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12 Days of The Bachelorette: Clayton & Susie Check-in Part 1 · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast
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  Speaker 1: with our radio. Hello. Everyone, welcome to the Almost Famous Podcast.
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  Speaker 1: It's Ashley and it's me. It's been I'm here, yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: And we are basically throwing a big podcast party in
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  Speaker 1: anticipation of the July eleven premiere of The Bachelorette. Today,
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  Speaker 1: we have two very special guests that we can't wait
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  Speaker 1: to catch up with. It's Susie and Clayton. We have
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  Speaker 1: so many podcasts. This is awesome. We are pumped this season.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like it was a long break, Ashley. Is
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  Speaker 1: it just me? Or does it feel like the break
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  Speaker 1: has been longer than usual? Is that like true? Well, Ben,
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  Speaker 1: the break has been longer than usual, for sure. However,
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  Speaker 1: I feel like it's flown by because we've had a
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  Speaker 1: lot of fun. That's because I'm a mom, well, and
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  Speaker 1: every day goes so fat, and we've had a lot
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  Speaker 1: of fun here on the podcast. All Right, Hey, it's time, Ashley.
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  Speaker 1: We're continuing the party. Let's bring him in. As I
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  Speaker 1: mentioned just a second ago, we have Clayton in sus
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  Speaker 1: You call her sus Clayton. What's gonna throw me off?
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  Speaker 1: Is it Susie or Suz. What should we call you?
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  Speaker 1: You can call me whatever. Clayan does call me Sues.
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  Speaker 1: A lot of my friends call me Sues. But I
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  Speaker 1: mean I would introduce myself as Susie. Okay, I have
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  Speaker 1: an aunt Sues, and I just can't do it, Like
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  Speaker 1: I can't call you Sues, and it just every time
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  Speaker 1: it's gonna throw me off. Hey, just to give you
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  Speaker 1: if they're out of breath, as expected, they're working out
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  Speaker 1: when we tapped in, which is not shocking, um at all.
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  Speaker 1: It feels very on brand. Thank you for explaining that
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  Speaker 1: we weren't watching cops. Um. Well, first big question for
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  Speaker 1: you guys is how is life in Virginia Beach because
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  Speaker 1: Clayton made the big move to Susie's hometown. It's good.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like we're not there that much because we've
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  Speaker 1: been just traveling so much. And um, we're going back
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  Speaker 1: to Missouri and like literally a day we're gonna go
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  Speaker 1: see a Stanley for the fourth Um, we're gonna hang
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  Speaker 1: out there for a while. So we're pretty mobile right now.
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  Speaker 1: But it's been fun. Um lots of seafood. Yeah, it's
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  Speaker 1: being my beach is very relaxing. Remember, you need to
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  Speaker 1: just take a breather. You can just go down to
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  Speaker 1: the boardwalk. And I've been eating a ton of crab cakes.
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  Speaker 1: That's been like every third meal. I've just been putting
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  Speaker 1: crab on my burgers. I didn't, I mean, they put
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  Speaker 1: it on everything in Virginia b So it's been a
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  Speaker 1: different cuisine and I've enjoyed that. Um. It's just yeah,
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  Speaker 1: far cry from Missouri, which is what I was used
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  Speaker 1: to the majority of my life. You know, Clat, I
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  Speaker 1: have to ask you, Uh, you're a good looking guy.
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  Speaker 1: You're big, you're strong, you're athletic. I know Virginia Beach
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  Speaker 1: is full of Navy seals because my wife's best friend's
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  Speaker 1: husband is a Navy seal and they live in Virginia Beach.
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  Speaker 1: Are you ever intimidated? Do you ever? Do you ever
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  Speaker 1: try to show them up? Um? And if so, can you? So?
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  Speaker 1: I figured the best thing to do instead of be
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  Speaker 1: the outcast was to fit in. And so that's why
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  Speaker 1: I grew a mustache, because that's uh, that's like every
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  Speaker 1: other guy has a mustache. And with top gun the
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  Speaker 1: conversation starter. Really, honestly, I've been able to just work
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  Speaker 1: my way right in. They're like, oh, you must watch
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  Speaker 1: the watch top. Gun have not, but but I surely
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  Speaker 1: want to, so uh fitting end zazy. And you know
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  Speaker 1: I don't like to avoid all conflicts, so we're choosing
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  Speaker 1: that route that's good to avoid conflict. Navy seals smart, Vivie. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure they learned like a hundred ways to
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  Speaker 1: kill somebody, so I'm not trying to be one of
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  Speaker 1: those those ways. Let's let's not conflict though, between you guys.
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  Speaker 1: And it comes to moving in together, like each of
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  Speaker 1: you give me the thing that has been the most
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  Speaker 1: annoying about sharing a space. Oh what do you want
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  Speaker 1: to pull out your list? You know what you'll say, Wait,
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  Speaker 1: what am I going to say? I have to be
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  Speaker 1: like my beard hairs? Oh yeah, the shaving the beard
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  Speaker 1: in the sink and so gross. I know. I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: do you have to get you have to have to
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  Speaker 1: do it. Get the thoroughly clean after that experience, and
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  Speaker 1: you do give it a wipe down. But I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: we need to be more thorough in the toilet seat.
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  Speaker 1: We're working on it. She has our retainers on the
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  Speaker 1: countertop were in a container case, but it was propped
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  Speaker 1: up in one day. She said. She got a like
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  Speaker 1: a beard hair when she put it in her mouth.
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  Speaker 1: She told me, she's like, you need to do a
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  Speaker 1: better job of cleaning this off. I was like, I
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  Speaker 1: didn't know what snuck its way in there. I was like,
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  Speaker 1: maybe we should close the case. I have a gift
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  Speaker 1: you guys need to give each other mutually. There's this
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  Speaker 1: beer trimmer like canopy. Have you seen it on Amazon? Yes?
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  Speaker 1: So you stick it to the mirror and then you
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  Speaker 1: tie it around his neck so everything is caught. That
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  Speaker 1: sounds like that's that that really like? It sounds like
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  Speaker 1: one of those what they put on dogs animals when
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  Speaker 1: they should It looks like a shame, but it sounds
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  Speaker 1: like But since they're teaming up on you, Clayton, I mean,
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  Speaker 1: I have one that I want to ask you if
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  Speaker 1: sus does here, Uh does she ever take her hair
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  Speaker 1: and sticking on the shower like wall like in clumps
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  Speaker 1: to where it's like growing out of the wall. Because
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  Speaker 1: that that gross me out more than anything. Yeah, every time,
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  Speaker 1: and then that's where I again it's I try not
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  Speaker 1: to be the one to bring it send it back
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  Speaker 1: her way. But I was like, okay, you know, speaking
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  Speaker 1: of hair, I have to turn around and see a
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  Speaker 1: giant bushel of it every time I got shower, every
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  Speaker 1: time I pretty much to clean it up it almost
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  Speaker 1: every time, but the occasional time it has been left
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  Speaker 1: in this show. Her response was, well, maybe you shouldn't
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  Speaker 1: stress me out so much. That's why it's good. Oh
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  Speaker 1: my gosh, that's so funny. Why hair off of our
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  Speaker 1: body is so disgusting. She guys get bothered by like
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  Speaker 1: our hair of hers will fall out and I'll pick
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  Speaker 1: it up and I'll put it back on her head
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  Speaker 1: and she's like, dude, don't do that. I'm like, it's
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  Speaker 1: just your hair. It just literally just fell out. I'm
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  Speaker 1: putting it. But you know, it's just messed me being
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  Speaker 1: stupid so and annoying like I like to do every
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  Speaker 1: so often. So I guess I deserve it, but I
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  Speaker 1: don't know. Yeah, this is weird. It's not. It's not
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  Speaker 1: weird until it becomes untill it leaves your body. It's
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  Speaker 1: the side of a good relationship. Is this element it?
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  Speaker 1: Trust me? I mean, I've been living with my wife
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  Speaker 1: now for six months and the only way we make
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  Speaker 1: it through every day is by joking about this stuff
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  Speaker 1: with each other, especially until you get used to it
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  Speaker 1: and it's expected. Uh, now, you just talked about your
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  Speaker 1: hair falling out in a joking way. But Ashley no
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  Speaker 1: I and a lot of the listeners know from listening
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  Speaker 1: to this podcast that coming off the Bachelor, being on
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  Speaker 1: the Bachelor is an extremely stressful season of life. It's
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  Speaker 1: a great season of life. It's a lot of fun,
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  Speaker 1: there's great new opportunities, life kind of changes, but it's stressful.
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  Speaker 1: Are you at a place now Maybe I should just
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  Speaker 1: ask it this way, Where are you at now in
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  Speaker 1: that journey? Do you feel back to normal? Do you
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  Speaker 1: feel like that season is starting to become more peaceful?
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  Speaker 1: Are you still in it kind of swirling around trying
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  Speaker 1: to get your head on straight? Probably all of the
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  Speaker 1: above to that. Like there's days where everything feels very
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  Speaker 1: normal and healthy and um yeah, like we're thriving with
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  Speaker 1: each other and individually, and then there's days that are
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  Speaker 1: really complicated, um, both personally and together. I think, um
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  Speaker 1: more so than I think it would have been yet
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  Speaker 1: had we not gone on the show or like started
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  Speaker 1: a relationship from the show. So um, yeah, it just
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  Speaker 1: depends on the day. I think the one thing that
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  Speaker 1: we've learned is that like, no matter what, we love
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  Speaker 1: each other so much, um, and we're here to help
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  Speaker 1: each other in that in this season, whether that's within
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  Speaker 1: the relationship or individually as we need it UM. And
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  Speaker 1: that doesn't always it's not always very clear what we're
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  Speaker 1: needing in the moment or what we're experiencing, like the
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  Speaker 1: feelings or the um the stress and things like that.
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  Speaker 1: Like sometimes it's not super clear why we're feeling the
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  Speaker 1: way we're feeling or what we're going through. But I
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  Speaker 1: think we've had a lot of really good conversations, and
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  Speaker 1: every conversation ultimately has helped us navigate to a better
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  Speaker 1: place of understanding ourselves in each other. Yeah. Yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: think it comes in waves. There's really good days and
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  Speaker 1: there's really bad days. I think that though, is I
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  Speaker 1: would say, fairly standard for relationship. I think obviously we
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  Speaker 1: went through some unforeseen circumstances and very unique We were
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  Speaker 1: in some very unique spots, and so because of that,
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  Speaker 1: it's been really challenging sometimes because we really can't turn
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  Speaker 1: to family and friends because they just don't really understand.
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  Speaker 1: I mean they want to, but we obviously live through
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  Speaker 1: what we live through, and that makes it tough sometimes
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  Speaker 1: when you feel that you want to go get advice
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  Speaker 1: from somewhere else, but you realize that they have a
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  Speaker 1: sliver of the story. And so at the end of
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  Speaker 1: the day, we're really the only two that can work
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  Speaker 1: through this um And yeah, there's people that that I
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  Speaker 1: went through it besides us, and that's great. We like
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  Speaker 1: to I I found a lot of value and talking
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  Speaker 1: to others that I went through the same experience, and
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  Speaker 1: it helps kind of calm our nerves, I think when
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  Speaker 1: we do so. But but yeah, it's been it's a lot.
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  Speaker 1: I think you try to start any relationship after going
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  Speaker 1: through all of that, and it's it's just kind of wild.
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  Speaker 1: You're just like, what what has what has happened? Where
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  Speaker 1: do we go from here? And over communications that the
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  Speaker 1: most critical aspect of it all. I think when you
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  Speaker 1: guys do have your hard days your arguments, do you
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  Speaker 1: usually find yourself reverting back to the end of your
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  Speaker 1: season Clinton and the drama that went down there, or
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  Speaker 1: do you find that the arguments are totally unrelated. Because
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  Speaker 1: I'll be honest, from my point of view, even like
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  Speaker 1: years after when Jared and I got together, the first
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  Speaker 1: like six months whenever there was like a little argument.
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  Speaker 1: It usually had to do with what happened years ago.
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  Speaker 1: We're totally totally over that now, but when we first
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  Speaker 1: got together, Yeah, yeah, I would say thousand percent. I
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  Speaker 1: think there's so many feelings attached to what the show was. Uh.
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  Speaker 1: And so when we get upset about something, I think
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  Speaker 1: it's just just important for everybody to realize that oftentimes
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  Speaker 1: those feelings are attached to something deeper. It's not it's
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  Speaker 1: not you know, you put the toilet paper on wrong,
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  Speaker 1: so I'm gonna blow up on you. It's put the
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  Speaker 1: toilet paper on wrong, but I'm annoyed at something that
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  Speaker 1: you did a few months ago that I just happened
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  Speaker 1: to like upset me because I was thinking about it earlier.
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  Speaker 1: Uh So I always I do feel that. Yeah, there's
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  Speaker 1: I'm sure we're not feeling ones as others that have
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  Speaker 1: went through it. And there was so many strong emotions
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  Speaker 1: from the show. And it's been a long period of healing.
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  Speaker 1: Uh and I still have days or I don't feel
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  Speaker 1: like I'm fully healed. And so, yeah, when something little happens,
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  Speaker 1: it can magnify because you are subconsciously thinking about something
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  Speaker 1: that happened prior that you promised you would move beyond.
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  Speaker 1: But you can say that, but it's it's you can
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  Speaker 1: say you're gonna move on, but it to actually do it,
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  Speaker 1: it just takes time. And I think that's where it's
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  Speaker 1: what's the right amount of time? I don't know. Well,
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  Speaker 1: it's awesome having Clayton and Susie with us. What a
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  Speaker 1: celebration leading up to this season of the Bachelorette. This
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  Speaker 1: is gonna be a two part episode, so this was
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  Speaker 1: part one. Tune in for part two that will be
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  Speaker 1: up soon. But until then, I've been been, I've been Ashley,
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