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why you need to be patient with your mental health · feel your feelings with Ethan Jewell

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  One thing I've discovered in my mental health and self-discovery
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  journey is I always want to rush things.
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  I never take the time for myself.
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  If I'm feeling bad or I'm trying to process a feeling, I just
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  keep pushing. I convinced myself that the only
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  way to get through it is to keep moving forward.
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  And quite frankly, this couldn't be farther from the truth and it
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  does far more damage than good. Hey there and welcome.
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  Back to another episode of feel your feelings, with me.
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  Ethan Jewel. This is a podcast.
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  I started all about mental health, and mental health
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  recovery. Now I'm not a doctor, I'm not a
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  psychiatrist a psychologist or professional in the mental
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  health field in any way. I am just a normal guy who has
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  felt some very big feelings and talked to a lot of people who
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  have also felt some very big feelings.
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  And I wanted to create a platform to just talk about
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  emotions from a very normal Mold and human standpoint.
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  So, thank you so much for joining me.
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  And as always, let's feel some feelings.
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  One of the hardest parts of mental health recovery is
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  pacing. And I mentioned that a little
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  bit in that intro that I just gave.
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  I've always struggled with pacing myself, when it comes to
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  mental health, and I always want to push myself to be better
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  because let's be honest. Pain sucks being depressed
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  sucks. Mental illness sucks and it's no
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  fun to feel and of course our natural response is to want to
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  recover as quickly as possible. But the painful truth is
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  recovery. Cannot be a quick process.
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  It has to be slow and you have to be patient.
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  I always like to compare mental health to physical health.
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  If you break a leg, obviously, you are going to take months and
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  months to let it heal. You were going to treat that
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  leg. So gently you are barely.
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  Going to use it. You're going to give it all the
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  attention and resources, it needs obviously your leg is
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  broken. I mean, what else are you going
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  to do yet? When somebody has a broken heart
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  or a broken brain? They don't even give it a
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  fraction of the same attention and patience and time that it
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  needs. Just like physical wounds,
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  mental and emotional. Wounds need time to sew a lesson
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  that we all have to learn is that we have to slow down and
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  have patience off. Often rushing.
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  The healing process will do more harm to our mental state than
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  good. Life is a journey of becoming
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  not being. So when you are faced with a
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  mental health difficulty, remember that as much as this
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  pain sucks as much as it is awful to feel sad and depressed
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  and mentally ill. It is part of your becoming
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  Journey. You do not have to be anything
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  else. You are allowed to Kurt you are
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  allowed to feel that pain and there is absolutely no rush and
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  healing from it. This is so important to
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  understand. You do not have to be anything
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  else. Often we want to rush the
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  healing process for other people.
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  We want to be okay, we want to be the best versions of
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  ourselves. In order to love, somebody
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  better in order to be there for somebody in order to achieve
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  more things to impress other people, or to Simply come across
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  as a better in. More improved version of
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  ourselves to other people. But this is an unhealthy way to
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  live. It's an unfair expectation to
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  put on yourself. It is okay to sit in a place of
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  hurt for as long as you need to. However, healing is necessary.
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  So let's talk about how we can approach this healing process in
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  a slow patient and caring way for ourselves.
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  Specifically, I want to talk about healing from trauma.
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  That is something that many people do.
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  With and many people have to heal from.
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  You might be going through a traumatic event or have recently
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  gone through a traumatic event, that you might be trying to heal
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  from. So let's talk about it.
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  You may think the fastest path to Healing from trauma is to
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  share details, right away and rush through it.
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  But unfortunately, that is not true.
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  Arguably, the best way to heal from trauma, is to process and
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  understand the story of your experience and that goes for any
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  type of emotional pain. In order to heal from it, we
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  have to first sit with it and understand it and that is the
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  most painful part. It is incredibly painful to have
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  to think, and put energy and focus into something that is
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  causing you. Emotional distress and emotional
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  pain but it is necessary trying to rush through drama or pain
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  and talking about it before. It's processed leads to two
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  things. Either a dissociated state or a
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  triggered state it associated State is when your brain tries
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  to hide from the trauma and pain because it hasn't processed it
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  and it hasn't understood it and it's not ready to talk about it
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  and share it. So, instead of actually healing
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  you perpetuate a cycle of dissociation and avoidance, this
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  is why some people get very, very fed up with the healing
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  process and feel like things are only getting worse because
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  they're trying to rush talking about their trauma and Rush
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  talking about their pain. When in reality, they need to
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  dissect it and understand it and process it before.
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  Talking about it. As a whole, the second state is
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  a triggered State. The triggered State makes you
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  relive that trauma over and over and over again, without a
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  healing resolution. So obviously it Associated state
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  in a triggered. State is not a place that you
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  want to be. It makes you relive your trauma,
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  it makes you run from it. It makes you avoid actually
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  healing. So, how do we heal from trauma
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  and pain without rushing ourselves, and doing so in
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  Healthy Manner and processing and understanding our emotions
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  fully. The first two things you need
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  are safety and stability. You need a safe place to
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  understand your emotions and to feel them and process them in.
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  This is where I will always always recommend therapy therapy
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  is a place where you can better understand your emotions.
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  Most people think that therapy is simply blurting out what
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  you're going through when in Reality.
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  It is a slow process of dissecting and understanding.
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  And that is so important for processing emotions, which we
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  have to do in order to heal. However, I understand that there
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  are p is not always an immediate option.
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  It is relatively expensive and is not always available.
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  However, there are options out there for you.
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  There's online therapy at an affordable, or free price, some
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  schools and workplaces, offer therapy or counseling as a
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  benefit. There are options for you out
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  there to begin your healing process to begin processing, to
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  begin understanding, trauma and pain that, you have felt.
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  So you can heal from it. Until then, find peace.
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  Within yourself, understand that you are allowed to sit with
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  these feelings. You are allowed to sit with your
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  pain and your trauma. I know it doesn't feel good.
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  It hurts. It sucks.
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  So so much but You do not have to become anything.
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  You do not have to become anybody.
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  There is no rush. The most human thing you can do
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  is sit with your pain and get to know it.
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  Understand it, feel it. Allow it to be present in your
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  life. So when the time comes to
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  discuss it and to heal from it, you have processed.
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  And you have understood. Please have patience with
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  yourself have patience. With your pain and drama treat
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  it like, you would a broken leg, give it the time, it needs, give
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  it the resources and care that it needs.
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  You deserve that and you deserve a healthy healing process.
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  So that's going to wrap it up for today's episode.
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  Thank you so much for tuning in. Please send me a message on my
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  Instagram at Jewel, boy underscore, and let me know what
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  you thought about today's episode.
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  Also, if you need help feeling and understanding Understanding
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  understand your feelings a little bit deeper.
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  Thank you so much for being here.
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  Thank you for listening. And as always, thank you for
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  feeling your feelings. I'll see you next time.