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Socrates Philosophies & Hypothesis : Book 3 Principle #1 (Victorious) · The Bull Brotherhood

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What you don't understand is that the lubricant,
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the thing that affects the outcomes in your life,
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is not in your circle of control. It's in your
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circle of influence. The things that I can influence
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that will get me the things that I want. And
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here's the thing. Here's the key. This is the
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good news. The things that you can influence
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are directly connected to the things you can
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Welcome to the Bull Brotherhood podcast, where
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If you're here, you're not just curious. You're
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ready to elevate. So to all the bulls, hot wives,
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stags, and open -minded explorers, we see you.
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Let's go. What's good? What's good, y 'all? It's
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your boy. Now, I do realize that's an old school
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way of saying things, but I'm an old school nigga.
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I'm so happy to be back on here talking about
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this subject. So this is the Bull Brotherhood's
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little thing that I do on the side. Socrates'
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philosophies and hypotheses. And my hypothesis
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is that these 12 principles that I talked about
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in the previous episode. are something that I've
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worked on for 35 years in developing what I think
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when a man, a masculine man, develops these principles,
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he can get any woman he truly wants. And I know
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I'm making a crazy claim, but I'm going to labor
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in at least the next 12 episodes to break these
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principles down. And then from there, actually,
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kind of start maybe a social media movement,
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TikTok or reels or whatnot. And then after that,
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honestly, a book. So, and I'm mastering these
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myself. So I'm bringing you guys on the journey.
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So previously we talked about these 12 principles
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and I kind of laid them out. And then I explained
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what, you know, what my audience is, right? Who
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I'm speaking to. I explained, you know, what
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my goal is, how these work, why they're principles
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and how to look at them as principles or general
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ideas, guidelines, if you were. And, you know,
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how I got there, which is through failure and
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being a student and learning lessons and being
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like madly in love with women. And so interacting
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with women most of my life. So today we're going
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to talk about principle number one. I'm really
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excited. And what I did is I've been working
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on these things for a long time, but I do have
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a chat GBT project that helps me organize my
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thoughts. So what I did is I plugged in my last
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episode and I said, hey, help me organize these
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principles. And it did, but I did not read the
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entire thing. I just skimmed it. And the reason
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why I did that is I want this to become both
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just off the cuff, coming from my heart, because
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this is a journey that I'm taking you guys on,
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right? This is at the end of a journey of 35
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years. This is the final phase of putting it
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out there so people can test it and live by it
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and ask questions and challenge me. While at
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the same time, I'm at the stage of I'm a thousand
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percent confident this stuff works. It's more
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about translating how to articulate these ideas
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into something where, you know, the people that
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are looking for this answer are going to receive
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it. So, you know, like I've said before, this
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segment is for people who want to go even deeper
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than we go. And we pride ourselves in the Bull
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Brotherhood podcast to go deeper into this life.
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I want, we're going to do an episode about the
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life versus the lifestyle and our philosophy,
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but this is for the nerds. This is for the guys
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that want to master women or master being a bull
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or master being a, let's just say a red pill
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guy, even though I'm not really a red pill guy
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at all, or master being a player. As long as
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you're being an authentic and real, what I call
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Oakland player. You know, those that just never
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lie, just are 100 ,000 % upfront about what it
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is. And, you know, as wisely upfront and clear
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as possible. Any of those, you know, or like
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I said, ultra -Christian, conservative, I don't
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know why you be listening to us, but I know some
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do. Very, very traditional guy who says, you
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know, I just want to find a woman, but I want
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to treat them as a real woman. I want to understand.
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That women are complicated creatures and that's
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why we love them. You know, and this is what
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this is for. So let me set the scene a little
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bit like I always do. You know, I've said this
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before, but this is not capital T truth. Let's
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just get this out there. What I'm presenting
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is a worldview that I feel like if you look at
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a woman and you're interacting with women. through
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these lenses of these 12 principles, it will
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show you things that I think will be accurate
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in how the world really works, how women really
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works, especially for, like I said, cisgendered
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masculine men who I self -identify as masculine
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men. Capital T truth is I do believe in capital
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T truth. That's a religious thing. And like I
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said, if you want to contact Socrates directly
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and say, hey, man, what is this capital T truth
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you're talking about? Then I'm willing to share
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that. But that's not what this is about. This
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is about a perspective of mine, a viewpoint of
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the world that I believe will greatly increase
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your probability and your possibility of achieving
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your goals with the woman you want to be with
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in whatever kind of style you want to be. Here's
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another thing. I think, you know, I come from
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the red pill space. And if you don't know, look
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up, maybe see like there's a really good documentary
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on Netflix about the manosphere. You can look
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into that. But I bring that up to say that. I
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think one of the things that they're getting
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wrong and most men who are talking about dating
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get wrong is they're always trying to describe
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women. Women are this way and women are that
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way. No. Here's one of the principles, the secondary
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principles that kind of support the 12 principles
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is that women are just human beings. And the
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range of the most dedicated, religious, pious.
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most restrained, most chased woman on the planet
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is out there. And there are millions of them.
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And the sluttiest, nastiest, sadistic, like,
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nymphomaniac whore women are out there. And they're
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in the millions. And every permutation in between
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Is out there. And the biggest problem that, you
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know, dating gurus and anybody trying to give
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you advice about a woman is that women are like
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this. Anybody who starts that shit, it's either
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a joke or take it with a grain of salt. Because
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one of my mentors or virtual mentors I like is
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Orion Terriban. He's a really great psychologist.
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He's kind of in the manosphere space. He's a
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dating coach. It's called he has a. a show called
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psych hacks, better living through psychology.
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I really like him. He says, look, anything you,
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anytime you lose a statistic or searching something
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about women, you hear something about, you know,
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women are like this, or, you know, most women
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like tall men or women, you know, you got to
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have six, six, six, you know, the research says
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that women like, you know, guys that are six
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foot taller above six foot or six inches or bigger
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dick and six, you know, was it six -figure income
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or above, right? Like any of those things are
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going to be a portion of women and a certain
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subset of women, not all. You can find a woman
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who doesn't care about any of those things. You
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can find a woman who just wants to love whoever
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their God is and serve him and they're not thinking
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about dudes. And you got women sitting around
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writing books about some of the most nastiest,
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sadistic, crazy kind of sex from women. And what
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men need to understand is they're all out there.
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Find out who you are. Develop a framework of
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who you are. And we're going to talk about the
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first framework of who you are. And then go where
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you're celebrated. Go where those people play
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and have fun and do business and talk and socialize.
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And be the man that she's looking for. And you
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will get her. That's why I can tell you these
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principles work anywhere, because most of the
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time people don't talk about selection. Because
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we'll get to. Right. So women are there's every
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kind of women there is. There's every kind of
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women out there. And I mean from I mean, things
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I don't condone, like sadistically, murderously
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crazy women. who will do devilish things that
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I don't condone. And I'm sorry, there are women,
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no matter what Manosphere says, no matter what
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a lot of people say, there are women that I don't
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care what you do, I don't care how dope you are,
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I don't care what you got, they're going to serve
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God, they're not going to compromise their religious
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beliefs, and they're going to do everything that
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their religion and their personal belief says
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they do to be pious and chaste and innocent.
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And they're human beings, they make mistakes,
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but hey, devil worshipers do nice things every
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now and again. But the problem that men have
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is you're trying to find this one rule about
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women. There are principles about cisgendered
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women, but those are guidelines. So let's get
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into it. Why is having a victorious mindset number
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one? And what does that have to do with getting
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women? Well, let me talk about what I want to
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talk about. And then we're going to talk about
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some of the principles that are brought out from
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my beliefs to help people understand these concepts.
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So one, I say, when you have a victorious mindset,
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let's define that. A victorious mindset is about
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finding a way to win. You can't talk about that
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without talking about the reticular activating
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system. And here's the thing. I'll tell you where
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I get these things from. So if you don't believe
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me, listen to Owen Cook. He's a silly looking
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white dude with a long beard. He was, if you
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know anything about the Manosphere, he was part
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of what's called the game. He was also part of
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what used to be like the early pickup artist
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guys. Mystery and all of them. Great guy to listen
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to because he... Tells you you don't need money,
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you don't need abs, you don't need all this stuff
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to get women. You just need to be real and authentic
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and understand the language. But this victorious
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mindset that you have, when you have a victorious
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mindset, what is a victorious mindset? It is
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finding a way to win, right? By choosing a conversation
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with yourself, which is... No matter what comes
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at me, I'm going to find a way to move forward.
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I'm going to find a way to win the best way possible.
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So you learn things like choosing the games you
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play. Then you learn things like choosing the
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rules you play by. Then you learn things like
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choosing your concepts of what winning is. There's
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so many things you can do that are legitimate,
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follow truth, that are logical, that are based
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on science, that are based on faith, that are
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based on things that are common. where if you
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see things coming at you, I'll give you a religious
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one. There's a scripture in the Bible that says
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that, I'm going to paraphrase it. Basically,
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it's talking about if you're a believer, all
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things that happen, happen to those who believe
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are good and those who follow their calling,
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right? You know, there's all kinds of self -help
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quotes that tell you, you know, if you just change
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your mindset. You start seeing things differently.
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And when you start seeing things differently,
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you start moving different. When you start moving
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different, you start taking different action.
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And when you start taking different action, you
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start getting different results. That is a connection.
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Right? So for me, what does that have to do with
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getting women? Women notice that. One of my mentors
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said, I can't remember his name. His name is
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Dimitri. He said, give a woman the gift of self
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-confidence. And I was like, wow. You'll see
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when we get into some of the other principles,
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especially when you talk about having a frame
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or framework. When you're walking confident,
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it lets that woman know, oh, at least he thinks
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he knows what he's doing. He feels confident
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that he knows what he's doing. So that makes
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me feel at ease that he knows what he's doing.
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He feels confident in his own skin. So therefore,
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it makes me feel at ease that he knows who he
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is, that he is going to be able to achieve. So
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if you're a losing ass, ugly, broke ass motherfucker,
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you can start off with just imagining winning.
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Now, here's the science. This is not fluff. If
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you can hold that thought for 13 seconds, then
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your brain, this is not just, I believe in the
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law of attraction, but we ain't even go this
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far. Your reticular activating system will find
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another thought like it, right? You, when you
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bought your car, you might've noticed when you
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start saying, I want this car, or you go to the
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lot, you get a different car you didn't think
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of. But as soon as you made up your mind that
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you've worn a certain car, you will see that
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car everywhere. Well, they were there all the
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time. You just weren't thinking about the car.
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That is called the reticular activating system.
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Your brain, once it decides on something, starts
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finding ways to see it out in the world. And
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if you start just thinking of finding ways to
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see success, you winning out in the world, even
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if it goes too far into fantasy, that's the first
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step. So here, I wrote a few things down. So
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starting with having a victorious mindset, it
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says you have inner conversation that becomes
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your outer presence. It starts with saying, how
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can I win? Even if I had a terrible loss and
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I replay that loss as if I won, like I'm not
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very witty. So people will say things to me.
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And smart ass or witty. And I won't think of
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a witty comeback for years, like sometimes four
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or six years. Well, I've narrowed that down to
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a day or two. Now, I know eventually I'll be
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witty. Why? Because the first thing I started
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with is what could I have said that would have
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been the right response? Right? When you have
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a victorious mindset, it doesn't mean that you're
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positive all the time. Sometimes when negative
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shit happens, you need a little bit of space
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to just be like, fuck, and complain and bitch.
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But you give yourself some time. And you say,
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okay, now that I'm done bitching, what am I going
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to do? It means saying, I'm going to overcome.
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What I've been repeating to myself recently is,
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The victory's mine. I don't know how it's going
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to happen. I might lose all of X, Y, and Z, but
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you know what? At the end of the day, the victory's
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mine. And I've just been saying to myself, do
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I feel that? I've been saying to myself, freak
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the fuck out inside. Like, inside I'm feeling
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like, I don't know how the fuck I'm going to
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make it. I own a business, and I don't mind telling
19:11
people. There's been times when I'm like, how
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in the fuck am I going to make payroll? Because
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I'd rather lose my house than to look at my hardworking
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people and say, I don't have money for you on
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Friday. But every time we have achieved, me and
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my team, man, we have made it by the skin of
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our teeth. And there's been times when I was
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balling out of control and I wasn't worried about
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it. And there's days where I'm like, oh my goodness,
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what am I going to do? But I kept that. Now I'm
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starting to be every time. And I'm snapping my
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fingers for a reason. Every time. The victory
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is mine. So what also it is, the victory has
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to be some basic principles. And we'll get into
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more of these later. Because this is a lot. But
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one, it has to be ownership. You have to take
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ownership over your life. You have to say, you
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know what? No matter what happens to me, it's
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on me. Now, there's a really great book called
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The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People,
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and I highly recommend reading that book. And
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in there, it talks about three circles. The world
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that we all want is your outcome circle. We want
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outcomes like where we want to live, how much
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money we want to make, the kind of people we
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want or lack thereof in our lives, the kind of
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person we want to be, right? The environment,
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how we want to feel about certain things, right?
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All of that, we should take ownership of saying,
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I'm going to do something to make sure I live
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that kind of life. So what do you do? You have
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your circle of influence. The things where you
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can't control the outcome, you don't know how
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it's going to come, but you can influence them.
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And then you have your circle of control. What
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people don't understand is most of the time you're
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looking at the things that you can control, my
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actions, my words, the things I have, where I
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live, all those things. And you're like, oh man,
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I don't have the things that I need to control
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the outcome of what I want. So people give up.
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What you don't understand is that the lubricant,
21:34
the thing that affects the outcomes in your life.
21:37
is not in your circle of control. It's in your
21:40
circle of influence. The things that I can influence
21:44
that will get me the things that I want. And
21:50
here's the thing. Here's the key. This is the
21:52
good news. The things that you can influence
21:55
are directly connected to the things you can
21:57
control. You can control your actions. You can
22:01
control your self -discipline. You can even control
22:03
a lot of your looks. You can control your income.
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You can control your response to things. You
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can control your environment. You can control
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the people that you, a lot of the people that
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you're around. Not all. And that gets you to
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the place of owning your own life. Second, you
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have to be in preparation. You have to plan for
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rainy days. You have to plan for success. You
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have to plan for failure. You have to plan for
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how to approach a woman. You have to plan on
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life itself. Some people, I have to have my stuff
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written down, clear principles, books about it,
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memos, journals, action plans, plan A, plan B,
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plan C. Some people just need to have a general
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good feeling about it and it's clear in their
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heart. Third, you have to have emotional regulation.
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In order to have a victorious mindset, you cannot
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let your emotions run you. Now, we're going to
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talk about this in some of the other episodes,
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but let me tell you this. As a man, you have
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emotions, motherfucker. You have emotions. You're
23:13
not less emotional than women. You just have
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chemicals in your brain, in your body, and lack
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thereof in certain things that allow you to take
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a second. quicker to respond from logic as opposed
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to the emotions that you have and women are the
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exact opposite and it's a good thing so i study
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stoicism to help me regulate my emotions And
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a lot of people think, if you know Socrates,
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a lot of people think he's an emotional guy.
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People say he's an emotional guy. And I just
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let that slide. But the fact of the matter is,
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no, I believe in a philosophy of allowing my
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emotions to come out a lot sooner and in a lot
24:00
more higher ranges from depressed and angry to
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excited and jovial. Because one, I'm an extrovert.
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But two, I believe in allowing that. If I control
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it and I allow to express those things right
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away, then I can manage it better when I'm coming
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down. And then I can get to, you know, being
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stoic, being in control, being purposeful, being
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aware of my surroundings. I meditate. I'm in
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prayer. I'm a religious person. But I study stoicism
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for emotional regulation. Women love that. When
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a woman can fall apart on you and you can stay
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calm, not emotionless. Being stoic doesn't mean
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emotionless. It means being in control of your
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emotions. When I cry and I do cry as a man, I
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cry about my mom. I cry about the things that
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I'm passionate about. It's on purpose. Not because
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I'm a bitch. Not because I'm emotional. It's
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because I'm regulating my emotions in the way
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that I want them to go. And the fourth thing
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is forward motion. See, it's not about winning
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or losing. It's about getting in the arena and
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being the one willing to take the risk. And it's
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not about comparing yourself to others. It's
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not about how much money you made. It's not about
25:26
how much you can shine or bling. It's about how
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much you can move forward the next day. One of
25:31
my favorite scenes, I love Terminator. I'm a
25:33
big sci -fi guy. One of my favorite scenes in
25:36
Terminator 3. was when John Connor, they were
25:40
running from the police. They were in a funeral
25:43
because they had to go back to his mom's gravesite,
25:48
even though his mom's body wasn't there. Spoiler
25:51
alert, I'm about to tell some things. Anyway,
25:52
I'll try to not spoil it too much, but they were
25:56
trapped. In every Terminator movie, there's a
26:00
situation where you're trapped. And John Connor
26:04
was losing faith. And so the Terminator, which
26:08
is on his side, the old school one, grabbed him
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by his neck and picked him up and started acting
26:14
like he was going to kill him. And John Connor
26:16
got mad and was like, you know, fuck you and
26:22
let go of me, you piece of machine, you piece
26:24
of shit, whatever. And I remember right before
26:27
that, he was just wailing and crying about the
26:29
circumstances and how you guys just leave me
26:32
and, you know, this is terrible and we're going
26:34
to lose, we're going to die. And then he went
26:36
from that to his life being threatened and he
26:39
just chose anger. And then the Terminator let
26:42
him down and says, good. And they're like, what
26:44
the fuck? He was like, John Connor, what the
26:45
fuck? Were you just doing that because? He was
26:49
like, no. Anger is better than despair. And I'm
26:55
paraphrasing. You should see the movie. But,
26:57
which is a psychological truth. If you're in
26:59
despair, it's better to be angry about the situation.
27:04
It's better to be like, fuck this shit, I'm going
27:05
to do something about it. Then they'll be like,
27:08
oh, I'm a victim. Oh, I'm losing. You might be
27:13
a victim. Having a victorious mindset doesn't
27:18
mean you're not a victim of a crime or a victim
27:20
of being done wrong or a victim of having a fucked
27:23
up life. It means I'm going to move forward,
27:28
okay? Yeah, I might be feeling sorry for myself,
27:31
but it's better to be angry. And then once you're
27:34
angry, yeah, I'm angry about it, but now it's
27:36
better to be at peace with it. And when you're
27:39
at peace now, I'm at peace, man, but it's better
27:41
to want to do something about it. And then, yeah,
27:45
I want to do something about it, but you know
27:47
what? It's better to actually do some shit. And
27:51
yeah, I want to actually do some shit. It's better
27:52
to start off at 1 % than to not start because
27:55
you can't be 100%. And then once you get to 1%,
28:00
it's better to... Strive to be the best you can
28:03
be at it. I've gone through that stage, especially
28:09
with women, to really truly thought. And, you
28:14
know, some women, you know, just I'm not bragging
28:16
about myself, but some people don't believe this.
28:18
But there was a time I thought I was ugly. I
28:21
thought I had no game. I thought women don't
28:23
want me. I thought you just need to give your
28:25
life to Jesus. You know, Yahshua, what I believe
28:27
in. But I thought those things. I went from that
28:31
to feeling confident about myself. This little
28:34
whatever, whatever. And to, oh, hell yeah, I
28:39
can do it. Hell yeah, I need to dream bigger.
28:42
Why? It's not about perfection. It's not about
28:46
achieving something that, you know, comparing
28:50
yourself to 50 Cent and what he achieved or,
28:52
you know. I don't know. I still like what a P.
28:57
Diddy achieved and what, you know, Dre achieved
28:59
or what, you know, certain other businessmen,
29:02
Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, all those guys. No, it's
29:06
about you moving forward and getting incrementally
29:08
better. Me and my wife are committed to something
29:10
called Kani with Anthony Robbins created. It
29:13
just stands for constant and never ending improvement.
29:20
It's about moving forward, just getting incrementally
29:22
better. The Japanese call it Kaizen. Just incrementally
29:26
small disciplines, you know, not taking too many
29:30
steps back, but small disciplines towards improvement.
29:39
So, one of the things you're going to learn about,
29:45
one of the principles is women speak the language
29:46
of emotions and connection. And they are far
29:50
superior to us than that. And I'm saying this
29:53
as a masculine man who runs his household, who
29:57
also is a dom in kink world. Why? Because it's
30:02
been scientifically proven. Why? What people
30:06
don't understand is when you're looking at women
30:08
as just, oh, all women are this, all women are
30:11
that, you lose principles. What is one principle
30:13
you can look up? Everybody's heard it, is that
30:16
communication. is seven percent verbal i'll say
30:21
that shit again communication is seven percent
30:24
verbal so when women say there's this tiktok
30:28
that guys hate what's going around now that a
30:32
lot of women show when they're just sitting there
30:34
and i don't know why they all do it in a car
30:37
and the woman's driving and the man's driving
30:39
i mean the woman's in the passenger seat and
30:41
the man's driving she's sitting there and saying
30:43
you know When I really look at it, everything
30:46
my husband says is right. I just don't like his
30:50
tone. And all the women are like, that's right,
30:53
girl. And they're high -fiving and cheering her
30:59
on. Girl, tell it. Say it louder for the guys
31:02
in the back. And the guys are all logical, like,
31:06
oh, that's stupid. You're allowing tone to get
31:09
in the way of truth. No, motherfucker. All human
31:12
beings, 7 % of communication is words. And I'll
31:20
prove it to you. Especially black men. I'll use
31:23
two examples. One for black men first. Let's
31:26
use the word nigga. I love that word. I tell
31:30
you right now, any of you guys listening now
31:32
has ever been in the hood or have been around
31:33
some hood niggas or some ghetto niggas or some
31:36
just niggas that, you know, came from that level.
31:40
There's two kinds of nigga. Hey, what's up, my
31:42
nigga? Oh, nigga, you want a problem, nigga?
31:48
You're going to tell me you don't understand
31:49
the difference between those two tones? Tone
31:53
is everything. It's a much higher percentage
31:55
in how all human beings communicate what's the
31:58
emotion, intent, and context of what you're saying.
32:02
Women are right, men are wrong, period. Body
32:06
language, tone, choice of words. cadence that
32:11
all goes into the full three -dimensional level
32:15
of communicating and women are looking for that
32:17
and men don't now this is where scientifically
32:20
their intuition comes from there's women's sixth
32:25
sense now some women are better at it and some
32:28
women are terrible but women are made only because
32:33
of childbirth Because they have to understand
32:36
a crying baby's needs without the baby being
32:39
able to communicate to themselves. So tone, tonality,
32:43
cadence, how loud, you know, body language, what's
32:47
the body doing? All of those things go into how
32:50
all human beings communicate. Right? So let's
32:55
take non -racial thing. You know, every man has
32:59
heard the, I didn't say you stole my money. Now,
33:06
if you haven't heard that in school, if you've
33:07
been homeschooled in my school, they would be
33:09
a teacher would get up and they're trying to
33:11
teach context or tone. And you can say, I didn't
33:17
say that you stole my money. Or you can say,
33:20
I didn't say you stole my money. Or you can say,
33:23
I didn't say you stole my money. Or you can say,
33:27
I didn't say you stole. Do I need to keep going
33:35
on? Cadence, tone, how you say it, says all different
33:41
things. So why does that matter? What does that
33:46
have to do with having a victorious mindset?
33:48
When you have a victorious mindset, that thought
33:52
over time changes your pheromones, changes your
33:56
body language. It changes how you communicate.
34:00
It changes the words you use. Like I won't use
34:03
the word victim. 99 % of the time. Why? Because
34:12
my mindset is I'm not a victim of shit. It's
34:15
a legal term I would have to use if somebody
34:17
broke into my house or committed a crime that
34:19
I need to report to police. That affects how
34:23
I talk to women. What affects the woman. And
34:28
look up the science, your mentality, your how
34:31
you vibrate, how you think. Creates chemicals.
34:36
Those chemicals create smells. Those smells are
34:38
called pheromones. They're subconscious things
34:41
that are picked up by women. Some scientists
34:44
tell you don't wear deodorant because if you
34:47
just want to find, these are scientists with
34:49
scientific facts. They say if you just want to
34:51
find your soulmate, don't wear deodorant. Put
34:55
lemons under there or something. And the pheromones,
34:58
the woman will pick up those pheromones and she'll
35:00
choose you or the chemistry will just be there.
35:04
So when you are walking and saying the victory
35:08
is mine, that affects you in a small way. Now,
35:11
if you're just starting out like this and you
35:14
don't, you're not practiced with this, then you're
35:20
not going to see a huge difference. You're not
35:22
going to go from can't get any woman to, you
35:25
know, whatever baddies out there running up on
35:30
you, but it will increase. Women around you will
35:34
notice. It'll increase your results. Now, how
35:39
do we start having that? What I say is take something
35:45
that you know and personally that you're negative
35:49
about and start creating a habit. A really great
35:54
book is to read Atomic Habits. Start something
35:56
really small and give yourself a reminder of
36:00
the opposite affirmation. So I'll give one that
36:10
I came up recently. So I'm part Puerto Rican
36:12
and I love Puerto Rican women. And when I go
36:16
to Splash Mocha, which for my vanilla friends,
36:19
that is like a hotel takeover where women who
36:22
celebrate black men go. And I have noticed this
36:28
every time I bring up my. latin part of me i
36:34
have not been able to play with any latin women
36:37
especially puerto rican women and it wasn't until
36:42
recently i played with some very beautiful latin
36:45
women who they were mexican and uh yes sir anyway
36:49
uh i digress um what was i think yeah so um i
36:54
had said to myself for a while then after about
36:56
maybe my fifth splash six splash i think houston
37:01
I was like, maybe it's because I shouldn't, maybe
37:04
it's because I'm part Latino and they don't want
37:07
to go to a place celebrating black men and get
37:10
some, you know, café con leche, you know. And
37:15
I was saying that to myself. Now, is this true
37:17
or not? Who fucking knows? Who fucking cares?
37:18
The point is, once I realized that I had this
37:22
negative mindset, because I call it a negative
37:23
mindset, no woman has ever said that to me. They've
37:27
never given me that indication. It just hasn't
37:30
worked out. And maybe if it is fucking true,
37:33
it doesn't matter. The point is I had that mindset
37:36
and that mindset translates into your actions
37:40
in small ways. So what I said is once I recognize
37:43
it, I said, they're going to love the black coffee
37:50
with spice in it. So every time I feel that way,
37:55
if I talk to a Latin woman and it doesn't work
37:57
out, I said, oh, that's too bad because she could
38:02
have felt what it's like to be with coffee with
38:06
spice in it, with cinnamon in it. That's me.
38:10
Now, don't get me wrong. I'm chat black. My roots
38:12
are chat black. I talked about it in the other
38:14
episode. I'm a nigga from chat nigga Tennessee.
38:17
But I'm mixed a little bit. And so. Every time
38:25
I feel that, and I have felt that because I have
38:27
approached women, Puerto Rican women especially,
38:30
I've approached them on Instagram. Nothing, crickets,
38:34
nothing. So every time now that comes up and
38:39
I get crickets or I don't get, and none of them
38:42
are rejecting me outright. It just doesn't work
38:44
out. I'm doing that. I'll let you guys know.
38:49
Hopefully by I get the 12th principle, I'll have
38:52
some feedback. But that's me working on that
38:54
right now of that victorious mindset. I have
38:57
a negative one. The feeling comes up every time.
39:00
Right. And I don't even know if I would have
39:04
been able to work on this if I didn't have this
39:06
recently amazing experience with these Latin
39:09
women recently. I was like, oh, anyway, I digress.
39:13
Let me get back to it. Man. Yeah. And so, you
39:19
know, maybe I even needed that a little bit.
39:21
But this is me saying, look. If I'm honest with
39:25
you guys, the first principle was the last one
39:28
I learned. So I'm telling you, I came from a
39:33
place of not confident. And I was like, when
39:36
I realized that confidence is a description that
39:39
people are describing what they see, it is not
39:42
the state of mind you need to have. The state
39:45
of mind you need to have is a victorious mindset.
39:48
Because confidence comes only after you have
39:50
a living experience of success. You don't need
39:53
confidence. You need a victorious mindset. And
39:58
women are looking at you and describing you if
40:02
they see you as confident. You're not walking
40:05
around saying I'm confident. A lot of people,
40:07
I personally know that women are falling over
40:11
and saying so confident. That guy is freaking
40:13
out inside. He's walking around saying, I'm going
40:19
to get the victory. He's walking around saying
40:20
that mentality and that comes out. And then what
40:24
happens is it changes your tone. It changes your
40:28
words. It changes your body language in a small
40:32
way. It changes your word composition. It changes
40:36
your cadence. It changes your, um, all of these
40:41
things that are factors, your, how your, where
40:43
your body's pointing. It changes your posture.
40:46
All of those things come from mindset. Those
40:49
little, all of those things, women are a little
40:53
bit more conscious than you are and subconsciously
40:57
because we're all subconsciously picking it up.
40:59
But women are just naturally born because of
41:03
trial wearing. And some women get better at it.
41:05
The ones that tell you their intuition works
41:07
are the ones that have subconsciously or consciously
41:10
developed. And some women are just gifted at
41:12
it. They're picking up on those small things,
41:15
brother. And you might not see large examples,
41:19
but you'll start seeing women get more comfortable
41:23
with you, laughing at your jokes a little bit
41:25
more, noticing you a little bit more. And if
41:29
you build on that, next thing you know, it's
41:33
why you see some of those guys that have the
41:37
it factor, what we used to call back in the day
41:42
that je ne sais quoi. That's what it is. Right?
41:47
Now, why is that? Let's get into the science
41:51
behind why this is. And there's other things
41:53
you can do. You can write goals down. You can
41:55
write down the things that, you know, attributes
42:00
that you want to have. Right? And we talked about
42:05
it a little bit more on the first episode as
42:07
far as the mindsets that you have, but this is
42:09
more an expanded version of the things that you
42:12
need to do. Read books when you're preparing.
42:15
I would read books because other people have
42:18
done it. Have a mentor. Why? Because other people
42:22
can give you the fundamental principles, especially
42:24
if the mentor is not telling what to do. If they're
42:26
telling you how to think what, you know, if they're
42:29
telling you what they did and the principles
42:31
behind it. But yeah. So let's talk about why
42:34
this works. It works because if you're approaching
42:39
a feminine cisgendered woman who is looking for
42:43
a man is providing. Protection. Provision. Pleasing.
42:50
Love and leadership. In the right order should
42:55
be love. Leadership. Then protection. Then provision.
43:01
Then pleasure. Right. Why? Because in those things,
43:08
those five things give her the ability to be
43:11
herself. That's it. It all boils down to everybody
43:16
on the planet wants to feel like they're accepted
43:20
as is. Everything else boils down to that. Everything
43:27
else comes down to that when it comes to interpersonal
43:30
relationships. Remember, we're talking about
43:32
interpersonal relationships. Women are kicking
43:35
our ass in school right now. If you think you're
43:39
more logical than them, tell me that logic. Why
43:41
is that? If you think you're smarter than them,
43:44
I'm saying we're all equal. And we all have equal
43:47
swats. Strengths, weaknesses, opportunities,
43:49
and threats. That's me. Right? But the reason
43:55
why this works is because women are made physically
43:59
smaller. And their power and their strengths
44:05
were not conducive when war and violence and
44:10
aggression. It's how you move forward in this
44:13
world. But technology, I'm telling you, Moore's
44:15
Law is changing that. Moore's Law is changing
44:19
that. Okay? So women need to feel safe emotionally.
44:25
We talked about this before and John Gray predicted
44:27
this. They need to feel safe emotionally. They
44:31
need to feel provided for emotionally. They need
44:34
to feel pleased emotionally. They need to be
44:39
loved and led emotionally. as well as physically
44:42
and mentally. Just a certain level from certain
44:45
guys in certain ways at certain times. And you,
44:50
gentlemen, if you have a victorious mindset,
44:53
that tells you one of the many things that she
44:58
needs to look and test you. And this has been
45:00
scientifically proven. Women consciously and
45:02
subconsciously test you to see if you can hold
45:06
up. We're going to talk about that framework.
45:07
They're testing the framework. They're testing
45:09
what's called your frame, which is who you are,
45:12
what you stand for, what your beliefs are, what
45:14
are your boundaries, what would you die for,
45:17
what do you live for, what does she need to do
45:20
to live in your world, how safe. And even those
45:25
who are in female -led relationships, they need
45:27
to know these things. You're just not at the
45:29
helm. Right? Even the most liberal, like... you
45:35
know, docile beta type guy is powerful when he
45:41
has a powerful frame. Right? So women need to
45:45
understand these things and see these things,
45:47
not in just your words. Because like even Jordan
45:51
Peterson said, I don't agree with everything
45:53
he said, but one of the things that he says,
45:55
if you know who he is, he was like, it said that
45:59
men can lie. What people don't understand, what
46:07
guys don't understand, is that women have dudes
46:11
telling them all kinds of shit. Ever since they
46:14
turn 13 and they get a little bit of titties
46:17
and a little bit of shape, dudes have been lying
46:20
to them their whole fucking life on what they're
46:24
going to do for the pussy, for marriage, to have
46:27
them as trophies. So they have to test you. They
46:32
have to see if you are the person you say you're
46:34
going to be. Right? And so when you have a victorious
46:39
mindset, that's one passing test. Because they
46:46
have the investment of children. They have the
46:48
investment of emotions. They have the investment
46:50
of their bodies. Women are more susceptible to
46:55
diseases. There's STIs that men carry. They don't
46:59
have no side effects ever. You can carry it your
47:02
whole life. And it will kill a woman. They have
47:06
more risks, so they have to protect themselves.
47:10
They're just as sexual, but we have to aggress
47:13
and push to get sex. They have to hold back or
47:17
else they'd fucking all be sluts and whores,
47:19
publicly and privately, if they were to say yes
47:23
to every man that approached them or tried. So
47:26
they have to do things to protect themselves.
47:29
Some women do it better than others. Some women,
47:32
you know, need want more than others. But when
47:37
they have a man that has says, I'm going to find
47:40
the victory. And if we're together for the night
47:42
or for the rest of our lives, he's going to find
47:46
the victory in violence. He's going to find the
47:49
victory in his financial life. He's going to
47:50
find the victory with his, her family. You know,
47:54
I, One thing a good Christian man can do is to
47:59
be a stand for the things that scare her, frustrate
48:05
her, anger her and her family. When you're in
48:12
a spiritual protector, when you are praying over
48:15
your wife, I have seen some of the sluttiest
48:18
couples pray over each other. We pray over each
48:21
other. A woman feels spiritually protected when
48:25
you're doing that. When you stand up for her
48:30
good name, as well as stand up for her not being
48:35
mugged or raped or hurt, she feels emotionally
48:39
protected. When you don't bring up things that
48:43
you know, it might not be logical. It might not
48:46
make any sense to you in your mathematical fucking
48:49
world. But it's a sensitive subject for her.
48:54
And it might even be hypocritical to the logical
48:57
man. You are protecting her emotions against
49:01
your anger. That doesn't mean she can't fight
49:07
when women are getting an MMA. She can't do business
49:10
well. They're beating our ass in business. She
49:12
can't achieve academically. They're beating our
49:15
asses academically as a population. They're beating
49:21
our ass and making money, independence, home
49:24
buying. So the debate about whether or not they
49:30
can't do anything, yeah, maybe when there wasn't
49:32
any technology. But by the time the robots replace
49:38
bronze and the computer and the software replaces
49:41
logical things, like you don't need a man anymore
49:44
to do these things, women are starting, you can
49:47
start a business. and hire a bunch of men, or
49:51
I know a lot of female -led construction companies
49:53
out here being successful. And there are women
49:57
that just want to be little flowers and don't
50:00
work and can't defend themselves and can't do
50:03
any of that, and it works just fine. The biggest
50:07
key for you men is if you can let go of the fact
50:11
that all women are all the same, and if you can
50:16
just be... A person that walks into a room and
50:19
says, I have the victory. Then it'll lead you
50:23
to the other principles of selecting the right
50:26
one for you. And then being the king of the castle
50:31
she wants to live in. That's the start. And I
50:38
know it because I had all the other 12 principles
50:41
down probably 20 years ago. The 11, the one that.
50:47
I had to learn as the first one. And that's when
50:51
everything changed for me. I realized that confidence
50:55
or even the word discipline, some of these words
50:58
is not what you need to feel internally. You
51:01
don't need to feel confident inside. You need
51:02
to say the victory is mine. I don't know how,
51:05
I don't know why. It's just going to be, you
51:08
know, even if you don't believe it, you just
51:09
start saying that stuff to yourself that changes
51:11
and it leads up to all the other things. So we're
51:14
coming up on an hour and. I'm laboring to get
51:21
you to understand these things, but I know that
51:24
I'm not going to be able to describe it the best
51:26
way in an hour podcast. What I want is to spark
51:32
conversation. What I want is you guys to contact
51:35
me, email me, telegram me, you know, even on
51:40
Spotify, make comments because I'm making a crazy
51:44
claim and I'll end it with, I'll start it and
51:47
try to end it with this crazy claim. Let's talk
51:50
about authenticity. I like Jennifer Lopez, but
51:53
I'm not authentically want her. I authentically
51:57
wanted my wife. She is perfect in every way for
52:00
me. Even the shit that drives me crazy. The stuff
52:02
that we argue about is perfect. Right. I also
52:07
like she's thick. She's not, you know, she's
52:12
thick. And that personally for me as my wife,
52:15
it's perfect. My playmates, it doesn't really
52:18
matter. I'm vibe sexual. Right? Why? Now, are
52:24
there a lot of beautiful women out there of other
52:26
races, other cultures, other personalities? Yeah,
52:29
of course. Doesn't make them wrong. You know?
52:34
My wife's a slut and I love that. Doesn't make
52:37
her wrong. The fact that you might want a chaste
52:40
virgin, there's nothing wrong with that either.
52:44
You just have to have authentic reasons, not
52:47
because your daddy told you to, your mama told
52:49
you to, or Jesus told you to, or because society
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says that you're supposed to do or show off.
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Those all things will lead to the wrong things,
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even the religious stuff. Why? You say, well,
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what's wrong with, you know, Jesus telling me
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nothing. What's wrong with it is you'd be doing
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it because Jesus said as it, because it's in
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your heart to do. Even the Bible supports that.
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There's nothing wrong with having the same traditions
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as your father, but because you believe in those
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traditions, not because your father said. There's
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nothing wrong with being chaste, but not because
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the pastor told you to, but because you know
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and you understand and you love the reasons why
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you should be chaste. Right? That's what it's
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all about. There's nothing wrong with even starting
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it off. Well, you know, my parents did it, so
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I'm just going to try it. There's nothing wrong
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with that. Most of the stuff we do, the most
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stuff I do is because our parents raised us to
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do it. What's wrong with it is living an unexamined
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life. And I don't even say like the word wrong.
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I don't believe in the right and wrong. You're
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going to get negative results from living an
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unexamined life. You know, like one of my favorite
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movies is Wizard of Oz. And what do we knew?
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She was just dreaming. She started off certain
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place and she ended up certain place, which was
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you were home the whole time. Maybe sometimes,
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you know, I've seen a lot of people leave the
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city, go to the country and came back and they
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were like, whoa, I'm glad I went there because
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now I appreciate the city. And the same people
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leave the country, move to the city and come
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back and they hold a hustle and bustle. I'm so
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glad and I appreciate it more. Maybe you test
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out everything and you come back and say. I'm
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more of a Christian. I'm more conservative. I'm
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more relaxed. I'm more of this. Or maybe you
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get out there like both me and, well, my wife
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who grew up in a very conservative, Siren grew
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up in a very ultra conservative Christian household
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and she lived a very ultra conservative Christian
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marriage, her first marriage. And then she went
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out there and explored ethical slutting and she's
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never going back. And her, you know, 30 years
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of being a very, you know, chaste woman and only
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having sex with her husband and all of that made
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her appreciate what a big slut she is now. And
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so it's just about the journey. It's just about
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the journey. So that's where I'll end it, y 'all.
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I hope this is of any value, but anyway, hit
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me up, you know, challenge me, question, you
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know. I would love to see and hear testimonies
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of this claim being lived. I found the woman
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of my dreams. And she wasn't, and I can't wait
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to hear, you know what, she wasn't who I thought.
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I thought I was going to end up with an Afro
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-Latina. I am so glad that God chose my wife
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for me. A good old country white girl. Well,
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I would say mountainous white girl. You know?
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So that's because I authentically just wanted
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these principles, these characteristics. So I
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would love to hear these stories of you, even
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if it is the person you wanted. Oh, same race,
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same religion, same everything, whatever I wanted
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since I was a kid. Whatever it is, I'd love to
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hear because of these principles. You were able
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to achieve that. That's my goal.