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Autistic loneliness - How to Deal With Loneliness And Autism (Autistic Adult) · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  You have arrived. Welcome to the Aspy world.
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  Here's where we talk about anything and everything ASD in
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  an upbeat and informative way. And now here's your man on the
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  spectrum, your autism ambassador, Daniel Morgan Jones.
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  Being autistic can be lonely as fuck guys.
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  What's going on? Welcome back to the aspy world.
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  My name is Dan and I have autism and ADHD.
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  I, I, I wanted to do this video and like I've done videos before
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  on kind of loneliness, right and, and what can I say?
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  Hey look guys, it's good to be back 2025.
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  Oh my goodness, never thought we'd get here, but we're here.
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  It's crazy, right? And it's probably the most alone
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  I've felt in a long time. And there are many reasons for
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  this. Now autistic individuals will
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  feel lonely because of various things, right?
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  There could be, you know, lack of friendships, lack of social
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  circles because we find socializing, creating and, and
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  maintaining friends difficult. But there are many of the
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  factors that come into it. And you only really feel that
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  you're alone or, you know, and recognize loneliness when it
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  hits you in the face. Like I get up in the morning,
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  I'm alone. I, I make my breakfast, I'm
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  alone, You know, I go out for a run.
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  I'm on my own. I, I work out, I'm on my own.
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  I'm sitting in the office working, I'm on my own.
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  And I only really think this when I sit down and analyse the
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  situation that I'm in. I'm like, wow, I'm in my house
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  all alone. I've been on my own all day.
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  I've just been me sitting here in my house all alone and I have
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  plenty. I have family members.
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  I have two children. I have a girlfriend, but my
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  children only live with me 50% of the time.
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  And my girlfriend only lives with me 50% of the time because
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  she lives in Canada. And it's kind of like, you know,
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  and I just got back from Canada and FYI, guys, Canada's awesome
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  in the winter. Like the snow is crazy.
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  I'm trying to put a picture here of somewhere or a video here of
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  me pushing snow. But it's really cool.
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  Canada was great and I really appreciate the time I have
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  there. Guys, wanted to interrupt this
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  video to talk to you about an app I've been using and I really
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  love, but I know that you'll like, it's called Headway.
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  Now Headway is an app that I think is perfect for people on
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  the autism spectrum and ADHD, which is my neuro spicy folk
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  when you want to learn things and many things at once.
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  Now, if you're like me and you have the same issue I have, I
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  want to learn many things, but I don't want to kind of search
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  through an entire book just for that one piece of information.
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  I want to be able to digest that stuff quickly, easily, and when
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  I want it right then and there. Headway makes it so much easier
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  when you're setting up. It asks you your preferences of
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  what kind of things you want to learn, what kind of things
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  you're interested in, where you want to improve your life, how
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  you're currently feeling about things, All the things for
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  money, finances, relationships, whatever it is that you're
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  trying to learn. Headway makes that into a
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  concise format that then puts it into like a homepage scenario
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  where you can listen to something rather than read.
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  If you prefer listening, like me, I'm dyslexic, right?
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  It has that function. It allows me to listen to the
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  pieces of information rather than just read them.
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  But you can read them if if you want to.
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  I think this is a fantastic app. It's highly recommended for
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  people on the autism spectrum who are desperate to learn
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  things daily. Like me.
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  I get depressed and annoyed if I can't learn things daily.
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  So Headway makes it possible. So normally I think it's
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  amazing. I have to actually thank them
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  because they've made this amazing for me.
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  It's giving information accessibility to the next level
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  for neurodividend individuals. Now, please check out the
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  Headway app and the link will be in the description down below.
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  And I'll also leave a link in my bio so you can check it out
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  there as well. Thanks, Headway.
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  All right, let's get back to the video.
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  But it's weird, like I, I, I spending time, you know, it's
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  like when my kids are here, my kids are in my house, I'm
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  spending time with my kids and then all of a sudden they go and
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  I'm alone. It hits you.
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  It's like, wow, I'm on my own, you know, and, and being alone
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  sucks. It sucks more than anything, you
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  know, like, and, and how do I, how do you explain how you feel
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  when you feel alone? It's kind of like you have all
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  these things going on. You have many messages coming in
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  on social media, you have many text messages, you have people
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  who may phone you, you have, you know, work to do.
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  You have clients, you know, and, and the things that you converse
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  with, but none of it makes you feel like you're less lonely.
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  And, and it's a hard, weird expression to, to have.
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  And I've been thinking about this a lot lately.
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  And I don't want people to feel as alone as I do.
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  That is my mission this year, to make autistic individuals feel
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  less alone. Like we have to do something
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  about it. Like there's, there's no more.
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  I'm like, I was, I was in Canada and I was having a really good
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  time seeing my girlfriend. You know, it was in her house
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  there in Canada and I was working there.
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  We were going for dinner and we did.
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  And it's really cool because you have all these things.
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  You have somebody around you that loves and cares for you the
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  whole time. And then you come home, Oh, you
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  step off that plane and you're like, wow, it's just me now.
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  It's just me on my own. Like, what, what am I going to
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  do here? And so one of the things I was
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  thinking about was like, how am I dealing with loneliness?
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  Because sometimes I go through certain days when I don't feel
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  that lonely and I'm like, oh, OK, but how do I deal with it?
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  And one of the things I realized I'm doing is I'm keeping myself
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  busy with the things that bring me the most joy.
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  Now my work brings me lots of joy.
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  You know, like I love making videos for YouTube.
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  I love doing all these things. And it's organizing those things
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  and staying focused on them that keeps me going.
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  Now, how do I do this? I have notepads.
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  I have so many notepads, right? And I know guys, if you're like
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  me and you have like 16 notepads on the go, you have like 18 to
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  do lists. I know it, I get it.
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  I feel you. I'm you.
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  I have ADHD, autism, dyslexia, you name it, We vibe, right?
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  This is this is our tribe. And if you haven't already, make
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  sure to hit that subscribe button tribe, because like,
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  we're all here. We're part of this family,
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  right? And I'm going to talk a little
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  bit more about how we're building this in in a minute.
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  Now, this is so unique and interesting that I find out that
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  when I'm writing down my goals and my aspirations and my to
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  do's in this little book or even just thoughts, anything into
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  this little book, right? I feel less alone because I'm
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  expressing myself through having those things down written in a
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  format. I can see even though I am using
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  progression, I'm moving forward through space because sometimes
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  I get to this point where I sit in there in this like inertia
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  abyss where I want to do all these things.
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  And then I go, I have so many things to do, so many things I
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  want to do and I can't do a single one of them because I
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  feel so lonely. I feel this pit of despair.
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  All I want to do is pill up into a ball and go to sleep.
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  And that's not going to help anybody because we have to take
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  responsibility and go, this is the thing I want to do in life.
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  How am I going to do it? I want to move forward and I
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  want to do these things. Now, that's all well and good
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  and I do believe that, you know, this helps with my focus and my
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  attitude to maintain this kind of like steady kind of, OK, no,
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  it's working. I'm moving forward through
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  space, it's working. However, there's another side of
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  it. I feel that when a problem
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  shared is a problem halved, which is totally, absolutely,
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  100% bang on the money. And if you have nobody to share
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  your problems with, nobody to bounce those ideas back, then
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  your problems are never have. They're just accumulating all
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  the time. It sucks.
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  It's actually in a massive, massive way.
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  So what do I want to do? How am I going to combat this?
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  Well, my step one, my first step towards this, last year I
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  created the Autism Social Summit and we did it in Toronto,
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  Canada. It sold out and it was an in
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  person live event where myself and some of my autistic fellow
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  creators like Paige Lyle, Mark Recklebum, Alex, who's been on
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  my channel a few times, we all did like a panel talk and we all
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  did kind of like small sessions, like keynote sessions and it was
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  really, really good. But the main effect was that all
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  these people were there that we met in real time, real life.
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  These were artistic adults and we were all there together just
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  like vibing and it was great. And I felt so much like this is
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  my tribe. This is where I belong.
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  I belong with these people. How do I transpose that?
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  How do I keep it going? How do we get something like
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  that all the time? How do we take like the
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  community we have here online? How do we probably push it into
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  and by the way, this video is going to be on Instagram and
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  Facebook and TikTok and and you know, everywhere and how do we
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  how do we do this? Well, I want to do something
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  kind of ambiguous. I want to, I want to put us all
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  into like one room and, and have these have weekly discussions.
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  Now, I've done this in the past and it worked really, really
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  well. I had the, I had the membership
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  course, which was basically like I started during COVID when we
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  paid a small fee every month and we all kind of came together and
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  we paid for the server and everything we got and it was
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  just absolutely amazing. And I'm going to do the same
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  thing. I want to do it bigger and
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  better than ever before. We're going to do this the the
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  Astley world, you know, the artistic empire, which we are.
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  We're we are needing to be together because what I want to
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  do is offer you one-on-one solutions.
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  Be on a zoom call with all of you guys, like be able to you
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  can ask me a question. I can ask you a question.
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  We can hang out and give tips. We can talk, we can share ideas,
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  talk about movies that we've seen, talk about autism
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  resources, anything you want just to be you feel less lonely.
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  So I feel less lonely so I can connect to you.
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  There shouldn't be a wall between us, right?
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  This camera doesn't really mean much, but it's, it shouldn't
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  define what we're doing, right? They should just be that this is
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  something that's going to happen.
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  It's going to happen. Now if you're interested, I am
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  going to charge a $27.00 fee per month to to access this the
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  platform, right? And it just helps pay for the
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  whole thing because the platform is difficult to to maintain and
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  I'll need to have somebody, you know, maintain the platform and
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  do it right. But it allows us, you know, to
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  be able to have this experience between US and we're going to
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  leave a link down below. So you can register right now
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  for this. If you're watching on Instagram
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  or TikTok up, the link is going to be in the my bio, the link in
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  bio section. And if you're also watching on
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  Facebook, the link will be in the first comment of this video.
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  Now I'm really stoked about this.
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  I want you guys to help me name it, right?
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  Like I'm going to call I'm nicknaming it the Autistic
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  empire because that's what my Facebook group was called.
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  But we we need to name it, right?
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  But I can only enable when I have you guys there because I
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  want to ask you guys, how do we name it?
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  What do we talk about? What are our monthly topics
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  going to be like? This is where we need to be.
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  No longer are we going to be lonely.
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  No longer are we going to have this garbage of like having to
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  deal with being lonely and not having questions.
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  And, and you know, I have so many people who message me and I
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  can never get back to those messages because I'm trying to
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  do, you know, I need a consolidated time where I sit
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  down and do these messages. Well, now is your town.
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  So you can sit down with me in a in a group call on video on not
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  video. If you don't want to, you can
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  just have your microphone on or just type into the chat box.
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  We're all going to be in one place at one time.
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  It's going to be amazing. Each and everyone of you.
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  I love you and I think you're amazing.
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  This year is your year. It's our year.
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  Let's take the world by storm. Let's build something amazing.
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  I'm so stoked for this. Let's go, I'm so stoked.
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  Let's go. Go down below, click that join
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  button, join up right now. Sign up today.
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  It's going to be amazing. I'm dude, I'm so stoked.
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  Okay, peace. Hey guys, thank you so much for
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  checking out this podcast. Make sure you are subscribed
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  because there are people listening right now who not
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  subscribe to this podcast. I can see you make sure you
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  subscribe. Okay guys, see you in the next
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  one. Peace.