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13 | "The Assignment is Different" | Aligning Life with God’s Calling · Where We Rise

• 0:02
  Khalila McCoy: Hi, I'm Khalila McCoy, and this is the podcast that always gives you something to reflect on.
• 0:09
  Khalila McCoy: This is where we rise.
• 0:12
  Khalila McCoy: Hi everyone, it's so great to be here with you this week.
• 0:19
  Khalila McCoy: So I have to tell you something.
• 0:21
  Khalila McCoy: Someone recently pointed out that in every episode, I say how excited I am that you're here and how excited I am to talk to the guests.
• 0:30
  Khalila McCoy: Well, guess what?
• 0:32
  Khalila McCoy: It's true.
• 0:34
  Khalila McCoy: As I shared back in episode zero, listening louder, I love talking to people and learning from them.
• 0:42
  Khalila McCoy: Talking with each guest has brought me so much joy.
• 0:46
  Khalila McCoy: So I am excited all the time, and I hope you are excited too.
• 0:52
  Khalila McCoy: I hope you're laughing, sometimes crying, learning, and growing as much as I am.
• 0:57
  Khalila McCoy: Today's episode is the assignment is different.
• 1:02
  Khalila McCoy: This is something our guest, Shelly Mache, says when she talks about her shift in her career.
• 1:08
  Khalila McCoy: Shelly is a woman of faith, filled with God's love, living her purpose, and the survivor of not one, not two, but three strokes.
• 1:19
  Khalila McCoy: Now she uses her story to inspire other women to walk in their purpose.
• 1:23
  Khalila McCoy: That is a different assignment.
• 1:26
  Khalila McCoy: We all know that on the journey of life, every path isn't smooth, but sometimes it's the struggle that leads us to our strongest, most aligned selves.
• 1:36
  Khalila McCoy: So let's jump into this conversation.
• 1:40
  Khalila McCoy: I know Shelley's fun and infectious energy will keep you hooked.
• 1:45
  Khalila McCoy: Hi, Miss Shelley.
• 1:48
  Khalila McCoy: How are you today?
• 1:49
  Khalila McCoy: I am doing well.
• 1:50
  Khalila McCoy: Thank you so much for having me.
• 1:52
  Khalila McCoy: Now, we got a chance to talk on the phone already a little bit about your story, about what you're gonna share today.
• 1:58
  Khalila McCoy: And you didn't give me all the details, but I am very excited to hear more.
• 2:03
  Khalila McCoy: I know that you have a great story to share, great faith to share in your episode.
• 2:08
  Khalila McCoy: I feel it's gonna be a great blessing to everybody listening.
• 2:11
  Khalila McCoy: So I'm just gonna have you jump in and get started and just tell us who you are and what you're hoping to share with us today and what we what we're gonna be able to take away from your life story.
• 2:23
  Shelley Meche'tte: Absolutely.
• 2:24
  Shelley Meche'tte: I am Shelly Mache, and I actually uh, well, I say that I used to be a coach, but that's not true.
• 2:29
  Shelley Meche'tte: I still am a coach, empowerment speaker, um, and best-selling author.
• 2:33
  Shelley Meche'tte: But after my experience, God has just kind of rerouted me a little bit.
• 2:37
  Shelley Meche'tte: I used to work with moms who were mompreneurs, so helpingpreneurs balance motherhood and um and business.
• 2:45
  Shelley Meche'tte: And so if if any woman is a mom and you're trying to do a business, you know it's a lot to juggle.
• 2:51
  Shelley Meche'tte: And so that's what I was doing.
• 2:53
  Shelley Meche'tte: But as someone who survived three strokes in one day about seven months ago, oh wow, God kind of, yes, God kind of rerouted me just a little bit.
• 3:05
  Shelley Meche'tte: I still speak, I still coach, but now he has opened up the door for me to not work with my entrepreneurs, but to work with faith-driven women entrepreneurs so that we'll put down the grind and pick up grace and so that God can show us how to grow our businesses and how to align our life with who he has called us to be, so that we're not always frustrated, burned out, angry, bitter, you know, um, irritable.
• 3:30
  Shelley Meche'tte: Uh, and so that came about, like I said, after that experience, after me walking into an ER one day, literally because I had head pains, not knowing that just a few hours later, I would literally be clinging on to life in an ER bed.
• 3:47
  Khalila McCoy: Wow.
• 3:48
  Khalila McCoy: Yeah.
• 3:48
  Khalila McCoy: When again, I said we talked ahead of time, but I did not realize that the three strokes happened in the same day.
• 3:55
  Khalila McCoy: I thought it was over time.
• 3:57
  Khalila McCoy: Okay, so walk us through that day.
• 4:00
  Khalila McCoy: You had just regular head pains.
• 4:03
  Khalila McCoy: What did it feel like that made you go to the ER?
• 4:06
  Shelley Meche'tte: Well, the thing is I didn't really run to go to ER because I've had migraine since I was a teen.
• 4:12
  Shelley Meche'tte: So it's not like I was so like, oh my goodness, I have a pain in my head.
• 4:16
  Shelley Meche'tte: I was already on medication.
• 4:18
  Shelley Meche'tte: But the thing is, I hadn't been taking the medication as much, which was great.
• 4:24
  Shelley Meche'tte: So that meant I wasn't having um headaches.
• 4:26
  Shelley Meche'tte: Frequent, yeah.
• 4:27
  Shelley Meche'tte: And so I wasn't taking it.
• 4:29
  Shelley Meche'tte: But what I found is that over the course of uh a few weeks, I don't know, it could have been even more than a few weeks.
• 4:36
  Shelley Meche'tte: Maybe it had been, you know, a good month or so.
• 4:38
  Shelley Meche'tte: I'm not a hundred percent sure anymore.
• 4:40
  Shelley Meche'tte: But over that time, I noticed that I was taking them a bit more.
• 4:44
  Shelley Meche'tte: Okay.
• 4:45
  Shelley Meche'tte: And so I was having more frequent headaches.
• 4:48
  Shelley Meche'tte: Not that the headaches themselves had changed, but they were more frequent.
• 4:52
  Shelley Meche'tte: So it was already on my radar to be like, you know what?
• 4:55
  Shelley Meche'tte: I'm gonna have a neurology appointment because they're just more frequent.
• 5:00
  Shelley Meche'tte: And then I began noticing that, wow, you know, my my eyes kind of hurt when I have these um these headaches now.
• 5:09
  Shelley Meche'tte: So when I would look up, my eyes would hurt.
• 5:12
  Shelley Meche'tte: They were very, very sensitive.
• 5:14
  Shelley Meche'tte: Um, but again, the reason why it didn't jump out at me is because I have been told before that migraines change.
• 5:23
  Shelley Meche'tte: Okay.
• 5:24
  Shelley Meche'tte: And I have been having some some ear problems, and my neurologist has said, you know, migraines do change.
• 5:31
  Shelley Meche'tte: It could show up in different ways.
• 5:33
  Shelley Meche'tte: This could happen, that could happen.
• 5:34
  Shelley Meche'tte: So once again, I I'm just not cluing into that.
• 5:38
  Shelley Meche'tte: I just thought maybe it's part of it.
• 5:40
  Shelley Meche'tte: So when I was gonna go to uh to the doctor, it wasn't because I was so concerned.
• 5:45
  Shelley Meche'tte: It was maybe things are changing.
• 5:47
  Shelley Meche'tte: Maybe I need to change my medication for whatever reason that that is.
• 5:52
  Shelley Meche'tte: But two weeks prior to that, I was with my family for an event.
• 5:58
  Shelley Meche'tte: And as I was sitting there, a sharp, sharp pain hit me so bad that I grabbed my head.
• 6:04
  Shelley Meche'tte: Wow.
• 6:04
  Shelley Meche'tte: And my mom, you know, she's like, oh my gosh, you know, are you okay?
• 6:08
  Shelley Meche'tte: And my daughter's like, you know, are you all right?
• 6:10
  Shelley Meche'tte: And I felt a little, a little woozy.
• 6:13
  Shelley Meche'tte: Mm-hmm.
• 6:14
  Shelley Meche'tte: Um, got up to get some water, and I'm just like, wow, this is really, really painful.
• 6:18
  Shelley Meche'tte: I am definitely gonna have to make sure that I I get this appointment because this really, really hurts.
• 6:25
  Shelley Meche'tte: Fast forward two weeks before I, before I even made it to the doctor, mind you, I hadn't even made the appointment yet.
• 6:31
  Shelley Meche'tte: I'm like, oh yeah, let me make the appointment.
• 6:33
  Shelley Meche'tte: Let me make the appointment.
• 6:34
  Shelley Meche'tte: Blah, blah, blah.
• 6:35
  Shelley Meche'tte: Right?
• 6:36
  Shelley Meche'tte: Let me make the appointment.
• 6:37
  Shelley Meche'tte: The night before, as I'm sitting talking to one of my daughters, uh, I have a sharp pain again.
• 6:45
  Shelley Meche'tte: And it was so sharp, I I yelled out, oh, you know, and I grabbed my head.
• 6:51
  Shelley Meche'tte: And my daughter's like, oh my gosh, you know, what is going on?
• 6:55
  Shelley Meche'tte: Before I could even answer her, another one hit me and it kind of like tossed me back into the bed.
• 7:00
  Shelley Meche'tte: That's how how much it hurt.
• 7:02
  Shelley Meche'tte: At the time, which I did not didn't correlate it because of the banter that me and my kids have, my daughter, you know, was playing with my lip, and she's like, Why are you talking funny?
• 7:12
  Shelley Meche'tte: And I just like brushed her hand off.
• 7:14
  Shelley Meche'tte: I'm like, girl, move.
• 7:15
  Shelley Meche'tte: Ain't nobody talking funny.
• 7:16
  Shelley Meche'tte: I didn't feel like I was talking funny.
• 7:19
  Shelley Meche'tte: But now, looking back on it, that was a bit clue.
• 7:22
  Shelley Meche'tte: My lip was drooping.
• 7:24
  Shelley Meche'tte: Did not know that.
• 7:25
  Shelley Meche'tte: Okay.
• 7:26
  Shelley Meche'tte: And in the middle, in the middle of the night, I had the third and five.
• 7:30
  Shelley Meche'tte: I had already said, I'm going in the morning.
• 7:32
  Shelley Meche'tte: But before the morning could even come, another pain jolted me out of my sleep.
• 7:37
  Shelley Meche'tte: So I'm like, yeah, if I wasn't gonna go, which I already was, but I'm like, if I wasn't gonna go.
• 7:41
  Shelley Meche'tte: The sun couldn't even come up good, girl.
• 7:46
  Shelley Meche'tte: I was up.
• 7:47
  Shelley Meche'tte: I'm like, I am out of here.
• 7:49
  Khalila McCoy: Yeah.
• 7:50
  Shelley Meche'tte: Still with the same thing in mind that, you know, if I if there is something wrong, praise God, I'm here, I'll catch it.
• 7:58
  Shelley Meche'tte: You know, not a problem.
• 7:59
  Shelley Meche'tte: It's probably just the change.
• 8:01
  Shelley Meche'tte: Get there.
• 8:02
  Shelley Meche'tte: I'm in ER in the waiting room, child.
• 8:05
  Shelley Meche'tte: I'm watching TikToks, I'm laughing, I'm eating snacks.
• 8:10
  Shelley Meche'tte: And um, after about two hours of me just chilling, I go into the back with the ER doctor.
• 8:16
  Shelley Meche'tte: We're going through some uh some tests, and right in the middle of us going through the test is when the first stroke happens.
• 8:24
  Shelley Meche'tte: Oh, wow.
• 8:25
  Khalila McCoy: Yes.
• 8:26
  Khalila McCoy: I mean, that's a blessing that you're right there in front of the doctor.
• 8:29
  Shelley Meche'tte: Right in front of the doctor.
• 8:30
  Shelley Meche'tte: So you cannot tell me that that was not orchestrated.
• 8:34
  Shelley Meche'tte: I had spent that entire time in the waiting room, no pain, no issues, nothing.
• 8:41
  Shelley Meche'tte: And then as soon as I got to the back, once we began the test, that's when the first stroke happened.
• 8:48
  Shelley Meche'tte: Right.
• 8:49
  Khalila McCoy: Well what is that like?
• 8:51
  Khalila McCoy: Do you do you know what's happening to your body?
• 8:53
  Khalila McCoy: Do you feel anything?
• 8:54
  Khalila McCoy: Like what what happens when you have a stroke?
• 8:56
  Shelley Meche'tte: Yeah, you know, I can only speak for for myself, is that at that particular time I was in the midst of trying to repeat something that she said.
• 9:06
  Shelley Meche'tte: She had asked me to spell the word world.
• 9:09
  Shelley Meche'tte: And I kept trying to figure out kind of like what what do you mean?
• 9:13
  Shelley Meche'tte: You know, like what are what are you saying?
• 9:15
  Shelley Meche'tte: And it's like I understood, but I didn't understand.
• 9:18
  Shelley Meche'tte: It's it's, you know, so I I hear what you're saying, but for whatever reason I couldn't process what you were saying, if that makes sense.
• 9:26
  Shelley Meche'tte: So I I hear and I understand what you're asking me to do, but it's just that for whatever reason, I cannot process what you're asking me to do.
• 9:36
  Shelley Meche'tte: So it's like I hear you, and she kept saying it again, and I kept going, what like what do you mean?
• 9:42
  Shelley Meche'tte: Like, huh?
• 9:43
  Shelley Meche'tte: You're saying spell something, but I'm constantly going, like, huh?
• 9:47
  Shelley Meche'tte: You know.
• 9:48
  Shelley Meche'tte: Um what?
• 9:50
  Shelley Meche'tte: At that point, I saw the word world in my head, and it began to disappear, starting from the D all the way to the W.
• 9:58
  Shelley Meche'tte: And it just disappeared right in front of me.
• 10:01
  Shelley Meche'tte: Um, and at that point, when I was trying to spell, I just went back.
• 10:07
  Shelley Meche'tte: I fell back into the bed into a stroke.
• 10:10
  Shelley Meche'tte: So I was very cognitive of every single thing that was going on, all of the movement that was happening, them, you know, snapping their fingers in my face, the conversation.
• 10:20
  Shelley Meche'tte: I was very well aware of it.
• 10:22
  Shelley Meche'tte: And then, you know, I don't even know how many minutes afterwards it was just like, okay, you know, I'm back.
• 10:30
  Shelley Meche'tte: I just came back.
• 10:32
  Shelley Meche'tte: At that point, they didn't know if it was a stroke, if it was a seizure, you know, they were checking blood sugar and things of that nature.
• 10:42
  Shelley Meche'tte: I called my husband, I called my mom, you know, for for them to come.
• 10:47
  Shelley Meche'tte: And um, and actually, I really had told my mom and my daughter, I'm like, it's fine, you know, they're gonna run some tests, they're not sure what what happened, blah, blah, blah.
• 10:58
  Shelley Meche'tte: In the midst of the conversation with my mother, I went into a second stroke.
• 11:02
  Khalila McCoy: Oh my god.
• 11:03
  Shelley Meche'tte: While she was on the phone with me.
• 11:05
  Shelley Meche'tte: Okay.
• 11:05
  Shelley Meche'tte: Yes.
• 11:06
  Shelley Meche'tte: And it's that one that ended up taking my speech.
• 11:09
  Shelley Meche'tte: So by so I was on the phone talking to my mom, but by the time my mom made it there, my speech had been impaired.
• 11:17
  Shelley Meche'tte: Wow.
• 11:18
  Shelley Meche'tte: Yes.
• 11:19
  Shelley Meche'tte: Yes.
• 11:20
  Shelley Meche'tte: And while my family was there in the room with me, my children had gone back into the waiting room.
• 11:26
  Shelley Meche'tte: And so while my mom and my husband were in there, we were talking and, you know, as much as I could, because at that time, like I said, my speech had been impaired.
• 11:36
  Shelley Meche'tte: I had done some other tests and things like that.
• 11:39
  Shelley Meche'tte: And in the midst of it, I went into another another stroke.
• 11:43
  Shelley Meche'tte: And that's the one that almost killed me.
• 11:47
  Khalila McCoy: Wow.
• 11:48
  Khalila McCoy: So what happened for the third one?
• 11:50
  Shelley Meche'tte: Is it the third body kind of literally in my third stroke?
• 11:55
  Shelley Meche'tte: I literally began to feel the life leave my body.
• 11:59
  Shelley Meche'tte: So I literally, and the the best that I can describe it is if you have a sponge and you're slowly squeezing it from the top to the bottom.
• 12:07
  Shelley Meche'tte: So that that was the life.
• 12:09
  Shelley Meche'tte: The life was literally just kind of draining out of my body.
• 12:13
  Shelley Meche'tte: And I felt it start at my neck and I felt it move down.
• 12:18
  Shelley Meche'tte: And I knew consciously, because it didn't start in my, you know, in my head, it didn't start at the top.
• 12:24
  Shelley Meche'tte: It literally started in my neck.
• 12:25
  Shelley Meche'tte: And so I understood that by the time this reached my feet, that I would be gone.
• 12:32
  Shelley Meche'tte: So I was very, yes, I was very aware of the fact that that I was passing.
• 12:38
  Shelley Meche'tte: I was very aware of the fact that this was the end.
• 12:41
  Shelley Meche'tte: In the midst of that, you know, I looked up at my husband to let him know that I loved him.
• 12:48
  Shelley Meche'tte: And um I looked to my mom to let her know that I that I loved her.
• 12:54
  Shelley Meche'tte: You know, um, my kids weren't there, so my husband, he he ran out of the room to grab my kids so that they could come in and say goodbye.
• 13:05
  Shelley Meche'tte: Oh my god.
• 13:06
  Khalila McCoy: And um Was this like slow?
• 13:09
  Khalila McCoy: Like how like how would you say the time frame was for this?
• 13:12
  Shelley Meche'tte: It kind it felt it felt like, you know, um, it didn't feel slow, but it didn't feel fast.
• 13:18
  Shelley Meche'tte: It was it's it was just like a, you know, just uh kind of like an energy draining.
• 13:22
  Shelley Meche'tte: Yeah, just like a like a physical drain to the point of where at one point I began to say to my mother and my husband, I can't breathe.
• 13:32
  Shelley Meche'tte: You know, I I can't breathe.
• 13:34
  Shelley Meche'tte: And my mom began looking around and she's like, you know, nothing is going off, your vitals look well, but I knew that I was no longer breathing for myself.
• 13:43
  Shelley Meche'tte: A breath began to come from above and began blowing inside of my body.
• 13:50
  Shelley Meche'tte: And so I knew, though, that I was no longer breathing on my own and that that was the spirit of the Lord just calming me because I I jumped in panic because I couldn't breathe.
• 14:02
  Shelley Meche'tte: And as soon as I got ready to really freak out, this breath just began to just slowly blow within my body.
• 14:11
  Shelley Meche'tte: And I I laid back down and my mom kept looking around, going, like, you know, I don't see anything wrong with the vitals.
• 14:18
  Shelley Meche'tte: So I always tell people, I don't know what that was gonna look like on their end, if it would have looked like a cardiac arrest or something like that.
• 14:25
  Shelley Meche'tte: But I knew that at that point, oh, I'm not even breathing on my own anymore.
• 14:31
  Shelley Meche'tte: This is this is really just God's hand calming me so that I don't end up being all sporadic as this is going through.
• 14:41
  Shelley Meche'tte: My mom, she gave this scream after I told her that um that I loved her.
• 14:48
  Shelley Meche'tte: She she just belted out this this scream that I've never heard before.
• 14:54
  Shelley Meche'tte: And you know, and I and I prayed to never ever hear again.
• 14:58
  Shelley Meche'tte: And she just screamed, no, and she said, No, God, not my daughter.
• 15:05
  Shelley Meche'tte: And everything was just happening, and all of a sudden, the the the pressure that was happening in my body got to the bottom of my stomach and stopped.
• 15:20
  Shelley Meche'tte: It just stopped.
• 15:23
  Shelley Meche'tte: And I began to chuckle.
• 15:25
  Shelley Meche'tte: And as I yes, I began to chuckle.
• 15:29
  Shelley Meche'tte: And I know my family was like, you know, because the atmosphere just changed, you know, there's an atmosphere of emotional chaos at one moment, and now all of a sudden I'm chuckling.
• 15:39
  Shelley Meche'tte: I know, and I didn't even see my family, but I know they was looking like, so is this what happens in the end?
• 15:44
  Shelley Meche'tte: People just kind of go.
• 15:45
  Shelley Meche'tte: They just kind of like, you think this is funny?
• 15:48
  Shelley Meche'tte: We are not thinking this is funny.
• 15:50
  Shelley Meche'tte: Do they just out like like what happens here?
• 15:54
  Shelley Meche'tte: But when I chuckled, I said, I whispered, I said, God said no.
• 16:01
  Shelley Meche'tte: God said no.
• 16:04
  Shelley Meche'tte: And as soon as I said that, the life, I don't know how quick it was, but it began to come back into my body.
• 16:13
  Shelley Meche'tte: And I know for a fact that I was on my way out of here because both my mother and my husband touched me and said my body was completely ice cold.
• 16:23
  Shelley Meche'tte: Oh my goodness.
• 16:24
  Shelley Meche'tte: Ice cold.
• 16:26
  Shelley Meche'tte: My mother said it felt like I had been in the Mowork.
• 16:30
  Shelley Meche'tte: Because that, and and I so I know that what I felt is what I felt, which was a life literally trained itself from my body.
• 16:42
  Shelley Meche'tte: But once it got to the bottom of my stomach, it stopped.
• 16:46
  Shelley Meche'tte: And God reversed life at that moment.
• 16:49
  Khalila McCoy: Did you feel it start to fill back up?
• 16:51
  Shelley Meche'tte: Like was it an instant?
• 16:52
  Shelley Meche'tte: No, I do not have that recollection.
• 16:54
  Shelley Meche'tte: I don't have that recollection of literally feeling it.
• 16:58
  Shelley Meche'tte: You know, um, my whole thing, there was so much that was kind of happening at the time because my family is like, you know, what's going on?
• 17:07
  Shelley Meche'tte: You know, what's happening?
• 17:08
  Shelley Meche'tte: Are you oh are you okay?
• 17:10
  Shelley Meche'tte: I would really have to ask my family, like, how soon was it that I I set up or, you know, what happened?
• 17:16
  Shelley Meche'tte: What I my next memory is of me being in the room.
• 17:20
  Shelley Meche'tte: And that's after my husband had jogged that memory for me.
• 17:24
  Shelley Meche'tte: Because at first that was gone too.
• 17:26
  Shelley Meche'tte: And he reminded me, oh, remember, you know, you they asked you if you could walk into the room into this, and I was like, oh, yeah, yeah, I do remember that.
• 17:35
  Shelley Meche'tte: So I only have that memory because he jogged it for me.
• 17:38
  Shelley Meche'tte: But other than that, my next, my next full memory is really being in the in the hospital room and trying to figure out.
• 17:46
  Shelley Meche'tte: My husband was holding a piece of bread and me trying to figure out what's the name of that?
• 17:50
  Shelley Meche'tte: What what is what is that called?
• 17:52
  Shelley Meche'tte: Yeah.
• 17:53
  Shelley Meche'tte: You go, yeah.
• 17:54
  Shelley Meche'tte: That's my next full memory, trying to figure out what Chili's toast was called.
• 18:01
  Shelley Meche'tte: I'm like, we got a name, y'all.
• 18:06
  Shelley Meche'tte: It got a name.
• 18:07
  Shelley Meche'tte: They were eating.
• 18:12
  Shelley Meche'tte: I wasn't.
• 18:13
  Shelley Meche'tte: I was just looking.
• 18:14
  Shelley Meche'tte: I'm like, man, because you know, nobody fed me at that point.
• 18:17
  Shelley Meche'tte: They like, you just worry about breathing.
• 18:20
  Shelley Meche'tte: Yes.
• 18:21
  Shelley Meche'tte: But a nurse came in the next day, which again, I don't remember this nurse, but a nurse came in the next day and she said, Oh my gosh, you're here.
• 18:33
  Shelley Meche'tte: And and she came over and she hugged me.
• 18:37
  Shelley Meche'tte: She's like, You're here.
• 18:39
  Shelley Meche'tte: And I said, Well, we know you wasn't expecting to see me, right?
• 18:43
  Shelley Meche'tte: We know what you was against, right?
• 18:47
  Shelley Meche'tte: But she was so shocked to see me.
• 18:50
  Shelley Meche'tte: She's like, Oh.
• 18:54
  Khalila McCoy: Now, when you were going through that, like, you know, like the life draining, did your family call in the doctors and stuff?
• 18:59
  Khalila McCoy: Like, what were their reactions to what you experienced?
• 19:02
  Shelley Meche'tte: My my mother, uh, I do recall uh at some point that a nurse was in there and my mother kept saying, because my mom, my mom was, was slapping me, trying to get me to come back.
• 19:13
  Shelley Meche'tte: And at one point I was like, listen.
• 19:15
  Shelley Meche'tte: Okay.
• 19:17
  Shelley Meche'tte: Yeah, I remember the nurse saying, ma'am, you have got to stop hitting her.
• 19:24
  Shelley Meche'tte: I'm like, can you please let her know?
• 19:26
  Shelley Meche'tte: You know.
• 19:28
  Shelley Meche'tte: And because I because I was kind of, I was still out of it, I was thinking these things.
• 19:34
  Shelley Meche'tte: I just couldn't say them.
• 19:36
  Shelley Meche'tte: But when the nurse was like, you have got to stop hitting her, I was like, Can you please, can't can you let her know?
• 19:41
  Shelley Meche'tte: Can you let her know this is not helping?
• 19:43
  Shelley Meche'tte: And I remember my mom going, okay, then do something.
• 19:46
  Shelley Meche'tte: You know, do do something, help her.
• 19:49
  Shelley Meche'tte: And so um, yeah, that's the only thing that I that I remember of that, that little piece of her saying to to the nurse, you know, do something for her, you know.
• 20:00
  Shelley Meche'tte: She's she's not here.
• 20:01
  Shelley Meche'tte: So yeah.
• 20:03
  Khalila McCoy: Mm-hmm.
• 20:04
  Khalila McCoy: What was the recovery like?
• 20:07
  Khalila McCoy: So you talked about like being back in the room looking at the bread and things like that.
• 20:10
  Khalila McCoy: How long were you in the hospital after that?
• 20:12
  Shelley Meche'tte: You know, I was released from the hospital a couple of days later, but here's the kicker.
• 20:17
  Shelley Meche'tte: I was released from the hospital with no medication.
• 20:20
  Shelley Meche'tte: Um nothing.
• 20:21
  Shelley Meche'tte: Yeah.
• 20:22
  Shelley Meche'tte: The doctor who was on uh who was on call that day, you know, he kind of kind of and I don't want to I hate using the word like he brushed things off, but looking at me after the situation, he just kind of felt like, okay, we've looked at you, we've run scans, we did this, they they uh they monitored my head for 24 hours to make sure that there was no damage.
• 20:44
  Shelley Meche'tte: I had no no damaged tissues, no blocked, nothing, absolutely nothing.
• 20:49
  Shelley Meche'tte: They uh from the time that I prepared to leave, they already told me that in my files it would only say stroke-like symptoms because medically they could not say that because nothing had been damaged.
• 21:02
  Shelley Meche'tte: Absolutely nothing.
• 21:04
  Shelley Meche'tte: Okay.
• 21:04
  Shelley Meche'tte: Everything, you know, um, my body was my left side was weak from it going numb.
• 21:10
  Shelley Meche'tte: So I went numb over 75% of my body, but yeah, I was still able, I was weak, but I was able to walk.
• 21:17
  Shelley Meche'tte: I still had to to build that up, you know, to this day.
• 21:21
  Shelley Meche'tte: I still have tingles or burning or this.
• 21:24
  Shelley Meche'tte: So those those things do happen.
• 21:26
  Shelley Meche'tte: But when I left, I left with no medication and no real 100% plan.
• 21:32
  Shelley Meche'tte: So two days later, I was rushed back to the hospital again.
• 21:36
  Shelley Meche'tte: Uh-oh.
• 21:36
  Shelley Meche'tte: And then for the exact same thing.
• 21:41
  Shelley Meche'tte: And what was happening is my my blood pressure was going out of whack.
• 21:46
  Shelley Meche'tte: But no one to this day, I'm I'm still going to the doctor, figuring out different things.
• 21:51
  Shelley Meche'tte: You know, is this the cause of the pressure?
• 21:53
  Shelley Meche'tte: Is that the cause of the pressure?
• 21:54
  Shelley Meche'tte: So I'm still seeing doctors, seeing kidney specialists, seeing, you know, liver.
• 21:59
  Shelley Meche'tte: Special things like that to see if there's any connection to it.
• 22:03
  Shelley Meche'tte: But when I left at that time, I wasn't given anything.
• 22:07
  Shelley Meche'tte: So without medication, I was still skyrocketing all over the place, you know, with my pressure.
• 22:13
  Shelley Meche'tte: So two days later, I was back in the hospital with a pressure that was 190 over 100.
• 22:18
  Khalila McCoy: Oh, girl.
• 22:20
  Shelley Meche'tte: You know this.
• 22:20
  Shelley Meche'tte: Right?
• 22:22
  Shelley Meche'tte: And then from there, um, I ended up being back in the hospital um again.
• 22:27
  Shelley Meche'tte: And then I I developed severe anxiety.
• 22:31
  Shelley Meche'tte: And then I was back in the hospital.
• 22:33
  Shelley Meche'tte: So I was back and forth in the hospital probably for a good maybe a month and some back and forth.
• 22:41
  Shelley Meche'tte: And the the nighttime would trigger me.
• 22:44
  Shelley Meche'tte: And so as soon as the sun went down, I would begin to hyperventilate.
• 22:49
  Shelley Meche'tte: I would begin to sweat.
• 22:50
  Shelley Meche'tte: I would begin to to get nauseous, to get to get sick.
• 22:54
  Shelley Meche'tte: I couldn't sleep.
• 22:56
  Shelley Meche'tte: Um, you know, I would begin to to cry and and and I would stay up as late, as late, late, late, late, you know, as I possibly could, just hoping that I could be up until the sun breaks.
• 23:08
  Shelley Meche'tte: I would sleep maybe for an hour, and then I would wake up and realize it's still dark and go into a hyperventilation all over again.
• 23:16
  Khalila McCoy: Why didn't you want to sleep?
• 23:19
  Shelley Meche'tte: For whatever reason, nighttime was a trigger.
• 23:22
  Shelley Meche'tte: So I can't explain why it was, but nighttime for me, as soon as the sun went down, my my body went into total panic mode.
• 23:33
  Khalila McCoy: Okay.
• 23:34
  Shelley Meche'tte: You know, and so the situation did not happen at night, but it could have been because I was rushed back to the hospital at night, you know, who knows?
• 23:43
  Shelley Meche'tte: But for whatever reason, as soon as the sun went down, I would begin to to hyperventilate, to have anxiety, to go into panic attacks.
• 23:52
  Shelley Meche'tte: I can't breathe.
• 23:53
  Shelley Meche'tte: Um, I go into tears.
• 23:55
  Shelley Meche'tte: You know, I try to talk my mom all night to death because I was staying at her house.
• 23:59
  Shelley Meche'tte: So I want to talk to her all night long, you know.
• 24:02
  Shelley Meche'tte: I was completely 1 million percent exhausted.
• 24:05
  Shelley Meche'tte: My body was fatigued from me just trying so hard to stay awake.
• 24:11
  Shelley Meche'tte: And then when the daytime would come, I would nap.
• 24:15
  Khalila McCoy: Okay.
• 24:15
  Shelley Meche'tte: You know, because I sleep.
• 24:16
  Khalila McCoy: So you could sleep in the in the daytime.
• 24:18
  Khalila McCoy: In the daytime.
• 24:20
  Shelley Meche'tte: And I and it could, and again, it could be because everybody was moving.
• 24:24
  Shelley Meche'tte: Something was going forward.
• 24:26
  Shelley Meche'tte: You know, my uncle was moving around the house, my mom was up, my daughter, you know, so it could just be.
• 24:30
  Shelley Meche'tte: So it could so it could, you know, talking through it now, that could have just been it.
• 24:42
  Shelley Meche'tte: You know, I'm stuck and and I I would feel at night like I'm suffocating.
• 24:47
  Shelley Meche'tte: And so as soon as the sun would come up, as soon as I see the break of sun, or as soon as I hear my uncle in the kitchen, then I then every part of me would relax and I would fall asleep.
• 25:00
  Khalila McCoy: Yeah.
• 25:00
  Khalila McCoy: Do you feel too like because you had to keep going to the hospital, they didn't have answers for you.
• 25:06
  Khalila McCoy: They didn't know what happened.
• 25:07
  Khalila McCoy: Do you feel like that added on to your anxiety?
• 25:10
  Khalila McCoy: Were you, you know, people like Google things and try to figure out are you like desperately trying to figure out like what was going on with your body?
• 25:16
  Khalila McCoy: Okay.
• 25:16
  Shelley Meche'tte: I was a Google queen.
• 25:18
  Shelley Meche'tte: And let me tell you, for me, what um information was too much.
• 25:22
  Shelley Meche'tte: Okay.
• 25:22
  Shelley Meche'tte: Because so the information, I believe that I needed that information, but I couldn't stop.
• 25:28
  Shelley Meche'tte: So I would continue and continue and continue.
• 25:31
  Shelley Meche'tte: And so it became information overload for me.
• 25:33
  Shelley Meche'tte: And then that began to bring on more anxiety because every time, number one, I didn't trust my body anymore.
• 25:39
  Shelley Meche'tte: And I didn't trust my own feelings anymore.
• 25:42
  Shelley Meche'tte: And I didn't trust that I understood what was happening anymore.
• 25:46
  Shelley Meche'tte: So the minute my fingernail, you know, broke, I'm jumping.
• 25:50
  Shelley Meche'tte: And I'm like, why would my fingernail put, you know, could I have could it be brittle, this and that?
• 25:54
  Shelley Meche'tte: Well, that's gonna lead to this, and now I'm gonna die.
• 25:56
  Shelley Meche'tte: And so it was it was always that serious.
• 25:59
  Shelley Meche'tte: Yeah, yeah.
• 26:00
  Shelley Meche'tte: Yes, everything was that serious.
• 26:03
  Shelley Meche'tte: If my eyebrow jumped, now I'm I'm Googling, you know, what happens when your eyebrow jump, okay, um, my nerves are now my nerves are this and my nerves are that, my eye keeps jumping, am I gonna die?
• 26:14
  Shelley Meche'tte: It was a vicious cycle.
• 26:17
  Khalila McCoy: Yeah.
• 26:17
  Shelley Meche'tte: And so while I needed the information to uh to help put myself on track, too much of the information was killing me.
• 26:26
  Shelley Meche'tte: Right.
• 26:27
  Shelley Meche'tte: And I had to make a conscious decision to to not read, hear, listen, watch, nothing.
• 26:36
  Shelley Meche'tte: Take the medication, record your your uh your pressure, lean on your support system.
• 26:43
  Khalila McCoy: Talk to us about your support system.
• 26:45
  Khalila McCoy: I'm saying your mom and your husband, children.
• 26:49
  Shelley Meche'tte: Yes.
• 26:49
  Shelley Meche'tte: They were 100%.
• 26:51
  Shelley Meche'tte: My mother, you know, you just never stop being a mom.
• 26:54
  Shelley Meche'tte: I can just, you know, I can just say so much, and it just makes me so emotional, you know.
• 27:00
  Shelley Meche'tte: My mom, she already has her own health issues, you know, she has uh knee issues.
• 27:07
  Shelley Meche'tte: So, you know, it's painful a lot of times for her to to walk around too much, you know.
• 27:13
  Shelley Meche'tte: So she's on she's on a king uh sometimes, and she was up every morning, every single morning, making sure that I'm okay, making sure to take care of me, cooking meals, three meals uh a day to make sure that I'm completely nourished, um, making sure that my pressure is okay.
• 27:35
  Shelley Meche'tte: She's um making sure to check, check my pressure, making sure that I'm having medication.
• 27:40
  Shelley Meche'tte: She's out shopping for me, making sure that I have the proper this, the proper.
• 27:44
  Shelley Meche'tte: She's washing clothes.
• 27:45
  Shelley Meche'tte: She's, you know, even one night I couldn't sleep, and I just broke down.
• 27:51
  Shelley Meche'tte: I broke down into tears, and you know, uh and I just I couldn't sleep.
• 28:01
  Shelley Meche'tte: And, you know, and I'm just like, and I had to change medicines because the medicine was was make was um making me nauseated and medicine was making me where I couldn't function.
• 28:12
  Shelley Meche'tte: And I'm I'm a person who I'm used to doing everything for myself, and I'm very independent, and you know, I have a business, and I can't not be able to function.
• 28:23
  Shelley Meche'tte: Right.
• 28:24
  Shelley Meche'tte: And my mother, as I sat there, you know, um crying, and she came and she just sat next to me and she just she just put her arms around me and she's like, it's gonna be okay.
• 28:36
  Shelley Meche'tte: You know, we're gonna figure, we're gonna figure this out.
• 28:39
  Shelley Meche'tte: It's moment by moment, but we're gonna figure it all out.
• 28:45
  Shelley Meche'tte: And it's okay.
• 28:46
  Shelley Meche'tte: And she stayed up with me and she, you know, I don't know how long we stayed up, but she stayed up, and not one time did she complain.
• 28:55
  Shelley Meche'tte: She prayed with me, she walked the floor with me, she hugged me, and she made it okay for me to break down.
• 29:06
  Shelley Meche'tte: Yes.
• 29:07
  Shelley Meche'tte: And I think that's what I I needed to be okay with not being okay.
• 29:13
  Shelley Meche'tte: Yes.
• 29:15
  Shelley Meche'tte: Yeah.
• 29:16
  Shelley Meche'tte: Yeah.
• 29:17
  Shelley Meche'tte: So that um it didn't stop the future tears.
• 29:23
  Shelley Meche'tte: But it put me in a position to um to really be able to lean even more on my faith, to really lean on God, to really lean on my family.
• 29:40
  Shelley Meche'tte: What I realized later is everything that they were going through, you know, they had all types of anxiety.
• 29:47
  Shelley Meche'tte: My husband couldn't rest, you know.
• 29:50
  Shelley Meche'tte: Um mind you, during this time, none of my family stopped working.
• 29:55
  Shelley Meche'tte: So they were up at three in the morning in in um in ER with me.
• 30:00
  Shelley Meche'tte: And some days we were at ER for 24 hours straight, for 36 hours straight.
• 30:07
  Shelley Meche'tte: They were sleeping in chairs in my room.
• 30:10
  Shelley Meche'tte: They were sleeping at the end of my bed.
• 30:12
  Shelley Meche'tte: They were exhausted, and they would leave my hospital room and they would go to work.
• 30:17
  Shelley Meche'tte: And then they would leave from work and they would come back and come right back.
• 30:22
  Shelley Meche'tte: And so while I may have been the one who was healing physically, my family was going through emotionally.
• 30:30
  Shelley Meche'tte: My family was going through physically.
• 30:32
  Shelley Meche'tte: My family didn't know, you know, the next time I went into the hospital if I was gonna come out.
• 30:37
  Shelley Meche'tte: So I hadn't realized until later that, you know, one of my kids had a full, you know, just a full breakdown.
• 30:46
  Shelley Meche'tte: She just you know, feet position breakdown to where she just went into full, full panic mode.
• 30:52
  Shelley Meche'tte: You know, my my other child literally passed out one day just from exhaustion because it was just too, it's just too much.
• 31:00
  Shelley Meche'tte: You know, my husband couldn't sleep.
• 31:02
  Shelley Meche'tte: Every time something would happen, he would jump up.
• 31:04
  Shelley Meche'tte: He said to me recently, I was laying in the in the bed, and I guess I wasn't moving enough for him.
• 31:10
  Shelley Meche'tte: But I walked into the bedroom, and this was recently, maybe a couple of weeks ago.
• 31:14
  Shelley Meche'tte: He says, you know, I come in, I come in the room, and sometimes I still feel like is something, you know, is something wrong.
• 31:21
  Shelley Meche'tte: You know, did something happen to you while you were sleeping?
• 31:24
  Shelley Meche'tte: He's like, I still feel that way seven months later.
• 31:27
  Shelley Meche'tte: Wow.
• 31:28
  Shelley Meche'tte: That I don't know if something is gonna happen to you in your sleep.
• 31:32
  Shelley Meche'tte: Mm-hmm.
• 31:33
  Shelley Meche'tte: So it's not just me.
• 31:35
  Shelley Meche'tte: This affected my entire family.
• 31:38
  Shelley Meche'tte: We're all in a position of healing.
• 31:43
  Khalila McCoy: Do you guys talk about how you feel with each other, or do you still, I don't know, think of ways to like manage that anxiety together?
• 31:51
  Khalila McCoy: Or is it more just like, okay, I see you're struggling, so I'll help you in that moment.
• 31:55
  Shelley Meche'tte: Yeah, I think I think it's more of helping in the moment.
• 31:58
  Shelley Meche'tte: I think we've taken time to talk about it.
• 32:00
  Shelley Meche'tte: They call themselves trying to protect me, honey.
• 32:03
  Shelley Meche'tte: So I didn't even find out about this stuff until months later.
• 32:08
  Shelley Meche'tte: And I was like, Oh, we didn't want you to worry.
• 32:10
  Shelley Meche'tte: I'm like, see, I'm about to fight everybody up in here now, okay?
• 32:15
  Shelley Meche'tte: So these are things that I didn't even know about.
• 32:17
  Shelley Meche'tte: So while everybody is rallying, you know, around me, because everybody knows that everybody knew how much anxiety I was dealing with.
• 32:25
  Shelley Meche'tte: My daughter, uh, sweet thing, poor thing, she had something to do one day.
• 32:31
  Shelley Meche'tte: And um, this was after I had gotten back home, and she was supposed to do something that day.
• 32:36
  Shelley Meche'tte: But there were days where I would wake up and it just wasn't good.
• 32:41
  Shelley Meche'tte: I I didn't know what it was, and I couldn't breathe, and I felt my chest was heavy.
• 32:46
  Shelley Meche'tte: And this particular day, she was supposed to go somewhere.
• 32:48
  Shelley Meche'tte: And when I got up, I laid down on the couch, and she said, um, she said, it's not a good, it's not a good day, it's not a good morning.
• 32:57
  Shelley Meche'tte: And I said no.
• 32:59
  Shelley Meche'tte: And I really, I really tried to hold it in, but I just fell out into just tears.
• 33:05
  Shelley Meche'tte: I fell out into tears, and she was supposed to leave that day, and she canceled her plans, you know, to to stay there just to be, you know, just to be with me, to walk me through.
• 33:17
  Shelley Meche'tte: And so then there was the other side of that where I felt, you know, I felt so bad.
• 33:21
  Shelley Meche'tte: I felt guilty.
• 33:22
  Shelley Meche'tte: I felt like, you know, I'm stopping people from living their their lives.
• 33:27
  Shelley Meche'tte: So then that was another thing of where of the guilt that came, that came with it.
• 33:32
  Shelley Meche'tte: I don't want people to feel like I'm messing their lives up.
• 33:36
  Shelley Meche'tte: Right.
• 33:37
  Shelley Meche'tte: Because now, you know, you're you're stopping your day to stay home with me.
• 33:43
  Shelley Meche'tte: You know, I I felt like I couldn't be by myself.
• 33:47
  Shelley Meche'tte: Um, my kids, they drove me around for maybe, I don't know.
• 33:52
  Shelley Meche'tte: I stayed with my mom for I think a little over a month.
• 33:54
  Shelley Meche'tte: And once I came home, I think my kids drove me around for like another month or two, something like that, because I was scared to drive.
• 34:02
  Khalila McCoy: Which makes sense because you never know when one of your symptoms are gonna come upon.
• 34:07
  Shelley Meche'tte: Exactly.
• 34:07
  Shelley Meche'tte: Exactly.
• 34:09
  Shelley Meche'tte: So I was just too scared to get behind the wheel.
• 34:11
  Shelley Meche'tte: So everybody was driving me everywhere, especially my daughters.
• 34:15
  Shelley Meche'tte: My daughter, she just, you know, she's driving me around, she's changing her schedule, you know.
• 34:20
  Shelley Meche'tte: And then my children when this happened.
• 34:22
  Shelley Meche'tte: Uh 30 and 23.
• 34:25
  Shelley Meche'tte: Okay.
• 34:26
  Shelley Meche'tte: Yeah.
• 34:27
  Shelley Meche'tte: So they were just um, and my daughter actually, it was right before her 23rd birthday.
• 34:32
  Shelley Meche'tte: So really at that time, it was 30 and 22 because she was about to turn 23.
• 34:37
  Shelley Meche'tte: Um, yeah.
• 34:39
  Shelley Meche'tte: So they really kind of put put things on hold for me.
• 34:45
  Shelley Meche'tte: And then there was my husband who is like he would love to have to, you know, to put things on hold, but he got to pay for the hospital bills.
• 34:52
  Shelley Meche'tte: The lights still gotta come on, you know.
• 34:57
  Shelley Meche'tte: And so he's out there working, plus trying to to manage over here with with me, plus trying to keep himself together, plus trying to be the emotional strength.
• 35:08
  Shelley Meche'tte: So there's a lot, you know, there's lots of nuances that have come along with me, myself, trying to heal and all of us trying to give each other space to heal.
• 35:22
  Shelley Meche'tte: I think at this point, like I said, I was um, I was shocked, you know, to hear my husband a few weeks ago say it still is like, you know, it is everything okay, you know.
• 35:33
  Shelley Meche'tte: He I guess he'd be wanting to shake me sometime.
• 35:35
  Shelley Meche'tte: Like, don't disturb my sleep, man.
• 35:37
  Shelley Meche'tte: It sounds like you know, like a mirror over your nose, make sure you're still breathing.
• 35:44
  Shelley Meche'tte: Please don't make sure your thing is good.
• 35:46
  Shelley Meche'tte: But I cannot I can understand that.
• 35:49
  Shelley Meche'tte: I truly think.
• 35:50
  Khalila McCoy: Yeah.
• 35:50
  Khalila McCoy: So I know when we talked, we talked a lot about the faith aspect of that.
• 35:56
  Khalila McCoy: So three strokes in one day, not finding out what's going on, the anxiety, the fear, things that are going on with your family.
• 36:04
  Khalila McCoy: Where does faith fit into this?
• 36:08
  Shelley Meche'tte: Deliberately.
• 36:09
  Shelley Meche'tte: And yeah, deliberately.
• 36:12
  Shelley Meche'tte: Because I would lay there and I was um, you know, growing up in the church, there's such a, and I don't want to use the word stigma, but there's such a thing going, not fearing.
• 36:24
  Shelley Meche'tte: Don't fear, you know, don't have fear, don't worry.
• 36:26
  Shelley Meche'tte: Worry is a sin.
• 36:27
  Shelley Meche'tte: Da-da-da-da-da.
• 36:29
  Shelley Meche'tte: So you have all of these things combating you in your head.
• 36:32
  Shelley Meche'tte: Well, if you trust God, da-da-da, you know, and then you hear from other believers, hey, you know, God's gonna keep you, God's gonna this, God's gonna that.
• 36:40
  Shelley Meche'tte: And while I believe that, you have to understand I'm suffering emotionally here.
• 36:45
  Shelley Meche'tte: I am breaking down every single day.
• 36:48
  Shelley Meche'tte: I can, you know, and then I'm pretending to be okay because I don't want to worry other people.
• 36:55
  Shelley Meche'tte: I'm in emotional, mental, and physical turmoil every single day.
• 37:02
  Shelley Meche'tte: And then the only thing that I have to lean on is people saying, you know, God's gonna do this, God's gonna do that, versus me.
• 37:11
  Shelley Meche'tte: This is my personal feeling, me feeling like um I would have loved for somebody to say to me, I under, I get it.
• 37:19
  Shelley Meche'tte: You're scared.
• 37:20
  Shelley Meche'tte: I understand, you're having a really hard time.
• 37:23
  Shelley Meche'tte: I get it.
• 37:24
  Shelley Meche'tte: But you're, you know, you don't know what's gonna happen.
• 37:27
  Shelley Meche'tte: You're uncertain.
• 37:28
  Shelley Meche'tte: I understand.
• 37:29
  Shelley Meche'tte: Live in those feelings.
• 37:31
  Shelley Meche'tte: And as you live in those feelings, I'll lift you up.
• 37:34
  Shelley Meche'tte: I'll pray, I will pray for the part that you can't do right now, versus me feeling like um, I had to hold up that part of me.
• 37:46
  Shelley Meche'tte: And it's not to say that other people didn't pray or this, that.
• 37:49
  Shelley Meche'tte: That's not what I'm saying.
• 37:50
  Shelley Meche'tte: What I'm saying is it just would have been for me, I would have felt better knowing that I'm not struggling to make sure.
• 37:59
  Shelley Meche'tte: Is he okay, God?
• 38:00
  Shelley Meche'tte: Is this okay, God?
• 38:01
  Shelley Meche'tte: I'm scared, God, but are you mad at me because I'm scared?
• 38:05
  Shelley Meche'tte: You upset God because I I'm anxious?
• 38:08
  Shelley Meche'tte: No.
• 38:08
  Shelley Meche'tte: No.
• 38:09
  Shelley Meche'tte: So I had to lean on that.
• 38:11
  Shelley Meche'tte: I had to, I was, I had to be in my word.
• 38:14
  Shelley Meche'tte: I had, you know, and I was knocking on God's door, like, you sure, Jesus?
• 38:17
  Shelley Meche'tte: You sure?
• 38:18
  Shelley Meche'tte: Are you mad at me?
• 38:20
  Shelley Meche'tte: I had I I was listening to um to gospel music because I had to, in order for my spirit to rest, that's when I would get some sleep.
• 38:31
  Shelley Meche'tte: After hours of listening, I would drift off and then I would jump up.
• 38:36
  Shelley Meche'tte: But I had to be in that, I was in conversation with God 28 hours a day.
• 38:41
  Shelley Meche'tte: What does some of that conversation sound like?
• 38:44
  Shelley Meche'tte: Some of that conversation was I'm I'm scared.
• 38:48
  Shelley Meche'tte: A lot of the conversation was, I'm scared.
• 38:51
  Shelley Meche'tte: Are you, are you sure?
• 38:53
  Shelley Meche'tte: Are you gonna keep me?
• 38:54
  Shelley Meche'tte: Are you gonna, are you gonna hold me?
• 38:56
  Shelley Meche'tte: Can you breathe?
• 38:57
  Shelley Meche'tte: I told the Lord one day, I said, I am so grateful to be alive, but I just want you to know this side, this side is exhausting.
• 39:06
  Shelley Meche'tte: This is exhausting.
• 39:09
  Shelley Meche'tte: I have more, I have more peace while I was dying than I do now.
• 39:13
  Shelley Meche'tte: No.
• 39:15
  Shelley Meche'tte: I said, you know, I said, this is exhausting.
• 39:18
  Shelley Meche'tte: This healing process is is draining me, sir.
• 39:21
  Shelley Meche'tte: It's draining.
• 39:22
  Shelley Meche'tte: But I felt so good being able to be real with God and and understanding that I have your word.
• 39:30
  Shelley Meche'tte: I have your word, and even if I don't feel like your word is true, I need to know that your word is true so that I will be deliberate in reciting your word.
• 39:42
  Shelley Meche'tte: See, I didn't have to feel that it was it was it in order for me to keep it on my tongue, because faith comes by hearing.
• 39:50
  Shelley Meche'tte: And so I needed to hear it over and over and over again, even if I didn't feel it.
• 39:56
  Shelley Meche'tte: Do you have some scriptures that you used?
• 39:59
  Shelley Meche'tte: Oh my God.
• 40:00
  Shelley Meche'tte: You know what?
• 40:01
  Shelley Meche'tte: I don't even I I don't even know if I had had a specific um scripture, but I know I kept saying to God that He that He was the one, He was the keeper, He was the keeper of my soul.
• 40:13
  Shelley Meche'tte: And I continue to lean on the fact that that God's promises that I was still here for a reason and that began a good work in me.
• 40:23
  Shelley Meche'tte: He he wasn't done.
• 40:24
  Shelley Meche'tte: Yes, he would be faithful and and it wasn't done.
• 40:29
  Shelley Meche'tte: And the reason I knew it wasn't done is because I was here.
• 40:32
  Khalila McCoy: You're here, yeah.
• 40:33
  Shelley Meche'tte: My whole thing was you're not gonna save me just to kill me.
• 40:37
  Shelley Meche'tte: It it don't make sense.
• 40:39
  Shelley Meche'tte: It's something in here that's still here, and you're faithful.
• 40:43
  Shelley Meche'tte: I don't feel it, so therefore I have to speak it.
• 40:47
  Shelley Meche'tte: I have to speak that no weapon formed against my body was going to prosper, no weapon formed against my mind was going to prosper, even through even through the tears, even through not being able to breathe, I would just have to whisper it.
• 41:01
  Shelley Meche'tte: I, you know, because these were things that I needed to believe were true, even if I didn't feel like it was true.
• 41:10
  Shelley Meche'tte: I believe that God is who he says he is.
• 41:12
  Shelley Meche'tte: I believe no matter what, good day, bad day, great day, you know, terrible day.
• 41:17
  Shelley Meche'tte: I still believe that you are who you say you are.
• 41:20
  Shelley Meche'tte: And so I had to lean on the fact that I believe that you're a God, who you say you are, a god, a God of love.
• 41:27
  Shelley Meche'tte: You make no mistake.
• 41:28
  Shelley Meche'tte: I believe that.
• 41:29
  Shelley Meche'tte: But as I believe that, I just want you to know I'm in turmoil right now.
• 41:34
  Shelley Meche'tte: I can't breathe right now.
• 41:36
  Shelley Meche'tte: You know, I I'm suffocating right now, and I need your peace to lay on me.
• 41:44
  Khalila McCoy: Yes.
• 41:45
  Khalila McCoy: And you and I talked about this a little bit before, just like you said, about that idea that we can't be honest with God in that way.
• 41:53
  Khalila McCoy: And that's exactly what he wants for us to do is he says cast all our cares on him.
• 41:59
  Khalila McCoy: And it's not like, hey God, like, you know, I'm okay, but I'm not okay.
• 42:03
  Khalila McCoy: Like he wants that real raw, like what are you going through?
• 42:07
  Khalila McCoy: Yeah, because if you're not honest with him and being honest with yourself, there's no way, right?
• 42:11
  Khalila McCoy: He can move and he can work if you're trying to bring this fake person to him.
• 42:16
  Khalila McCoy: Exactly.
• 42:17
  Khalila McCoy: Do you find like through that?
• 42:20
  Khalila McCoy: I know you had your family.
• 42:21
  Khalila McCoy: I don't know, like as far as friends and community around you, did people rally around that idea?
• 42:25
  Khalila McCoy: Were people kind of like, oh no, don't don't pray that way, don't be that way?
• 42:31
  Shelley Meche'tte: It wasn't anything verbal, you know.
• 42:33
  Shelley Meche'tte: Um so, and a lot of people didn't even know that it that it happened.
• 42:37
  Shelley Meche'tte: I'm I'm an extremely private person.
• 42:39
  Shelley Meche'tte: So it's not like, you know, it's like, oh, hey, social media, look what happened.
• 42:43
  Shelley Meche'tte: I that's not me.
• 42:44
  Shelley Meche'tte: People who who were close to my to my network, they knew.
• 42:49
  Shelley Meche'tte: Um, certain people who my husband talked to, they knew.
• 42:53
  Shelley Meche'tte: You know, good friends, they they knew.
• 42:55
  Shelley Meche'tte: People at my mom's church, they knew.
• 42:58
  Shelley Meche'tte: So little, you know, a few people here, here and there, they knew what um, they knew what happened.
• 43:04
  Shelley Meche'tte: And I had, and the, you know, the group that I have of people, they are they're wonderful.
• 43:09
  Shelley Meche'tte: And we have some wonderful friends, uh, a married couple, who they came the day that I was released from the hospital, and they were at my house, you know.
• 43:18
  Shelley Meche'tte: They were at my house to to visit me, to love on me, to pray with me, uh, to feed me.
• 43:25
  Shelley Meche'tte: Um, I had people come to the hospital, you know, my brother found out and left his job and, you know, was right there.
• 43:32
  Shelley Meche'tte: So I had I had lots of love from the from my nice little tight community.
• 43:40
  Shelley Meche'tte: And if I knew you asked me about about a scripture, and I may not have had a script, a favorite scripture that I leaned on, but I remember saying, if I never knew before, I I really understand the verse that says death has no sting.
• 43:53
  Shelley Meche'tte: It's oh death, where's your sting?
• 43:55
  Shelley Meche'tte: It's it's not here, it's not in the believer because we have a Promise of what's going to happen once we live this life.
• 44:03
  Shelley Meche'tte: So when I said that I felt nothing but peace as I was dying, I felt that peace because death has no sting to those who are in Christ.
• 44:12
  Shelley Meche'tte: Amen.
• 44:14
  Khalila McCoy: That's awesome.
• 44:15
  Khalila McCoy: So tell me about the career switch.
• 44:19
  Khalila McCoy: How did that just make you decide that you wanted to change what you were doing?
• 44:24
  Shelley Meche'tte: It was, it was almost, it wasn't even so much of a switch.
• 44:29
  Shelley Meche'tte: It was really like a light bulb.
• 44:31
  Shelley Meche'tte: Okay.
• 44:32
  Shelley Meche'tte: Because I was excited about purpose and I really wanted people to know what God had done for me.
• 44:39
  Shelley Meche'tte: And so I was telling everybody, I'm like, you know what?
• 44:42
  Shelley Meche'tte: Literally, God raised me from the dead, baby.
• 44:44
  Shelley Meche'tte: Call me Lazarita because God can't believe that.
• 44:48
  Shelley Meche'tte: Okay.
• 44:49
  Shelley Meche'tte: All right, Lazarita.
• 44:51
  Shelley Meche'tte: That is amazing.
• 44:52
  Shelley Meche'tte: In my crib, we'd be joking.
• 44:54
  Shelley Meche'tte: She'd be like, what's up, Lazarita?
• 44:56
  Shelley Meche'tte: And so, you know, I was so excited about God raising me from the dead, you know, and I and I I will stand on that as long as I live, that my body was the, you know, the light bleeding, and you turned it around and you put it back in there.
• 45:11
  Shelley Meche'tte: And I was so excited about that.
• 45:13
  Shelley Meche'tte: When I came home, I'm like, you know, I love what I do, but that that's not the full purpose.
• 45:20
  Shelley Meche'tte: I don't believe that that's my purpose.
• 45:21
  Shelley Meche'tte: What I've done in life is wonderful.
• 45:23
  Shelley Meche'tte: I work with my entrepreneurs.
• 45:24
  Shelley Meche'tte: I help them combat burnout and frustration.
• 45:27
  Shelley Meche'tte: That's great.
• 45:28
  Shelley Meche'tte: But that's not promise.
• 45:30
  Shelley Meche'tte: What is the promise?
• 45:31
  Shelley Meche'tte: Promise is is the the purpose, the purpose that I've been aligned to.
• 45:35
  Shelley Meche'tte: I've been grinding and hustling these all these years, and to a degree, that's great.
• 45:40
  Shelley Meche'tte: I'm a hustler.
• 45:41
  Shelley Meche'tte: But I think that it's it has taken on a different definition.
• 45:47
  Shelley Meche'tte: And hustle culture has become a breakdown in some sense, where we don't give ourselves permission to uh to have alignment, to allow God to let his grace guide.
• 46:01
  Shelley Meche'tte: And in that moment, I believe that I that I heard God say, you know, it's time to switch that up and to move from working with working with women of God.
• 46:12
  Shelley Meche'tte: Because women of God need to understand and know their purpose.
• 46:16
  Shelley Meche'tte: And women of God needs to need to know that they don't have to grind to get where what it is that I'm giving to them.
• 46:23
  Shelley Meche'tte: If they get in alignment, if they walk with grace, then not only will their business grow, but their life will grow.
• 46:29
  Shelley Meche'tte: And you don't have to worry about burnout, exhaustion.
• 46:33
  Shelley Meche'tte: You don't have to worry about those things because you have a formula where you'll be able to work, rest, build.
• 46:40
  Shelley Meche'tte: You know, there's a time for everything, including a time to sit down and be rejuvenated and be refreshed and be renewed.
• 46:50
  Khalila McCoy: So throughout this whole podcast, right?
• 46:54
  Khalila McCoy: You've been sharing your story.
• 46:55
  Khalila McCoy: I love your voice, everything that you've been doing.
• 46:57
  Khalila McCoy: When you just start talking about your purpose, you just lit up, your voice changed.
• 47:02
  Khalila McCoy: Like it is clear you are doing what you are supposed to be doing.
• 47:06
  Khalila McCoy: And I love that.
• 47:08
  Khalila McCoy: Like, yes, everything about you says, like, this is where I am supposed to be.
• 47:12
  Khalila McCoy: I am blessed, and that God is leading me in this.
• 47:15
  Khalila McCoy: And that's, I'm assuming that's what you want the women you work with to feel.
• 47:20
  Shelley Meche'tte: Yes, this is where I want us all to be.
• 47:22
  Shelley Meche'tte: The one thing that I took away is there was nothing wrong with what I was doing.
• 47:27
  Shelley Meche'tte: But the the thing is, was it God aligned?
• 47:32
  Shelley Meche'tte: Right.
• 47:32
  Shelley Meche'tte: That's the difference.
• 47:34
  Shelley Meche'tte: Yes.
• 47:34
  Shelley Meche'tte: I was working with women, I'm still working with women.
• 47:37
  Shelley Meche'tte: It's just that now I'm working with women of God, and we're gonna put down grind, we're gonna pick up grace, and we're gonna do it in purpose.
• 47:43
  Shelley Meche'tte: We're gonna discover our purpose, we're gonna find out is my business even a part of my purpose.
• 47:48
  Shelley Meche'tte: The reason why you might be so frustrated and upset all the time is because you weren't even supposed to be in that business.
• 47:54
  Shelley Meche'tte: So let's let's go back.
• 47:56
  Shelley Meche'tte: Let's go back and let's say, hey God, where was I supposed to be?
• 48:00
  Shelley Meche'tte: What was I supposed to be doing?
• 48:02
  Shelley Meche'tte: Let's align these things so that I can build in grace.
• 48:07
  Shelley Meche'tte: The bottom line is we taking off grind.
• 48:10
  Shelley Meche'tte: We're gonna we're we're gonna take that off and we're gonna leave that.
• 48:13
  Shelley Meche'tte: God has aligned me with with a refreshed purpose, but I still have the same gifts and talent I had before.
• 48:21
  Shelley Meche'tte: The purpose is the same.
• 48:23
  Shelley Meche'tte: The way I, the, the way I maneuver the purpose is different.
• 48:27
  Shelley Meche'tte: The way I put it out is different.
• 48:28
  Shelley Meche'tte: The assignment is different.
• 48:30
  Shelley Meche'tte: God, I'm still a speaker.
• 48:33
  Shelley Meche'tte: God is still giving me the ability, the coach.
• 48:35
  Shelley Meche'tte: God has still given me all the same gifts and talent.
• 48:38
  Shelley Meche'tte: They all are still there.
• 48:39
  Shelley Meche'tte: The assignment is new and I'm up for it.
• 48:42
  Shelley Meche'tte: And I love it.
• 48:43
  Shelley Meche'tte: I love it.
• 48:45
  Khalila McCoy: How did you do the switch to, like you said, the women of grace and the women of God?
• 48:51
  Khalila McCoy: What was the process like for you to get that up and running?
• 48:55
  Khalila McCoy: Chad, I'm still doing a switch, okay?
• 48:57
  Khalila McCoy: Okay.
• 48:59
  Shelley Meche'tte: I am switch.
• 49:02
  Khalila McCoy: Okay.
• 49:03
  Shelley Meche'tte: In the process of working on my website so that I can begin to bridge all of that together.
• 49:09
  Shelley Meche'tte: And um, eventually, as I step a little bit back into social media, I've never been a big social media person, but as I step back into it, my content will now begin to change a little bit.
• 49:21
  Shelley Meche'tte: You'll find a little more um uh health awareness on there, you know, mainly about strokes, of course.
• 49:28
  Shelley Meche'tte: You'll find some of the same things that I've talked about, which is burnout prevention, but now I'm aligning it with God.
• 49:34
  Shelley Meche'tte: You know, I'm aligning those things with with Christ.
• 49:38
  Shelley Meche'tte: And so for the women who who love God and you know, and who want to stick around, wonderful, awesome.
• 49:44
  Shelley Meche'tte: For those who are mompreneurs, but that's not their thing, they'll trickle off.
• 49:49
  Shelley Meche'tte: But because I believe God, because I trust God and I'm walking in my grind, whoever stays, stays.
• 49:55
  Shelley Meche'tte: Whoever goes, goes.
• 49:56
  Shelley Meche'tte: And we still gonna I'm moving.
• 49:58
  Shelley Meche'tte: Because I'm not, I'm not trying to build my followers.
• 50:01
  Shelley Meche'tte: I don't care.
• 50:02
  Shelley Meche'tte: Follow or don't.
• 50:04
  Shelley Meche'tte: But the ones who do follow, we're gonna align ourselves with Christ and we're gonna allow him to order our steps so that we'll be able to build a prosperous life and business.
• 50:16
  Shelley Meche'tte: We're not leaving nothing behind and relationships and everything else that God has for us.
• 50:21
  Shelley Meche'tte: But we're gonna do it with him being the compass and not us trying to guide God.
• 50:28
  Khalila McCoy: Yes.
• 50:28
  Khalila McCoy: We're in faith, right?
• 50:30
  Khalila McCoy: We know like blessings in the storm.
• 50:32
  Khalila McCoy: And nobody wants to go through the storm.
• 50:34
  Khalila McCoy: It's hard, it's horrible.
• 50:36
  Khalila McCoy: And like you said, we're like, God, why?
• 50:37
  Khalila McCoy: Like, there was no other way you could teach me this.
• 50:40
  Khalila McCoy: Like, what do you feel like you learned through this?
• 50:45
  Khalila McCoy: Other than like your business and stuff.
• 50:47
  Khalila McCoy: It could be about you, about your family, about the world.
• 50:49
  Khalila McCoy: Like, what do you feel like you have gained from this experience?
• 50:52
  Shelley Meche'tte: That honestly, life is a gift and you're not in control.
• 50:57
  Shelley Meche'tte: It doesn't matter.
• 50:58
  Shelley Meche'tte: You don't get to control the death date.
• 51:01
  Shelley Meche'tte: So do everything you've been called to in the dash.
• 51:04
  Shelley Meche'tte: I have no control of that.
• 51:06
  Shelley Meche'tte: I wake up every morning not knowing if I'm going to bed tonight.
• 51:11
  Shelley Meche'tte: And I know that to be a truth because it happened.
• 51:15
  Shelley Meche'tte: I woke up, I went to the ER, and not one time did I ever think that I would end up in a hospital bed clinging to life.
• 51:23
  Shelley Meche'tte: That wasn't part of the plan.
• 51:25
  Shelley Meche'tte: And so when I get up in the morning, it is a true gift because I understand in a way that I didn't understand before, that there's no promises when it comes to the expansion of life.
• 51:38
  Shelley Meche'tte: There are no guarantees.
• 51:39
  Shelley Meche'tte: The only guarantee that I have in this life is that it's gonna come to an end.
• 51:43
  Shelley Meche'tte: That's the only guarantee that I have is that this life ends.
• 51:48
  Shelley Meche'tte: So, whatever I'm gonna do in that dash, I want to make sure that I empty every single thing out in me.
• 51:55
  Shelley Meche'tte: When I leave this earth, I want to leave empty.
• 51:58
  Shelley Meche'tte: I want to be coughing up dust.
• 52:00
  Shelley Meche'tte: That's how your girl wants to be.
• 52:04
  Shelley Meche'tte: Because I did everything everyone, I poured all that I was supposed to in the purpose that God has provided and given.
• 52:12
  Shelley Meche'tte: So, as I said before, while there was nothing wrong with what I was doing before, the question I had to ask myself is was it aligned with purpose?
• 52:21
  Shelley Meche'tte: That was the question.
• 52:23
  Shelley Meche'tte: Not did it benefit others, not the accolades, not how great it was.
• 52:28
  Shelley Meche'tte: Every, you know, the thing, the programs that I've done have been great.
• 52:31
  Shelley Meche'tte: All of that's been great.
• 52:32
  Shelley Meche'tte: The question now was, was it aligned?
• 52:35
  Shelley Meche'tte: And so now that's all I want.
• 52:38
  Shelley Meche'tte: I want those things that are aligned because even though those things were wonderful, if they weren't purposeful, if they weren't connected to my purpose, then it wasn't really fruitful.
• 52:50
  Shelley Meche'tte: Not for what I was called to.
• 52:52
  Shelley Meche'tte: It was fruitful in a world sense, sure, but it wasn't fruitful to my calling.
• 52:57
  Shelley Meche'tte: And that's what matters.
• 52:59
  Shelley Meche'tte: The grave is filled with calling and purpose.
• 53:03
  Shelley Meche'tte: I don't want to add to it.
• 53:05
  Khalila McCoy: I like that.
• 53:06
  Khalila McCoy: That was good.
• 53:07
  Khalila McCoy: So what would you say to our listeners today?
• 53:10
  Khalila McCoy: What can they take away?
• 53:11
  Khalila McCoy: If they take away one thing, how can they rise after hearing your story?
• 53:17
  Shelley Meche'tte: Know that you're purposed.
• 53:18
  Shelley Meche'tte: That's the thing that I want you to know.
• 53:20
  Shelley Meche'tte: Know that you have been created and designed deliberately.
• 53:24
  Shelley Meche'tte: Your handprint is yours, baby.
• 53:27
  Shelley Meche'tte: Can't nobody be you?
• 53:28
  Shelley Meche'tte: And I do mean nobody.
• 53:30
  Shelley Meche'tte: There's not anyone on the face of this earth who is going to be able to stand in your place.
• 53:37
  Shelley Meche'tte: There are lives that will only be touched because of you.
• 53:40
  Shelley Meche'tte: Because of you.
• 53:42
  Shelley Meche'tte: There are people who will hear my story, say, oh wow, that's great.
• 53:47
  Shelley Meche'tte: Look what God did.
• 53:48
  Shelley Meche'tte: And they'll move on.
• 53:49
  Shelley Meche'tte: But yet they'll hear your story, how you stumped your toe on a bike, and all of a sudden they whole world has turned around.
• 53:55
  Shelley Meche'tte: Because you are the connection.
• 53:58
  Shelley Meche'tte: You are the person.
• 54:00
  Shelley Meche'tte: So if there would be anything I would want people to know, I will want them to know that you are golden.
• 54:08
  Shelley Meche'tte: You are unique.
• 54:10
  Shelley Meche'tte: You are special.
• 54:12
  Shelley Meche'tte: And you are the apple of God's eye.
• 54:15
  Shelley Meche'tte: There will never be another one quite like you.
• 54:22
  Khalila McCoy: Thank you.
• 54:22
  Khalila McCoy: I feel so special right now.
• 54:24
  Khalila McCoy: That was so wonderful.
• 54:28
  Khalila McCoy: And you were right.
• 54:29
  Khalila McCoy: That's why I wanted to have this podcast, right?
• 54:32
  Khalila McCoy: Is for people to see like how powerful they are and how if we kind of come together and listen to each other's stories and figure things out, like we are not that different.
• 54:41
  Khalila McCoy: Like you said, we all have a purpose.
• 54:43
  Khalila McCoy: We all are meant for something.
• 54:45
  Khalila McCoy: And finding that and standing strong in who you are.
• 54:49
  Khalila McCoy: Yes.
• 54:49
  Khalila McCoy: And it doesn't take away from who someone else is.
• 54:51
  Khalila McCoy: We build together.
• 54:53
  Khalila McCoy: And I feel like you have embodied that in everything that you shared today.
• 54:57
  Khalila McCoy: So I really, really appreciate what you've shared with us.
• 55:02
  Khalila McCoy: I appreciate, I know you said you're a private person.
• 55:04
  Khalila McCoy: So I'm sure getting on podcasts and talking to strangers.
• 55:08
  Shelley Meche'tte: I like, I don't know if they want to do this, but what I love is that, you know, I'm I'm a multi-faceted, you know, multifaceted person like all of us.
• 55:16
  Shelley Meche'tte: And so this is my this is what I do, and this is what I love.
• 55:20
  Shelley Meche'tte: I love speaking.
• 55:21
  Shelley Meche'tte: I love empowering women.
• 55:23
  Shelley Meche'tte: I love doing doing events.
• 55:26
  Shelley Meche'tte: And once it's over, I love leaving.
• 55:29
  Shelley Meche'tte: Yes.
• 55:30
  Shelley Meche'tte: I love to get more.
• 55:33
  Shelley Meche'tte: And I love to not talk to you.
• 55:36
  Shelley Meche'tte: That's what I'm doing.
• 55:37
  Shelley Meche'tte: You know, but while I'm there, you you can't tear me away because that's what I was made to do.
• 55:44
  Shelley Meche'tte: That's what I was created to do.
• 55:46
  Shelley Meche'tte: I was created to pour life into others.
• 55:49
  Shelley Meche'tte: The gifts that God have given me, they're not for me.
• 55:52
  Shelley Meche'tte: They're for a breakthrough in you or whatever else you need.
• 55:56
  Shelley Meche'tte: Whatever you need, God has given me a word to bless your life.
• 56:00
  Shelley Meche'tte: And I take that seriously, and I love every part of it.
• 56:04
  Shelley Meche'tte: But once that part of me is closed, once the business is off for the day, I'm back to my shale.
• 56:11
  Shelley Meche'tte: Yeah.
• 56:13
  Khalila McCoy: Well, you have to refresh and then pour into your family as well and spend time with them.
• 56:18
  Khalila McCoy: So that's definitely good having that boundary.
• 56:22
  Shelley Meche'tte: Once I close that door, everything is closed off.
• 56:24
  Shelley Meche'tte: There, there's there's absolutely nothing.
• 56:26
  Shelley Meche'tte: Nothing.
• 56:29
  Khalila McCoy: So for the moments that you are on and available, where can people find you and connect with you?
• 56:34
  Shelley Meche'tte: Yes, you can find me um on my website, which is www.shellymashe.com.
• 56:40
  Shelley Meche'tte: That's S-H-E-L-L-E-Y M-E-C-H-E-T-T-E.
• 56:45
  Shelley Meche'tte: And so it's a little under construction.
• 56:47
  Shelley Meche'tte: So, you know, you know, one button may work, the other button may not work.
• 56:52
  Shelley Meche'tte: But it's it's coming, y'all.
• 56:54
  Shelley Meche'tte: It's coming.
• 56:54
  Shelley Meche'tte: Okay.
• 56:54
  Shelley Meche'tte: And we can always connect on social media, on um Instagram as well as Facebook.
• 57:00
  Shelley Meche'tte: We can connect there.
• 57:01
  Shelley Meche'tte: It is at my name as well.
• 57:03
  Shelley Meche'tte: And I would love to leave your listeners a gift and we could connect with that as well.
• 57:07
  Shelley Meche'tte: I love to leave them my five-day journal of being able to refresh and realign.
• 57:12
  Shelley Meche'tte: And so we'll be able to connect there as well.
• 57:15
  Shelley Meche'tte: And I'll leave that link for your listeners today.
• 57:18
  Khalila McCoy: Perfect.
• 57:19
  Khalila McCoy: All right, Miss Shelley.
• 57:20
  Khalila McCoy: I really appreciate your time, like I said, and we will keep in touch and follow what's going on with you.
• 57:27
  Shelley Meche'tte: Thank you so much.
• 57:28
  Shelley Meche'tte: It was a pleasure.
• 57:33
  Khalila McCoy: Thank you for a great conversation, Shelly, and for your uplifting and powerful words.
• 57:39
  Khalila McCoy: I kid you not when I say I left this conversation feeling like I could do anything.
• 57:45
  Khalila McCoy: Don't forget to check out the show notes today.
• 57:49
  Khalila McCoy: You will find two links.
• 57:51
  Khalila McCoy: The first is to Shelly's five-day journey with God journal.
• 57:55
  Khalila McCoy: I haven't finished it yet, but I have read through them all.
• 57:58
  Khalila McCoy: Yes, I looked ahead.
• 58:00
  Khalila McCoy: And the prompts are requiring me to look within and also realize that I need to surrender a few more things to God.
• 58:07
  Khalila McCoy: But you know me.
• 58:08
  Khalila McCoy: I love reflecting, so this journal is perfect.
• 58:12
  Khalila McCoy: The second link is to join a wait list for Shelly's new book, God Said No, a Stroke Survivor's Story of Resilience, Recovery, and Renewal.
• 58:24
  Khalila McCoy: When you join the wait list, you'll be entered for a chance to win a personally signed copy of the book, and you'll get a link to join the virtual release party.
• 58:34
  Khalila McCoy: The book drops on May 27th, and the release party is May 30th at 10 a.m.
• 58:40
  Khalila McCoy: Pacific.
• 58:41
  Khalila McCoy: I will be at the party so you and I can go together.
• 58:45
  Khalila McCoy: So tell me, what did you think of today's episode?
• 58:49
  Khalila McCoy: What are you taking away with you that will help add value to your life and to the lives of those around you?
• 58:55
  Khalila McCoy: Send me a text using the link at the top of the show notes or drop a line under this week's episode art on Instagram at WhereWeRisepod.
• 59:05
  Khalila McCoy: Alright, y'all, that's all from me for now.
• 59:10
  Khalila McCoy: But as you move on through the rest of your day, I hope you take a moment to listen a little louder to yourself, to the people you love, and to the things that connect us in ways we sometimes forget to notice.
• 59:24
  Khalila McCoy: I'll meet you back here next time.
• 59:26
  Khalila McCoy: See ya bye.