Episode 13 | You Must Define For Yourself What Love Is

Your Effin’ Love Story · May 27, 2026 · 15m

I jumped out of bed to record this one. That's how I knew it needed to be said.

I spent most of my life letting everyone else define love for me. My parents. The church. The culture. Shakespeare. The self-help books. Esther Hicks. Wayne Dyer. The list goes on. And I took all of it in and I tried to live inside somebody else's definition of a thing I desperately wanted and couldn't seem to hold onto.

Four marriages. Four divorces. Multiple DUIs. A drinking problem I was using as a slow suicide. A man who thought of himself in the third person because he felt so separate from who he actually…