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your feelings do not define you · feel your feelings with Ethan Jewell

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  When I was going through a difficult time with my mental
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  health and struggling, I didn't think that I was experiencing
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  mental health issues instead. I believe that I was, my mental
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  health issues. I became so overcome by them and
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  so obsessed with them that I completely lost my sense of
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  self. Hey, there and welcome back to
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  another episode of feel your feelings with me, Ethan Jewel.
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  This is a podcast, I started all about Mental Health.
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  Health and mental health awareness.
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  Now I'm not a doctor a psychologist or a professional
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  in the mental health industry whatsoever.
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  I'm just a normal guy who is felt some big feelings is
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  incredibly passionate about mental health and wants to
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  normalize casual conversation about mental illness.
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  So, thank you so much for tuning in.
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  And as always, let's feel some feelings.
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  What if I told you that you are not your feelings.
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  I know it sounds obvious, but often when we are faced with
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  complicated, feelings issues or emotions, we begin to feel
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  overwhelmed by them and we convinced ourselves that we are.
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  Those feelings. I know I've struggled with
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  thinking, I am sad versus I am feeling sad, there's a very,
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  very big mental distinction to be made there and this is a big
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  problem. If you've Since this, you may
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  not even realize how detrimental it is to your mental health.
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  When we are faced with mental illness, our brain will try to
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  convince us that that is who we are.
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  But we are never defined by mental illness.
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  We are so much more than the mental health problems.
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  That we may be facing. What we have to remember, is
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  that there is a difference between experiencing and being
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  we experience mental, health issues, we experience,
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  depression and anxiety. T, we experience worry and anger
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  and sadness. But we are not defined by those
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  feelings and this is something that is so important to
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  remember, in our journey towards recovery.
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  When we convince ourselves that we are our mental illness, it
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  consumes us. It affects our self-image.
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  We lose our sense of identity, and become totally lost within
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  our mental health struggles. We are all beautiful unique and
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  deserving humans. It often we find ourselves.
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  Overwhelmed and obsessed with our own sadness.
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  We find ourselves caught up in our own mental health issues so
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  much that we lose who we are. I experienced this just over the
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  past few years. I began my battle with
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  depression about three years ago and it was not an easy fight and
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  at times, I completely lost who I was.
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  I felt as though I became unrecognizable to my friends and
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  family because I allow Loud, my struggle to completely overwhelm
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  me now. Don't get me wrong.
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  I was struggling and that definitely added to that loss of
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  self-image. But I convinced myself that this
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  Depression was who I was, when in reality, I was just
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  experiencing depression. When we become overwhelmed by
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  our mental illness and our mental struggles, we can
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  convince ourselves that we are alone in the fight and that we
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  are the only ones who feel like this as it overwhelms, our own
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  identity. And that can be incredibly
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  detrimental. So, how can we avoid this?
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  How can we teach ourselves that we are simply experiencing?
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  Well, the biggest thing that worked for me is I switched my
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  perspective and I know it sounds simple but often that is enough
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  to help with our mental health. So, I want you to close your
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  eyes for a moment. I want you to picture that
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  you're walking through the ring. Now are you the rain or are you
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  simply getting wet from the rain?
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  The answer is Obvious, you are experiencing the rain.
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  You are, experiencing the water running down.
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  You, you are not the rain. You are not the water, and
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  eventually you'll make it through the rain, dry off.
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  And remember it, as a lesson to bring an umbrella with you, we
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  have to treat our feelings the same way.
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  When you walk through rain, you are not the water.
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  You are experiencing the water. When you feel sad, you are not
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  the sadness, you are experiencing the sadness.
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  There's a very large difference. Here that has to be made.
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  We can use that perspective as a reminder for the future just as
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  you would remember to bring an umbrella with you in the rain,
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  you can remember to be gentle with yourself, to treat
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  yourself, kindly to give yourself the mental health care
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  that you need, whenever you are experiencing trauma, or crisis
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  or sadness or depression, we can remember that.
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  We are not defined by our feelings.
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  You cannot let your feelings control.
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  You, you cannot let the rain. Ainst a in Cloud up your day.
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  Instead, you can gain control over your feelings, you can gain
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  control of your feelings through mental health exercises, like
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  meditation, sitting with your feelings, going to therapy,
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  talking out, your feelings, understanding yourself and
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  understanding your emotions. If you can begin to experience
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  your mental health issues, instead of being overwhelmed by
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  them, you can grow further as a person.
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  You can understand things about yourself, you can understand
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  that you are a vessel. Meant to navigate these emotions
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  and know, you aren't meant to do it perfectly, none of us are
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  taught how to experience our emotions.
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  What matters is that we try? And what matters is that?
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  We experience our emotions. Instead of being overwhelmed,
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  and consumed by them, remember you are not the rain.
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  You are walking through the rain in one day you will be out of
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  the rain and Look back on all the lessons that you have
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  learned. You've got this, that's going to
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  wrap it up for today's episode. Thank you for joining me for
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  this shorter episode, and thank you for being here.
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  If you need any help, feeling your emotions, go check out my
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  music on all platforms. Ethan Jewel, it's emotional
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  spoken word, poetry that will help you experience your
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  emotions also tune in next Saturday, when I'm joined by a
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  licensed therapist. I'm having a guest on one of
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  these episodes for the first time as we discuss, various
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  mental health, topics. So, thank you so much for tuning
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  in. And as always, thank you for
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  feeling your feelings. I'll see you next time.
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  So, thank you so much for tuning in.
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  And as always, thank you for feeling your feelings.
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  I'll see you next time.