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Romeo In The Morning 7-9-26 · Romeo In The Morning

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  Speaker 1: I was going on, everybody, it's Romeo.
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  Speaker 2: Oh.
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  Speaker 1: We got to talk a little bit about cheating, Is
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  Speaker 1: it ever not.
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  Speaker 3: The cheater's fault when it comes to your relationships? And
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  Speaker 3: then about getting fired? What's the craziest reason you ever
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  Speaker 3: got fired? So I got this text messages, Good morning Romeo.
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  Speaker 3: I've been married to my husband for ten years and
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  Speaker 3: these past years have been amazing. Why do you guys
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  Speaker 3: always start with this? I thought I would regret marying
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  Speaker 3: young at twenty one, but my husband is just amazing.
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  Speaker 3: We have one child together and another one on the way.
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  Speaker 3: So two nights ago we went into a deep conversation
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  Speaker 3: about what would you have done if you never married me?
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  Speaker 3: Why would you even have that conversation? For me, I
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  Speaker 3: would have chose my husband and marry him all over again,
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  Speaker 3: would have done it sooner possible. But for my husband,
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  Speaker 3: he would have married his ex girlfriend. Why would he
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  Speaker 3: say that to you, Hey, Romeo, I knew him when
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  Speaker 3: he was dating that girl, and he chose me over her.
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  Speaker 3: I asked him why her? He said, because she was
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  Speaker 3: there for me for my darkest moments. I lost my job,
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  Speaker 3: I got evicted from my house, I got kicked out
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  Speaker 3: of school, and she was there when I needed someone
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  Speaker 3: the most. But I chose you, and I gave you
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  Speaker 3: what I promised her. There was one question I wanted
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  Speaker 3: to ask him, Romeo, but I'm scared of the answer.
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  Speaker 3: If she ever contacted you and wanted to work on things,
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  Speaker 3: would you leave your would you leave our family that
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  Speaker 3: we have built for her? I fear the answer. Well
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  Speaker 3: you should fear the answer, because it's obvious. The answer is,
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  Speaker 3: would he would leave leave you for her? I don't
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  Speaker 3: even know if he leave you, you know, he'd probably
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  Speaker 3: just cheat on you all. But why would you have
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  Speaker 3: that conversation? And why would he talk to you like that?
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  Speaker 1: Why? What kind of man?
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  Speaker 3: I mean, you're telling me your husband's great, But what
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  Speaker 3: kind of man tells you that tells you, oh, yeah,
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  Speaker 3: I would have I would have married my ex instead
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  Speaker 3: of you, if I could do it all over again.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, why of course he would choose her to
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  Speaker 3: have that type of conversation and tell your wife and
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  Speaker 3: the mother of your children, that's not good. Check out
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  Speaker 3: this text message I got. Good morning, Romeo. I've been
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  Speaker 3: married to my husband for ten years. In these past years,
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  Speaker 3: I have been amazing. I thought, I would be. I
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  Speaker 3: thought I would regret marrying young at twenty one, but
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  Speaker 3: my husband's just amazing.
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  Speaker 1: We have one child together, another one on the way.
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  Speaker 3: Two nights ago, we got into a deep conversation about
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  Speaker 3: what would you have done if you never married me?
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  Speaker 3: For me, I would choose my husband and marry him
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  Speaker 3: all over again. If possible, I would have married him sooner.
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  Speaker 3: But for my husband, he would have married his ex girlfriend, Romeo.
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  Speaker 3: I knew him when he was dating this girl, and
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  Speaker 3: he chose.
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  Speaker 1: Me over her. I asked him why why her?
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  Speaker 3: And he said because she was there for me in
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  Speaker 3: my darkest moments, when I lost my job, when I
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  Speaker 3: got evicted from my house, I got kicked out of school.
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  Speaker 1: She was there when I.
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  Speaker 3: Needed some of the most. But I chose you, and
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  Speaker 3: I gave you what I promised her. There's one question
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  Speaker 3: I want to ask Romeo, but I'm scared to answer,
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  Speaker 3: or for him to answer. If she never contacted, if
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  Speaker 3: she ever contacted, you don't want to work things out,
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  Speaker 3: would you leave our family that we built for her?
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  Speaker 3: I fear the answer to that. Well, the question is why,
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  Speaker 3: I guess you should fear the answer to that? Why
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  Speaker 3: would you have that conversation to begin with a right
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  Speaker 3: four to two, five, four, seven, seven, eight, Romeo, this
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  Speaker 3: is just another example of someone getting what they deserved.
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  Speaker 3: Why would she ask that question about her husband? What
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  Speaker 3: would you do if you could?
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  Speaker 1: What was it? What would you do if you could
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  Speaker 1: do it all over again? Yeah?
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  Speaker 3: Why would you have that question with your husband and wife?
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  Speaker 3: Unless you're not? I mean that's yeah. Why would you
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  Speaker 3: have that question? Why would you have that conversation, especially
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  Speaker 3: a decade in I mean, she must just feel so.
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  Speaker 3: And I'm I'm assuming he's the one who brought it up.
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  Speaker 3: I'm guessing. I don't know. I could be wrong. Maybe
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  Speaker 3: he brought it up. But you're right, why did she
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  Speaker 3: if she brought it up? Why did you bring up
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  Speaker 3: that conversation?
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  Speaker 4: You?
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  Speaker 3: I guess you're right. You got what you deserved. You
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  Speaker 3: know you shouldn't have Why would you have that conversation already?
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  Speaker 3: Four two, five, four or seven to seven? Hey, Romeo,
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  Speaker 3: it's a good thing she didn't ask her husband what
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  Speaker 3: he would do if the X came back into his life,
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  Speaker 3: because he would definitely leave her or at least cheat on.
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  Speaker 1: Her with her.
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  Speaker 3: That's I think that too. I believe that too, But
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  Speaker 3: you don't want the answer. You've already gotten the answer.
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  Speaker 3: And here's the other thing about this conversation. You've already
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  Speaker 3: gotten a pretty brutal answer to what would you have
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  Speaker 3: done if you could do it over again? And he said,
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  Speaker 3: marry his ex girlfriend, not you, And you've already gotten
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  Speaker 3: that answer.
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  Speaker 1: So what's one more?
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  Speaker 3: I mean, if she wants to work it out them,
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  Speaker 3: what's one more? You think they're still not in contact
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  Speaker 3: with each other. You think he hasn't talking to it,
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  Speaker 3: He isn't still talking to her. I mean, so I
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  Speaker 3: got this. Good morning, rome I've been married for my
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  Speaker 3: husband for ten years. In the past years have been amazing.
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  Speaker 3: I thought I would regret marrying young. I got married
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  Speaker 3: at twenty one, but my husband is amazing. We have
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  Speaker 3: two children together and another on the way. So two
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  Speaker 3: nights ago we got into a deep conversation about what
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  Speaker 3: would you have done if you had never married me?
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  Speaker 3: For me, I would have chose my husband and marry
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  Speaker 3: him all over again. Would have done it if sooner apossible.
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  Speaker 3: For my husband, he would have married his ex girl friend. Romeo.
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  Speaker 3: I knew him when he was dating that girl, and
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  Speaker 3: he chose me over her. I've asked him why her,
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  Speaker 3: and he said because she was there for me at
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  Speaker 3: some of the darkest moments in my life. Lost my job,
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  Speaker 3: got a victor from my house, got kicked out of school,
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  Speaker 3: and she was there when I needed someone the most.
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  Speaker 3: But I chose you, and I gave you what I
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  Speaker 3: promised her. There was one question I wanted to ask him, Romeo,
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  Speaker 3: but I'm scared to answer. If she ever contacted you
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  Speaker 3: and wanted to work on things, would you leave our
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  Speaker 3: family that we have built for her fear of what
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  Speaker 3: he might say?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I would be afraid too.
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  Speaker 3: Already four two five four is seven to seven a roam?
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  Speaker 3: What do these women always ask these questions? They don't
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  Speaker 3: drop ready for the answers? I mean a four two
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  Speaker 3: five four seven to seven. That's pretty common though. It's
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  Speaker 3: human nature, right. Why Why do we ask stupid questions?
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  Speaker 3: Why do we ask things that we don't want answers
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  Speaker 3: to because we expect to get the answer we want
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  Speaker 3: That's why, you know, No, we want the answer. We
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  Speaker 3: just want the answer that we want. That's why we
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  Speaker 3: do it. Already four two five four seven to seven.
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  Speaker 3: But don't have You're right, don't have a conversation if
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  Speaker 3: you aren't prepared for what could happen. They don't have
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  Speaker 3: that conversation. So so I got this Good morning, rome
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  Speaker 3: I've been married for my husband for ten years. In
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  Speaker 3: the past years have been amazing. I thought I would
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  Speaker 3: regret marrying young. I got married to twenty one, but
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  Speaker 3: my husband is amazing. We have two children together and
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  Speaker 3: another on the way. So two nights ago we got
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  Speaker 3: into a deep conversation about what would you have done
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  Speaker 3: if you had never married me? For me, I would
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  Speaker 3: have chose my husband and marry him all over again.
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  Speaker 3: Would have done it if sooner apossible. For my husband,
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  Speaker 3: he would have married his ex girl from Romeo. I
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  Speaker 3: knew him when he was dating that girl, and he
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  Speaker 3: chose me over her. I've asked him why her, and
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  Speaker 3: he said because she was there for me at some
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  Speaker 3: of the darkest moments in my life. Lost my job,
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  Speaker 3: got a victory from my house, got kicked out of school,
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  Speaker 3: and she was there when I needed someone the most.
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  Speaker 3: But I chose you, and I gave you what I
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  Speaker 3: promised her. There was one question I wanted to ask him, Romeo,
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  Speaker 3: but I'm scared to answer. If she ever contacted you
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  Speaker 3: and wanted to work on things. Would you leave our
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  Speaker 3: family that we have built for her fear of what
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  Speaker 3: he might say? Yeah, I would be afraid too already
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  Speaker 3: four two about four seven seven eggre Morning Romeo. The
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  Speaker 3: real question is if he wanted to give his ex
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  Speaker 3: that life, then why did they break up? See, that's
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  Speaker 3: a question we need answer to figure out what would
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  Speaker 3: be the next step. Maybe the ex broke up with
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  Speaker 3: him because of the way he acted.
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  Speaker 1: Who knows. We don't know.
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  Speaker 3: So maybe she is worried about if the ex ever
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  Speaker 3: comes back into his life, how that would play out.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, that's a very good question, Ay, Romeo. It
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  Speaker 3: seems like she interfered with the relationship during his bad
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  Speaker 3: time and broke up that relationship in order for him
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  Speaker 3: to choose her, must have still been with the ex girlfriend.
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  Speaker 3: Well that's another question. You said you knew him when
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  Speaker 3: he was with the ex girlfriend. Why did he choose you?
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  Speaker 1: Maybe?
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  Speaker 3: Did you were you the reason? Did you cause him
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  Speaker 3: to break up with his x? It's another good question.
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  Speaker 3: We don't have an answer to it. I got this,
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  Speaker 3: Good morning, rome I've been married for my husband for
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  Speaker 3: ten years. In the past years have been amazing. I
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  Speaker 3: thought I would regret marrying young. I got married at
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  Speaker 3: twenty one, but my husband is amazing. We have two
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  Speaker 3: children together and another on the way. So two nights
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  Speaker 3: ago we got into deep, a deep conversation about what
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  Speaker 3: would you have done if you had never married me?
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  Speaker 3: For me, I would have chose my husband and marry
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  Speaker 3: him all over again. Would have done it if sooner apossible.
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  Speaker 3: For my husband, he would have married his ex girlfriend Romeo.
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  Speaker 3: I knew him when he was dating that girl, and
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  Speaker 3: he chose me over her. I've asked him why her,
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  Speaker 3: and he said because she was there for me at
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  Speaker 3: some of the darkest moments in my life. Lost my job,
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  Speaker 3: got a victor from my house, got kicked out of school,
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  Speaker 3: and she was there when I needed someone the most.
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  Speaker 3: That I chose you and I gave you what I
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  Speaker 3: promised her. There was one question I wanted to ask him, Romeo,
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  Speaker 3: but I'm scared to answer. If she ever contacted you
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  Speaker 3: and wanted to work on things, would you leave our
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  Speaker 3: family that we have built for her fear of what
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  Speaker 3: he might say? Yeah, I would be afraid too.
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  Speaker 5: Being there, So I don't think she would have that
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  Speaker 5: insecurity if she were to ask him the question why
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  Speaker 5: did you choose me over her? To begin with? And
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  Speaker 5: I think that answer.
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  Speaker 2: Your rate.
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  Speaker 5: The other question, what would you leave me now for her?
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  Speaker 1: Oh that's fair, I could see, yeah, But did she
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  Speaker 1: ask that? No, she didn't ask that question. I will
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  Speaker 1: see what you're saying. Yeah, that's not bad.
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  Speaker 5: She's a little insecure.
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  Speaker 1: You know, well, why would you have that conversation to
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  Speaker 1: begin with?
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  Speaker 3: The whole idea of just saying that's like saying, Hey,
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  Speaker 3: we've been together ten years? How many girls have you
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  Speaker 3: banged out? How many dudes are you slept? I mean,
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  Speaker 3: why are we having this conversation at this point?
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  Speaker 1: Anyways?
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  Speaker 5: You know what I'm saying, I would just want to
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  Speaker 5: have that conversation. So I think that might have thrown
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  Speaker 5: him off too, And he's like, he's honest.
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  Speaker 6: All right.
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  Speaker 1: I do like that though. I guess she could ask
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  Speaker 1: him why did you choose me? As a follow up?
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  Speaker 3: Then then that would alleviate the why did you? You know,
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  Speaker 3: would you if she came back, what would you do?
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  Speaker 1: I like that idea.
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  Speaker 5: You kind of would leave her feeling real good.
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  Speaker 1: That's kind of a sneaky way to do things. You're
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  Speaker 1: kind of shysty. Thanks for calling. Yeah, let's go.
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  Speaker 3: On, do Romeo.
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  Speaker 2: That guy is an idiot.
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  Speaker 1: That guy is an idiot.
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  Speaker 7: Okay, Why why would you tell your wife you're with
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  Speaker 7: that if you do it all over again, you've married
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  Speaker 7: company out.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's uh you. I would say that's a stupid
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  Speaker 1: thing to say.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, Dave has been married four days, and I know
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  Speaker 4: better than that supposed to make him feel. You know
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  Speaker 4: that you can't go without him, that they're the last
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  Speaker 4: You know.
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  Speaker 2: That they're you're everything.
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  Speaker 4: So if he's listening, tell her you were just playing,
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  Speaker 4: You were drunk, you were kidding towards.
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  Speaker 1: Live all right.
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  Speaker 3: I don't disagree with you are right to day, although
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  Speaker 3: I don't think that'll work. You can't say you're just kidding.
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  Speaker 3: That's not going to happen. The bell's already been wrung.
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  Speaker 3: Can't underring the bell all right?
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  Speaker 1: In fourteen five, four seven to seven.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, he never should have that, But she should have
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  Speaker 3: never asked, why are you even having that conversation? You know,
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  Speaker 3: I was telling you the story about these people. I
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  Speaker 3: know I've known him for a while, but I haven't
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  Speaker 3: seen him a while. Husband and wife and she ended
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  Speaker 3: up cheating on him, and this was about a year ago.
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  Speaker 3: I think she ended up cheating on him.
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  Speaker 6: Why.
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  Speaker 3: I ran into him the other night and they're actually
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  Speaker 3: getting back together, working it out, and we were talking
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  Speaker 3: about it, and I guess he was saying that part
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  Speaker 3: of the reason for all the reason, I don't know
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  Speaker 3: which one it was, but he took a responsibility to
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  Speaker 3: saying he was working too much, wasn't giving her attention,
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  Speaker 3: wasn't spending any time with her, you know, it was
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  Speaker 3: just basically busy, busy, busy, busy, right, And so they're
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  Speaker 3: working it out.
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  Speaker 1: Apparently she got lonely, he wasn't around. She cheated on him.
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  Speaker 1: But I don't know if that's right or not.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know if I I really don't know what
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  Speaker 3: to think about it, to be honest with you, because
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  Speaker 3: I don't think you need to cheat.
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  Speaker 1: You guys know, I'm against cheating. I hate cheaters.
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  Speaker 3: I think it's terrible thing to do to somebody. I
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  Speaker 3: think there's a lot of other options other than cheating.
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  Speaker 3: But the way they were explaining it to me as
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  Speaker 3: a couple, by understand it that it was kind of
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  Speaker 3: like a wake up call for his marriage. And he
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  Speaker 3: didn't realize what was going on. So evidently her talking
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  Speaker 3: to him about it didn't open his eyes. And I
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  Speaker 3: want to say that, she said she I want to
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  Speaker 3: if I we were drinking, so I want to say
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  Speaker 3: that she said, we taught he had told her, or
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  Speaker 3: she had told him, Hey, I need more attention from you.
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  Speaker 3: He didn't pay attention, but this cheating, her cheating opened
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  Speaker 3: his eyes, so he took responsibility. Now they're I guess
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  Speaker 3: working it out already fourteen five, four, seven to seven.
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  Speaker 3: But are you responsible if you're the cheaty, the cheater,
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  Speaker 3: the cheaty? No, if you were cheated on were I
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  Speaker 3: don't know how to say it. Do you have any
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  Speaker 3: responsibility for your spouse cheating on you? Or is it
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  Speaker 3: just all your Is it just all on the cheater already?
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  Speaker 3: Four two, five, four or seven to seven? Rom Once
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  Speaker 3: the cheater, always a cheater? Maybe, I mean you're always
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  Speaker 3: a cheater because you cheat it, But that doesn't necessarily
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  Speaker 3: mean you're gonna cheat again. That's like saying once an alcoholic,
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  Speaker 3: always an alcoholic. Yeah, that's true, but doesn't mean you're
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  Speaker 3: always you're gonna drink again.
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  Speaker 1: So I don't know what you mean by that. Statement.
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  Speaker 3: But okay, I was talking to a couple that I know,
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  Speaker 3: and she cheated on them. Okay, and now let me explain,
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  Speaker 3: because the reasoning that she used for cheating on this
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  Speaker 3: guy was, uh, he was working too much, never around,
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  Speaker 3: didn't pay an attention to her.
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  Speaker 1: Well, they're working it out because he.
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  Speaker 3: Took accountability for the fact that, you know what, I
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  Speaker 3: wasn't there for her, so she cheated. So apparently this
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  Speaker 3: opened his eyes. Now they're working it out. Can you
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  Speaker 3: ever blame yourself for being cheated on? I I don't know, Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: what's going on?
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  Speaker 2: Look, man, I gotta say nothing justified cheating, you know
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  Speaker 2: what I mean? Like if you want, if you want
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  Speaker 2: to out, just stay your spouse or your part. I
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  Speaker 2: think you can let him know.
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  Speaker 1: Hold on, hold on, let me take you. I totally
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  Speaker 1: agree with that, totally.
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  Speaker 3: But it made sense when they were explaining it to me,
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  Speaker 3: like they were explaining, Okay, I felt this way you
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  Speaker 3: I told him he wouldn't he wouldn't change.
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  Speaker 1: The cheating is what made him realize that.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, I want this woman and I I screwed up,
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  Speaker 3: and I'm not agreeing with it, I just do it
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  Speaker 3: made sense to me.
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  Speaker 1: When he explained it right.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, man, I agree with you. I did not like
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  Speaker 2: Teeters at all. Everybody had a choice, you got an option,
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  Speaker 2: you could always get that. Jess and I have to
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  Speaker 2: be in there, and I'm not. I can't think of
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  Speaker 2: everybody but nobody.
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  Speaker 4: Hold it good up your head.
• 15:58
  Speaker 1: Hey, I agree with you. But here's my only question,
• 16:02
  Speaker 1: and that's why I said this. Do you have to
• 16:05
  Speaker 1: take any responsibility for being cheated on?
• 16:07
  Speaker 3: Because if she wouldn't have cheated and just left, would
• 16:14
  Speaker 3: they be better off? Maybe not, Maybe they're Maybe they're
• 16:17
  Speaker 3: meant to be together and the cheating is what made
• 16:21
  Speaker 3: him realize, so now they're gonna be great.
• 16:23
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know the answer to that.
• 16:26
  Speaker 1: I'm just I'm just throwing it.
• 16:27
  Speaker 3: Out there because, like I said, what they were telling
• 16:30
  Speaker 3: me kind of made sense.
• 16:35
  Speaker 1: Right later. But I agree with you. I don't think
• 16:39
  Speaker 1: there's any.
• 16:39
  Speaker 3: Excuse for cheating, none whatsoever. But just hear me out.
• 16:46
  Speaker 3: Based on their logic, she said she's not getting enough
• 16:51
  Speaker 3: attention from her husband. He does nothing about it, keeps
• 16:56
  Speaker 3: going along with the program. So she has two options.
• 17:00
  Speaker 3: She could leave him or she can cheat on him.
• 17:03
  Speaker 3: She chose to cheat on him, and supposedly now their
• 17:07
  Speaker 3: marriage is getting better, it's getting back on track because
• 17:11
  Speaker 3: he realizes, Wait a second, when she talked to me
• 17:14
  Speaker 3: about it, it didn't work. If she would have left,
• 17:18
  Speaker 3: what would have happened? Maybe that would have opened his
• 17:21
  Speaker 3: eyes if she left him.
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 17:24
  Speaker 3: All I'm saying, is there any scenario where you have
• 17:29
  Speaker 3: to take responsibility for being cheated on?
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: Talking about cheaters, right, cheating?
• 17:35
  Speaker 3: Is there any reason or any point or any example
• 17:38
  Speaker 3: of where you need to take responsibility for you being
• 17:41
  Speaker 3: cheated on?
• 17:43
  Speaker 1: Or is it just always the cheaters fault? These This
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: couple I know, was.
• 17:46
  Speaker 3: Explaining it to me that he just wasn't present in
• 17:49
  Speaker 3: his marriage. She cheated on him about a year ago.
• 17:54
  Speaker 3: Now they're back together, said opened his eyes. Couldn't believe
• 17:57
  Speaker 3: it now. Supposedly they're on the pa to foreverness, according
• 18:02
  Speaker 3: to them, were.
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: Not what's going on?
• 18:05
  Speaker 8: It was going on royal. Yeah, I heard it, and
• 18:10
  Speaker 8: I don't know. I mean, how can you how can
• 18:13
  Speaker 8: you forgive that?
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: How can you forgive?
• 18:17
  Speaker 9: Yes?
• 18:18
  Speaker 6: I mean it's always going to.
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: Be on the table.
• 18:20
  Speaker 8: She cheated obviously because she didn't love the guy. And
• 18:22
  Speaker 8: if she's using that an excuse. Oh, you were not
• 18:24
  Speaker 8: there for me, so I wouldn't sit on you. Now,
• 18:26
  Speaker 8: let's work it out. It's gonna happen again.
• 18:29
  Speaker 10: I guarantee you.
• 18:29
  Speaker 8: She's gonna cheat on him again, and she's gonna bring
• 18:31
  Speaker 8: up another excuse.
• 18:32
  Speaker 2: Why she did it.
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: Okay, I guess time will tell. I can't argue with you.
• 18:37
  Speaker 3: I mean, that sounds right, but like I said, man,
• 18:40
  Speaker 3: they were explaining to me together, and it made sense
• 18:43
  Speaker 3: when they were telling me that.
• 18:46
  Speaker 8: It might make sense, but you know, you can't justify that.
• 18:50
  Speaker 8: That's how much you valther yourself, how much he vites himself.
• 18:53
  Speaker 8: You can't put yourself in the situation. Well okay, well
• 18:56
  Speaker 8: I wasn't there, so she got the cheating.
• 18:57
  Speaker 2: Now we're gonna work it out.
• 18:58
  Speaker 8: It's not gonna work. It might work for a bit
• 19:00
  Speaker 8: because he forgave me, but she's gonna do it again,
• 19:03
  Speaker 8: and I feel bad for the guy. But you know what,
• 19:06
  Speaker 8: he needs to get looking at her and say, no, what,
• 19:08
  Speaker 8: that's not the reason why you had to be braining
• 19:09
  Speaker 8: like that, all.
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: Right, brother, I don't disagree with you. Guys, don't get
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: me wrong.
• 19:16
  Speaker 3: I'm against cheaters, and I think it's despicable. I think
• 19:20
  Speaker 3: it's the worst thing you can do to somebody. But
• 19:24
  Speaker 3: when they were explaining to me how this he took responsibility,
• 19:28
  Speaker 3: Oh my god, my wife was I wasn't there for her.
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: And she wanted me to be.
• 19:33
  Speaker 3: She told me she wanted me to be there for
• 19:36
  Speaker 3: and nothing she said worked. She cheated on me, and
• 19:40
  Speaker 3: now I realized, oh my god, I'm a loser forever.
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: So I don't know.
• 19:45
  Speaker 3: You tell me already four two five four seven to
• 19:48
  Speaker 3: seven year old ROMs she brainwashed him.
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: Maybe I don't.
• 19:53
  Speaker 3: Know because all I'm saying is this. I agree with
• 19:56
  Speaker 3: what you guys are saying. Cheaters are cheaters.
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: Tell them. But but they made it made sense to
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: me the other night.
• 20:03
  Speaker 3: It was it's crazy, all right, But I mean, do
• 20:08
  Speaker 3: you think that you should ever take responsibility? And you
• 20:11
  Speaker 3: know what I think the problem is the problem is
• 20:14
  Speaker 3: it's because she cheated. What if he cheated, you guys
• 20:19
  Speaker 3: would be standing up for him while she wasn't giving
• 20:21
  Speaker 3: him sex she I think you guys are a little
• 20:24
  Speaker 3: skewed by the fact that it was her and not him.
• 20:27
  Speaker 3: So I was talking to a couple that I know,
• 20:29
  Speaker 3: and she cheated on him, they're working it out. He
• 20:33
  Speaker 3: took responsibility, and his logic was she had told him, Hey,
• 20:37
  Speaker 3: you're not spending enough time with me, you're not president
• 20:39
  Speaker 3: our marriage. And the way that she opened his eyes
• 20:43
  Speaker 3: was by cheating on her.
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: So is there ever a.
• 20:48
  Speaker 3: Time when it's your fault you got cheated on already four, two, five,
• 20:53
  Speaker 3: four or seven and seven that you need to take
• 20:55
  Speaker 3: a little bit of responsibility. I don't know a room
• 20:58
  Speaker 3: in regards to what you're talking about. Would you take
• 21:01
  Speaker 3: back your ex that cheated on you?
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: I would never do it.
• 21:04
  Speaker 3: No, I am completely against cheating. I think it's the
• 21:08
  Speaker 3: absolute worst thing that you could do to somebody's self esteem, ego, everything.
• 21:13
  Speaker 3: I think it's terrible. But just listen to their logic.
• 21:19
  Speaker 3: Their logic is he wouldn't be there for me. I
• 21:25
  Speaker 3: tried to tell him. I tried to tell him he
• 21:28
  Speaker 3: wasn't there. So I had two options to leave him,
• 21:32
  Speaker 3: cheat on him right now. Maybe leaving would have worked.
• 21:36
  Speaker 3: Maybe if she left him, he would have said, wait
• 21:38
  Speaker 3: a second, I gotta get her back. I gotta get
• 21:40
  Speaker 3: her back. But would that have changed the scenario or
• 21:43
  Speaker 3: she cheated on him and he realized, oh my god,
• 21:47
  Speaker 3: this is I'm gonna lose my wife. I'm gonna lose everything,
• 21:50
  Speaker 3: you know, because cheating is the worst thing you could do.
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: We can agree upon that, right.
• 21:54
  Speaker 3: So do you tell me already? Four two five, four
• 22:00
  Speaker 3: seven to seven. I just it made sense to me.
• 22:04
  Speaker 3: That's that was my point. It made sense to me
• 22:07
  Speaker 3: when they were explaining this to me, I didn't know
• 22:09
  Speaker 3: what to think.
• 22:11
  Speaker 11: A room.
• 22:12
  Speaker 3: Let's see here eight four two five, four seven seven
• 22:16
  Speaker 3: A room.
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: He's just the dumbass. She played him.
• 22:20
  Speaker 3: See, and I think, you guys, I think because she
• 22:23
  Speaker 3: cheated and he didn't cheated, you guys are being a
• 22:26
  Speaker 3: little biased because if some man cheats because his wife
• 22:30
  Speaker 3: doesn't give him sax, you're gonna be well, what do
• 22:31
  Speaker 3: you expect the man to do? His wife wasn't giving
• 22:33
  Speaker 3: it up? Well, what's the difference. She wasn't getting the
• 22:37
  Speaker 3: attention she wanted out of her husband. What's the difference?
• 22:42
  Speaker 6: Romeo?
• 22:42
  Speaker 7: Yeah, Yo, she's a before the street man certified to Siana.
• 22:50
  Speaker 2: Okay, I'll tell you why.
• 22:51
  Speaker 7: Because relationships are about communication.
• 22:53
  Speaker 2: She was better off just leaving him.
• 22:55
  Speaker 7: I think that would have worked out a lot better
• 22:57
  Speaker 7: because now he got going on her. When when she's
• 23:01
  Speaker 7: in her happiest moment.
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: She's gonna get cheated on once.
• 23:04
  Speaker 7: I hope she does, okay, And that's just the way
• 23:07
  Speaker 7: it goes, you know.
• 23:08
  Speaker 2: And why are women like that?
• 23:10
  Speaker 12: Here?
• 23:10
  Speaker 7: This man is trying to work the hardest and she
• 23:13
  Speaker 7: cheats on him.
• 23:14
  Speaker 11: But if he was at home every day, she would
• 23:16
  Speaker 11: have cheated on him because.
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: He was Okay? Then why do men? Why is it
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: okay for men to cheat when their wives won't give
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: them sex.
• 23:25
  Speaker 13: I don't know.
• 23:25
  Speaker 7: I don't believe in cheating, So I believe in communication.
• 23:28
  Speaker 7: You got to have an open communication. If it's not working,
• 23:30
  Speaker 7: go your separate ways. Come back when it is.
• 23:33
  Speaker 4: But once you.
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: Cheat, that's it.
• 23:35
  Speaker 10: I want to put it to the universe.
• 23:37
  Speaker 2: Get back eventually.
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: All right, all right, I'm not gonna argue with you guys,
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: because I agree with you guys.
• 23:41
  Speaker 3: I just think that there is I'm not gonna argue
• 23:43
  Speaker 3: with that, okay, because you're right, Raider Dame's right. I
• 23:47
  Speaker 3: believe that too. But if you want to be with somebody, right,
• 23:52
  Speaker 3: that's just their logic made sense to me. The way
• 23:56
  Speaker 3: they were explaining it to me, that's what needed to
• 23:59
  Speaker 3: be done to save their marriage.
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: And apparently it's working right now.
• 24:06
  Speaker 3: So I mean, do you ever take responsibility for the
• 24:09
  Speaker 3: fact that you got cheated on?
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: Is it ever your fault?
• 24:13
  Speaker 3: I don't know, Hey, Romeo, I got divorce for the
• 24:16
  Speaker 3: same reason that I was working a lot of hours
• 24:18
  Speaker 3: when I first started working in the oil fields. Her
• 24:23
  Speaker 3: Let's see her respond why she did it? She did
• 24:27
  Speaker 3: it just that she was lonely. I was never home
• 24:30
  Speaker 3: or spent time with her. But I got lonely too.
• 24:33
  Speaker 3: I was around a bunch of oil field guys, but
• 24:35
  Speaker 3: as a man, I had to work to provide. But
• 24:37
  Speaker 3: with all the hours I worked, she drove a new
• 24:39
  Speaker 3: car and lives in a nice house. So if a
• 24:42
  Speaker 3: man don't work, is she gonna cheat too? And if
• 24:46
  Speaker 3: we work lots lots of hours to provide, we still
• 24:49
  Speaker 3: get screwed because we're gone too long. So I would
• 24:55
  Speaker 3: not have I would not go back to her. Here's
• 25:00
  Speaker 3: the thing about that is I'm not saying cheating's right
• 25:07
  Speaker 3: by any means, but think about it. You you you
• 25:12
  Speaker 3: got you guys try to justify your your decision to
• 25:19
  Speaker 3: work long hours by saying, well, I bought her a house,
• 25:22
  Speaker 3: I bought her a car.
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: Guess what figure it out.
• 25:27
  Speaker 3: If she wants you to be present in the marriage,
• 25:29
  Speaker 3: you got to figure it out. You gotta figure out
• 25:33
  Speaker 3: a way to do it in whatever way that is,
• 25:35
  Speaker 3: and not just say well, I got your house, I
• 25:37
  Speaker 3: got your car.
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: You should be happy. Some women want it all.
• 25:42
  Speaker 3: Some women want a house in a car, some women
• 25:46
  Speaker 3: want a husband.
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: Every woman's different.
• 25:51
  Speaker 3: So you either need to find a woman that fits
• 25:53
  Speaker 3: your lifestyle or you need to figure out how to
• 25:56
  Speaker 3: fit her lifestyle. It's that simple already. Fourteen four seven
• 26:00
  Speaker 3: to seven. Hey roam, I say, there's no excuse. My
• 26:04
  Speaker 3: ex wife thought the grass was greener on the other side,
• 26:07
  Speaker 3: on the other side of the road, just to find
• 26:09
  Speaker 3: out that he was still staying with his parents at
• 26:13
  Speaker 3: the age of thirty five. I'm living my best life
• 26:16
  Speaker 3: while the struggle while while she's struggling to keep a
• 26:19
  Speaker 3: roof over ahead with three baby daddies and five kids.
• 26:23
  Speaker 3: The first three kids are mine, two of my kids
• 26:25
  Speaker 3: are grown. If she would have stayed faithful, she would
• 26:30
  Speaker 3: have been good. Curiosity killed the cat. No excuse if
• 26:33
  Speaker 3: you're gonna go, If you're going to cheat, just lead now.
• 26:37
  Speaker 3: The guy that's trying to make it work always going
• 26:39
  Speaker 3: to have something to hang over her head. Okay, I mean,
• 26:43
  Speaker 3: I can see what you're saying. I just had never seen,
• 26:48
  Speaker 3: Like I said, I just never seen that perspective before
• 26:50
  Speaker 3: for this guy to say, well, it's he needs to
• 26:52
  Speaker 3: take accountability for the fact that he was working all
• 26:55
  Speaker 3: the time and wasn't paying attention to his marriage. So
• 27:00
  Speaker 3: she actually cheated to get his attention. As he put it,
• 27:04
  Speaker 3: that made him open his eyes to what was wrong
• 27:06
  Speaker 3: with his marriage because she cheated, and to want to
• 27:08
  Speaker 3: stay in it and fix his marriages.
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: Seems a little seems like she's playing mind game. Seems
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: like she's.
• 27:14
  Speaker 3: Got some sort of you know, Jedi mind trick on him, right,
• 27:19
  Speaker 3: At least that's the way I see it, because she
• 27:22
  Speaker 3: there was no other way.
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: But she did say she told him, she explained.
• 27:26
  Speaker 3: To him that she needed more of his attention for
• 27:29
  Speaker 3: him to be home a lot more, and that didn't work.
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: Apparently the cheating work. So I don't know, I mean,
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: can you really hold it?
• 27:38
  Speaker 3: How long can you hold cheating over somebody's head if
• 27:41
  Speaker 3: you decided to stay once she decided to stay, right,
• 27:46
  Speaker 3: I mean, I don't know.
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: I always think it's the cheater's fault. I don't care.
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 27:50
  Speaker 3: I'm trying to understand it. I'm trying to be a
• 27:53
  Speaker 3: little more open minded about it. But I just don't
• 27:56
  Speaker 3: see how it's not the cheater's fault, but he's taking
• 28:01
  Speaker 3: accountability and saying that it's not all her fault. So
• 28:06
  Speaker 3: I don't know what kind of hypnotic whatever spell she's
• 28:10
  Speaker 3: got over him, all right, A fourteen four seven to seven.
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's crazy, right.
• 28:19
  Speaker 3: Well, so I was telling you a story about some
• 28:22
  Speaker 3: friends of mine, a married couple, and she cheated on him. Well,
• 28:25
  Speaker 3: they ended up working it out, they're staying together, and
• 28:28
  Speaker 3: she they were explaining it to me the other night,
• 28:31
  Speaker 3: and she was saying how she tried to tell him
• 28:33
  Speaker 3: and he agreed with all this, by the way, So
• 28:35
  Speaker 3: the story that I'm going to tell you that she said,
• 28:37
  Speaker 3: he agreed with. And she said she tried to talk
• 28:41
  Speaker 3: to him that you're working too much, She need to
• 28:43
  Speaker 3: spend more time with me, you need to be at
• 28:44
  Speaker 3: home more, YadA, YadA, YadA. Apparently he didn't listen to that,
• 28:50
  Speaker 3: and so she cheated, and he told me he saw
• 28:54
  Speaker 3: that her cheating as a wake up call that he
• 28:58
  Speaker 3: was ignoring his marriage.
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: And so they're working it out already.
• 29:06
  Speaker 2: What's going on, Romeo.
• 29:07
  Speaker 7: I think it's the cheater's fault. She can make all
• 29:11
  Speaker 7: the excuses she wants, but at the end of the day,
• 29:13
  Speaker 7: you know, she chose to cheat. So I don't think.
• 29:18
  Speaker 11: I would agree with that.
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: I would think that you never have to cheat. I
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: would agree with you on that, But my buddy, he's
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: making the excuse. He's taking part of the blame. So
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: I I don't know.
• 29:32
  Speaker 4: I'm cool.
• 29:33
  Speaker 7: And you know, there's a lot of things she could
• 29:35
  Speaker 7: have done. She could have found time to crochet, she
• 29:37
  Speaker 7: could have found time to cook, worked out, but she
• 29:41
  Speaker 7: didn't have to cheat. So your friend is a fool
• 29:44
  Speaker 7: for going.
• 29:45
  Speaker 2: Back with her.
• 29:46
  Speaker 7: She should have took it as a red flag and
• 29:48
  Speaker 7: got out of the relationship. But the fact that he
• 29:51
  Speaker 7: wants to stay in it means that she's califlying.
• 29:53
  Speaker 2: She must be beautiful.
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: But even then, yeah, he's but he's rich, so.
• 29:59
  Speaker 7: He's and man, she can replace her.
• 30:03
  Speaker 3: They so you think he he bamboozled her, him, he
• 30:08
  Speaker 3: tricked him.
• 30:10
  Speaker 7: Yeah, you know, she don't. Loyalty has worth more than anything,
• 30:14
  Speaker 7: and she broke that trust. So she needs to get
• 30:16
  Speaker 7: out of that relationship.
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: Okay, maybe she did.
• 30:24
  Speaker 3: Maybe she's playing Jedi mind tricks on him, think, making
• 30:26
  Speaker 3: him believe that he was to blame, so that she's
• 30:32
  Speaker 3: flipping the blame on him so she can do what
• 30:35
  Speaker 3: she wants and still keep her lifestyle.
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: Maybe some friends.
• 30:39
  Speaker 3: Of mine they went through a little bit of a
• 30:41
  Speaker 3: marriage problem. He was working a lot. She cheated on him.
• 30:47
  Speaker 3: So I ran into him and they were telling me
• 30:48
  Speaker 3: how they were working it out.
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: And apparently she told him.
• 30:53
  Speaker 3: That he needed to spend more time with her, spend
• 30:56
  Speaker 3: more time at home. He didn't really listen. Now he
• 30:58
  Speaker 3: verifies all this, We had to come conversation together that
• 31:01
  Speaker 3: he didn't listen to her. He still kept working and
• 31:03
  Speaker 3: doing what he.
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: Had to do.
• 31:04
  Speaker 3: She ended up cheating on him and that got his attention.
• 31:08
  Speaker 3: So apparently because of that, now he realized, Hey, I
• 31:11
  Speaker 3: gotta spend more time with my wife, spend more time.
• 31:13
  Speaker 1: With my marriage.
• 31:14
  Speaker 3: And now they're working it out, they're gonna you know,
• 31:16
  Speaker 3: so he took accountability for her cheating.
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: Wow. I don't know if that's right or wrong.
• 31:23
  Speaker 3: I always blame the cheater because that's just that's just dirty. Hey, room,
• 31:29
  Speaker 3: you can't always have everything you want that you have
• 31:34
  Speaker 3: that you have a providing husband or a guy that
• 31:37
  Speaker 3: doesn't give you nothing.
• 31:39
  Speaker 1: Okay, fair enough, Hey, good morning Romeo. Uh just end it.
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: Throw her back.
• 31:47
  Speaker 3: Don't let a person tell you twice that they don't
• 31:50
  Speaker 3: love you the whole time, from meeting, having a conversation
• 31:54
  Speaker 3: to setting up, setting up, setting up a hookup before
• 31:57
  Speaker 3: the place of cheating, you not once, you're not once,
• 32:02
  Speaker 3: you didn't once think about me. I agree with you, Room,
• 32:05
  Speaker 3: Cheating is the most disrespectful thing that you can do
• 32:07
  Speaker 3: to somebody. How do you think cheating is going to
• 32:10
  Speaker 3: fix a relationship? She has no excuse, man or woman.
• 32:14
  Speaker 3: Cheating is cheating, and that's what I.
• 32:16
  Speaker 1: Tend to agree.
• 32:17
  Speaker 3: But I'm just telling you based on their logic and
• 32:20
  Speaker 3: what he was saying about the fact that my wife
• 32:22
  Speaker 3: cheated on me because.
• 32:26
  Speaker 1: I wasn't there for her.
• 32:29
  Speaker 3: She told me I wasn't there for her, and since
• 32:31
  Speaker 3: I didn't fix that, she cheated and that was.
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: What got my attention to go.
• 32:35
  Speaker 3: You know what, Okay, I need to fix this relationship
• 32:38
  Speaker 3: in this marriage. I don't know that I agree with
• 32:41
  Speaker 3: that he's taking responsibility and accountability for her cheating he's
• 32:45
  Speaker 3: not just blaming her for cheating.
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: But I don't know that. I don't know.
• 32:51
  Speaker 3: I always think it's the cheater's fault because you can
• 32:54
  Speaker 3: find a way without cheating. And if you can't find
• 32:57
  Speaker 3: a way to get what you want without cheating, why
• 32:59
  Speaker 3: don't you leave already?
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: Four two, five, four or seven seven?
• 33:04
  Speaker 3: You need to understand both may both sides of the
• 33:08
  Speaker 3: both sides. You need to understand. They're not gonna stop
• 33:13
  Speaker 3: making men and women. Okay, they're not gonna stop making whoever,
• 33:17
  Speaker 3: whatever you're into, they're not gonna stop making those. So
• 33:21
  Speaker 3: if you get cheated on or you can move on,
• 33:26
  Speaker 3: you'll find another. If you can find a spouse, once,
• 33:29
  Speaker 3: you can find another one.
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: It's not that hard. Okay.
• 33:33
  Speaker 3: Yeah, there'll be some heartache, you'll be upset, some feelings
• 33:37
  Speaker 3: will be some feelings will be hurt, but you can
• 33:40
  Speaker 3: always find somebody else. Always we're talking about cheaters, and
• 33:43
  Speaker 3: is it always the cheater's fault when it comes to
• 33:47
  Speaker 3: a relationship. I think it always is. But I ran
• 33:49
  Speaker 3: into some friends of mine who she cheated on her husband.
• 33:52
  Speaker 3: She tried to tell him that she wasn't getting enough
• 33:54
  Speaker 3: attention from him. He was working too much and he
• 33:57
  Speaker 3: didn't listen, so she cheated and now working in it
• 34:00
  Speaker 3: was the wake up call he needed to realize what
• 34:02
  Speaker 3: she was going through, and he's taken basically the bulk
• 34:06
  Speaker 3: of the responsibility for her cheating, which seems crazy, right
• 34:11
  Speaker 3: all right before two pot four seven to seven. Hey,
• 34:14
  Speaker 3: rom I was cheated on too, But I was open
• 34:16
  Speaker 3: for sex all the time, even when I was sick or.
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: Or in my time of the month. His excuse was,
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: it just happened. I was drunk. It's an accident.
• 34:28
  Speaker 3: And when you get got let's see, when you get
• 34:31
  Speaker 3: got me been emotional cheating on a guy? My husband
• 34:35
  Speaker 3: called it different. Oh right, And when you get you
• 34:39
  Speaker 3: got me emotionally cheating on a guy, my husband called
• 34:42
  Speaker 3: it different. It was worse. I physically never slept with someone.
• 34:46
  Speaker 3: I will say that, by the way, on top, I'm
• 34:49
  Speaker 3: glad you brought that up, because I think the opposite
• 34:52
  Speaker 3: that I think emotionally cheating on somebody is then just
• 34:56
  Speaker 3: physically cheating on somebody, because look how how easy people
• 35:00
  Speaker 3: get caught up in their feelings and their emotions, and
• 35:03
  Speaker 3: it can drive you to the point of just insanity.
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: Right, So yeah, no, I would I see.
• 35:10
  Speaker 3: What you're saying with that already four two, five, four
• 35:12
  Speaker 3: or seven seven? Just to answer why is it different?
• 35:15
  Speaker 3: Because why is it different because she is the one
• 35:18
  Speaker 3: that cheated. A woman that cheats is disgusting. A man
• 35:24
  Speaker 3: brags about how many people he slept with. Women lie
• 35:27
  Speaker 3: about it for a reason because they know they lose value.
• 35:31
  Speaker 3: Apples and oranges, cats and dogs, men and women.
• 35:34
  Speaker 1: We are not the same. I don't know where you're
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: going with that.
• 35:37
  Speaker 3: Just to answer, why is it different because she is
• 35:40
  Speaker 3: the one that cheated?
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: It's not different.
• 35:43
  Speaker 3: I don't know what you're I don't know why you're
• 35:44
  Speaker 3: saying it. I don't It's not different, trom how many?
• 35:50
  Speaker 3: Uh oh, I don't even know rad to Rob, I
• 35:53
  Speaker 3: don't know what are you talking about. Some of you
• 35:56
  Speaker 3: guys need to some of you guys need to just
• 35:58
  Speaker 3: listen to the show, right to Rob. Today's your day
• 36:00
  Speaker 3: to just listen. Okay, don't participate, try again tomorrow already
• 36:04
  Speaker 3: four two, five, four, seven seven. And we're talking about cheating, right,
• 36:08
  Speaker 3: is that ever.
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: The fault of the person who got cheated on?
• 36:14
  Speaker 3: Because I was telling you a story about a friend
• 36:16
  Speaker 3: of mine, some friends of mine who are working on
• 36:18
  Speaker 3: their marriage. She cheated on him because he worked too much,
• 36:21
  Speaker 3: and she told him that, she said, Hey, you're working
• 36:23
  Speaker 3: too much. I need you to spend more time at
• 36:25
  Speaker 3: home with me and our marriage, and he didn't listen.
• 36:28
  Speaker 3: She cheated, and he says that was the wake up
• 36:31
  Speaker 3: call he needed, and so basically he took responsibility for
• 36:36
  Speaker 3: her cheating, which I don't know if I believe that
• 36:40
  Speaker 3: at all. I don't know what kind of punk ass
• 36:42
  Speaker 3: friend I got. But damn, Hey, Rome, what's up here?
• 36:46
  Speaker 3: How would you send me here?
• 36:48
  Speaker 1: What's up?
• 36:48
  Speaker 4: Rome?
• 36:49
  Speaker 3: I agree it's the cheater's fault. Take out your issues.
• 36:52
  Speaker 3: You make the decisions to cheat, leave if you can't
• 36:56
  Speaker 3: work it out. I don't agree that. I don't agree
• 37:00
  Speaker 3: that it's equal fault. I've always worked two or three jobs.
• 37:04
  Speaker 3: Coach Sportson was involved in playing sports with providing while
• 37:08
  Speaker 3: providing for the wife and the family. I had to
• 37:11
  Speaker 3: find ways to still have time for the wife. About
• 37:15
  Speaker 3: to celebrate twenty eight year anniversary and been together off
• 37:19
  Speaker 3: and on since we met ninety one. I am no
• 37:22
  Speaker 3: saint and made mistakes early and it was never her fault.
• 37:25
  Speaker 3: We worked through things and I feel blessed to have her,
• 37:29
  Speaker 3: But you got to listen to your spouse and make
• 37:31
  Speaker 3: sure you are staying present and there. So did you
• 37:34
  Speaker 3: cheat on her and she stayed for them. No one
• 37:37
  Speaker 3: can make you stop outside your marriage, Oh step outside
• 37:41
  Speaker 3: your marriage. No matter how bad you think it is,
• 37:46
  Speaker 3: you ultimately made the choice.
• 37:48
  Speaker 1: On your own.
• 37:49
  Speaker 3: Can't blame the one who didn't cheat. You can work
• 37:52
  Speaker 3: it out through coming through a therapist's point of view.
• 37:55
  Speaker 1: One who didn't cheat. Mistakes in life.
• 37:58
  Speaker 3: And you can't tell someone else they should have left
• 38:01
  Speaker 3: if they choose to stay and work it out. Some
• 38:04
  Speaker 3: can forgive that and some can't. Have a blessed one.
• 38:08
  Speaker 3: Raider James, Yeah, Raider James is usually very sensible, and
• 38:12
  Speaker 3: I usually take Raider James's advice to heart because he's
• 38:16
  Speaker 3: usually pretty good. But I don't know, man, I think
• 38:24
  Speaker 3: cheating is the one thing you can't forgive, and you
• 38:26
  Speaker 3: can't forget, and you can't I don't think for my
• 38:32
  Speaker 3: buddy to say that that was the wake up call
• 38:34
  Speaker 3: they needed and now it's better, I don't know. We've
• 38:38
  Speaker 3: been talking about some close friends of mine. They went
• 38:42
  Speaker 3: through a little bit of a downturn in their marriage.
• 38:45
  Speaker 3: She cheated on him, and I walked to him in
• 38:49
  Speaker 3: a while, but I ran into him the other night,
• 38:52
  Speaker 3: and they're getting back together. They're staying together, they're going
• 38:54
  Speaker 3: to work it out. Apparently. The way they broke it
• 38:57
  Speaker 3: down to me was he basically blamed him Salve for
• 39:00
  Speaker 3: her cheating. He basically said she was saying she didn't
• 39:04
  Speaker 3: get enough attention, she didn't have time, you know, he
• 39:06
  Speaker 3: was too busy working, which yeah, he was two bit
• 39:11
  Speaker 3: dy working, didn't pay enough attention to her, and she
• 39:13
  Speaker 3: told him that he didn't.
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: Fix it, so she cheated.
• 39:16
  Speaker 3: Basically, he's saying that he that was his wake up call,
• 39:20
  Speaker 3: that was what made him realize that this was serious.
• 39:24
  Speaker 1: And so now they're.
• 39:25
  Speaker 3: Working it out, which I mean, it sounds to me
• 39:28
  Speaker 3: like she just straight bamboozled him into thinking that he
• 39:32
  Speaker 3: was wrong.
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: She just played some Jedi.
• 39:34
  Speaker 3: Mind trick on him and made him believe he was wrong,
• 39:37
  Speaker 3: because cheating, it's always the cheater's fault.
• 39:40
  Speaker 1: Always.
• 39:40
  Speaker 3: You're telling me one conversation, there's not something else to do,
• 39:45
  Speaker 3: there's not another way to figure it out. Cheating was
• 39:47
  Speaker 3: the only way to get it done. I mean, come on,
• 39:50
  Speaker 3: I don't know if I can believe that already four
• 39:52
  Speaker 3: two five, four seven seven A rom I need to
• 39:55
  Speaker 3: ask you about the people you know, and you're talking
• 39:57
  Speaker 3: about how much money do they have? Is there any
• 40:00
  Speaker 3: chance you said he works a lot? Is there any
• 40:02
  Speaker 3: chance he's just staying together with her because keeper than
• 40:05
  Speaker 3: it is to have to give her half of everything?
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: And does she work or not?
• 40:11
  Speaker 13: Uh?
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: Yeah, No, she does not work.
• 40:15
  Speaker 3: And he is makes very very very very very very
• 40:19
  Speaker 3: good money.
• 40:20
  Speaker 1: So I never occurred to me to ask him that,
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: but maybe you're right.
• 40:24
  Speaker 3: Next time I talk to him, I'll ask him if
• 40:26
  Speaker 3: he's just staying with her because he doesn't want.
• 40:29
  Speaker 1: To give her half of stuff.
• 40:30
  Speaker 3: Yeah. No, she doesn't work and he pays all the bills.
• 40:32
  Speaker 3: But he's very wealthy. I mean, yeah, he's he makes
• 40:35
  Speaker 3: a lot of money. Already four two five four seven
• 40:38
  Speaker 3: to seven. A roam dumper. A woman that actually in
• 40:41
  Speaker 3: love would communicate her feelings because the relationship is important
• 40:45
  Speaker 3: to her. He's choosing to he's choosing to cheat tell
• 40:49
  Speaker 3: or her choosing to cheat tells him everything he needs
• 40:52
  Speaker 3: to know about her. Once a cheat are always a
• 40:54
  Speaker 3: cheating Yeah, And what happens again? What happens if he works?
• 40:57
  Speaker 3: Too much, you know, I mean, is there now there's
• 41:00
  Speaker 3: no what she's got the upper hand on him now
• 41:04
  Speaker 3: instead of equality in the relationship, I mean, what do
• 41:06
  Speaker 3: you do you know?
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: Did he not work so much when you married him?
• 41:10
  Speaker 1: That's the other thing, you know.
• 41:12
  Speaker 3: I just yeah, I think she's got him wrapped around
• 41:15
  Speaker 3: his finger, under some sort of spell that he doesn't
• 41:18
  Speaker 3: believe there's not somebody else better than her out there,
• 41:21
  Speaker 3: and he can't go get one.
• 41:22
  Speaker 1: You can, I have to. Maybe I'll tell him that
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: next time I see him.
• 41:26
  Speaker 3: Hey, it's in a man's biology and DNA to cheat
• 41:31
  Speaker 3: and to be with more than one woman. It's second
• 41:33
  Speaker 3: nature to us. Rome proved me wrong. You won't.
• 41:38
  Speaker 1: Oh, you're an idiot.
• 41:40
  Speaker 3: I just I'll just say that right now. That's the
• 41:41
  Speaker 3: toughest thing I've ever heard. Hey, Rome, what do you
• 41:45
  Speaker 3: got here? Oh my gosh, this was Raider James that
• 41:49
  Speaker 3: sent me this. Okay, he says, But Rome, the person
• 41:51
  Speaker 3: who cheated on, Oh wait, hold on. The person who
• 41:55
  Speaker 3: is cheated on will never forget it, and we'll think
• 41:59
  Speaker 3: about it off and on for the rest of their life.
• 42:02
  Speaker 3: Multiple things will trigger that thought. Be ready for them
• 42:05
  Speaker 3: to be upset at times and mad at you out
• 42:08
  Speaker 3: of the blue. You get to deal with that because
• 42:11
  Speaker 3: you made the mistake. If you can't, then find ways
• 42:15
  Speaker 3: to move on, find ways to co parent as friends.
• 42:19
  Speaker 3: If either one can deal with the future, can't deal
• 42:22
  Speaker 3: with the future. Arguments, and it's coming back up at times. Well,
• 42:26
  Speaker 3: that's why I said, I don't think people will ever
• 42:28
  Speaker 3: get over it. If you're anybody who cheats, you're never
• 42:31
  Speaker 3: gonna get over it. You may say you do, you
• 42:33
  Speaker 3: may stay with the person for whatever justifications you made
• 42:36
  Speaker 3: to yourself in your head, but you're still going to
• 42:40
  Speaker 3: always think about it. Anytime. I like radiosis, it's going
• 42:43
  Speaker 3: to trigger. So what do you do? You know you
• 42:46
  Speaker 3: have to get over Once you decide to stay with
• 42:48
  Speaker 3: the person that cheated on you, you have to just
• 42:52
  Speaker 3: erase it from your memory. There's nothing you can do
• 42:54
  Speaker 3: about it but erase it from your memory. And because
• 42:58
  Speaker 3: you decided to stay there, at that point, it's on you,
• 43:01
  Speaker 3: not the Cheater's.
• 43:03
  Speaker 6: My wife, Miro and me.
• 43:05
  Speaker 10: It's over, Okay, it's over. Okay, what's your name with me?
• 43:13
  Speaker 10: I'll be thinking somebody to touch You're just waiting that way,
• 43:16
  Speaker 10: and I go to work for her and she she
• 43:20
  Speaker 10: wants more? How much more do you want from a
• 43:23
  Speaker 10: man working?
• 43:26
  Speaker 1: Okay, that's fair. I mean that's nothing. That's that's fair
• 43:29
  Speaker 1: statement to make.
• 43:30
  Speaker 3: Nothing wrong with that, alright, alrighty for seven and seven?
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: You can't argue with that? Or can you argue with that?
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: You know, And I'm gonna tell you if the guy's just.
• 43:50
  Speaker 3: Going to work to provide for you and you have
• 43:53
  Speaker 3: the audacity to blame him for your infidelity because you're
• 43:57
  Speaker 3: not getting the attention that you want. Now that you
• 44:00
  Speaker 3: said that, now that I'm starting to think about it
• 44:03
  Speaker 3: and process it even more listening to what you guys
• 44:05
  Speaker 3: have to say, my buddy's an idiot. He's completely wrong
• 44:10
  Speaker 3: to take any responsibility for her cheating because well, she
• 44:16
  Speaker 3: could have done a hundred other things before cheating, or
• 44:19
  Speaker 3: she could have just left him and said, look, I'm
• 44:22
  Speaker 3: not getting out of this marriage what I want because
• 44:24
  Speaker 3: you work too much. I need a little more attention.
• 44:27
  Speaker 3: I'm the type of woman that needs more attention from
• 44:29
  Speaker 3: a man, and you're not giving it to me because
• 44:31
  Speaker 3: of your because of how much you work.
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: And he makes a lot of money, so they live
• 44:35
  Speaker 1: a nice life. So I'm going to guess that at.
• 44:39
  Speaker 3: A certain point she liked the lifestyle and got entitled
• 44:44
  Speaker 3: and selfish with the lifestyle, but never looked at how
• 44:47
  Speaker 3: it was actually provided for her.
• 44:49
  Speaker 1: Now she wanted her husband. Yeah, you gotta go. There's
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: nothing wrong with that.
• 44:55
  Speaker 3: And I'm going to tell you right now, and I
• 44:57
  Speaker 3: know a lot of these independent women are going to
• 44:59
  Speaker 3: get us so upse. I mean, if you're a woman
• 45:01
  Speaker 3: that just wants to marry a wealthy man or a
• 45:04
  Speaker 3: man that makes a legitimate amount of money to where
• 45:06
  Speaker 3: you can have a nice lifestyle and stay at home,
• 45:09
  Speaker 3: there's nothing wrong with that, but it does come with
• 45:16
  Speaker 3: it comes with some hurdles for you. You're going to
• 45:18
  Speaker 3: be spending a lot of time alone or a lot
• 45:20
  Speaker 3: of time with your friends, or you may have to
• 45:22
  Speaker 3: find other outlets to do things because your husband is
• 45:27
  Speaker 3: going to be working so much or doing what he
• 45:29
  Speaker 3: has to do to make that money. Millionaires, millionaires work
• 45:34
  Speaker 3: a lot. They're not all you know, it's not all
• 45:37
  Speaker 3: fun and games when you marry somebody who has money
• 45:41
  Speaker 3: and they got that money because of their aggressive work
• 45:45
  Speaker 3: ethic work ethic. Okay, so they don't just stop. And
• 45:51
  Speaker 3: you guys got to understand that you haven't got to
• 45:53
  Speaker 3: understand that. There's nothing wrong with it if you want
• 45:56
  Speaker 3: that type of man, but you have to realize what
• 45:58
  Speaker 3: you're getting, okay, and you have to make peace with that.
• 46:03
  Speaker 3: You can't just cheat and go. You drove me to it.
• 46:07
  Speaker 3: So yeah, I still think it's always the cheater's fault
• 46:11
  Speaker 3: already four two, five, four or seven to seven. Hey, room,
• 46:14
  Speaker 3: in a marriage, you can't keep a scoreboard. If you
• 46:16
  Speaker 3: decide to stay, you need to be able to wipe
• 46:19
  Speaker 3: the scoreboard clean back to zero and not bring up
• 46:22
  Speaker 3: path uh, not bring back past hurts or mistakes in
• 46:27
  Speaker 3: any argument or fights you have because you've forgiven. Oh
• 46:32
  Speaker 3: you've forgiven that and stayed. Now, if you can't do that,
• 46:36
  Speaker 3: that relationship isn't for you.
• 46:37
  Speaker 12: Move on.
• 46:39
  Speaker 1: I would agree with that absolutely.
• 46:41
  Speaker 3: Roome, just curious, would you personally give her another chance
• 46:45
  Speaker 3: after hearing her excuses for cheating? I would never stay
• 46:50
  Speaker 3: with a cheater ever. But yeah, I would never stay
• 46:56
  Speaker 3: with a cheater. There's there's no reason to stay with
• 46:59
  Speaker 3: a cheater because you know that they always say the
• 47:02
  Speaker 3: grass is greener.
• 47:05
  Speaker 1: The grass may not be greener, Okay, so let me
• 47:08
  Speaker 1: just put it to you like that. But it doesn't
• 47:11
  Speaker 1: mean that it can't be uh well, let me rephrase
• 47:16
  Speaker 1: that the way I say that.
• 47:19
  Speaker 3: I think that you can always find somebody and maybe
• 47:24
  Speaker 3: the grass is greener. I think people use that as
• 47:26
  Speaker 3: an excuse when they when they try to find something
• 47:29
  Speaker 3: better than what they have and it doesn't work out
• 47:31
  Speaker 3: for them. But you can go find something better than
• 47:34
  Speaker 3: what you have, I believe that. But if what you
• 47:38
  Speaker 3: have is great, then why would you even be looking.
• 47:41
  Speaker 3: And that's the problem that I have when we talk
• 47:44
  Speaker 3: about cheating or the grass is greener, is that, you know,
• 47:49
  Speaker 3: if I got cheated on, there's plenty of women out there,
• 47:52
  Speaker 3: I'll go out and find another one.
• 47:53
  Speaker 1: It's it really is that simple.
• 47:55
  Speaker 3: But it's also that simple because I'm a great guy
• 48:00
  Speaker 3: with great personality.
• 48:01
  Speaker 1: I'm fine, I know how to talk to women. I'm
• 48:04
  Speaker 1: you know.
• 48:05
  Speaker 3: And if you can get one woman to marry you,
• 48:08
  Speaker 3: you can get another woman to marry. If you can
• 48:10
  Speaker 3: get one woman to go out with you, you can get
• 48:11
  Speaker 3: another woman.
• 48:12
  Speaker 1: To go out with you. So and there's a lot
• 48:16
  Speaker 1: of great women.
• 48:17
  Speaker 3: You may have the best to you, you may have
• 48:19
  Speaker 3: the best wife in the world, right and that's and
• 48:22
  Speaker 3: and that's great, But guess what, There is a woman
• 48:27
  Speaker 3: that is as equally great as your wife right now
• 48:30
  Speaker 3: who's single.
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: She just hasn't find the guy. She hasn't found you.
• 48:34
  Speaker 6: And that's just.
• 48:36
  Speaker 1: Fact, okay.
• 48:39
  Speaker 3: But a lot of times what happens is men and
• 48:43
  Speaker 3: women will find a justification to cheat on their guy
• 48:47
  Speaker 3: or their girl because they're not happy for something, so
• 48:54
  Speaker 3: they think that's gonna make them happier.
• 48:56
  Speaker 1: And it's not.
• 48:58
  Speaker 3: But I don't know, I don't know how else to
• 49:02
  Speaker 3: explain it to you. But there's always somebody good. I
• 49:05
  Speaker 3: don't want to say better, the grass is green, but
• 49:07
  Speaker 3: there's always somebody just as good as the person you're
• 49:10
  Speaker 3: married to out there right now, who's single, and you
• 49:13
  Speaker 3: would have just as good of a relationship or marriage.
• 49:16
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 49:17
  Speaker 3: So I just don't when you look at life like that,
• 49:21
  Speaker 3: you you'll never lose. You know, a lot of you think,
• 49:25
  Speaker 3: oh man, this is the best guy I'm ever getting
• 49:27
  Speaker 3: or the best woman I'm ever gonna happen.
• 49:28
  Speaker 1: So, oh no, it's not.
• 49:30
  Speaker 3: If it goes south because she did did you wrong,
• 49:34
  Speaker 3: you can gonna You're gonna go out and find somebody
• 49:36
  Speaker 3: who's gonna treat and do you good. Opposite goes for
• 49:39
  Speaker 3: every woman out there who sits there and goes my
• 49:41
  Speaker 3: husband's just the liar and a cheater. Well, okay, you
• 49:44
  Speaker 3: made a bad decision, or maybe he turned into that
• 49:47
  Speaker 3: not because of you, He just opportunity changed him.
• 49:51
  Speaker 1: Life changed him.
• 49:52
  Speaker 3: You can go out and find a guy who's just
• 49:55
  Speaker 3: as good as your husband when you loved him the most,
• 49:57
  Speaker 3: he's out there waiting for you.
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: That's just life. Hey, Rome, there's no excuse whatsoever.
• 50:03
  Speaker 3: Cheating is a choice, not a mistake, no matter the situation.
• 50:08
  Speaker 3: She definitely did something to him for him to stay
• 50:11
  Speaker 3: with her. Oh, she definitely did something to him for
• 50:14
  Speaker 3: her to stay with her. She should have talked about
• 50:17
  Speaker 3: it with her partner, let him know how she felt.
• 50:20
  Speaker 3: She said she did, by the way, just so you know,
• 50:22
  Speaker 3: just to be fair, what he is, what he's working
• 50:25
  Speaker 3: too much. If nothing changes that, then move on. You
• 50:28
  Speaker 3: don't need to cheat. And as far as him getting
• 50:30
  Speaker 3: back with her, it's crazy. She doesn't work. She needs
• 50:34
  Speaker 3: to get her blank to work. He needs to drop
• 50:37
  Speaker 3: her and move on. There's plenty of fish in the sea.
• 50:40
  Speaker 3: No person is worth staying after getting cheated on. I
• 50:43
  Speaker 3: would totally agree with that. You're right, Um, would you
• 50:47
  Speaker 3: send me here? Hey, good morning Romeo. My husband works
• 50:50
  Speaker 3: a lot, and in the beginning, in the beginning, it
• 50:54
  Speaker 3: would at times get to me. But now I understand
• 50:58
  Speaker 3: you have to be very strong minded handle all what
• 51:00
  Speaker 3: comes with a partner that works.
• 51:02
  Speaker 1: Hard but also plays hard.
• 51:05
  Speaker 3: I have a lot of friends and what I hear
• 51:07
  Speaker 3: is they want a man that has a full package,
• 51:10
  Speaker 3: work date nights, pay the bills, fix the house, still
• 51:13
  Speaker 3: be romantic. But just in my opinion, pick your poison
• 51:17
  Speaker 3: and just be happy. Some of these women want everything,
• 51:19
  Speaker 3: but then just give up, give out their goods at
• 51:23
  Speaker 3: the bar for free, but cry they can't find a
• 51:26
  Speaker 3: good person or they can't find a good man.
• 51:30
  Speaker 1: In the end, we can't have it all.
• 51:32
  Speaker 3: Have a great morning. You're absolutely right about that. In
• 51:34
  Speaker 3: the end, you cannot have it all. You can have
• 51:38
  Speaker 3: eighty percent of that twenty percent of this, you know,
• 51:42
  Speaker 3: seventy percent of this, ten percent of that twenty percent here.
• 51:45
  Speaker 3: I mean, there's always going to be you know, you can't.
• 51:50
  Speaker 1: Have it all. You're absolutely right. I agree with exactly what.
• 51:52
  Speaker 3: And a lot of these women are delusional, but they
• 51:54
  Speaker 3: get delusional after they get into the relationship. That's the problem.
• 52:00
  Speaker 3: Everybody wants a hard working man. Every woman out there
• 52:03
  Speaker 3: that wants a hard working man thinks it's great when
• 52:06
  Speaker 3: she meets him and he's working ten hours a day
• 52:09
  Speaker 3: coming home, you know, in his work boots and his overalls,
• 52:13
  Speaker 3: making two hundred grand a year, and they like to
• 52:15
  Speaker 3: go out and have some drinks and party hard.
• 52:18
  Speaker 1: And then after a little while they want more.
• 52:21
  Speaker 3: They don't want him to work ten hours, they want
• 52:23
  Speaker 3: him work eight hours, and then they want, you know,
• 52:25
  Speaker 3: more social time and more.
• 52:26
  Speaker 1: I mean, it's just you. You made a bad decision.
• 52:29
  Speaker 3: You got to you got to pick the guy that
• 52:32
  Speaker 3: gives you the most of what you want, because he's
• 52:34
  Speaker 3: never going to give it all to you, just like
• 52:36
  Speaker 3: your never. I know a lot of you women, you
• 52:38
  Speaker 3: need to really hear this. You're not giving it all
• 52:40
  Speaker 3: to him, Okay, and you know you're not. You change
• 52:45
  Speaker 3: just as much as he does. And he has to
• 52:47
  Speaker 3: understand that. So why don't you understand him? So why'd
• 52:50
  Speaker 3: you get fired? Eight fourteen, five four or seven to seven?
• 52:53
  Speaker 1: How it was going on?
• 52:55
  Speaker 9: I used to work for a football stadium, okay, and
• 52:58
  Speaker 9: and and my job was to escort the visiting teams
• 53:01
  Speaker 9: to and from the locker rooms and back to their busy. Okay,
• 53:04
  Speaker 9: so it was a cool job, you know.
• 53:05
  Speaker 10: I was.
• 53:06
  Speaker 9: I was just carrying photos. It was my favorite job.
• 53:09
  Speaker 9: I had a lot of good times. I had a
• 53:10
  Speaker 9: lot of good people. Well, so this day, my particular,
• 53:15
  Speaker 9: this day that I got fired, my my football team
• 53:17
  Speaker 9: was playing against the team that I worked for. And
• 53:21
  Speaker 9: underneath my underneath my work, my work short. I had
• 53:23
  Speaker 9: a white T shirt. I had my football team's local
• 53:26
  Speaker 9: underneath to see it like showing through and so like.
• 53:30
  Speaker 9: And everyone that when I worked with, they all knew
• 53:32
  Speaker 9: that I liked to team with some of the one
• 53:33
  Speaker 9: I worked for. I never made a secret about it.
• 53:36
  Speaker 9: And so this day, the game was over and my
• 53:41
  Speaker 9: team was going back to the buses and a football
• 53:44
  Speaker 9: player said, hey, you're a fan and I.
• 53:47
  Speaker 8: Was like yes.
• 53:47
  Speaker 9: He's like, let me get to a signis And I said,
• 53:49
  Speaker 9: oh no, I can't do that, and he was like,
• 53:51
  Speaker 9: I think it was over. I said, yeah, but I
• 53:52
  Speaker 9: can get in trouble. No, I don't want about it.
• 53:54
  Speaker 9: He took a marker and he scribbled a fire.
• 53:56
  Speaker 3: He ends up.
• 53:56
  Speaker 9: He put my exacts decide and he scribbled on it
• 53:59
  Speaker 9: and then and then he get the backup getting the
• 54:01
  Speaker 9: marker and I was.
• 54:01
  Speaker 8: Like, all right, cool.
• 54:02
  Speaker 9: Whatever he got in the bus, I didn't tell anybody. Yeah,
• 54:04
  Speaker 9: and so you know, he leaves or whatever. And the
• 54:08
  Speaker 9: next day it was my day off and I went
• 54:10
  Speaker 9: home and I said, oh, I'm going to give this
• 54:11
  Speaker 9: shirt to my brother for Christmas. He said, didn't have a
• 54:13
  Speaker 9: gift for him, so to get a my autographed shirt.
• 54:15
  Speaker 9: It was his favorite team too. Next and so I
• 54:17
  Speaker 9: go get my check and they told me open the
• 54:21
  Speaker 9: envelope and so I opened it and I was a
• 54:22
  Speaker 9: piece paper behind. I'm like, what's this And they're like, uh,
• 54:26
  Speaker 9: you did well. You messed up. You did a really
• 54:29
  Speaker 9: big steak. And I said, oh what I do And
• 54:31
  Speaker 9: they're like you're being fired. And I said why, I
• 54:34
  Speaker 9: didn't do nothing. And they said did you not get
• 54:36
  Speaker 9: a signature from from a football player? And I said no,
• 54:39
  Speaker 9: I said no. Wow, Sport said, I mean gave me
• 54:43
  Speaker 9: the signature. I'm not gonna He said, well, you didn't
• 54:45
  Speaker 9: put up a fight. And to listen, I'm not gonna
• 54:47
  Speaker 9: put my hands on a multi million dollar player and
• 54:50
  Speaker 9: what if he falls down and get hurt. He needs
• 54:52
  Speaker 9: out the game I'm in like the whole nation's gonna
• 54:54
  Speaker 9: hate me like something like that. And then he said, well,
• 54:59
  Speaker 9: you know what, we can't have you work here anymore.
• 55:01
  Speaker 9: And I had a and I had had some football tickets.
• 55:04
  Speaker 9: It was for a Super Bowl. I had a four
• 55:06
  Speaker 9: pack that I had got earned it from work. They
• 55:08
  Speaker 9: were giving it to me.
• 55:08
  Speaker 4: As a gift.
• 55:09
  Speaker 9: They took the gifts wow, and fired me on my
• 55:13
  Speaker 9: gig off.
• 55:14
  Speaker 1: Damn, that is petty. That has got to be one
• 55:17
  Speaker 1: of the stupidest reasons the fire.
• 55:20
  Speaker 9: Was that I had already promised the tickets to my dad,
• 55:23
  Speaker 9: my stepmom, my little brother, and my sister, and they
• 55:25
  Speaker 9: were already they were already gonna.
• 55:27
  Speaker 8: Come for the Couper Bowl.
• 55:30
  Speaker 9: And to add injury, my team blocked anyway.
• 55:33
  Speaker 1: That's awful. That's just horrible.
• 55:37
  Speaker 9: I got fired because I got a signature, even though
• 55:39
  Speaker 9: I said, and you know, how did you find out
• 55:41
  Speaker 9: about it?
• 55:42
  Speaker 4: We had cameras.
• 55:44
  Speaker 1: That's just awful.
• 55:46
  Speaker 3: That has got to be the stupidest reason ever to
• 55:48
  Speaker 3: fire somebody just got that's just ridiculous all over.
• 55:54
  Speaker 1: That's so stupid that I got fired.
• 55:57
  Speaker 13: I'm gonna be honest with you.
• 55:57
  Speaker 9: I wouldn't cry in the truck. That's why they lost
• 56:05
  Speaker 9: because I wasn't there to sew him on.
• 56:10
  Speaker 1: Oh that's funny. Hey, thanks for calling.
• 56:13
  Speaker 3: All right, And I know you guys are asking me
• 56:18
  Speaker 3: why didn't I ask her what teams they were?
• 56:19
  Speaker 1: Well, you know it's not the bit we're talking about.
• 56:22
  Speaker 3: Why'd you get fired? Either a dumb reason, maybe it
• 56:25
  Speaker 3: was a legitimate reason.
• 56:25
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm kind of thing.
• 56:27
  Speaker 3: I've been fired for quite a few I've been fired.
• 56:29
  Speaker 3: Let's see, I've been fired once, twice twice, no, three times.
• 56:38
  Speaker 3: I've been fired three times in my life already four
• 56:40
  Speaker 3: two four or seven seven yo room.
• 56:42
  Speaker 1: Once I got fired from.
• 56:45
  Speaker 3: Mary kay Uh Mary Kay Shell Psychiatric Evaluation Center. The
• 56:50
  Speaker 3: back door was broken and everyone knew it. Sometimes it
• 56:53
  Speaker 3: would lock, sometimes it wouldn't. It would it was supposed
• 56:57
  Speaker 3: to lock automatically. A patient got out and got out
• 57:01
  Speaker 3: and stripped naked. I couldn't catch him. I took the
• 57:04
  Speaker 3: blame and was fired. Cops don't come to a naked
• 57:08
  Speaker 3: guy call. Oh yeah, I mean, sometimes things happen. We're
• 57:17
  Speaker 3: talking about getting fired. Why'd you get fired? Hey, roam
• 57:20
  Speaker 3: crazy story. I was about twenty five two years ago.
• 57:24
  Speaker 3: I date this woman twenty two at the time, and
• 57:26
  Speaker 3: at the job I was at, I was cool with everyone.
• 57:31
  Speaker 3: It was all guys, and we would talk about crazy
• 57:34
  Speaker 3: stuff that would get HR called on.
• 57:37
  Speaker 1: I would get HR called on us.
• 57:39
  Speaker 3: My boss as well would get involved, and I'd tell
• 57:44
  Speaker 3: my coworkers and bosses about the wild stuff I would
• 57:47
  Speaker 3: do with this woman. So after dating the woman for
• 57:49
  Speaker 3: two years, she wanted to meet She wanted me to
• 57:52
  Speaker 3: meet her parents, so she set up dinner and everything.
• 57:56
  Speaker 3: I pull up to her house, walk through the door
• 58:01
  Speaker 3: and see my boss from work. Literally Romeo kicked me
• 58:05
  Speaker 3: out of his house, called h R on me, and
• 58:08
  Speaker 3: got fired by lunchtime the next day before I left,
• 58:13
  Speaker 3: sent all before I left, sent all the sex videos
• 58:17
  Speaker 3: I had with my boss's daughter to my coworkers.
• 58:20
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, why what did you? What did the poblem?
• 58:26
  Speaker 1: What did the chick do? You broke up with the
• 58:29
  Speaker 1: chick too? Hey, Roam, this is Seahawk Lou.
• 58:33
  Speaker 3: I got fired from my last job because I would
• 58:37
  Speaker 3: call off Saturday and Sunday too much.
• 58:39
  Speaker 1: I think that's unfair. So why'd you get fired? Gory?
• 58:42
  Speaker 1: How what's going on?
• 58:44
  Speaker 13: I got fired before from Macy's for doing loyalty fraud.
• 58:49
  Speaker 1: Loyalty from what is loyalty fraud?
• 58:52
  Speaker 13: So when you work at Macy, you get like loyalty
• 58:54
  Speaker 13: pints when you came for the there's this mom that
• 58:58
  Speaker 13: was cool shopping, but you didn't.
• 58:59
  Speaker 8: Have a no, but I had.
• 59:00
  Speaker 9: I had loyalty points, so I gave them to her
• 59:03
  Speaker 9: for to have enough of her school for uh huh.
• 59:07
  Speaker 3: And they finally they fired you for helping somebody out.
• 59:12
  Speaker 9: Yeah, literally, And I asked him like, well, what am
• 59:14
  Speaker 9: I getting fired for? Their like loyalty father, and I'm
• 59:17
  Speaker 9: like they were my points. They're like, yeah, well we're
• 59:19
  Speaker 9: not allowed to do that, so I fired.
• 59:21
  Speaker 1: Really, okay, that's weird.
• 59:25
  Speaker 9: At least the kid went to school looking nice.
• 59:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's good. That's crazy. All right, Hey, thanks for
• 59:30
  Speaker 1: calling already four seven to seven y od room.
• 59:35
  Speaker 3: I got fired because my boss at the time was
• 59:38
  Speaker 3: a something and I called him out on it and
• 59:43
  Speaker 3: I'm private, uh private event, went to HR and I
• 59:47
  Speaker 3: still got the boot.
• 59:49
  Speaker 1: Was the what oh uh?
• 59:51
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I think you meant to say something different, But okay,
• 59:53
  Speaker 3: talking about getting fired, man, why'd you get fired? Eight
• 59:56
  Speaker 3: four two five four or seven to seven?
• 59:57
  Speaker 1: Gordon? How it's going on.
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 6: Man. I got fired from being afraid of spiders.
• 1:00:02
  Speaker 1: Man, all right, you're gonna have to explain that what.
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 6: I was I was working at I was working at
• 1:00:10
  Speaker 6: Big West, man, I was I was doing landscaping and stuff.
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 6: So I basically I was using weed eaters right online, mowers,
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 6: blowers and stuff like that. Then somehow, some part of
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 6: the year, I guess there's a lot of tumbleweeds out
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 6: there at Big West. So the tumble the tumbleweeds get
• 1:00:26
  Speaker 6: to blowing in. But the tumbleweeds ain't no normal tumbleweeds.
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 6: The tumbleweede like the side of the truck. You know
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 6: what I'm saying. Yeah, So so they tell me that
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 6: there's Brown recluse fighters in the tumbleweeds. So I get
• 1:00:36
  Speaker 6: to pick it back to the train. I get to
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 6: pick it back to the training videos of the wounds
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 6: that I seen from Brown Reclusive and I'm like, dude,
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 6: I'm not grabbing that tumbleweed. So he hands me a pitchfork.
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 6: I was looking like a pitchfork. Needless to say, that
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 6: was my last day on the joy.
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 1: That's crazy, man. All Right, all.
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 2: Right, man, I have to do it, man.
• 1:00:59
  Speaker 13: Yeah, how was going on room.
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 11: Well, can get fired. But uh so my boss's mistress
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 11: got fired because I was looking up whether he found out.
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 1: They didn't fire you though, No, he couldn't fire.
• 1:01:19
  Speaker 11: Me, damn all right way because there was no real
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 11: reason to fire me. And I was already fully invested
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 11: in the company.
• 1:01:29
  Speaker 1: Dah, but they fired her.
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 3: Huh yeah, nice to get fired, all right, man. Later,
• 1:01:39
  Speaker 3: let's talk about getting fired already. Four two, five, four,
• 1:01:42
  Speaker 3: seven to seven. Let's see here, rom I got fired
• 1:01:46
  Speaker 3: because they found out I light on my job application
• 1:01:49
  Speaker 3: if I had any felonies in my background check. The
• 1:01:51
  Speaker 3: only reason they found out is because I told the manager.
• 1:01:54
  Speaker 3: I felt comfortable enough to tell because she was also
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 3: being uh doing bad things at work, example as in
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 3: a group of us we're talking taking tequila shots a
• 1:02:05
  Speaker 3: day before New Year's But she felt strongly the next
• 1:02:08
  Speaker 3: day that she had to tell upper management about me
• 1:02:10
  Speaker 3: lying on my application. Yeah, hey, if you're gonna lie, man,
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 3: you gotta you gotta stick to the lie man, Always
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 3: stick to the lie. Hey, Rome, I only got fired
• 1:02:20
  Speaker 3: once for a good reason. But my sister used to
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 3: work at subways. Sometimes we go in. She'd hook us
• 1:02:26
  Speaker 3: up and one time. We made a bet. She made
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 3: a big ass sandwich with every meat, cheese, sauce, and vegeta.
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 3: She told me if I finished the sandwich, it was free.
• 1:02:35
  Speaker 3: So I finished it and threw it up in the
• 1:02:37
  Speaker 3: middle of the subway. My sister got fired for that. Wow,
• 1:02:40
  Speaker 3: already four two by four or seven to seven, and yo, Rome,
• 1:02:44
  Speaker 3: I got fired because I told my boss she was
• 1:02:46
  Speaker 3: horrible in bed.
• 1:02:49
  Speaker 1: That'll do it.
• 1:02:50
  Speaker 3: Ro my brother and I got fired for stealing a
• 1:02:52
  Speaker 3: thirty dollars roll of plastic. Yeah, hey, Rob, I lost
• 1:02:57
  Speaker 3: the job because I clock out three minutes over my
• 1:03:00
  Speaker 3: fifth hour.
• 1:03:02
  Speaker 1: Night manager said he was going to fix it because.
• 1:03:04
  Speaker 3: They had They had me coming an hour earlier than
• 1:03:08
  Speaker 3: my usual schedule because of the Black Friday shopping. But
• 1:03:10
  Speaker 3: I was holding down two full time jobs. Then a
• 1:03:14
  Speaker 3: week later they said, uh, it wasn't gonna get done.
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 3: Oh they said things were not getting done in the apartment,
• 1:03:21
  Speaker 3: in the departments like they're like they wanted. I was
• 1:03:25
  Speaker 3: there covering five different departments and help out at a
• 1:03:28
  Speaker 3: cash register. Then they told me to reapply. I told
• 1:03:32
  Speaker 3: them that they I told him, no, that's their loss.
• 1:03:35
  Speaker 1: Wow, that's crazy.
• 1:03:37
  Speaker 3: Rome, haven't got fired yet, but on my way to
• 1:03:40
  Speaker 3: go c CHR right now. I kept telling this roughneck
• 1:03:44
  Speaker 3: that he stinks like you know what. After a month
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 3: of me talking me taking you know what about how
• 1:03:51
  Speaker 3: bad he smells, he went crying to the office.
• 1:03:53
  Speaker 1: What a punk, take a shower and I won't talk smack.
• 1:03:58
  Speaker 3: So you might be losing your job today and talking
• 1:04:00
  Speaker 3: about getting fired? What happened eight four two five four
• 1:04:03
  Speaker 3: or seven to seven year room? I got a funny story. Hey,
• 1:04:06
  Speaker 3: I got a crazy story of how I got fired.
• 1:04:08
  Speaker 3: I used to work in the media here in town,
• 1:04:10
  Speaker 3: a Spanish station.
• 1:04:12
  Speaker 1: Uh okay.
• 1:04:14
  Speaker 3: To make it short, the wife who runs sales came
• 1:04:16
  Speaker 3: and snapped her fingers at me, going all crazy while
• 1:04:19
  Speaker 3: I was in short while I was in a short
• 1:04:22
  Speaker 3: meetia with a salesperson. It got me so bad because
• 1:04:25
  Speaker 3: I wasn't the It wasn't the first time, oh got
• 1:04:27
  Speaker 3: she mad. It wasn't the first time that she did that.
• 1:04:29
  Speaker 3: So I went to social media and said the following,
• 1:04:32
  Speaker 3: I guess she didn't get any d last night, no names, nothing,
• 1:04:37
  Speaker 3: but she took it personal. Two days later, I was
• 1:04:39
  Speaker 3: fired by her husband, the main GM. After that incident,
• 1:04:43
  Speaker 3: the company made employees sign waivers on social media. That
• 1:04:47
  Speaker 3: was back in twenty fourteen. Oh it was Oh okay,
• 1:04:49
  Speaker 3: I thought it was your wife. Okay, it was somebody
• 1:04:51
  Speaker 3: else's wife. Oh that's pretty funny. Yeah, I probably shouldn't
• 1:04:54
  Speaker 3: do that.
• 1:04:54
  Speaker 1: Good morning. Know what's going on?
• 1:04:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 1:04:59
  Speaker 1: What's that man?
• 1:05:01
  Speaker 12: Yeah? I work. He had a golf course one time
• 1:05:03
  Speaker 12: when we were a kid, and uh, you know the
• 1:05:07
  Speaker 12: golf golf range, you know the little thing goes out
• 1:05:10
  Speaker 12: and picks up the balls. Yes, yeah, our our tracker
• 1:05:15
  Speaker 12: was broken, so they had a makeshift run with the
• 1:05:17
  Speaker 12: golf carts man. This other kid that worked there, we
• 1:05:21
  Speaker 12: told him, no, we're not going out there, had no protection.
• 1:05:23
  Speaker 12: So the guy in charge he went out there. So
• 1:05:26
  Speaker 12: me and the other kid grabbed a couple of golf
• 1:05:28
  Speaker 12: golf clubs and we started hitting balls, trying to hit him.
• 1:05:36
  Speaker 12: So I got fired. The other kid didn't because his
• 1:05:38
  Speaker 12: dad was a member of the golf course. Or Alice
• 1:05:41
  Speaker 12: a guy.
• 1:05:42
  Speaker 1: That is hilarious. Dumb ass kids, man in your room.
• 1:05:47
  Speaker 3: I got fired because I got married during a blackout date.
• 1:05:50
  Speaker 3: Even though I put my request in advance, I said
• 1:05:52
  Speaker 3: I needed a report to work. I worked at a gym.
• 1:05:55
  Speaker 3: Why does a gym even have blackout dates.
• 1:05:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah, why hey room.
• 1:06:00
  Speaker 3: I got fired from a grape freezer for throwing grapes
• 1:06:03
  Speaker 3: at someone and someone was recording me and showed it
• 1:06:05
  Speaker 3: to the boss a room. I went for a company
• 1:06:10
  Speaker 3: for eight years. First time getting in trouble was when
• 1:06:12
  Speaker 3: I got caught sleeping and they fired me that same day.
• 1:06:15
  Speaker 3: They told me I could fill it up, I could
• 1:06:17
  Speaker 3: fill an application for my job back. I turned it
• 1:06:20
  Speaker 3: down and they called me back two months later wanting
• 1:06:22
  Speaker 3: me back.
• 1:06:23
  Speaker 1: Well did you go back and goodboarding out? What's going on?
• 1:06:26
  Speaker 2: Hey, Romio.
• 1:06:27
  Speaker 13: So back in the day, I worked at head Smart.
• 1:06:32
  Speaker 13: Of all places, I worked at that Smart, okay, and
• 1:06:36
  Speaker 13: there was a customers that was really a sense and
• 1:06:42
  Speaker 13: he wanted to speak with management, right, So we call
• 1:06:45
  Speaker 13: over the manager and this guy, I don't I don't
• 1:06:48
  Speaker 13: even know what's going through his head. He slipped out
• 1:06:50
  Speaker 13: and he like slammed the manager up against the wall
• 1:06:53
  Speaker 13: and is like holding him there, and everybody's panicking and
• 1:06:56
  Speaker 13: they all like run behind the cash registers, right, Okay.
• 1:07:00
  Speaker 13: Back then, I was a solid two eighty right okay,
• 1:07:04
  Speaker 13: And I jumped on this guy's back and just like
• 1:07:09
  Speaker 13: threw my body weight back. We fall to the floor
• 1:07:12
  Speaker 13: and I just laid on top of this guy laid
• 1:07:14
  Speaker 13: on top of them. The manager ended up like trying
• 1:07:17
  Speaker 13: to hold them down a little bit, called the cops.
• 1:07:19
  Speaker 13: The cop get there, I get up, They take them,
• 1:07:21
  Speaker 13: and I got fired for getting involved. Wow really, yes.
• 1:07:28
  Speaker 1: Mayeh, that's cold. That's cold. Wow? Right, hey, thanks thanks
• 1:07:32
  Speaker 1: for calling. Yeah, that's cold right there.
• 1:07:36
  Speaker 3: Hey, rom I got fired from Old Navy because I
• 1:07:38
  Speaker 3: told the lady who specifically just watched me fold an
• 1:07:41
  Speaker 3: entire table not to touch the stack of T shirts
• 1:07:44
  Speaker 3: and just tell me what size she was looking for,
• 1:07:47
  Speaker 3: because I'm not folding them again. You can fold them
• 1:07:49
  Speaker 3: back yourself. If you mess them up, well, customer's always
• 1:07:54
  Speaker 3: right right.
• 1:07:55
  Speaker 8: Throw me all the morning, every morning. Morning,