
  Speaker 3: one kiss has opened an entire criminal investigation. By the way,
• 1:01:56
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  Speaker 3: I'm Sophia.
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  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
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  Speaker 4: I'm Dakota.
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  Speaker 3: And what? We're all Dakota. And here to give good
• 1:02:09
  Speaker 3: advice goofily, but we don't have all the answers, so
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 3: give us your answers. I was then instructed to treat
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 3: my boyfriend like a brother and never do anything so
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 3: inappropriate ever again. I was informed that I have completely
• 1:02:20
  Speaker 3: shattered their trust. According to my parents, the whole situation
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 3: is entirely my fault because I should have simply said
• 1:02:26
  Speaker 3: no and walked away. No kissing. I would like to
• 1:02:30
  Speaker 3: point out that this advice was delivered after the kiss
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 3: had already happened. Evidently, I was supposed to terminate the
• 1:02:36
  Speaker 3: situation with the reaction speed of a ninja. My dad
• 1:02:40
  Speaker 3: also hit me with, I thought you had a level
• 1:02:41
  Speaker 3: head on your shoulders. Then my mom informed me that
• 1:02:44
  Speaker 3: I should not be doing things like this until I'm
• 1:02:46
  Speaker 3: a grown adult, because she would never have allowed my
• 1:02:49
  Speaker 3: dad to do that to her.
• 1:02:50
  Speaker 1: Was this written in 1940? Like, what? Is this?
• 1:02:55
  Speaker 3: I would once again like to remind everyone that my
• 1:02:57
  Speaker 3: parents are married. Unless I have fundamentally misunderstood how marriage works,
• 1:03:03
  Speaker 3: I am reasonably certain they have kissed at least once
• 1:03:07
  Speaker 3: since their wedding day. My mom also compared the situation
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 3: to me hanging out with my friends and completely ignoring
• 1:03:12
  Speaker 3: them because I was too busy kissing my boyfriend. This
• 1:03:15
  Speaker 3: comparison confused me because the incident in question happened exactly
• 1:03:19
  Speaker 3: one time. I have also been informed that this could
• 1:03:21
  Speaker 3: ruin my reputation.
• 1:03:23
  Speaker 1: Are you a witch? Small southern town.
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 3: Again, the offense in question is, one, kiss. To make
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 3: matters even more confusing, my parents never actually had a
• 1:03:35
  Speaker 3: rule about kissing. I was never told, you cannot kiss
• 1:03:38
  Speaker 3: while dating, or kissing is against our rules. Had I
• 1:03:42
  Speaker 3: known it would be viewed as such a serious issue,
• 1:03:45
  Speaker 3: I would have at least known where the boundary was. Instead,
• 1:03:48
  Speaker 3: it feels like I somehow broke a rule that I
• 1:03:51
  Speaker 3: didn't know existed. Advice? And there is an update.
• 1:03:56
  Speaker 1: Uh, advice? Tell me how old you are.
• 1:03:58
  Speaker 3: That's my advice. Tell me. Tell me.
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  Speaker 1: I don't care how old you are. Where's your spirit
• 1:04:03
  Speaker 1: of rebellion?
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  Speaker 4: Two things. I found out how old OP is.
• 1:04:07
  Speaker 3: OP is?
• 1:04:08
  Speaker 4: 15. And I found out where OP's from. I don't
• 1:04:11
  Speaker 4: have exact location, but area. Like, location-wise on the, like,
• 1:04:15
  Speaker 4: it's in the, it's in the south.
• 1:04:17
  Speaker 3: Update. Against all odds, there's been another development in this saga.
• 1:04:22
  Speaker 3: The day after I got my phone back, my iPad
• 1:04:24
  Speaker 3: is still in captivity, my family invited my boyfriend to
• 1:04:28
  Speaker 3: go swimming at our community pool. Now I thought this
• 1:04:31
  Speaker 3: was odd considering I had just been ungrounded, but I
• 1:04:34
  Speaker 3: figured maybe things are getting better. I was told I
• 1:04:37
  Speaker 3: would be swimming with my boyfriend. What I was not
• 1:04:40
  Speaker 3: told was that my entire family would also be attending
• 1:04:43
  Speaker 3: along with two of my friends. At the beginning, it
• 1:04:46
  Speaker 3: was just me, my boyfriend, and my sister in the pool.
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 3: Then my mom came over and stood near us for
• 1:04:50
  Speaker 3: a while. A little later, my cousins arrived. After that,
• 1:04:54
  Speaker 3: every time my boyfriend and I were talking, it felt
• 1:04:56
  Speaker 3: like my mom kept drifting closer to our area of
• 1:04:59
  Speaker 3: the pool or watching us from nearby. Whether she intended
• 1:05:02
  Speaker 3: it that way or not, I definitely felt like I
• 1:05:05
  Speaker 3: was under surveillance. Then my two friends arrived. Their first question,
• 1:05:09
  Speaker 3: why is your whole family here? To which I replied,
• 1:05:12
  Speaker 3: I honestly have no idea. Because I didn't. Eventually, my mom,
• 1:05:17
  Speaker 3: my godmother, and my aunt all got into the pool too.
• 1:05:20
  Speaker 3: I feel like they're gonna have shame, you guys. I
• 1:05:23
  Speaker 3: feel like they're gearing up for public humiliation.
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah, probably. Pee on them.
• 1:05:30
  Speaker 3: Whenever they ended up close to us, we naturally moved
• 1:05:33
  Speaker 3: somewhere else just to have a normal conversation. At one point,
• 1:05:36
  Speaker 3: one of my friends mentioned that she's bi. Since my
• 1:05:39
  Speaker 3: family has very traditional views, I quietly suggested we move
• 1:05:42
  Speaker 3: farther away because I was worried that if they overheard,
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 3: My parents might not let me hang out with her anymore.
• 1:05:48
  Speaker 1: They won't. Again, where's your spirit of rebellion, O.P.
• 1:05:52
  Speaker 4: Don't worry, O.P. Don't worry, don't worry. The clock's ticking.
• 1:05:55
  Speaker 4: Three more years.
• 1:05:56
  Speaker 3: We got a little bit left to this story. Even
• 1:05:59
  Speaker 3: after we got out of the pool, I still felt
• 1:06:01
  Speaker 3: like my mom was keeping a close eye on us.
• 1:06:03
  Speaker 3: On the ride home, my dad, who is admittedly the
• 1:06:05
  Speaker 3: more relaxed parent, drove my boyfriend home. Today, however, I
• 1:06:09
  Speaker 3: learned something from my sister. Apparently, the reason my entire
• 1:06:13
  Speaker 3: family was invited to the pool in the first place
• 1:06:15
  Speaker 3: was to make sure my boyfriend and I acted appropriately. Yeah,
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 3: because I'm sure OP and her boyfriend were going to
• 1:06:21
  Speaker 3: make out in front of OP's parents who got mad
• 1:06:24
  Speaker 3: at her for kissing him once.
• 1:06:26
  Speaker 2: What's weird to me is that they're like, you can't
• 1:06:28
  Speaker 2: kiss your boyfriend, but you can have your boyfriend?
• 1:06:33
  Speaker 3: To make matters even better, right before I left to
• 1:06:35
  Speaker 3: meet him, my mom told me, now don't be inappropriate
• 1:06:38
  Speaker 3: with him like last time. For context, last time was
• 1:06:42
  Speaker 3: my first kiss. Still, just one kiss.
• 1:06:45
  Speaker 2: Try not to go off the deep end, OP, because
• 1:06:47
  Speaker 2: your parents are pushing you as hard as you can.
• 1:06:51
  Speaker 2: I'm glad that you don't have the spirit of rebellion
• 1:06:53
  Speaker 2: because you'd be in jail, probably.
• 1:06:56
  Speaker 4: Are your parents jealous? They're not jealous of you, but
• 1:06:59
  Speaker 4: they're like, oh my gosh, she shows more affection than
• 1:07:01
  Speaker 4: we do.
• 1:07:03
  Speaker 1: Probably.
• 1:07:03
  Speaker 3: They probably don't do any affection. They've probably been convinced
• 1:07:07
  Speaker 3: that even when they got married, that they still couldn't
• 1:07:11
  Speaker 3: show affection or it was sinful. And they're projecting that
• 1:07:15
  Speaker 3: onto you now.
• 1:07:16
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story.