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Are you too rigid? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places for chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Ooh, where the girls are currently enjoying bananas and
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  shredded zucchini and squash some hot peppers because they
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  seem to really like hot peppers. So this morning we are talking
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  about rigid thinking. So why did I mention the chicken
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  food this morning and rigid thinking?
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  Because a lot of people think that you can't give Chicken
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  certain things or wow, I didn't know chickens could do that and
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  or they'll say, oh well when they see what my chickens eat,
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  they'll say, well, you shouldn't Do that.
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  And you shouldn't do this. And I always laugh because
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  That's rigid thinking and we have to recognize that this
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  shows up in the smallest of small places within us we hear
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  something. We do something a certain way
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  and that becomes the way it always is and we don't change
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  our way of thinking, we don't account for new information, we
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  don't account for new ways of thinking.
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  We just stick with the information we have and we run
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  with it and then that becomes our reality.
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  And when we run into somebody that has different thinking, we
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  often become super rigid about are thinking without considering
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  whether that still serves us or not.
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  So today's podcast is all about do these things serve us.
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  So when you start to have rigid thinking and believe me you all
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  have it, we all have it, we can't get away from it, it's
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  just how we are, how we will say well that's how I was raised or
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  this is the way my My grandparents taught me or this
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  is what I learned in school or this is what a professor.
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  Might one of my favorite professors showed me to do it
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  this way. Whatever it might be, doesn't
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  matter what matters is that? There's no room for
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  consideration in other possibilities.
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  There's no room to look at it a different way and say huh?
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  Could this work a certain way? Could this be perceived another
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  way we ran into this This the other day in our household and
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  we have a sink in our garage, one of the big utilities thinks
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  and I was purging cleaning, getting rid of things.
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  And on the top shelf of a rack, in our garage, my husband has a
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  saw a big thing. Like I want to say, it's a skill
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  saw but I'm this is so not my skill set, no pun intended.
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  And it was it's big. Saw that kind of like comes down
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  with an arm. I don't know what it's called
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  but this it's a big song. It's on the top shelf.
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  So I said to him, why do you have it on the top shelf?
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  Can't you put it on another shelf and he said, it doesn't
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  fit. It doesn't clear, and I said
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  it's so fun. It's so hard up there.
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  It's like so hard for you to reach up and get it down.
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  Why don't you put it under the sink?
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  And he says it's not going to fit and I say I'm standing there
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  and I'm looking at it and I'm like, no, it's going to fit.
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  It could fit under the sink. He's like it's not going to fit
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  under the sink him and I'm like, no, it will really fit under the
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  sink Mark. And I'm looking at it now mind
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  you my husband is Uber auditory and I am Uber visual so I can
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  measure. And I was raised by a man who
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  was a contractor. And I have like the unbelief and
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  he was a master Carpenter. So I was like constantly taught
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  to measure things. Look at things, see things.
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  So, here I am looking at it. And in my mind I can see that.
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  Yes, there's a pipe under the sink but there's also a shape of
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  the saw and it can slide right in.
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  So we start having this conversation.
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  Now, mind you this would have been easily solved.
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  Except my husband was in the Rigid moment and he looks at it
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  and he says it's not going to work and I'm standing there and
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  I'm trying not to be that woman and I'm going.
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  No, it's really going to work. I'm telling you it's going to
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  work and so he says it's just not going to work.
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  Why can't you let it go? You're Relentless.
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  Well, that is true. I am Relentless but I couldn't
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  let it go because I knew it would work.
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  So I said, okay. So he went to go do something
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  else and I proceeded to put the saw under the sink and when he
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  walked back and I said, look if it's under the sink, Ink.
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  And there was a moment and you could see it in his face where
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  there was a moment where he was like irritated with me and proud
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  of me at the same moment, one that I didn't give up and that I
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  made it work for him and to that, like geez she's freaking
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  Relentless. So this is where rigid thinking
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  Catches Us. Instead of in that moment, he
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  could have said to me, hey, you know what, let's just give it a
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  shot and see, but he didn't because he was sticking with
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  what he came up with. I could have backed off and
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  walked away but I was rigid as well.
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  This is not just about him being rigid.
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  This is about me being rigid in my relentlessness.
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  It shows up all the time and in the most finite of situations.
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  So imagine how it shows up in what we believe about life or
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  what we believe is, right and wrong.
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  Oh my God that that is one that will send us write down a rabbit
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  hole. So I'm asking you not to give up
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  that. Piece of yourself because that
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  would be silly. We can't give these things up.
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  Like I've said a million times, you can't throw emotions off the
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  bus. You can't throw these things off
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  the bus because they're there. But what you can do is challenge
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  them and you can ask yourself, how can I see this differently?
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  Is there another way for me to do this and the dreaded question
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  that I can't stand asking myself, but do it often.
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  Am I being rigid? Because sometimes more often
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  than I like to think I am being Yes, let me be a total
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  confession right now. I'm rigid when it comes to
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  loading my dishwasher. I'm rigid when it comes to
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  folding my towels. I'm rigid.
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  When it comes to organizing my closets.
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  Yes. Yes yes yes.
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  And am I going to change it? No.
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  But you know why? That's okay, because I've made
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  the Declaration, the proclamation I've gone out
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  there. I've said, this is the way it is
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  and this is how it's going to stay and I don't put it on
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  anybody else. They can put the dishes in the
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  dishwasher the way they need to. To, if I want to reorganize
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  them, that's on me, and I'm okay with that.
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  So, it's all about making space for other people.
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  It's all about making space for yourself.
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  It's all about staying, not quite so rigid.
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  In your thinking that you cause yourself stress, because that's
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  where it really comes from and that's what this is all about.
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  So, go out there today, figure out if you're too rigid and how
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  to just tweak that a little tiny bit and I hope you guys have a
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  very blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye. Bye.