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Going for the Gold with Kathy Swarts and Susan Noles · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast
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  Speaker 1: with iHeartRadio.
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  Speaker 2: Hey everyone, welcome back to the Almost Famous podcast.
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  Speaker 3: And is Ashley here today?
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  Speaker 2: We are in San Francisco with the iHeart team here
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  Speaker 2: for Jonas brother concert.
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  Speaker 3: That is how Amy Sugarman got me here. She name.
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  Speaker 2: Amy's like, Ashley hasn't been to the West Coast eight
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  Speaker 2: or so our podcast forster Amy Sugarman, who our listeners
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  Speaker 2: have been aware of for a long time.
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  Speaker 3: She doesn't fly, she hasn't flownd since nineteen ninety nine.
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  Speaker 2: We know, so, we we know, so we drive, so
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  Speaker 2: she drives and we have to do like all of
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  Speaker 2: our things on the West Coast. And then she was like, man, Ashley,
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  Speaker 2: mom of two, hasn't been to do this for quite
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  Speaker 2: some time, how do we get her to come Jonahs Brothers?
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  Speaker 2: And I was like, yes, one thousand percent quickest, Yes
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  Speaker 2: she's ever gotten. And I am now joined by two
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  Speaker 2: of everybody's golden favorites, Susan Knowles and Kathy Schwartz. You guys,
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  Speaker 2: well you know them from The Golden Bachelor. You know
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  Speaker 2: Kathy from well being a Golden and Bachelor in Paradise
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  Speaker 2: and they both host the Golden Hour podcast. I know
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  Speaker 2: you guys just finished wrapping up your recap the first
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  Speaker 2: episode of.
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  Speaker 3: The Golden The New Golden A little bit good time,
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  Speaker 3: quick quick first impressions from both of you.
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  Speaker 4: Go first, I was not on his side, but I
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  Speaker 4: am now.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, okay, I'm not sure enough. I think that the
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  Speaker 2: women are great.
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  Speaker 4: The women, that's a whole nother story.
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  Speaker 3: He seems like not like the most charming human in
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  Speaker 3: the entire world.
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  Speaker 4: He is handsome, he's got a look, but it's not humble.
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  Speaker 4: It's not mine forgiveness and give them a chance. Okay,
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  Speaker 4: so you got it. Yeah, we're human.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: I think the women are fabulous. They all have lots
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  Speaker 5: of hair, they have extensions, and I'm like, you know,
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  Speaker 5: they were bikinis, Like I just want to be one
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  Speaker 5: of them.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, they're not golden. They're not golden. They're really.
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  Speaker 2: Is golden to you if you don't mind. It's always
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  Speaker 2: sixty plus. That's like our definition as a franchise, right.
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  Speaker 4: I think sixty five five security.
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  Speaker 5: It was supposed to be sixty five, but you know
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  Speaker 5: what five years, yes, four crew was but they started
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  Speaker 5: it was supposed to be sixty five and then they
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  Speaker 5: lowered it. And here's my thing. I think the women
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  Speaker 5: are fabulus. I think they're you know, young, they're talented.
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  Speaker 5: I think I can't wait to see how the season
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  Speaker 5: develops because I think that they have the benefit of
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  Speaker 5: watching having watched our season. So some of my things
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  Speaker 5: are there for the right reason. Some of them are
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  Speaker 5: there to build their social media platforms and their businesses.
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  Speaker 3: Do you have a problem with them? No, I'm just
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  Speaker 3: we didn't know what social media want. I don't know
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  Speaker 3: what it means. Answer was or a collaborator. I was like,
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  Speaker 3: you guys are like pretty much golden influencers. I think
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  Speaker 3: now we didn't come on.
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  Speaker 4: That's what they asked this woman when we meet them,
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  Speaker 4: And how did you go?
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  Speaker 3: I don't know just what the women want to know?
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  Speaker 2: How a career because now both of you are immediate personality.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, well, and I got to.
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  Speaker 5: Say, I'm mel I've I've said from the get go,
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  Speaker 5: he said something stupid.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, you know he is. He's right. He is going
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  Speaker 3: to have to earn it back.
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  Speaker 5: But you know what, I'm going to cut him some
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  Speaker 5: grace because give him some grace because he doesn't know
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  Speaker 5: what he's in for. You know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 3: He's he's he's.
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  Speaker 5: Got some lots of beautiful women, and he might really
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  Speaker 5: want a woman between forty and sixty until he meets
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  Speaker 5: this crowd, and now I think he's like, whoa, there
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  Speaker 5: are some hot women. So that's a good message.
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  Speaker 4: As I said this morning, how many times have I
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  Speaker 4: or you opened your mouth and insert at your foot.
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  Speaker 3: In my mouth?
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  Speaker 4: He said, like you got to give them a risk?
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  Speaker 3: So true.
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  Speaker 2: Me included what do you guys think about like him
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  Speaker 2: as a lead versus Gary.
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  Speaker 5: As light and day listen if there could have been
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  Speaker 5: one more on his season. In fact, I'm still thinking
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  Speaker 5: I can go meet him and sweet him away. If
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  Speaker 5: you if you chose something, you know, it's not too
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  Speaker 5: late to break him up. I'm certainly not talking about Gary.
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  Speaker 3: I know you aren't. I love the tag.
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  Speaker 2: You guys are so honest about the fact that like
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  Speaker 2: Gary like after you guys depart from the show is
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  Speaker 2: just like not.
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  Speaker 5: Let me just break this down really quickly. A lawyer,
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  Speaker 5: a football player, a guy who can string together sentences,
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  Speaker 5: or you can go pick cotton and a corn Mason Indiana,
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  Speaker 5: I don't know what do you want to do.
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  Speaker 4: Anyways, did you know what when we were finally they
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  Speaker 4: didn't let us know to the last minute when we
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  Speaker 4: were on the show, and then he's announced, my phone
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  Speaker 4: was blowing up and my friends, are you still going?
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  Speaker 4: That's mean, you know, my daughter said.
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  Speaker 5: My daughter said, Mom, I've known you my whole life.
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  Speaker 5: You really think you're moving to Indiana? It's never happened.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, well I have the same thing with crystals, or like,
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  Speaker 2: you aren't moving to Iowa to a cornfield, and then
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  Speaker 2: well you're in the bachelor bubble and you're like, I
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  Speaker 2: could totally live on a cornfield.
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  Speaker 3: No, no, I never said you guys were mature enough
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  Speaker 3: to know that you.
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  Speaker 5: Couldn't the cod That's as close as I want to
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  Speaker 5: get to a cornfield, thank you very much.
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  Speaker 4: And then your girls in our room saying he called
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  Speaker 4: that a lake. It's a pond. Remember, yeah, he lives
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  Speaker 4: he said, he lives on a lake. It's like, you know,
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  Speaker 4: like a swan Boa cattle wheel thing.
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  Speaker 3: I just love obsessed with how you do not care?
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  Speaker 4: We love him, we love him, we're good friends, but hey.
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  Speaker 5: It is what I love him anymore. He's perfectly fine.
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  Speaker 5: He's got a new girlfriend. Actually, I wish him all
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  Speaker 5: the best. Her name is Lana, not Lana Lana like.
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  Speaker 4: They look alike?
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  Speaker 3: They look alike? They do?
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  Speaker 4: They look alike?
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  Speaker 3: Okay, that's what the people say that you end up
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  Speaker 3: with people that you look like. Oh god, I'm in trouble.
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  Speaker 2: My husband looks like me, people say, and I probably agree.
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  Speaker 4: I don't think I look like Frederick at all. Now
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  Speaker 4: is your new relationship? Great? Great? He's at my house?
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  Speaker 4: Oh nice, I'm here.
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  Speaker 5: He's doing the dishes, more in the lawn, just where
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  Speaker 5: a good man should be serving a woman.
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  Speaker 3: It's a long distant relationship. So how's that going.
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  Speaker 4: It's difficult at times. Yeah, he was in an island, yes,
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  Speaker 4: Saint Martin.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, Well I'm happy for you. Now it's
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  Speaker 2: it's Kathy's turn. Yeah, to get a man. Kathy, we
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  Speaker 2: need like a spin off show with you, where you
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  Speaker 2: where you date people?
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  Speaker 3: You know? Why wait, why aren't you on a Ben
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  Speaker 3: spinoff where he has.
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  Speaker 4: We planned a show? Helloth of us?
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  Speaker 5: Directors, producers, directors, producers?
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  Speaker 3: Where is the show for Kathy? To find?
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  Speaker 4: Lots?
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  Speaker 5: I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: Was there somebody that you want to show up to paradise?
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  Speaker 3: You didn't come. Oh, yes, I.
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  Speaker 4: Mean anybody, Yeah, anybody.
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  Speaker 5: I meant anybody with an IQ over ninety, preferably over
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  Speaker 5: six feet. No, I mean there was nobody from Jonesy.
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  Speaker 2: Nobody from Jones season that you wanted. You wanted people
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  Speaker 2: to come from outside the franchise.
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  Speaker 4: They wanted maybe somebody that applied for the job, you
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  Speaker 4: know what I mean, or that I.
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  Speaker 5: Just I want someone. You know, I'm not asking for
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  Speaker 5: that much. I want someone who will accept me for
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  Speaker 5: who I am. I'm not everyone's cup of tea, but like,
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  Speaker 5: I live life and I enjoy life, and I want
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  Speaker 5: someone who wants to enjoy life with me, as long
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  Speaker 5: as he's not living on Social Security.
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  Speaker 2: Is Like in Paradise, it almost felt like they didn't
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  Speaker 2: really set you guys up for like romantic success.
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  Speaker 3: They didn't really you know, there wasn't enough of you.
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  Speaker 4: Keith possible.
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  Speaker 5: When we got there, many of us thought that there
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  Speaker 5: were they were going to bring in other Goldens or
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  Speaker 5: other people that applied, when I didn't. And I knew Keith.
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  Speaker 5: I knew all those guys because they'd been on our podcast.
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  Speaker 5: I'd met them at different iHeart events, so I knew them.
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  Speaker 2: Like I already and you in that reject pile.
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  Speaker 5: You know, your your resume is in the circular file.
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  Speaker 5: So but Keith is a great guy and we were
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  Speaker 5: friends and it was never going to be more than that.
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  Speaker 3: He's a great guy. But no, what about where you
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  Speaker 3: guys were in the pool together? Was it ever like,
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  Speaker 3: could you've ever gotten like there was a moment, not.
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  Speaker 5: Even a nano sec I mean, I got to tell
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  Speaker 5: you when April started making out with Jack, I thought
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  Speaker 5: I was going to lose my lunch.
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  Speaker 3: And not because I mean April and Jack.
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  Speaker 5: That's like like Mickey Mouse with I don't know, it's
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  Speaker 5: just no Jessica Rabbit. Yeah exactly, I mean anyway, So no,
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  Speaker 5: there was never a moment where I thought, now, if
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  Speaker 5: you'd give me enough alcohol.
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  Speaker 3: Or drugs, that.
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  Speaker 4: You still wouldn't.
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  Speaker 5: You're right, not enough now if you like, you know,
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  Speaker 5: you know, a two bagger they were you know maybe
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  Speaker 5: I no, never okay, just but I love him.
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  Speaker 2: But no, let's get back into this episode. Stand out
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  Speaker 2: girls to you. Well, it's so funny going through my bracket.
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  Speaker 2: I had Maya Maya.
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  Speaker 3: Maya Yeah, min from.
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  Speaker 2: Sheets Eliminated Rose Ceremony Number one also Sandra's sister sister
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  Speaker 2: on her name?
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  Speaker 3: How can you? I mean, why was she eliminated? She's was?
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  Speaker 2: She was, she's sent seven and she looks like she
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  Speaker 2: looks fifty seven.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, but.
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  Speaker 4: Seventy five.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah. I mean, I just don't think regardless, we all
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  Speaker 5: accept Mel's apology, we all want the best, but I
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  Speaker 5: don't see Mel. Unfortunately our culture, I don't know, see
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  Speaker 5: a sixty six year old going for a seventy seven
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  Speaker 5: year old.
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  Speaker 3: I just don't say it.
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  Speaker 2: I did he even know her age because she didn't
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  Speaker 2: look at obviously, And I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, who knows why.
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  Speaker 2: I guess like it's just one of those situations like
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  Speaker 2: I always refer to grocery store Joe.
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  Speaker 3: Everybody thought he's the most charming, cute, handsome guy. How
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  Speaker 3: did Betha eliminate him? Night one?
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  Speaker 2: And then you hear that she was like, no, you
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  Speaker 2: guys don't understand. There was so little chemistry, but we
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  Speaker 2: just couldn't.
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  Speaker 4: It's a fla.
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  Speaker 2: No matter how cute somebody can be, you just like
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  Speaker 2: it's not there.
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  Speaker 3: Trust me.
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  Speaker 5: The older you get that becomes like ye, A lot of.
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  Speaker 3: We both thought.
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  Speaker 2: Kathy and I have spoken off the mic and said that, well,
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  Speaker 2: Carol is a big favorite of ours, and then Cindy is.
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  Speaker 3: Everybody to me, Cindy.
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  Speaker 2: Saying, like the winners, she seems like she's getting the
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  Speaker 2: winner edit. She and ye who he had the one
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  Speaker 2: on one with Cheryl Cheryl, they seem like they could
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  Speaker 2: be like getting the top two edits. And I think
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  Speaker 2: that Carol, I mean, she's definitely got young energy.
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  Speaker 3: Here's the thing about Peg.
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  Speaker 5: And I said this running for Peg when she comes
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  Speaker 5: in in her fit and her here's the thing about Peg.
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  Speaker 5: She is a bomb squad firefighter. My son's a firefighter
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  Speaker 5: like they. It takes a lot of punch and a
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  Speaker 5: lot of and so when she was like these women
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  Speaker 5: are also chatty, chatty, chatty, She's not going to put
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  Speaker 5: up with crap from anybody. I guarantee you she's either
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  Speaker 5: going to go so far or he's going to say Nope,
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  Speaker 5: she's too much for me.
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  Speaker 4: The conversation that they had, she was on point, so
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  Speaker 4: are you retired? Because I want a man that's going
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  Speaker 4: to spend time. She was the lead.
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  Speaker 6: You know, I.
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  Speaker 5: Tell you she's like the fires burning, where's.
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  Speaker 4: The let's get I like it?
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  Speaker 3: Anybody else that you think we need to talk about.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, Nicole was also she looks great, but she
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  Speaker 2: is possibly an instigator.
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  Speaker 4: Climbing the tree.
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  Speaker 5: City City from Austin says wow, when she was in
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  Speaker 5: the push and she was like climbing him like a tree. Yeah,
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  Speaker 5: I personally not that you know, anyone cares. I think
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  Speaker 5: as a golden like, I'd like to set a little
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  Speaker 5: bit better example and so I know, you know, take your.
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  Speaker 3: Tasteful a little more tasteful.
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  Speaker 5: You don't have to be macking on him from the
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  Speaker 5: get go and calling him her husband like come on.
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  Speaker 4: And to tell her. I think that we should cool it.
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  Speaker 4: You know, in the pool, I.
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  Speaker 3: Was like, eliminate her.
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  Speaker 2: I think it's not because he thinks she's hot, but
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  Speaker 2: he is a man. Yeah, he's a guy, but like
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  Speaker 2: I don't think he liked that at all.
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  Speaker 3: He was like Jill Jerry, she was another standout. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: she's like great connections.
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  Speaker 4: She seems smart.
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  Speaker 3: Really she's smart.
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  Speaker 4: I wonder.
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  Speaker 3: Her story.
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  Speaker 5: Some great stories women who have taken care of single
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  Speaker 5: hand raised children, taking care of mothers in their older
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  Speaker 5: older years. I mean, these women have woven very rich fabrics.
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  Speaker 5: Their lives are very rich richly. We haven't heard too
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  Speaker 5: much about Robin yet. I hope she's playing just having
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  Speaker 5: the rob.
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  Speaker 3: Become best friend. Oh my gosh. What about Cheryl's story
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  Speaker 3: with the son?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, tyson didn't.
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  Speaker 5: I want to kind of I want to call her
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  Speaker 5: and say, how did you get him back after a week?
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  Speaker 3: Like I want more of that story. I want to know.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I know, I'm sure it was longer. They had
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  Speaker 2: to bridge it for TV, but it was like.
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  Speaker 3: And you know the other thing.
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  Speaker 5: I loved the stories Cheryl who had been for eighteen years,
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  Speaker 5: she had just raised her son, and she hadn't done
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  Speaker 5: anything for herself, and she and now that sweet moment
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  Speaker 5: of now it's our time.
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  Speaker 3: And I love hearing that as a goolden.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, So I have like a lot of fun questions
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  Speaker 2: that I want to ask you guys during our group session,
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  Speaker 2: which is going to be mostly about Jonas, but if
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  Speaker 2: you don't mind, can we talk about like it's really
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  Speaker 2: a little juicy, a little personal.
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  Speaker 3: What are you talking about? Are talking about hormone?
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  Speaker 2: You guys don't exactly You guys don't even know we
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  Speaker 2: talked about at dinner last night. We were talking about metopause.
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  Speaker 2: Some of the metopausal symptoms. And I don't know how
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  Speaker 2: far Kathy wants to get into this.
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  Speaker 5: Anything you want on the open book, let me let
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  Speaker 5: me educate the world on menopause.
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  Speaker 3: What can I help you out? Okay?
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  Speaker 4: Highly recommend No.
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  Speaker 5: No no no no no no no no no no no.
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  Speaker 2: I I actually want to talk to Kathy about dating
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  Speaker 2: after I think.
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  Speaker 3: I think dating after a divorce.
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  Speaker 2: Like Susan and after the passing of your husband has
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  Speaker 2: to be different.
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  Speaker 3: It is, right.
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  Speaker 2: So were you, Susan excited to get back into dating
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  Speaker 2: after a divorce or you were jetting it?
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  Speaker 3: Did you even want to do it?
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  Speaker 4: Not for a while?
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  Speaker 3: Okay? And then how was the first date?
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  Speaker 4: Odd?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah?
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  Speaker 4: Yes?
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  Speaker 3: And did it evolve into anything of interest?
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  Speaker 6: Now?
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  Speaker 3: When was the first time you got butterflies again after
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  Speaker 3: a divorce?
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  Speaker 4: A few years later?
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  Speaker 3: Okay?
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  Speaker 4: And I've had those a few times. So I've had
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  Speaker 4: several relationships, maybe two three years. The fact that I
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  Speaker 4: am as old as I am, I know what I
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  Speaker 4: could deal with and what I can't. And after about
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  Speaker 4: six months in I told you this, Kathy, when I
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  Speaker 4: met this last one, After six months you start seeing
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  Speaker 4: the real you know, the butterflies go away, and I
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  Speaker 4: know the difference now, and yeah, you.
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  Speaker 2: Know the difference, and you know that who you're with
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  Speaker 2: now is so far so six months okay, great. I
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  Speaker 2: was gonna say, like, what was the first kiss, like
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  Speaker 2: post divorce.
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  Speaker 4: The guy that I went on a date with, We
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  Speaker 4: went to golf and we went to Atlantic City actually,
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  Speaker 4: but I didn't kiss him. Okay, we didn't kiss, so
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  Speaker 4: it was I can't even count the first one.
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  Speaker 3: So I wasn't to.
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  Speaker 2: Ask Kathy about that because like you kind of inferred
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  Speaker 2: last night that like you've been romantic since your husband.
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  Speaker 5: Well sexually active a romantic.
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  Speaker 3: Actually, how comfortable you're willing to go were? I mean,
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  Speaker 3: do you want names and numbers? Dan? What do you need?
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  Speaker 4: She's alive? Of course, we're so.
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  Speaker 3: Interested in everything's actually active again after your husband.
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  Speaker 5: But here's let me say, here's the thing. My husband died, obviously,
• 17:01
  Speaker 5: you know, the sudden death. I didn't touch my feet,
• 17:05
  Speaker 5: didn't hit the ground, you.
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  Speaker 4: Know, for six months, yeah.
• 17:09
  Speaker 3: More like a year.
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  Speaker 5: My first date I think was and it was way
• 17:13
  Speaker 5: too soon, and I honestly don't even remember. It was
• 17:15
  Speaker 5: eighteen months after he died. My daughter summed it up
• 17:19
  Speaker 5: perfectly because I got married at twenty to my husband.
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  Speaker 3: I was married almost forty six years. Yes, that's why
• 17:24
  Speaker 3: I don't know you guys.
• 17:25
  Speaker 2: I just came up with this random conversation topic that
• 17:28
  Speaker 2: I thought was like interesting because I'm just like, how
• 17:32
  Speaker 2: do you.
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  Speaker 3: Feel like being physical at all? Was somebody after you've
• 17:37
  Speaker 3: been with somebody.
• 17:38
  Speaker 5: For forty so I will tell you that was really scary.
• 17:44
  Speaker 5: But you're going to laugh, but I mean it. It's
• 17:45
  Speaker 5: sort of like riding a bike. Yeah, you know, once
• 17:49
  Speaker 5: you get you get back on the horse. Whatever you
• 17:51
  Speaker 5: want to you know, whatever metaphor you want to use.
• 17:53
  Speaker 5: But here's the thing.
• 17:55
  Speaker 4: Didn't feel good to be kissed again?
• 17:57
  Speaker 3: Yeah?
• 17:57
  Speaker 5: Yeah, But at first it was very strong range because
• 18:01
  Speaker 5: as my daughter said, Mom, you got married.
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  Speaker 3: I met my husband when I was eighteen.
• 18:05
  Speaker 5: Yes, I was married at twenty everything, yes, yes, yeah,
• 18:09
  Speaker 5: so ever seen never have I ever were playing?
• 18:13
  Speaker 4: She did nothing?
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  Speaker 3: That's me too.
• 18:15
  Speaker 2: I used to be like when in college, I was like,
• 18:17
  Speaker 2: I can't play this. It's so embarrassing because I haven't
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: done anything. And now I'm like.
• 18:21
  Speaker 5: I but but honestly, when my daughter said to me, Mom,
• 18:30
  Speaker 5: you're gonna it's gonna be step learning curfew because you
• 18:32
  Speaker 5: didn't date in your twenties, you didn't have multiple sex partners.
• 18:36
  Speaker 5: You know, you just got married and I didn't have
• 18:39
  Speaker 5: children for the first dight and a half years that
• 18:41
  Speaker 5: you were married. But you know, so for me, it
• 18:44
  Speaker 5: was literally I had to learn how to date, learn
• 18:47
  Speaker 5: how to flirt all that. It was like, I just
• 18:49
  Speaker 5: didn't know how to do it. And I, you know,
• 18:52
  Speaker 5: I believe people. I took everyone at their word, and
• 18:56
  Speaker 5: you know, I just I had to learn how to
• 18:59
  Speaker 5: do it.
• 18:59
  Speaker 3: Who helped you learn to do it? A trial and
• 19:02
  Speaker 3: era it was myself.
• 19:03
  Speaker 5: I mean I had a couple of girlfriends I talked
• 19:05
  Speaker 5: to about it, but for the most part, I had
• 19:09
  Speaker 5: to figure it out on my own because now I
• 19:11
  Speaker 5: know what I want, I know what I what, I'm
• 19:14
  Speaker 5: willing to compromise on what I'm not. And it's it's
• 19:19
  Speaker 5: fun now to date. Am I still looking for that guy?
• 19:22
  Speaker 3: Yeah? You know, I got a date later with one
• 19:23
  Speaker 3: of the Jonas brothers.
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: But okay, well, during our Jonah's podcast, we'll talk about,
• 19:28
  Speaker 2: you know, like how low would you go age wise
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: and all of that.
• 19:31
  Speaker 4: Oh boy, because.
• 19:34
  Speaker 5: Oh god, that's now see my youngest child's thirty eight.
• 19:38
  Speaker 5: I got to draw the line somewhere.
• 19:40
  Speaker 3: Maybe like forty.
• 19:41
  Speaker 2: No.
• 19:41
  Speaker 5: Actually, honestly, my truth about dating is I don't really
• 19:47
  Speaker 5: date men my own age, because you've heard my thing
• 19:50
  Speaker 5: about used to guys to men.
• 19:53
  Speaker 3: I used to guy.
• 19:53
  Speaker 5: I used to play tennis, I used to swim, I
• 19:56
  Speaker 5: used to ski. Now I sit on the sofa and
• 19:58
  Speaker 5: drink of beer. I don't want used to guy. And
• 20:01
  Speaker 5: unfortunately there's a lot of them.
• 20:02
  Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, so you always go a little younger.
• 20:05
  Speaker 5: I like to date men who are younger. I've dated
• 20:07
  Speaker 5: some guys who are my age, but I like to
• 20:09
  Speaker 5: go younger.
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: What's your best date since the loss of your husband
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: next week?
• 20:17
  Speaker 3: It is my best date? Is honestly, yeah, that's exactly.
• 20:23
  Speaker 3: I mean, you know I'm still looking.
• 20:25
  Speaker 5: I I have the guy said I've dated. There was
• 20:31
  Speaker 5: one guy dated for a few months and when I
• 20:34
  Speaker 5: broke up with him, he was shocked and he's like what,
• 20:38
  Speaker 5: And I said, well, number one in your life is
• 20:40
  Speaker 5: your dog. Number two in your life is your dog.
• 20:43
  Speaker 5: Number three in your life is your daughter. Fourth in
• 20:46
  Speaker 5: your life is your computer. And I'm a distant fifth.
• 20:49
  Speaker 5: So see, yeah, I mean I just don't. That's why
• 20:51
  Speaker 5: I'm saying now I know what I'll put up with.
• 20:54
  Speaker 3: Have you felt butterflies a little with one guy?
• 20:58
  Speaker 6: Okay recently, but the next we talk about it yet, Yeah,
• 21:04
  Speaker 6: that's it's mego nowhere Okay, somewhere, Yes it is, but
• 21:08
  Speaker 6: we're not going to say that.
• 21:09
  Speaker 3: What's your type?
• 21:10
  Speaker 4: Typically?
• 21:11
  Speaker 5: So? I like a smart guy. I like a guy
• 21:15
  Speaker 5: who's fit. I like a guy who will have adventures.
• 21:19
  Speaker 5: You know, he doesn't have to do everything I do
• 21:21
  Speaker 5: like I want. I'm a snow scare. He doesn't have
• 21:23
  Speaker 5: to snowski, but he damn right. Well, better have the
• 21:26
  Speaker 5: drink for me at the lodge afterwards, he better go
• 21:29
  Speaker 5: hiking with me, kayaking with me. He's got to be
• 21:31
  Speaker 5: taller than I am. I'm five to eight, so you know,
• 21:33
  Speaker 5: six feet is good. But more it's a guy who
• 21:36
  Speaker 5: has a sense of of of enjoyment of life, a
• 21:40
  Speaker 5: zest for life.
• 21:41
  Speaker 3: I just want to report to you that the Jonahs
• 21:43
  Speaker 3: brothers are like five.
• 21:44
  Speaker 4: Seven at best.
• 21:45
  Speaker 3: Yes, I'll make an exception.
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: I think we should end this here and we'll go
• 21:51
  Speaker 2: into all my follow up questions in our later episode.
• 21:54
  Speaker 3: Okay, you guys are so much fun. Thank you for
• 21:57
  Speaker 3: being here and experiencing this.
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: All right. Until next time, I've been Ashley and they've
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: been Kathy and Susan.
• 22:07
  Speaker 3: Bye bye.
• 22:10
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