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Do narcissists really think they are better than you? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  Come on in here. Do narcissists really think that
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  they are better than everybody else?
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  Do? I know you heard it before,
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  right? But is it true?
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  Do narcissistic people really think deep down that they are
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  absolutely better than everybody else at anything that has ever
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  been created or anything that has ever been thought of?
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  That's what we talking about today, y'all.
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  If you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock and I'm a clinically
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  diagnosed narcissist here to let you in take let you get a inner
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  look at the mind of a narcissist and yeah, yeah.
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  So let me go ahead and get this out the way.
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  Now that that's out the way, let's go ahead say this right
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  here. Narcissistic people, some of
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  them do some of the more delusional narcissists really
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  truly believe that they are better than everybody else?
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  I have to say that y'all, I have to let y'all know that.
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  And I think a lot of people will already agree with me and
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  already kind of have that mindset that they understand
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  that right there that there are some delusional, super
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  delusional, ultra delusional narcissist that truly think, you
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  know what? I am better than everybody else.
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  I really am. I'm the greatest I ever was.
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  I'm the best to ever do it. That's me, Me.
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  It's a me, it's a me. O Lord, that's how they really
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  feel. Some of them really do feel like
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  they are the best to ever do anything ever.
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  And the greatest thing about it is they don't have any, any
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  footing to stand on. It's all delusion, right?
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  The ones that do believe that they are better than everybody
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  else typically don't even have any footing to stand on to
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  justify that belief, right? To justify even thinking that
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  they are better than anyone else?
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  To justify even the the the thought even crossing their mind
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  in any way shape or form? Like who the heck no?
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  Why would you who? Why would you believe this when
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  you have no, there's no evidence to to say if this is true.
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  There's absolutely no evidence to say that this is true to say
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  that narcissistic people truly like that to have for for you to
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  believe that you're better than me Like like like like see you
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  see something? You see what I'm saying like an
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  example of this could be your regular run-of-the-mill
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  narcissist. They'd be playing basketball at
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  the YMCA. They're like 5.
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  This is not me trying to hide shame, but they might be like 6
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  foot and they say they they better than LeBron James.
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  There's no other look they coming off the bitch in a men's
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  league at the YMCA, but they're telling you that they are better
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  than LeBron James. And you can tell by the way they
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  talk about it that they believe it.
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  That's delusional. And you know, a lot of times
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  narcissist do have do have delusions of grandeur, right?
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  They do have these delusions, this delusional mindset and
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  would not for them to actually truly believe that for them to
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  truly believe that this is true. Y'all look, every day I'm gonna
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  hold my mic with a new object. So right now, I have a lead
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  pencil. Yeah, I'm gonna start marketing.
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  I'm start putting like a little brand right here on my pencil to
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  hold my little mini mic. This is funny.
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  It's like my my little shtick now.
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  But this happens. So some of them don't have any
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  footing to stand on for them to actually believe it.
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  But they will. Yeah, some of them will take it
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  to their grades that they better than anybody and anything,
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  especially their partners. Boy, if you're the partner of a
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  narcissist, you understand exactly what I'm saying, how
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  they truly believe that they're better than you at your like say
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  you or you might be a an attorney or a lawyer or have a
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  doctor and they will just swear. But now that they can do their
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  job, your job better than you. No schooling, no nothing, just
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  I'm betting to you and they might be actually believe it.
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  Those are the so when they actually believe it, I was I, I
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  feel like those are the scarier brand of narcissist right there.
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  Like the scariest ones, because they get so steeped in delusion
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  that they actually start to believe this stuff and they can
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  become very angry and aggravated when it actually when it when
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  it's proven incorrect, when the facts start to lay themselves
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  out, they can become very angry and agitated at the people
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  around there. So they, this could be the very,
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  the dangerous type, they're really delusional type of
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  narcissist. But I will say this, I don't.
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  And as a diagnosed narcissist myself, I don't actually think
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  that I'm better than people at certain things, right?
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  Of course, I've been in psychotherapy for eight years,
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  but even before therapy, I kind of knew my limitations would
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  have came to certain things, right?
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  I could not. Look, I to this day, this is
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  true to this day, to this day, to this day, like this is true
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  to this day. Well, I don't play, I don't bowl
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  or I don't play pool because I'm not good at them.
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  So I'm not going like I know they're stupid y'all, but that's
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  just how my mind works. I don't do things that I'm not
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  good at because I don't want to look bad.
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  I don't want to look stupid. I don't want to look.
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  I don't want people to look at me And just like, well, you are
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  a bad human being. You don't deserve to be here.
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  You like you something. I don't want to look out of
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  place. I don't want people to pick on
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  me. I'm very paranoid.
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  I don't want to be picked on and whatnot.
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  So hell no, I'm not like I don't do things that I'm not good at.
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  So I would never say I'm better bolder than you or I'm I play
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  pool better than you. If I did, knowing I don't play
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  it, that's delusional. Or that's just me outright
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  lying. And I believe that a narcissist,
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  a lot of narcissists will just outright lie about whether of
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  how how good they are at certain things just so they can feel
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  better about themselves, just so they can argue with you for
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  argument's sake, right? Just for that circumstance right
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  there. Some of them do not believe it.
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  Like I, if I came up to you and I saw you just you a grandmaster
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  at pool. And I know that I suck.
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  I know I'm lying if I say I beat you in Pool.
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  I'm just talking. I'm just talking crap, right?
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  I'm just trying to puff my chest.
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  I'm just trying to, you see what I'm saying?
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  That's what I'm trying to do. So I don't think that most
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  narcissists actually believe that they're better than you at
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  certain things. I think that they get steeped in
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  the delusions. They get steeped in this mindset
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  and they just, they, they kind of go with it.
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  And sometimes they'll just lie and lie and lie until they get
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  proven wrong, right? I don't think that most
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  narcissists believe it. I think most narcissists in this
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  situation will lie to you. They'll just lie.
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  They and some of them, again, some of the more delusional
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  narcissists will absolutely think that they are better than
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  you and everything because they're delusional.
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  No qualifications, no educations, no nothing.
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  But they're better than you. A lot of times when they're
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  comparing and contrasting to you, it's because they're
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  jealous of you. If they're telling you that
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  they're better than you at something you know they cannot
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  do, they're jealous of you, or they just feel like they're more
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  entitled to your space or your success then you are.
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  They just feel like sometimes they might feel like you've been
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  allotted opportunities in life that they were not.
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  And sometimes they could be true, right?
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  They could be some truth to that.
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  Let's keep it hot. They could be some truth to
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  that. But if they were given the
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  opportunity they've been, they might have had other
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  opportunities in their life and they failed, right?
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  They had nothing to do with you. You know what I mean?
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  But some narcissists don't believe it, but some of them do.
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  I'm going to keep it hot. Some of them will lie and fake
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  the funk to fit in. Some of them like to poke out
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  their chest because it it sounds good.
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  It's an easy way to manipulate people.
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  I'm the best real estate agent around.
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  No, I, no, I ain't sold a house. I ain't got my real estate.
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  Like my real estate license ain't even active.
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  But I'm telling y'all I'm the best real estate agent around.
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  What does that sound like? That doesn't sound craziest hair
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  right there. So this is something that
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  everybody needs to consider right here.
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  This is the mentality that people need to run kind of run
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  into right here in these spaces. I feel like this is the thing
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  right here. This is the moves that we need
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  to make. This is the moves that are
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  needed to be made in order to fully be fully functional and be
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  able to fully move forward, right?
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  Narcissistic people, some of them do believe their delusions.
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  Some of them or some of them are just entitled, feel like they're
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  entitled to it. Some of them just want to make
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  you feel bad, right? If they tell you that they're
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  better at you than something, better at you than something
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  that you might be good at or something that you like.
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  Sometimes they're just trying to make you feel bad.
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  They feel like you don't deserve to be as good as you are.
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  You don't deserve to have the success that you do.
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  So they're just trying to make you feel bad, like you're
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  unworthy. This is a tactic.
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  This is a tactic. But again, the ones who do
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  believe it with no visible proof, No discernible proof.
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  Yeah, that is scary as hell. Those are the scary narcissists
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  right there. Those are the ones that will
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  bring fear to your entire system.
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  Those the ones who would throw your damn equilibrium off
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  because they're scary as hell to deal with.
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  They're there's they're scary as hell to deal with.
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  They absolutely are. So it just like if they truly
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  believe that they're better than LeBron James at basketball or
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  better at soccer than Messi, better at baseball than Cal
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  Ripken Junior and go right, go Orioles in this prom.
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  This is the type of stuff that they will tell you and the type
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  of stuff that they will share with you like they want to put
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  you down. You know, I don't believe that
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  most of them actually believe this craziness that come out of
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  their mouth. But again, some of them might
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  y'all again, some of them really, really might believe
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  this delusional ass stuff that they be saying and again, that's
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  scary. That is not yeah, that's scary
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  as hell. That's scary We that's very
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  scary. We because I feel like so many
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  people didn't understand that the person you're dealing with,
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  although it might come off as I'm just saying it in a funny
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  way, the person you're dealing with is a very scary ass person.
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  They don't need to be. They don't need to be messed
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  with or played with. Don't play around with people
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  like this who have this type of mentality because they will try
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  to sooner or later they will do something harm.
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  They will do something to harm you.
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  They will do something to bring you down.
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  They will do something to do. They will do something to try to
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  put you in your place like most narcissistic people do.
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  This is why a lot of times they'll just, they'll trying to
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  be they, they are trying to be bragging docious or trying to
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  puff out their chest or standing, standing on their
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  tippy toes, so to speak, in order to try to make themselves
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  feel better. They feel inadequate.
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  They, there's a feeling, this deep feeling of an adequacy in a
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  in narcissist that makes us feel like we need to do more.
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  That makes us feel like we, we have not accomplished enough.
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  So even if we do have some somewhat some bit of success, we
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  always want more. We always feel like it's not
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  enough. We always feel like that people
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  are judging us because we, if we, if I don't think it's not if
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  I don't think it's enough, you know, of course they're going to
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  other people out there who also share their sentiment.
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  It's not enough. No, that's the mindset, That's
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  the mentality that so many people face.
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  I don't truly believe that most narcissists think that, but
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  again, some of them do. Some of them really, truly
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  believe that they're the best at certain things.
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  You know, they are, they are. They really, truly believe it.
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  And that mindset is very hard to break out, especially if they
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  actually had some type of success in that field or that,
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  that that sport or something like that.
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  Whatever that job, you might not ever hit the end of it.
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