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The People Around You Will Try to Stop You. Here Is Why. · Connor with Honor: AI, Real Estate and Real Life

• 0:00
  SPEAKER_00: You've read the science.
• 0:01
  SPEAKER_00: You understand the two signals.
• 0:02
  SPEAKER_00: You know that your body has everything it needs to survive and thrive off of its own stored energy.
• 0:07
  SPEAKER_00: You know that growth hormone surges when calories hit zero.
• 0:10
  SPEAKER_00: You know that autophagy activates and begins recycling the damaged proteins.
• 0:15
  SPEAKER_00: The loose skin, the cellular garbage, the decades of overeating left behind.
• 0:20
  SPEAKER_00: You know that ketone production creates a surplus of clean burning fuel that powers your brain better than glucose ever did.
• 0:28
  SPEAKER_00: You have burned the boats.
• 0:29
  SPEAKER_00: You've made the decision, and you are fasting.
• 0:32
  SPEAKER_00: And then someone tells you to eat.
• 0:35
  SPEAKER_00: The war you didn't expect.
• 0:36
  SPEAKER_00: Here's what nobody warns you about when you start an extended fast.
• 0:40
  SPEAKER_00: The humber the hunger isn't the hard part.
• 0:42
  SPEAKER_00: The ghrelin waves come and go.
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  SPEAKER_00: You ride them out twenty minutes, timer on your phone, they pass every single time.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's biology.
• 0:51
  SPEAKER_00: And once you understand it, hunger becomes manageable.
• 0:54
  SPEAKER_00: The hard part is the people.
• 0:56
  SPEAKER_00: Your wife, your husband, your mother, your best friend, your coworker who brings donuts every Friday, your training partner who wants to grab lunch, the colleague who says you look tired, the family member who Googles, is fasting dangerous and tells you what M WebMD article said at nine o'clock at night.
• 1:15
  SPEAKER_00: They're not trying to hurt you.
• 1:17
  SPEAKER_00: They're actually trying to help, and that's what makes it so difficult.
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  SPEAKER_00: They genuinely believe they are helping.
• 1:23
  SPEAKER_00: They love you.
• 1:24
  SPEAKER_00: They're worried and their worry unchecked will destroy your fast faster than any ghrelin wave ever could.
• 1:31
  SPEAKER_00: The most dangerous threat to your fast isn't your hunger, it's somebody else's fear.
• 1:36
  SPEAKER_00: Why they do it.
• 1:38
  SPEAKER_00: Understanding why people around you react the way they do is the first step in surviving their reaction.
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  SPEAKER_00: There are five patterns that almost every person you encounter will fall into.
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  SPEAKER_00: And at least one.
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  SPEAKER_00: The protector.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the person who loves you and is generally scared.
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  SPEAKER_00: Genuinely.
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  SPEAKER_00: They have never seen anyone voluntarily stop eating for more than a few hours.
• 2:02
  SPEAKER_00: Everything they had ever been told about nutrition, eat breakfast, eat six small meals a day, never skip a meal.
• 2:10
  SPEAKER_00: Tell them what you're doing is dangerous.
• 2:13
  SPEAKER_00: They do not know about the two signals.
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  SPEAKER_00: They don't know about your body switching to a completely different metabolic program when food intakes hit zero.
• 2:23
  SPEAKER_00: They don't know that growth hormone surges to protect your muscle.
• 2:26
  SPEAKER_00: They do not know that autophagy is recycling your damaged cells.
• 2:32
  SPEAKER_00: They just know that the person they love is not eating, and that scares them.
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  SPEAKER_00: What they say?
• 2:37
  SPEAKER_00: They say you need to eat something.
• 2:39
  SPEAKER_00: This can't be healthy.
• 2:41
  SPEAKER_00: Just have a little bit.
• 2:42
  SPEAKER_00: I read that fasting can cause heart problems and kidney problems.
• 2:46
  SPEAKER_00: What they mean?
• 2:47
  SPEAKER_00: They mean I love you and I'm scared and I do not understand what you're trying to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: Number two The Mirror.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the person who sees your discipline and feels confronted by their own lacking of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're doing the thing they know they should do.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're making the sacrifice they're not willing to make, and instead of being inspired, they feel threatened.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your fast holds up a mirror to their relationship with food and they don't like what they see.
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  SPEAKER_00: What they say, that's extreme.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't need to do all of that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just eat in moderation.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everything in moderation is fine.
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  SPEAKER_00: What they mean.
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  SPEAKER_00: If what you're doing is the right answer, then what I'm doing is the wrong one.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not ready to face that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then of course we have the expert, the person who has read one article, or watched one YouTube video, or heard one thing from their doctor fifteen years ago, and now they're in nutritional authority.
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  SPEAKER_00: They will tell you about starvation mode.
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  SPEAKER_00: They will tell you that your body will eat its own muscle.
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  SPEAKER_00: They will tell you that breakfast is the most important meal of the day.
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  SPEAKER_00: And they will quote studies that they've never read.
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  SPEAKER_00: They will reference dangers they do not understand.
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  SPEAKER_00: What they say, your metabolism will crash.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're going to lose muscle, not fat.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your body goes into starvation mode.
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  SPEAKER_00: My doctor says you should never skip a meal.
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  SPEAKER_00: What they mean?
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to be right more than I want to understand what you're actually doing.
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  SPEAKER_00: And number four, the saboteur.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the most dangerous one.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's the hardest to identify because they don't look like the enemy.
• 4:25
  SPEAKER_00: The saboteur lives and shows that love through food.
• 4:30
  SPEAKER_00: They cook for you, they bring you treats, they suggest restaurants, they leave snacks where you will find them.
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  SPEAKER_00: Food is their love language, and your fast is a rejection of the only way they know how to express care.
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  SPEAKER_00: What they say, I made your favorite.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just one bite won't hurt you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Come on, it's a special occasion.
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  SPEAKER_00: You deserve a treat after the week you had.
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  SPEAKER_00: What they actually mean is if you do not eat what I made, does that mean you do not love me?
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  SPEAKER_00: And of course we have the enabler.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the person who has your who was your eating partner, and you ordered a pizza at midnight, the one you split nachos with, the one who made you feel normal about your fourth trip to the buffet.
• 5:17
  SPEAKER_00: Your fast does not change your behavior.
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  SPEAKER_00: It changes the dynamic of your relationship.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you stop eating, they lose their partner in the addiction, and addiction hates being alone, what they say.
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  SPEAKER_00: You've changed.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're no fun anymore.
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  SPEAKER_00: Come on, one night won't kill you.
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  SPEAKER_00: You used to be cool.
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  SPEAKER_00: What they mean?
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  SPEAKER_00: You get healthy, and if you get healthy, I will be the only sick one left.
• 5:42
  SPEAKER_00: This is not a cockamany scheme.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's what you need to understand before you can handle any of these people.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're not doing something crazy.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're doing something that every human body was designed to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your ancestors did not have refrigerators, they did not have door dash, they did not have vending machines in every hallway of every building they walked into.
• 6:03
  SPEAKER_00: They went days, sometimes weeks without food, and their bodies didn't break down.
• 6:08
  SPEAKER_00: Their bodies got sharper.
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  SPEAKER_00: When your caloric intake hits absolute zero, your body doesn't panic, it doesn't start eating your muscle, it doesn't shut down, it runs a completely different program.
• 6:22
  SPEAKER_00: That's the fasting program.
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  SPEAKER_00: Total abstinence is where the magic lives, not reduction, not moderation, but abstinence.
• 6:30
  SPEAKER_00: Here's what that program does.
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  SPEAKER_00: Growth hormone surges three to five hundred percent, three hundred to five hundred percent above baseline.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is your body's way of protecting lean tissue.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not burning muscle, it's fortifying it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You do not get this on a twelve hundred calorie diet.
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  SPEAKER_00: You get it at zero calories.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then we have autophagy activating.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your cells begin recycling damaged protein, broken organelles, loose skin collagen, and precancerous material.
• 7:03
  SPEAKER_00: This is your body's maintenance crew, and it only clocks in when the food stops completely.
• 7:09
  SPEAKER_00: Ketone production creates a surplus.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your liver converts fat into ketone bodies, and it produces more than your body needs.
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  SPEAKER_00: This surplus means your brain is running on premium fuel.
• 7:22
  SPEAKER_00: The mental clarity people report during extended fast is not a placebo.
• 7:26
  SPEAKER_00: It's biochemistry.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your brain performs better on ketones than it actually does on glucose.
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  SPEAKER_00: Inflammation drops near zero.
• 7:35
  SPEAKER_00: Without food coming in, there is no insulin spike, no inflammatory cascade, no oxidative stress from digestion.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your joints feel better, your skin clears up, your energy stabilizes, everything calms down.
• 7:49
  SPEAKER_00: Your body burns hotter, not colder.
• 7:51
  SPEAKER_00: This is the part no one talks about.
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  SPEAKER_00: During caloric restriction, eating twelve hundred calories a day, your metabolism actually slows down.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your body gets the signal there is not enough food, so conserve energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Downside.
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  SPEAKER_00: Downsize.
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  SPEAKER_00: But during complete fasting, the opposite happens.
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  SPEAKER_00: Metabolism stays elevated or increases slightly in the first several days.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your body gets the signal there is no food at all, so sharpen up, hunt.
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  SPEAKER_00: Burn fuel, stay alert.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is why fasting works and diets do not.
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  SPEAKER_00: All of these things, every single one, only happen at a zero caloric intake, not 800, not twelve hundred, not at I'm gonna take just a little something to keep my metabolism going.
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  SPEAKER_00: Zero.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is where the healing lives.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is where autophagy lives.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is where the growth hormone lives.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is where the keto surplus lives, and this is where the anti-inflammatory response lives.
• 8:53
  SPEAKER_00: And this is what you need the people around you to understand.
• 8:57
  SPEAKER_00: How to have the conversation.
• 9:00
  SPEAKER_00: So you can't fast in secret forever.
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  SPEAKER_00: At some point, someone's going to notice that you're not eating.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when they do, you have a choice.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can mumble something about not being hungry and hope they drop it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or you can have the conversation.
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  SPEAKER_00: And here's how to have it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Lead with science, not the decision.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't start with I'm fasting.
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  SPEAKER_00: Start with the science.
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  SPEAKER_00: Tell them what happens to the human body when food intake stops.
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  SPEAKER_00: Tell them about the two signals.
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  SPEAKER_00: Tell them about growth hormone.
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  SPEAKER_00: Tell them about autophagy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Show them the studies.
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  SPEAKER_00: Send them the boats, the burn the boats article.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let the information do the work.
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  SPEAKER_00: Most people's objection to fasting isn't ideological.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's informational.
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  SPEAKER_00: They don't know what you know.
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  SPEAKER_00: Once they do, most of them will move from fear to curiosity, and curiosity is all you need.
• 9:52
  SPEAKER_00: Acknowledge their fear.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't dismiss what they're feeling.
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  SPEAKER_00: If your wife is scared, she is scared.
• 9:58
  SPEAKER_00: If your mother is worried, she is worried.
• 10:00
  SPEAKER_00: This is real.
• 10:01
  SPEAKER_00: Tell them to relax.
• 10:03
  SPEAKER_00: Telling them relax, I'm fine, doesn't actually help.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead, try this.
• 10:07
  SPEAKER_00: I understand why this looks scary.
• 10:10
  SPEAKER_00: Everything we've been told about eating says that I should not be doing this.
• 10:15
  SPEAKER_00: But I've looked at the research, and what actually happens in my body during a complete fast is opposite of what most people think.
• 10:23
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not starving, I'm healing.
• 10:25
  SPEAKER_00: And I need you to trust me enough to let me try.
• 10:28
  SPEAKER_00: Give them a roll.
• 10:29
  SPEAKER_00: People who feel helpless become controlling.
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  SPEAKER_00: If someone loves you and they cannot do anything to help you, they'll try to stop you instead.
• 10:38
  SPEAKER_00: Because at least that's something they can do.
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  SPEAKER_00: So give them a roll.
• 10:42
  SPEAKER_00: Ask them to check in on you.
• 10:44
  SPEAKER_00: Ask them to walk with you.
• 10:45
  SPEAKER_00: Ask them to read one article.
• 10:46
  SPEAKER_00: Ask them to hold you accountable.
• 10:48
  SPEAKER_00: Turn them from an obstacle into an ally.
• 10:51
  SPEAKER_00: Set a boundary.
• 10:53
  SPEAKER_00: Some people will not come around.
• 10:55
  SPEAKER_00: The mirror will keep protecting.
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  SPEAKER_00: The expert will keep citing starvation mode.
• 11:00
  SPEAKER_00: The enabler will keep ordering pizza and leaving it on the counter for those people who need a boundary.
• 11:06
  SPEAKER_00: I respect that you see this differently.
• 11:09
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not asking you to agree with me.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm asking you to respect my decision.
• 11:14
  SPEAKER_00: If you cannot support what I'm doing, I need you to at least not actively work against it.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's not aggressive.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's not confrontational, that's a boundary.
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  SPEAKER_00: And boundaries are what keep fasts alive.
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  SPEAKER_00: The emotional type.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now here's the part nobody writes about in the fasting science articles.
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  SPEAKER_00: Fasting is emotional.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is deeply, profoundly emotional.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because food is not just fuel for most of us.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's comfort.
• 11:43
  SPEAKER_00: It's celebration.
• 11:45
  SPEAKER_00: It is connection.
• 11:47
  SPEAKER_00: It is the thing we do with the people we love.
• 11:50
  SPEAKER_00: Thanksgiving is not about gratitude.
• 11:52
  SPEAKER_00: It's not about the table.
• 11:54
  SPEAKER_00: Christmas, although it should be, isn't about faith.
• 11:57
  SPEAKER_00: It's about the meal.
• 11:58
  SPEAKER_00: Birthdays are not about aging.
• 12:00
  SPEAKER_00: They're about the cake.
• 12:02
  SPEAKER_00: When you stop eating, you are not just changing your metabolic program, but you're changing your relationship with every social structure that is built around food, and it's very disorienting for you and for them.
• 12:16
  SPEAKER_00: You're not just fasting from food.
• 12:18
  SPEAKER_00: You're fasting from a social contract that everyone around you signed without reading, just like the terms of service on every device you own.
• 12:27
  SPEAKER_00: The people around you feel that disruption even if you cannot name it.
• 12:31
  SPEAKER_00: The dinner table feels different with an empty plate.
• 12:34
  SPEAKER_00: The holiday feels different when someone says no thank you.
• 12:38
  SPEAKER_00: The friendship?
• 12:39
  SPEAKER_00: Well it feels dinner different when you stop meeting for lunch.
• 12:43
  SPEAKER_00: And this is real.
• 12:44
  SPEAKER_00: And pretending it is not will make your fast, will not make your fast easier.
• 12:49
  SPEAKER_00: It will make it harder.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because you'll be fighting on two fronts, on your own biology and everybody else's expectations.
• 12:56
  SPEAKER_00: So it actually helps.
• 12:58
  SPEAKER_00: So after years of fasting, multiple cycles, extended fasts of three days, seven days, and beyond, here's what I've learned about the social side of the war.
• 13:07
  SPEAKER_00: One person is enough.
• 13:09
  SPEAKER_00: You don't need everybody to be on board.
• 13:11
  SPEAKER_00: You need one person, one person who gets it.
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  SPEAKER_00: One person who's not going to offer you four food when you're on hour 36.
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  SPEAKER_00: One person who will text you how are you feeling instead of you should eat something.
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  SPEAKER_00: One person who will walk with you instead of eating in front of you.
• 13:27
  SPEAKER_00: Find that person, if it's your spouse, you're lucky.
• 13:30
  SPEAKER_00: If it's a friend, you are blessed.
• 13:32
  SPEAKER_00: If it's a stranger on the internet who read some of the same articles you did and decided to burn the boats at the same time, that counts too.
• 13:40
  SPEAKER_00: Do not evangelize.
• 13:42
  SPEAKER_00: The fastest way to lose your support system is to try to convert everyone into a faster.
• 13:47
  SPEAKER_00: Do not do this.
• 13:49
  SPEAKER_00: Do not send unsolicited articles.
• 13:51
  SPEAKER_00: Do not lecture at dinner parties.
• 13:53
  SPEAKER_00: Do not post your ketone readings on Instagram every few hours.
• 13:57
  SPEAKER_00: Live it.
• 13:58
  SPEAKER_00: Do the work.
• 13:58
  SPEAKER_00: Let the results speak.
• 14:00
  SPEAKER_00: When you've lost thirty pounds and your blood work comes back clean and your joints do not hurt anymore, and your energy is through the roof, then they will ask.
• 14:08
  SPEAKER_00: And when they ask, they're probably ready to hear it.
• 14:11
  SPEAKER_00: Expect the testing.
• 14:13
  SPEAKER_00: People are going to test you, not because they're cruel, although some are, but because they need to see if you're really serious.
• 14:21
  SPEAKER_00: They will offer your favorite food.
• 14:23
  SPEAKER_00: They'll cook you something special, something that you love, something that smells incredible.
• 14:29
  SPEAKER_00: They will suggest your favorite restaurant on day three of your fast.
• 14:32
  SPEAKER_00: This isn't sabotage.
• 14:34
  SPEAKER_00: This is them checking to see if you really mean it.
• 14:37
  SPEAKER_00: If they fold, if you fold, you will never they will never take your next fast seriously.
• 14:43
  SPEAKER_00: If you hold the line, they will stop testing you.
• 14:46
  SPEAKER_00: And all you have to do is hold it once.
• 14:48
  SPEAKER_00: A thousand past failures does not mean what today is all about.
• 14:53
  SPEAKER_00: Every time you say no, the next no gets easier.
• 14:56
  SPEAKER_00: And for you and for them.
• 14:58
  SPEAKER_00: So protect your environment.
• 15:00
  SPEAKER_00: If you can't get the people around you on board, control what you can.
• 15:03
  SPEAKER_00: Don't sit at the dinner table and watch people eat if that triggers you.
• 15:06
  SPEAKER_00: Leave the room.
• 15:07
  SPEAKER_00: Go for a walk, take the dog out, run an errand.
• 15:10
  SPEAKER_00: You're not being rude, you're being strategic.
• 15:12
  SPEAKER_00: A recovering alcoholic doesn't sit in a bar to prove how strong they are.
• 15:17
  SPEAKER_00: No more than a food addict should sit in front of a loaded table to prove they can take it.
• 15:23
  SPEAKER_00: Remove yourself from the situation.
• 15:25
  SPEAKER_00: There is no shame in a tactical retreat.
• 15:29
  SPEAKER_00: Document everything.
• 15:30
  SPEAKER_00: Take your measurements, weigh yourself, take photos, log your blood pressure, track your energy levels, track your sleep, track your mood.
• 15:37
  SPEAKER_00: When the protector comes to you with concern and the expert comes to you with objections and the mirror comes to you with judgment, you pull out the data.
• 15:47
  SPEAKER_00: Data doesn't argue.
• 15:49
  SPEAKER_00: Data doesn't have an opinion.
• 15:51
  SPEAKER_00: Data just sits there and tells the truth.
• 15:53
  SPEAKER_00: Now the people who get it, here's the good news.
• 15:56
  SPEAKER_00: For every person who tries to stop you, there's someone who sees that you're what you're doing and feels a spark.
• 16:03
  SPEAKER_00: They're not going to tell you right away, they're going to watch, they're going to observe, they will notice that you look different, that you move differently, your eyes are clear and your energy is higher and your mood is better.
• 16:15
  SPEAKER_00: And one day they will pull you aside and ask the question, What are you doing?
• 16:19
  SPEAKER_00: That question is the beginning of everything.
• 16:22
  SPEAKER_00: That's the moment when your fast stops being a solo mission and becomes a signal fire.
• 16:27
  SPEAKER_00: You burned the boats.
• 16:29
  SPEAKER_00: Someone saw the flames.
• 16:31
  SPEAKER_00: Now they want to burn theirs too.
• 16:33
  SPEAKER_00: You don't need permission to heal, you need the courage to do it in public.
• 16:37
  SPEAKER_00: This is day one.
• 16:39
  SPEAKER_00: The negotiation is over, the boats are on fire and burning.
• 16:43
  SPEAKER_00: The people around me are either on the ship or on the shore.
• 16:46
  SPEAKER_00: Either way, the boats are gone.
• 16:47
  SPEAKER_00: There is no going back from this point.
• 16:49
  SPEAKER_00: And if you're reading this, and if you're fasting right now, and the people around you do not understand, I see you.
• 16:56
  SPEAKER_00: Keep going.
• 16:57
  SPEAKER_00: The Ghrelin wave, it will pass.
• 16:59
  SPEAKER_00: Criticism, it will pass.
• 17:01
  SPEAKER_00: The doubt it too shall pass.
• 17:04
  SPEAKER_00: And the only thing that does not pass is the regret of quitting because someone else was scared of what you were becoming.
• 17:12
  SPEAKER_00: Don't let their fear stop your healing.
• 17:14
  SPEAKER_00: Go ahead.
• 17:15
  SPEAKER_00: Burn the boats.
• 17:16
  SPEAKER_00: I'm Connor.
• 17:17
  SPEAKER_00: We'll see you in the next one.