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“I Wanted To Leave… Then God Stepped In” | Egypt Sherrod & Mike Jackson Get REAL · Love You Moore with Willie Moore Jr.

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[SPEAKER_05]: Next, on the Love You� Worship.
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[SPEAKER_09]: I want to talk about if you are okay with it.
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[SPEAKER_09]: Of course, this ain't like for clickbait.
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[SPEAKER_09]: I just think it'll be special for people.
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[SPEAKER_09]: Could you talk a little bit about your fertility journey?
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[SPEAKER_03]: You know, so I'm just going to throw it all out there.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Thor.
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[SPEAKER_03]: But his family didn't like me.
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[SPEAKER_03]: And my, my folks didn't like him.
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[SPEAKER_03]: At first, I, you need to know that we've been through some things.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Okay, this is 19 years.
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[SPEAKER_03]: We've been through some things.
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[SPEAKER_07]: Did they like the other?
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[SPEAKER_03]: His family initially mind you.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't care how much money you got, how many tangible items you got, how big your house is, if you walk in that house every day, you like, and I don't like this person.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I love him the death, but I don't like this person.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You're like the same fun.
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[SPEAKER_03]: All right, this is just leave me alone, just leave me alone.
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[SPEAKER_09]: Hey family, Willie Mojoon, you're here excited about this moment because you know what's all about love, man?
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[SPEAKER_09]: And I've been doing my best to introduce you to people that you know and then others that you may not know, but you get an opportunity to get to know, right?
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[SPEAKER_09]: Um, if you are new to this opportunity that I call the love you more show, notice I didn't say podcast, you know why?
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[SPEAKER_09]: Because if you call it that you get a hundred dollar fine, I'm gonna put my cash in the description.
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[SPEAKER_09]: So if you even say it when you arrive your friends, your peers, or even in the break room, when you say, do you see the love you more podcast?
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[SPEAKER_09]: I don't drop a hundred dollars on my cash app to make sure that you never do it again.
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[SPEAKER_09]: We speak in those things that are not as though they weren't.
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[SPEAKER_09]: I'm gonna be a big show.
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[SPEAKER_09]: Big show all around the world.
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[SPEAKER_09]: People from the North South East and the West going watch.
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[SPEAKER_09]: And then we're gonna have a great time as we always do.
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[SPEAKER_09]: If you are new to the show, can I just say welcome?
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[SPEAKER_09]: And thank you.
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[SPEAKER_09]: And then I'm not trying to insult you, but I don't want you to be a creep.
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[SPEAKER_09]: You say, really, a creep?
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[SPEAKER_09]: No, I'm just saying, like, if you want to watch, you should probably, like, subscribe.
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[SPEAKER_09]: And if you deem some of the information that you receive, important, and it touches you, and Yoshina Nana, do me a favor, just share it with somebody who you think needs it, okay?
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[SPEAKER_09]: Today, I get the esteemed privilege to work out with a, to hang out with a couple.
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[SPEAKER_03]: You stop workout.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_09]: There was no workout.
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[SPEAKER_09]: I was hanging out with HGTV royalty and I just found out Mike's last name because I've literally been calling him DJ for Dell for like 10 years now and I wasn't even going to ask.
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[SPEAKER_09]: I was like Mike in Egypt but I know I'm his DJ for Dell but Egypt and Mike are here and you guys have been doing so good on HGTV and I do watch you guys when I work out with
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[SPEAKER_02]: I do.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's always in the gym.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It is.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's in all the gyms.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: All the pediatrics, all the doctors, all the dentists, all the dentists.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So we believe you always write that.
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[SPEAKER_09]: I'm like, watching, I'm like, yo.
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[SPEAKER_09]: Hey, really young TV?
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[SPEAKER_09]: Uh-huh.
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[SPEAKER_09]: I'm gonna text it just, you know what I mean?
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[SPEAKER_09]: So before we get into this amazing conversation, because I really got to know how you work together because in my former relationship, I was trying to work with her about a time we get home.
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[SPEAKER_09]: It was always, I got to figure this part out.
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[SPEAKER_09]: But I like to do an icebreaker and the way I do the icebreakers, I do it with music.
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[SPEAKER_09]: And so I want you to listen to this song, it's called Tarning Point.
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[SPEAKER_09]: And I want to know what that tarning point was like for you guys when you decided, and we're going to go ahead and work together.
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[SPEAKER_09]: And not only on the back end, because you guys have been working together for years, and now we're about to take it to the main screen.
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[SPEAKER_09]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_09]: Take a look at this video.
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[SPEAKER_09]: You know, when I left that church, my life had changed forever.
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[SPEAKER_09]: I realized that moments quickly become memories.
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[SPEAKER_09]: So it's important that you spend great moments with your loved ones because you just don't ever know.
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[SPEAKER_09]: Speaking of loved ones, I was getting picked up by one of my favorite, but not so favorite uncles, Uncle G. I mean, he owes school, driver Cadillac had to the back and he not need to sit up, but he's still a good guy.
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[SPEAKER_09]: He sometimes joked too quick, but the truth is, he's exactly what I need to do in this time to bring me back to Earth.
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[SPEAKER_09]: He walks up, and he says...
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[SPEAKER_09]: You are right, sir.
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[SPEAKER_09]: I'm like it's tough.
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[SPEAKER_09]: He can tell you.
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[SPEAKER_09]: I know it, but it's a part of life He says don't worry about a thing.
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[SPEAKER_09]: He's in a better place.
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[SPEAKER_09]: That's true.
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[SPEAKER_09]: You know I'm crazy, right?
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[SPEAKER_09]: I don't know why they say in a better place.
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[SPEAKER_09]: He in a box But you know you see I got your laughing already laughter is healing for the soul no matter what it is laughing all keep laughing your life no matter what you do.
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[SPEAKER_09]: Okay, now get your punk ass in the car
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[SPEAKER_09]: What?
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[SPEAKER_09]: Get your ass in the car, Junior.
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[SPEAKER_09]: Why?
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[SPEAKER_09]: Say a lot of people don't understand again, right?
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[SPEAKER_09]: And it's no stability in this doll.
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[SPEAKER_09]: While you live in our firm, it's a dream, you have to say it.
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[SPEAKER_08]: If people are by your news, if you don't eat, that's all.
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[SPEAKER_08]: It don't get hard for you, so I'm sorry.
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[SPEAKER_08]: I'll tell you, don't worry.
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[SPEAKER_08]: I promise that times I want to break down No one loves me This time I'm going up and going back down If you believe, you'll love me Taking my proper precautions Time's getting harder Do what we gotta do in the feed I saw us and know us You weren't able to survive Then you got your own You just told me to claim it And I saw like that Living in my steady street
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[SPEAKER_08]: I make it every day, I don't know The world on my shoulders, I realize
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[SPEAKER_09]: turning point to be available really, really soon.
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[SPEAKER_09]: Depending on when you watch this, if you like it, you feel it in your shot, and I go download it if it's available.
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[SPEAKER_09]: So the song talks about the turning point.
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[SPEAKER_09]: I'm sorry, I'm hooked right there on that, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh
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[SPEAKER_04]: Can I find you singing with the vibrato?
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[SPEAKER_09]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_09]: I was feeling that thing.
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[SPEAKER_09]: Listen.
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[SPEAKER_09]: I have a little make dog vibe to it too.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_09]: So I got tank on the, um, in the background.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Oh.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_09]: So that was tank in the background.
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[SPEAKER_09]: That's when, um, his name was, uh, the real babes back then.
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[SPEAKER_09]: This is real name.
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[SPEAKER_09]: And I remember the invoice.
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[SPEAKER_09]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_09]: That was sent to me.
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[SPEAKER_09]: Yeah, that's all we've got to do.
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[SPEAKER_09]: But you know, I'm speaking the tarnin point because you guys have seen to come to a really unique tarnin point.
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[SPEAKER_09]: You know, I've had this to improve this to know your story of how you all met and all of that.
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[SPEAKER_09]: Some people may have, but I just remember you saying, like a man that can work with his hands, like he's serious.
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[SPEAKER_09]: And I know that in your ventures, when you were just on television, you would be the contractor and do a lot of the stuff that was going on.
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[SPEAKER_09]: And now the tarnin point is,
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[SPEAKER_09]: Oh, the aisle in the public guy, right, right.
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[SPEAKER_03]: So folks who really watch HTTV might remember property virgins of living virgins.
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[SPEAKER_03]: When we were working on living virgins, I was the executive producer of that show and it was the spin-off from property virgins.
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[SPEAKER_03]: By the way, that was the worst name of a show.
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[SPEAKER_03]: We were just trying to spin off from property vertex obviously, but we, Mike and I were really flipping houses here in Atlanta.
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[SPEAKER_03]: We originally pitched the show and it was supposed to be following our journey flipping houses, but.
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[SPEAKER_03]: the powers that be at the time only saw me as the host and me as the talent working with other people.
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[SPEAKER_03]: And so although it was, you know, it was like a shot because we wanted to do it together, he sacrificed.
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[SPEAKER_03]: And he was like, hey, if they see you doing it or they believe you just do it.
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[SPEAKER_03]: And I'll be working over here in the background every day that I showed up to film that show I felt guilty because it was supposed to be in us thing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Wow.
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[SPEAKER_03]: And they only saw it as a me thing, but he let me shine.
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[SPEAKER_03]: He let me have that moment.
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[SPEAKER_03]: But after that show, it was like, that's it.
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[SPEAKER_03]: You know, we can't let anybody else determine our future.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Our journey or what our narrative is going to be.
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[SPEAKER_03]: This is a family business.
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[SPEAKER_03]: It's me, it's you.
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[SPEAKER_03]: You're doing the construction.
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[SPEAKER_03]: I'm doing the design and the real estate.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Nobody believed that I was up there with that, you know, with the sledgehammer anyway.
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[SPEAKER_03]: You know, this is crazy.
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[SPEAKER_03]: The only way to really have your story told is if you tell it yourself.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_03]: And so during the pandemic, Mike just started filming from his eyes.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Oh, you did.
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[SPEAKER_03]: He shot the sizzle real for it.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Good.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Look.
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[SPEAKER_02]: When there's no way you create your own way, right?
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[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So that's what we did during the pandemic.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Everybody's in the house and we were already doing it, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: So why not just turn the camera on and capture the moments.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So it was the home life.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It was the school at the table life.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It was the work life.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Wow.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It was the intimacy, the friendship, all of the above.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And, you know, we put a little silver together.
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[SPEAKER_02]: The management team saw it, said there's something here.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Sent it up to the network.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And the network was like,
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's a no brain.
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[SPEAKER_03]: What was funny is this?
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[SPEAKER_03]: What was funny is this?
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[SPEAKER_03]: The network leadership at the time said, this is exactly what we had been eating.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Why are we just seeing this?
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[SPEAKER_03]: Egypt's been on our network for 13 years.
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[SPEAKER_03]: But why are we just seeing this?
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[SPEAKER_03]: And for years, I used to tell the production company turn the camera around.
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[SPEAKER_03]: This is the real show.
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[SPEAKER_03]: back here.
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[SPEAKER_03]: And you know, that's that's why we have to be created.
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[SPEAKER_03]: That's why we have to step up on us that are just being host and talent.
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[SPEAKER_03]: We have to step into the executive producer roles.
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[SPEAKER_03]: We have to step into these creative roles because not everybody gets it, not it they only.
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[SPEAKER_03]: are creating content based upon the world that they see.
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[SPEAKER_03]: And sometimes that's with blinders on.
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[SPEAKER_03]: And they just couldn't see a happy, successful, black family doing well on HGTD, some people.
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[SPEAKER_03]: But meanwhile, when we got to the network, the network's like, do you know how many tapes we've been digging through to find just this dynamic?
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[SPEAKER_03]: Literally, it's here.
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[SPEAKER_03]: We've got you let's go and they actually then partnered us up with a different production company.
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[SPEAKER_09]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_09]: So they got on the bottom of it.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_09]: You can see it.
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[SPEAKER_09]: You got it.
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[SPEAKER_03]: And you know what they partnered us with?
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[SPEAKER_03]: It's so interesting.
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[SPEAKER_03]: The same production company that did TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI and TI
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[SPEAKER_03]: in the story and tell it honestly, and you know, with us in the roles of executive producers, we knew that our journey would actually finally be seen on mainstream television.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then the reason why it also worked with 51 minds, what made it, it jails so well is that they didn't come from the construction production side of things.
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[SPEAKER_02]: They came from, you know, shooting a TV show story, what worked.
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[SPEAKER_09]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: because for us, our show was more so, hey, there's this amazing family, there's these kids, there's this baby, there's this black man, there's this black girl, they have a business and oh, by the way, they flip and renovate house too.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So the renovation comes second.
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[SPEAKER_02]: The story comes first.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And that's what makes it work.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: For the majority of the,
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[SPEAKER_02]: For the majority of it, that's why folks are tuning in when they see us on the street and they run into us at these stores.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Hey, there was a little bit of the transparency, you guys remind me of me, so that's why tuning in.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And, oh, by the way, you do some amazing work.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, sure.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm saying, so the message of us working with 51 miles was like, it's guys time, you know.
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[SPEAKER_03]: If we ever tried to fit into someone else's vision for who we were, it would never work.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Because people, we just know we're smelling something that's not real when it's funny, right?
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[SPEAKER_03]: You can't relate to it as much.
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[SPEAKER_03]: It doesn't speak to the heart, but because we could be our entire selves.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Mike, where's the do rag on HGTV?
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[SPEAKER_03]: Just know that.
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[SPEAKER_09]: I'm talking about doing why women love Mike.
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[SPEAKER_04]: They love him.
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[SPEAKER_09]: Yeah, I do more with it.
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[SPEAKER_09]: Right, like now that I checked the comments, it looks like a total rainbow.
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[SPEAKER_09]: It is everybody was doing a go back to,
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[SPEAKER_09]: doubt you say it with the former production company, the show was initially supposed to be
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[SPEAKER_09]: Both of you guys, and then as the man, you actually have to take a back seat to get to where you see your family is now.
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[SPEAKER_09]: You know, in this world right now, there are so many men who are dating women who are making more money.
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[SPEAKER_09]: That a lot of women are thriving now, doing a lot of great things.
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[SPEAKER_09]: And me and sometimes a very intimidated by strong powerful women who are doing great things.
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[SPEAKER_09]: Talk to us a little bit about the mindset and the heart posture that it took to support her in this journey that you were actually on, but just not accepted by that particular production company and that work.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Well, first and foremost, I really didn't care about who was accepting who because even without the cameras was still one union, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: It was still one.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So we were already in the process of working on
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[SPEAKER_02]: What we have now with the without cameras, this was going to happen, you know, with the real estate company, the construction company and everything we have now mindset wise, I got to be honest with you, I've always been in a place to where I'm like, if we're one and you're winning, we're winning right now there may have been days where I felt like.
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[SPEAKER_02]: man, like when when we're going to do this together and I honestly felt there were times where I knew there were certain projects that may not have taken off if I tried something or she tried something because it wasn't us together.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So I had to come to realize that eventually when it's our time it will be our time.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That when I got into that space of thinking
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[SPEAKER_02]: When it's our time and to be our time, nothing else mattered.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's good.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Nothing else mattered because if it was ordained, it was going to happen no matter what.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So it really was.
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[SPEAKER_03]: It's just been like God touched this particular journey for us.
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[SPEAKER_03]: That's good.
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[SPEAKER_03]: We had gotten into this space of, we were just in such a flow.
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[SPEAKER_03]: And I know, you know, for those of you who've been married, for those of you who've been married into a voice, you know, when it's right and you know when it's wrong.
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[SPEAKER_03]: You know, when things go left and you know, when you're in a flow and we had just gotten into this lock and step flow where it didn't matter what was going on.
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[SPEAKER_03]: We were loving hard.
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[SPEAKER_03]: We were laughing hard.
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[SPEAKER_03]: We had our own story.
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[SPEAKER_03]: We already the tribe that's around us now is the same tribe and it was like anything on top is great.
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[SPEAKER_03]: But like we're good, aren't we?
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[SPEAKER_03]: I remember we were going to trip where we were Morocco.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Yes.
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[SPEAKER_03]: And we were hiking in the Atlas Mountains.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Don't ask questions.
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[SPEAKER_03]: This man gets me to do some crazy stuff.
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[SPEAKER_03]: We got this job out of the airplane, too.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Come on.
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[SPEAKER_03]: We were hiking in the Atlas Mountains, just kind of taking inventory of our marriage at that time.
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[SPEAKER_03]: I think we were approaching the 10-year mark.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Hello, there's enough.
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[SPEAKER_03]: 14, almost 15 years married and 19 years together.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_03]: So we were taking inventory of just like how far we'd come and we sat on the side of it.
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[SPEAKER_03]: I'll remember truly because I was out of breath like that.
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[SPEAKER_03]: He got me climbing that.
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[SPEAKER_03]: We don't do that from filling in broadality, but okay.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Thanks.
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[SPEAKER_03]: You know, and I asked him and I said, if we got married, like if we were at the altar right now, would you say yes, right now with all that we've been through, you know, do I still do it for you?
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[SPEAKER_03]: And he said, hell yeah, I was like, and then he said, what about me?
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[SPEAKER_03]: And I was like, I choose you all day every day.
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[SPEAKER_03]: I don't care who's up in here.
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[SPEAKER_03]: It's going to be you.
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[SPEAKER_03]: You'll never have to doubt that.
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[SPEAKER_03]: That felt good because he knew I was speaking from my heart.
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[SPEAKER_03]: I knew he was speaking from his soul.
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[SPEAKER_03]: And we were in just such a good place that I felt God could only continue to bless it.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Right then we thought that we were pregnant, right after that.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Hartford.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Hartford.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Hartford.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Hartford.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Hartford.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Hartford.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Hartford.
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[SPEAKER_03]: said, oh, and congratulations.
16:37
[SPEAKER_03]: And I said, oh, what?
16:38
[SPEAKER_03]: She says Kendall told me about the baby.
16:40
[SPEAKER_03]: This is like April of that year.
16:42
[SPEAKER_04]: Oh, yeah.
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[SPEAKER_03]: And up until then, we tried for years and just kind of gave up that I wasn't going to be able to have anymore.
16:49
[SPEAKER_03]: Um, and so I felt bad afterward.
16:52
[SPEAKER_03]: Like, and I'm telling Mike Kendall wants us to have another baby.
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[SPEAKER_03]: She wants a sister a brother and Guy said, no, right?
16:59
[SPEAKER_03]: So now it's June.
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[SPEAKER_03]: We're in Morocco and not only do I find out I'm pregnant.
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[SPEAKER_03]: I'm what three and a half months pregnant So I'm an analyst.
17:08
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm an analyst mom's okay, but listen to this dude look at the timing So Kendall knew they say children know Kendall's new when you count back the months I was already pregnant in April.
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[SPEAKER_06]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_06]: Wow.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Right, and so Dr. said no guy said yes Jackie
17:24
[SPEAKER_02]: I'm doing me like that deserve my mind to back to your question though that came to my mind as I listen and just think as far as your question you know the mindset of the man.
17:38
[SPEAKER_02]: Any man that may be listening to this has to understand that or whatever your situation is just significant other is not your competition right understand so no matter who is on top don't have a look at it as a competitor you know you're one you're trying to grow through this together so.
17:54
[SPEAKER_02]: because a lot of men and women society has portrayed this picture that it always has to, if the man is not on top, y'all are not doing right.
18:03
[SPEAKER_02]: So you'll have women that are trying to keep that from their friends or just in general.
18:07
[SPEAKER_02]: Oh yeah, he's doing amazing.
18:08
[SPEAKER_02]: No one he's not doing amazing.
18:09
[SPEAKER_02]: You're winning.
18:10
[SPEAKER_02]: You could say that, but that man has to be comfortable with it and you have to be comfortable with it.
18:15
[SPEAKER_02]: Y'all are not in competition and you're not trying to live up to
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[SPEAKER_09]: And I, and I'll be honest, I, you know, the insert like I did that totally wrong, like I just had this vision like we were moving to a new city.
18:30
[SPEAKER_09]: You never have to work life is going to be this way.
18:33
[SPEAKER_09]: And I think I had these blinders on that I missed the opportunity to say like, and of course, I wasn't this tyrant saying you can't do anything.
18:40
[SPEAKER_09]: But it was more so like, you know, I'm gonna go out there and do it for us and I think I missed the subtle signs of someone saying hey I want to do something too and and so like I'm always challenging me and like to open up your vision enough to let God do it differently like be flexible so you don't get so bent out of shape like later in the like once it was you know once it was over it was like you know I never really wanted to see that home
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[SPEAKER_09]: only kids.
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[SPEAKER_09]: I didn't want that many kids.
19:07
[SPEAKER_00]: Right.
19:07
[SPEAKER_09]: I'm happy that I have them, but that was really your thing.
19:10
[SPEAKER_09]: And you know, that was kind of something like we can have real vulnerable honest conversations.
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[SPEAKER_09]: So it's really, really dope for you to say, like, hey, it's both of us and whatever we have going on because who's to say what happens to me next?
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[SPEAKER_09]: Like, I might have to have to serve a vision of a woman who's going out there doing different things.
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[SPEAKER_06]: Exactly.
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[SPEAKER_06]: Exactly.
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[SPEAKER_03]: But also there comes a point where you have to
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[SPEAKER_03]: You can't always shine, you can't always be the one winning.
19:38
[SPEAKER_03]: If you want to have a fair and balancing equally your relationship.
19:42
[SPEAKER_03]: And sometimes I'm going to have to take a few hits.
19:44
[SPEAKER_03]: Maybe I wouldn't want it to go on that trip.
19:46
[SPEAKER_03]: Maybe I wouldn't want to accept that gig or that job.
19:48
[SPEAKER_03]: But it's not my turn as his turn.
19:51
[SPEAKER_09]: Oh, hate to stop you, change the scenery and the energy.
19:54
[SPEAKER_09]: But you ain't been obedient.
19:56
[SPEAKER_09]: You know how I know, because you ain't subscribed.
19:58
[SPEAKER_09]: You ain't left no comment.
19:59
[SPEAKER_09]: You ain't shared this with nobody.
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[SPEAKER_09]: Do it right now.
20:02
[SPEAKER_09]: Now back to the show.
20:05
[SPEAKER_09]: Now do it, go back to the show.
20:09
[SPEAKER_09]: Let her.
20:10
[SPEAKER_03]: And I have to just as much as he gives me grace when opportunities come and blessings come from me.
20:16
[SPEAKER_03]: I have to fall back and give him grace when it's his time to shine.
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[SPEAKER_03]: It's his winning season.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Maybe last year was my winning season.
20:25
[SPEAKER_03]: And so that's how we keep it together is by also honoring each other in that way.
20:30
[SPEAKER_03]: I understand.
20:31
[SPEAKER_03]: I felt guilty during the times when I was off traveling and shooting and remember I had to baby and I had to take her into it because I was breastfeeding.
20:42
[SPEAKER_03]: I mean, but I literally sometimes I'd, you know, be off hosting an event or some big show.
20:50
[SPEAKER_03]: And if you see me, then you know that means he's home with kids.
20:55
[SPEAKER_03]: And he's taking an
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[SPEAKER_03]: It looked like, oh, well, Egypt's doing everything.
21:00
[SPEAKER_03]: Well, she's got to stop her right there.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't know.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Keep that though, but it's not just for somebody.
21:06
[SPEAKER_02]: It's not a hell.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's not a hell.
21:08
[SPEAKER_03]: That's what I say.
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[SPEAKER_03]: That's what I was about to say, babe.
21:10
[SPEAKER_03]: It's like, thank you for letting me not finish my thoughts.
21:13
[SPEAKER_03]: I know.
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[SPEAKER_03]: It's my thought.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Like, I'm taking like that job, because you're not in hell, but what I'm saying is to those on the outside, right, looking in and believe me, we've heard judgment or her comments, but we don't let that invade what we got right here because we know the truth, the truth is that he sacrificed a lot.
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[SPEAKER_03]: for me to shine so that we could shine.
21:36
[SPEAKER_03]: And in the times when it was his turn, I'm like, it's all you bad go do it.
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[SPEAKER_03]: I got kids, I got everything go do it.
21:45
[SPEAKER_03]: And that's how it has to be.
21:47
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
21:47
[SPEAKER_02]: I mean, it took about to speak in the 51 minds that did TI and Tini show.
21:51
[SPEAKER_02]: If you look at TI and Tini's situation when they first started,
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[SPEAKER_02]: when Tini met Tiai, Tini was, yeah, she was getting excate.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You get what I'm saying?
21:59
[SPEAKER_02]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And Tiai was selling mixed tapes, trying to get on.
22:02
[SPEAKER_02]: She saw what he could be.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Imagine if she was like, oh, this dude out here selling mixed tapes.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We ain't doing that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It'd be no Tiai.
22:09
[SPEAKER_02]: But the most part, I mean, he would have made it eventually, but he got him faster to do that avenue because they were like, now, we won.
22:14
[SPEAKER_02]: Let's do this together.
22:16
[SPEAKER_02]: But you have those that are going this dude over here hitting on me selling mixed tapes weird not doing this.
22:21
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You know, I mean that mindset of wind on this.
22:24
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
22:24
[SPEAKER_02]: But now you got your ti.
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[SPEAKER_09]: That's real.
22:26
[SPEAKER_09]: So you guys now have this show.
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[SPEAKER_09]: You got this vision.
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[SPEAKER_09]: You got this dream.
22:30
[SPEAKER_09]: It doesn't happen the first time.
22:31
[SPEAKER_09]: Just kind of fast forward in the story.
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[SPEAKER_09]: Now you get this show.
22:34
[SPEAKER_09]: And I know with new, new shows, new responsibilities.
22:37
[SPEAKER_09]: You got to come up with some new borders.
22:39
[SPEAKER_09]: Because now you have work together.
22:40
[SPEAKER_09]: You can't go talk to somebody else about your coworker because you got to go home with.
22:45
[SPEAKER_09]: So how do you get like who are your safe spaces where
22:49
[SPEAKER_09]: Somebody gets a chance to tell you, no, like this is wrong.
22:53
[SPEAKER_09]: Like what does accountability look like since you together 24 hours?
22:56
[SPEAKER_09]: Right.
22:56
[SPEAKER_09]: You're a person and who you're a person?
22:58
[SPEAKER_03]: Our number one rule is what happens in this marriage stays in this marriage.
23:04
[SPEAKER_03]: He is now, I don't have to worry about him going out to the night clubs are going to the bar talking to the boys and complaining about me because if he has a great with me, I know he's going to bring in home and we're going to talk about it and work through it together, he never has to worry about me speaking backhand it to him, if anything, I'm going to the mats for him, so my friends are the ones that support his friends are the ones that support our marriage and if
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[SPEAKER_03]: At any time, it looks like things are on the rocks between us.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Those people pour into us to help keep us together and go on stronger, not pulling.
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[SPEAKER_03]: You don't need friends around you whose first answer is, girl, leave them.
23:41
[SPEAKER_03]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Look at all these women around you, bro.
23:43
[SPEAKER_03]: And you were in about your wife.
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[SPEAKER_03]: You don't need that.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Those are friends.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Right.
23:46
[SPEAKER_03]: That's temptation, right?
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[SPEAKER_03]: In the devil will put them in your path as well.
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[SPEAKER_03]: So we are very intentional about the people around us.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Number one.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I mean, she jumped about her earlier before we got in here, but if it's not us, it's got, you know, we'll sit down and pray together, or we'll pray a part and make it happen.
24:06
[SPEAKER_02]: But to really build on what she said as far as not allowing other outside sources to be your source, because you don't know what they're going to do with that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: For instance, let's just say, we're having a bad week and I go say something I shouldn't have said to a friend and they
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[SPEAKER_02]: He did hold me wrong and then carry with the every time you see it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But now y'all great and then you know we don't got over it So you got to be careful when you know when there's when you get married There's three families form How family your family and now the union that you created.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's the third family So you want to keep that family strong everybody else You know they find out how but they find out if they even find out you know what I mean because once you start that Other entities in it starts the weekend in the whole foundation
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[SPEAKER_09]: It's counseling therapy a thing for you guys.
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[SPEAKER_09]: Or you guys just kind of do it on your own.
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[SPEAKER_09]: So, yeah, we don't have a problem with it.
24:59
[SPEAKER_02]: But that's how we go.
24:59
[SPEAKER_02]: Okay, I don't know what you're going to do.
25:01
[SPEAKER_02]: I don't know what you're going to do.
25:02
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, do it.
25:03
[SPEAKER_03]: So we did hit a rough patch.
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[SPEAKER_03]: What was that about eight years ago?
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[SPEAKER_03]: They just got nine years ago.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Fair enough.
25:09
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Maybe even, okay.
25:11
[SPEAKER_03]: So it was about nine years ago.
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[SPEAKER_03]: And Willie, we didn't know if we were going to make it.
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[SPEAKER_03]: We were both talking about divorce and that was something that, you know, even before we walked down the aisle, we said, when I get married, there is no such thing is divorce.
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[SPEAKER_03]: I'm going to do it one time and I'm, you know, we're going to whatever's wrong.
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[SPEAKER_03]: We fix it.
25:28
[SPEAKER_03]: But this particular time, we were both on the out so bad that we felt we needed.
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[SPEAKER_03]: somebody else.
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[SPEAKER_03]: And we didn't go to church.
25:38
[SPEAKER_03]: We did at that time.
25:39
[SPEAKER_03]: We didn't because we'd relocated here to Atlanta.
25:41
[SPEAKER_03]: We hadn't found a church home.
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[SPEAKER_03]: We hadn't built our tribe yet.
25:44
[SPEAKER_03]: It was literally just him and me.
25:47
[SPEAKER_03]: And we were exhausted and tired.
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[SPEAKER_03]: So as a last recourse.
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[SPEAKER_03]: We decided to go to this marriage counselor.
25:58
[SPEAKER_03]: And why was she wasn't too far from here, was she?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Can't just go to every marriage counselor at bar.
26:03
[SPEAKER_03]: You have to be careful.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Number one, are you married?
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[SPEAKER_03]: Oh, you're divorced?
26:06
[SPEAKER_03]: Oh, then no thank you.
26:07
[SPEAKER_03]: There's nothing that you can offer me.
26:08
[SPEAKER_03]: You know?
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[SPEAKER_03]: But we go to this marriage counselor and you're still a fine-hunter.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Not just like, you know what she says.
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[SPEAKER_03]: I'm pouring out, he's pouring out, I'm pouring, he's pouring.
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[SPEAKER_03]: And at the end, she goes, you guys have absolutely no business together.
26:23
[SPEAKER_03]: And we look at each other.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We were married to another one.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Give my life to life.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_05]: That's it.
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[SPEAKER_03]: We both stood up.
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[SPEAKER_03]: We're like, you know good at your job.
26:34
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm gonna try to say after all this time, we paid you for that, that's crazy.
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[SPEAKER_03]: You love me babe, yes.
26:40
[SPEAKER_03]: You love me babe, yes.
26:40
[SPEAKER_03]: Come on, let's go.
26:42
[SPEAKER_03]: And in the elevator, we cracked up all the way down.
26:45
[SPEAKER_03]: And when we got out to the street, he was like, I'm not leaving you guys.
26:49
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm not leaving you either.
26:50
[SPEAKER_03]: We don't figure this out.
26:51
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
26:51
[SPEAKER_03]: And that's what we did.
26:52
[SPEAKER_02]: You know what it is about.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So.
26:55
[SPEAKER_02]: folks don't know how to communicate or be open with one another or how to argue without throwing daggers at each other.
27:02
[SPEAKER_02]: So that's what the countens are about.
27:05
[SPEAKER_02]: But if you get the wrong one, they'll be collecting those daggers and throwing them back at you in the wrong way.
27:11
[SPEAKER_02]: So
27:11
[SPEAKER_02]: when you go through this counseling or you just have this avenue or this place to open up and you realize, for instance, not that this is the case to do, but you notice that some people after one person gets caught cheating and they sit down and have that all out.
27:25
[SPEAKER_02]: Now, since I'm called, I'm going to say everything, and all of a sudden, they're in the best relationship they ever had because that platform allowed them to say, I don't like
27:33
[SPEAKER_02]: how big your feet are.
27:34
[SPEAKER_02]: I don't like this that they would never say because they don't want her to pronounce him but not letting it all out and not at both parties have said everything is like
27:42
[SPEAKER_02]: Nothing can stop us now because I can say anything I want to say to you and you can say anything you want to say to me.
27:47
[SPEAKER_02]: And once that happens, relationships become so strong, but people are so scared to do that part.
27:52
[SPEAKER_02]: So that's what a counseling comes in.
27:54
[SPEAKER_02]: But again, you got to have the right counselor.
27:56
[SPEAKER_02]: So if you don't know how to do it, listen, it's nothing taboo about that counseling.
28:00
[SPEAKER_02]: We make it taboo and go ahead and go do it.
28:02
[SPEAKER_02]: I say do it, do it, do it, do it.
28:03
[SPEAKER_09]: So has anything changed in the relationship we got stronger now, that it's a lot more, you guys were already working together on the outside with shows and I mean, without the shows, like building real estate, changing houses, and you know, Mike, it's gonna keep it to I can't do nothing with my hands.
28:19
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm the actual child.
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[SPEAKER_09]: I'm gonna call Mike, I think I call Mike one time.
28:23
[SPEAKER_09]: I think he's bad, that's like, man, you know what I said, it's a, I need to do.
28:27
[SPEAKER_09]: change a light bulb.
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[SPEAKER_09]: So go to the little do us group to the man.
28:33
[SPEAKER_09]: You see, you know what I mean?
28:34
[SPEAKER_09]: But it's just not my thing.
28:35
[SPEAKER_09]: But now you guys are now like in this in this space now where it's like really relationship goal.
28:42
[SPEAKER_09]: Like I look under the stuff that I'm doing my research is like.
28:44
[SPEAKER_09]: everything is all goals.
28:47
[SPEAKER_09]: Do you feel like the outside pressure now to like keep a super duper tight and how do you guys connect to make sure that you keep the spark going consistently outside of work like it's like a system day nice like what is that like it helps me a few days.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Right now it's been kind of crazy because we're just in this build phase.
29:04
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
29:05
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
29:05
[SPEAKER_09]: It's been a build phase.
29:06
[SPEAKER_09]: Go ahead.
29:06
[SPEAKER_09]: I'm sorry.
29:07
[SPEAKER_03]: No, he, so when we're working, every now and again, you know, he'll pull me in the closet.
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[SPEAKER_03]: He'll pull me in the pantry.
29:15
[SPEAKER_03]: Let's go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go.
29:18
[SPEAKER_03]: Let's go.
29:19
[SPEAKER_03]: I got 20 minutes.
29:20
[SPEAKER_03]: You know, you gotta keep it sexy.
29:23
[SPEAKER_03]: Yes.
29:23
[SPEAKER_03]: I have to still be his girlfriend.
29:25
[SPEAKER_03]: Yes.
29:25
[SPEAKER_03]: There's a difference.
29:25
[SPEAKER_03]: You can be married to somebody and you all feel like roommates, or you're married to someone and you all feel like girlfriend and boyfriend.
29:32
[SPEAKER_03]: And so we do whatever we could do to keep it sexy.
29:35
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
29:35
[SPEAKER_03]: There's going to be sexy.
29:37
[SPEAKER_03]: And then, yeah, like when I need a time out and what I mean by time out is might, I'm tired.
29:43
[SPEAKER_03]: I love you, but I'm tired of you.
29:44
[SPEAKER_05]: Right.
29:44
[SPEAKER_03]: I need to go hang out with my girls.
29:46
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm going on a Beatrip or something, vice versa.
29:50
[SPEAKER_03]: We have to honor that.
29:51
[SPEAKER_03]: Everything can't always be together.
29:53
[SPEAKER_02]: Mm-hmm.
29:54
[SPEAKER_02]: It's about keeping that like ability in going.
29:56
[SPEAKER_02]: Like a bill that I like you going.
29:59
[SPEAKER_02]: And that's because, you know, one of the things of people overlooking relationships, I say it all the time is fun.
30:05
[SPEAKER_02]: And like I don't care how much money you got, how many tangible items you got, how big your house is, if you walk in that house every day, you like, and I don't like this person.
30:14
[SPEAKER_02]: I love in the death.
30:15
[SPEAKER_02]: I don't like this person.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You're like, this ain't fun.
30:18
[SPEAKER_02]: This ain't funny.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Keep going back and forth.
30:20
[SPEAKER_02]: They're saying fun.
30:20
[SPEAKER_02]: I don't like them.
30:21
[SPEAKER_02]: I don't like them because I haven't no fun because we haven't no fun.
30:23
[SPEAKER_02]: I don't like you.
30:24
[SPEAKER_02]: And now you like then again, I love you.
30:26
[SPEAKER_02]: But I'm not in love with you because I don't like you.
30:29
[SPEAKER_02]: I haven't fun with you, right?
30:30
[SPEAKER_02]: Now it's those two simple words.
30:32
[SPEAKER_02]: So it's a doggoal is to make sure that like a ability is there.
30:36
[SPEAKER_02]: Keep your spontaneous, keep your sexy.
30:38
[SPEAKER_02]: You know what I mean?
30:38
[SPEAKER_02]: Guess one of our goals is the day days first because the nights are hard.
30:42
[SPEAKER_02]: You know, because the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the
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[SPEAKER_03]: This is just truth.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Love me or hate me, I'm gonna say what it is.
31:13
[SPEAKER_03]: I think that we have to stop looking for the right man and recognize that God may still be molding him for you and don't rush, don't rush, wait on him.
31:26
[SPEAKER_03]: Because I remember being, Mike and I didn't get married till I was 35.
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[SPEAKER_09]: I don't know if you tell me that.
31:31
[SPEAKER_03]: It was 35, but I remember kissing a lot of frogs and trying to...
31:39
[SPEAKER_03]: And I was doing this to Little Hustle, working in New York City, where there's a girl, get a girl, get a girl, you got your tomatoes on, you have the nightclubs, looking for this guy, and looking for that in coming up empty.
31:54
[SPEAKER_03]: So while my bank account was full, my spirit was void.
31:58
[SPEAKER_03]: And I would be walking these red carpets and showing off and getting the pictures and being flirty with and go home and cry myself to sleep at night because I had not found my
32:08
[SPEAKER_03]: So me, and I do believe in the term, so me.
32:11
[SPEAKER_03]: I had a conversation with God.
32:15
[SPEAKER_03]: And I said, I know that there's a lesson and a blessing in this.
32:18
[SPEAKER_03]: I don't know what it is, but that last dude you put in my life almost took me out.
32:22
[SPEAKER_03]: And I heard his voice of like, I didn't do that.
32:25
[SPEAKER_03]: You did that.
32:26
[SPEAKER_03]: I literally heard of like, you didn't wait on me.
32:29
[SPEAKER_03]: I didn't put that man in your life.
32:31
[SPEAKER_03]: You did that because you didn't wait on me.
32:34
[SPEAKER_03]: And at that time, I was like, woo, I felt bad.
32:37
[SPEAKER_03]: I heard that I don't know.
32:38
[SPEAKER_03]: I got to see it.
32:39
[SPEAKER_03]: I know that was you, guys.
32:40
[SPEAKER_03]: All right, so I submit.
32:42
[SPEAKER_03]: I give up.
32:43
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm not trying to fit a square peg into a round hole anymore.
32:46
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm not trying to make these dudes work anymore.
32:47
[SPEAKER_03]: I don't know.
32:48
[SPEAKER_03]: I don't even care how a guy looks.
32:50
[SPEAKER_03]: He's got to treat me right.
32:51
[SPEAKER_03]: He's got to be God loving.
32:52
[SPEAKER_03]: Not God fearing, but God loving.
32:54
[SPEAKER_03]: And then I just started building him in my head.
32:58
[SPEAKER_03]: And then it went from being in my head to cutting him out on a vision board.
33:02
[SPEAKER_03]: And I put all the qualities.
33:04
[SPEAKER_03]: And literally that I wanted.
33:05
[SPEAKER_03]: I created the vision board of this man.
33:07
[SPEAKER_03]: I had no idea he was already in my life.
33:10
[SPEAKER_03]: He was already in my life.
33:12
[SPEAKER_03]: He was flipping my houses.
33:14
[SPEAKER_03]: Right in Newark, New Jersey, I didn't see him because, and this is where I hit you ladies, we're looking for the basketball player.
33:24
[SPEAKER_03]: We're looking for the guy driving a nice car.
33:27
[SPEAKER_03]: We're looking for the guy that on paper looks like he would be the good husband.
33:32
[SPEAKER_03]: Versus seeing a man for his heart, for his spirit, for his qualities that he truly possesses the stuff that if money is gone tomorrow, you can't take that from him, because that's the stuff he's made of.
33:43
[SPEAKER_03]: So God truly molded him for me, and he put him in plain sight.
33:48
[SPEAKER_03]: But it wasn't until I asked God, what will you have me do?
33:51
[SPEAKER_03]: Who do you want me to be with?
33:53
[SPEAKER_03]: I submit that he literally took the blinders off me, so I could see that he was there all along.
33:59
[SPEAKER_03]: Literally the man I built on my board.
34:02
[SPEAKER_03]: So with that said, this has got to work.
34:06
[SPEAKER_03]: Cause God did it.
34:10
[SPEAKER_09]: Uh, that part probably gonna go viral because I just felt that in my work.
34:15
[SPEAKER_09]: You know, I, when I, when I look at, look at you too and I see all the stuff that you do collectively, I will be remissed if I don't talk about this beautiful blend of family that you guys want him to get in and work with.
34:26
[SPEAKER_09]: you know, when you have a woman, you know, like Egypt, who is a strong deep personality, she's a driver.
34:31
[SPEAKER_09]: She has a strong opinion, and she's not stand on it.
34:34
[SPEAKER_09]: And you, you know, you knew you're a guy too.
34:36
[SPEAKER_09]: I always say like, you know, DJ Fedev, you know, although the picture back then was, you know, Egypt is here and the death was here.
34:43
[SPEAKER_09]: Like I've been in intimate settings where it's like, now he's still like a super dude.
34:47
[SPEAKER_09]: Like he's a man.
34:48
[SPEAKER_09]: He's no pushover.
34:49
[SPEAKER_09]: Like, what was it like blending the family and kind of building the bridge?
34:53
[SPEAKER_09]: And at least trying to like, when choosing it, like you had another thought process and just like I got me a girl, it was like, can she be a mom?
35:00
[SPEAKER_09]: Right.
35:00
[SPEAKER_09]: Like to, right.
35:02
[SPEAKER_09]: Like what was that thought process?
35:03
[SPEAKER_02]: Oh no, that, I'm big on that, bro.
35:05
[SPEAKER_02]: That was one of my major concerns, you know, with my past relationship, I said,
35:11
[SPEAKER_02]: When that was over, I said, I wasn't really looking to date anyone, one because of my daughter, right, because it had to be right.
35:20
[SPEAKER_02]: I know some people may say, you know, this is going to come between your relationship.
35:23
[SPEAKER_02]: So I was going to stop you.
35:24
[SPEAKER_02]: I'm like, I'll never date.
35:26
[SPEAKER_02]: Because wow.
35:28
[SPEAKER_02]: if you can't accept what comes with me, then there's no need to be.
35:33
[SPEAKER_02]: Because I never wanted to get into another relationship and have to explain, hey, I just got out of this relationship, I'm rebuilding my credit, I'm redoing this, and I was like, I don't wanna deal with that.
35:41
[SPEAKER_02]: So until I'm right, I'm not dating anyone.
35:45
[SPEAKER_02]: You know, I was not looking at all and inevitably this happened to buying a dimension like literally, so as far as the blending,
35:55
[SPEAKER_02]: When we finally did finally get to get to know each other more and I got to know her spirit and just listen to her and understand that this is what she did.
36:03
[SPEAKER_02]: And I'm like, why is, but this is not who she is.
36:06
[SPEAKER_02]: She's a totally different person.
36:07
[SPEAKER_02]: I said, this is definitely going to make more sense than anything.
36:10
[SPEAKER_02]: And when she met my daughter for the first time, I was like, oh, son, I still deliver it.
36:14
[SPEAKER_02]: It's laying down right here.
36:16
[SPEAKER_03]: I didn't know if I loved him or her more.
36:17
[SPEAKER_03]: I was like, I was like,
36:19
[SPEAKER_03]: Hi little girl, I love with you, you're beautiful.
36:23
[SPEAKER_03]: And I didn't ever see myself as a mother.
36:27
[SPEAKER_03]: And that's the reason I said it, all my friends and kids when they were 18 and 19, my sister had her daughter, 19, I'm like 30 something.
36:36
[SPEAKER_03]: I was like, it's just not gonna happen for me, then I guess, right?
36:41
[SPEAKER_03]: It's amazing how when the right person comes into your life, they change your entire perspective.
36:47
[SPEAKER_03]: The entire world can change just like that.
36:51
[SPEAKER_03]: So that only did I become an instant mom to Simone, our baby, who by the way, she graduated this past year from college.
36:57
[SPEAKER_03]: Magna come out, she's working and new York in the fashion industry.
37:01
[SPEAKER_03]: It's sanity.
37:02
[SPEAKER_03]: But now we have three girls.
37:05
[SPEAKER_03]: You could have never told me back then.
37:08
[SPEAKER_03]: I was going to see it, I was going to see it, I was going to see it, I'm going to see it, I'm going to see it, I'm going to see it, I'm going to see it, I'm going to see it, I'm going to see it, I'm going to see it, I'm going to see it, I'm going to see it, I'm going to see it, I'm going to see it, I'm going to see it, I'm going to see it, I'm going to see it, I'm going to see it, I'm going to see it, I'm going to see it, I'm going to see it, I'm going to see it, I'm going to see it, I'm going to see it, I'm going to see it, I'm going to see it, I'm going to see it, I'm going to see it, I'm going to see it, I'm going to see it, I'm going to see it, I'm going to see it
37:37
[SPEAKER_03]: I don't know what's happening here, but I just, I gotta be honest with you.
37:41
[SPEAKER_03]: And I said, what, he goes, I got divorced.
37:44
[SPEAKER_03]: What year to half ago, he says, I have a small child in an apprenticeship program.
37:50
[SPEAKER_03]: My credit's bad, my money's funny.
37:53
[SPEAKER_03]: And I don't know what you wanna do with that, but I just gotta put it out there, he said, because I had to scoop you to a van.
38:00
[SPEAKER_03]: And he had to scoop you to a van, and it had tape on the door.
38:03
[SPEAKER_09]: They all look like my best and they don't get this out of the way.
38:08
[SPEAKER_09]: It turns out it's almost my career day right now.
38:11
[SPEAKER_09]: I just got out of relationship.
38:12
[SPEAKER_09]: I got a small babe.
38:14
[SPEAKER_09]: I'm not wasting no time.
38:16
[SPEAKER_09]: King Kong Balls.
38:18
[UNKNOWN]: Yeah.
38:18
[SPEAKER_04]: This can't go, but what's wild doing because it was the complete opposite of anything I could have imagined for myself, right?
38:26
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm like, I didn't, I don't want a baby mama drama.
38:29
[SPEAKER_03]: You just got out of a marriage.
38:32
[SPEAKER_03]: That means you're not ready for marriage.
38:34
[SPEAKER_03]: Again, your money is funny.
38:35
[SPEAKER_03]: Meanwhile, I'm going to billboard to New York City.
38:38
[SPEAKER_03]: Right.
38:38
[SPEAKER_05]: Right.
38:38
[SPEAKER_03]: Right.
38:39
[SPEAKER_03]: It is like my credit is bad.
38:40
[SPEAKER_03]: Like, but how have you, you know, all you got to do is open a credit card and you're going to start going to.
38:48
[SPEAKER_03]: It was like, I don't even know what we got moment.
38:52
[SPEAKER_04]: It's a way, no, let's not go past it.
38:54
[SPEAKER_09]: What's up to you, say did you pause?
38:56
[SPEAKER_04]: Well, this was what they go and I was amazing day.
38:59
[SPEAKER_04]: That's what was crazy was at the end of the day.
39:01
[SPEAKER_04]: Wait, time out.
39:02
[SPEAKER_04]: Why did you tell?
39:04
[SPEAKER_04]: This is a great day.
39:05
[SPEAKER_04]: That's the real point of that.
39:06
[SPEAKER_04]: I don't know what it was about.
39:08
[SPEAKER_02]: What is it?
39:09
[SPEAKER_02]: Because I was like, you told so much fun.
39:10
[SPEAKER_02]: Use like, hey, have nothing to do with fun.
39:12
[SPEAKER_02]: It was about.
39:14
[SPEAKER_02]: we either going to have this accepted or not.
39:16
[SPEAKER_02]: I didn't want to wait.
39:17
[SPEAKER_02]: I told you, I didn't want to date anymore.
39:19
[SPEAKER_02]: It's less I didn't want to be judged.
39:21
[SPEAKER_02]: I didn't want to be belittled.
39:22
[SPEAKER_02]: I didn't want you saying, oh, this is not going to work.
39:24
[SPEAKER_02]: And the other half of it is because before our date, you got to remember what you can't remember.
39:30
[SPEAKER_02]: Before our date, we had met on several different incidents, incidents.
39:34
[SPEAKER_02]: where it was six-month interviews to where we just kept me in each other.
39:38
[SPEAKER_03]: So for me, you started working on the properties and then we were like, right.
39:42
[SPEAKER_02]: So for me, the first day I ever met a way before this date, I was like, that's my wife.
39:46
[SPEAKER_02]: So because I knew that was my wife, I was like, I need to let you know this now.
39:51
[SPEAKER_09]: I was like, you knew in your head.
39:53
[SPEAKER_02]: So we didn't get this out of the way, because I know where this is headed.
39:56
[SPEAKER_03]: So, so Willie, you're questioning him my whole life.
40:00
[SPEAKER_02]: Oh, he.
40:01
[SPEAKER_03]: Your question was, what did I say?
40:03
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, what did you say after I was broken?
40:06
[SPEAKER_03]: When he said it, I was like, because I was so hopeful, right?
40:09
[SPEAKER_03]: My joy to had my conversation with God.
40:11
[SPEAKER_03]: And there he was.
40:12
[SPEAKER_03]: And he checked all the boxes and we had an amazing date.
40:15
[SPEAKER_03]: And I was feeling all wanted by his side, ready to call my mama.
40:19
[SPEAKER_03]: And he's hits me with this.
40:20
[SPEAKER_03]: And I was like, you got to be kidding, right?
40:24
[SPEAKER_03]: But I couldn't hurt him, right in that moment, I knew that I held his heart in my hands, and I didn't want to break it.
40:32
[SPEAKER_03]: I didn't want to break him, and so I said to him, I was like, I value you.
40:37
[SPEAKER_03]: Even if we're not going to be together in that way, I still want to be friends with you.
40:41
[SPEAKER_03]: And I thought, I did say the right thing.
40:44
[SPEAKER_03]: I did it.
40:44
[SPEAKER_03]: I gave him the friend conversation.
40:46
[SPEAKER_03]: What did he say?
40:47
[SPEAKER_03]: He's like, oh, then you just want to be my friend.
40:49
[SPEAKER_09]: More love you more podcast after this.
40:52
[SPEAKER_09]: Oh, hey, what's up, so YouTube?
40:54
[SPEAKER_09]: Do me a favor, put in the comments.
40:55
[SPEAKER_09]: Ladies only, be honest.
40:58
[SPEAKER_09]: Can you date a man who is on the come up?
41:02
[SPEAKER_09]: And you don't know already came up.
41:03
[SPEAKER_09]: Stone.
41:04
[SPEAKER_09]: Egypt said that she's still accepted them, but Mike said, I'm recently divorced.
41:09
[SPEAKER_09]: I don't have no big time job.
41:11
[SPEAKER_09]: I'm in the Scooby-Doo van, and I got a small child.
41:14
[SPEAKER_09]: Now what you want to do, she stuck around.
41:17
[SPEAKER_09]: Ladies and the comments, be honest.
41:19
[SPEAKER_09]: Could you stick around if a man was their honest?
41:21
[SPEAKER_09]: Leave it in the comments.
41:22
[SPEAKER_09]: Not bad to the shit.
41:23
[SPEAKER_03]: She said the right thing.
41:24
[SPEAKER_03]: I did it.
41:25
[SPEAKER_03]: I gave him the friend conversation.
41:26
[SPEAKER_03]: It's what they said he's like, oh, then you just want to be my friend?
41:29
[SPEAKER_05]: That's what he was doing to me, my friend.
41:31
[SPEAKER_03]: But I couldn't just be friends with him.
41:33
[SPEAKER_03]: In that moment, there was just something magical that I'd never felt with anybody else.
41:39
[SPEAKER_03]: And because he was honest, because he was truthful, every waking minute of every day after that I thought about him.
41:45
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
41:46
[SPEAKER_03]: We talked nights on end.
41:48
[SPEAKER_03]: He went away to Germany to work for a couple months, right?
41:52
[SPEAKER_03]: He went to Germany and I was like sick waiting for him.
41:57
[SPEAKER_03]: So when he got back from Germany, he came to visit me.
42:01
[SPEAKER_03]: Mind you, we hadn't seen each other in between, but all I thought about was him, of just like, I never had a man be so raw and so honest and so vulnerable with me.
42:10
[SPEAKER_03]: I had everything, I needed, I don't need anything, but you, from you, but love and honesty.
42:15
[SPEAKER_03]: That's truly all I need.
42:16
[SPEAKER_03]: It's love and honesty.
42:18
[SPEAKER_03]: When he got back, it was all.
42:19
[SPEAKER_03]: What?
42:20
[SPEAKER_03]: It was on.
42:21
[SPEAKER_03]: He was like, don't my door, I was like, come here.
42:26
[SPEAKER_09]: That was the real is ever.
42:28
[SPEAKER_09]: Yeah.
42:29
[SPEAKER_03]: So then then we worked together.
42:32
[SPEAKER_03]: Got his credit score up his.
42:33
[SPEAKER_03]: It was hired in mind.
42:34
[SPEAKER_03]: He had 800 something credit score.
42:36
[SPEAKER_03]: fell in love with his daughter.
42:37
[SPEAKER_03]: We dealt with whatever came with having an X and a baby mama.
42:41
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm not going to say there was no drama.
42:43
[SPEAKER_03]: Their definitely was.
42:43
[SPEAKER_03]: But we dealt with it together in a very mature way.
42:47
[SPEAKER_03]: And then used his skills and my skills to create what you see now.
42:51
[SPEAKER_03]: That's where it all started.
42:53
[SPEAKER_09]: Listen, I just want to say that part right there that story right there if if I had his little make up they put on
43:02
[SPEAKER_09]: I don't know, I'm going to throw me down though.
43:04
[SPEAKER_09]: And let me tell you why.
43:05
[SPEAKER_09]: Because I understand how hard it is for a man to be vulnerable.
43:08
[SPEAKER_06]: Oh, yeah.
43:09
[SPEAKER_09]: I'm literally in that state right now where I'm rebuilding my life.
43:14
[SPEAKER_09]: Of course, my credit score, my daddy, he, oh, I was adopted.
43:17
[SPEAKER_09]: So he was like, hell, no, I'm giving it down.
43:18
[SPEAKER_09]: What happened?
43:19
[SPEAKER_09]: You keep that credit where you pulled the hat.
43:22
[SPEAKER_09]: I don't give it to him.
43:23
[SPEAKER_09]: You got to walk on his side of the shoe.
43:25
[SPEAKER_09]: You paid him a bill.
43:26
[SPEAKER_00]: You know, my daddy.
43:27
[SPEAKER_09]: So credit score is still good, but just rebuilding my life.
43:31
[SPEAKER_09]: That spoke to my heart so much because we live in this social media age where everything has to be big and you, you know, people are comparing themselves and so for you to just set an example to say, we have a great day.
43:44
[SPEAKER_09]: But let's just go ahead and get this out the way.
43:46
[SPEAKER_09]: Hey, this is where I met with my life.
43:49
[SPEAKER_09]: Take me a lead because I don't want to waste no more time like I'm into you and I think a lot of people are going to be blessed by on the other side of this camera to know that it's okay to be honest and for you to be a woman
44:01
[SPEAKER_09]: Yeah, well, I'm still going to consider like if you get a UVA software, the Bible declares that, you know, real love true love casts out all of the fear that you won't be fearful of anything that has to do with a person.
44:13
[SPEAKER_09]: Yeah.
44:13
[SPEAKER_09]: And I appreciate that.
44:14
[SPEAKER_02]: You know, for me as a man, Willie, you know, since a kid, I felt like I always had it all.
44:19
[SPEAKER_02]: So.
44:20
[SPEAKER_02]: So when it came to this entertainment stuff, this industry stuff, you know, I've been DJing since I was 10 years old, traveling the world, right?
44:28
[SPEAKER_02]: I've seen some amazing things because of some because of two turntables.
44:32
[SPEAKER_02]: But at the same time, you know, outside is looking in, they all they see is the high points.
44:37
[SPEAKER_02]: They don't realize, okay, yeah, he just was in Dubai, but then I came from Dubai and I was on a construction site at 6 a.m.
44:45
[SPEAKER_02]: Monday, in Dubai on the weekend and construction site Monday and the week, if you're them saying so between that and then traveling and touring and doing all this, I've seen some amazing things.
44:55
[SPEAKER_02]: So I've been blessed to see exactly what God has for me to humble me enough to know that I don't care what anybody else thinks because what's for me is already written.
45:06
[SPEAKER_02]: So whatever you think,
45:08
[SPEAKER_02]: Whatever you want to say, it didn't matter.
45:11
[SPEAKER_02]: That's what made it so easy when it came to this situation, as far as people, you know, on top of the game, record, I mean, radio show worldwide.
45:19
[SPEAKER_02]: I'm like, I didn't care what you know about it though.
45:21
[SPEAKER_03]: But his family didn't like me.
45:23
[SPEAKER_03]: And my, my folks didn't like him at first.
45:27
[SPEAKER_03]: I, you need to know that we've been through some things.
45:29
[SPEAKER_03]: Okay, this is 19 years.
45:30
[SPEAKER_03]: We've been through some things.
45:31
[SPEAKER_03]: If they like the other, there's family initially mind you.
45:35
[SPEAKER_03]: Like, you know what, but here's the thing, right?
45:37
[SPEAKER_03]: When there's a child involved, yeah.
45:39
[SPEAKER_03]: You're always going to have even if you don't really care for the other person is going to be some level of allegiance to the other person that's where your grandbaby is or that's where your grandness is right and who is this one we don't know how long she's going to be around so I'm sticking over here type of thing.
46:07
[SPEAKER_03]: And it's not true, okay, he says it all the time.
46:11
[SPEAKER_03]: We did come from a different lifestyle, all right.
46:15
[SPEAKER_03]: And so when he, I would never forget, he took me to his family reunion.
46:20
[SPEAKER_03]: Mind you, he told me we're going on a date.
46:22
[SPEAKER_03]: I just want you to meet a few of my family members.
46:24
[SPEAKER_06]: It was a very long question.
46:26
[SPEAKER_03]: We showed to Eisenhower Park in Long Island, any entire park was his family.
46:30
[SPEAKER_03]: He was part of his mom's one at 13.
46:32
[SPEAKER_03]: She was one of the ladies.
46:33
[SPEAKER_03]: She was one, I mean, everybody at like 11, 12 kids.
46:36
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
46:36
[SPEAKER_03]: And that is where I meet the police.
46:39
[SPEAKER_03]: So I was like the topic of conversation.
46:41
[SPEAKER_03]: This old yellow girl over here.
46:44
[SPEAKER_03]: I don't even know what I'm saying.
46:45
[SPEAKER_03]: They know I can laugh with them now.
46:47
[SPEAKER_03]: It means mama like this now.
46:48
[SPEAKER_03]: Me and his aunties are like this.
46:50
[SPEAKER_03]: But it's true.
46:52
[SPEAKER_03]: It obviously took some work.
46:54
[SPEAKER_03]: My friends didn't know if they could trust him.
46:57
[SPEAKER_03]: And didn't know like, all right.
46:59
[SPEAKER_03]: He just picked you up in a van with a taped up door and you had to get in on the driver's side and slide over right this is true this is not made up.
47:10
[SPEAKER_03]: This is true.
47:11
[SPEAKER_03]: So you again, boys and you're not just so billboards like I am a wealth educator and the man that I'm talking to them about comes to pick me up and I'm not I'm not ashamed at all because I see the man I don't care what he's driving I've been in every car I've owned every car that you could say I should be riding in that it has never filled my cup so he comes to pick never my girlfriend's like and then the word.
47:39
[SPEAKER_03]: is he's using her, right?
47:42
[SPEAKER_03]: The word is he's using you when you try to drain you it's just because who you are who.
47:47
[SPEAKER_03]: So we have dealt with this noise on both sides.
47:51
[SPEAKER_03]: Those very same people now, very same people are like, you got so lucky, either.
47:58
[SPEAKER_03]: How'd you find a man like Mike?
48:00
[SPEAKER_03]: But you worked with him and he worked with you and y'all built together and they don't make them like those very same people, right?
48:07
[SPEAKER_03]: You just smile at him at the cookout.
48:09
[SPEAKER_03]: How you doing?
48:11
[SPEAKER_06]: That was an issue.
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[SPEAKER_06]: Side of that.
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[SPEAKER_03]: As he drives in his many vehicles.
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[SPEAKER_06]: Right.
48:15
[SPEAKER_06]: It's like, yes.
48:16
[SPEAKER_03]: Give it a hug.
48:17
[SPEAKER_03]: And get in the folks who, you know, obviously didn't give me a heart way to go early on, eventually got to see me for her, I am.
48:24
[SPEAKER_03]: Because when you consistently show up,
48:27
[SPEAKER_03]: Forget what people think you are when you show them who you are and you're consistent and you're there no matter what problem y'all got with me I ain't leaving y'all not running me off then they have no no choice but to fall in love with you.
48:38
[SPEAKER_09]: I want to go back to some and I know I got a land of playing but.
48:43
[SPEAKER_09]: I want to talk about, if you are okay with it, of course, this thing like for clickbait, I just think it'll be special for people.
48:49
[SPEAKER_09]: Could you talk a little bit about your fertility journey and that that trying and then finally the lower blessings and now we have a child in the middle age and how that thing worked out for you?
48:59
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, I mean, you know, so I'm just going to throw it all out there.
49:05
[SPEAKER_03]: It's already on tape?
49:06
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, I am.
49:08
[SPEAKER_03]: I waited very long to get married because I waited on him and we had Kendall but not even two years into our marriage.
49:20
[SPEAKER_03]: And I wanted another baby.
49:21
[SPEAKER_03]: He obviously had to at that point.
49:23
[SPEAKER_03]: So he's like, if you wanted, I want it.
49:25
[SPEAKER_03]: I wanted another baby very bad.
49:27
[SPEAKER_03]: We tried for six years, no seven years.
49:31
[SPEAKER_03]: And you know, went to a fertility specialist and to the day I was getting older and my eggs just weren't for it.
49:38
[SPEAKER_03]: You're myest one, you're myest one, you're myest one.
49:42
[SPEAKER_07]: She said it, I did this.
49:44
[SPEAKER_03]: Don't get mad at me.
49:45
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm proud of that baby.
49:47
[SPEAKER_03]: So, you know, I just had to accept that, you know what?
49:52
[SPEAKER_03]: I got my one then, and then I got my two actually.
49:54
[SPEAKER_03]: I got my bonus baby, and I got it at some point to be okay with that.
49:57
[SPEAKER_03]: But I'll be honest with you, I, he'll tell you, I would cry often because I just knew.
50:03
[SPEAKER_03]: I felt like I missed an opportunity.
50:05
[SPEAKER_03]: And so you got to be careful who you like speak over you too.
50:08
[SPEAKER_03]: I had gone to this event in a psychic medium was there.
50:12
[SPEAKER_03]: And she said, she kept saying to me that the spirit of a little girl kept trying to come to me, and I kept having miscarriages, right?
50:21
[SPEAKER_03]: But she kept saying that the spirit of a little girl kept trying to come to me and throw me, and that she was going to come back, right?
50:29
[SPEAKER_03]: I was like, all right, just leave me alone, just leave me alone, because I was so frustrated about it all, and I had, you know, had two miscarriages at that point.
50:40
[SPEAKER_03]: And so I was very depressed.
50:43
[SPEAKER_03]: It just like, you know, it's not fair.
50:45
[SPEAKER_03]: And I think a lot of women might feel this way, like, do I choose my career, do I choose family?
50:49
[SPEAKER_03]: Should I have my kids early or am I going to regret it later or if I wait and I build my career and I go to school, then am I still going to be able to have kids?
50:57
[SPEAKER_03]: And I was stuck all in the middle of that.
51:00
[SPEAKER_03]: We talked about adoption.
51:02
[SPEAKER_03]: And that was a very real, and I know you were adopted, right?
51:06
[SPEAKER_03]: That was a very real thing for me at that point because I just wanted this other child so bad.
51:11
[SPEAKER_03]: And especially after that psychic plan at that diagonal seed, I couldn't stop thinking about it.
51:16
[SPEAKER_03]: He was very honest with me one day and said, listen, I noticed it's important to you.
51:21
[SPEAKER_03]: But I gotta tell you what my apprehensions are.
51:24
[SPEAKER_03]: I love my children, my girls.
51:26
[SPEAKER_03]: And I'm afraid that there's a chance that if we adopt another child, I'm not gonna be able to love them the way that I love my girls.
51:35
[SPEAKER_03]: And that's setting with me that this was really a solo journey that I was like, .com.
51:41
[SPEAKER_03]: That's right.
51:42
[SPEAKER_09]: That's my honest life.
51:43
[SPEAKER_03]: That was a solo journey that if I kept going on this adoption thing that really, he didn't want it like I wanted it.
51:50
[SPEAKER_03]: So we just settled in, decided to take a trip to Morocco.
51:54
[SPEAKER_03]: But when we started talking about it the very beginning, and this was just a reset for our marriage, but it was also me accepting.
52:02
[SPEAKER_03]: This was a me accepting that.
52:04
[SPEAKER_03]: It's just not in the cards for me.
52:05
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm gonna be okay.
52:06
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm gonna be a dynamic auntie.
52:08
[SPEAKER_05]: Right.
52:09
[SPEAKER_03]: Right.
52:09
[SPEAKER_03]: Right.
52:09
[SPEAKER_03]: Right.
52:09
[SPEAKER_03]: Right.
52:09
[SPEAKER_03]: Right.
52:09
[SPEAKER_03]: A lot of little nieces and nephews.
52:11
[SPEAKER_03]: And on that trip, I was already three and a half months pregnant.
52:19
[SPEAKER_03]: the anxiety, all the pressure I think I put on myself, not believing in God's word.
52:25
[SPEAKER_03]: Listen in everybody else, but not believing in God's promise for me.
52:29
[SPEAKER_02]: You also changed your eating habits.
52:31
[SPEAKER_03]: I did.
52:31
[SPEAKER_03]: I went vegan for like a year.
52:33
[SPEAKER_03]: It cleans my whole body.
52:35
[SPEAKER_03]: Um, that rid of five boys, remember?
52:37
[SPEAKER_03]: I think oh my God, go and vegan did that.
52:40
[SPEAKER_03]: Um,
52:40
[SPEAKER_03]: So, but really it was also a mind set shift of just not focusing on it so much in surrendering yet again when I talked about even at that point where I had the conversation we got about a husband I just surrendered and I submitted to his will whatever it is the you have called for me What you want for me just use me use me and I got a husband at first time the next time I got a baby
53:06
[SPEAKER_03]: I was up in that doctor's office and they called it a geriatric pregnancy.
53:10
[SPEAKER_03]: I said, call it what you want.
53:12
[SPEAKER_03]: It's not.
53:14
[SPEAKER_03]: And now Harper's here she's going to be five next week.
53:17
[SPEAKER_09]: It's a blessing.
53:18
[SPEAKER_09]: Listen, you know, I have the baby girl late and I just and and I say this like.
53:24
[SPEAKER_09]: You know, when I was going through, I was just watching you guys and I was like, man, I feel like such a failure.
53:29
[SPEAKER_09]: Like, I want to, you know, do this and I realize that failure wasn't a person that was just an entity.
53:35
[SPEAKER_09]: And so, you know, you get an opportunity to dust yourself off in the other next time.
53:39
[SPEAKER_09]: And that's, that's really the goal.
53:41
[SPEAKER_09]: And so even with this show, like, it's doing so well because I'm actually a student and my heart posture is to learn.
53:47
[SPEAKER_09]: My heart posture is like,
53:48
[SPEAKER_09]: Okay, yeah, honestly, so what I took away from it, yeah, okay, got that and then you have to do that and it's like differently Because you know going to therapy and counseling and doing all of that stuff You know and really healing yourself you really become a different person.
54:02
[SPEAKER_09]: Yeah, I got struggled to code dependency and I wanted I wanted to be saying like I went out this week
54:07
[SPEAKER_09]: I've had my head down so much doing the show.
54:10
[SPEAKER_09]: You're already, you know, speaking on stage, just doing whatever.
54:12
[SPEAKER_09]: And I just go home, I got a really tight schedule to do.
54:15
[SPEAKER_09]: And I went out and I walked out and everybody's like, hey, how you doing?
54:19
[SPEAKER_09]: I got back on the phone.
54:20
[SPEAKER_09]: My mom said, my, I guess it's working.
54:23
[SPEAKER_09]: That's what you want me, it's like, I want it, it never happens and you're just like, I don't give it then.
54:28
[SPEAKER_09]: Well, I'm just going to do what I think I'm purpose to do and why it's going to happen.
54:32
[SPEAKER_09]: And I'm like, okay, this is good.
54:34
[SPEAKER_09]: I appreciate you allowing me to be the student today and learn to do phenomenal people.
54:38
[SPEAKER_02]: I didn't see you ain't got nothing but elevation and blessings out of your way, brother.
54:43
[SPEAKER_02]: Ever since the first day we met, I was like, there's something known as brother, you know, and it's true.
54:47
[SPEAKER_02]: It's just genuine.
54:49
[SPEAKER_02]: There's nothing to speak about it at all.
54:51
[SPEAKER_02]: And even when you're moving through the crowds and moving through places, and I see, I'm like, people that touch you or you touch them, they just, they just, they just, they just go on, you know what I think?
55:01
[SPEAKER_02]: That's like, be the energy you seek to exist.
55:03
[SPEAKER_02]: And that's what you do all the time.
55:05
[SPEAKER_02]: So it's just going to keep elevating, bro.
55:06
[SPEAKER_03]: But it was, hopefully you didn't get just beyond it started at, because to me, my big thing is surrender, you know, it's a surrender to me, yeah, yeah.
55:17
[SPEAKER_03]: That it's beyond us, it really is.
55:19
[SPEAKER_09]: I definitely got that surrender.
55:21
[SPEAKER_09]: It's just, I have a hard time with that level of honesty because of the codependency that I, that I'm now overcome.
55:27
[SPEAKER_09]: Yeah.
55:27
[SPEAKER_09]: So I would say, you know, I care about you.
55:31
[SPEAKER_09]: And listen, I don't want you to leave.
55:32
[SPEAKER_09]: So my credit kind of on a, you know, I'm saying this on there, you know, I got a few dollars.
55:35
[SPEAKER_09]: You know what I mean?
55:35
[SPEAKER_09]: But it's gonna be okay.
55:36
[SPEAKER_09]: And then, then, then, then, then, then, then, then, then, then, then.
55:38
[SPEAKER_09]: Now I want to let you get an opportunity to get an opportunity to get an opportunity to get an opportunity to get an opportunity to get an opportunity to get an opportunity to get an opportunity to get an opportunity to get an opportunity to get an opportunity to get an opportunity to get an opportunity to get an opportunity to get an opportunity to get an opportunity to get an opportunity to get an opportunity to get an opportunity to get an opportunity to get an opportunity to get an opportunity to get an opportunity to get an opportunity to get an opportunity to get an opportunity to get an opportunity to get an opportunity to get an opportunity to get an opportunity to get an opportunity to get an opportunity to get an opportunity
55:54
[SPEAKER_09]: And I just think that's good.
55:55
[SPEAKER_09]: And then of course grabbing that surrender is so necessary.
55:58
[SPEAKER_09]: I'm so out so screwed guys.
56:00
[SPEAKER_09]: I'm so sorry.
56:00
[SPEAKER_09]: Let me put a ball in this thing because I know they're looking at me like willing.
56:03
[SPEAKER_09]: You're really in a conversation.
56:05
[SPEAKER_09]: Here's the thing I'm so thankful for this conversation because I know I helped you as well.
56:11
[SPEAKER_09]: You know, many times in our life, we really, really want our own way.
56:14
[SPEAKER_09]: And we say these songs, especially like my church people, my pseudo-sophisticated, super-shouting Christian, we say in William Murphy, I give myself away, and then life hits, and you like.
56:26
[SPEAKER_09]: I'll take myself back, right?
56:28
[SPEAKER_09]: Like, I just want my own way.
56:30
[SPEAKER_09]: But I'm learning now listening to these different, different amazing stories that there's always an opportunity to watch God work and become a fan of God.
56:39
[SPEAKER_09]: I his work, but if you hold an on so tight to what you want versus where you are, then you may miss the opportunity to have your hands open to receive what God has for you.
56:50
[SPEAKER_09]: I mean, I said there and listen to Egypt say, I didn't write a face or attribute of tall, dark and handsome.
56:56
[SPEAKER_09]: I wrote character integrity, you know, attributes that I would need, but what I feel like God has called in me to do.
57:04
[SPEAKER_09]: And then I heard a man that said, I mean, from about the second time, I say nothing.
57:07
[SPEAKER_09]: That's my wife.
57:08
[SPEAKER_09]: I got to be honest with her.
57:10
[SPEAKER_09]: Like in the affirmative, like, I know this is what I'm going to do.
57:13
[SPEAKER_09]: And it gave him the courage to say, hey, this is where I am, but I'm not going to be here forever.
57:18
[SPEAKER_09]: And so as I make this little right turn just to my fellas, ladies, you can bring them all near, brother, you are not what you do.
57:26
[SPEAKER_09]: You can have a woman who loves you for who you are.
57:30
[SPEAKER_09]: But here's the thing, you have to love yourself for who you are as well.
57:34
[SPEAKER_09]: And that takes you to be for to be an honest.
57:36
[SPEAKER_09]: And I know that's hard when we live in a world where there's so many people with a high-light real.
57:41
[SPEAKER_09]: Everybody has a new car.
57:42
[SPEAKER_09]: Everybody's a millionaire.
57:43
[SPEAKER_09]: And you may be at your wit's in, just hold on.
57:47
[SPEAKER_09]: Don't allow yourself to go down a rabbit hole when you have a woman who loves you, not for what you do, but for who you are.
57:54
[SPEAKER_09]: Because if you begin to see who you are, the king and you is going to arise.
57:59
[SPEAKER_09]: And if you have a woman speaking to the king and you, sometimes you gotta believe what she sees so you can believe it for yourself.
58:05
[SPEAKER_09]: It's just a challenge to that fellas.
58:07
[SPEAKER_09]: And here's your thing, I've been there.
58:09
[SPEAKER_09]: I know what it's like to look at that bank account and it ain't popping like you thought it was going to be popping.
58:13
[SPEAKER_09]: I know what it looks like to sit around and feel so depressing.
58:16
[SPEAKER_09]: You try to drink it away, sex it away.
58:18
[SPEAKER_09]: And even just hang out with the voice or time can just join the way.
58:21
[SPEAKER_09]: I know what it's like to try to peel yourself out of the bed.
58:24
[SPEAKER_09]: But there's a savior out there who loves you, not because you're so good.
58:28
[SPEAKER_09]: But because he's so good.
58:30
[SPEAKER_09]: Lean on him and trust what God put on the inside of you and I believe your best days are ahead of you, Chad.
58:34
[SPEAKER_09]: Love you, ladies.
58:35
[SPEAKER_09]: Hey family, do me a favor.
58:36
[SPEAKER_09]: Can you subscribe to this channel?
58:38
[SPEAKER_09]: And if any of this information was good for you, share it with somebody else, share the wealth.
58:41
[SPEAKER_09]: That's what I want you to do.
58:42
[SPEAKER_09]: And here's the thing.
58:43
[SPEAKER_09]: Of course, we won't hit.
58:44
[SPEAKER_09]: Of course, we won't people to watch.
58:45
[SPEAKER_09]: That's all good.
58:46
[SPEAKER_09]: But I believe that we're bringing valuable content that can be life-changing for you.
58:50
[SPEAKER_09]: Tested among these are great when you get an opportunity to drop the fourth wall and experience people like you've never experienced them.
58:56
[SPEAKER_09]: I believe you experienced Egypt in Mike in a way that you've never experienced them today.
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[SPEAKER_09]: So, share it with somebody that you think it will help.
59:02
[SPEAKER_09]: All right.
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[SPEAKER_09]: Tell my Patreon as you already know what it is, shall we?
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[SPEAKER_09]: Love you more.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Lara.