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Episode 29: Sometimes, Things Come Full Circle. ...And Then They Make Another Circle · From My Planit to Yours...

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SPEAKER_00: Hey there, I'm Blizzard Planet.
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SPEAKER_00: This is the Self-Friendship Podcast, where playfulness meets self-reflection.
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SPEAKER_00: Picture this,
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SPEAKER_00: you hopped on the band Rocket,
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SPEAKER_00: and now you're on Planet Butter,
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SPEAKER_00: a world made of delicious,
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SPEAKER_00: sparkly,
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SPEAKER_00: nut butter volcanoes,
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SPEAKER_00: and an adorable disco ball of self-reflection is whirling around in her
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SPEAKER_00: transforming convertible.
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah, pretty cool, huh?
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SPEAKER_00: Thanks for joining me in my 29th episode where I'll be sharing my answer to last week's question.
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SPEAKER_00: What is the work?
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SPEAKER_00: A note on romantic synchronicities,
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SPEAKER_00: repurposing conditioning,
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SPEAKER_00: learn by being,
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SPEAKER_00: a new affirmation,
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SPEAKER_00: understanding that trauma is a spectrum,
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SPEAKER_00: a party of one,
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SPEAKER_00: why we should normalize frequent outfit changes,
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SPEAKER_00: a note on depth perception,
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SPEAKER_00: how to effectively move forward,
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SPEAKER_00: a note on true happiness,
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SPEAKER_00: a self-inspiring question,
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SPEAKER_00: a note on thinking out loud,
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SPEAKER_00: a note on the societal quote-unquote box,
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SPEAKER_00: a perspective dance with I'm so hungry,
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SPEAKER_00: and a brand new question for all of us to self-reflect,
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SPEAKER_00: self-connect,
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SPEAKER_00: and email me,
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SPEAKER_00: if you desire,
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SPEAKER_00: selffriendshippodcast at gmail.com.
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SPEAKER_00: So, my answer to last week's question of the week, which was...
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SPEAKER_00: What is a trick that you use to ensure that your future self is your internal dominant voice?
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SPEAKER_00: I simply practice listening to it.
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SPEAKER_00: I think the voice is always there and by choosing to listen to it,
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SPEAKER_00: I am insinuating to my body and my mind that this voice is one we trust.
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SPEAKER_00: That's it.
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SPEAKER_00: Email me your answers, selffriendshippodcast at gmail.com.
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SPEAKER_00: And of course, any questions.
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SPEAKER_00: Now, what is the work?
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SPEAKER_00: In terms of self-development, I see the work as implementation.
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SPEAKER_00: Everything else is practice.
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SPEAKER_00: Now, what do I mean by this?
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SPEAKER_00: I mean that we have to implement all the self-reflection,
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SPEAKER_00: all the research,
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SPEAKER_00: all the intellectualizing,
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SPEAKER_00: all the ways we want to show up.
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SPEAKER_00: It's essentially exposure therapy.
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SPEAKER_00: We can read all the books we want, listen to all the podcasts, fill up hundreds of our journals.
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SPEAKER_00: But if we don't face the people or situations and face ourselves within those
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SPEAKER_00: people and situations,
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SPEAKER_00: our mirrors,
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SPEAKER_00: we are not doing the work to the full extent.
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SPEAKER_00: We're perpetually practicing and convincing ourselves we're doing the quote unquote work.
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SPEAKER_00: But if we don't implement it beyond the confines of our own awareness and self-talk,
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SPEAKER_00: we will not become our favorite version of ourselves.
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SPEAKER_00: What I find most effective is to initially stay in my shell that I require to show
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SPEAKER_00: up solely for myself in the ways that I'm practicing becoming.
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SPEAKER_00: I integrate actions I deem necessary into my daily experiences.
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SPEAKER_00: Easy example.
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SPEAKER_00: I have strict phone boundaries.
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SPEAKER_00: For me, this reinforces my desire to be a person who is present.
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SPEAKER_00: I practice.
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SPEAKER_00: In terms of external relationships,
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SPEAKER_00: I intellectualize,
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SPEAKER_00: understand,
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SPEAKER_00: and process the given dynamics,
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SPEAKER_00: my role,
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SPEAKER_00: my perspective,
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SPEAKER_00: other people's perspectives,
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SPEAKER_00: and I play with the tools that I'll need to actually implement for when I am in
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SPEAKER_00: those situations.
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SPEAKER_00: This allows me to show up more grounded in myself and more solidified in my
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SPEAKER_00: knowledge and tools that I've harnessed.
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SPEAKER_00: And again, do my very best to implement them.
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SPEAKER_00: And then do it again,
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SPEAKER_00: and again,
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SPEAKER_00: and again,
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SPEAKER_00: and again,
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SPEAKER_00: and again,
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SPEAKER_00: and again,
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SPEAKER_00: until I faced the people,
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SPEAKER_00: the situations,
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SPEAKER_00: the circumstances each time more and more grounded in the version of myself.
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SPEAKER_00: I worked to cultivate until I either no longer attract those people,
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SPEAKER_00: situations or circumstances or slash and I can face the same people and situations
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SPEAKER_00: or types of people and situations with my newly solidified perspective and way of being.
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SPEAKER_00: With the work comes perspective dancing.
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SPEAKER_00: When we can see both ourselves and the world around us differently, we respond differently.
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SPEAKER_00: We become more solid in our newly developed foundation of our favorite self.
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SPEAKER_00: We do the work.
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SPEAKER_00: Now a note on romantic synchronicities.
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SPEAKER_00: I noticed a lot of people get really excited,
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SPEAKER_00: myself included,
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SPEAKER_00: when there's a cool synchronicity with someone we're romantically interested in.
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SPEAKER_00: The trick I've found is to simply remember that literally everything is a synchronicity.
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SPEAKER_00: And so,
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SPEAKER_00: if we look at a story that unfolds with someone we're not romantically into and
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SPEAKER_00: replaced them with someone we are romantically into,
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SPEAKER_00: it would equally make for an amazing romantic story.
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SPEAKER_00: We just aren't attracted to the person that the story is actually with, so we don't romanticize it.
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SPEAKER_00: So the point is stay grounded.
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SPEAKER_00: Every moment and every interaction is synchronized.
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SPEAKER_00: Some are just sexier than others and we get carried away because we love love.
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SPEAKER_00: Next is repurposing conditioning.
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SPEAKER_00: I made a reel recently referencing how permission is something so deeply ingrained
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SPEAKER_00: in our minds and society itself that rather than unlearning it,
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SPEAKER_00: we're better off repurposing it as a tool to better serve our self-friendship practice.
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SPEAKER_00: It's already built in, so how we use it is at our discretion.
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SPEAKER_00: My hope with mentioning this is to simply remind you to ask yourself, do I want to unlearn this?
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SPEAKER_00: Or is there greater value in repurposing it?
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SPEAKER_00: Unlearning is a tricky concept because it implies spending time trying to undo
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SPEAKER_00: something rather than just doing something else.
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SPEAKER_00: If we do something else,
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SPEAKER_00: we will naturally not do the thing we don't want to be doing,
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SPEAKER_00: especially if we do the opposite of the thing we don't want to do.
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SPEAKER_00: It's what I always call perspective dancing.
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SPEAKER_00: Let me know if you've got any questions on that.
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SPEAKER_00: No.
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SPEAKER_00: Learn by being.
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SPEAKER_00: They say learn by doing.
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SPEAKER_00: I agree.
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SPEAKER_00: And I want to offer learn by being.
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SPEAKER_00: It's the same idea,
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SPEAKER_00: but the nuance of being as opposed to doing conveys an element of presence and
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SPEAKER_00: mindfulness during the quote unquote doing.
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SPEAKER_00: It enhances our learning process.
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SPEAKER_00: Now, a new affirmation.
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SPEAKER_00: I give myself permission to be fully present in all that I do.
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SPEAKER_00: I give myself permission to be fully present in all that I do.
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SPEAKER_00: See how that related to learn by being clever, huh?
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SPEAKER_00: Next, understanding that trauma is a spectrum.
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SPEAKER_00: This is a little bit touchy,
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SPEAKER_00: but I trust we can all agree to objectively view this for the sake of our
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SPEAKER_00: self-friendship practice and empathy for both ourselves and others.
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SPEAKER_00: So I've noticed trauma has become a more popular conversation in recent years.
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SPEAKER_00: Now, while that's a beautiful thing, I also want to acknowledge the validity of all trauma.
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SPEAKER_00: Someone close to me recently said they didn't feel comfortable acknowledging
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SPEAKER_00: something in their life as traumatic simply because it seemed like an intense word,
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SPEAKER_00: as though their experience didn't qualify as trauma.
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SPEAKER_00: That obviously upset me, so here we are.
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SPEAKER_00: The thing is,
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SPEAKER_00: just because you fortunately didn't have some horrendous experience does not
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SPEAKER_00: invalidate your life experience.
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SPEAKER_00: Trauma is defined as a psychological,
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SPEAKER_00: emotional,
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SPEAKER_00: or physical response to an event or experience that is deeply distressing or disturbing.
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SPEAKER_00: It can result from a single incident or from ongoing repetitive stress,
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SPEAKER_00: significantly impacting an individual's mental and emotional well-being.
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SPEAKER_00: Everyone,
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SPEAKER_00: everyone has various experiences in their life that have caused them to have a psychological,
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SPEAKER_00: emotional,
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SPEAKER_00: or physical response to an event or experience that is deeply distressing or
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SPEAKER_00: disturbing for them individually.
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SPEAKER_00: It depends on the individual's exposure.
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SPEAKER_00: There are specific terms for this.
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SPEAKER_00: So, acute trauma, chronic trauma, and complex trauma.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay?
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SPEAKER_00: Acute trauma is resulting from a single incident, such as an accident, a natural disaster, or an assault.
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SPEAKER_00: Chronic trauma stems from repeated and prolonged exposure to highly stressful events,
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SPEAKER_00: such as domestic violence or chronic illness.
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SPEAKER_00: And the third one was complex trauma,
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SPEAKER_00: which involves exposure to multiple traumatic events,
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SPEAKER_00: often of an invasive interpersonal nature,
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SPEAKER_00: such as child abuse or severe neglect.
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SPEAKER_00: Understanding that trauma is a spectrum allows us to empathize with others and ourselves,
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SPEAKER_00: recognizing that everybody's experiences and reactions are valid and unique.
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SPEAKER_00: Our subconscious mind and body do not know any different.
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SPEAKER_00: Our conscious mind is the one comparing to other people's traumas and the level of severity.
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SPEAKER_00: Our body is only able to compare to its own severity.
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SPEAKER_00: The severity of your trauma is only understood by your own personal body and mind.
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SPEAKER_00: Just to reiterate, there is always going to be worse and better, quote unquote.
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SPEAKER_00: All we can do, all we can do is embrace, understand, and enjoy ourselves.
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SPEAKER_00: Practice self-friendship.
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SPEAKER_00: In doing so, we can cultivate more empathy for others and understanding.
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SPEAKER_00: That last one was pretty serious, so let's go with a party of one.
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SPEAKER_00: As a loving reminder,
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SPEAKER_00: party of one means having fun with oneself,
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SPEAKER_00: for oneself,
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SPEAKER_00: as oneself,
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SPEAKER_00: anywhere,
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SPEAKER_00: everywhere,
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SPEAKER_00: no matter who's there.
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SPEAKER_00: We become our party of one by consistently practicing self-friendship.
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SPEAKER_00: Each episode,
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SPEAKER_00: I share little stories from my life that happened thanks to me showing up in the
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SPEAKER_00: world as my party of one.
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SPEAKER_00: I went to a Kundalini yoga class and it was the biggest class of any kind I've ever been to.
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SPEAKER_00: I almost walked out when I got there because it was so big.
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SPEAKER_00: I do not enjoy busy places in general, especially a yoga class.
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SPEAKER_00: And Kundalini specifically is a very energy focused class and extremely expansive for your energy.
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SPEAKER_00: So I had no interest in sharing my energetic space with this many people.
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SPEAKER_00: But I did feel I was meant to be there.
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SPEAKER_00: So I stayed.
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SPEAKER_00: Initially,
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SPEAKER_00: I sat in a place that I did feel drawn to,
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SPEAKER_00: I met a nice lady,
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SPEAKER_00: and the guy next to me was pretty cute.
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SPEAKER_00: So then,
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SPEAKER_00: right before class started,
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SPEAKER_00: the instructor announced that there were still three more spaces up at the front,
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SPEAKER_00: beside the gong,
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SPEAKER_00: and behind the gong.
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SPEAKER_00: Now for your understanding,
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SPEAKER_00: these are considered the worst seats because you don't receive the gong vibrations directly.
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SPEAKER_00: And in smaller, normal-sized classes, these seats would simply never be an option.
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SPEAKER_00: Me,
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SPEAKER_00: being my party of one,
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SPEAKER_00: and despising the crowded environment,
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SPEAKER_00: when I heard,
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SPEAKER_00: quote-unquote,
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SPEAKER_00: behind the gong,
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SPEAKER_00: my brain translated this to personal space and a unique experience.
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SPEAKER_00: I'll never be in an overcrowded yoga class in Bali behind a gong again.
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SPEAKER_00: ever again so why not indulge in this different perspective i stood up and i
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SPEAKER_00: announced to the room that's for me just like that seriously and the room of 100
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SPEAKER_00: plus people yeah 100 fucking people
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SPEAKER_00: Started laughing,
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SPEAKER_00: and I just said out loud,
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SPEAKER_00: just loud enough for the people that I was passing by to hear,
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SPEAKER_00: I don't know what everybody's laughing about.
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SPEAKER_00: Well, I do know, but I want that seat.
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SPEAKER_00: And I carried on my walk over to the seat behind the gong.
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SPEAKER_00: Nobody wanted it because they prioritized the supposedly more intense gong vibrations.
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SPEAKER_00: I prioritized my personal space and unique perspective.
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SPEAKER_00: Self-friendship, as I do.
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Haha.
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SPEAKER_00: Quite honestly,
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SPEAKER_00: with that many people in the room,
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SPEAKER_00: I wonder if the effects on their side of the gong were diluted.
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SPEAKER_00: I mean, they had to be, right?
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SPEAKER_00: With so many bodies around to absorb the energy of the vibrations,
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SPEAKER_00: I can't imagine that they received the benefits that they thought they were receiving.
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SPEAKER_00: Anyway, so that was my party of one.
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SPEAKER_00: To reiterate,
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SPEAKER_00: I consciously chose the commonly considered worst seat in the house for the sake of
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SPEAKER_00: personal space and a unique perspective.
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SPEAKER_00: That is embracing, understanding, and enjoying myself.
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SPEAKER_00: And in doing that,
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SPEAKER_00: I had fun with myself,
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SPEAKER_00: for myself,
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SPEAKER_00: as myself,
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SPEAKER_00: in an environment I would not have had fun in otherwise.
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SPEAKER_00: I made it fun because I chose to have fun.
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SPEAKER_00: You see?
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SPEAKER_00: Ta-da!
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SPEAKER_00: Also, don't tell anyone.
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SPEAKER_00: But I did not respect the class the way I normally would, and I was touching the gong.
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SPEAKER_00: Super lightly.
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SPEAKER_00: I wasn't trying to mess with it.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm not going to be rude, but I didn't have full respect for the class.
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SPEAKER_00: I was just a little rude, I guess.
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SPEAKER_00: But nobody knew I was being rude, which doesn't make it okay.
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SPEAKER_00: But anyway, I just wanted to see what would happen.
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SPEAKER_00: If I'm going to indulge in this new perspective of being behind the gong,
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SPEAKER_00: I'm going to do it to my fullest.
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SPEAKER_00: You know I had to keep it silly.
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SPEAKER_00: And sure enough,
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SPEAKER_00: for all those people who thought they had the best seats for the gong,
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SPEAKER_00: I was touching it.
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SPEAKER_00: So I got the most direct vibrations possible.
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SPEAKER_00: Can't get better than that.
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SPEAKER_00: All right.
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SPEAKER_00: Party of one.
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SPEAKER_00: Silly girl.
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SPEAKER_00: Silly world.
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SPEAKER_00: Now, why we should normalize frequent outfit changes.
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SPEAKER_00: Personally,
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SPEAKER_00: I change my clothes between every single activity in my day as part of my
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SPEAKER_00: self-friendship practice.
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SPEAKER_00: From sleep,
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SPEAKER_00: to meditation,
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SPEAKER_00: to workout,
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SPEAKER_00: to voice work,
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SPEAKER_00: to breakfast,
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SPEAKER_00: to biking,
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SPEAKER_00: to writing,
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SPEAKER_00: to walking,
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SPEAKER_00: etc.
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SPEAKER_00: I find it to bring me fresh energy.
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SPEAKER_00: Fresh clothes, fresh energy.
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SPEAKER_00: And as my mind and body shifts activities, my physical expression shifts with it.
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SPEAKER_00: And now a note on depth perception.
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SPEAKER_00: Throughout our days, we're mostly looking at other people or a screen.
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SPEAKER_00: Both of these things require us to focus on something relatively close to our faces.
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SPEAKER_00: Intuitively for the last bunch of years, I've practiced just staring off into the distance.
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SPEAKER_00: I find it relaxing for my eyes and a fun little exercise.
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SPEAKER_00: And now,
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SPEAKER_00: for the first time ever,
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SPEAKER_00: I've looked into the scientific benefits because I understand that while all I
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SPEAKER_00: personally need is my intuition,
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SPEAKER_00: many people want to know the science.
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SPEAKER_00: But why?
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SPEAKER_00: Relax, I'm here to tell you.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay, so the benefits as per my intuition, backed by science, are...
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SPEAKER_00: Eye relaxation.
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SPEAKER_00: Looking into the distance relaxes the ciliary muscles in your eyes,
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SPEAKER_00: reducing strain caused by focusing on nearby objects like screens.
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SPEAKER_00: Depth perception.
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SPEAKER_00: Regularly focusing on distant objects stimulates depth perception,
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SPEAKER_00: enhancing spatial awareness and coordination.
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SPEAKER_00: Natural light exposure.
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SPEAKER_00: It often involves being outdoors or in well-lit areas,
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SPEAKER_00: providing beneficial exposure to natural light,
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SPEAKER_00: which supports circadian rhythms and mood regulation.
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SPEAKER_00: Relief from digital eye strain.
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SPEAKER_00: Taking breaks to look into the distance alleviates digital eye strain caused by prolonged screen use.
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SPEAKER_00: And lastly, connection to nature.
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SPEAKER_00: Observing natural landscapes while looking into the distance reduces stress,
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SPEAKER_00: enhances creativity,
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SPEAKER_00: and improves overall cognitive function.
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SPEAKER_00: Again, that's my intuition backed by science.
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SPEAKER_00: Yay.
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SPEAKER_00: Now how to effectively move forward.
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SPEAKER_00: Neutrally acknowledge the perspective you used to have and the perspective you currently have.
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SPEAKER_00: When we do this neutrally, we remove the emotions attached to whatever it may be.
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SPEAKER_00: This allows us to create space for further processing as our present self.
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SPEAKER_00: Now a note on true happiness.
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SPEAKER_00: One form of true happiness is the ability to experience joy in environments where
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SPEAKER_00: we weren't previously happy.
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SPEAKER_00: Sustaining happiness despite external influences is one of the greatest mental,
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SPEAKER_00: emotional,
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SPEAKER_00: and physical challenges we face.
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SPEAKER_00: It teaches us not to rely on external factors for our happiness.
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SPEAKER_00: If and when we can revisit those environments unfazed and remain in our state of happiness,
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SPEAKER_00: we've mastered a huge happiness hurdle.
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SPEAKER_00: Now a self-inspiring question.
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SPEAKER_00: What can I do to bring this to life?
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SPEAKER_00: Sitting with this and repeating it to ourselves allows us to consider our own skill sets.
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SPEAKER_00: By repeating it to ourselves and associating it with a specific intention,
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SPEAKER_00: our subconscious mind will equally work on it.
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SPEAKER_00: So in a random moment,
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SPEAKER_00: someday later,
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SPEAKER_00: we'll quote unquote randomly experience an aha moment of a tangible way that we can
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SPEAKER_00: begin to actually bring whatever it is to life.
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SPEAKER_00: Bringing some form of truth to whatever it is you want is the key to manifesting,
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SPEAKER_00: which I've discussed further in episode 10.
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SPEAKER_00: It's an act of meeting the universe halfway.
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SPEAKER_00: We do our best with our best skills, and the uni does its magic.
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SPEAKER_00: Now a note on meant to be.
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SPEAKER_00: We often use this phrase as if fate implies a predetermined forever.
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SPEAKER_00: In truth, every single moment of every day is fated and a synchronicity in itself.
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SPEAKER_00: We tend to romanticize these concepts because of their rarity,
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SPEAKER_00: but embracing every moment as magical and uniquely our own allows us to truly
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SPEAKER_00: embrace our individual journey.
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SPEAKER_00: By recognizing that movies and TV shows present idealized narratives with a clear beginning,
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SPEAKER_00: middle,
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SPEAKER_00: and end,
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SPEAKER_00: unlike the continuous evolving nature of real life,
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SPEAKER_00: we can liberate ourselves from attachments to predetermined scripts and embrace the
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SPEAKER_00: fluidity of our own perspectives.
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SPEAKER_00: Likewise, sometimes things come full circle, and then they make another circle.
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SPEAKER_00: Circles are infinite, just like the universe, and therefore our existence.
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SPEAKER_00: So everything is meant to be.
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SPEAKER_00: Nothing is permanent,
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SPEAKER_00: and full circle only means that specific phase of a thing has circled back to where
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SPEAKER_00: it originally began in a new way.
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SPEAKER_00: Doesn't mean it can't go around again.
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SPEAKER_00: A note on thinking out loud.
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SPEAKER_00: Discussing things out loud may be more naturally helpful to some than others.
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SPEAKER_00: However,
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SPEAKER_00: I think if everyone considered that when talking our thoughts out loud,
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SPEAKER_00: we are not only releasing these things from our mind,
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SPEAKER_00: but we are also giving the opportunity to listen to ourselves.
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SPEAKER_00: And when we both release our thoughts and listen to ourselves, we inevitably reach greater conclusions.
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SPEAKER_00: I think that's pretty cool.
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SPEAKER_00: We can also feel...
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SPEAKER_00: We can also feel how it sounds in our body.
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SPEAKER_00: The body knows.
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SPEAKER_00: Now, a note on the societal quote unquote box.
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SPEAKER_00: You know that box everyone talks about thinking outside of and not fitting into?
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SPEAKER_00: There is no box.
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SPEAKER_00: The box is a made-up environment that nobody, nobody fits into.
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SPEAKER_00: And if anyone does, they're severely unconscious.
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SPEAKER_00: We all think and operate differently from one another.
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SPEAKER_00: Nobody fits in because there's nothing to fit into.
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SPEAKER_00: The core problem here are the unconscious people of society who are so unaware of
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SPEAKER_00: their own way of operating that they judge others for being themselves.
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SPEAKER_00: My hope is to increase the turnover rate from unconscious to conscious with my
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SPEAKER_00: concept of self-friendship.
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SPEAKER_00: You in?
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SPEAKER_00: And now, a perspective dance with, I'm so hungry.
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SPEAKER_00: Instead of saying, I'm so hungry, we can say, I'm so excited to eat.
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SPEAKER_00: This flips us from a mindset of limitation or lack to one of abundance and positivity.
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SPEAKER_00: Yay!
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SPEAKER_00: And now, the question of the week.
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SPEAKER_00: What can I do to bring this to life?
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SPEAKER_00: This can be whatever you want it to be.
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SPEAKER_00: If you feel like it,
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SPEAKER_00: email me what it is that you want to bring to life and what skills of yours make it approachable.
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SPEAKER_00: SelfFriendshipPodcast at gmail.com.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay,
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SPEAKER_00: the world's first coffee table book with a lesson,
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SPEAKER_00: Party of One,
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SPEAKER_00: The book is where the world of Planet Butter comes to life and Lissy,
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SPEAKER_00: the disco ball of self-reflection,
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SPEAKER_00: self-friendship looks like in action.
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SPEAKER_00: I'll see you next Thursday.
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SPEAKER_00: From my planet to yours.