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Best Show Moments: When divorce is most likely & NZ's friendliest exes · Toni, Jase & Sam - Breakfast Catchup

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  Speaker 1: Welcome to Tony Jason Sam's best show Moments podcast, the
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  Speaker 1: very Best of Coasts Feel Good Breakfast this week.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not one to rest, so I'm there for the people.
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  Speaker 2: So on Wednesday I go back to work as well,
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  Speaker 2: sacrificing myself for the good of New Zealand. And that
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  Speaker 2: is because I I well, the form here says that
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  Speaker 2: I want a free pool. That's not quite true.
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  Speaker 3: I want a free pool.
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  Speaker 4: I Sam has scammed something with the pool house.
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  Speaker 5: Apparently it's going to work.
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  Speaker 3: Out for you.
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  Speaker 2: So you don't want a free pols. You want to
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  Speaker 2: pay for it. Using the term a free pool is
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  Speaker 2: not quite fair. I want to earn a pool.
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  Speaker 5: No such thing as a free lunch.
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  Speaker 1: Jess.
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  Speaker 3: That's exactly right.
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  Speaker 2: So what I've just well what the people of New
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  Speaker 2: Zealand have decided to do across my social media to
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  Speaker 2: strap me to a billboard and earn it. So that's
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  Speaker 2: effectively what's happening on Wednesday morning. I'm becoming to you
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  Speaker 2: live from a billboard in Kingsland.
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  Speaker 4: No one really, No one said he had to have
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  Speaker 4: his shoes off. That's an added bonus. That's Sam throwing
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  Speaker 4: it for our delightful when there's.
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  Speaker 2: A free pool on the line. Also, when you're trying
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  Speaker 2: to earn a pool, you will pretty much do anything
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  Speaker 2: you can so yet that the catch might come off
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  Speaker 2: at some stage, I'll be exposing myself on a billboard.
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  Speaker 5: Book you've been in Figi.
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  Speaker 4: You forget that it's this bit been a bit of
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  Speaker 4: a cold snap while you've been away. So if you're
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  Speaker 4: top plus on a billboard, you're going to have some
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  Speaker 4: very erectinable I think I.
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  Speaker 2: Might have term misjudge the fact that we're not in
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  Speaker 2: Fiji anymore, Doctor Roe. PARTA.
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  Speaker 6: You are saying the weather man obviously, so what if
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  Speaker 6: the weather turns nasty and turns foul?
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  Speaker 2: I ever looked that far ahead, Jason. I have my
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  Speaker 2: head in my well pool, but it comes with bonuses
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  Speaker 2: for New zealandcy. It's more than just all about me.
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  Speaker 2: It's about where I have to sell. There's two things
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  Speaker 2: to this. So first of all, I have to the
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  Speaker 2: only way I can be released off my billboard is
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  Speaker 2: to sell a pool while I'm up on the billboard.
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  Speaker 4: Until someone has to buy a pool from the poolhouse. Yeah, yeah, Sow,
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  Speaker 4: what time do you get strapped on?
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  Speaker 2: You'll be strapping in about six in the morning and
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  Speaker 2: I'll be six or seven and then all the way
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  Speaker 2: through till ten and what owse. Yeah, And it comes
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  Speaker 2: with some bonuses though, like I've got thousands of dollars
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  Speaker 2: of pool bits and pieces pool accessories to give away,
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  Speaker 2: and I don't want to give too much away. But
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  Speaker 2: what would you say if in the future I could
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  Speaker 2: wrangle the poolhouse to give away another pool to someone else?
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  Speaker 3: You reckon, you can do that?
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  Speaker 2: I think I can.
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  Speaker 3: I would.
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  Speaker 4: I would love to see that because I've watched some
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  Speaker 4: of your Instagram videos already and what I like about
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  Speaker 4: this poolhouse? And remember I do actually have a pool,
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  Speaker 4: but I'm looking at them, going That's what I would
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  Speaker 4: have wanted when I was looking for my pooll.
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  Speaker 5: You want to see pools in action, right, If.
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  Speaker 4: They've got a display yard, which you were in your
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  Speaker 4: speedos on, if you if you don't get distracted by that,
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  Speaker 4: you'll actually see that there were multiple pools that you
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  Speaker 4: can try out and you can see how big they look.
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  Speaker 2: A pool yard.
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  Speaker 6: Even if the look as well that there's big tall
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  Speaker 6: palm trees, that's exactly the look you want.
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  Speaker 4: It's the whole display, right, so we better help you
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  Speaker 4: with this process because you've got to get it right.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely do. You don't want it, you don't get
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  Speaker 2: the pool process right, because you'll be highly you will.
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  Speaker 6: So if you follow in zied Poolhouse on Instagram, you
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  Speaker 6: can watch the action unfold there and all the details
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  Speaker 6: just there.
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  Speaker 3: Also have looks some of the pools they've got there
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  Speaker 3: at Inzed Poolhouse.
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  Speaker 6: A big giveaway this coming Wednesday if Sam can managed
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  Speaker 6: to sell a Paul whilstrapped to a billboard.
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  Speaker 3: Not tomorrow for the next day. You know me.
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  Speaker 6: I love a good love story, right, And they've done
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  Speaker 6: a big study of divorce lawyers and marriage counselors and
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  Speaker 6: therapists and everything, and they've actually come up with the
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  Speaker 6: times in your life for years of your marriage, we
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  Speaker 6: are most at risk of divorce.
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  Speaker 5: I love you, jas, I'll love a good love story.
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  Speaker 5: Let's talk about divorce.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, that's actually shocked, because you know, there's any relationship,
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  Speaker 6: there's that honeymoon period, right, the first few months you're
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  Speaker 6: just giddy and love your butterflies and your tummy. What
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  Speaker 6: an amazing feeling, right, And if you're lucky, that lasts
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  Speaker 6: a long time and then there's that urban myth they
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  Speaker 6: call the seven year itch.
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  Speaker 5: Where people have a bit of a wobble, a.
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  Speaker 3: Bit of a wandering seven years. Yeah, that's right. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: but no.
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  Speaker 6: So what they've done is have done the divorce lawyers,
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  Speaker 6: marriage counselors. They all agree there is a certain milestone
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  Speaker 6: in your married life.
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  Speaker 3: Were divorces high risk?
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  Speaker 5: Oh? And is it a specific year of marriage?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: Is it around the seven year mark? No? No, not
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  Speaker 2: necessarily no.
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  Speaker 7: No.
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  Speaker 5: Let's go around the room. How many years is you
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  Speaker 5: won't be married?
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  Speaker 3: Here at two thirteen? Yesterday?
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  Speaker 5: I have to do the math. I was married in
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  Speaker 5: two thousand and nine.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, that's way too hard a mass.
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  Speaker 4: Sixteen year, thirty sixteen, this year, sixteen, this year yeah, okay, okay,
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  Speaker 4: it's not sixteen. So in the years one to two
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  Speaker 4: it's risky, but not very risky.
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  Speaker 2: It's risky.
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  Speaker 6: Years one to two years is risky for divorce. Ye,
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  Speaker 6: Then years three to four mid risk. I guess that
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  Speaker 6: one to two so you're married?
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  Speaker 2: Oh, god.
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  Speaker 6: Changed if you like, It doesn't change that much. So
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  Speaker 6: years one to two risky, not very risky though. Then
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  Speaker 6: there's a mild risk between years and three and four.
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  Speaker 6: But then after their win gets really risky. See if
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  Speaker 6: anyone can nail thiss right before.
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  Speaker 5: Half past six, it's not the seven year, not the
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  Speaker 5: seven year h no.
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  Speaker 6: And then then later on because the other categories low risk,
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  Speaker 6: mild risk, but there's one that's very risky.
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  Speaker 5: So Sam's and mild risk zone.
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  Speaker 2: You come out of the immediate risk. You come out
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  Speaker 2: of the immediate risk has resided in the fact she's like,
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  Speaker 2: oh God, what have I done? Got to live with.
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  Speaker 3: It now she's gone give it up.
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  Speaker 6: But so what are you regnar is the time and
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  Speaker 6: the marriage, the year in marriage where you are very risky,
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  Speaker 6: high risk of divorce. So it's takes to two six
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  Speaker 6: and nine nine or gives a buzzo eight hundred double Oh.
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  Speaker 3: Forecastle's got the testy two.
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  Speaker 6: But then a big study and it's the first study
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  Speaker 6: of it's kind where they talk to divorce lawyers and
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  Speaker 6: marriage counselors and therapists and all sorts of couples and
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  Speaker 6: their relationship experts, people like John Aiken from Married at
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  Speaker 6: First Sight. You know these people sort of house and
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  Speaker 6: they said, okay, break it all down. Even thing you've
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  Speaker 6: seen in your career and all your training we're what
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  Speaker 6: are the years most likely where people divorce? And they've
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  Speaker 6: broken it down, they've given you risk factors, mild risk,
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  Speaker 6: high risk, very risky, low risk, all that sort of stuff.
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  Speaker 5: Didn't you say it was high risk in one to
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  Speaker 5: two years?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: High risk here, yeah, one to two years.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, but not that that's not the most risky part though,
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  Speaker 6: So where is the most risky time of a marriage
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  Speaker 6: where things that you're probably going to head south.
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  Speaker 3: And there's a higher chance of divorce? Paula, What do
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  Speaker 3: you think, my friend?
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  Speaker 8: Well, eighteen years or the onset of kids?
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, the way right.
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  Speaker 4: The onset of kids is all over the show, isn't it. Well, Sam,
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  Speaker 4: like you had kids before you got married. I think
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  Speaker 4: we had ours two years into marriage.
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  Speaker 2: Well we had them same, we're than ten years in
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  Speaker 2: the marriage, right, and so sorry, our relationship not marriage,
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  Speaker 2: you know what I mean?
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  Speaker 3: You know we're talking marriage. Yeah, good, yes, Paula. But no,
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  Speaker 3: so they're going to have to eighty.
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  Speaker 2: You got to load.
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  Speaker 3: You got to a low risker for that point, Thank
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  Speaker 3: you very much.
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  Speaker 2: Though.
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  Speaker 6: All right, we'll go to Helen Halen, Hell, hello, Helen,
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  Speaker 6: cutting get my wounds out. I know nothing what do
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  Speaker 6: you reckon the high risker is?
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  Speaker 7: I think it was about ten to twelve. I'm actually
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  Speaker 7: going to go twenty.
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  Speaker 2: Twenty later on years in Why do you say that, Helen?
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  Speaker 7: I did after twenty eight?
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  Speaker 2: What happened.
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  Speaker 7: Older and wider?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah? Ok, yeah, it's the thing.
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  Speaker 3: You're noticing that a lot more.
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  Speaker 6: They call it the Great divorce, remember the great separation
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  Speaker 6: that women are leaving me and me and men are
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  Speaker 6: absolutely blindside about because basically they just the woman gets
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  Speaker 6: sick of looking after an extra child, a man child. Yeah,
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  Speaker 6: good years, but not actually according to this though, mild
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  Speaker 6: risk over the over fifteen years.
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  Speaker 5: Okay, I'm in the mild risk category.
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  Speaker 3: Now, Colin, what year, what year in the marriage is
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  Speaker 3: the higher a very high risk of divorce?
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  Speaker 7: I would say thirty to thirty five?
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  Speaker 6: I think I said, yeah, five years again Helen's train
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  Speaker 6: of fourt a the older you get, the more thing.
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  Speaker 3: Actually, no, this isn't for me after all.
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  Speaker 7: I just think the kids have gone. You've should have
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  Speaker 7: become a habit, you know. Yeah, yeah, so that would
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  Speaker 7: be really dance and strong.
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  Speaker 4: You know, you're still friends, but you know, there's something
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  Speaker 4: I'm trying to work out what sort of age group
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  Speaker 4: that would be. So if I've been married fifteen years,
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  Speaker 4: it would be me in another fifteen to twenty. So
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  Speaker 4: I'm looking at fifty five to late fifteen fifty were
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  Speaker 4: getting married in the twenties probably.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, Okay, you've got to keep the passion of live stream.
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  Speaker 2: You've got to stoke the fire you do.
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  Speaker 6: When I'm fifty five, think again, a great guest, Colleen,
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  Speaker 6: and again all the latest news were seeing out of
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  Speaker 6: New Zealand.
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  Speaker 3: That seems to be a bit of a trend for
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  Speaker 3: great divorces happening in New Zealand.
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  Speaker 2: So what does it, Jase?
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  Speaker 5: Put us out of our misery five years?
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  Speaker 3: Five years into your marriage is very risky for a divorce.
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  Speaker 3: It's not the same rich afterwards. Five years you're a
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  Speaker 3: couple of years to go.
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  Speaker 5: See, you've got a little way to go.
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  Speaker 3: But you've got to get past totally.
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  Speaker 2: Mate. I mean we got married so so later life
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  Speaker 2: it will be a great divorce anyway.
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  Speaker 1: Your weekly Feel Good Breakfast, Best Show Moments Podcast, The
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  Speaker 1: Very Best of Coasts Tony Street, Jace Reeves and Sam Wallas.
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  Speaker 3: All Right, you know what goes into sorting out of
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  Speaker 3: winning a lot? Goes into it.
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  Speaker 6: There's the meal, there's the menu, there's the outfist, there's
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  Speaker 6: the bridal party, and then of course there's the guest list.
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  Speaker 4: That is really hard to do, particularly when every single
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  Speaker 4: guest member. You know, it's a significant cost. But we
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  Speaker 4: have quite a scenario here that you might have some
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  Speaker 4: thoughts on.
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  Speaker 6: So there's one bride having a bit of problem, so
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  Speaker 6: years ago basically the story so years ago, Dad has
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  Speaker 6: an affair, right, and he leaves mum and breaks up
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  Speaker 6: the whole family, ends up marrying this other woman the right.
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  Speaker 6: So now she's the stepmum yep. And the bride is like, okay,
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  Speaker 6: but I don't want her there. She broke up her family.
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  Speaker 4: Do we know how much longer it was from when
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  Speaker 4: the affair happened. I think it was she was a kid, Okay,
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  Speaker 4: so quite a few years later, and she still doesn't
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  Speaker 4: obviously like the step mum's right hasn't softened over the years.
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  Speaker 3: Softened over the years.
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  Speaker 6: I mean, like I said, Dad's obviously found love with
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  Speaker 6: this woman. He's married this woman, right, So you did
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  Speaker 6: argue it's a lovely love story.
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  Speaker 5: I was just going to say, I feel like when
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  Speaker 5: it's an a fear that go.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, a fear is an a fear, But when
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  Speaker 4: it goes and doesn't last long, at least it was
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  Speaker 4: worth something, you know what I mean?
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  Speaker 3: This one is yeah, pay off. He found his true love.
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  Speaker 6: Clearly he wasn't supposed to be with the woman's mum anymore,
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  Speaker 6: and he's found his true love and he's worth her.
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  Speaker 3: So years later, now the.
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  Speaker 6: Daughter grow up, go home's a wonderful young woman and
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  Speaker 6: decides to get married. She's like cool, but she doesn't
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  Speaker 6: want the step mother there. Dad still invited. This is
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  Speaker 6: the problem I have Dad still invited.
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  Speaker 5: I know that you can't.
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  Speaker 4: He's always going to be her dad, even if she
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  Speaker 4: doesn't agree with his decisions. Yes, you could argue that
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  Speaker 4: she the stepmum's not a relative. Now, Oh it's a
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  Speaker 4: hard situation. When do I wonder what the dad thinks
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  Speaker 4: about all of this?
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  Speaker 3: Oh, he's guarded, of course, and is he is he
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  Speaker 3: going to walk? Has thaughted down the aisle? I don't
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  Speaker 3: know that. I don't know that far of the detail.
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  Speaker 4: So the question is do you think she has the
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  Speaker 4: right to just go? Now the stepmom's not coming? Because
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  Speaker 4: you also don't know where the mom sits in this
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  Speaker 4: like she could be very bitter still and very and
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  Speaker 4: it could ruin her day. And if the bride's thinking, well,
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  Speaker 4: it's going to ruin my mom's day of my stepmum's there, you.
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  Speaker 2: Know what I mean?
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  Speaker 6: There could be there could be some fairness there, I suppose.
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  Speaker 4: And I also think you don't want to hold onto
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  Speaker 4: the negativity either, because it's not it's not good for you.
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  Speaker 3: No drinking poison and hoping that the other person. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: what are your thoughts on?
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  Speaker 9: This?
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  Speaker 6: Is the bride right to not invite the step mom,
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  Speaker 6: it's her day, it's her right, is it?
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  Speaker 3: Or should by gones be going bygones? And dad's fallen
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  Speaker 3: in love? And should we just celebrate love?
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  Speaker 6: We do?
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  Speaker 4: You?
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  Speaker 6: Reckon I eight hundred double O four Coastal Fliga takes
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  Speaker 6: to two six ninety nine.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, what about this?
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  Speaker 6: There's a bride having trouble with her guest list for
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  Speaker 6: her upcoming wedding. A few years ago, dad cheated on her, mom,
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  Speaker 6: broke up, the family, walked out, has since married the
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  Speaker 6: woman he was having an affair with, And now the
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  Speaker 6: wedding's about to roll around and the bride wants to know. Well,
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  Speaker 6: I don't want to invite my stepmom. I don't want
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  Speaker 6: her there. She broke up our family.
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  Speaker 4: Oh yeah, and as you can imagine, it's causing a
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  Speaker 4: few issues. So what's your take on this, Daffy, What
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  Speaker 4: do you think?
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  Speaker 7: Is it the mom's so bitter about it? Don't bogger?
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  Speaker 2: Just be a mom and dad.
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  Speaker 8: Yeah, it's not worth getting a drama on your wedding day.
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  Speaker 4: But is this not going to cause a drama? Was
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  Speaker 4: the dad or does he just have to shut up
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  Speaker 4: and lump it because he kind of caused it?
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  Speaker 5: Excuse me?
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  Speaker 2: This is both mom and dad. Dad up in.
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  Speaker 8: Lond with it.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, he's got to love that.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 6: Bruce had a good point before he ring, And see,
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  Speaker 6: look who's paying for it. If dad's paying, he can
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  Speaker 6: bring whoever he wants.
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  Speaker 4: Oh I you know, look, I get why you're saying that,
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  Speaker 4: but the whole you're paying, so you can ask whoever
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  Speaker 4: you want. It's still the day bride and groom's day.
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  Speaker 4: You have to remember that. But in saying that, if
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  Speaker 4: you're paying, you should you would you feeling a bit
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  Speaker 4: better if you're paying in your person that you've married
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  Speaker 4: and allowed to go, right, you.
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  Speaker 3: Can't bring your own wife, Helen, what are your thoughts.
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  Speaker 7: I've actually been in this situation and I'm a divorced parent,
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  Speaker 7: and my take is, you choose to bring a child
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  Speaker 7: into this world, and therefore you need to be good
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  Speaker 7: role models and at the end of the day, it's
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  Speaker 7: your child's day, and whatever emotional problems you have, you
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  Speaker 7: need to put them aside and put your child first
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  Speaker 7: each and every day.
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  Speaker 3: That is your job, so Helen.
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  Speaker 6: So if the woman does not want to provide her
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  Speaker 6: dad's wife, yep, okay, all right, thank you very much, Helen.
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  Speaker 6: Interesting one more, Elizabeth, what do your take?
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  Speaker 3: What do your takes?
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  Speaker 7: A Hi?
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  Speaker 10: Him, I kind of agree that the daughter shouldn't have
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  Speaker 10: to bring his step mom. When we got married, we
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  Speaker 10: didn't invite well, I didn't invite my grandfather or.
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  Speaker 7: Two of my aunties, and my mom was really upset.
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  Speaker 8: But I didn't get on with them.
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  Speaker 10: I knew it would cause drama and I was like,
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  Speaker 10: you know what, we've only got sick numbers.
• 13:18
  Speaker 8: We really really want to enjoy our day, so you know,
• 13:21
  Speaker 8: it is what it is. And in then my mum
• 13:24
  Speaker 8: was fine.
• 13:25
  Speaker 7: She was a bit sad, but it is what it is, right.
• 13:28
  Speaker 4: So it's hard, isn't it, because you can it can
• 13:31
  Speaker 4: cause drama by inviting those people, but it can also
• 13:33
  Speaker 4: cause drama by not inviting them. So it's like it's
• 13:36
  Speaker 4: sometimes you're stuck in a a rock in a hard place.
• 13:39
  Speaker 4: And we have had so many texts on this, a
• 13:42
  Speaker 4: text here she needs to let it happen. Is the
• 13:44
  Speaker 4: step mom's going to be around for a long time.
• 13:46
  Speaker 4: We have the situation and both my husband and I
• 13:48
  Speaker 4: celebrate as families with the exes. I saw a beautiful
• 13:51
  Speaker 4: video with the father for the bide, got the step
• 13:53
  Speaker 4: dad from the crowd, and they both walked to the
• 13:55
  Speaker 4: bride down the aisle.
• 13:57
  Speaker 3: Life is too short, I'm thinking that to life's pretty sure.
• 14:00
  Speaker 3: You want to put this aside for you, just make
• 14:02
  Speaker 3: it a happy day.
• 14:03
  Speaker 4: We don't know the circumstances of how they broke up,
• 14:05
  Speaker 4: though I think that he plays a big part the lord.
• 14:07
  Speaker 10: Here.
• 14:07
  Speaker 3: I went to a wedding step mum and mum both invited.
• 14:10
  Speaker 3: It ruined the day. Big domestics at the bridal table.
• 14:14
  Speaker 2: You never forget there.
• 14:15
  Speaker 5: What about this one?
• 14:16
  Speaker 4: I was wife number three, my late husband's daughter from
• 14:19
  Speaker 4: wife number one did not want me at her wedding,
• 14:22
  Speaker 4: a large chunk of which was being paid for by daddy.
• 14:25
  Speaker 4: I was okay with not going as it was her winning,
• 14:27
  Speaker 4: but he said if I wasn't invited, he wasn't going.
• 14:30
  Speaker 4: I went, as didn't did all the other step parents.
• 14:33
  Speaker 4: We'll see I in that situation. I think that's wrong
• 14:35
  Speaker 4: of the dad.
• 14:37
  Speaker 2: If she's not.
• 14:38
  Speaker 5: Invited, I'm not going.
• 14:39
  Speaker 4: You're the dad. Get a girl up here, like, come on,
• 14:41
  Speaker 4: You've got to go, no matter what. Right you might
• 14:43
  Speaker 4: not be happy with your not being invited, but you're
• 14:45
  Speaker 4: still the dad.
• 14:47
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 14:47
  Speaker 6: It's very thank you very much weighing into the views
• 14:50
  Speaker 6: on both sides, and to be honest, it's pretty split
• 14:52
  Speaker 6: down the middle.
• 14:52
  Speaker 4: A fifty fifty really is I'm there's no right answer.
• 14:56
  Speaker 4: I don't think it's just you do you Booth, That's
• 14:58
  Speaker 4: exactly it.
• 14:59
  Speaker 6: You do your This weekend started daylight saving. I love
• 15:03
  Speaker 6: it roll on summer summer as of course to summer.
• 15:05
  Speaker 6: You could be so finding some summer love, maybe in
• 15:07
  Speaker 6: the arms.
• 15:08
  Speaker 3: Of your ex That's what brand.
• 15:23
  Speaker 6: We're on the search for Altado on New Zealand's Friendliest Exes.
• 15:27
  Speaker 6: If you are on such good terms, like, for example,
• 15:29
  Speaker 6: Mick Jagger when he split with Jerry Hall, he literally
• 15:31
  Speaker 6: bought the house next door and moved in so they
• 15:33
  Speaker 6: could still be kind of hanging out.
• 15:34
  Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, well it's weird, isn't it. You know that
• 15:38
  Speaker 2: that whole I'm friends my ex, we're still hanging out
• 15:41
  Speaker 2: and then all of a sudden, then you know that
• 15:43
  Speaker 2: people break up live in the same house and bring
• 15:45
  Speaker 2: people around. Yeah, yeah, I've heard of that too. Yeah,
• 15:47
  Speaker 2: but we're still we're not married anymore, but we live
• 15:49
  Speaker 2: in the same house and that's his new partner. It's like, whoa, whoa,
• 15:52
  Speaker 2: whoa whoa we were.
• 15:53
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's right.
• 15:54
  Speaker 6: So this is coming out because you may have seen
• 15:55
  Speaker 6: the headlines as well. I mean it's everywhere for some reason.
• 15:58
  Speaker 6: Jennifer lopi Is and ben Air Fleck they're split, but
• 16:00
  Speaker 6: they're still hanging out, holding hands and still kissing apparently,
• 16:03
  Speaker 6: And I'm like, I've.
• 16:04
  Speaker 2: More blinded Cass Jason, know you watched the video.
• 16:07
  Speaker 3: Honor repeat, I slowed it down a few times.
• 16:09
  Speaker 6: No, no, no, oh, yes, it's probably because again, if
• 16:11
  Speaker 6: you didn't know who they were, you would think they
• 16:13
  Speaker 6: were together as a couple holding hands and kissing at
• 16:16
  Speaker 6: a restaurant. So the question is this morning, how freely
• 16:19
  Speaker 6: are you with your ex? We're looking for the friendliest
• 16:21
  Speaker 6: exes that we know of. I W eight one hundred
• 16:23
  Speaker 6: double O four coaster phone number. Well, you can flick
• 16:25
  Speaker 6: us a text and tell us all about it, and
• 16:27
  Speaker 6: you just have to use names if you don't want to,
• 16:28
  Speaker 6: But that's fine. Maybe YOURX is that good you're hanging
• 16:30
  Speaker 6: out with them right now and they can talk about
• 16:32
  Speaker 6: it and go, yeah, fine, we're right here.
• 16:34
  Speaker 2: Because you do hear of stories that people break up
• 16:36
  Speaker 2: and then you know, become friends with their wife's new
• 16:38
  Speaker 2: husband and then they go on couples dates. Yeah, there's
• 16:41
  Speaker 2: that too. Didn't Quitneth Paltrow do that? Isn't he?
• 16:43
  Speaker 3: I think they did? Anyway? Flicker text two six nine
• 16:46
  Speaker 3: nine on.
• 16:47
  Speaker 6: If you haven't checked you a lotto ticket yet, make
• 16:48
  Speaker 6: sure you want to do that, because one person won
• 16:50
  Speaker 6: just over a million dollars last night, two people won
• 16:53
  Speaker 6: half a million dollars each, and twenty one people have wanted.
• 16:55
  Speaker 2: To have a ten grand Do they email you for
• 16:57
  Speaker 2: the results result paper?
• 17:00
  Speaker 4: Yeah?
• 17:00
  Speaker 6: God, you love it though you know it's information you
• 17:04
  Speaker 6: over all, I tell you what I do, like kly
• 17:05
  Speaker 6: litt bit of gossip out again, the all women's magazines.
• 17:07
  Speaker 6: I'll be honest about my hand up and yeah I
• 17:08
  Speaker 6: indulged sometimes now and the women's magazines if you believe it.
• 17:12
  Speaker 6: When Mick Jagger broke up with Jerry Hall, he moved
• 17:14
  Speaker 6: next door Jalo and Ben Affleck in the middle of
• 17:17
  Speaker 6: the divorce, apparently having lunch last week and holding hands
• 17:20
  Speaker 6: under the table, having a few kisses in the restaurant.
• 17:22
  Speaker 9: So what is that?
• 17:22
  Speaker 2: They just worked out it's not really going to work
• 17:24
  Speaker 2: long term, so you know, we call, we've had a
• 17:26
  Speaker 2: good time and let's go our separate ways and split
• 17:28
  Speaker 2: up the half a billion dollar of assets and move on.
• 17:30
  Speaker 6: Maybe that's exactly it, And apparently it goes that's what
• 17:32
  Speaker 6: I just read before they're going to meet together with
• 17:36
  Speaker 6: the divorce Lawyer's one divorce lawyer is dealing with the
• 17:38
  Speaker 6: whole thing for them, mediation with the divorce lawyer.
• 17:41
  Speaker 3: So they're hanging out having lunch together with the divorce lawyer.
• 17:43
  Speaker 2: People say it's harder with that much money, but we
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: wouldn't it be easy to have a divorce and have
• 17:48
  Speaker 2: to split up half a billion dollars. It's kind of easy.
• 17:51
  Speaker 2: At the end of the day, you're not going homeless.
• 17:53
  Speaker 3: Say no, you're not. I guess it would still hurt
• 17:55
  Speaker 3: against the holiday home, you know, like it's kind.
• 17:58
  Speaker 2: Of break up.
• 17:58
  Speaker 3: But they're obviously all great terms. I laugh.
• 18:00
  Speaker 6: You know, I love a good love story, but I
• 18:01
  Speaker 6: love beans well too. And on the text on two
• 18:03
  Speaker 6: six nine nine, Hey, guys, my recent ex husband and
• 18:07
  Speaker 6: new boyfriend paying the same cricket team.
• 18:09
  Speaker 3: We're all fine with it.
• 18:10
  Speaker 2: There you go.
• 18:11
  Speaker 6: There's a lot to unpeg me cricket tea. Yeah, my
• 18:14
  Speaker 6: ex wife and my new wife are Facebook friends. That's
• 18:16
  Speaker 6: another one on the texts too, so we're looking for
• 18:18
  Speaker 6: freely exs right now.
• 18:19
  Speaker 3: Gooday, Helen, good morning. How are you really well? Thank
• 18:22
  Speaker 3: you very much? How things great? Really good with the X?
• 18:27
  Speaker 7: Yeah, brilliant. So my husband or I still he's my
• 18:30
  Speaker 7: ex husband of a divorced We have a child together,
• 18:33
  Speaker 7: and we went together and got the divorce paper signed together,
• 18:36
  Speaker 7: and then I popped down the road and gave him
• 18:38
  Speaker 7: the court and you guys know, well I've got medical
• 18:41
  Speaker 7: issue going on. His new partner cooks me.
• 18:43
  Speaker 4: Meals and that we go out.
• 18:45
  Speaker 7: We go out to like timebone and six of us
• 18:48
  Speaker 7: because she's got a daughter as well, have a night
• 18:50
  Speaker 7: out together or anything we need to discuss. We talk
• 18:54
  Speaker 7: to each other. And yeah, yeah, car park became a
• 18:58
  Speaker 7: bit oo. I knew she was looking for one, so
• 18:59
  Speaker 7: I told her about it and got it, secured it forwards,
• 19:02
  Speaker 7: Like why not?
• 19:02
  Speaker 2: You know, it's very mature. So often though with breakups,
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: it doesn't act. It doesn't end up that way, does it.
• 19:08
  Speaker 4: No?
• 19:08
  Speaker 3: But I love that you're doing that. Hell and see
• 19:09
  Speaker 3: that's the way we live for those life it is.
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: But you know, sometimes people aren't amicable for a number
• 19:14
  Speaker 2: of different reasons. Jason, that's right, you know, And you
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: can see where people get frustrated and then it starts
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: to get nasty.
• 19:20
  Speaker 3: Sure, that's right.
• 19:21
  Speaker 6: And even they say even the most amicable breakups can
• 19:23
  Speaker 6: turn nasty, real sudden, and I hope that hasn't hasn't ever?
• 19:26
  Speaker 2: You Marie? How things with your ex really good?
• 19:29
  Speaker 8: Yeah?
• 19:29
  Speaker 7: We're still friends.
• 19:31
  Speaker 8: We have been well ever since split up. So it's
• 19:34
  Speaker 8: just it may sound easy.
• 19:36
  Speaker 2: Yeah, have you got kids together?
• 19:38
  Speaker 4: No?
• 19:39
  Speaker 6: No?
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: So when you're so friendly, how friendly are we talking?
• 19:41
  Speaker 6: Are we?
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: Are you?
• 19:42
  Speaker 8: Kind of?
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: Would you still catch up? For a dinner a meal, well.
• 19:46
  Speaker 8: Not for dinner, no, but we've had caught up for
• 19:49
  Speaker 8: lunches every now and again. But there's mainly because like
• 19:52
  Speaker 8: I do as financials forums, so we.
• 19:54
  Speaker 5: Want to talk about that.
• 19:56
  Speaker 8: But yeah, we're still we're still friends. I don't have
• 20:00
  Speaker 8: any issues, He doesn't have any issues.
• 20:02
  Speaker 2: So what was it that broke up the relationship then?
• 20:04
  Speaker 2: If you if you can maintain such a great relationship now.
• 20:10
  Speaker 8: I think, well, we met a little together, but I
• 20:14
  Speaker 8: think were my issue. It was actually my issue. He
• 20:18
  Speaker 8: was sort of never there for me when I needed
• 20:20
  Speaker 8: him kind of thing, and I think it just got
• 20:23
  Speaker 8: to the point where I just needed to make a
• 20:25
  Speaker 8: decision for myself, and yeah, so I chose to end
• 20:30
  Speaker 8: the relationship that we needed amicably. There wasn't any huge
• 20:36
  Speaker 8: yelling and screaming or anything like that in any hatreds
• 20:39
  Speaker 8: so and I was the same with that with my
• 20:42
  Speaker 8: husband Sends. He passed away sadly, but we were still
• 20:45
  Speaker 8: friends and you know, so it's just I just kind
• 20:50
  Speaker 8: of bitterness just brings it down.
• 20:53
  Speaker 3: That amory life too short.
• 20:55
  Speaker 6: It's like having poison and hoping Jason, of course it is,
• 20:59
  Speaker 6: but it's easier to say, or I just you know,
• 21:00
  Speaker 6: don't drink from that car.
• 21:02
  Speaker 2: But sometimes it gets the better of you, you know,
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: and it's impossible not to good.
• 21:06
  Speaker 3: I an'tmory.
• 21:06
  Speaker 2: That's really it.
• 21:07
  Speaker 6: We'll take one more real quickly. Hell are you there,
• 21:09
  Speaker 6: Andrew ra Yes, Hi, Hi Andrea. So you still go
• 21:12
  Speaker 6: on good terms with your ex?
• 21:15
  Speaker 5: Yes.
• 21:15
  Speaker 9: It was my first boyfriend in high school when I
• 21:19
  Speaker 9: was sixteen. I'm sixty four this year.
• 21:23
  Speaker 2: Wow, we're still.
• 21:25
  Speaker 9: Friends, well sort of, you know. I mean he has
• 21:29
  Speaker 9: a partner that he keeps very much to himself. I
• 21:33
  Speaker 9: haven't met her, but his mother and I are best friends.
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: Okay, that's not weird. You create these wonderful relationships with people,
• 21:43
  Speaker 2: you don't have to necessarily divorce the people around them.
• 21:45
  Speaker 3: You know, that's exactly right.
• 21:46
  Speaker 6: Yeah, one last six on two sixty nine nine, my
• 21:49
  Speaker 6: son and I flattered with my ex husband.
• 21:51
  Speaker 3: Years after we divorce.
• 21:52
  Speaker 6: He again, that's the thing. So years later you get
• 21:54
  Speaker 6: back together and go fighting together, and there are some
• 21:56
  Speaker 6: great stories. But and again it's not always the case.
• 21:58
  Speaker 6: It's not always easy.
• 21:59
  Speaker 3: But th people who are doing it take my head
• 22:01
  Speaker 3: off for you, man, a very mature way to approach the.
• 22:04
  Speaker 2: World it is. I don't know if i'd be one
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: of them.
• 22:06
  Speaker 3: Jack, I'm not sorry the same.
• 22:10
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  Speaker 2: questions than answers, such as how many diddles did did
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  Speaker 11: I was in a Wow.
• 23:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah, he literally told us what was going on in
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  Speaker 2: they found a thousand bottles of baby Or at Diddy's home. Now,
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  Speaker 5: I'm not even going to ask any questions about.
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  Speaker 6: The latest out this morning, though. So Netflix is going
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  Speaker 6: to do a documentary on this whole Diddy situation. Do
• 23:27
  Speaker 6: you know who has team dealt with Netflix to make
• 23:29
  Speaker 6: it fifty cent? Who can't stand Diddy? And he is
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  Speaker 6: now the executive producer.
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  Speaker 5: Saying shes a gold digger.
• 23:39
  Speaker 3: In the club.
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: You were taking a role of looking stupid this morning.
• 23:48
  Speaker 2: Something else, providing more questions than answers. When the judge said,
• 23:52
  Speaker 2: on charge one, the charge.
• 23:53
  Speaker 8: Of murder, do you find a defendant Philip John Polkinhorn
• 23:56
  Speaker 8: guilty or not guilty?
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: Not real Yspratisurgent is said to have purchased a lot
• 24:01
  Speaker 2: of ticket and bought a white Bronco to celebrate the
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: judge's decision, allegedly before delivering these words to the press today.
• 24:07
  Speaker 2: To outcome is a huge turning point in our lives.
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: This process has taken a massive toll on so many
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: of us. Yes, it must have been really hard on you,
• 24:16
  Speaker 2: miss Spokenhorn. Moving on Wellington Mare has has all questioning
• 24:22
  Speaker 2: how much we're all spinning on bills.
• 24:24
  Speaker 12: I've just sold my car recently to help pay the bills,
• 24:27
  Speaker 12: and I walked to work again. My mortgage rates have
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  Speaker 12: doubled in the last few years, so I'm feeling the
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  Speaker 9: B s that is b s.
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  Speaker 8: Tori Farno is on one hundred and eighty nine, seven
• 24:42
  Speaker 8: hundred and ninety nine dollars a year, shouldn't have children.
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: She's got a dog.
• 24:46
  Speaker 6: Well, hold on, Heather Diplici on ZB what kind of
• 24:49
  Speaker 6: dog is it? He'll be a very expensive dogs.
• 24:51
  Speaker 4: And also Torri Fano said she she had the issue
• 24:56
  Speaker 4: and then she said no, I didn't actually sell my car.
• 24:58
  Speaker 4: And then she goes, oh, no, I did selld my
• 25:00
  Speaker 4: up like it was. There were about three versions of
• 25:02
  Speaker 4: the events.
• 25:02
  Speaker 2: One hundred and eighty nine thousand dollars hell of a salary,
• 25:05
  Speaker 2: but I guess that well into night life is very tempting.
• 25:07
  Speaker 2: David Seymour had a small questioning who was the guilty party,
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: the truant kids, their parents who now face prosecution, or
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: the teachers.
• 25:16
  Speaker 11: Seymour has also announced another rule which won't go down
• 25:20
  Speaker 11: well with schools. There will be no more teachers only
• 25:24
  Speaker 11: days during school time in the term.
• 25:27
  Speaker 2: Who would like to pick it up from here?
• 25:29
  Speaker 4: I can pick it up from here because the new
• 25:31
  Speaker 4: principle of our primary school was in the headlines last
• 25:34
  Speaker 4: night saying this is a kick in the guts. What
• 25:37
  Speaker 4: a way to say I'm the new principal, just straight
• 25:40
  Speaker 4: into the heralds.
• 25:41
  Speaker 2: That's the kicking of the guts that they can't have
• 25:42
  Speaker 2: a teacher's only day before a long weekend. Look, I
• 25:44
  Speaker 2: don't want to say too much.
• 25:48
  Speaker 4: My kids to go to school and do professional development.
• 25:50
  Speaker 4: Surely your kid's only a new one.
• 25:52
  Speaker 6: Just wait, it's pretty hard, so very much say I think.
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