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394 Cómo solucionar problemas económicos en el matrimonio parte 4 · Reflexiones cristianas con José Ordóñez

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  Podcast number three hundred ninety- four How to solve economic problems in marriage?
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  This is chapter number four of this podcast series. So if you need to
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  start from chapter number one, you have to go to podcast number three hundred
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  ninety- one. Today we will be talking about how God equates economic problems
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  with the sexual problems of a marriage. We will talk about the fear that
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  couples often have of openly and sincerely facing all economic problems. It will be
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  our fourth chapter in this podcast series entitled How to Solve Economic Problems in Marriage?
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  Welcome, you sat down. At that time he was a hairy beast.
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  I' m a bald beast today, but at that time I was
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  a hairy beast who got aggressive when you tried to educate me and tell me
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  truth. Yeah, yeah, that' s right. But I think everything
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  has to be done in the right time and in the right way. We
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  can get into the heart of our partner by telling the truth in love,
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  saying the faults in love, that is, how you are doing it,
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  understanding your partner what is doing wrong, how he is doing it in the
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  right way at the right time. And that didn' t go on long.
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  In fact, it was only the first months of marriage and he already
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  began to understand that it was not right, that it was wrong to keep
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  having like that habit, not bad habit and because there was already a time
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  when there was no more to pawn. Then, too, from the morning,
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  that is, love at about two months old. I' m done
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  pawning. Yes, well, there was no more, nothing else, everything
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  was already lost. I' d learn it. He gave us a chance.
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  Yeah, there was a time when I had to go, but well,
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  no. It is not, then, a question of just talking about
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  our personal experience as such. That, then, is nice and special because
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  we can share it with you as it has been, how the process has
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  been for thirty- four years and how we start this relationship and see we
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  will love what, because it is that when you interrupt the prayer that I
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  am going to say. Come on, give it to me I forgot.
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  What' s not gonna be is that he forgets me, but he already
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  forgot me. No, no, no, no, say it, when
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  we go to God' s word and start meditating and when we' re
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  going to get to know a little bit, the couples, the conflicts that
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  we have the opportunity to be able to help those in need, we definitely
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  realize that the economic factor and I don' t know how many of those
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  who are here can agree with that. The economic part, the finances,
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  the money is one of the most difficult things to fix in a relationship,
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  to be able to put them in a relationship, because the money and the
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  mismanagement of the money, the scarcity and all that entails the bad behavior of
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  the connyug makes the tension in the relationship so strong that it starts to break
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  and to break, and it is very difficult after to restore, not only
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  restore the economy, but the confidence in the person, knowing that it will
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  not fail again, that I can definitely trust that it will start to do
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  things right, that it will start to compromise. And then, when we
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  see the word of God, we see that there are two factors that are
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  very intense in the conflict of couples, one that is the part of poorly
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  managed sexuality and the other the part of poorly managed money. And I want
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  love. I want to read this verse that we have not read in order
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  to base this which I am saying and is in Hebrews thirteen, four,
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  five. He says,“ Have marriage and conjugal faithfulness in high esteem,
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  for God will judge adulterers and all those who commit sexual immorality. Stay free
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  from the love of money and be content with what you have, for God
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  has said I will never leave you, I will abandon you. They can
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  be noticed in this verse are both. The two things put the same nive
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  on the same level, that is, have the conflict, economic conflict.
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  They' re there because they' re the ones that create the most attention.
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  So one of the things that we want through this, is to really
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  tell them it is necessary to start having a wise management of the economy.
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  And how can I help my husband or my wife who is having a weakness,
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  who is having a bad handling, who is being lazy, lazy,
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  who is not helping me, and how is this that is creating a conflict
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  for me, how can I do so that this is what gives me security,
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  tranquility and that I start to overcome all this problem and in the end
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  become the person who can give me security, because everything that happened with Joseph,
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  that we can share with you in the beginning, all that is reversed
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  and today I can have security. That is the change that makes security and
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  marital union and that all this can be strengthened more my love to reverse beautiful.
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  I want to say something about why there are marriages that end years ahead
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  without having resolved many of their marital conflicts. It' s because people tend
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  to be afraid to face the problem. The worst thing that can happen when
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  two people just get married is that, seeing the structures of thought and behavior,
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  the bad structures, the bad behaviors, the indisciplines and the sins of
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  the spouse in trying to solve them. If there is a clash and if
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  there is a conflict, there are people who renounce the possibility of facing them
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  again to put them in order. I mean, we' re afraid of
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  conflict to resolve to see the problem, so a next structure can be built
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  that' s based on bad foundations or that' s distorted or unsolved what
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  I mean. I tried the first few times to talk to that person so
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  that he could correct his bad economic course, but as he got so aggressive,
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  I decided I would never touch on him again. Or that we'
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  re just going to handle this the next way. He on his side,
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  I, on my side, that' s the worst of decisions. One
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  of the things we' re going to talk about on Sunday. It'
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  s the right way, like we have to fix our differences, because people
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  usually believe that bad marriages have arguments. They' re the ones who have
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  arguments. And, as we' re going to see it on Sunday,
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  good marriages have arguments. It' s not having no arguments, it'
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  s knowing how to have arguments. So, on Sunday we' re going
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  to learn how. I have to sort out the differences I have with my
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  pussy. So sometimes there are marriages and this I say in general I don
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  ' t know what. Both you in all the counseling advices you' ve
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  had in that regard, but I in the vast majority of marriage counselings I
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  ' ve had in this regard. When there are big financial problems, it
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  ' s because they haven' t solved it for years. Because everyone took
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  their side and there they manage and there they manage to survive. It is
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  podcast number three hundred ninety- four, but there are three hundred ninety-
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  three more waiting for you there at Joseph Ordonez Cristiano. I hope you have
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  taken careful note and that these podcasts of this economic series can continue to teach
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  you how to have a healthy economy in the family. For now, I
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  wish you a beautiful day that God will give you wisdom to handle some coins
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  or the many bills that come into your hands, may God bless you