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How to get Revenge on a narcissist · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So how do you get revenge on a narcissist?
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  I know that makes you feel a certain type of way.
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  Did it if you knew here. My name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a clinically diagnosed narcissist.
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  And welcome to another episode of The Narcissist Code.
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  Welcome back. What is going on?
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  Y'all, but yeah. Yo, yes, yes, yes.
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  How to get vengeance on a narcissist now?
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  I don't know, like. So let me go ahead and say this
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  right now because I know people I like.
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  I talked to so many people because I I hear this.
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  I hear this question a lot. But I also.
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  Hear people just like I feel bad for wanting to get revenge on my
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  narcissistic ex. I feel like a bad person because
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  I want vengeance. Why do you, yo?
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  You're not a you're not a bad person for wanting vengeance on
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  somebody that hurts you. You know what I mean?
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  That doesn't make you less of a human being.
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  That doesn't make you less of a kind, caring, compassionate
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  person. Because you want revenge on
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  somebody that hurt you. You want to see somebody get
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  their their comeuppance or you want to see somebody get their
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  karma for what they did to you. You don't want to see people get
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  away Scott free after years of abuse and manipulation.
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  You don't want to see that. So I understand that it doesn't.
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  Make you a bad person to feel that way.
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  So let's let's get that out of the way first.
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  I know people are just like you automatically feel like a bad
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  person because because of this situation, you feel like a bad
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  person because you want to see them in pain.
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  You want to see them hurt. Yeah.
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  You got hurt. Yeah.
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  And I know. Yeah, yeah, I'm open to
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  suggestions on this, but well, Lee, you're a narcissist.
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  So you, of course you're going to say that wanting vengeance on
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  somebody. It's not this, not that.
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  Blah, blah, blah. Yeah, seriously.
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  It's okay to seek Avengers. I'm not saying it's okay to.
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  It's okay to. Want Venge, so to think about
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  it. And I say it's okay to go exact.
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  Revenge on them in certain type of ways but because I know
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  people going to say like if you talk to the wrong person like
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  how do I get revenge? Of my cheating.
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  Narcissistic ex. Well, go sleep with their
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  brother. Go sleep with their best friend,
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  man. Go sleep with their best
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  friends. Their their, their bestie always
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  kind of had the eye for you. Go, go sleep with them.
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  Yeah. That's the way to get.
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  Vengeance in the petty vengeance, but.
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  That's going to make you feel. Horrible in the end, right there
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  that's going to make go sleep with their dad or their mom or
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  their best friend or their cousin or their their boss or
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  whatever, you know? That's petty vengeance.
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  That's kind of like it's. Not childish vengeance, but it's
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  like. In the end.
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  Of the day. Are you going to feel better for
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  doing that? You didn't want to slept with
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  their best friend or their brother or their sister or
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  something like that. In the end, does that make you
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  feel a certain type of ways, but I feel dominant you going to
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  feel? Bad, you know.
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  You'll feel worse. You're like damn they they took
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  me out of character they took they made me somebody they made
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  me act like them this is what they would do and they don't
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  have they don't have you questionable am I don't know you
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  see what I'm saying you see how that goes right there.
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  So yeah, that's what people that's how people would tell you
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  to exact. Revenge on them by going to do
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  something petty and taking that action right there to do
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  something like that. You know what I mean?
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  The best like and it's going. To sound super simplistic.
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  Yeah, there's a few different ways you can get revenge on a
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  narcissist. But the best revenge, of course,
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  is living well. That's super simple.
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  That's not enough for most people.
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  I get that. I get that because Lee.
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  How does Lee? Lee.
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  I'm getting hey. I'm getting mad, Lee.
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  I'm getting mad. I'm getting angry.
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  You said I won't. I'm talking about.
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  Sweet Vengeance Lee. That's not vengeance.
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  I'm going to live my best life anyway.
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  But I want. Them to hurt.
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  They need some pain, Lee. Damn it, they need some pain
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  there. Leave.
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  That ain't enough. Give me more.
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  How do I hurt them? Yeah, I get it.
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  Trust me. I get it.
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  I've been there. Trust me.
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  I get it. I get it.
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  I really do. Yes, I have narcissistic
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  personality disorder, but I've also dealt with narcissistic
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  women that I wanted to seek your revenge on.
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  You know I have. Let's me keep it high.
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  You want that vengeance. You don't want to see people get
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  away from it. You don't want to see people
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  get. Away without with hurting you,
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  you. Don't want to see?
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  Them live their best life immediately after they hurt.
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  You don't want to see them give the next person everything that
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  you asked. For and beg for and pleaded for.
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  And then they leave you broken with nothing.
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  You see what I'm saying? You don't want that.
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  I get that. Y'all I get it.
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  Trust me. I'm coming from place.
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  I get it. This is why.
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  Y'all don't know. Narcissists have a lack of
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  empathy. This is where my empathy.
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  Center kicks in because I've I've experienced.
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  This is personal to me. You see what I'm saying, but
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  that's what. Goes right there.
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  Y'all. It's irritated.
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  It's irritated, but yeah, living.
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  Well, is the best revenge, of course, but that's super
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  simplistic. You're going to do that anyway,
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  right? You're going to do that anyway.
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  But the way to get super revenge on a narcissistic person?
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  Of course. You let me preface this by
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  saying this. Use discretion, of course.
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  But the best? Revenge on a narcissist.
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  The thing that would probably hurt a narcissist the most.
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  Is you. Of course you living your best
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  life, but also exposing them in some way, shape or form.
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  And this is the thing right here.
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  You can expose them without mentioning their name.
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  Like you. Healing out loud.
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  Is a. Form of exposure to them.
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  You know. You healing out loud in front of
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  the world or something like that is a form of exposure to them
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  you like, I said. I've seen so many people like.
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  There's so many. People I've interacted with over
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  the last X amount of years, How many years have there been?
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  There's so many people I've interacted with over the last
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  four years 3/4. 2020. Yeah, I'm about.
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  Four years. So many people I've interacted
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  with over the last four years in this situation and whatnot, that
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  and this is the way it goes. Like so many people that I've
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  interacted with that have blown their their lives have have
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  gotten completely better after exposing A narcissistic person.
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  Of course there's battles. There's still court battles and
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  lawsuits and allegations or whatever it is.
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  But you can expose them without mentioning.
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  Their name. You can expose them by just
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  telling your story. You if you're exposing them
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  online to strangers, it is different in exposing the online
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  to their family. Of course the family and friends
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  and y'all inner circle and stuff like that, but there's.
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  So many people who just. Share their stories on TikTok
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  and Instagram, or in vlogs or from anonymous names or
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  whatever. They expose their stories and
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  expose their truth without even mentioning the person who abused
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  them. They do that, but the person who
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  abused them typically finds it and sees it, and they feel
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  exposed. They feel like, oh, you got me,
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  you know, they get some of them. Some of them will react
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  negatively. And so I'm telling you, you
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  don't have to. This is you want to seek
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  vengeance on them. Of course, living one of the
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  best. Revenge, but narcissists hate
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  being. Exposed out, that's exposure is
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  the the main. One of the.
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  Main ways to get revenge on them is to expose them in some way,
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  shape or form. You know, this is not me telling
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  you to reach out to the new supply and tell them what what's
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  been going on or how they treated you because they
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  typically doesn't work out. That form of exposure right
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  there will will irritate A narcissist, but it doesn't mean
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  that that the new supply will leave them.
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  Let's be let's keep it high, you might have been the new supply
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  and then the ex reach out to you.
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  You didn't leave, so you might. Yeah, everybody.
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  People know this experience right here.
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  You've been the new supply. You know you've been the new
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  supply. Sometimes you don't realize you
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  do the supply. You don't realize that they're
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  using you to get over somebody, right?
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  You don't realize that they're using you to get back at
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  somebody. And so maybe it's too late now.
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  It's down the road now. Y'all been married or engaged
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  for a long time. Now that y'all got kids and
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  built a family together. You see what I'm saying?
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  They might, you might not know that you're due to the new
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  supply. So expose it into the new
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  supply. They've.
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  I mean it Does it work sometimes?
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  Yeah, it works sometimes. Y'all know my the Co host of my
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  show, the Co host of my show, Jessica Montez.
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  She exposed her ex to his new supply and she left the new
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  supply left because there was just too much proof and evidence
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  and she was, you know, she was like hell no to the hell with
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  you, you know. But other people expose and the
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  new person stays with them. They don't care.
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  And then the ex is angry at you and they treat you badly.
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  They try to make things worse for you.
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  So exposing A narcissist is probably the best way to get
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  revenge on them. Y'all.
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  It's one of the things right there.
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  They get revenge on them, is exposing them.
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  But of course, be careful. I'm not telling you make TikTok
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  videos. I'm not telling you to make
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  YouTube videos. Is that something you?
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  Is this how you want to heal out loud?
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  Hey, you. Heal out loud like that, but
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  just always think about what could happen, what could come
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  from that. Of course they'll try to scare
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  you or you know, put fear into your hearts or press charges or
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  whatever it is y'all just be careful when you try to expose
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  them. But that's how you get that's
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  the main way to get revenge on them is to expose them.
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  But narcissistic people also the best way to get revenge on them.
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  Y'all. Is to cut.
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  Off. Access to you.
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  I know some of them will lead some.
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  Some of them automatically leave you alone anyway when they move
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  on. But for the ones that try to
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  linger around in your life, the ones that kind of like become a
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  thorn in your side, for lack of a better word, like they're
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  they're like a splinter in your finger.
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  Like you can see it, you can see the splinter under your skin,
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  but you can't pull it out just yet for those.
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  Narcissistic people. It's.
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  Going to be different. You see what I'm saying?
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  Like they want this to remain in your life in some way, shape or
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  form. Cut off access.
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  That's how you give. Revenge cut off access block
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  they. Asses To hell with them.
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  Why are we still talking anyway? Why do they still have access to
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  you if you don't have anything together?
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  No kids, no houses, no anything? Why we still have access
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  together? Why they still have access to
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  you? You know why you still allowing
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  this person in your life? Because allowing them.
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  But Lee. I want them to.
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  Lee I want them to see me doing good.
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  It hurts worse if they can't see it.
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  Lee I want to. I want to see the.
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  I want me to. I want them to see me shining.
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  Y'all, if you shot you can block, you can block.
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  Their asses, right? And if you shine bright enough,
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  the light will reach the darkest.
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  Places the. Light will reach.
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  Them. What's that place?
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  Hey, dad, what's that dark? What's that shadowy place over
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  there? That's narcissism symbol.
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  That's the narcissistic household symbol.
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  You must never go there. Why not the light gonna hit it?
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  Everything the light touches is empathetic, you know.
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  Hey the dark. Place What's that little shadowy
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  place? That's narcissism symbol.
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  It was never go there, you know me but similar.
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  Took his little ass over to the dark place, to the shadowy round
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  Diddy to the shadowy area. What did they come bro?
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  Lion King for all my folks out there, if you don't know what I
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  was referencing but that revenge right there, yeah, revenge shall
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  be yours, you know, I know people just like revenge is
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  revenge shall be mine, said the Lord.
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  You know, but you can get vengeance on a narcissistic
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  person by just attacking it. Just.
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  Like that y'all attacking life, cutting off access.
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  You going to shine regardless, they don't have to sit.
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  Like, yeah, when you shine bright enough, they're going to
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  feel the shine, they're going to feel the burn.
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  Hey, your. Ex is doing great.
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  Somebody else might tell them that.
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  You know what I mean? If y'all have mutual friends
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  their. Sister or their brother might
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  tell them. Damn, I see, I see.
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  You know I see Lee. He didn't.
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  He didn't. Did good.
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  I blocked. Look, I blocked.
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  My ex. My narcissistic ex.
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  And somehow she found out I was on a workout.
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  Journey. Seven years later.
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  You something years later. Oh, somebody told me you had
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  been working on whatever you lost a. £100 like, yeah.
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  I shine bright. You going to feel it to the
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  dark? To the dark.
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  Areas. The shadow, the shadowy place
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  over there. You see what I'm saying?
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  It's narcissism symbol. But that's what it is, Y'all.
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  Come on. Come on, come through.
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  I'm rooting for every single one of y'all.
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  I hope y'all know that I'm rooting for literally every
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  single person that clicks on my videos.
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  Every single person that watches the video of mine.
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  I am rooting for you more than you know.
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  What do you realize? I am absolutely rooting for you
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  because I want you. To win like I want y'all to win.
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  I'll be wanting y'all to win more than y'all want yourselves
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  to win sometimes, but y'all have to.
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  We got to flip it. You know, vengeance is just.
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  Glowing up and shining. Of course, like I said, you can.
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  Expose them. You can just cut off access.
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  Vengeance. Of course, again, you got to do
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  you can have that petty vengeance, but.
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  Doing all the things that look, then this is, I'm going to end
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  up with this right here, y'all. Doing all the things that they
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  said you couldn't do is some of the greatest vengeance that you
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  can get on there. All the things that he held you
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  back from, go do them. You're free now.
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  Vengeance is your freedom. How you seek.
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  Vengeance. Enjoy.
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  You seek vengeance. You get revenge by enjoying your
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  freedom. Do you see what I'm saying?
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  You out into the jail cell. You got the key.
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  You got the lock and key. You out of here, you're free.
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  Enjoy your damn freedom. Because if you don't, I'm just
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  telling you they're going to snatch it away from you and
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  you're going to be like. Damn, I had freedom.
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  I was free. Why did I do that?
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  You see, that's where the mind goes.
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