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Ep. 44 Letting go of the gender roles with money (with special guest Andrea Blythe) · Your Money, Your Rules | Financial Mastery, Wealth Mindset, Leadership Principles, Intuitive Decision-Making, Human Design

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Erin Gray: You're listening to Generate a Life Well-Lived podcast.
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Erin Gray: I'm your friend and confidant, erin Gray.
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Erin Gray: I'm a former certified financial planner, turned human design, financial mentor and guide to entrepreneurs.
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Erin Gray: I believe our money and our business can only thrive at the level of our emotional wellbeing.
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Erin Gray: I empower entrepreneurs to feel confident with their money and in their business so that they can have fun now and in the future.
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Erin Gray: On this podcast, we will explore all things money, business and self-development, including human design.
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Erin Gray: I hope you enjoy the journey where I share everything that I know and am continuing to learn along the way, as I honor my heart's desires while inspiring and encouraging you to do the same.
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Erin Gray: Hey, hey, my friends, how is everyone today?
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Erin Gray: I've got Andrea Blythe on the podcast today and she is the creator of Let Love Rise and she teaches using the four pillars of moon music, mindset and magi, magi, magi, magi.
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Erin Gray: See she told me before and I'm like dude, you got to explain this stuff to me and so we can talk a little bit about that too, because, uh, yeah, it's fascinating.
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Erin Gray: So on the podcast today we're going to talk about how disempowerment with our money shows up with I think it shows up in different ways for each of us, right, Um, the gender roles that we've assumed with money, and then how that's also changing.
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Erin Gray: And trust Andrea and I were talking about this before, of like trust that we give and put in others and we don't put it in ourselves or we don't.
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Erin Gray: I think letting go and trusting like universe, God, spirit, source, whatever you believe in has been a big one.
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Erin Gray: And then also how being in your body feels a lot better than being in your head.
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Andrea Blythe: So preach body feels a lot better than being in your head, so preach, so thank you for being here.
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Andrea Blythe: Oh my God, thanks for having me here.
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Andrea Blythe: I'm just so excited to be here and having this conversation with you.
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Andrea Blythe: I know it's something we talk about regularly.
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Erin Gray: So, yeah, this is fun, yeah, so let's dive in, let's talk about if you want to share, like kind of take people on the journey of that you've had with money and how you know, because you and I've had these conversations offline of like how money and disempowerment has showed up for you versus for me and there's like it's all.
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Erin Gray: It's different for everyone, right, but I think that there is a uh, I think people can relate to how, like your story and how it showed up for you how like your story and how it showed up for you.
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Andrea Blythe: Yeah, yeah, well, thank you again for having me on here today.
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Andrea Blythe: Um, disempowerment with money is, um, that was like a hard pill for me to swallow, because I know very clearly now that I intentionally chose to give my power away and, um, I did this particularly in my marriage.
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Andrea Blythe: So I am coming.
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Andrea Blythe: I'm four years post divorce.
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Andrea Blythe: I was married for 20 years, lived in a very traditional like Beaver, cleaver, gender stereotypical role type marriage and I knew throughout that that I and I knew throughout that that I, I um empowered my then husband to make all the financial decisions and was totally at peace with that, had complete and utter trust in him and his guidance for the family.
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Andrea Blythe: And um didn't really recognize until being on the other side of my divorce, um, going through, going through the divorce, and particularly this was the hardest and final piece.
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Andrea Blythe: I mean, there's so many pieces of picking your life back to, piecing your life back together, especially if it's something like for me.
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Andrea Blythe: It was a 20 year marriage.
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Andrea Blythe: I've known him since high school days, was just like my best friend and I felt blindsided by the divorce.
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Andrea Blythe: So, just picking up all those pieces, I tended to everything else.
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Andrea Blythe: And then there was continually like this lingering financial piece so it's like you have to learn your finances and take charge over this and, um, and there was a moment and I'm I'm a big numerologist Um, and it was on February 22nd of the year 2022.
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Andrea Blythe: So two 22 of 2022.
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Andrea Blythe: And I was at a friend's house in gig Harbor, uh, washington, just overlooking the water, just, you know, trying to catch my breath, like on this road trip with my puppy.
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Andrea Blythe: I was like, why did I even get a puppy?
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Andrea Blythe: What am I doing, you know?
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Andrea Blythe: And I just, it's something clicked.
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Andrea Blythe: On that day I received an email get this at 2 22 in the morning.
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Andrea Blythe: Um, that was it that.
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Andrea Blythe: That just spoke to me in a way about it was like you have the power.
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Andrea Blythe: You have the power to, um, you like I, I was in a huge scarcity mindset, like thinking that I needed, I needed him to, you know, either pay me more child support or him to do this or take care of that.
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Andrea Blythe: And it was just like it was this moment of clarity that I had tried to encapsulate in my writing.
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Andrea Blythe: And so there is a blog post called 222.
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Andrea Blythe: That was about this moment where I was like it, just like it felt like there was a pressure valve released.
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Andrea Blythe: When I was like it, just like it felt like there was a um, a pressure valve released.
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Andrea Blythe: When I was like I am choosing to be limiting myself in this mindset of scarcity and dependency on him, even though, like, we had officially divorced at this point it was a couple of months after no, he was almost even years after the divorce was final.
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Andrea Blythe: And that's when I realized it's time, it's time for you to come home, face your finances, and when you do so, it is going to strengthen you, it is going to empower you, it is something that you it's the, it is something that you it's, it's the final piece of the puzzle that you are ready to take on.
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Andrea Blythe: And I don't and I think that that was important too Like there was so much tending to set, it was such a big wound that this was the last part, and it's one that I will still say, that today, 2024, I am still healing this wound, this financial, you know wound of disempowerment.
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Erin Gray: Yeah, I think I think a lot of us are right, Like, I think that we think we hear people that talk about things on podcasts or you know wherever they are Right, and we hear things and we think, oh, like that person has gotten to a place where it doesn't show up, and I don't, I mean, everybody gets to have their own belief, but, like, I don't know if that will ever be the case for me.
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Erin Gray: I just know that the intensity that I feel in my body is not the intensity that I used to feel, Right and, and I think that it shows up as each time I want to up level, right, there's just this, this boring song that is on repeat, that that it tells me things around scarcity.
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Erin Gray: When it comes time for me to, like what, I'm going outside my comfort zone, Right, and I think that, um, yeah, so for those of you listening or watching, it's like it's okay that, like I think that's part of the attachment, right, Like we want that to go away so that we can feel safe and okay, Right, Versus you know what.
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Erin Gray: It gets to stay there as long as it wants to, and it doesn't, it doesn't have to define who I am, or you know, drive, drive the bus anymore.
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Erin Gray: And I think with you, know you share your story is very powerful, because I think there's a lot of women that I talked to Like I was disempowered with money, of the fact of like I learned all of the things, I was going to take care of our money, I was going to do all the things, but I still gave my power away to money.
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Erin Gray: Of like we can't do X Y Z because of money, or we need to save more or we need to Right, and so a lot of do X Y Z because of money, or we need to save more or we need to Right.
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Erin Gray: And so a lot of, I think a lot of spouses I would say majority of women, right, that I've talked to, I want to say majority of women that I talked to.
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Erin Gray: But women that are in this position, um, give their power away to their spouse, right.
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Erin Gray: Like we either stay in marriages for because of because they are the breadwinner, right, or we, you know, don't want to ask for things because they're the ones that you know handle the finances.
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Erin Gray: Like there's just so many ways and and if this is you, if you are saying, Ooh, like this is this, are some of the things that I do.
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Erin Gray: This isn't a problem, right?
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Erin Gray: It's just like oh, this is awareness of, like, yes, you also, I think a lot of you know I, I, I wasn't a stay at home mom, but I know lots of stay at home moms that were like well, he makes the money and so I don't really have a job.
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Andrea Blythe: Right, like we, we, you feel it's empower ourselves, right, yeah, it creates like a dynamic, a role of it's almost, and I, and I know I again, I think I, I put myself in that position.
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Andrea Blythe: But that dynamic it's goes straight back to childhood, where you're like asking your parent for money even though it's like, oh no, like I am also working.
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Andrea Blythe: I was a stay at home mom for 13 years.
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Andrea Blythe: I have three amazing beautiful children.
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Andrea Blythe: I kept a large house and two dogs and I did all of that and yet I did.
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Andrea Blythe: I write like access to the money was always it was, it was asking permission for this and permission for that, whereas you know, like I don't, I, I I'm going to assume that he did not feel the same way, that he needed to ask me permission to spend money, and but he definitely made decision Like we never, we all, we were always saving for a rainy day, yeah, and I just trusted that like that, that was in our best interest.
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Erin Gray: But yeah, and I always say to those women that think that, right, it's like, in order for your spouse to to generate that money, what would he or you know, however your spouse to to generate that money, what would he or you know, however, your spouse, right, like what would they have to actually pay someone to do all of the cleaning, to do all of the nannying, to do all of the you know, grocery, like all of that right, and I think I think we have, as women, we have um gosh, what is the word I want to say?
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Erin Gray: It's like um downgraded, our like down, like downgraded, or, uh, you know, minimized our value.
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Erin Gray: Yeah, diminished our value.
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Erin Gray: Um, for what we bring to the table If we aren't doing air quotes, right, for those of you listening like, uh, you know, we don't have a business, or we don't have a job, like we don't have a paycheck coming in Okay, yeah, cause it feels like, if you're a stay at home mom, it actually feels like all you're doing is spending the money.
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Andrea Blythe: And in many ways you are because you are, you are buying the groceries, right, you are taking the kids to the activities you're doing these things for, and all this money, your job is to disperse that money.
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Andrea Blythe: So you know, like so, um, that's very much what it.
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Andrea Blythe: What it feels like that if you're not, if you're not bringing the money in, then you're just you're the spender, and yeah.
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Erin Gray: Yeah, yeah.
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Erin Gray: Um, tell me, I know you said a two 22, but did you ever feel in your marriage Like Hmm, I don't know if I like this, like maybe we agreed to this back when we got married, but like I'm a no for this now.
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Andrea Blythe: Or like this doesn't feel as good as it used to feel, or yeah, if I think about that, I, I, it really comes back to, um, how we chose to spend our, our money on, specifically on fun things and on vacations and things of that nature.
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Andrea Blythe: Um, I, you know, have done so much reflection on my former life, um, and one of the things that I've noticed is that, you know, we have, like this, this, uh, saying, you know, keeping up with the Joneses, and, and back in my married life, I feel like we were the Joneses and yet we did not.
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Andrea Blythe: I mean, and we had a.
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Andrea Blythe: There were so many great things, like we love to gather and have people at our house and host these spectacular events and parties, and that's still a passion of mine.
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Andrea Blythe: I love to host a good, you know themed event.
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Andrea Blythe: However, we didn't travel, and I love to travel and we, we camped, we car camped and we did that, but it was it kind of kept us in this or me for sure, in this mindset that we don't have enough, we don't have enough, we don't have enough.
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Andrea Blythe: And the truth is we had more than enough.
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Andrea Blythe: We could have taken that family vacation to Hawaii, like so many people go on an extravagant vacation once a year and they go to Hawaii or they go to Mexico or they go, I don't know, but the Florida, wherever, disneyland, yep, we did not do that.
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Andrea Blythe: Yeah and um, and and and.
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Andrea Blythe: Then we would have like, and then I would bring that up, and then we would have the conversation where one evening we would sit down and we would talk about the finances and, and it would go on for like hours where I would start rolling my like it didn't, I was like, okay, whatever, it just became a point.
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Erin Gray: It's like it's like whatever Right, like it's like, yeah, whatever, okay, nevermind, nevermind.
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Andrea Blythe: We'll go camping at Clark's Fork again.
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Erin Gray: Yeah, and I think this is really important to note because, again, you're sharing a lot of you know, like when I was a financial planner and then also friends and um clients and things of that sort it's like if you aren't the one that is doing the money, handling the money or you know, however you want to describe it, sometimes your spouse lives in that poverty consciousness, right, and even though you have money and this is what I have found with a lot of people like we're not talking like, oh, a hundred thousand dollars in savings.
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Erin Gray: We're talking like millions of dollars in savings and we feel like we don't have enough.
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Erin Gray: And that is that is straight from our beliefs and how we feel in our bodies.
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Erin Gray: And like what you're describing of your ex-husband.
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Erin Gray: You know like that, like that used to be me right, like I was, like we've got to get to retirement, we've got to.
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Andrea Blythe: You know like, save so much even though we had the money right, feeling like you're literally like paycheck to paycheck is what it felt like, yeah, yeah, absolutely, absolutely, cause there always had to be, yeah, saving and increasing, changing the goal right, like you would hit yeah, you would hit the goal and it was like, okay, cause we, we've been taught right, like that there's a number that's going to bring us that safety and security.
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Erin Gray: Right, it's something external outside of us.
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Erin Gray: We think that if we have X amount of money, we're going to feel safe, we're going to feel certain, we're going to feel secure, and so then we get there and we're like, well, that didn't work, so we need to.
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Andrea Blythe: I need more we need more Right?
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Erin Gray: So, um, tell me about, like in terms of what you kind of already mentioned this, but like your gender roles, were they pretty much like okay, you stay at home, you're the mom, you do all of the things, and then I'm the husband and I and did he ever have that kind of attitude?
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Erin Gray: Because this is what I've also, you know feedback that I've received from other people.
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Erin Gray: It's like I make the money, so I make the decisions.
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Erin Gray: Like that has been a a sentiment that a lot of people have shared with me as well.
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Andrea Blythe: Yeah, and I wouldn't say, like he wasn't like a total asshole about it.
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Andrea Blythe: Yeah, I don't mean it.
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Andrea Blythe: I don't mean so much grace right now, like that's, that's big on me to say that Um, but but yes, absolutely, absolutely, there was not.
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Andrea Blythe: Like if, if there was a purchase or if there was anything, let's just say, over a hundred dollars like that, that went through the conversation channel.
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Andrea Blythe: He, it was definitely uh like the conversation channel.
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Andrea Blythe: He, it was definitely uh like, like I would need to get um permission or um, yeah, that stamp of approval, or can we do this or can we not?
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Andrea Blythe: Or you know, and so my needs, my, the things that I desired, um, were always I would just drop them down to the and that included.
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Andrea Blythe: Again, that included travel, and I don't think I really knew how much my soul was yearning to travel until I'm in this chapter of my life and what I'm doing and how I'm choosing to use my money to empower me, and and, yeah, like, like you said, getting into my body and feeling like, does this feel good, does this feel right?
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Andrea Blythe: And is this where the joy is?
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Andrea Blythe: Because that's something that I have really learned.
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Andrea Blythe: You know, like I I say it a lot.
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Andrea Blythe: The joy is in the journey and it's, but like that.
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Andrea Blythe: I say that not to be flippant or quit, you know, or like a cute little catchphrase, but it helps me with my decision-making to feel how it feels in my body.
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Andrea Blythe: Does this feel right?
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Andrea Blythe: It could be super scary, because I am redefining my relationship with finances.
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Andrea Blythe: I was listening to the podcast I forget the gentleman's um name that you had a couple weeks ago about mini retirements.
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Andrea Blythe: Oh yeah, with Robert, and I just kind of loved that um, that framing of it.
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Andrea Blythe: And because you know, when I left my, my very lucrative high school teaching job I say that with the wink wink when I left that to to step out in faith on myself and my business with let love rise.
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Andrea Blythe: Yeah, people would ask me they're like are you retiring?
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Andrea Blythe: I'm like I'm 50.
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Andrea Blythe: No, I'm not retiring.
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Andrea Blythe: But then, listening to that mini retirement, I was like but in lots of ways I'm, I'm, I'm taking on a relationship with my money in a way that feels retirement.
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Andrea Blythe: Ask, because I know that how I'm choosing to spend it now is so drastically different from how I was raised, because it goes deeper than it's not just this didn't start just with my husband, right, like, of course it started younger than that and then I found the mate who would reinforce.
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Andrea Blythe: You know the gender roles, but it's very different from how we used our money, how I'm using it, but I also believe now so fully in this abundant source, divine source, and when we are fully aligned with ourselves and our creator, divine intelligence, that, like it, it comes.
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Andrea Blythe: It comes like we need to just open up those floodgates and have a different approach to it, instead of, you know this Ebenezer Scrooge type, yeah, holding on.
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Erin Gray: And, yeah, I want to go back to a couple of things, because I think it's like you know, I wrote down like, slowly, over time, right, like this is what happens, right, it's not like you and maybe it did, but tell me if I'm, if I'm on point of like it, it, it, it feeds itself a little bit at a time.
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Erin Gray: Right, it's like, okay, well, you get married and we, you know, we have this agreement and this and this, and then, like, slowly over time, his probably fear got greater, right, and then your minimization of your, you know, desires and wants, you know, became less and less and less.
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Erin Gray: And so, just being really aware of like and I think this is where we get to slow down, we get to ask ourselves like what do I want?
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Erin Gray: You know, like, that has been something that I'm not the same person, that when I got married 15 years ago, right, and, and what I agreed to or what we decided 15 years ago isn't the same now, and that's okay.
19:38
Erin Gray: Like, we are meant to evolve and to grow and to change.
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Erin Gray: Um, you said you know, like the joys in the journey, because that used to piss me off so much, because I'm like, what do you mean the joys in the journey.
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Erin Gray: Like we, we've been taught right.
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Erin Gray: We have been taught that the destination is going to bring us the feeling and it's never, it's never going to do that.
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Erin Gray: Nothing outside of you is going to do that, and I remember Abraham Hicks saying one time she's like you can never have a happy ending to a she didn't say piss, poor journey but, like a, a, a not feeling good journey right.
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Erin Gray: Like you can't.
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Erin Gray: You can't go along life and you know whatever goal you're going towards or whatever you're trying to achieve, and you have it.
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Erin Gray: You feel in your body.
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Erin Gray: You feel lots of frustration and anger and like these are baseline emotions you're feeling on a daily basis.
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Erin Gray: To then get there and think like okay, I'm going to feel amazing now, right.
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Andrea Blythe: Like yeah, but that is a hundred percent how we are raised in this society.
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Andrea Blythe: It is like I mean, I used to.
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Andrea Blythe: I was born and raised in the Bay area of California and, choosing to leave, I left seven years ago and that decision to leave was a great decision, just because I needed to break free of the pattern that you know that was societally.
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Andrea Blythe: You know the Silicon Valley, like what is happening there, like the creative but it's, but it is on this trajectory of this is what you do, like it's almost like I'm, I'm seeing like a um, I've been in a lot of airports lately, those people, movers.
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Andrea Blythe: You know the flat, yeah, magic carpets.
21:18
Erin Gray: Yeah, the magic carpet.
21:18
Erin Gray: So when?
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Andrea Blythe: you're on one of those and, like, you get on and you just keep going right, you go to school, you get the education, you go to college, you start a job, then you get married and then you, you know, and I knew that I wanted to get off of that magic carpet ride.
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Andrea Blythe: I knew I wanted to raise my, my kids, and I wanted to be home and I wanted to be that supportive role, like the role of mother, has been very strong inside of me and I'm so grateful that I did for 13 years, had that opportunity.
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Andrea Blythe: But then there was this constant again that keeping up with the Jones, and then you know, another kid comes in and, like you said, like the fear probably for my ex-husband, like was like, oh my gosh, there's another mouth feed and more diapers and more everything.
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Andrea Blythe: And then comes the third and so you're just going, going, going, going, going.
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Andrea Blythe: At this pace that is just, it's unsustainable.
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Andrea Blythe: And so we uprooted and moved here to Boise, idaho, to relieve that tension.
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Andrea Blythe: And that's when I went back into the workforce and, um, you know, everything changed and the rest is kind of history and I think a lot of um, a lot of it came out of me switching out of that role of being the at-home mom and going back into my life's work and passion for teaching.
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Andrea Blythe: Yeah, and the switch that that had for you know, because my ex at that point was going to find himself, was going to discover his passion, and you know, long story short, didn't work.
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Andrea Blythe: Didn't work, he went back to the money and then I quit my job and I'm now, I'm like you know, here we are like this is just, but it's that change.
23:05
Andrea Blythe: Is that like that's where I, I think I was moving towards.
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Andrea Blythe: Is that, like, life is meant to be enjoyed?
23:16
Erin Gray: Yes, evolving and growing.
23:18
Erin Gray: Like either we're going to do it or life's going to help us do it.
23:20
Erin Gray: Like that is my firm belief.
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Erin Gray: Like either we're going to choose it willingly and be like okay, we're going to do these things and it's going to be uncomfortable, or life is going to do it for you and then you're going to be forced to do it for life.
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Andrea Blythe: That force doesn't feel so, so good in my body, but like it's going to urge you.
23:37
Erin Gray: It's going to urge you to evolve and to grow.
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Erin Gray: And you know, yeah, going back to like what you were saying about, like Silicon Valley and like I think I think business and marketing is changing and I think it's coming.
23:52
Erin Gray: It's starting to come from a place of like do you want this?
23:55
Erin Gray: Versus something's wrong with you.
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Erin Gray: But I think that you know old school way of business and marketing is like something's wrong with you.
24:03
Erin Gray: You need this to fix right.
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Erin Gray: Like this is the thing that's going to create you to feel happy, or like I mean, why do people go and buy things or go on?
24:14
Erin Gray: When I say go on vacations, most of us old Aaron, would go on vacation to escape or to like fix something right.
24:23
Erin Gray: Versus.
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Erin Gray: This is just who I am, it's part of who I be and this is just a way to express myself.
24:29
Erin Gray: Right and so how many of us have been told or bought into the lies of marketing of like there's something wrong with you.
24:37
Erin Gray: This is going to fix you, versus all of us are whole and worthy and love and light, and if you want this, because you just want it to evolve and grow, versus you need this to make you feel a certain way.
24:50
Erin Gray: Yeah, so true, that is so true.
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Erin Gray: Yes, and so I think that you know, when you talk about Silicon Valley or just like all of us, how we have been conditioned.
25:00
Erin Gray: You know you were saying, like it doesn't matter where.
25:03
Erin Gray: I've traveled all over the world and you, no matter who you are, it's, it's fascinating.
25:08
Erin Gray: That's what I love about travel.
25:09
Erin Gray: It's like you meet people and they are very different than you and then they are the exact same as you.
25:15
Erin Gray: You know, I was having a conversation with a woman in Thailand that was taking me through the streets and she was like she was telling me how her you know, shooting like her family shoulds her to do these certain things.
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Erin Gray: I'm like it happens in America, and she was just like what?
25:27
Erin Gray: I'm like, oh yeah, it's like it doesn't matter where you go, right, like we have these cultural, societal beliefs and these norms that we have been expected to fit in, versus asking ourselves like what do I want, what do I want my life to look like?
25:40
Erin Gray: And you know, it's okay if it, if I signed up for one thing and I evolved and I've grown and I'm like I don't really want to do that anymore, you know.
25:50
Andrea Blythe: Yeah.
25:51
Erin Gray: And here we go back to trust, right, like, I think so, and you and I were talking about this offline.
25:55
Erin Gray: It's like we, here we go back to, we've been conditioned that, like, the money comes from these specific places, if I have a job, the money's going to come from here, or if I have a business, it's going to only come from here.
26:07
Erin Gray: Right Versus, our minds are limiting where the money gets to show up from.
26:14
Erin Gray: And this isn't you know, because I think some people can, can hear law of attraction and think, well, are you just sitting on the couch doing anything?
26:22
Erin Gray: And it's doing nothing.
26:23
Erin Gray: It's like, no, you're actually.
26:25
Erin Gray: When you're like, when you believe in something, you're actually taking action towards it.
26:28
Erin Gray: Right, like you're going.
26:29
Erin Gray: And you're doing things Right Like um, but the trust, the, the amount of trust that we have in something higher than us, like this was.
26:40
Erin Gray: This was what I had to learn for myself, because we did go to church when I was younger, but like it stopped around 10.
26:45
Erin Gray: And then I don't know if I really had anything that I believed in that was higher than myself, and so for a long time I believed I had to do it all.
26:55
Erin Gray: I had to do all the heavy lifting right, which feels really heavy.
27:00
Andrea Blythe: Yeah, it's like Atlas rolling the boulder.
27:04
Erin Gray: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
27:05
Erin Gray: So you know for you what has been your journey on trusting and letting go, and yeah, no, that's.
27:14
Andrea Blythe: That's such a great question.
27:16
Andrea Blythe: Because, yeah, going back to two, 22, 22, like having that ability, I was like, oh, I am limiting myself in this scarcity mindset, I am feeling like I need this from him or from somewhere else, and it's like, no, no, abundance is within you.
27:31
Andrea Blythe: So that was a message that came to me.
27:34
Andrea Blythe: And then, and then, working towards that has, um, what is what eventually led me to quit my job as a high school teacher?
27:42
Andrea Blythe: Because I recognize that time is such an asset I mean, we all are gifted the same amount of time and how I was choosing to energetically spend my time was in a profession that was actually limited.
28:06
Andrea Blythe: I can look at the rubric and it doesn't matter that I have my master's degree in education from Stanford.
28:12
Andrea Blythe: They could not care less.
28:14
Andrea Blythe: I get a little stipend for having a master's, but here's what you're going to make this year, here's what you're going to make next year, here's what you're going to make at 65.
28:22
Andrea Blythe: And guess what?
28:23
Andrea Blythe: It is never going to be above $60,000 for somebody who was very well educated, you know, and again, if you're working, if you're working for the school district, because I think people yeah, I think people will hear that and be like oh, okay, well, but there's other ways.
28:44
Erin Gray: This is, I think, where people get stuck of like oh, if I'm only a teacher, I can only, but there's so many other ways that you can teach and generate money.
28:52
Erin Gray: Right, but we've been taught like oh, you're a teacher, you're going to work and get your pension versus right, I can generate money however I want to, but it's not going to be.
29:02
Andrea Blythe: Yes, exactly, exactly, and and so, and, then, and then it goes back to that like what do you want?
29:08
Andrea Blythe: And like I was noticing in my body, like just waking up in the mornings were really hard, like thinking about lesson planning.
29:15
Andrea Blythe: I was like I just the passion that I had when I came and went back into teaching seven years ago.
29:23
Andrea Blythe: I was lit up and I was so ready.
29:25
Andrea Blythe: And then you know, we all know what happened to education in 2020, 2021.
29:30
Andrea Blythe: And every year coming out of the pandemic, I was like this is the year that, you know, kids are re-engaged and things are just going to work, and I'm going to reignite my path, and I was just like no, like something changed within me and my joy and my drive for showing up for those kids and then offering them the feedback that they needed, and all the time and the effort, and, at this time where I'm just like it's up to me to create my own abundance, and I was like, if I really think about what I love, love, love to do, it's not teaching French anymore.
30:02
Andrea Blythe: So I it was so hard for me to recognize that, but that was part of my journey is just listening to my body and how it felt, all the messages that I would get, and then just really working through that decision and had such a supportive team over at the high school I used to teach at, or the school I used to teach at and was so supported by by my administration there, to to live the life that I wanted to live Right.
30:34
Andrea Blythe: And so I knew, though, like I had been.
30:37
Andrea Blythe: You know, all this law of attraction stuff.
30:39
Andrea Blythe: I got um, I got certified as um under Mike Dooley's training as an infinite and possibilities trailblazer teacher, and then I went on and did um you know his higher level mindset um coaching program courses and stuff like that, and I was like, okay, now it's time for you to actually walk the walk.
31:01
Andrea Blythe: You have to lean in and you have to have that trust fall into the loving arms of the universe that you always talk about.
31:10
Andrea Blythe: Like you know, one of my first pillar is the pillar of the moon and the moon has been such an incredible source of just reassurance for me during all of this.
31:22
Andrea Blythe: Like just looking up to the moon and the stars has just been like that is where I feel just safe and secure and held and like that.
31:29
Andrea Blythe: There are stories and messages that have been told throughout history.
31:34
Andrea Blythe: You know it's the same and it's beautiful and if I'm going to really trust that, then trust it and see what is going to happen.
31:47
Andrea Blythe: And you know I'm still in a very delicate, I would say, stage of that journey where that's like it is a tango with fear, a hundred percent, because I'm still, you know, proving to to myself that I can generate based on, like, when I follow the joy and I follow what lights me up and I follow my intuition and my passion and my instincts.
32:13
Andrea Blythe: That you know it's.
32:15
Andrea Blythe: It's like field of dreams If you build it, they will come, and I'm learning that and I'm recognizing that, but only when I step out of my own way, only when I allow, like this is about the joy, this is about what's being offered and this is not attached to money.
32:32
Andrea Blythe: Yeah, the money will come.
32:35
Erin Gray: Yep, it's that.
32:36
Erin Gray: That's been a huge one.
32:37
Erin Gray: I want to go back to, like being in our body, because our bodies are this infinite, intelligent, you know, beings, things, whatever you want to call them, right, and I think so often we look at how we're feeling and we think something's wrong, versus looking at how we're feeling and being like this is here to tell us something.
32:59
Erin Gray: We are off course.
33:00
Erin Gray: Right, we are sent here to feel joy and love, and you know, I mean part of the human experience.
33:07
Erin Gray: Right, we're going to feel sadness and grief and anger and all of that.
33:10
Erin Gray: Right, but on a daily basis, like if you were to list your top three emotions frustration and anger and fear is not what God, universe source sent you to feel and be here and and and play with on a daily basis.
33:26
Erin Gray: So if you, if you are to, you know, look at how you're feeling on a daily basis and those are some of I call it, you know, those lower vibration emotions, they're not negative emotions, they're not bad emotions they're alerting.
33:40
Erin Gray: Yeah, they're, you know they're, they are there to show you.
33:44
Erin Gray: And I mean that was the same for me, like I had to look and be like, okay, I'm frustrated all day, every day.
33:49
Erin Gray: And Andrea and I are both generators, right, like that is our telltale sign, like we are way off course.
33:55
Erin Gray: Right, like, sister, you got to get back on course, cause this is not, this is not what you are, you know, meant here to be, came here to be, and and and meant to do you know, and so, following that joy, because I think here we go back to societal conditioning.
34:08
Erin Gray: We've been so taught that you go and you make money.
34:11
Erin Gray: And then you, what do you think retirement's about?
34:13
Erin Gray: Retirement's about go and make money and then you get to enjoy your money at some point in the future, which, when your body might not.
34:19
Erin Gray: I could totally go down a rabbit hole on retirement, like how?
34:22
Erin Gray: many people actually get to actually retire right Versus?
34:26
Erin Gray: How are you feeling and what does your life look like on a daily basis?
34:31
Erin Gray: Like when people are like, well, how's your weekend?
34:33
Erin Gray: I'm like there's no weekend to me anymore.
34:35
Erin Gray: Like every day is.
34:36
Erin Gray: Is a weekend day to me?
34:38
Erin Gray: Or what society would deem Right?
34:40
Erin Gray: Because?
34:40
Erin Gray: Right Because if you're waking up and you're doing stuff you don't want to do, asking yourself why, like really slowing down, to ask yourself like, why am I doing this?
34:51
Erin Gray: And a lot of us the answer will be money.
34:53
Erin Gray: It is.
34:55
Andrea Blythe: It is because for me, like with the teaching job, that paycheck it is because for me, like with the teaching job, that paycheck, you know, and obviously medical benefits that came with it that was worth it, even though I knew like it was limited, like I I was only going to get this much, but I was working this hard and it didn't matter how great of a teacher I could show up in my sweats and show movies or I can teach, you know, the most interactive, amazing, comprehensive lesson, and it didn't matter.
35:29
Andrea Blythe: It didn't matter Like this is what you're going to get paid.
35:33
Andrea Blythe: And then you really, yeah, you have to question that time and like, is this the best use of my gifts and the best use of my time?
35:42
Andrea Blythe: And when I realized that the answers were no and no, then I realized I'm doing an actual disservice to this school and to these students and to this community for me to show up in this capacity, because life is pointing me in a new direction and I think a lot of us got pointed in a new direction in 2020, 2021.
36:08
Andrea Blythe: That was a pretty big shakeup, you know, like it just really illuminate a lot of things and, of course, I went through the divorce.
36:15
Andrea Blythe: During all of that and my whole life, you know just I, I, I apparently chose the path of let's have a really hard, forced lesson, which, by the way, I don't recommend.
36:27
Andrea Blythe: There are gentler ways to do it, people.
36:29
Andrea Blythe: But if you want the hard lesson, um, ignore, ignore, ignore your yourself, your intuition, your gut.
36:37
Andrea Blythe: Um, just try to keep the peace.
36:39
Andrea Blythe: You know that's what I do, uh, and then, yeah, take a deep breath get ready.
36:46
Erin Gray: You said something like it was worth it, like the, because this is a lot of.
36:49
Erin Gray: This keeps a lot of people from starting their own business.
36:53
Erin Gray: Right, like, well, I have health insurance, or you know, and, and there's so many ways to to like, open yourself up to the possibility of like you know, if there were infinite possibilities, what would you know?
37:07
Erin Gray: Like, just start opening that, that discussion or that, because I think we've been here, we go back to, we've been taught like health insurance is so important.
37:16
Erin Gray: I mean, my gosh, we just recently changed from global insurance to.
37:21
Erin Gray: It's not even called health insurance, it's called cost sharing, I think, which is basically, you know, you have people that are healthy and we all pay in and but the.
37:33
Erin Gray: I mean I was paying $1,300 a month for never going to the doctor and I'm like, here we go back to values.
37:41
Erin Gray: Right, for some of us, you might value that.
37:43
Erin Gray: That is not a strong value of mine to have you know, when I'm healthy and I don't go to the doctor, to be paying that amount, you know.
37:50
Erin Gray: And so it's just really getting clear on like, what are your values?
37:54
Erin Gray: What do you value?
37:55
Erin Gray: How do you want to use your money?
37:56
Erin Gray: And there's no right or wrong way and I think we've been taught.
37:59
Erin Gray: We have been taught like everybody needs health insurance, you know everybody needs X, y, z, it's like.
38:06
Erin Gray: But what if we don't like?
38:08
Erin Gray: What if we?
38:08
Erin Gray: Or if we do, we want to do it differently.
38:10
Erin Gray: Like there's so many different ways to to look at things and to not have you know those things as a limitation as to why we don't want to follow and do what we truly want to do and the fear is just, it's, it's huge.
38:25
Andrea Blythe: Like I, I I love feeling safe and secure.
38:30
Andrea Blythe: I'm a Taurus Like.
38:32
Andrea Blythe: I love security, like that is my signature, and so throwing myself intentionally into a very insecure experience is is so scary and I know.
38:48
Andrea Blythe: I know that I am worth it and I know that the universe is going to meet me there.
38:55
Andrea Blythe: I know that I am going to be supported in ways that are unexpected and it's just and it is.
39:02
Andrea Blythe: It's a constant thing, like I mean, if you step into my house you will see affirmations all over, like on my refrigerator there's one that says that I am financially wealthy now and I see that every time I open my fridge I am financially wealthy Now.
39:17
Andrea Blythe: I'm just constantly reminding myself that I have access.
39:22
Andrea Blythe: I am the co-creator of my life.
39:24
Andrea Blythe: We all are.
39:26
Andrea Blythe: We are all creating the life that we are living right now, which I understand for some people to hear.
39:33
Andrea Blythe: That is really hard, because you might be in a really tough place right now.
39:37
Andrea Blythe: I have been there.
39:38
Andrea Blythe: I have seen my world crumble in front of me and I had to really step back and be like what's my part in this?
39:47
Andrea Blythe: Because how did I create it?
39:48
Andrea Blythe: Our thoughts really do become our thing.
39:50
Andrea Blythe: So, for the powerful co-creators of our life, it is worthwhile to spend two, three minutes every morning before getting out of bed just to visualize the day ahead, and it could be from.
40:03
Andrea Blythe: It could be super mundane.
40:04
Andrea Blythe: If you have to go to the grocery store, visualize the joyful connections that you're going to have there or that you pick a line where there is.
40:14
Andrea Blythe: You know it moves quickly and fast and it's a very pleasant and inner counter with the sales clerk.
40:20
Andrea Blythe: You know like we can just intentionally think about what it is that we want to create throughout our day and it goes from the small to the huge and and and that financial piece and just reminding ourselves that, no, I am, I am I.
40:35
Andrea Blythe: I have the ability to create the life that I want to live.
40:36
Andrea Blythe: Yeah, I mean, and that I think that's the ability to create the life that I want to live.
40:40
Erin Gray: Yeah, I mean, and that I think that's the best news, because for some people, they'll be like oh, you know, like, when you hear that, like you said, that's the best news because if you created that, you can create something else, right?
40:49
Erin Gray: Like I remember, my first coach was like well, you're all pissed off about you know where, how you're working and in your family's business, and all this.
41:01
Erin Gray: Like, you created that.
41:02
Erin Gray: So the best news is you get to recreate something different if you don't like it.
41:04
Erin Gray: Right.
41:04
Erin Gray: And that feels so much more empowering than like this is just the way that it is, this is just the way that it has to be.
41:09
Erin Gray: And I want to go back to fear, because I think that we can have a really tender and strong relationship with fear, because I believe that fear is always showing us something.
41:22
Erin Gray: And the more that we practice the reason why feet, the reason why we fear fear, right, oh, we don't want to feel fear is because of the way it feels in our bodies.
41:34
Erin Gray: Yeah, but the more that we practice feeling it, the more.
41:37
Erin Gray: And I always like compare this to like lifting weights right, like if you're going to.
41:41
Erin Gray: I always like compare this to like lifting weights right, like if you're going to go and you're going to start lifting weights and you're going to deadlift, you are not going to go to the gym and just start lifting 150 pound, deadlift, right.
41:47
Erin Gray: You're going to go to the gym and you're going to be like where do I deadlift?
41:51
Erin Gray: And you, that might be all you do for the first day right, and then the next day you might be like okay, well, how do I deadlift, right?
41:57
Erin Gray: And so it's the same thing with fear of like.
42:00
Erin Gray: We have been so conditioned like, oh, don't be scared, oh, no, no, it's going to be okay, right.
42:06
Erin Gray: Versus embracing it to just be like what is this fear Like?
42:11
Erin Gray: I would ask myself, like, what is this fear trying to show me what needs to be seen, that I've pushed down, you know, like, and allowing it to come up?
42:21
Erin Gray: And and for some of us, you know, this is how I had to start like 30 seconds in the beginning, because it was really intense in my body, right.
42:25
Erin Gray: And and the more that we are practiced at feeling like that's why we call them the lower vibration emotions, because we aren't used to feeling that right but the more like, why do we want to feel?
42:35
Erin Gray: Why do we want to feel joy?
42:37
Erin Gray: Cause it feels better.
42:38
Erin Gray: But if we're just practiced at feeling disappointment and fear and sadness and grief, then it it's just how it feels in our body and we're just not as practiced at it.
42:48
Erin Gray: So you know, really getting to befriend fear.
42:53
Andrea Blythe: Yes, that's what I was going to say.
42:55
Andrea Blythe: I.
42:55
Andrea Blythe: I see fear nowadays as um my seven-year-old self, the little girl whose parents went through divorce at that age and it was really scary.
43:05
Andrea Blythe: All my stability was rocked at a very young age.
43:09
Andrea Blythe: And when I recognize that that's really where fear, that insecurity, comes from, that pain point, and I can lovingly look at that little girl and say I hear you, I know you're trying to keep me safe and protected and secure, but I'm in the driver's seat of my life right now, so you can get in the back seat.
43:31
Andrea Blythe: Here's your juice box, here's your snack.
43:34
Andrea Blythe: I'm going to buckle you in.
43:35
Andrea Blythe: You're going to be okay, Thank you.
43:35
Andrea Blythe: And I think you know that the gen and that's how I can be compassionate and gentle with myself, instead of because it's super easy going to be okay, Thank you.
43:39
Andrea Blythe: You know that the gen and that's how I can be compassionate and gentle with myself, instead of because it's super easy also to be like geez, you know why the F am I like, like doing this again.
43:49
Andrea Blythe: I thought I, I thought I got through this.
43:51
Andrea Blythe: I like why am I being?
43:52
Andrea Blythe: You know, and we can beat ourselves up.
43:54
Andrea Blythe: It's like no, no, we don't need to do that either.
43:57
Erin Gray: Yeah, the seven-year-old probably needed to hear like it's going to be okay.
44:03
Erin Gray: Yeah, I love you.
44:04
Erin Gray: It's going to be okay, You're going to be okay, and I got you, you know, and, and I think that that is I was just talking to someone earlier before our podcast about inner child, you know, and it's just like those are the parts of us that maybe didn't get what we needed in that moment, and so it's okay, Right, Like, how do you want to speak to yourself when it's right, Like we, we do have a choice.
44:24
Erin Gray: You can beat yourself up, which feels terrible in our bodies, or you can tenderly and lovingly turn towards it and ask yourself, like, what do you need right now?
44:32
Erin Gray: You know what, what is what are you, you know, asking that maybe you're not receiving, or you know all of that, just tenderness, hand on heart.
44:40
Erin Gray: You know, like, it's okay, I see you.
44:42
Erin Gray: Thank you for sharing with me.
44:43
Erin Gray: No, um, that little, that little girl or boy within us that you know didn't get, maybe didn't get that reassurance that we, that we were, we were wanting and searching for.
44:55
Andrea Blythe: Right, yeah, and I think I think it's important to point out the difference between fear and courage, because I used to, when I started, let love rise, like the first tagline I had, for it was helping you become fearlessly authentic is what I call it fearlessly authentic?
45:14
Andrea Blythe: And and then it like hit me.
45:18
Andrea Blythe: I was like dude, that is so not right.
45:23
Andrea Blythe: Like I mean, the fear is there.
45:25
Andrea Blythe: The courage is to take the small step to step into the gym, like you said, like day one step in the gym.
45:31
Andrea Blythe: Where is the dead lifting space?
45:35
Andrea Blythe: Like that's courage is just taking that small step, like, and not allowing the fear to prevent you from doing it, because we all share the same fears, we all have different dreams for ourselves, but that fear is, um, it's just so important to recognize, like I see you, you're here, you're real, you're going to be with me on this journey actually, and that's okay.
45:57
Andrea Blythe: And you know, the 50 year old in me that has lived this life and have had these experiences is trying something different.
46:05
Andrea Blythe: Yeah, and I'm going to take a step forth in courage, which has an underbelly of faith and trust.
46:13
Andrea Blythe: Yeah, and I in myself and in something greater, not just in something greater, but also in myself, like I can do this.
46:21
Erin Gray: Yeah, I think I always say like we don't talk enough about like willingness and courage and allowing you know like courage is such a huge one, because I think, like exactly what you said, a lot of us and you see all these t-shirts it's like be fearless.
46:34
Erin Gray: It's like that literally I don't know if that can actually happen.
46:37
Erin Gray: Like we are human with our mind and literally I don't know if that can actually happen.
46:42
Andrea Blythe: Like we are human with our mind and, like I don't think that that's the case.
46:46
Andrea Blythe: The only way that you can be fearless is if you're playing small because you don't, if you're not allowing fear into your life.
46:50
Andrea Blythe: I could be wrong on this, but, like, if you're not allowing fear in your life, I feel like you are playing so safe and and so small.
46:58
Andrea Blythe: And then and then just to question yourself like how does that?
47:01
Andrea Blythe: How how does it feel again in your body?
47:04
Andrea Blythe: Like how does that if you're not?
47:06
Erin Gray: feeling what just came to me.
47:07
Erin Gray: I'm like if you're not feeling fear, then you are for sure going to feel some other lower vibration emotion.
47:12
Andrea Blythe: You're going to feel jealousy.
47:12
Andrea Blythe: You're going to feel you're going to feel.
47:15
Erin Gray: You're going to feel, you know, anger because you're you are wanting to, you know you're wanting to evolve and grow Right, and so it's like fear is part of it and so, like, you say like, and I think we, you know you see these movies and it's like bravery and it's just like go do the thing.
47:29
Erin Gray: It's like no, like we're scared and we still do it Right, we, it just comes along.
47:35
Erin Gray: You know the ride with us versus thinking it has to be like eradicated.
47:41
Erin Gray: I think a lot of it you know, it's.
47:44
Erin Gray: It's, it's like the same thing with our ego or our mind or whatever.
47:46
Erin Gray: However you want to describe it.
47:47
Erin Gray: It's like we.
47:48
Erin Gray: We don't have to take control of it, we don't have to tell it how it needs to be.
47:52
Erin Gray: It's just like oh, it can just, it can chatter all the way to where we're going from the backseat though that's how you say.
47:59
Erin Gray: You're getting the backseat, yeah, yeah.
48:03
Erin Gray: So anything else that you want to share that maybe I, I missed, and then also like where people can find you.
48:08
Erin Gray: But if you have anything else that you want to like share that, um, um, talk about.
48:13
Andrea Blythe: Yeah, no, this is.
48:14
Andrea Blythe: This has been a great conversation.
48:15
Andrea Blythe: I, I, I, I love, um, I love just the direction of it and just how we can recognize, like, where we give parts of ourselves away, um, how, how we, um, how we are writing our stories.
48:28
Andrea Blythe: So that's, that's a big, that's a big part of my work is, um, you Let Love Rise, developed out of me, processing through my grief, through storytelling, like taking snippets of my life and being like, okay, this just happened, what was that all about?
48:45
Andrea Blythe: There's got to be something in this that I can learn from and that maybe I can help inspire other people to learn from this, inspire other people to to learn from this.
49:01
Andrea Blythe: So so, yeah, I'm just like continually, I think that's the other thing.
49:02
Andrea Blythe: Is that just, it's, it's a continual process, it's not.
49:04
Andrea Blythe: You know, again, I'm going to go back to that flippant little phrase joy is in the journey, but you know, the journey is as long as we have our inner drumbeat going and the breath in our lungs, like we're on this journey through life, and so it's just what's over the next hill and the next hill and the next hill, and just constantly checking in with ourselves and constantly releasing and letting go and surrendering and forgiving, and that is just something that I wish it were a one and done, but I'm recognizing it's just like.
49:41
Andrea Blythe: That's why I love the moon so much.
49:43
Andrea Blythe: The moon is constantly phasing, it's constant state of change and it's a reflection of us.
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Andrea Blythe: The moon rules over our physical bodies and our emotional state, and it is it's like I'm constantly changing, and so so are you, and it's a beautiful thing just to to remember that this is an unfolding, it is a journey, and it's a journey that we can enjoy.
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Erin Gray: Yeah, I love that.
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Erin Gray: I love that because I think about too, of like we do have a choice.
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Erin Gray: Like right, we can look at something.
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Erin Gray: We can look at the journey with fear and like, oh my goodness, what's going to happen, and all of that.
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Erin Gray: Or we can look at it like how we used to as children, right Of wonder and anticipation and excitement and curiosity, and like what's it going to be.
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Erin Gray: Like Right, and, and it is a choice, right it is, that choice comes from practice, right it?
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Erin Gray: Just, if you're more practice and fear, which is how I used to be, then that's, it's okay and we just change it.
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Erin Gray: But, like we, can look at like life of like what, what is today going to bring?
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Erin Gray: Like, yeah, so fun, you know.
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Erin Gray: And back to our bodies, like, and it just feels so much better when you come to it from that place.
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Andrea Blythe: Yeah.
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Erin Gray: Yeah, absolutely, it's like an exhale it is.
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Erin Gray: It is like like yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Erin Gray: So where can people find you, learn more about you?
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Erin Gray: All of the things share Awesome.
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Andrea Blythe: So let love risecom is the hub for everything.
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Andrea Blythe: Under letloverisecom you'll see the moon and that's where I post videos, usually new moon and full moon videos and little stories.
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Andrea Blythe: I'm definitely a storyteller when it comes to the moon, so just sharing little quips of insight, the moon music mindset and the Magi it's all there so you can see events.
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Andrea Blythe: Right now I have a special offering for people called cosmic calendar control.
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Andrea Blythe: So this is one of the things that the Magi, which we didn't talk much about, but it's, you know, just using a standard deck of cards to cause.
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Andrea Blythe: It is an actual calendar um, based on your birth date, on the day of the week that you were born.
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Andrea Blythe: It helps you understand the energies, um, how to align yourself.
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Andrea Blythe: So it's just, it's one of those small shifts, right, it's like atomic habits.
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Andrea Blythe: Also, it's like when you want, when, when, when you recognize that where you are is not where you ultimately want to be, whatever it is in your body is speaking to you and showing you that it's like, okay, well, I'm not going to go from A to Z, like I'm not like a quantum jump, but from A to B.
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Andrea Blythe: It could be just looking at the energies, like the cosmic calendar control and knowing that for me, like Wednesdays, which is today, is my Mercury day.
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Andrea Blythe: It's my communication day.
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Andrea Blythe: I absolutely love that we are having a conversation on a Mercury day.
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Andrea Blythe: That is for me, and so I know that that is a well-suited day for me to send emails or have conversations, and that's just one small thing.
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Andrea Blythe: So you can find that also on let love rise.
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Andrea Blythe: The cosmic calendar control, um yeah, but everything is there, okay.
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Erin Gray: Everything is good.
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Erin Gray: Thank you for coming on and sharing your knowledge and your story and all of the things, and for those of you listening or watching, thank you for sharing your time with us.
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Erin Gray: Yeah, thank you.
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Erin Gray: Thank you for tuning in today.
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Erin Gray: I appreciate you spending your time with me.
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Erin Gray: I created grow the CEO cohort for the entrepreneur that wants to be in a community with other heart based entrepreneurs.
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Erin Gray: It's a place where we blend the 3d of money, like understanding your bookkeeping and taxes and investing and how it applies to your business, along with the 5d of money, like the energetics and the emotions that you feel with money.
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Erin Gray: To learn more about grow the CEO cohort, you can head over to my website at generate a life well-livedcom and, as always, from my soul to yours.