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Happy Hour #185: A Call for Birthday Advice · Stuff Mom Never Told You

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  Speaker 1: H Hey, this is Annie and Samantha.
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  Speaker 2: Welcome to stuff I never told you protection of by
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  Speaker 1: And welcome to another happy hour where I talk about birthdays.
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  Speaker 1: But this is not sad sad birthday. This is need
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  Speaker 1: your help birthday. I've done that a lot too, don't
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  Speaker 1: I anyway? Any it's happy or do you have anything
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  Speaker 1: you saiding on to?
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  Speaker 3: I have something from my birthday. My mom always buys
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  Speaker 3: me wine, so this is a new wine.
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  Speaker 2: But I also have.
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  Speaker 1: Water keeping it, keeping it well. I am drinking your
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  Speaker 1: least favorite drink doctor paper zero with cream soda. Not
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  Speaker 1: a sponsor.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know if that's my least favorite one.
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  Speaker 1: But in general, right.
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  Speaker 2: I've never gone out beyond that was enough for me.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, fair enough, fair enough. But all that to say,
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  Speaker 1: these are not sponsors. That what we are talking about.
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  Speaker 1: We are not currently sponsored by any of these things,
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  Speaker 1: but they want to sponsor to us, like all of us.
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  Speaker 1: Don't call me, Yeah, people email yeah as people, Yes,
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  Speaker 1: they're apparently they do phone calls sometimes anyway. With that, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: if you're doing anything happy hour ish, do so responsibly.
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  Speaker 1: We love you. Take care of yourself. So with that, yes,
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  Speaker 1: my birthday is coming up. It is forty fifth. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: technically I think this is when the midlife crisis thing
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  Speaker 1: is supposed to hit. I mean anytime in this era,
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  Speaker 1: but this is like that timeframe. And I went back
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  Speaker 1: and forth because it's been a rough year I think
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  Speaker 1: for everyone, a rough decade, let's just be real, honest.
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  Speaker 1: But some of that I also includes my fear of
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  Speaker 1: traveling right now. In fact, I had just had an
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  Speaker 1: incident in which I was driving from Georgia to South
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  Speaker 1: Carolina and I got tailed by an unmarked cop car.
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  Speaker 1: And I don't know if you know anything about what's
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  Speaker 1: happening in the state of Georgia, but recently there was
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  Speaker 1: an ice raid in a Hyundai factory with a lot
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  Speaker 1: of South Korean people here on visas work visas, trying
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  Speaker 1: to open up a plant, and they all got detained.
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  Speaker 1: And one of the things that's concerning about this detainment
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  Speaker 1: is that they're not just deporting back to their countries,
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  Speaker 1: are actually taking them in almost in like inserting them
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  Speaker 1: into labor camps. It seems I don't understand it. They're
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  Speaker 1: going to Uganda why because they got a contract there
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  Speaker 1: confusion anyway, with all of that so when I had
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  Speaker 1: someone follow me, I actually was very scared because they
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  Speaker 1: really have no reasons, and the Supreme Court just allowed
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  Speaker 1: for essentially profiling to detain anyone based on race. So
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  Speaker 1: I know that's saying this and very like not educated form,
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  Speaker 1: but essentially that was what it boils down to. And
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  Speaker 1: I called my partner to make sure I had my
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  Speaker 1: location on because I really scared because he the way
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  Speaker 1: you know, when someone went a cop or law enforcement
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  Speaker 1: is trying to check you and see if you had
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  Speaker 1: done anything illegal. They get right on you and then
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  Speaker 1: they ease off. They followed me for a minute, and
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  Speaker 1: it scared me. When they finally let off after I
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  Speaker 1: had had moment, I started crying in the car because
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  Speaker 1: this is my fear of carrying my passport around. Make
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  Speaker 1: sure I have all my things up to date in
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  Speaker 1: that I have my location on because they are detaining citizens.
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  Speaker 1: They are detaining Green card holders who are permanent residents
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  Speaker 1: South Koreans, and they've had few of those going through
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  Speaker 1: and visa holders without caring about due process. So all
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  Speaker 1: of that to say is I've been really really hard
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  Speaker 1: like resident in traveling. Just driving outside of Atlanta has
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  Speaker 1: really scared me, I'm on edge constantly. I said it
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  Speaker 1: was going to be happy ish, but it got dark.
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  Speaker 1: But that's a whole different conversation. But with that, I've
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  Speaker 1: decided I don't want that to stop me from actually
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  Speaker 1: enjoying my birthday or trying to do something that's a
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  Speaker 1: little outside of just staying home because it's been it's
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  Speaker 1: been hard. So one of our favorite places we talked
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  Speaker 1: about it constantly is going to New York. However, we
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  Speaker 1: have not gone outside of New York City, and I'm
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  Speaker 1: a little scared because I've heard outside of New York
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  Speaker 1: City is kind of like outside of Atlanta, where you
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  Speaker 1: do have a lot of conservative areas. Same thing with
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  Speaker 1: like Portland, same thing with Seattle. So a lot of
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  Speaker 1: these areas are really blue, but then you go outside
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  Speaker 1: of it, it's really really red. But supposedly the Adirondacks
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  Speaker 1: are some of the most beautiful areas to go to,
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  Speaker 1: especially during fall, and I decided to really want to
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  Speaker 1: go for a hike. I really would like to enjoy
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  Speaker 1: some mountains with some lakes, good apple, good food, all
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  Speaker 1: of that. So I'm gonna do that this year. Annie,
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  Speaker 1: We're making an adventure. I'm even doing a train ride.
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  Speaker 2: Nice. I love a good train ride.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, So we're gonna drive. We're gonna take a train
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  Speaker 1: from New York City to the Adirondacks to the Albany area,
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  Speaker 1: and then we're going to pick up a car hopefully
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  Speaker 1: and drive through even more mountains to see some foliage.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, I just kidding. I'm so excited about this trip.
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  Speaker 1: But we know nothing of this area. I don't know
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  Speaker 1: anybody from this area. Do we know anybody any from
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  Speaker 1: this area?
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  Speaker 2: I had a friend who grew up there, but our
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  Speaker 2: friendship has fraid.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, so it's not friends that I can call do
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  Speaker 1: So I need suggestions. Where should we go, what should
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  Speaker 1: we see? How far we should go? Restaurants that needs
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  Speaker 1: to be visited. I love a good soft serve. I
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  Speaker 1: love a good doughnut. I love fruits, so I love
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  Speaker 1: some apples. All of those things are a must. So
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  Speaker 1: we are trying to get as many suggestions. So, like
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  Speaker 1: my plan right now is we found a cute little
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  Speaker 1: area in Lake Placid and trying to So that's kind
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  Speaker 1: of far from the Albany station, so it's gonna be
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  Speaker 1: a two drive up. But in that area, it feels
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  Speaker 1: like it's kind of middle ground ish to all of
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  Speaker 1: the sites, and we want to see all the k villages.
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  Speaker 1: I want my Hallmark movie without the bookstore coffee shop
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  Speaker 1: owner thing because I'm bringing my own partner.
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  Speaker 2: You don't need that part.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't go to high school there, so I'm not
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  Speaker 1: meeting any high school sweethearts. So we good on that part.
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  Speaker 1: We good on the romance parts. We just need all
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  Speaker 1: of the scenery, all of that. I like. All of
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  Speaker 1: the pictures are gorgeous, eighty gorgeous, even the snow. I
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  Speaker 1: don't want to be able to share. I think we're
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  Speaker 1: done with the December trips to New York after being
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  Speaker 1: like our flight's canceled and having to stay so long.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, eh, no more Christmas. We good, But we're
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  Speaker 1: going to go in that area and I want to
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  Speaker 1: see like the scenery that I see and all the
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  Speaker 1: social media's I hope it's not a lie. The peak
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  Speaker 1: season is first apparently like like second week of October,
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  Speaker 1: so we might miss a little bit, but I think
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  Speaker 1: we're going to see good sites and it's gonna be
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  Speaker 1: nice and brisk. Yeah, you know, I need to wear.
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  Speaker 2: That's Oh how far are you going to hike.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I so the last this is the thing about me.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like I'm the common denominator because I used
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  Speaker 1: to go hiking every weekend for like several years. That
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  Speaker 1: was kind of our stress relief when I was in
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  Speaker 1: social work, and I would do it with coworkers and
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  Speaker 1: we would go for like one or two hour hikes,
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  Speaker 1: and then once a month we would do big hikes,
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  Speaker 1: so we would get on the Appalachian Trail do parts
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  Speaker 1: of income back. So we would do big hikes, but
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  Speaker 1: my intent was always like three or four hours, okay, medium,
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  Speaker 1: moderate at most, and then it ended up being the
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  Speaker 1: most difficult. We did that in mountaineer, Like I didn't
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  Speaker 1: know that's what we were doing, because we would past
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  Speaker 1: the point of no return and I was like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: we were at the top of the mountain. And at
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  Speaker 1: one point I asked teenagers how much further do I
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  Speaker 1: have for this one point? And they laughed at us
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  Speaker 1: because they also looked like they were not prepared. So
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  Speaker 1: we didn't bring enough water, we didn't bring enough snacks.
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  Speaker 1: This is kind of one of those moments. But we
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  Speaker 1: made it. But they're like, you're actually almost there, so
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  Speaker 1: we just keep going it just happened to be straight
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  Speaker 1: up on tumbling rocks. Yeah, so I was like, son
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  Speaker 1: of Like. There was a lot of cursing mm hmm,
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  Speaker 1: which is what happens a lot. I almost died a
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  Speaker 1: couple of times because we went the wrong way on
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  Speaker 1: Blacktop Mountain and we did it in snow, to the
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  Speaker 1: point that the locals saw us and looked at our
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  Speaker 1: shoes and that you're not making it like they made
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  Speaker 1: fun of us. And I'm from North Georgia, so I
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  Speaker 1: shouldn't have. But I'd never I never took advantage of
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  Speaker 1: the mountains when I lived there, did you? Oh? Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: See is it right?
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  Speaker 3: Big hiker? And she had like she has that like
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  Speaker 3: map like the guide books.
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  Speaker 1: That would pay money for it because she's.
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  Speaker 2: Handwritten how to do it?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, where to stop? Where are the views? Have the
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  Speaker 1: mark here? Stop here for a snack?
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  Speaker 2: Yes, if you.
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  Speaker 3: Have a car with a low like she would write
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  Speaker 3: in a white damage your car.
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  Speaker 1: Just wow.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah. And so it was great.
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  Speaker 3: She was fantastic and she took me all over and
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  Speaker 3: I'm really lucky sa that she did, because I had
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  Speaker 3: a great Time's all kinds of things.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like as a kid I would have not
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  Speaker 1: wanted to do that because I was super like, I
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  Speaker 1: want to read it's a cup of tea that I
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  Speaker 1: never drank, so I would yeah, like it was a
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  Speaker 1: hot cup of tea type of thing. But yeah, like
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  Speaker 1: I didn't do that when I was here, Like we
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  Speaker 1: would do misadventures in the like small town area, but
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  Speaker 1: not necessarily like in the woods, in the woods, I
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  Speaker 1: mean now and then I did get lost, but we
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  Speaker 1: also had the realization of bears, bobcats, and snakes, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: which I feel like a lot of city folks don't understand.
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  Speaker 1: I kind of have forgotten about until I get into
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  Speaker 1: that situation. I'm like, oh yeah, mm hmm. And then
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  Speaker 1: also wild hogs, which they are the ones more likely
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  Speaker 1: to kill you.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, oh yeah. I have so many pictures of
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  Speaker 2: me just being like, look at the snake. I wonder
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  Speaker 2: how dangerous it is. Dangerous it is, and I just
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  Speaker 2: took a picture, like hopefully.
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  Speaker 1: It's fine, don't do this. But yeah, So I'm really
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  Speaker 1: excited and I really am wanting to do some really
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  Speaker 1: good adventures, but I want local recommendations. This is so
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  Speaker 1: brand new and we only have well we're spending two
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  Speaker 1: nights in two and a half days, like outside of
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  Speaker 1: the travel, and I'll be there on my actual birthday.
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  Speaker 1: So I want to be do something special. But I like,
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  Speaker 1: I loved going to Seattle because we got to do
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  Speaker 1: both Seattle stuff and then Mount Rainier stuff like that
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  Speaker 1: type of like duality is what I want, which is
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  Speaker 1: like we get to spend a couple of days in
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  Speaker 1: New York and so have I already made reservations for
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  Speaker 1: a macasse? Yes, I have excellent of course day one
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  Speaker 1: day one we will be having that. But like also
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  Speaker 1: being able to go for a hike and being in
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  Speaker 1: an area that's different, The environment is different for me,
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  Speaker 1: the trees are different for me, like being able to
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  Speaker 1: see that. I'm really excited. So if y'all have recommendations,
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  Speaker 1: if you think I definitely need to do this or
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  Speaker 1: eat this or be a part of this, let me know.
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  Speaker 1: Because again we're going to have a car for a
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  Speaker 1: couple of days, so driving about is not a problem.
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  Speaker 1: I will say I have gotten a couple of tickets
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  Speaker 1: for things that I did not realize were roles in
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  Speaker 1: some of these other states. So if you have advice
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  Speaker 1: for me, not like see I got I got a
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  Speaker 1: warning because we were in the bustling too long, didn't
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  Speaker 1: know it was a bustling, was confused why people weren't
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  Speaker 1: driving in it.
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  Speaker 2: You were like, ooh yeah, okay, silly people's.
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  Speaker 1: And not bead bad. So all of that is says,
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  Speaker 1: of course, we will be looking this stuff up. Don't
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  Speaker 1: get me wrong. But if you're like, hey, this is
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  Speaker 1: one of the things first things I learned, don't do this.
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  Speaker 1: Give me that too, because I need all of the
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  Speaker 1: good suggestions.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, that is always so wonderful. I'm going to a
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