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- 0:00Speaker 1: What is the most valuable thing in life. You might
- 0:03Speaker 1: think it's money, fame, power, love, or something else, but
- 0:07Speaker 1: the truth is none of these things matter if you
- 0:10Speaker 1: don't have time. Time is the only thing that we
- 0:13Speaker 1: cannot get back. Once it's gone, it's gone forever. Unfortunately,
- 0:19Speaker 1: many men waste their time on trivial pursuits, distractions, and regrets.
- 0:25Speaker 1: They miss out on the opportunities to live a meaningful
- 0:28Speaker 1: and fulfilling life. They learn too late the lessons that
- 0:32Speaker 1: could have made them happier, wiser, and more successful. In
- 0:38Speaker 1: this video, we will share with you seven stoic lessons
- 0:41Speaker 1: that men learn too late in life and how they
- 0:44Speaker 1: can help you make the most of your time and
- 0:47Speaker 1: achieve your goals. These lessons are based on the ancient
- 0:51Speaker 1: philosophy of Stoicism, which teaches us how to live according
- 0:55Speaker 1: to our values, control our emotions, and overcome our challenge.
- 1:02Speaker 1: So if you are ready to learn these seven stoic
- 1:05Speaker 1: lessons that men learn too late in life, make sure
- 1:08Speaker 1: to watch this video till the end and don't forget
- 1:11Speaker 1: to subscribe to our channel and hit the notification bell
- 1:14Speaker 1: for more stoicism related content. Let's get started. Lessen one
- 1:22Speaker 1: focus on what you can control. One of the core
- 1:27Speaker 1: teachings of stoicism is the dichotomy of control, the distinction
- 1:31Speaker 1: between what is in our power and what is not.
- 1:35Speaker 1: Many things in life are not in our power. External events,
- 1:39Speaker 1: other people's opinions, the past, the future, and so on.
- 1:43Speaker 1: These things are unpredictable, uncertain, and often beyond our influence.
- 1:49Speaker 1: Trying to control them is futile and frustrating. It only
- 1:53Speaker 1: leads to stress, anxiety, anger, and disappointment. On the other hand,
- 2:00Speaker 1: some things in life are in our power. Our thoughts, actions, reactions, choices,
- 2:06Speaker 1: and so on. These things are under our direct control.
- 2:11Speaker 1: We can decide how to think, what to do, how
- 2:14Speaker 1: to respond, and what to choose. We can shape them
- 2:18Speaker 1: according to our values, goals, and preferences. Focusing on them
- 2:22Speaker 1: is empowering and rewarding. It leads to peace, confidence, productivity,
- 2:28Speaker 1: and happiness. The Stoics advise us to focus on what
- 2:32Speaker 1: we can control and let go of what we can't.
- 2:36Speaker 1: This way, we can make the best use of our
- 2:39Speaker 1: time and energy and avoid wasting them on things that
- 2:42Speaker 1: are irrelevant, unimportant, or harmful. We can also cope better
- 2:47Speaker 1: with the challenges and difficulties that life throws at us
- 2:51Speaker 1: and turn them into opportunities for growth and improvement. Here
- 2:56Speaker 1: are some practical tips on how to focus on what
- 2:59Speaker 1: you can control. Identify what is in your power and
- 3:04Speaker 1: what is not. Make a list of the things that
- 3:08Speaker 1: you can control and the things that you can't. Be
- 3:11Speaker 1: honest and realistic with yourself. Don't assume that you have
- 3:16Speaker 1: more or less control than you actually do. Accept what
- 3:21Speaker 1: is not in your power and let it go. Don't resist, complain,
- 3:26Speaker 1: or worry about the things that you can't control. Accept
- 3:29Speaker 1: them as they are and move on. Don't let them
- 3:33Speaker 1: affect your mood, your self esteem, or your decisions. Remember
- 3:37Speaker 1: that they are not your responsibility and they don't define you.
- 3:43Speaker 1: Take action on what is in your power and improve it.
- 3:47Speaker 1: Do something about the things that you can control. Use
- 3:50Speaker 1: your skills, talents, and resources to create value, solve problems,
- 3:55Speaker 1: and achieve your goals. Seek feedback, learn from your mistakes,
- 4:01Speaker 1: and keep improving. Remember that you are responsible for your
- 4:05Speaker 1: own life, and you can make it better. Lesson to
- 4:10Speaker 1: live according to your values. Another important lesson that stoicism
- 4:16Speaker 1: teaches us is to live according to our values. Values
- 4:20Speaker 1: are the principles that guide our decisions and actions and
- 4:24Speaker 1: reflect our character and purpose. They are the standards that
- 4:28Speaker 1: we set for ourselves and the criteria that we use
- 4:31Speaker 1: to evaluate our success and happiness. They are what make
- 4:35Speaker 1: us who we are and what we want to be.
- 4:39Speaker 1: Living according to our values is essential for living a
- 4:43Speaker 1: meaningful and fulfilling life. It gives us direction, clarity, and motivation.
- 4:49Speaker 1: It helps us align our actions with our goals and
- 4:52Speaker 1: our goals with our vision. It helps us create a
- 4:55Speaker 1: positive impact on ourselves and others. It helps us live
- 4:59Speaker 1: with with integrity, authenticity, and dignity. However, numerous men struggle
- 5:07Speaker 1: to adhere to their principles. Instead, they conform to societal
- 5:12Speaker 1: expectations or norms, following the crowd, trends or the status quo.
- 5:17Speaker 1: They pursue trivial matters or ventures that contradict their values.
- 5:22Speaker 1: In doing so, they compromise, disregard, or even forget their
- 5:26Speaker 1: core beliefs. Consequently, they lead lives that aren't authentic to
- 5:31Speaker 1: them and fail to find fulfillment. The stoics warn us
- 5:37Speaker 1: against this trap and urge us to live according to
- 5:40Speaker 1: our values. They remind us that we have the power
- 5:44Speaker 1: and the responsibility to choose our values and to act
- 5:48Speaker 1: on them. They encourage us to live a life that
- 5:52Speaker 1: is true to ourselves and that reflects our highest ideals.
- 5:58Speaker 1: Here are some practical tips on how to live according
- 6:01Speaker 1: to your values. Identify your core values and prioritize them.
- 6:08Speaker 1: Make a list of the values that are most important
- 6:10Speaker 1: to you and that define your identity and purpose. Rank
- 6:15Speaker 1: them in order of importance, and select the top three
- 6:20Speaker 1: or five values that you want to focus on. These
- 6:23Speaker 1: are your core values and they should guide your decisions
- 6:27Speaker 1: and actions. Align your actions with your values and be consistent.
- 6:35Speaker 1: Do the things that are consistent with your values and
- 6:38Speaker 1: avoid the things that are not. Be intentional and deliberate
- 6:42Speaker 1: with your actions, and make sure that they match your values.
- 6:47Speaker 1: Don't let external factors or influences sway you from your values.
- 6:52Speaker 1: Be consistent and faithful to your values, and don't compromise
- 6:56Speaker 1: them for Anythingvaluate your progress and adjust accordingly. Periodically review
- 7:05Speaker 1: your actions and outcomes and see how well they align
- 7:08Speaker 1: with your values. Ask yourself if you are living according
- 7:12Speaker 1: to your values, and if you are happy and satisfied
- 7:15Speaker 1: with your life. If not, identify the gaps and the
- 7:19Speaker 1: areas for improvement, and make the necessary changes. If yes,
- 7:24Speaker 1: celebrate your achievements and reinforce your values. Lesson three, Seek
- 7:31Speaker 1: wisdom not knowledge. A third lesson that stoicism teaches us
- 7:37Speaker 1: is to seek wisdom not knowledge. Knowledge is the accumulation
- 7:42Speaker 1: of facts and information, while wisdom is the application of
- 7:45Speaker 1: knowledge to real life situations. Knowledge is knowing what, when, where,
- 7:51Speaker 1: and how, while wisdom is knowing why and what for
- 7:56Speaker 1: knowledge is having a lot of data, while wisdom is
- 7:59Speaker 1: having a lot of in sight. Seeking wisdom, not knowledge
- 8:04Speaker 1: is important for living a better life. It helps us
- 8:07Speaker 1: solve problems, make better decisions, avoid mistakes, and grow as
- 8:11Speaker 1: a person. It helps us understand ourselves, others, and the world.
- 8:17Speaker 1: It helps us find meaning, purpose and happiness. Yet many
- 8:23Speaker 1: individuals pursue information rather than wisdom. They amss a wealth
- 8:28Speaker 1: of facts, but struggle to employ them efficiently. Reading numerous
- 8:33Speaker 1: books is their habit, yet applying the acquired knowledge eludes them.
- 8:38Speaker 1: Memorizing countless facts is their forte, yet comprehending their implications
- 8:44Speaker 1: remains a challenge. Their quest for knowledge often stems from
- 8:48Speaker 1: a desire for its own sake or to impress others. Consequently,
- 8:54Speaker 1: they may become conceited, superficial, unfocused, and ultimately stagnate. The
- 9:02Speaker 1: Stoics advise us to seek wisdom, not knowledge. They remind
- 9:07Speaker 1: us that knowledge is useless unless it is used for good.
- 9:11Speaker 1: They teach us that wisdom is the ultimate goal and
- 9:14Speaker 1: the highest good. They encourage us to seek wisdom for
- 9:18Speaker 1: the sake of improving ourselves and our lives. Here are
- 9:24Speaker 1: some practical tips on how to seek wisdom not knowledge.
- 9:29Speaker 1: Read books that challenge your thinking and offer practical advice.
- 9:33Speaker 1: Don't just read books that are easy, entertaining, or popular.
- 9:37Speaker 1: Read books that are difficult, enlightening, or timeless. Read books
- 9:42Speaker 1: that make you think, question, and reflect. Read books that
- 9:46Speaker 1: give you useful tips, strategies, and examples on how to
- 9:49Speaker 1: live a better life. Learn from your own and others
- 9:54Speaker 1: experiences and feedback. Don't just rely on books or other
- 9:59Speaker 1: sources of infant Learn from your own experiences and from
- 10:03Speaker 1: the experiences of others. Learn from your successes and failures,
- 10:09Speaker 1: and from the successes and failures of others. Learn from
- 10:13Speaker 1: the feedback and criticism that you receive, and from the
- 10:16Speaker 1: feedback and criticism that you give. Learn from the people
- 10:21Speaker 1: who are wiser, smarter, or more experienced than you. Ask
- 10:27Speaker 1: questions and seek guidance from mentors and experts. Don't just
- 10:33Speaker 1: assume that you know everything or that you can figure
- 10:36Speaker 1: everything out by yourself. Ask questions and seek answers. Ask
- 10:42Speaker 1: questions that are relevant, meaningful, and challenging. Seek answers that
- 10:48Speaker 1: are accurate, reliable, and helpful. Ask questions and seek guidance
- 10:53Speaker 1: from people who are wiser, smarter, or more experienced than you.
- 10:58Speaker 1: Seek mentors and ex experts who can teach you, advise you,
- 11:02Speaker 1: and inspire you. Lesson for be grateful not resentful. A
- 11:11Speaker 1: fourth lesson that stoicism teaches us is to be grateful,
- 11:14Speaker 1: not resentful. Gratitude is the appreciation of what we have
- 11:19Speaker 1: and what we receive, regardless of the circumstances. Gratitude is
- 11:23Speaker 1: recognizing the good in our lives and expressing our thanks
- 11:27Speaker 1: for it. Gratitude is being content with what we have
- 11:31Speaker 1: and not craving for more. Being grateful not resentful is
- 11:37Speaker 1: important for living a happier and healthier life. It makes
- 11:41Speaker 1: us more positive, optimistic, and joyful. It makes us more generous, compassionate,
- 11:48Speaker 1: and forgiving. It makes us more resilient, adaptable, and hopeful. Nevertheless,
- 11:55Speaker 1: many men harbor resentment rather than gratitude, find discontent in
- 12:01Speaker 1: their possessions and envy those of others. Their demeanor is
- 12:06Speaker 1: characterized by bitterness, anger, and complaint. They exhibit selfishness, greed,
- 12:12Speaker 1: and ingratitude. Their disposition appears weak, inflexible, and devoid of hope.
- 12:20Speaker 1: The stoics warn us against this trap and urge us
- 12:23Speaker 1: to be grateful, not resentful. They remind us that we
- 12:27Speaker 1: have more than we need and more than we deserve.
- 12:30Speaker 1: They teach us that gratitude is the best attitude and
- 12:33Speaker 1: the greatest virtue. They encourage us to be grateful for
- 12:37Speaker 1: everything and to everyone. Here are some practical tips on
- 12:43Speaker 1: how to be grateful not resentful. Keep a gratitude journal
- 12:49Speaker 1: and write down what you are thankful for every day.
- 12:52Speaker 1: Don't just think about it, write it down. Write down
- 12:56Speaker 1: at least three things that you are grateful for every day,
- 13:00Speaker 1: no matter how big or small. Write down why you
- 13:03Speaker 1: are grateful for them and how they make you feel.
- 13:07Speaker 1: Write down what you learned from them and how they
- 13:10Speaker 1: improved your life. Express your gratitude to others and show
- 13:15Speaker 1: your appreciation. Don't just keep it to yourself, share it
- 13:21Speaker 1: with others. Express your gratitude to the people who have
- 13:24Speaker 1: helped you supported you, or inspired. You express your gratitude
- 13:30Speaker 1: to the people who have challenged you, taught you, or
- 13:33Speaker 1: corrected You express your gratitude to the people who have
- 13:38Speaker 1: loved you, cared for you, or forgiven You show your
- 13:42Speaker 1: appreciation by saying thank you, giving compliments, giving gifts, or
- 13:47Speaker 1: giving back. Practice mindfulness and savor the present moment. Don't
- 13:54Speaker 1: just take things for granted. Pay attention to them. Practice
- 13:59Speaker 1: mindfulness and be aware of the present moment. Savor the
- 14:03Speaker 1: present moment and enjoy the experience. Savor the sights, sounds, smells, tastes,
- 14:10Speaker 1: and feelings that you encounter. Savor the people, places, events,
- 14:16Speaker 1: and opportunities that you encounter. Savor the life that you
- 14:20Speaker 1: have and the life that you live. We hope you
- 14:24Speaker 1: are enjoying this video and are learning something valuable from it.
- 14:29Speaker 1: If you do, please don't forget to leave a comment
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- 14:34Speaker 1: Stoic lessons. Lesson five be self reliant not dependent. A
- 14:43Speaker 1: fifth lesson that Stoicism teaches us is to be self
- 14:47Speaker 1: reliant not dependent. Self reliance is the ability to rely
- 14:51Speaker 1: on ourselves and our own resources without depending on others
- 14:55Speaker 1: or external factors. Self reliance is being independent and responsible, creative,
- 15:01Speaker 1: and adaptable. Being self reliant, not dependent, is important for
- 15:08Speaker 1: living a more successful and satisfying life. It makes us
- 15:12Speaker 1: more confident, capable, and ambitious. It makes us more productive, innovative,
- 15:18Speaker 1: and resourceful. It makes us more flexible, resilient, and prepared. However,
- 15:26Speaker 1: many men exhibit dependency rather than self reliance. They depend
- 15:31Speaker 1: on others and external factors for their happiness, security, and success,
- 15:36Speaker 1: seeking support, approval, or guidance from their parents, partners, friends,
- 15:42Speaker 1: or bosses. Their identity, value or worth is often tied
- 15:47Speaker 1: to their money, possessions, status, or fame. Additionally, their actions, choices,
- 15:53Speaker 1: or results are often dictated by their habits, routines, comfort zones,
- 15:58Speaker 1: or excuses, leading them to become needy, passive, complacent, and vulnerable.
- 16:05Speaker 1: The stoics warn us against this trap and urge us
- 16:08Speaker 1: to be self reliant, not dependent. They remind us that
- 16:12Speaker 1: we have the power and the responsibility to create our
- 16:16Speaker 1: own happiness, security, and success. They teach us that self
- 16:20Speaker 1: reliance is the key to freedom, dignity, and excellence. They
- 16:26Speaker 1: encourage us to rely on ourselves and our own resources
- 16:29Speaker 1: and to improve them. Here are some practical tips on
- 16:34Speaker 1: how to be self reliant, not dependent. Develop your skills
- 16:40Speaker 1: and talents and use them to create value. Don't just
- 16:43Speaker 1: rely on your natural abilities or on the skills and
- 16:46Speaker 1: talents of others. Develop your own skills and talents and
- 16:51Speaker 1: use them to create value for yourself and others. Learn
- 16:55Speaker 1: new skills, master new talents, and apply them to real
- 16:59Speaker 1: life cityations. Use your skills and talents to solve problems,
- 17:04Speaker 1: create solutions, and achieve your goals. Manage your finances and
- 17:11Speaker 1: save for the future. Don't just rely on your income
- 17:15Speaker 1: or on the money of others. Manage your own finances
- 17:19Speaker 1: and save for the future. Spend less than you earn
- 17:23Speaker 1: and save more than you spend. Invest your money wisely
- 17:26Speaker 1: and diversify your income sources. Save for emergencies, opportunities, and retirement.
- 17:33Speaker 1: Be financially independent and secure. Take care of your health
- 17:39Speaker 1: and well being. Don't just rely on your genetics or
- 17:42Speaker 1: on the health and well being of others. Take care
- 17:45Speaker 1: of your own health and well being and improve them.
- 17:49Speaker 1: Eat well, exercise regularly, sleep enough, and avoid unhealthy habits.
- 17:55Speaker 1: Manage your stress, emotions and thoughts. Seek professional help if needed.
- 18:00Speaker 1: Be physically, mentally, and emotionally healthy and happy lesson six
- 18:07Speaker 1: be humble not proud. A sixth lesson that stoicism teaches
- 18:13Speaker 1: us is to be humble, not proud. Humility is the
- 18:17Speaker 1: recognition of our limitations and flaws, and the willingness to
- 18:20Speaker 1: learn and improve. Humility is being modest, respectful, and open minded.
- 18:27Speaker 1: Humility is being teachable, curious, and grateful. Being humble not
- 18:33Speaker 1: proud is important for living a wiser and more virtuous life.
- 18:38Speaker 1: It makes us more respectful, open minded, and curious. It
- 18:43Speaker 1: makes us more teachable, adaptable, and grateful. It makes us
- 18:47Speaker 1: more aware, realistic, and honest. However, many men exhibit pride
- 18:54Speaker 1: rather than humility. They display traits of over confidence, arrogance,
- 18:59Speaker 1: and closed mindedness. They appear unteachable, rigid, and ungrateful, often
- 19:06Speaker 1: lacking awareness, harboring delusions, and being dishonest. They tend to
- 19:11Speaker 1: presume knowledge in all matters, believe they are capable of
- 19:14Speaker 1: handling everything, and feel entitled to everything. Moreover, they tend
- 19:20Speaker 1: to look down on others, resist feedback, and take credit
- 19:24Speaker 1: for everything. The stoics warn us against this trap and
- 19:29Speaker 1: urge us to be humble, not proud. They remind us
- 19:33Speaker 1: that we are not perfect, We are not superior, and
- 19:36Speaker 1: we are not entitled. They teach us that humility is
- 19:40Speaker 1: the foundation of wisdom, virtue, and excellence. They encourage us
- 19:45Speaker 1: to be humble in our thoughts, words, and actions. Here
- 19:50Speaker 1: are some practical tips on how to be humble not proud.
- 19:55Speaker 1: Admit your mistakes and apologize when you are wrong. Don't
- 19:59Speaker 1: just nigh, justify or blame your mistakes. Admit them and
- 20:04Speaker 1: apologize for them. Learn from them and avoid repeating them.
- 20:10Speaker 1: Don't let your pride get in the way of your improvement.
- 20:13Speaker 1: Be humble enough to say I was wrong, I am sorry,
- 20:16Speaker 1: I will do better. Seek feedback and criticism and act
- 20:22Speaker 1: on it. Don't just ignore, reject, or resent feedback and criticism,
- 20:27Speaker 1: seek them and act on them. Ask for feedback and
- 20:30Speaker 1: criticism from others and listen to them, Evaluate them and
- 20:35Speaker 1: use them to improve yourself. Don't let your pride get
- 20:38Speaker 1: in the way of your learning. Be humble enough to
- 20:41Speaker 1: say I don't know I need help. I will learn.
- 20:46Speaker 1: Learn from others and acknowledge their contributions. Don't just compete, compare,
- 20:52Speaker 1: or copy others. Learn from them and acknowledge their contributions.
- 20:58Speaker 1: Learn from the people who are wiser, smarter, or more
- 21:01Speaker 1: experienced than you. Learn from their successes and failures, and
- 21:06Speaker 1: from their strengths and weaknesses. Acknowledge their achievements and efforts,
- 21:11Speaker 1: and thank them for their help. Don't let your pride
- 21:15Speaker 1: get in the way of your growth. Be humble enough
- 21:18Speaker 1: to say I admire you, I appreciate you, I will
- 21:21Speaker 1: follow you. Lesson seven, Be courageous, not fearful. A seventh
- 21:30Speaker 1: and final lesson that stoicism teaches us is to be courageous,
- 21:33Speaker 1: not fearful. Courage is the willingness to face our fears
- 21:38Speaker 1: and overcome our challenges despite the risks and uncertainties. Courage
- 21:43Speaker 1: is being confident, adventurous, ambitious, and successful. Being courageous not
- 21:50Speaker 1: fearful is important for living a more fulfilling, and rewarding life.
- 21:55Speaker 1: It makes us more confident, adventurous, and ambitious. It makes
- 21:59Speaker 1: us more productive, innovative, and successful. It makes us more prepared, proactive,
- 22:05Speaker 1: and positive. Nevertheless, many men exhibit fear rather than courage.
- 22:12Speaker 1: Afraid of their fears, they shy away from challenges, displaying timidity, caution,
- 22:17Speaker 1: and mediocrity. Resultantly, they remain unproductive, stagnant, and unsuccessful. Their unpreparedness, reactivity,
- 22:27Speaker 1: and negativity hinder them from pursuing dreams, taking risks, and
- 22:32Speaker 1: making changes. The stoics warn us against this trap and
- 22:37Speaker 1: urge us to be courageous, not fearful. They remind us
- 22:41Speaker 1: that we have the power and the responsibility to face
- 22:44Speaker 1: our fears and overcome our challenges. They teach us that
- 22:49Speaker 1: courage is the key to happiness, growth, and excellence. They
- 22:54Speaker 1: encourage us to be courageous in our thoughts, words, and actions.
- 23:00Speaker 1: Here are some practical tips on how to be courageous
- 23:03Speaker 1: not fearful. Identify your fears and understand their causes and consequences.
- 23:11Speaker 1: Don't just ignore, deny, or run away from your fears.
- 23:16Speaker 1: Identify them and understand them. Make a list of the
- 23:21Speaker 1: things that you are afraid of and the reasons why
- 23:24Speaker 1: you are afraid of them. Analyze the consequences of your
- 23:28Speaker 1: fears and how they affect your life. Be honest and
- 23:32Speaker 1: realistic with yourself. Don't exaggerate or minimize your fears. Challenge
- 23:39Speaker 1: your negative thoughts and beliefs and replace them with positive ones.
- 23:44Speaker 1: Don't just accept, believe, or reinforce your negative thoughts and beliefs.
- 23:50Speaker 1: Challenge them and replace them with positive ones. Identify the
- 23:55Speaker 1: negative thoughts and beliefs that fuel your fears and question
- 23:59Speaker 1: their valids and accuracy. Replace them with positive thoughts and
- 24:04Speaker 1: beliefs that empower you and motivate you. Use affirmations, visualization,
- 24:10Speaker 1: and positive self talk to boost your confidence and courage.
- 24:17Speaker 1: Take small steps and actions that move you closer to
- 24:20Speaker 1: your goals. Don't just wait, procrastinate, or give up on
- 24:25Speaker 1: your goals. Take small steps and actions that move you
- 24:29Speaker 1: closer to your goals. Break down your goals into smaller
- 24:33Speaker 1: and more manageable tasks and complete them one by one.
- 24:37Speaker 1: Celebrate your progress and achievements and reward yourself for your efforts.
- 24:42Speaker 1: Use the momentum and motivation to keep going and to
- 24:46Speaker 1: overcome your fears. With all that said, please continue watching
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