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Ep 29. Manifestation Secret: Transform Your Life and Relationships using the Five Love Languages · The Manifestation Station

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You're listening to the Manifestation Station podcast.
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I'm your host Holly Edwards and together we can help create your magic.
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Hello my gorgeous manifestors how
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are we all are we feeling light and
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ready to bring our energy to the day if you're not that's okay because i can
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bring it for you or i can at least help ignite it in you we are talking about
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something amazing today which is going to blow your mind it is going to help
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you with your self-love,
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it's going to help you with your own relationships in your life,
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not just with a partner but it could be a partner, a friend.
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Family members but also it's about bringing love and loving yourself and when
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you love yourself you align with your desires,
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you go on to a high vibe frequency that attracts your desires naturally and
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this is also about self-love and not really needing anyone else to provide that
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for you except for yourself and anything else is a bonus.
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So that's what we're tapping into today. But however, let's just bring it back
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to today. I'm bringing you this podcast.
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It's very early. It's like 6am something.
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I'm pre-recording my podcast this week because I'm going on a beautiful,
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magical, wonderful, very dreamy holiday for my 40th birthday.
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If you're saying, Holly, weren't you just away on holiday?
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Yes, I was. But I've manifested some serious, beautiful holidays this year.
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I'm celebrating my 40th year.
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I'm in my 40th zone. I'm bringing the energy.
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And I'm holding myself accountable because I don't want you to be without a
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manifesting podcast on the Manifestation Station this week. So.
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I have been on my 5 a.m. walk in the rain, in the wind.
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And if you don't know what I'm talking about, follow me on Instagram at the
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Holly Edwards or pop back onto one of my last episodes because I've been banging
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on about having joined the 5 a.m. club.
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And it's not always 5 a.m. Sometimes it's a little bit after.
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Sometimes it's just five something o'clock.
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But it's given me the gift of time.
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And it is actually, it's really changed my life.
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I'm not going to lie. and some of you have been practicing it too and I know
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that you are getting some real benefits from it but basically you're getting
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up at five something and today the wind was battering my window and the rain
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was hammering down and it could have been easy for me to say not today.
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Not today Holly I do not need to go out in the rain in the wind but actually
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I stopped myself got up, dressed appropriately.
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I put on a lovely little anorak. I put on my trainers and I went out in the rain.
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And guys, just here to tell you, there is something very powerful about getting
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out even in the elements. When you're being hammered, I was getting hit with puddles from the cars.
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But I was like, bring it on. It's like I stepped into my power.
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And it's quite nice because it's easy to join the
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5am club isn't it when it's roasting hot it's been
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30 degrees here in the UK for the
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last week or so it's been lovely lovely sunshine mornings but today it was rainy
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and it wasn't so warm but I still did it and it was truly empowering and starting
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the day with moving and being outside in nature and connecting with the outdoors it is.
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It is undeniably powerful and I can't recommend it enough.
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There's something, even if you could just get out for five minutes,
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guys, I'm going to keep banging on about it.
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Pretty much every episode I go, get outside. It will raise your vibrations.
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So if you too can do that today, please do. In fact, I've just seen a runner
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go past my window now. Good for you. I'm cheering them on from inside.
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So that's how I started my morning. I've now sat down to do a bit of creative,
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to do a bit of podcasting and to bring you a wonderful, truly magnificent episode
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of the Manifestation Station.
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So welcome back to the Manifestation Station.
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This is your space to align your energy, to elevate your self-worth and step
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into your most magnetic soul-led life. I am your host Holly Edwards.
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Think of me as your manifesting mentor,
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your manifesting bestie, your mindset coach and I'm here to give you a personal
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reminder that the more you love yourself the more your outer world will begin
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to reflect that back to you.
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You cannot give yourself enough love when you feel loved, when you feel appreciated
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and if you're not feeling loved and appreciated by the way, perhaps you're in
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a place at the moment, perhaps you find yourself single,
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or perhaps you're finding a little bit of tension in your relationship.
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Or your relationships with family members. Perhaps you're not feeling overly loved right now.
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And then this episode is for you because it's about bringing love to yourself,
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offering yourself love and treating yourself with love and kindness to make yourself feel loved.
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Sometimes when we have busy lives, we're doing things for everyone else, for everyone else.
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And sometimes you don't stop and give yourself the self-love that you deserve and that you desire.
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So today I want to take you deeper into something that is so powerful and I
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think it's actually often something that gets overlooked in the world of manifestation
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and that is how to love yourself using the five universal love languages.
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So we usually think of these languages as ways to love others,
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our partners our friends our families but
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here is the truth if you're not meeting
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your own needs then no one else fully can
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when you take the time to understand how you
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receive love and that's what we're going to learn together here today and then
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start giving that love to yourself with intention with consistency and with
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care everything in your life will start to shift you will feel safer and more secure in your body.
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You will become a clearer channel for your desires.
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You will raise your frequency and people around you will begin to feel it too.
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This is not about becoming so self-sufficient that you don't need anyone else
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and that you don't need a partner.
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This is about becoming so deeply in tune with yourself that everything else
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becomes a bonus and everything else feels good.
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When you receive that love, it feels good, but ultimately you're already getting it from yourself.
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Your life will become richer because you're not waiting to be loved. You already are.
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And from that place of fullness, you attract aligned relationships.
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You magnetize opportunities.
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You feel connected and you feel
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grounded and you'll feel high vibe because you're no longer chasing love.
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You are love. Today, I'm going to walk you through each of the five love languages.
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If you're thinking right now, I don't know what these five love languages are, Holly.
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Like tell me. well we're going to go through them step
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by step one by one and if you know me
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in real life you'll know about the five love languages
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already because I bang on about them all the
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time if you're having some conflict
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in your current relationships this could be a
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turning point for you because the five
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love languages have taught me so much about
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myself my own love life past relationships
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and the relationship that I'm in now it will
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show you what you need and what you
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need to feel loved which is not the same with every
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person so if you find that you're with someone
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else who has a different love language to you then you'll
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be able to figure out what they need in order
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to feel loved and fulfilled and you will you will
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be able to figure out what you need to feel fulfilled
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in love and all will become clear so
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I'm going to walk you through each of the five love languages explain what
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they really mean and then I'm going to give you real beautiful fun
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ways to start practicing them on yourself
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you don't need a special occasion you don't need a partner you just need you
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your energy and a whole lot of heart so shall we dive in are you ready let's
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go What are the five love languages I hear you ask?
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Well, before we get into the fun, juicy love rituals, we need to actually fully
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understand what the five love languages are.
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This concept was originally created by Dr.
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Gary Chapman. Now, if you haven't read the books, I urge you to go and read
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his book, The Five Love Languages.
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He noticed that people give and receive love in different ways.
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And then when those knees aren't met in the right language, love doesn't land,
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is what he was seeing in relationship counselling.
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He felt that people were splitting up simply
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because they weren't speaking the right love language of
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their partner so therefore it goes unnoticed and
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the love feels unnoticed but here's the
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lovely twist the five love languages aren't just tools
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for relationships they're also mirrors for you and how to
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connect with your own self the five love languages are
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one words of affirmation two
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acts of service three receiving gifts
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four quality time and five
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physical touch so let's go through them all and
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maybe start thinking about which one resonates with you you might already know
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this you might know which one you are but everyone will have a primary love
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language the way that they want to be loved so number one words of affirmation
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you want to hear it you want to be told how amazing you are.
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You want to be told that you're loved. You want the words. You want the words of affirmation.
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You feel most loved when you hear it. Words like, I'm proud of you. You're doing amazing.
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I love the way that you think.
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These land deeply for you and words matter to you.
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This is also like your partner thanking you.
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Thank you for doing that today. I really appreciate you doing that job for me.
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You're amazing. You look beautiful.
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All of these words, if these are landing with you now, you might be thinking,
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yes, this is my love language. I want to hear it.
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And it's not just about fluffy phrases. It's about the way you speak to yourself
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every day. So I'm now bringing it back to yourself.
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But the five languages and the five love languages initially has been written
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about relationships. So I want you to take that on board. But I'm also turning
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it around today about how you can love yourself.
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And this will be like your inner voice needs to become kind to you.
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And when it does, you become unstoppable.
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Number two is acts of service.
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This is when you feel loved when someone shows up for you and maybe they run
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an errand for you, they make the plans, they help ease your load.
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It's not about grand gestures. It's about effort.
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So I always say this, that if you're in a relationship, it might be that your
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partner has taken your car to get an MOT.
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Maybe they've picked up the shopping for you or maybe they've put the washing on or run you a bath.
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These are acts of service. If you're now going, oh yes, that's what I need,
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then maybe these acts of service is your primary love language.
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And when you turn that inward on yourself, that can look like showing up for
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yourself consistently, doing the boring but loving things that support your
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peace, making your life easier, softer, and smoother.
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Number three is receiving gifts. Who doesn't like a gift?
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Now, when I tell people about the five love languages, when I say receiving
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gifts, everyone always goes, ah, they kind of laugh and they go,
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well, of course we love receiving gifts.
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But you'd be surprised that this isn't everyone's primary love language.
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And I used to think, well, yeah, but who doesn't love receiving gifts?
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And also you may be thinking, I think it's worth
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saying at this point you may be thinking well I want all of
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those all of those make me feel loved I certainly feel
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like that well I want all of these but what you will realize if you
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do the work and if you read the book it goes a lot deeper into this when you
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do the work you realize that actually we all have one main love language and
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if it isn't being met no matter how many amount of gifts like if your primary
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love language is words of affirmation and you want to hear it.
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No amount of receiving gifts and quality time, acts of service,
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things like that, no amount of that will make you feel loved.
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In fact, your love tank will feel empty if you're not being told you're amazing and that you're loved.
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And that's the thing. I'm going to disclose something here that I had an ex-partner
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who eventually I ended it.
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We were very different and he was a lovely, lovely guy.
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We were very different. And actually, a lot of the relationship,
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I didn't feel very loved.
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We spoke very different languages. Now, I hadn't learned about the five love
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languages at this point. So I just felt we were speaking different love languages,
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like men are from Mars, women are from Venus.
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If we'd had things where times weren't going great and I was like,
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look, you know, I really need to spend some time together.
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I need to, you know, be told, give me some words of affirmation.
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Didn't know about these love languages yet. And he always used to buy me gifts.
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He always used to buy me gifts. We'd have an argument that he'd buy me a gift.
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And do you know what? I felt they were empty. They felt totally unloving to me.
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It felt a bit like, you know, that will shut you up. I'll give you a gift.
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When I learned the art of the five love languages, I was like,
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oh, we were speaking different love languages.
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His love languages was likely to be receiving gifts.
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Now, if you don't know what you're.
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Love language is they say that you can
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decipher it by maybe the words and the things that
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you say to a partner or in previous partners about what
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you need like I would say the same thing to him over and over where I would
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say something like look I'm not feeling appreciated and he'd be like what do
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you mean you're not feeling appreciated I bought you that gift today and I'm
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like well how do I know you're I'm appreciated if you don't tell me now that's
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a recognizable way to figure out what love language you are, I needed to hear it.
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So therefore, my primary love language is words of affirmation.
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Think about the things that you say to your partner and what they say to you
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in terms of deciphering which love language you are and that they are.
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I hope that makes sense to you.
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Giving gifts and receiving gifts. I mean, there are some people,
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this will be their primary.
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This will be their primary. But if you're thinking, well, yes,
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I love gifts, it doesn't mean it's your primary love language.
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So if this is your love language, receiving gifts, you will feel loved when
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someone thinks of you and gives.
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So whether that's a bouquet, a thoughtful gift that says, I saw this and I thought
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of you. Now that is really attractive. That is very nice.
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But it's not my primary love language, but it might be yours.
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It's not about money. It's about meaning.
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When you give to yourself, you build self-worth. You show up for yourself.
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I'm worth it and I deserve to be special.
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Number four is quality time. If this is you, you feel loved when someone gives
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you their full attention. This is no distractions, no rushing.
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This is presence and when you give that to yourself, it's healing.
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So in a relationship, quality time, it's someone saying.
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Let's take the weekend together. Let's go to the beach today and spend some time together.
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Let's put our phone down and have a romantic meal together today.
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This is about someone giving you their undivided attention. So maybe you need quality time.
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If you feel like your partner or if it's someone like a family member or a friend
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is never giving you their time, then maybe that makes you feel unloved.
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And this could be your primary love language.
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For yourself, like spending time alone with intention isn't sad.
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It's the energy of I am whole within myself.
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It will deepen your intuition, your self-trust and your clarity.
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But we're going to look much further into these shortly about how to love yourself
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in the five love languages.
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The fifth and final love language is physical touch. Now, this is my second.
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This is my love language. Now, every single person, every single listener of
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the podcast will have a primary love language.
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But it is also possible that you're bilingual and
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maybe you have a secondary language just like you
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know if your main language is English and you also
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speak Spanish or French you may have a secondary love language too and physical
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touch is definitely mine words of affirmation and physical touch are definitely
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mine I noticed that if I haven't seen my partner in a while we both work away
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quite a bit I kind of start to feel like my love tank is empty I'm like I haven't
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held a hand I haven't been cuddled. I haven't been kissed.
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And it's not just about loving, loving, loving in the bedroom.
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This is about just simple things. It's like having your hair touched.
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My partner always laughs at me because I go, oh, can you tickle my back?
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It's like, why do you need your back tickled?
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And I'm like, it's because my love language is physical touch.
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It's hilarious. So if physical touch is your primary love language,
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you will feel loved when you're hugged, when you're held, and you're physically
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comforted and your body, you know, it needs love too.
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It needs gentle touch. And this isn't just, as I said, like about,
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you know, being in the bedroom. This is about skincare. It's about yoga.
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It's about stroking. It's about, it's not just sensual touch.
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It's just gentle touch. And this is how you say, I care about you.
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And if you're doing this yourself, you know, we're quick to offer love through
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our bodies to others, but your body is yours first. So make it a safe place to be.
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Now that we've broken down our five love languages, I hope you're starting to
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think about your love language, maybe your partner's love language if you have
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one, or maybe past relationships and thinking about your love languages.
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Let's get into the real magic. For today's episode, we're talking about how
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to love yourself in each one of these love languages so that your cup stays full,
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your energy stays magnetic, and you become the living embodiment of the love
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that you want to attract.
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And and if you've
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listened to my past episodes before I always
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say that if you can raise your vibrations and
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bring love into your life and feel love you are automatically going to raise
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your manifesting game on any level that will attract your desires it will attract
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love into your life it will attract things that align with love things that
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make you feel good let's look at how you can love yourself.
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If words of affirmation is your top love language, and actually it doesn't matter
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now which primary love language you are, we're moving on to loving yourself.
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So I'm going to take you through the steps of loving yourself within each five love language.
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Here's how to pour into yourself with words of affirmation.
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You could write a future love note.
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So open your journal to a random page in your book and write yourself something
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beautiful for yourself to read.
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Maybe you say, you've made it. I'm so proud of you. You are becoming her. I love you.
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Remember how beautiful you are. Forget about that note and let your future self
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find it when you absolutely need it.
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Maybe you can set yourself affirmation alarms on your phone.
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Now, I actually do this one already. so pick some
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times in the day random days of the week in
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your month click on your calendar and set random
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alarms on your phone these can be reminders where you put pop yourself a little
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note saying you're doing great well done I love you whatever your words of affirmations
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are set an alarm and let those dings of the alarm remind you you are magnetic
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you are not behind you are loved next Next,
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record a voice note to yourself.
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Speak like you would to a best friend. Spend time on your voice note and just
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go, hey you, I'm thinking about you and I'm just thinking about how amazing you are.
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Make it encouraging, make it loving, make it soft and listen to it on walks or before bedtime.
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Let it sink into your subconscious.
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Let that be a voice note for you, giving yourself those words of affirmations.
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Another thing you can do is to stick post-it notes around your house with beautiful
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reminders and words of affirmation.
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Stick them to your mirror, your fridge, your wardrobe, reminders that you are
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worthy, you are divine, you are chosen and that you are enough.
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I love to do this every now and again, write a nice note to yourself,
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pop it on the wall so that you see it when you get up in the morning, pop it
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on your mirror that says hey you look beautiful isn't that
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lovely to get random notes I actually went into
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work this week this isn't this wasn't a
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self-loving thing but I work in film and tv and
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there was a lovely makeup mirror and it had a beautiful note on it already now
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I don't know if someone had written that from themselves or if I was meant to
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find it I definitely felt like it was a divine message for me and it was just
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such a lovely message and I I thought how lovely if you can do that for yourself
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and write words of affirmation and leave them around your home.
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And the other thing you can do for words of affirmations is to practice mirror talk.
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So that's looking into the mirror, looking into your eyes and say something kind.
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It might feel weird at first, guys. It might feel weird at first,
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but it honestly heals you. Now, this is what we do with our positive affirmations anyway.
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Look yourself in the mirror and say, you're amazing
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you're doing an amazing job you're so loved
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let that resonate and sink in
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with you for a while now why does this
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all matter for manifestation it's because what
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you say becomes what you believe I've spoken
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so many times about how important your
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words and your thoughts are and this shows
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that deeply and it shows that what you
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believe becomes what you receive now acts
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of service I'm going to take you now through some
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acts of self-service that you can do to yourself to bring and align with self-love
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here's how to serve you you could meal prep some healthy meals and snacks for
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your week ahead it's not for discipline it's not for the dream body it's just
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so that future you feel supported and nourished.
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You're giving yourself an act of service for the future that you have snacks
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and healthy ready meals to eat throughout your week.
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Maybe you could create a 10-minute evening cleaning ritual. So just have a 10-minute spruce up.
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Maybe that's even when you go to bed, you fluff the pillows,
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not on your bed. I'm talking about maybe you're sitting on the sofa.
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Just go around, maybe fluff the pillows up, sort out the blankets,
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make everything a little bit neat, do your washing up, have a 10 minute cleaning
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ritual in your home so that when you wake up, you wake up to calm and a peaceful space.
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And that is a love letter to your morning self.
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Another thing you could do for acts of service for yourself is to set up automatic
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payments so you don't have to worry about I need to pay that person,
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I need to pay that invoice.
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So set up automatic payments for bills, for savings, for subscriptions.
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This will clear space in your mind and in your life.
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Another thing you could do is declutter your wardrobe.
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Decluttering is so powerful for manifestation. I don't think it's spoken about enough.
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But declutter your wardrobe, donate those things.
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If it doesn't fit your body or even your energy, if you hold it up and do a
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Marie Kondo and say, this doesn't strike joy in me anymore, donate it.
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You're offering that to someone else. You're passing that love on.
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But most importantly, it is making space for the new version of you.
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The other thing you can do for acts of service for yourself is to organize your digital space.
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Clean out your camera roll. Maybe just take 15 minutes of scrolling and deleting
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files and photos that are taking up wasted space.
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Maybe organize your notes and your apps. Delete if possible.
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It's like a decluttering of your digital space.
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And that showing up for yourself and having a digital declutter,
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it really brings you a piece.
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And that really, really matters. And here's a manifestation tip for you.
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Aligned action tells the universe you're serious. So take these acts of service seriously.
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You are preparing your reality for what's coming. Receiving gifts.
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Oh, this is a good one, isn't it? How can you give yourself loads of gifts?
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I'm not just saying take yourself to the shop and buy all your designer handbags.
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That's not what we're saying here. It's not even about saying go and spend loads of money on yourself.
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This is about you feeling loved through little tokens of intention.
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Here's how you can gift yourself that energy. Perhaps buy yourself a bouquet
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of flowers, not for a reason, but just because.
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You deserve beauty daily. It's not just reserved for special occasions.
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This is treating yourself. And sometimes if I need a boost, and like I say, it's not about money.
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You can go and buy yourself, you know, a cheap bouquet and it will lift your
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mood and it will be ticking the box for receiving gifts.
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Maybe invest in a hobby, maybe for a month, Look at hobbies in your area and
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something that aligns with you and that can bring you some new interest into your life.
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Maybe it's pottery or painting or salsa lessons or astrology.
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Whatever excites you, invest in yourself in a new hobby.
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Or buy yourself tickets to something, an event.
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Maybe check out some events in your area this summer.
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Maybe tickets to a show, a gig or an event, a food market or something like
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that. Don't wait to be invited to something.
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Be the invitation. I love that. I might get that on a t-shirt.
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Don't wait to be invited. Be the invitation. I just love that.
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Maybe take yourself to a farmer's market and buy some fresh food and fresh produce
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to make yourself a beautiful, soulful, nourishing menu that night.
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Beautiful ingredients, little treats, maybe a fresh lunch and fresh bread,
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some fresh cheese and ham.
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Whatever you want, take yourself to a farmer's market and buy
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yourself some fresh produce or maybe buy
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yourself a water bottle a bougie water bottle
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personalize it put stickers on it make it
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feel like you hydration is glamorous and buying yourself that kind of represents
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that and encourages that will be a way of receiving gifts for yourself when
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you gift yourself love you vibrate the feeling of I'm worthy and that's how you call in more.
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Let's move on to quality time. You crave presence. Here's to create presence for yourself.
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Take yourself on a colour walk. If you follow me on Instagram,
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you'll see that I take myself, every now and again, I take myself on a colour walk.
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So that means you step outside, you pick a colour.
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So let's say you pick blue, okay?
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And you go on your walk and you, I don't
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really do this I don't do this with headphones I don't
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I just do this with myself and you spot
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anything that is blue and you'll start noticing
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it everywhere you look at the sky you look at blue cars signs
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on the road flowers I saw a blue sock the
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other day whatever color you're you're picking it
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becomes it becomes like a really fun
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walk and what it actually does it brings you
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to the present so they use this in psychology and they use this in therapy a
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lot and it becomes just you and the world and this color and it brings you back
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to the everyday and what it really does and what I love it brings you back to
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opening your eyes and really viewing what is around you.
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And that is what being present is. Now, if you're feeling anxious,
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this is a really good practice to do.
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So go and take yourself on a colour walk.
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Another thing you can do for quality time with yourself is pack up your favourite
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snacks, pack up a blanket, your book, maybe your iPad, take yourself on a solo
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picnic and let it feel like it's a bit romantic.
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So even if you've got an all day indoors, just say, do you know what?
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I'm going to take myself out and have quality time with myself.
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Just me myself some food a blanket in a book go on a walk with no destination
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let your intuition guide you where do you end up maybe you end up at a local
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market maybe you take yourself on a cute pub lunch date magic lives in spontaneity
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so take yourself on a walk with no destination.
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Another thing you can do to invoke quality time with yourself is to go on a
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solo date now I love a solo date.
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Take yourself to the cinema, get yourself some pick-a-mix, take yourself to
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your favorite cafe, a gallery, dress up and be with you.
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Maybe for quality time you can have a manifestation day.
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Now this is what I love. I quite often do this when I get a day to myself and
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I'm thinking I don't know what to do with myself today.
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I take myself on a manifestation day. So I go to an art shop or a Tesco's or
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somewhere like that and I buy some art supplies.
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I might light a candle, I might get a few nice snacks and I come home and I
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make a vision board and I might put on my favorite film.
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I set the tone, I set the night, I get all my arts and crafts out,
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I get my piece of card, my felt tip pens, my stickers and I create a mood board.
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So have a manifestation day to have quality time with yourself.
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Another thing you could do for a quality time day is to say I'm going to get a new book today.
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Take yourself to the bookshop, go to the bookshop, have a look around at the books.
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Buy yourself a new book maybe take yourself to
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a park or a cafe and start start reading
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it and that's your main character moments the more time
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you spend with yourself the more connected you feel to
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your desires and manifesting then becomes natural let's
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move on to physical touch this one is often forgotten particularly for yourself
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but it's so powerful so what can you do you're probably thinking what can I
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do for physical touch myself well there are a few things you can do And it's
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about having anything that invokes touch with yourself.
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So take yourself outside and walk barefoot on the grass.
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Ground your body and spirit in nature. Reset your nervous system,
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your feet on the grass or on the patio.
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I like walking on the warm patio. there is
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something about the feeling on your feet
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that connects you with nature it connects you
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it grounds you and actually it induces
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that idea of physical touch as well another thing
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you can do is to use an ice roller on your face
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you can get these quite cheap from amazon or somewhere else
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you can use an ice roller on your face so
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keep it in the fridge keep it in the freezer wake
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yourself up with an ice roller you roll
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it over your face make it you can use it as
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part of your skincare regime the feeling of cold on your face will wake you
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up you'll feel fresh and it also just kind of helps you start the day with intention
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so you're also having that touch is and that is igniting something in you for
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physical touch for yourself you can also stretch or do gentle yoga.
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So especially in the morning or when you feel tense, it's like a physical reset button.
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And this doesn't have to be a really hard session of yoga.
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This can be laying on your yoga mat.
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It can be kind of rocking from side to side on your mat.
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Kind of embracing yourself in a hug. Do not underestimate how amazing this can feel.
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It's like giving yourself a hug and a reset and a physical reset where you say,
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I'm safe and I feel touched and I feel loved.
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And it's about gentle touching, gentle stretching, gentle rocking and will really
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improve your physical touch self-love journey.
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Another thing you can do, I touched on it briefly earlier, is to create a skincare ritual.
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Don't rush it. This is about massaging your face. Maybe get yourself a lovely face oil.
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Massage your face, your body, your chest, your neck with love and with care.
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Another physical touch idea, which I personally love,
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is to wrap yourself in a soft blanket
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how lovely is that it makes you
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feel safe maybe invest in a really soft
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warm blanket that makes you feel nice
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and hold yourself literally wrapping yourself in a blanket is a physical act
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of love and just whisper to yourself I've got you you're safe how lovely that
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already makes me feel like I want to wrap myself in the blanket right now this
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second although I have a lot to do today But maybe later I'm going to put that
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into my daily itinerary.
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So for physical touch, a regulated body, a clear channel for receiving,
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it's manifesting from rest and not stressing.
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It's an absolute game changer.
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How does this all relate to manifestation? When you love yourself in the way
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you most need it, not the way others told you to, you return to wholeness.
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You feel whole. Your love tank feels whole.
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You stop seeking love. You stop performing. You align.
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When I say you stop seeking love, it doesn't mean that you're not looking for
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love anymore. You're not looking
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for your perfect partner. You're not seeking love from your partner.
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But it means that you're not chasing love because
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you are love you stop performing and you just align
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and when you're aligned your desires they don't
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feel far away they feel inevitable and that
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is the magnetism people talk about it's not
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about being perfect it's about feeling full
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so what can you do today to make yourself
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feel loved to make yourself feel safe
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to make yourself feel worthy and within and whole
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anything you can do to fill your love
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tank this is your excuse to do it what makes
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you feel good today how can you love yourself today is
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that cooking yourself some nourishing food today is that
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wrapping yourself in a blanket is that buying
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yourself a bunch of flowers whatever you need to raise those vibrations and
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to bring in that love and to top up your love cup do those things today because
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it will help you with your manifestation game and also it will help you with
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your current relationships as well.
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So even if you feel like you're in a happy loving relationship I guarantee just
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by doing these things and making yourself feel loved you're going to be able
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to give love better and you're going to be able to receive love better and you
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won't be doing all sorts of tactics to make yourself feel loved in your relationship
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because it will just come to you.
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Loving yourself in your love language is not a luxury. It's not a bonus.
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It is a foundation. It is a core ritual that will guarantee you to raise your vibrations.
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So there we have it. The five love languages turned inward on yourself. And now you know.
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You don't have to wait for someone else to buy your flowers.
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That's like Miley Cyrus song, isn't it? You don't need someone to buy yourself
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flowers. You can do that yourself. You can love yourself.
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You don't have to wait for someone to notice your effort or to hold you when
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you're tired. You can give that to yourself.
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Because the more you show up for yourself and love yourself in the way that
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you most crave it, the more you shift from waiting to be chosen energy to I
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am already loved energy.
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And that is the energy that manifests magic.
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Your self-love challenge this week is to pick your top two love languages.
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And for the next seven days, give yourself a small act of love every day in
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those two love languages.
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Start small, stay consistent and be intentional.
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And please share them with me. You know me, I always bang on about how much
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I love to hear your DMs about what you've manifested.
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And they just fill me with pure joy. So please tag me on Instagram at the Holly
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Edwards and I'm also at the dot manifestation station.
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If you're not following, please do give me a little follow.
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I want to see your flowers. I want to see your solo cinema trips,
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your voice notes, your gentle yoga, your post-it notes and your gift to self moments.
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And if this episode has lit something in you, please share it,
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maybe send it to a friend, tag it on stories or leave a little review.
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Honestly they go such a long way and it's really helping
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the podcast to be noticed and that spreads
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a little love to everyone so every ripple of love helps
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this podcast reach someone else who needs it and
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I just want you to remember until next week you are love you are whole you are
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ready and you are all you need and I'll see you next week on the manifestation station Goodbye!
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Music.