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Lemme Get My Life with Cristina Elkins · We Talk Back

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  Speaker 1: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who
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  Speaker 1: talk back. What's up, y'all?
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  Speaker 2: Thank you for tuning in for a new episode of
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  Speaker 2: We Talk Back, a show dedicated to you niggas and
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  Speaker 2: these hoes. It's your co-host AJ Holiday.
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  Speaker 1: What's up, Tam?
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  Speaker 2: Hey, girl.
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  Speaker 1: Hey, y'all. It's me, Official Tambelle. I love y'all. Thank
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  Speaker 1: y'all for tuning in. Hey, girl. How you doing?
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  Speaker 3: What's up, y'all? I'm chilling. I love y'all.
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  Speaker 2: Girl, why the fuck do I get judged for not
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  Speaker 2: telling people I love them every episode?
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  Speaker 1: I'm confused.
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  Speaker 3: Because we went live yesterday and people was hating on me.
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  Speaker 3: They want your love.
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  Speaker 1: They want your love. They got it.
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  Speaker 3: They got it.
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  Speaker 2: I appreciate y'all. That's what I do. I appreciate all
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  Speaker 2: of our listeners. A thousand trillion percent.
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  Speaker 1: Okay?
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  Speaker 3: Don't ever be mistaken. All right. Tanban, Tanban don't love me.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, AJ don't love me. Tammy, why is that?
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  Speaker 1: Like, I don't give a fuck. I don't. How was
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  Speaker 1: your weekend?
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  Speaker 3: What the fuck did I do this weekend? I did
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  Speaker 3: nothing really. I just chilled out. Same shit.
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  Speaker 2: I was supposed to go to this Battle of the
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  Speaker 2: Bands on Sunday, but I skipped out on that too.
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  Speaker 3: So I was just in the house this weekend.
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  Speaker 1: Did I do anything this weekend? You went on a date.
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  Speaker 1: Did you not?
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  Speaker 4: No.
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  Speaker 1: I went on a date. Baby, this baby was 26
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  Speaker 1: years old. I know I'm only 32 in trans age,
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  Speaker 1: so that didn't make it that much of an age difference.
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  Speaker 1: But that's just the conversation was just not giving what
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  Speaker 1: I needed it to give at all. I ain't going
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  Speaker 1: to talk about anything else. I'm not even going to
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  Speaker 1: go there. Just know it was not the best date.
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  Speaker 1: And I put on my fur coat. wasted my damn coat.
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  Speaker 2: You ain't post no pictures so you can wear it
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  Speaker 2: again yep yep sure is let it go any below
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  Speaker 2: 30 out this bitch and the coat is back out
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  Speaker 2: you just wait wait to put the fur on I
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  Speaker 2: ain't wear mine yet this year yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Global warming they gonna make it where we can't wear
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  Speaker 1: this bitch around here in a minute Charlotte ain't getting
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  Speaker 1: no snow.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's definitely, I remember like October through February as
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  Speaker 3: a kid. It used to be like brick outside. Like
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  Speaker 3: we had some damn 80 degree weather a couple weeks
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  Speaker 3: ago and then it dropped back down recently.
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  Speaker 1: Right. Like my grandma said, y'all better get y'all house
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  Speaker 1: in order. Can't tell the season. Jesus coming back soon.
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  Speaker 3: Better get it together.
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  Speaker 1: Shame. I used to be so mad at my grandma
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  Speaker 1: for that. Like, why we got to get our house
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  Speaker 1: in order while you old? You done did all your
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  Speaker 1: whole shit. Now you old and now I got to
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  Speaker 1: get my house in order. Ain't that some bullshit?
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  Speaker 3: The judgment.
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  Speaker 1: The judgment. All right. This week in stupid internet news,
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  Speaker 1: the sins of the week. Did y'all see Franklin Saint,
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  Speaker 1: also known as Damson Idris? I think that might be
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  Speaker 1: his name. And Lori Harvey have taken their relationship to
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  Speaker 1: the next level. And Damson posted on Instagram a picture
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  Speaker 1: of them kissing and all in love look like. You
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  Speaker 1: saw that?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, so last month they were trying to pair her
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  Speaker 2: with our boyfriend, Jonathan Majors.
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  Speaker 3: But apparently it's been Damson. She's been dating. So the
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  Speaker 3: internet is trying to drag her, as always, per usual.
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  Speaker 3: Meek Mills took the online and was like.
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  Speaker 2: basically like y'all need to get y'all home girl type
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  Speaker 2: shit like why y'all let y'all home girl fuck all
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  Speaker 2: these niggas like whose business is that we don't know
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  Speaker 2: who this woman has had sex with and I'm pretty
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  Speaker 2: sure is less than the regular degular smegular woman out
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  Speaker 2: here okay and here's.
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  Speaker 1: The thing right if you put a microscope on any
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  Speaker 1: woman's life you might see a couple men and any
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  Speaker 1: single woman right you microscope her life you'll see that
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  Speaker 1: she's dated men you know especially if she's attractive and
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  Speaker 1: she can have her pick of the litter And they
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  Speaker 1: calling her a pass around. Let's wait. All right, we'll
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  Speaker 1: pass her around. But when's she going to be passed
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  Speaker 1: to your ass?
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  Speaker 4: Never.
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  Speaker 1: And that's why you made it.
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  Speaker 3: She was on your Christmas list two Christmases ago. Your
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  Speaker 3: ass still ain't hit.
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  Speaker 1: Four Christmases ago.
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  Speaker 2: And she went to different niggas and not your ass.
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  Speaker 2: You get on my goddamn nerve. I wish Meek Mills
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  Speaker 2: could just.
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  Speaker 1: I still love Mick Mills, but he is just very
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  Speaker 1: problematic lately. How you getting a boxing match at the
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  Speaker 1: boxing match? Sit down and watch.
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  Speaker 3: Put your hands down and watch the festivities.
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  Speaker 2: So now I did see recently where Lori Harvey was
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  Speaker 2: on an E! News interview and she was asked, you know,
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  Speaker 2: what's like some of the misconceptions that And like the
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  Speaker 2: biggest rumors she's heard about herself. So one, she said,
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  Speaker 2: you know, I even heard that I was a lesbian.
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  Speaker 2: So she said that was a rumor. I was like, damn.
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  Speaker 1: Shut up.
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  Speaker 3: Goddamn lesbian. Shut up. You don't even like coochie for real.
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  Speaker 4: Girl.
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  Speaker 1: No, I just be talking, man. Go ahead.
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  Speaker 2: But she said, oh, the other misconception was, or the
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  Speaker 2: other big rumor was that she had dated a son
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  Speaker 2: and father. She said that wasn't true. You know, they're
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  Speaker 2: talking about Diddy and Justin. So I wonder which one
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  Speaker 2: she actually dated.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 3: Because you were hanging out with.
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  Speaker 1: Diddy.
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  Speaker 3: Both.
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  Speaker 1: Right. Yeah, you definitely, we saw. Yeah, we see you
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  Speaker 1: out with Diddy, girl. I ain't mad at her.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, just because she hanging out with men, that does
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  Speaker 2: not equate to her smashing everybody. I need people to
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  Speaker 2: mind their business when it comes to Lori Harvey. She's
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  Speaker 2: a beautiful girl, and shit, she popping.
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  Speaker 1: And she not getting pregnant by none of these niggas.
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  Speaker 1: That's the blessing in it all. I love it. Don't
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  Speaker 1: let these men come in you, ladies, all 23.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: All right, so look, next for Sin, stupid internet news. This,
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  Speaker 2: I actually saw this on Spiritual World. So this is
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  Speaker 2: a Twitter feed from a woman. Her at is my teacher,
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  Speaker 2: a freak. I cream in your coffee.
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  Speaker 1: So apparently her.
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  Speaker 2: And her boyfriend, they do OnlyFans videos together. And like,
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  Speaker 2: essentially they're porn stars. So she took to Twitter to
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  Speaker 2: explain what had been happening between her and her boyfriend.
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  Speaker 2: So she said, can I tell you guys a super
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  Speaker 2: embarrassing story that really had me hurt? We went to
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  Speaker 2: go work with this girl, and when she would suck
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  Speaker 2: his dick, it would be on brick. When we would switch,
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  Speaker 2: his dick would go on noodle. Then when she was
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  Speaker 2: riding him, he almost nutted four times. That was a
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  Speaker 2: day I lied to myself, even.
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  Speaker 3: Though I knew what it really was.
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  Speaker 2: Being a content creator is fun until you are working
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  Speaker 2: with other girls.
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  Speaker 3: I guess porn is content creation now.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. If you put a camera on anything,
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  Speaker 1: it's now content creation.
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  Speaker 2: Working with other girls and your man can't keep his
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  Speaker 2: dick up for you, but every time it's the other
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  Speaker 2: girl's turn, he's like a brick. The shit nobody tells you.
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  Speaker 2: So she actually took to Twitter spaces, her and the boyfriend.
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  Speaker 2: Slash co-worker.
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  Speaker 1: Slash content creator. Right.
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  Speaker 2: To talk about what's actually transpiring in their relationship. And
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  Speaker 2: he was basically saying it has nothing to do with
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  Speaker 2: you physically. I think oftentimes women, if a man isn't
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  Speaker 2: showing us that affection or intimacy, we automatically go to
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  Speaker 2: think it's like there's something wrong with how I look.
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  Speaker 2: And then you're comparing yourself to how another woman looks.
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  Speaker 2: So if you're in a sexual setting, y'all fucking and
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  Speaker 2: all this stuff, and his dick is getting hard for
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  Speaker 2: somebody else and not you, he doesn't like me no more.
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  Speaker 3: He doesn't like my pussy no more. He don't like
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  Speaker 3: my face no more.
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  Speaker 2: And also, she was saying the girls are thicker, bigger
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  Speaker 2: than her, more thicker girls.
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  Speaker 3: So it's like, if that's what you like, why don't
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  Speaker 3: you just do that?
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  Speaker 2: So on Twitter spaces, he was saying, it doesn't have
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  Speaker 2: anything to do with how you look aesthetically. Um, there's
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  Speaker 2: other things like, um, one is that this is a
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  Speaker 2: new girl. We know men like variety, especially if you're
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  Speaker 2: actually letting him have variety. Like he's fucking you and
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  Speaker 2: whoever else y'all recording it. That's a good time for
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  Speaker 2: a man, right? You, you've invited this thing into y'all
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  Speaker 2: relationship slash, uh, coworker relationship.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 2: Um, But I think it's the home things that's been
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  Speaker 2: getting to him. But my thing was, why don't you
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  Speaker 2: have a conversation with her privately? Why the hell is
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  Speaker 2: this conversation taking place on goddamn Twitter spaces? Even if
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  Speaker 2: y'all have like this public life, that's hella embarrassing.
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  Speaker 4: Right.
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  Speaker 1: But I mean, if y'all fucking on camera, it seems
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  Speaker 1: like y'all could talk about it in public, right? Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: But apparently they can't because she's thinking like, oh, it's
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  Speaker 2: how I look is the problem.
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  Speaker 3: He's like, no, I don't really like your personality anymore.
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  Speaker 3: That's why his dick ain't getting hard.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, because it's not like the dick don't work. It
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  Speaker 1: clearly works. Right.
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  Speaker 3: It just don't work for you.
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  Speaker 1: I would have knocked that whole motherfucking set all over cameras, lights.
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  Speaker 1: It would have looked like an episode of Jerry Springer.
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  Speaker 1: Because don't do that. Don't play me like that. Your
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  Speaker 1: dick better rise. You got 30 seconds for that motherfucker
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  Speaker 1: to get up before this shit turn into something different. Bitch,
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  Speaker 1: you better get out the way.
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  Speaker 3: But I thought that shit was hilarious.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: They might need to go to therapy or just split up.
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  Speaker 1: Y'all already. Yeah, I think it's time to break up.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's time to break up.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Could you imagine that? Well, first of all, I'm just
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  Speaker 1: not participating in nothing like that.
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  Speaker 3: Exactly.
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  Speaker 1: I don't think, yeah. But I could not imagine him
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  Speaker 1: going noodle for me and then rock hard for somebody
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  Speaker 1: else and I'm standing there looking at me?
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  Speaker 4: Mm-mm.
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  Speaker 3: Mm-mm.
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  Speaker 1: Everybody got to die in this beat.
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  Speaker 3: Mm-mm.
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  Speaker 1: He got somebody else to do it. Meanwhile, Michael B.
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  Speaker 1: Jordan is rumored to be dating some white model named
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  Speaker 1: Amber Jepsen. So Michael B. Jordan has been spending more
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  Speaker 1: time in the UK because he's like the newest minority
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  Speaker 1: owner of the English soccer team, AFC Bournemouth. And they
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  Speaker 1: saying that he's there for that, but he's also out
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  Speaker 1: there with this new girl and she white. No shade
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  Speaker 1: to white girls. Thank y'all for listening. I want him
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  Speaker 1: to be with a black woman. Girl. I love me
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  Speaker 1: some Michael B. Jordan.
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  Speaker 2: Nah, I think that I was surprised him and Lori
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  Speaker 2: Harvey was together since we back on them. I was
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  Speaker 2: surprised they were even in a relationship. I think his
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  Speaker 2: personality may be more suited for a white woman.
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  Speaker 1: I think that's about right. I think that... Ain't no
• 11:21
  Speaker 1: way Killmonger is more suited for a white woman. I
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  Speaker 1: cannot see that.
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  Speaker 3: He was playing a real nigga. He ain't a real nigga.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, he is. I don't accept that.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know. I'm more proud to all those people. Like,
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  Speaker 2: maybe they weren't supposed to be together. Hopefully, it's a
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  Speaker 2: relationship with this woman.
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  Speaker 3: And I don't know. We've heard some other little side
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  Speaker 3: things about Michael B.
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  Speaker 4: Jordan.
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  Speaker 3: So, I hope.
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  Speaker 1: I hope it's.
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  Speaker 3: A real relationship.
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  Speaker 1: How you doing?
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  Speaker 2: You know, because they'd be okay with that.
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  Speaker 1: Like, for real. They'd be down for that shit. All right,
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  Speaker 1: so we've been real lighthearted, but this next topic is
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  Speaker 1: not lighthearted at all. Over the weekend, Darius Miles, he's
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  Speaker 1: a young man that plays basketball for Alabama. He shot
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  Speaker 1: a young lady, 23 years old, and killed her. And
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  Speaker 1: the narrative is stating that he killed her because she
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  Speaker 1: didn't want to talk to him and that he shot
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  Speaker 1: into the vehicle that she was in. And she passed
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  Speaker 1: from this. According to Tuscaloosa Police Department, the shooting occurred
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  Speaker 1: after an argument that unfolded in the strip-off University Boulevard. Oh,
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  Speaker 1: that's really a sad chain of events for this young
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  Speaker 1: woman and this young man, like, because he's going to
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  Speaker 1: prison and she is no longer with us. Yeah. You
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  Speaker 1: really have to think about, like, the mindset of a
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  Speaker 1: person that would kill you for not wanting to talk
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  Speaker 1: to them. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So the victim's name is 23-year-old Jamia Harris. And I
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  Speaker 2: can kind of relate to this situation because, Tammy, I
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  Speaker 2: don't know about you, but when we started Benedict, like,
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  Speaker 2: my freshman year, my first month, I literally called my mama, like,
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  Speaker 2: I want to come home.
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  Speaker 3: Because the men on campus was being real nasty. Like,
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  Speaker 3: if you didn't holler at them, like, you getting cussed out.
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  Speaker 3: This is really happening to me in real life.
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  Speaker 1: I remember at.
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  Speaker 3: You probably know this nigga too. We'll talk about it offline.
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  Speaker 2: But really wanting to fight me at a fucking football
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  Speaker 2: game because I didn't talk to his homeboy.
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  Speaker 3: Not even him.
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  Speaker 2: I got cussed out because I didn't talk to his homeboy.
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  Speaker 2: So this type of shit really, really happens because we
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  Speaker 2: know the male ego can be very, very fragile.
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  Speaker 1: Fragile. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying?
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  Speaker 2: So now as women, we have to try to... navigate
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  Speaker 2: that in the safest way possible. And to me, the
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  Speaker 2: safest way is to stay strapped. I don't know about y'all,
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  Speaker 2: but just in case.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And that's sad that it has to be that way. Like,
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  Speaker 1: you can't turn down a person if you're not interested
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  Speaker 1: without having to be concerned with your life. You know?
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  Speaker 1: That's really sad.
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  Speaker 3: I wonder if alcohol, you know, was involved.
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  Speaker 1: Played a part.
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  Speaker 2: Him and another guy who didn't actually attend the school,
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  Speaker 2: they were both arrested. this type of shit happens and
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  Speaker 2: it needs to stop. This is not the first time
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  Speaker 2: where a woman has been violated for just, you know,
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  Speaker 2: dismissing the advances of a man.
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  Speaker 3: And it's disgusting. It's like, can we take into consideration, like,
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  Speaker 3: I'm your sister, I'm your mama, look at me in
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  Speaker 3: that way.
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  Speaker 2: And then maybe you won't violate me. I'm still somebody's daughter,
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  Speaker 2: you know? So this is unfortunate. And this girl is
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  Speaker 2: a mother.
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  Speaker 3: She has a child.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, so now the child is motherless. Yes.
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  Speaker 3: Mm-hmm. Yeah, all because you can't smash. That's all it
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  Speaker 3: was about.
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  Speaker 1: If I feel like a nigga a little too scary
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  Speaker 1: coming up to me, asking me for my number, if
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  Speaker 1: I'm not in a position to run and get away fast,
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  Speaker 1: I will just give them my number. I'll give them
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  Speaker 1: a number. Yeah, but some of these niggas be calling
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  Speaker 1: you in your face.
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  Speaker 2: Like, they gonna call your number right there in your face.
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  Speaker 2: They're like, this ain't your real number. That has happened
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  Speaker 2: to me before.
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  Speaker 1: Called you right there. Yeah, I usually give them the
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  Speaker 1: real number. Gotta go. Get the fuck up out of there.
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  Speaker 2: Look, I usually give them the real number, let them
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  Speaker 2: call one time and block them.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Do not answer.
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  Speaker 3: That's all I do. That's all I do.
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  Speaker 2: But it's a shame that we have to even go
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  Speaker 2: through those measures. But I mean, it's just the world
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  Speaker 2: that we live in. And it's nothing that, I don't
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  Speaker 2: think there's nothing that a woman can do differently than
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  Speaker 2: Something needs to change amongst men because we have a
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  Speaker 2: lot of real life predators out here. And they just
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  Speaker 2: have that predatory setting on. He could be a nice
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  Speaker 2: basketball player, good student.
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  Speaker 3: Straight A's, all that. But something happens. And that's in
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  Speaker 3: his setting. He doesn't have that filter on and not
• 15:50
  Speaker 3: be a fucking animal. Right.
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  Speaker 1: And take somebody's life because they don't want to talk
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  Speaker 1: to you. That's so wild to me. He probably should
• 15:57
  Speaker 1: have been in jail a long time ago if that
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  Speaker 1: was all it took.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, because there's no way this is the first time.
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  Speaker 2: He probably has been violating women before in some type
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  Speaker 2: of way. I don't understand how you go from loving
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  Speaker 2: women to this being what you do to a stranger.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know if he knew her. I don't know
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  Speaker 2: the official story, but this is what I saw a
• 16:17
  Speaker 2: family member put out on social media. Like, my child
• 16:20
  Speaker 2: is dead because she went and hollered at you, essentially.
• 16:25
  Speaker 2: Rest in peace to Jamia Harris, y'all.
• 16:27
  Speaker 3: Black on black crime, child.
• 16:28
  Speaker 1: Ladies, strap up, 2023. Get your gun. Listen, that's your
• 16:33
  Speaker 1: right as an American. Until they change the gun laws
• 16:35
  Speaker 1: and make it safer on this planet for us, practice it, baby. Yes.
• 16:40
  Speaker 3: Yep.
• 16:42
  Speaker 1: Okay, so as you're listening, I don't know if you knew,
• 16:44
  Speaker 1: but today is National Women's Healthy Weight Day, and it
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: falls on every Thursday of the third full week in January.
• 16:52
  Speaker 1: And we have something very important to tell you. Each
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: of us is unique in our own way. A healthy
• 16:57
  Speaker 1: weight is the natural body weight in relation to height.
• 17:00
  Speaker 1: Being healthy is defined by physical, mental, and social well-being,
• 17:04
  Speaker 1: which means getting the right amount of nutrition, exercise, mental stability,
• 17:08
  Speaker 1: and sleep. So the first thing that people notice about
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: us is our physical appearance, obviously. So it's no surprise
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: that we get so conscious when someone mentions our weight. Sadly,
• 17:18
  Speaker 1: many people believe that being thin is equal to being healthy. Y'all,
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: that is not true. Being skinny isn't always healthy. We
• 17:26
  Speaker 1: could be healthier than the person who weighs less than us.
• 17:29
  Speaker 1: We're going to have a conversation about being healthy and
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: what that looks like for all of us. So stay tuned.
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: All right, guys, I know before the break, I mentioned
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: that today is Women's Healthy Weight Day. So today we
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: got someone on very special and dear to my heart,
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: Miss Christina Elkins on Instagram. She's Organic Chrissy, and she
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: is all things healthy. She has taught me so much
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: about diet and exercise, and she's just a bad bitch overall.
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: So I just wanted to have a conversation with her
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: because I want all our listeners to live their best
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: healthy life and understand that you don't have to be
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: skinny to be healthy. So we're going to get into that.
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  Speaker 3: Hey, girl.
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  Speaker 4: What's up? It's great to see you guys. You guys
• 18:18
  Speaker 4: look beautiful.
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: You too, girl. Thank you. So do you. Y'all listen.
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: If y'all listen to Only Audio, I guess we ain't
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: putting out videos like that. But she has humongous, beautiful
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: Afro puffs. And she's just a bad bitch. She rock
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: rough and stuff with her Afro puffs.
• 18:33
  Speaker 4: All day, every day. Thank you guys for having me
• 18:37
  Speaker 4: on the show.
• 18:39
  Speaker 3: So, Christina.
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: Christina. You used to be a chubby girl.
• 18:43
  Speaker 4: Girl.
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: How did you transition? Like you, one day you woke
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: up and you was like, I want to be fit
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: or what happened?
• 18:50
  Speaker 4: To be honest with you, you know, especially now we
• 18:54
  Speaker 4: live in a world where, you know, plus size women
• 18:58
  Speaker 4: and just being comfortable within your body is a very
• 19:03
  Speaker 4: strong wave. And, you know, I always let people know
• 19:07
  Speaker 4: you have to love yourself every step of the way.
• 19:11
  Speaker 4: whether you're on the bigger end, the smaller end, it
• 19:13
  Speaker 4: doesn't matter. That self-love is key. But for me personally,
• 19:19
  Speaker 4: I am only 5'1, so I am truly a definition
• 19:22
  Speaker 4: of a shorty, okay? And at being 5'1, my biggest weight, well,
• 19:28
  Speaker 4: the last I stepped on the scale, I saw 217 pounds.
• 19:32
  Speaker 4: For anyone who is that short, that really feels like
• 19:35
  Speaker 4: 300 pounds, you know? So I was very uncomfortable. Did
• 19:39
  Speaker 4: I love who I was as a person?
• 19:41
  Speaker 3: Yes.
• 19:42
  Speaker 4: Was I still smiley, big personality, you know, everything that
• 19:47
  Speaker 4: Chrissy is now? I was still that girl. Great. mom,
• 19:51
  Speaker 4: great worker, great friend, but I was not happy with
• 19:55
  Speaker 4: how I felt in that weight. So I always tell
• 20:00
  Speaker 4: my ladies, listen, love yourself, but you wake, you got
• 20:03
  Speaker 4: to wake up to you every day. So if you
• 20:06
  Speaker 4: ever aren't fully liking what you see or how you
• 20:09
  Speaker 4: feel You have to make that change. And for me,
• 20:12
  Speaker 4: that change was going to the doctor, having my doctor
• 20:17
  Speaker 4: tell me, you're obese, but not even that. She told
• 20:21
  Speaker 4: me you have high cholesterol, you're pre-diabetic, and a couple
• 20:28
  Speaker 4: of other things that was linked to my lifestyle at
• 20:31
  Speaker 4: that time. Nobody wants to hear that news. So once
• 20:35
  Speaker 4: I heard that news for me, plus being uncomfortable with
• 20:40
  Speaker 4: the size and navigating with that plus size body at
• 20:44
  Speaker 4: that time, I decided to make the change.
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: And what did that change look like for you?
• 20:51
  Speaker 4: The first thing I knew I had to do was
• 20:54
  Speaker 4: change my diet. And it's like, I knew that. I
• 20:59
  Speaker 4: knew that before I became the expert that I am now.
• 21:05
  Speaker 4: I had a full blown relationship with food. Yes, a relationship.
• 21:10
  Speaker 4: And we all do. If you think about it, food
• 21:14
  Speaker 4: looks and feels different for all of us. A lot
• 21:17
  Speaker 4: of our memories, happy, mostly are linked to food. Certain
• 21:22
  Speaker 4: foods can bring up emotions. You know, certain drinks can
• 21:26
  Speaker 4: make you think about certain times. So like most Americans,
• 21:31
  Speaker 4: I had a love affair with food. And when you
• 21:34
  Speaker 4: couple that with the stressors of life, I was a
• 21:37
  Speaker 4: divorced single mom. So I was always working and grinding,
• 21:41
  Speaker 4: trying to provide the best for my children without the
• 21:44
  Speaker 4: support of their father. So that was a stress over
• 21:47
  Speaker 4: my head. The job I was working at the time
• 21:50
  Speaker 4: and their high sales demands, that was a stress over
• 21:53
  Speaker 4: my head. And just the day-to-day as we as women,
• 21:57
  Speaker 4: how we can just struggle with who we are, just
• 21:59
  Speaker 4: trying to really find our identities and and love ourselves
• 22:03
  Speaker 4: who we are. All of those stressors is what made
• 22:08
  Speaker 4: your girl take comfort in food.
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: Right. So I'm eating, I'm.
• 22:13
  Speaker 4: Drinking, I'm making any excuse. I'm getting off of work
• 22:16
  Speaker 4: from Nordstrom like, you know what? I'm going to go cheesecake.
• 22:20
  Speaker 4: I'm going to get me some small plates and a
• 22:23
  Speaker 4: couple of drink flights because my.
• 22:25
  Speaker 3: Boss didn't come here.
• 22:27
  Speaker 4: Like we make excuses for it.
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: When I can't, I'm single, so I can't eat no
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: dick up. So I be eating guacamole and chips and
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: shit like that.
• 22:36
  Speaker 4: Well, look, food is a comfort. Listen, food is a comfort, y'all.
• 22:40
  Speaker 4: And I feel like we know how to inject it
• 22:44
  Speaker 4: however and whenever we want to. If we're happy, it's
• 22:48
  Speaker 4: time to eat. If we're sad, it's time to eat.
• 22:50
  Speaker 4: If we're stressed, it's time to drink. So I was
• 22:53
  Speaker 4: going through all of those life emotions and food was
• 22:56
  Speaker 4: my comfort point blank for it.
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: How do you separate yourself? I need to separate myself
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: from that relationship. I have a toxic relationship with food,
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: I guess. Because there's this place down the street called
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: Crave and they got these two cupcakes for $ 16 and
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: they big as fuck. And when I'm feeling any type
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: of way, I will order two Bugs Bunny cupcakes. But
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: how do I, like if I'm sad, How do I
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: not order two Bugs Bunny cupcakes? How am I going
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: to eat carrots instead?
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: I think I'd be the opposite.
• 23:29
  Speaker 4: Oh, go ahead. You said you won't eat the damn?
• 23:32
  Speaker 3: Yeah, when I'm like depressed, that's when I lose weight.
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: For real.
• 23:37
  Speaker 3: I get on my shit, especially at the end of
• 23:39
  Speaker 3: a relationship.
• 23:40
  Speaker 4: Huh?
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: So you don't eat when you're upset?
• 23:43
  Speaker 3: No. Y'all tend to gain weight in a relationship.
• 23:48
  Speaker 4: I can touch on both of those because those are
• 23:50
  Speaker 4: both issues that people have. Either they will overeat, you know,
• 23:56
  Speaker 4: and eat in or grab all of the wrong things,
• 23:59
  Speaker 4: or they'll shut down and not eat and drink. So
• 24:02
  Speaker 4: I'll first talk about Tammy's question. For me, changing that
• 24:07
  Speaker 4: narrative with not looking at food as a comfort, it
• 24:12
  Speaker 4: had to come within me and my desire to change.
• 24:16
  Speaker 4: So because I knew I needed to lose weight and
• 24:20
  Speaker 4: I no longer wanted to be categorized as obese. And
• 24:25
  Speaker 4: more importantly, forget the categorization, just feeling and looking how
• 24:29
  Speaker 4: I did. I wanted to look better in my clothes.
• 24:32
  Speaker 4: I wanted to give myself more options. Guys, I wanted
• 24:35
  Speaker 4: to cross my legs and feel comfortable. Just enjoying the
• 24:39
  Speaker 4: day-to-day feminine things in life that I was struggling in
• 24:42
  Speaker 4: my overweight body for me. So once I had to
• 24:46
  Speaker 4: come to the realization that in order for me to change,
• 24:49
  Speaker 4: My relationship with food had to happen. One of the
• 24:54
  Speaker 4: things I poured into was my fitness. I knew that
• 24:59
  Speaker 4: fitness had to become my friend. I'm the type of
• 25:02
  Speaker 4: girl where I couldn't even jog to the mailbox, okay?
• 25:06
  Speaker 4: I felt like I was having a full-blown asthma attack.
• 25:09
  Speaker 4: But I was reading in all of my research how
• 25:12
  Speaker 4: fitness exercise can be a stress reliever. So I had
• 25:16
  Speaker 4: to now start substituting healthy habits to relieve my stressors
• 25:22
  Speaker 4: and instead of leaning towards the pizza, the cupcakes or whatever.
• 25:28
  Speaker 4: So listen, it was not an overnight process, guys. It
• 25:32
  Speaker 4: really took one day at a time. When I would
• 25:36
  Speaker 4: get into those moments, because I also was going through
• 25:38
  Speaker 4: therapy as well during this time. So I have to
• 25:40
  Speaker 4: be very transparent about that. And when I would talk
• 25:42
  Speaker 4: to my therapist about my feelings, she would say, it's
• 25:46
  Speaker 4: about substituting the bad behavior for a good one. So
• 25:50
  Speaker 4: when you are feeling a certain way, she says, Chrissy,
• 25:54
  Speaker 4: just go for a walk. You know, when you want
• 25:58
  Speaker 4: some junk, try to say, you know what, I'm going
• 26:00
  Speaker 4: to eat a nice, healthy serving of fruit instead. Now, again,
• 26:04
  Speaker 4: it's easier said than done. But at the end of
• 26:07
  Speaker 4: the day, when you want something bad enough, when you
• 26:11
  Speaker 4: want that change bad enough in your life, you are
• 26:13
  Speaker 4: going to slowly but surely find a way. So those
• 26:17
  Speaker 4: were some of the initial steps that I took. to
• 26:20
  Speaker 4: help stop leaning on food as my stress reliever. And
• 26:26
  Speaker 4: if I did eat food, it was a healthier option
• 26:30
  Speaker 4: instead of the worst case option. And when I started
• 26:33
  Speaker 4: doing that, the scale moved for me. And once I
• 26:36
  Speaker 4: saw that scale start to move and I started feeling better,
• 26:41
  Speaker 4: then my momentum just multiplied times 100. Right.
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: So for me, I'll do all the things. I'll eat
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: the right foods. And as soon as I start to
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: see my body change just a little bit, I can
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: eat a cupcake. And then when you look back up,
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: you back where you fucking started, man. Dang, that is
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: my kryptonite. I can't get it.
• 27:05
  Speaker 4: That's what most people go through. It's when you're on
• 27:09
  Speaker 4: a weight loss journey, health journey, and sometimes other journeys
• 27:12
  Speaker 4: in life in general. When you start to feel a
• 27:15
  Speaker 4: little bit better, when you start to move out of
• 27:18
  Speaker 4: that space just a little bit, we all get what's
• 27:21
  Speaker 4: called a false sense of confidence, right? So you're feeling yourself.
• 27:25
  Speaker 4: You're like, oh, I done lost 10 pounds. My waist
• 27:28
  Speaker 4: is starting to look a little more snatched. I got
• 27:30
  Speaker 4: a little bit more energy. I'm trying to be out
• 27:32
  Speaker 4: in them streets to show everybody I done lost this
• 27:35
  Speaker 4: 10 pounds. But being out there is what got you
• 27:39
  Speaker 4: where you were in the first place.
• 27:40
  Speaker 2: Exactly.
• 27:41
  Speaker 3: The social eating thing. Yeah. And social drinking.
• 27:45
  Speaker 4: I tell all of my ladies, I'm like, wait a minute,
• 27:48
  Speaker 4: you worked so hard to lose this 40 pounds just
• 27:50
  Speaker 4: to go on vacation and eat all that weight back
• 27:52
  Speaker 4: on your body.
• 27:53
  Speaker 2: I don't feel like you should deprive yourself a lot.
• 27:57
  Speaker 2: Like vacation, it's really hard to stick to that diet
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: on vacation.
• 28:02
  Speaker 4: It really is. But these are the tips that I
• 28:04
  Speaker 4: give my clients. You know, when I worked with Tammy
• 28:07
  Speaker 4: once upon a time, I would always tell her, Tammy,
• 28:10
  Speaker 4: just hit me up when you know you about to
• 28:12
  Speaker 4: go out. Let me help you make some better choices.
• 28:16
  Speaker 4: So to your point, yes, I want my clients to
• 28:18
  Speaker 4: enjoy themselves. If it's an occasion that is definitely worth celebrating,
• 28:22
  Speaker 4: not just so-and-so and Nims and everybody over there, because
• 28:26
  Speaker 4: everybody else's occasion cannot be your occasion. Let's keep that 100, okay?
• 28:31
  Speaker 4: Especially when you have specific goals that you're trying to
• 28:34
  Speaker 4: achieve with your body and health. So I always tell
• 28:37
  Speaker 4: my clients, To choose wisely, pick wisely, tell me what
• 28:41
  Speaker 4: means the most to you, and we can find a
• 28:44
  Speaker 4: way to navigate. Because the truth of the matter is,
• 28:46
  Speaker 4: when we go out, we don't have to get the
• 28:49
  Speaker 4: worst thing on the menu all the time. You know,
• 28:52
  Speaker 4: there are better choices that can be made. And I
• 28:55
  Speaker 4: also tell people, pick your demon. What means more to you?
• 29:00
  Speaker 4: Having a couple of glasses of champagne or having that
• 29:02
  Speaker 4: crazy meal? Do you have to do both all the time?
• 29:06
  Speaker 4: You know, so once you learn those balances, all right, well, Chrissy,
• 29:11
  Speaker 4: like my clients would say, Chrissy, I want to order
• 29:13
  Speaker 4: this crazy entree. I haven't had it in a long time,
• 29:16
  Speaker 4: but you know, I'll drink water and I'll skip dessert.
• 29:18
  Speaker 4: Like you gotta, you have to create those fair balances
• 29:23
  Speaker 4: for you to still be able to achieve what you're
• 29:25
  Speaker 4: trying to achieve with your health and your body.
• 29:28
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: I don't, let me tell you, she used to get
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: so like, I call her from the restaurant and just
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: send her a picture of the menu. Like, Bitch, where
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna eat and then she picks up old salad
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: with and it'll be like all this amazing shit on
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: the menu and I'm eating like the little vegetables in
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: a piece of baked fish don't do me like that
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: I ain't got no it was right it was right
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: no it was right though it was right to choose
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: those things from the menu with what I was trying
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: to achieve right but I used to be like this
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: bitch That's how I would feel. But I listened to you. Yeah,
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: you did. It was hard.
• 30:03
  Speaker 4: And let me remind you guys, it is not a
• 30:07
  Speaker 4: restaurant's job to cook for your health.
• 30:10
  Speaker 3: That's why- Well, and the restaurants, I think the menus
• 30:14
  Speaker 3: kind of help now because they have the calorie count.
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: Next to the item. So I don't eat out a
• 30:18
  Speaker 2: whole lot. I like to cook my food. I like
• 30:21
  Speaker 2: to see how my food is prepared. So I don't
• 30:23
  Speaker 2: really eat fast food, for real. I'll eat french fries
• 30:26
  Speaker 2: from places. But when you go to a restaurant nowadays-
• 30:29
  Speaker 2: unless it's like a five-star, they usually have the calorie
• 30:33
  Speaker 2: count next to the item. And a lot of times
• 30:36
  Speaker 2: that'll deter me from ordering what I really want.
• 30:38
  Speaker 4: And to be honest, even if it's not on the menu.
• 30:41
  Speaker 3: 3,000 calories in one setting. Yeah.
• 30:44
  Speaker 4: And even if it's not on the menu, it's on
• 30:46
  Speaker 4: the website. So I always tell my clients, if you
• 30:49
  Speaker 4: know where you're going, just quickly go to the website
• 30:52
  Speaker 4: or even I'll tell people, send me the link to
• 30:54
  Speaker 4: the restaurant and that will allow me to look at
• 30:56
  Speaker 4: the menu. And then to your point, some restaurants are
• 31:01
  Speaker 4: very thorough. They'll tell you not only the caloric intake,
• 31:04
  Speaker 4: they'll tell you how much sodium, how much sugar. And
• 31:08
  Speaker 4: to your point, knowledge is power. And I think a
• 31:10
  Speaker 4: lot of times people kind of want to have the,
• 31:13
  Speaker 4: if I don't know what it is, it won't matter.
• 31:16
  Speaker 4: But actually educating yourself as to how many calories, carbs, sugar,
• 31:23
  Speaker 4: and sodium is in your foods that you love, that
• 31:27
  Speaker 4: can be a very sobering moment. Like, wow, like I
• 31:31
  Speaker 4: did such and such the other day. I'm doing this today,
• 31:34
  Speaker 4: this this weekend. This is why I'm not looking and
• 31:37
  Speaker 4: feeling the way I want to feel.
• 31:40
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 31:41
  Speaker 2: I'd rather eat my calories than drink them.
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: I'd rather drink my calories in liquor than eat them.
• 31:50
  Speaker 4: And then, of course, we have the grand combination of
• 31:52
  Speaker 4: people who do both. They eat and drink their calories.
• 31:57
  Speaker 4: But for me, when I was on my journey, I
• 32:00
  Speaker 4: have to be honest, I did initially still drink my
• 32:03
  Speaker 4: Patron and Pineapple. That was my favorite drink. I still
• 32:07
  Speaker 4: did get some results because I definitely modified it. But guys,
• 32:11
  Speaker 4: when I let go of alcohol for one solid year,
• 32:15
  Speaker 4: I have to tell you, I felt the best I
• 32:18
  Speaker 4: had ever felt on my transition, on my transformation journey.
• 32:23
  Speaker 4: And I always challenge my clients, try to at least
• 32:25
  Speaker 4: go 30 days dry, six weeks dry, eight weeks, because
• 32:30
  Speaker 4: you really will.
• 32:32
  Speaker 3: Look at your face, girl.
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: I'm sorry.
• 32:35
  Speaker 3: I'm sorry.
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: My face was so telling just now. You said you
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: didn't drink no liquor for one whole year?
• 32:41
  Speaker 4: 365 days. I told myself, Chrissy, what's one year out
• 32:46
  Speaker 4: of your entire life since you've been drinking since you
• 32:49
  Speaker 4: were 21 until now? to try not to have something
• 32:53
  Speaker 4: that is of no value to you. Let's be honest,
• 32:56
  Speaker 4: you know, alcohol has zero value, nutritional value to the body.
• 33:00
  Speaker 4: It actually starts to start to get technical. It actually
• 33:04
  Speaker 4: breaks your body down when you drink it immediately from
• 33:06
  Speaker 4: the time that you swallow it, your inner body, your organs.
• 33:11
  Speaker 3: It's poison.
• 33:12
  Speaker 4: Hate alcohol.
• 33:13
  Speaker 3: We like it.
• 33:14
  Speaker 4: We like it. But anything that alters you and your
• 33:20
  Speaker 4: body cannot digest and filter and know what to do
• 33:23
  Speaker 4: with it, those are harmful things. So that's the truth
• 33:26
  Speaker 4: about it. But again, we like it. We mix it
• 33:28
  Speaker 4: with juice, soda, shake it up, twist it, put a
• 33:31
  Speaker 4: rim on it. But at the end of the day,
• 33:32
  Speaker 4: it still is poison, but we just like it.
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: It's the funnest poison that ever came out.
• 33:41
  Speaker 4: It sure is. I ain't gonna lie. But when I
• 33:44
  Speaker 4: let go of it for a year- that really elevated
• 33:48
  Speaker 4: my transformation to the next level. The level of clarity,
• 33:51
  Speaker 4: the immediate blow and inflammation that came off my body,
• 33:55
  Speaker 4: even from cutting alcohol. I think sometimes we get used
• 33:58
  Speaker 4: to feeling a certain way every day. We don't even
• 34:01
  Speaker 4: realize that it's not normal. But when you start eliminating
• 34:05
  Speaker 4: certain foods out of your diet, then you're like, wow,
• 34:10
  Speaker 4: like how was I even living like that before? Right.
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 34:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm definitely addicted to food and people. I don't
• 34:18
  Speaker 2: really like pick up the substance. Like I don't have
• 34:21
  Speaker 2: to drink alcohol at all. I don't have to smoke weed.
• 34:25
  Speaker 2: But food, people, like they go together. So that's why
• 34:28
  Speaker 2: like in the relationship, I'm going to gain the most weight.
• 34:31
  Speaker 4: Yes, absolutely.
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: For me, I'm a social drinker. Like, I got a
• 34:37
  Speaker 1: bunch of liquor at my house, but I don't touch
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: it when I'm in here by myself. You know, some
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: people can just drink at home alone. I can't do that.
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: It'll just sit here until somebody comes over. And I'm like,
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: let's have a drink if they come over. But I
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: won't drink it. But weed, that's a different story. I'm
• 34:53
  Speaker 1: going to puff, puff on my weed.
• 34:55
  Speaker 4: So let me talk about that. Let me talk about weed, hookah.
• 34:59
  Speaker 4: Hookah is very popular now. All the different flavors, vaping, whatever.
• 35:05
  Speaker 4: All of those activities lead to, unfortunately, poor food choices, guys.
• 35:11
  Speaker 4: They really, really do. Usually at hookah bars, they'll have desserts, right?
• 35:19
  Speaker 4: The fried foods because they go together. So anytime you,
• 35:25
  Speaker 4: same as drinking, anytime you're taking something that's going to
• 35:27
  Speaker 4: mellow you out, kind of get you on chill, that's
• 35:32
  Speaker 4: when the munchies start to happen. So I even tell
• 35:36
  Speaker 4: them that smoke weed or even consume edibles for whatever
• 35:40
  Speaker 4: the reason they do it. I warn them and I say, listen,
• 35:43
  Speaker 4: be very, very mindful. It's not necessarily the weed itself,
• 35:48
  Speaker 4: but it's the effect of it on you that can
• 35:51
  Speaker 4: start you what I call grazing. That's like how a
• 35:54
  Speaker 4: cow just grazes in the field. You start having, okay,
• 35:57
  Speaker 4: a little nacho over here, a little.
• 35:58
  Speaker 3: French fry over here.
• 35:59
  Speaker 4: Let me get another drink because of how it affects you. So, again,
• 36:04
  Speaker 4: you know, people do what they do. But I let
• 36:06
  Speaker 4: people know, again, when you're on that health journey, when
• 36:10
  Speaker 4: you're trying to reach a goal, when you're trying to
• 36:12
  Speaker 4: lose weight or improve something in your health, you might
• 36:15
  Speaker 4: want to put those things on the back burner.
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: So you just don't want us to be happy at all.
• 36:21
  Speaker 4: What I want you guys to do is to fall
• 36:27
  Speaker 4: in love. And I know this sounds dramatic, but just
• 36:30
  Speaker 4: hear me out. I want you guys to fall in
• 36:33
  Speaker 4: love with the things that are really going to save
• 36:35
  Speaker 4: your life. Because we already love all the bad stuff.
• 36:39
  Speaker 4: Like we love all, we love the alcohol, the weed,
• 36:43
  Speaker 4: the food, whatever your vice is. You love that. You
• 36:47
  Speaker 4: love it so much that you let it alter you.
• 36:49
  Speaker 4: Think about it. People will eat a certain way knowing
• 36:52
  Speaker 4: they're gaining weight, but that gaining weight doesn't stop them
• 36:55
  Speaker 4: from eating it. That's addiction. So we love those things
• 36:59
  Speaker 4: and those activities sometimes to our detriment. So I want
• 37:03
  Speaker 4: to change the narrative for people as a coach and
• 37:05
  Speaker 4: teach them to fall in love with foods that are
• 37:09
  Speaker 4: going to heal their body, teas that are going to
• 37:12
  Speaker 4: be cleansing to them. And just with lifestyle, fall in
• 37:17
  Speaker 4: love with the lifestyle that's going to add years to
• 37:20
  Speaker 4: your life instead of a lifestyle that's going to ultimately
• 37:23
  Speaker 4: take years away from you, if that makes sense.
• 37:27
  Speaker 3: Right. Or just alive and sick, which is the worst part.
• 37:31
  Speaker 4: I want to have a quality of life. You know,
• 37:33
  Speaker 4: I think, you know, a lot of younger people, they
• 37:38
  Speaker 4: don't really think about how they're going to look and
• 37:41
  Speaker 4: feel when they're 40, 50, 60, depending on their starting age.
• 37:46
  Speaker 4: You know, me being almost 45, I'm thinking, well, Chrissy,
• 37:50
  Speaker 4: how do you want to look when you're 50? How
• 37:52
  Speaker 4: do you want to feel when you're 60? Do you
• 37:55
  Speaker 4: want to still have this vitality, energy, big smile, great.
• 38:01
  Speaker 4: You know, do you still want to have that? Or
• 38:02
  Speaker 4: do you want to unfortunately go along with the flow
• 38:06
  Speaker 4: of the stereotypes for this country where people retire and
• 38:11
  Speaker 4: have to use their whole retirement on their health? I
• 38:14
  Speaker 4: don't want to do that. I don't want to spend
• 38:16
  Speaker 4: these years working just to not be able to enjoy
• 38:21
  Speaker 4: my retirement because I'm sick, because I'm on two, three medications.
• 38:25
  Speaker 4: When I think back seven, eight years ago, when the
• 38:28
  Speaker 4: doctor was telling me all of these things that were
• 38:30
  Speaker 4: wrong with me back then, if I just think if
• 38:33
  Speaker 4: I never checked it where I'd be now, I wouldn't
• 38:37
  Speaker 4: be organic Chrissy. Let's be real. I would probably be
• 38:41
  Speaker 4: on insulin because I would have been a full blown
• 38:44
  Speaker 4: diabetic and I would have had high blood pressure, high cholesterol,
• 38:49
  Speaker 4: big herbs. Because let's be honest, if we don't battle
• 38:54
  Speaker 4: the demon at some point, it's going to catch up
• 38:58
  Speaker 4: with us. So I just decided to invest in my
• 39:02
  Speaker 4: health 401k, which is making those deposits to ensure when
• 39:07
  Speaker 4: I'm older that I'm able to live the quality of
• 39:10
  Speaker 4: life that I deserve after having given so much of
• 39:13
  Speaker 4: myself in my younger years.
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: That's smart. And that's dedication. I suck at that. I'm
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: going to do better this year.
• 39:26
  Speaker 3: So do you think that in the black community in particular, right?
• 39:30
  Speaker 3: Big mama is celebrated.
• 39:32
  Speaker 2: It is definitely, I think it's like a detriment to, to,
• 39:35
  Speaker 2: to our community, but we act like, you know, it's okay.
• 39:39
  Speaker 2: But big mama and big sisters, like is we, we
• 39:43
  Speaker 2: are unhealthy. Yeah.
• 39:45
  Speaker 3: We're just not healthy.
• 39:47
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 39:47
  Speaker 3: As a culture.
• 39:48
  Speaker 2: So how do we, How do we, because women can
• 39:52
  Speaker 2: state all the things they don't like about men. Like,
• 39:54
  Speaker 2: I don't want a short man. I don't want a
• 39:55
  Speaker 2: bald man. I don't want to, I like bald men
• 39:57
  Speaker 2: or whatever it is. But the minute a man says
• 39:59
  Speaker 2: anything about a woman's weight, it's like all hell.
• 40:02
  Speaker 3: Is about to break loose. Like, even if he's just
• 40:04
  Speaker 3: stating his preference, I like slimmer women.
• 40:08
  Speaker 4: Absolutely. Well, at the end of the day, like Tammy
• 40:11
  Speaker 4: started off, it's not about necessarily being skinny, but it
• 40:15
  Speaker 4: is about being the healthiest version of yourself. And I
• 40:19
  Speaker 4: had to keep evaluating what that was for me, because
• 40:23
  Speaker 4: it's going to look different for each person. But I
• 40:26
  Speaker 4: always tell people, you're never truly your best self, you know,
• 40:32
  Speaker 4: when you are not eating majority healthy, exercising. And when you,
• 40:41
  Speaker 4: in my opinion, don't fully, you're not fully comfortable with
• 40:46
  Speaker 4: how you look and feel. If you have that little
• 40:49
  Speaker 4: nag in the back of your head, that's, and I'm
• 40:52
  Speaker 4: not talking about compulsive or obsession. You know, I'm not
• 40:55
  Speaker 4: talking to that extreme. But if you wake up every
• 40:58
  Speaker 4: day and you look in the mirror and you're.
• 40:59
  Speaker 3: Like, yeah, you look good.
• 41:00
  Speaker 4: You're pretty. You're great. You're an amazing woman. But you're
• 41:04
  Speaker 4: not fully liking how you feel in that space that
• 41:07
  Speaker 4: you're occupying. That means there can be change. And let's
• 41:10
  Speaker 4: be honest, guys. We do this in other aspects of
• 41:13
  Speaker 4: our lives, don't we? Don't we self-reflect and see how
• 41:17
  Speaker 4: we can improve as a worker, a person, a girlfriend,
• 41:21
  Speaker 4: a wife, a mother? That is called growth. But everybody
• 41:25
  Speaker 4: gets so sensitive when it comes to the physical, because
• 41:29
  Speaker 4: like you said, in certain cultures, the plus size woman
• 41:33
  Speaker 4: with the ample body, you know, that is just the expectation.
• 41:38
  Speaker 4: I remember growing up, my mother used to always say,
• 41:40
  Speaker 4: don't nobody want a bag of bones, but a dog.
• 41:43
  Speaker 4: And I'm like, okay, but at the same time, mommy,
• 41:47
  Speaker 4: that's obesity.
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: So what do we do here?
• 41:52
  Speaker 4: So to your point, I do struggle a lot of times,
• 41:56
  Speaker 4: not just with us, but I service a lot of
• 41:58
  Speaker 4: other cultures, guys. Listen, my Latino lady's like, look, I
• 42:02
  Speaker 4: like my plantains. I like my rice. I like my beans.
• 42:06
  Speaker 3: I have my Africans.
• 42:09
  Speaker 4: I have my clients that, my Italians, When you grow
• 42:14
  Speaker 4: up eating a certain way, and most of the women,
• 42:19
  Speaker 4: I would say even Italian women, they're healthy women. It's
• 42:23
  Speaker 4: like the norm. But the problem is, as we get older,
• 42:27
  Speaker 4: that's not translating into healthy. And I keep telling people
• 42:30
  Speaker 4: in the United States, it looks so different here. Think
• 42:34
  Speaker 4: about in other countries, they're still walking, cycling. They're in
• 42:38
  Speaker 4: their gardens. They are still doing a lot of physical activity.
• 42:41
  Speaker 4: And they're eating rice and pasta and everything else, but
• 42:44
  Speaker 4: they're not as overweight as Americans. We take all the elevators, escalators,
• 42:50
  Speaker 4: people movers, park our cars as close to the entrance
• 42:53
  Speaker 4: as possible. We don't do the work, guys. We don't
• 42:57
  Speaker 4: walk to the town. They still do that in Europe.
• 43:00
  Speaker 4: It is normal for people to walk miles every day
• 43:03
  Speaker 4: like it's nothing. We don't do that. So what we
• 43:06
  Speaker 4: eat sticks to us and makes us sick.
• 43:09
  Speaker 3: Mm-hmm. Yeah. Um, yeah.
• 43:12
  Speaker 2: Cause over in China, like a large fry is like
• 43:16
  Speaker 2: a small fry here.
• 43:18
  Speaker 3: Yeah. So even our portions are way bigger in America.
• 43:21
  Speaker 3: Everything's bigger in America.
• 43:22
  Speaker 1: Europe.
• 43:23
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 43:23
  Speaker 1: Europe too. I remember cause I was living there for
• 43:25
  Speaker 1: three years and then I came back home and I
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: went through a fast food restaurant and I was like,
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: I want the large drink and baby, it was a gallon.
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: I had forgotten how big a large drink in America was.
• 43:36
  Speaker 1: I was like, God damn. This is for everybody in
• 43:40
  Speaker 1: the car.
• 43:41
  Speaker 2: Like McDonald's, it's almost criminal for them to sell those
• 43:44
  Speaker 2: dollar T's, those big ass dollar T's.
• 43:46
  Speaker 1: That's criminal.
• 43:47
  Speaker 4: 100 grams of sugar. And you know what's sad is
• 43:50
  Speaker 4: in Europe, fast food. No, don't get me wrong. Fast
• 43:53
  Speaker 4: food is still fast food. But in Europe, they have
• 43:55
  Speaker 4: a higher standard of food. So the fast food in
• 43:58
  Speaker 4: Europe is actually a higher quality than the fast food
• 44:02
  Speaker 4: that the franchises serve us in the United States. It's
• 44:06
  Speaker 4: like night and day. You know, people will go over
• 44:09
  Speaker 4: there and be like, How did I have a Wendy's burger?
• 44:12
  Speaker 4: And it really was like all beef, grass fed, like
• 44:15
  Speaker 4: real deal. But in the United States, everything is crazy,
• 44:19
  Speaker 4: highly processed. You know, and I tell people it's not
• 44:23
  Speaker 4: even necessarily how much you eat all the time. It's
• 44:26
  Speaker 4: what you're eating. A simple kid's meal from a fast
• 44:29
  Speaker 4: food restaurant can still run up in you a thousand calories.
• 44:33
  Speaker 4: Stop thinking because it's small. That four-piece nugget, that's 450 calories,
• 44:38
  Speaker 4: 500 calories, and it's not including the 100 calories for
• 44:41
  Speaker 4: the sauce.
• 44:43
  Speaker 1: One sauce.
• 44:45
  Speaker 3: Why are you stressing us out?
• 44:49
  Speaker 1: You just ruining my day.
• 44:50
  Speaker 3: I do that to Tammy all the time, though, don't I?
• 44:53
  Speaker 1: Oh, she be pissing me off. I had a Dr. Pepper.
• 44:57
  Speaker 1: And then we went to lunch and I had a
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: Sprite with my lunch. And then we were in here
• 45:02
  Speaker 1: like recording some commercials or something like that. And I
• 45:04
  Speaker 1: had a Dr. Pepper that was in the fridge. And
• 45:06
  Speaker 1: she was like, you about to drink that? I was like, yes.
• 45:11
  Speaker 1: You saw me pull it out of the refrigerator. I
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: didn't set it on the counter to just look at it.
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: She was like, can I see it? I was like, okay.
• 45:20
  Speaker 1: She's like, this has 63 grams of sugar in it.
• 45:24
  Speaker 2: Because I think about weed. Like, think about a pile
• 45:27
  Speaker 2: of weed. That's how much sugar is in there. Think
• 45:29
  Speaker 2: about 60 grams of weed.
• 45:32
  Speaker 4: It's a lot.
• 45:32
  Speaker 3: That's how I think about it.
• 45:34
  Speaker 1: I want that too.
• 45:36
  Speaker 4: You put sugar in everything. You can't escape it. They
• 45:40
  Speaker 4: put sugar in things where it's not even supposed to be. Everything. And,
• 45:47
  Speaker 4: you know, you had mentioned a point, a point, AJ,
• 45:50
  Speaker 4: earlier where you were like, hey, I prefer to cook
• 45:52
  Speaker 4: at home. because I'm able to control the narrative. And
• 45:56
  Speaker 4: that's the type of coach that I am. I tell
• 45:59
  Speaker 4: my clients, I try to teach them to really get
• 46:03
  Speaker 4: into the food prep part of this journey because you
• 46:07
  Speaker 4: are in control of your food. You see what spices
• 46:11
  Speaker 4: and seasonings, you see the marinades, you're the one preparing it.
• 46:15
  Speaker 4: You know, we are so trusting when we go out
• 46:18
  Speaker 4: to eat. We really, really trust that they're doing what
• 46:21
  Speaker 4: they're supposed to do back there in that kitchen. And
• 46:23
  Speaker 4: that all the regulations are being followed. And that magic
• 46:28
  Speaker 4: arm that comes out from the back to place it
• 46:30
  Speaker 4: on our table, that there was no snafus in between
• 46:33
  Speaker 4: A and B. That's a lot of trust, guys. We
• 46:37
  Speaker 4: don't know. And then restaurants won't also tell you everything.
• 46:41
  Speaker 4: Half of the marinades, even in salads. They put sugar.
• 46:45
  Speaker 4: I went to a Caribbean, a popular local Caribbean restaurant
• 46:48
  Speaker 4: the other day. And I'm like, why do these greens
• 46:52
  Speaker 4: taste like sugar? They started adding sugar to it. I
• 46:56
  Speaker 4: can taste it. My palate is so sensitive now. And
• 46:58
  Speaker 4: I'm like, they didn't do that before. But you have
• 47:01
  Speaker 4: to understand, guys, it's by, not by chance, it's by design.
• 47:05
  Speaker 4: The more sugar and other addictive ingredients that these places produce,
• 47:09
  Speaker 4: can add to their food, what are we going to do?
• 47:11
  Speaker 4: We're going to be lined up like the crackhead, ready
• 47:15
  Speaker 4: for some more.
• 47:16
  Speaker 1: There we are.
• 47:17
  Speaker 4: And we are. So as a trainer and coach, I
• 47:22
  Speaker 4: try to educate my clients and have them start to
• 47:25
  Speaker 4: think about these little things that obviously they weren't thinking
• 47:29
  Speaker 4: about to help them be more conscious and making better choices.
• 47:34
  Speaker 4: And ultimately, back to the question you were asking me,
• 47:37
  Speaker 4: how much weight did I lose, AJ? It took me
• 47:40
  Speaker 4: 18 months, but I lost 94 pounds in 18 months.
• 47:46
  Speaker 2: And that's just diet, exercise, lifestyle change, no medical assistance?
• 47:51
  Speaker 4: No. Okay, great question. No weight loss surgery, no dieting pills,
• 47:58
  Speaker 4: no poop and teas, no waist trainers. None of those
• 48:02
  Speaker 4: things that are sold to us as aides. I did
• 48:07
  Speaker 4: it all by myself. Numero uno, changing my diet slowly,
• 48:11
  Speaker 4: but surely, you know, and then stepping up my exercise.
• 48:17
  Speaker 4: I started off just walking because that's all I could
• 48:20
  Speaker 4: manage because child, I couldn't breathe. And then I started
• 48:23
  Speaker 4: doing what I call a joggle, which is a little
• 48:26
  Speaker 4: run walk. And then from there, I did get a
• 48:29
  Speaker 4: personal trainer who worked with me for maybe about seven
• 48:33
  Speaker 4: months and then she left the industry. But during that
• 48:35
  Speaker 4: time with her, She introduced me to lighter weights, 5, 8,
• 48:39
  Speaker 4: and 10 pounds. I didn't really go over 15 pounds
• 48:42
  Speaker 4: with her. And that was the foundation. And during that
• 48:46
  Speaker 4: time with her, I would like to say my love
• 48:48
  Speaker 4: for weight training grew. And after I stopped working with her,
• 48:53
  Speaker 4: that's when I started challenging myself with some of the
• 48:56
  Speaker 4: same movements, just with heavier weights. And then I fell
• 48:59
  Speaker 4: in love with weight training. So I found myself lifting
• 49:02
  Speaker 4: weights three to four days a week. And then improving
• 49:05
  Speaker 4: on my running on the other days. So I went
• 49:08
  Speaker 4: from being able to barely run to the corner, to
• 49:11
  Speaker 4: the mailbox, to running up to six miles a day. Wow.
• 49:20
  Speaker 4: date for a deadlift was 240. I was able to
• 49:24
  Speaker 4: do that. And so I guess what I'm saying is
• 49:29
  Speaker 4: I became now addicted to all of the right things.
• 49:33
  Speaker 4: I became addicted to the lifestyle of eating healthy. I
• 49:37
  Speaker 4: became addicted to doing the physical activities that was making
• 49:41
  Speaker 4: my body look like an athlete. I actually thought it
• 49:46
  Speaker 4: was a compliment when people would ask me, like, if
• 49:49
  Speaker 4: I was out in the street, do you run track?
• 49:51
  Speaker 4: Are you a gymnast? That made me feel good because
• 49:55
  Speaker 4: it's like, if I'm going to be in the gym
• 49:57
  Speaker 4: putting in that work, I want to look like it.
• 50:01
  Speaker 4: You know, I know a lot of people who go
• 50:03
  Speaker 4: to the gym every single day, but they don't change.
• 50:06
  Speaker 3: Uh-oh!
• 50:10
  Speaker 1: I'm changing it a little.
• 50:11
  Speaker 3: Then I just start.
• 50:12
  Speaker 4: And then you get comfortable.
• 50:14
  Speaker 1: That's not true. You do change. Cause I was looking
• 50:17
  Speaker 1: at some pictures from when we first started, you look
• 50:20
  Speaker 1: totally different from when we first started. Like you lost weight.
• 50:23
  Speaker 1: I done gained weight since we started. I probably lost.
• 50:26
  Speaker 2: So I've lost about 17 pounds in the last two
• 50:28
  Speaker 2: years or so. Cause my fat max was always 217.
• 50:31
  Speaker 2: So now I teeter between like 195 and, And 200 pounds.
• 50:37
  Speaker 3: And I don't mind nobody knowing my weight, whatever. Okay.
• 50:40
  Speaker 2: I feel like black women have a different, I'm five four.
• 50:43
  Speaker 2: So I'm not, you know, super tall, but like average size,
• 50:46
  Speaker 2: average height woman. But do you think like black women
• 50:49
  Speaker 2: have a different fat threshold?
• 50:53
  Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying?
• 50:54
  Speaker 2: Like, I like to say skinny fat is for black women, right? No,
• 50:58
  Speaker 2: but I don't want to be, I don't think my
• 51:00
  Speaker 2: body's type. I will ever look super skinny. I think
• 51:04
  Speaker 2: the smallest I've ever been was like 150 and I
• 51:07
  Speaker 2: still was super thick.
• 51:10
  Speaker 4: So I would give you the typical answer to that.
• 51:14
  Speaker 3: I wasn't skinny though. That's what I'm saying.
• 51:17
  Speaker 4: You still look, you still have some nice thickness to you.
• 51:19
  Speaker 4: So the technical world, the technical answer in the fitness
• 51:22
  Speaker 4: world is no, you know, a body type is a
• 51:25
  Speaker 4: body type, you know, but we do have different size frames.
• 51:29
  Speaker 4: So I'm not going to go as far as say
• 51:31
  Speaker 4: big-boned it like we heard growing up. But you can have.
• 51:35
  Speaker 3: A small frame.
• 51:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what I am.
• 51:36
  Speaker 4: You can have a small frame, a medium frame, and
• 51:39
  Speaker 4: a larger frame. And that's just based on your genetics.
• 51:42
  Speaker 4: That's just based on who your parents are and how
• 51:45
  Speaker 4: they were. So for me, I am tiny. I have
• 51:49
  Speaker 4: the tiniest ankles, the tiniest little wrists. You know what
• 51:52
  Speaker 4: I mean? I know that I was meant to be
• 51:54
  Speaker 4: a tiny, petite little thing. But there are women. Like
• 51:58
  Speaker 4: I have a client. Super tall, 6'2, my one client, Allie,
• 52:03
  Speaker 4: she's a big girl. Even at her smallest, she still
• 52:06
  Speaker 4: was a big girl. So it's all on your frame.
• 52:09
  Speaker 4: It's all on your genetics. So I tell people, again,
• 52:13
  Speaker 4: it's not about skinny. It's about being the best version
• 52:18
  Speaker 4: of your body. And I think that that is what
• 52:22
  Speaker 4: I want to challenge each and every one of my
• 52:24
  Speaker 4: clients to find what that is. Sometimes we get just
• 52:28
  Speaker 4: so used to being whatever size we are and accepting.
• 52:31
  Speaker 4: And then when you have everybody saying, girl, you look good. And,
• 52:34
  Speaker 4: you know, guys, ooh, all that.
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  Speaker 3: Ooh, baby.
• 52:37
  Speaker 1: Don't lose none of that.
• 52:39
  Speaker 3: You better not lose that.
• 52:41
  Speaker 4: Don't look like a bag of bones for the dog.
• 52:43
  Speaker 4: You know, when you get told that your whole life,
• 52:46
  Speaker 4: when you're on the thicker side of the fence, you know,
• 52:49
  Speaker 4: you get comfortable with that. But I always, at the
• 52:52
  Speaker 4: end of the day, I ask my ladies, well, how
• 52:54
  Speaker 4: do you feel? If you're what we think, that's one thing.
• 52:58
  Speaker 4: But if you're like, yeah, I get lots of compliments
• 53:01
  Speaker 4: and men like the way I look. My friends tell
• 53:03
  Speaker 4: me I'm cute, but I'm feeling winded when I walk
• 53:07
  Speaker 4: up and downstairs. My back hurts.
• 53:10
  Speaker 1: You know, that's me.
• 53:12
  Speaker 4: I'm struggling finding pants that fit because I'm small at
• 53:17
  Speaker 4: the top, big at the bottom or whatever. So that's
• 53:19
  Speaker 4: where you have to step up and say, all right.
• 53:22
  Speaker 4: Let me slowly but surely get on this mission to
• 53:26
  Speaker 4: finding the best version of me.
• 53:31
  Speaker 2: So 170 is like my, like that's my favorite weight.
• 53:34
  Speaker 2: 170 is my favorite weight. So Tammy, you saw it
• 53:39
  Speaker 2: on my scale. I've written out 170.5 and I have
• 53:44
  Speaker 2: that on the reader on the scales.
• 53:47
  Speaker 3: Every time I get on there, that's what it says.
• 53:49
  Speaker 3: So for me, it.
• 53:50
  Speaker 1: Starts with my mind first. She got a piece of
• 53:53
  Speaker 1: paper over the number. So when she step on it,
• 53:56
  Speaker 1: it just already tell her what.
• 53:57
  Speaker 3: She wanted to say.
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  Speaker 4: Period.
• 53:58
  Speaker 2: We manifesting 170 over here. So for me, it starts
• 54:01
  Speaker 2: in the mind. So once I make my mind up,
• 54:03
  Speaker 2: this is what I'm going to do.
• 54:05
  Speaker 3: Then I do it. But we also know like, you know,
• 54:07
  Speaker 3: faith without the actual works is, I was.
• 54:09
  Speaker 1: About to say, it's delusional is what it is.
• 54:13
  Speaker 3: It's delusional.
• 54:14
  Speaker 2: Well, you know what?
• 54:15
  Speaker 4: Let me piggyback on that.
• 54:16
  Speaker 1: It helped though.
• 54:17
  Speaker 3: Shit.
• 54:18
  Speaker 4: Let me piggyback on that. One thing I always tell
• 54:21
  Speaker 4: my clients is you have to envision the win. You
• 54:26
  Speaker 4: have to see yourself winning in order to do it.
• 54:31
  Speaker 4: Trust and believe those Olympic athletes, they already saw themselves
• 54:35
  Speaker 4: crossing that finish line, getting that goal and standing on
• 54:38
  Speaker 4: that podium. They have envisioned it for years before it happened.
• 54:43
  Speaker 4: When people build big corporations, anything that's grand, those people
• 54:48
  Speaker 4: are like, I dreamt about it. I had visions about it.
• 54:51
  Speaker 4: I saw it unfolding before my eyes. So our health
• 54:54
  Speaker 4: goals have to be taken with that same level of
• 54:57
  Speaker 4: urgency as we take career goals. Like, look, people chase
• 55:02
  Speaker 4: the bag. They want their money. They're envisioned. They say
• 55:04
  Speaker 4: they manifest it. They're like, look, I want to be comfortable.
• 55:06
  Speaker 4: I want to live a certain lifestyle. And then they
• 55:09
  Speaker 4: begin to do what they need to do to make
• 55:11
  Speaker 4: that happen for them. But the same thing has to
• 55:14
  Speaker 4: be for our health. We have to envision. So I
• 55:17
  Speaker 4: tell my clients, if you know or think you know
• 55:21
  Speaker 4: how you want to look, where you want to be,
• 55:23
  Speaker 4: you have to first and foremost believe that you will
• 55:26
  Speaker 4: do it. If you come to me as a client
• 55:28
  Speaker 4: already defeated, you know, like, I know this is what
• 55:32
  Speaker 4: I need, but I probably ain't going to do it.
• 55:34
  Speaker 4: You're speaking that over your life.
• 55:35
  Speaker 3: Mm hmm.
• 55:36
  Speaker 4: You know, when people like Chrissy is just too hard,
• 55:39
  Speaker 4: I can't do it. Well, then you can't do it
• 55:42
  Speaker 4: because you're not convincing yourself and telling yourself you will
• 55:46
  Speaker 4: do it. So everybody's journey is different. It took me
• 55:50
  Speaker 4: 18 months to lose 94 pounds. I coached a client.
• 55:53
  Speaker 4: She lost 120 pounds in 12 months. Does that mean
• 55:58
  Speaker 4: that she was more successful than me? No, that's her path.
• 56:01
  Speaker 4: So you have to walk your path to health and wellness.
• 56:06
  Speaker 4: And start off with the little things and then attack
• 56:10
  Speaker 4: the bigger things. But know that at the whole time,
• 56:13
  Speaker 4: you have to know that there's that pot of gold
• 56:16
  Speaker 4: waiting for you at the end of the rainbow.
• 56:19
  Speaker 1: So y'all hear that, listeners? If you're somewhere sitting fat
• 56:23
  Speaker 1: and unhappy with your body, I'm trying to be funny.
• 56:27
  Speaker 1: But she said that she could barely walk to the mailbox.
• 56:31
  Speaker 1: And it was just all these small steps. that got
• 56:34
  Speaker 1: her to the bigger goal of her ultimate fitness. So
• 56:39
  Speaker 1: if y'all hear that and you feel inspired, please get
• 56:41
  Speaker 1: your ass up right now and walk your ass down
• 56:43
  Speaker 1: the street. And I'm about to start too. You done
• 56:45
  Speaker 1: re-motivated me, Chrissy, because- Didn't you used to- No, no,
• 56:50
  Speaker 1: I still will go. I fall off. I'll get back
• 56:54
  Speaker 1: to it and I'll be running and I'll be doing
• 56:56
  Speaker 1: all the things. I was doing cardio every day for
• 56:59
  Speaker 1: 45 minutes. And I did that for like two or
• 57:01
  Speaker 1: three months. I was doing that and I could see
• 57:04
  Speaker 1: my body changing dramatically. And then I was like, damn,
• 57:07
  Speaker 1: I'm fine. I'm about to go on vacation. I started
• 57:10
  Speaker 1: going to Jamaica. I started eating.
• 57:15
  Speaker 4: I saw you because, you know, Instagram, you know.
• 57:19
  Speaker 1: Yes, I was doing the most. And then I look
• 57:21
  Speaker 1: up and I was like, damn, I got a gut again.
• 57:24
  Speaker 1: I was right back. I'm sitting here right now rubbing
• 57:27
  Speaker 1: my belly. Like, damn, let me get my ass up
• 57:29
  Speaker 1: and go back to the gym.
• 57:30
  Speaker 4: So it's about that balance we were talking about earlier, right?
• 57:35
  Speaker 4: We have to find balance. I don't want to deny
• 57:39
  Speaker 4: as a coach anybody anything that they love. But we
• 57:42
  Speaker 4: have to learn how to find a happy dance with
• 57:48
  Speaker 4: the foods that we love versus the lifestyle that we
• 57:52
  Speaker 4: really ultimately know we need to be living. I think
• 57:56
  Speaker 4: it's just the overboard of it all. I tell people,
• 57:59
  Speaker 4: for example, we can enjoy a cocktail, but do we
• 58:02
  Speaker 4: have to enjoy five cocktails? It's the learning what moderation
• 58:07
  Speaker 4: looks like for you. We can never look at what
• 58:10
  Speaker 4: anybody else does and say, well, they... eat pizza and
• 58:13
  Speaker 4: drink beer every day and have abs. Well, that's them.
• 58:15
  Speaker 4: We don't know what their makeup is. Their body right
• 58:17
  Speaker 4: now may allow them to do that. For me, if
• 58:20
  Speaker 4: I look at food, I could gain 10 pounds.
• 58:22
  Speaker 3: I can't eat shit. I can't eat anything. Right.
• 58:28
  Speaker 4: We have to learn what that looks like for us
• 58:31
  Speaker 4: and set our limits. Like even for me, people ask me, well, Chrissy,
• 58:36
  Speaker 4: do you ever cheat? Do you ever eat outside your lifestyle?
• 58:38
  Speaker 3: Absolutely.
• 58:39
  Speaker 4: I'm human. I like what I like to. But do
• 58:41
  Speaker 4: you know what I do? I plan the cheat. I
• 58:44
  Speaker 4: don't impulsively cheat. I have found historically when I either
• 58:47
  Speaker 4: let other people pressure me or I impulsively be like, oh,
• 58:51
  Speaker 4: I want this and I go do it. I go overboard.
• 58:56
  Speaker 4: But when I plan it out and I say, all right, Chrissy,
• 58:59
  Speaker 4: on Sunday, you're going to go. It's a cracker barrel.
• 59:02
  Speaker 4: You're going to enjoy two blueberry pancakes, a mimosa, side
• 59:06
  Speaker 4: of bacon, whatever. And that is what your meal is.
• 59:08
  Speaker 4: You're going to enjoy that.
• 59:10
  Speaker 3: Moment.
• 59:10
  Speaker 4: I've mentally prepared myself to go into that. We'll just
• 59:13
  Speaker 4: call it cheat. And I already know what I'm eating.
• 59:17
  Speaker 4: And after I eat it, it's done. Versus if someone
• 59:22
  Speaker 4: was just like, come on, girl, let's go to brunch.
• 59:24
  Speaker 4: Then I'm doing the French toast. I'm doing The mimosas,
• 59:28
  Speaker 4: I'm doing, ooh, the muffin looks good. Ooh, look at
• 59:30
  Speaker 4: that Danish. Because it's impulsive. I did not prepare myself
• 59:34
  Speaker 4: because I have to remember, I am two snacks away
• 59:37
  Speaker 4: from obesity. I never forget where I came from. I
• 59:41
  Speaker 4: never forget where I started. I am still that girl. Okay,
• 59:45
  Speaker 4: come on. I don't dislike lasagna. I don't dislike liquor,
• 59:51
  Speaker 4: but I learned that it's not good for me to
• 59:53
  Speaker 4: consume it how I used to. So again, it's that
• 59:56
  Speaker 4: falling in love with the things that are going to
• 59:58
  Speaker 4: heal you and extend your life and learning to kind
• 1:00:02
  Speaker 4: of place more distance with those other foods. It's not
• 1:00:05
  Speaker 4: that you can't have them, but we cannot go overboard.
• 1:00:08
  Speaker 4: So learning moderation for you as an individual with the assistance,
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 4: hear me out, of a coach. I'm not trying to
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 4: do a shameful plug, but it's the truth, guys. If
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 4: left up to our own accord, we're not going to
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 4: hit that mark. Because what you think is your moderation,
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 4: when as others are on looking, no, that ain't it.
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 4: You've already gone overboard. So I think that people do
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 4: need to partner themselves. It's no different than a therapist, guys.
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 4: You need to sometimes put certain people in your life
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 4: to help you look at things a little bit differently
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 4: so you can make better choices.
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 4: It's like a relationship. People will choose the same man
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 4: over and over again. And knowing they ain't no good.
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 4: And I be like, y'all going down the same food
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 4: path that you've been on for years, knowing as soon
• 1:01:00
  Speaker 4: as you eat one bite, you gonna eat the whole thing.
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 4: Why you doing that? Right.
• 1:01:04
  Speaker 3: Because it's hard.
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 2: A lot of us are eating the foods we grew
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 2: up off of.
• 1:01:08
  Speaker 3: I've changed my diet.
• 1:01:08
  Speaker 2: I know I don't eat like anybody in my family,
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 2: but I still don't lose the weight like I want
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 2: to because I consume more carbs now for the most part.
• 1:01:17
  Speaker 2: But That's why, like, the mothers are responsible for the
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 2: nutrition of the family. If you eating bad, your kid's
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 2: going to be fat as hell. Like, everybody's just going
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 2: to be big as hell.
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 1: No, this bitch is addicted to candy canes, and that
• 1:01:29
  Speaker 1: is pure sugar right there.
• 1:01:31
  Speaker 3: It's only for Christmas.
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 2: So I haven't had a candy cane until December, and
• 1:01:36
  Speaker 2: they ain't going yet.
• 1:01:37
  Speaker 1: So once it's.
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 3: Over, it's over.
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 4: Each season, guys, think about how everything is.
• 1:01:42
  Speaker 3: I love peppermint. Yes.
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 1: Like somebody fucking grandmama.
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 3: Girl, I like peppermint too, Fran.
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 4: I'm with you. But, you know, seasonally, isn't there always something?
• 1:01:55
  Speaker 4: Like around the fall, what do we got? Pumpkin spice, everything. Caramels, chocolates.
• 1:02:01
  Speaker 4: The mocha drinks change it. The drinks change at Starbucks.
• 1:02:04
  Speaker 4: It's by design. So to me, each season brings on something. Girl,
• 1:02:09
  Speaker 4: as soon as it starts getting, even though Black folks
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 4: can grill all year round. But as soon as the
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 4: weather starts getting warm, oh, everything.
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 3: Barbecue, chicken, ribs, pork chops, all that bullshit.
• 1:02:21
  Speaker 4: It's time for this. And then as each, I feel
• 1:02:24
  Speaker 4: as each season comes, companies start, what, advertising other things
• 1:02:30
  Speaker 4: for us that we really feel like we have to
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 4: have these things. And again, when you're working with a
• 1:02:36
  Speaker 4: coach who's always mindful of the trends and aware of
• 1:02:41
  Speaker 4: what's going on, I'm kind of like the little angel
• 1:02:44
  Speaker 4: that's on your shoulder. You know, it's like the devil
• 1:02:47
  Speaker 4: and the angel. The devil's like, girl, go on and
• 1:02:50
  Speaker 4: do it. You know, that's that meme on Instagram. Don't
• 1:02:52
  Speaker 4: do it, girl. Don't do it.
• 1:02:54
  Speaker 1: I did it.
• 1:02:55
  Speaker 4: So I'm going to come up and I'm going to
• 1:02:57
  Speaker 4: be like, OK, listen, I know you want that. But
• 1:03:00
  Speaker 4: let's just think about this for a minute before you
• 1:03:02
  Speaker 4: go into that. We've already lost 10 pounds. We got
• 1:03:06
  Speaker 4: to go to lose 20 pounds. Are you sure that's
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 4: worth you missing out on your results? And having someone
• 1:03:12
  Speaker 4: like that who's genuinely in your, not your cousin, not
• 1:03:15
  Speaker 4: your auntie, not your girlfriend, not your man, because he's
• 1:03:19
  Speaker 4: going to want to take you out every night. You
• 1:03:21
  Speaker 4: need a very genuine, good person that's in your corner
• 1:03:25
  Speaker 4: to always remind you of what your goals are.
• 1:03:32
  Speaker 1: And you, Chrissy, you're so patient because I know I
• 1:03:34
  Speaker 1: used to be getting mad at you and shit. Like
• 1:03:36
  Speaker 1: you'd be telling me what to do. And it almost
• 1:03:38
  Speaker 1: felt like, A narcotics anonymous, honestly, because she was like
• 1:03:43
  Speaker 1: my sponsor. Like I'd be calling her in the middle
• 1:03:46
  Speaker 1: of the night, like, bitch, I'm about to eat this
• 1:03:48
  Speaker 1: motherfucking donut. Don't do it, girl. You're going to ruin
• 1:03:51
  Speaker 1: your sobriety. That's how it used to be.
• 1:03:55
  Speaker 2: I think both me and Tam have commitment and accountability issues.
• 1:04:00
  Speaker 2: The other day I was at the gym and the
• 1:04:01
  Speaker 2: guy asked me if I wanted to sign up for
• 1:04:03
  Speaker 2: my free personal training. I'm like, but then that mean
• 1:04:06
  Speaker 2: I got to come. Like, I don't want to be committed.
• 1:04:09
  Speaker 2: to having to do this thing. And that's why I
• 1:04:13
  Speaker 2: probably never had a personal trainer. I know Tammy does
• 1:04:15
  Speaker 2: better with that. She'll get, she'll stick with, but then.
• 1:04:20
  Speaker 2: But then it also is expensive.
• 1:04:23
  Speaker 1: It's not cheap. It's not cheap. And then, yeah, that's
• 1:04:26
  Speaker 1: when I fall off, especially when it started adding up
• 1:04:29
  Speaker 1: and my pockets started getting a little broke. I'd be like,
• 1:04:32
  Speaker 1: I could do this by myself. I don't need to
• 1:04:33
  Speaker 1: pay nobody. But that's a lie. I do need to
• 1:04:36
  Speaker 1: pay somebody because When I have somebody showing up at
• 1:04:39
  Speaker 1: my building, they're going to be here at 8 o'clock.
• 1:04:42
  Speaker 1: I know I got to get.
• 1:04:43
  Speaker 3: Up and be there.
• 1:04:44
  Speaker 1: They're going to be here. Now, see, with Chrissy, it
• 1:04:46
  Speaker 1: was easier to ditch her because she was virtual. So
• 1:04:50
  Speaker 1: all I had to do was just not answer my phone.
• 1:04:52
  Speaker 4: Listen, to this day, Terry be like, you back in
• 1:04:59
  Speaker 4: person yet? No, girl, still virtual.
• 1:05:02
  Speaker 1: All right.
• 1:05:03
  Speaker 4: Well, let me hit me up as soon as you
• 1:05:05
  Speaker 4: back in the streets. I bet I'm there. All you
• 1:05:11
  Speaker 4: got to do is answer your phone. You can work out.
• 1:05:15
  Speaker 4: You don't even have to go down to your gym, girl.
• 1:05:20
  Speaker 1: I would look at that shit and be like, get
• 1:05:22
  Speaker 1: somebody else and go back to sleep.
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 4: For some shit.
• 1:05:31
  Speaker 1: I don't pay for. Right.
• 1:05:33
  Speaker 2: That's how you feel. She's still going to get her money.
• 1:05:36
  Speaker 2: So fuck it.
• 1:05:40
  Speaker 4: Well, listen, I'm so glad. I am so glad as
• 1:05:43
  Speaker 4: a coach. I actually take my job for real. Seriously.
• 1:05:46
  Speaker 4: You talk to any of my clients. a lot of
• 1:05:48
  Speaker 4: them will be like, well, I already paid her. I'm like, no,
• 1:05:51
  Speaker 4: and I'm going to show up and I'm going to
• 1:05:52
  Speaker 4: be here and do my job. I've never, ever thought like, well, dang,
• 1:05:57
  Speaker 4: I got the money, so I'm good. They don't want
• 1:05:59
  Speaker 4: to show up. No, I really care about each and
• 1:06:02
  Speaker 4: every one of my clients. And I think that's because
• 1:06:05
  Speaker 4: I used to be obese, overweight. I was very unhealthy.
• 1:06:10
  Speaker 4: And I think because I come from that space, I
• 1:06:14
  Speaker 4: wish I had somebody that was on me like I'm
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 4: on my clients. When I went through that journey, first
• 1:06:21
  Speaker 4: of all, I went through so many years of inconsistency
• 1:06:24
  Speaker 4: of up and down to get me to that 18-month
• 1:06:27
  Speaker 4: period of the straight and narrow. During that 18 months
• 1:06:31
  Speaker 4: where I was just hitting all of my marks, guys.
• 1:06:33
  Speaker 1: It was hard.
• 1:06:34
  Speaker 4: It was lonely because guess what? I'm now behaving different
• 1:06:38
  Speaker 4: than everybody else around me. I'm not eating what they're eating.
• 1:06:41
  Speaker 4: I'm not drinking what they're drinking. I am more organized
• 1:06:45
  Speaker 4: with my time. And I had to be very strict
• 1:06:48
  Speaker 4: about that. Even my kids, I'd be like, all right,
• 1:06:50
  Speaker 4: I'll do whatever you want, but mommy has to go
• 1:06:53
  Speaker 4: grocery shopping first. I got to get my workout in
• 1:06:56
  Speaker 4: first and then we can do X, Y, and Z.
• 1:06:58
  Speaker 4: Sometimes that can be rewarding and lonely at the same time.
• 1:07:02
  Speaker 4: So I try to be for my clients what I
• 1:07:04
  Speaker 4: did not have for myself, which was that constant support
• 1:07:09
  Speaker 4: to your point I would have times where I'm laying
• 1:07:12
  Speaker 4: in the bed late at night and I just want
• 1:07:15
  Speaker 4: to eat the worst possible thing and drink whatever I want.
• 1:07:18
  Speaker 4: I will want to. I even remember crying over certain
• 1:07:22
  Speaker 4: foods that I wanted real bad and I couldn't have them.
• 1:07:24
  Speaker 4: That's addiction. I mean, when you really want what you
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 4: want in that moment and you are convinced yourself emotionally,
• 1:07:33
  Speaker 4: that's what you need to feel better. And then you
• 1:07:35
  Speaker 4: telling me I can't have it. Like you said, you
• 1:07:38
  Speaker 4: want to throw hands.
• 1:07:39
  Speaker 3: You know?
• 1:07:39
  Speaker 4: So I try to be that support, that comfort, and
• 1:07:43
  Speaker 4: that reassurance to each and every client that I serve
• 1:07:46
  Speaker 4: to help them realize, look, you're not alone. And then
• 1:07:49
  Speaker 4: everything that I tell my clients to do, I'm doing it.
• 1:07:53
  Speaker 4: Everything I tell y'all to eat, I'm eating or have ate.
• 1:07:56
  Speaker 4: Every workout I put people through, every burpee, every jump squat,
• 1:08:02
  Speaker 4: I do it too. And it was me doing those
• 1:08:04
  Speaker 4: things that helped to get me where I am now.
• 1:08:07
  Speaker 4: And I'm still going to take it back to what
• 1:08:09
  Speaker 4: you first said. It's not about being skinny. Skinny doesn't
• 1:08:12
  Speaker 4: equate health. I actually coach. I do nutrition coaching from people,
• 1:08:17
  Speaker 4: not just overweight people. I help people who are thin
• 1:08:21
  Speaker 4: gain weight. I help people who are overweight lose weight.
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  Speaker 4: And then I also have a segment of clients that
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  Speaker 4: come to me who are already at their goal weight,
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  Speaker 4: but they just eat horrible and they just want to
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  Speaker 4: learn how to prepare healthy meals and put together food.
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  Speaker 4: So it's not about being skinny. You can be skinny
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  Speaker 4: and still be diabetic. You can be skinny and still
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  Speaker 4: have high blood pressure and fail your physical. So it's
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  Speaker 4: not about that. I mean, to your point, when you
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  Speaker 4: go on my page and you scroll my page and
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  Speaker 4: see my videos that I post up, I have hips,
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  Speaker 4: I have butt, I have meat on my bones, but
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  Speaker 4: it's all about being the best version. like I said,
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  Speaker 4: that you can be for yourself. Now, if I want
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  Speaker 4: to be super skinny, I know how to do that.
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  Speaker 4: I got down to, at my smallest, 125 pounds. I
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  Speaker 4: was super tiny. And according to the medical charts, that's
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  Speaker 4: what I was supposed to be. But I'm going to
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  Speaker 4: be honest with you, The weight that I enjoyed the
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  Speaker 4: most for me with muscle was like a buck 50.
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  Speaker 4: So according to their charts, 150 pounds is still overweight,
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  Speaker 4: but I had more muscle than fat. So it's like
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  Speaker 4: they couldn't really say anything, you know, versus being 150,
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  Speaker 4: 180 of a higher body fat percentage. I think that's
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  Speaker 4: where the dynamic comes in. The scale is just a tool, okay,
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  Speaker 4: to help you. But that's why a lot of coaches say, hey,
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  Speaker 4: hit those weights. Yes, get your diet together. But the
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  Speaker 4: weight training is going to be the turning point on
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  Speaker 4: your body composition. Because when I weighed 150, 155, that
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  Speaker 4: was a lot for my height. But I still looked
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  Speaker 4: like I was like 130. Right.
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  Speaker 3: You know what I mean?
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  Speaker 4: So that's what it's about. I guess what I'm saying
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  Speaker 4: is it's not just one thing. It's all things. It's
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  Speaker 4: the healthy eating first. It's how you train second. And
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  Speaker 4: I will have to say before all of those things,
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  Speaker 4: because you guys touched on it, it's the mindset. You
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  Speaker 4: have to be ready to change. I work with a
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  Speaker 4: lot of people that tell me they want to change,
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  Speaker 4: but their actions show me they're not 100% ready to change.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's me. I'll be trying though, but I'm motivated
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  Speaker 1: right now. I'm re-motivated because we got some big shit
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  Speaker 1: coming up and I want to be the best version
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  Speaker 1: of myself doing it. So I'm re-motivated. After I hang
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  Speaker 1: up with y'all, I'm not going to get that pizza.
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to go to the gym.
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  Speaker 3: Me too.
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  Speaker 1: I had a coupon.
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  Speaker 3: I had a coupon.
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  Speaker 4: Let's make healthier pizza, y'all. There's so many other ways
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  Speaker 4: to make the healthier versions of the foods that we love. Listen,
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  Speaker 4: with air fryers alone, the invention of that, still being
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  Speaker 4: able to put food in there and get a crisp
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  Speaker 4: to it. What do we love about fried food? It's
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  Speaker 4: the crisp, you know. But in order to get the crisp,
• 1:11:06
  Speaker 4: you got to fry it in oil and flour. But
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  Speaker 4: an air fryer now allows you to get those crispy
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  Speaker 4: wings without it being breaded. It allows you to get
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  Speaker 4: chicken tenders crispy. You know, you have to be willing,
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  Speaker 4: I guess what I'm saying, to discover new things. We
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  Speaker 4: can't get so caught in our old ways of doing
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  Speaker 4: things that it's going to be to our detriment. So
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  Speaker 4: one thing I'd like to challenge my clients is to
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  Speaker 4: open their minds and open their thinkings just because. you
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  Speaker 4: ate a certain way growing up, like you said, or
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  Speaker 4: you were exposed to certain things, doesn't mean this was
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  Speaker 4: best for you now.
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  Speaker 3: Right.
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  Speaker 4: Right.
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  Speaker 1: So tell our listeners where they can find you, where
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  Speaker 1: they can soak up some of this good, healthy motivation
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  Speaker 1: and energy.
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  Speaker 4: Okay. Well, thank you again for having me. You can
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  Speaker 4: find me on my Instagram at organic underscore Chrissy. And
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  Speaker 4: let me say last but not least, guys, I have
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  Speaker 4: a comic book. I have created a comic book with
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  Speaker 4: concrete comics, black owned all the way around. I had
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  Speaker 4: a vision years ago to create a superhero that was
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  Speaker 4: focused as corny as it may sound on healthy eating
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  Speaker 4: and fitness. And I wanted to give that image to
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  Speaker 4: the black community, to our black children, to our black adults,
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  Speaker 4: to show them that you can unlock your own version
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  Speaker 4: of a superhero within yourself through your lifestyle. Because when
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  Speaker 4: I look at where I used to be, walking up
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  Speaker 4: and down stairs, winded, can't even breathe, can't even run
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  Speaker 4: to the corner, to being able to run six miles,
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  Speaker 4: deadlift over 200 pounds, that is a superhero. I became
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  Speaker 4: my own version of a superhero. So I created Organic Chrissy,
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  Speaker 4: the superhero, and her story is going to be very unique.
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  Speaker 4: And I partnered up with Concrete Comics and They're going
• 1:13:04
  Speaker 4: to allow me to tell my real life story. But
• 1:13:07
  Speaker 4: of course, as a comic book creator, they're going to
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  Speaker 4: add the twist to it to give myself, you know,
• 1:13:13
  Speaker 4: my enemies, my nemesis and everything like that. The story
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  Speaker 4: unfolds right here in Shaker. I'm in Charlotte. Excuse me.
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  Speaker 4: I'm a protector of my city. I'm kind of like
• 1:13:23
  Speaker 4: a female Luke Cage. So I don't have brains out
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  Speaker 4: of my eyes. I don't fly. But my lifestyle is
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  Speaker 4: what allows me to have superhuman strength.
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  Speaker 1: So you get strength from spinach like Popeye.
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  Speaker 4: I get strength from spinach. And you know, it's so
• 1:13:39
  Speaker 4: funny because Popeye was the first cartoon, if you really
• 1:13:44
  Speaker 4: think about it, that equated food to strength and energy.
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  Speaker 4: And it was so telling back then. Spinach is one
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  Speaker 4: of the higher protein vegetables. And he would always say,
• 1:13:56
  Speaker 4: eat your vegetables, grow your biceps. So yes, in that concept,
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  Speaker 4: The foods that I eat and how I train is
• 1:14:02
  Speaker 4: what helped me to unlock my inner beast. So I
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  Speaker 4: have a free Kickstarter that's in the link in my bio.
• 1:14:09
  Speaker 4: That's kind of just like a preview to her. But
• 1:14:12
  Speaker 4: the first edition will be coming out in 2023. And
• 1:14:18
  Speaker 4: when I first saw myself drawn in the comic book sketches,
• 1:14:21
  Speaker 4: I cried because it's like, guys, that's huge. But let's
• 1:14:26
  Speaker 4: be honest, black superheroes is still an up and coming thing.
• 1:14:30
  Speaker 4: It's not. And a black woman superhero that looks like me.
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  Speaker 1: Can they find this on your page?
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  Speaker 4: It's in my link tree. And when you click on
• 1:14:41
  Speaker 4: the link tree, you'll see comic book. It'll take you
• 1:14:44
  Speaker 4: to the concrete. comics website and you'll be able to
• 1:14:47
  Speaker 4: read that first kickstarter.
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  Speaker 1: That's so dope girl that is so super dope like
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  Speaker 1: we really appreciate you for coming on thank you we
• 1:14:53
  Speaker 1: love you so much thank you all right so i'm
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  Speaker 1: gonna definitely hit you up because i might need to
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  Speaker 1: jump back on your bandwagon if you got time or
• 1:15:01
  Speaker 1: space for it we'll see though i ain't.
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  Speaker 2: Gonna make no promises i might i got commitment issues
• 1:15:06
  Speaker 2: i might hey.
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  Speaker 4: The first workout is always free so just test me
• 1:15:12
  Speaker 4: out you might like the waters.
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  Speaker 1: The workout is good. It's just every week. That's the
• 1:15:17
  Speaker 1: hard part. But we're going to get our lives together, girl.
• 1:15:21
  Speaker 1: Thank you, Boobie.
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• 1:15:37
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  Speaker 3: Go ahead, Tam.
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  Speaker 1: Y'all, it's Official Tambam. I love y'all so much. Thank
• 1:15:43
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  Speaker 3: And never hold your pizza.
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  Speaker 4: Peace.
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  Speaker 3: Bye, y'all.
• 1:15:51
  Speaker 4: Bye.