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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: What Does Showing Up Really Look Like? · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, Emily, body here. You're listening to five Minute
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  Speaker 1: Friday from Hurdle, and I'm so happy you're here. That
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  Speaker 1: really is an understatement. I feel slightly disconnected from the
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  Speaker 1: hurdle community lately, which is odd because I'm at the
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  Speaker 1: forefront of it. But for me, such a large part
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  Speaker 1: of what I do is one way communication, and so
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  Speaker 1: it really helps me when I hear from all of you.
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  Speaker 1: When you're in my dms, when you're leaving reviews and
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  Speaker 1: thoughts on the review page in Apple podcasts, when you're
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  Speaker 1: commenting on the newsletter. All of this is a contributing
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  Speaker 1: factor for me to feel as though I'm doing doing
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  Speaker 1: something right. And I feel like you've been a little
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  Speaker 1: quiet lately. So do me a solid. If you're listening
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  Speaker 1: to this, tag the show on social hit up over
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  Speaker 1: at Hurdle podcast DM me, say Hi, what's up? What's happening?
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  Speaker 1: Email me? Even the email for Hurdle is hello at
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  Speaker 1: Hurdle dot us. I want to hear from you, seriously.
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  Speaker 1: It really does mean a lot to me when y'all engage.
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  Speaker 1: And I know I did just mention the reviews, but
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  Speaker 1: I am positive. There are so many people listening to
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  Speaker 1: this who have not rated this show yet, I promise
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  Speaker 1: you it takes less than one minute of your time.
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to show a demo on the Socials on
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  Speaker 1: the day. This goes up on how to rate and
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  Speaker 1: review the show and my stories. But if you ever
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  Speaker 1: want to and I are having trouble, let me know.
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  Speaker 1: I got you. I got you. That's the summary of
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  Speaker 1: what's going on, and it's also what I want to
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  Speaker 1: talk about for five minute Friday today, is that I
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  Speaker 1: got me. I was on the subway home the other
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  Speaker 1: day and had this resounding thought about the importance of
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  Speaker 1: continuing to show up and what showing up looks for
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  Speaker 1: me right now. There have been times in my life
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  Speaker 1: where showing up in the most important aspect for myself
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  Speaker 1: was simply getting out of the bed in the morning
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  Speaker 1: and moving my body. And I knew that if I
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  Speaker 1: showed up for myself in that way, I would be
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  Speaker 1: able to handle anything else that came my way throughout
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  Speaker 1: the rest of the day. That's showing up. Showing up
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  Speaker 1: for me right now is a layered version of that,
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  Speaker 1: in that I know firmly with all of the balls
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  Speaker 1: that I am juggling at this moment. Not only do
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  Speaker 1: I need to show up and move my body in
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  Speaker 1: the morning, but then that continues throughout my day in
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  Speaker 1: different phases, through different actions and choices. For me, showing
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  Speaker 1: up right now is choosing kindness when I feel as
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  Speaker 1: though I am about to boil over. Showing up right
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  Speaker 1: now means responding instead of reacting to someone that may
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  Speaker 1: not completely understand what your point of view is or
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  Speaker 1: where you're coming from. For me, showing up is choosing
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  Speaker 1: the things that help me be my best, whether it
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  Speaker 1: is through the way that I move my body or
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  Speaker 1: perhaps sometimes removing myself from a hectic situation. Showing up
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  Speaker 1: for me lately is truly pausing. It's pausing to the
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  Speaker 1: best of my ability, so that when I execute, when
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  Speaker 1: I communicate, when I do X or Y, I am
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  Speaker 1: doing so in a way that would make me feel proud,
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  Speaker 1: regardless of the situation. I don't want to just act
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  Speaker 1: okay considering what's at play. I want to act every
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  Speaker 1: day and present myself every day in a way that
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  Speaker 1: makes me proud period. I say this with compassion as well.
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  Speaker 1: I say this knowing that some days it feels a
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  Speaker 1: lot harder to show up than others. There have been
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  Speaker 1: certainly circumstances in my life where I have felt incapable
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  Speaker 1: of showing up in a way that I once was,
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  Speaker 1: and I have so much grace and compassion for that
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  Speaker 1: Emily as well. But I know this to be true,
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  Speaker 1: is that the beginning of showing up starts so small.
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  Speaker 1: It begins with what is one small thing that I
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  Speaker 1: can do in this moment that makes my current and
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  Speaker 1: future self proud? And that's it. And then each day,
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  Speaker 1: as you start to execute in that way, you'll realize
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  Speaker 1: that you're starting to drift into this place of alignment
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  Speaker 1: where your actions match up with your feelings, where you're
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  Speaker 1: acting in a way where you you can answer the
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  Speaker 1: question what's best for Emily, what's best for inserting my
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  Speaker 1: name here? Sometimes showing up for yourself means letting down
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  Speaker 1: other people, and no one wants to do that. But
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  Speaker 1: ultimately this is a little lame, But I'm going to
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  Speaker 1: say it. The ones who mind don't matter, and the
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  Speaker 1: ones that matter don't mind, and that's it. So right
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  Speaker 1: now I'm in a phase of really asking myself, how
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  Speaker 1: do I show up in a way that makes my
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  Speaker 1: current self and my future self proud? What small things
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  Speaker 1: can I do? What small pauses can I take? Trust me?
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  Speaker 1: It all adds up my prompt for you this week,
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  Speaker 1: what does it look like when you show up for
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  Speaker 1: yourself and what does that typically involve? What does it
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  Speaker 1: look like when you show up for yourself and what
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  Speaker 1: does it typically involve? And now a listener.
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  Speaker 2: Question as a future off for summer break. I'm noticing
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  Speaker 2: that I am and having a hard time slowing down
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  Speaker 2: and not feeling like I have to do things all
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  Speaker 2: the time and be productive. My question for you is,
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  Speaker 2: when things slow down, how do you embrace the calm
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  Speaker 2: and allow for that space before things ramp back up again.
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  Speaker 1: This is a good question and candidly something that has
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  Speaker 1: been an exercise for me, and that how does a
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  Speaker 1: muscle strengthen you give it something to push up against.
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  Speaker 1: How does your will strengthen you also give it something
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  Speaker 1: to push up against. For me, this being okay with stillness,
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  Speaker 1: being okay with the slowdown has truly been an exercise
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  Speaker 1: that has required strengthening. And what I will say is
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  Speaker 1: that when you get to a point where you can
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  Speaker 1: appreciate the ebb and flow, then you can get a
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  Speaker 1: little bit more comfortable with that stillness. Just because you
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  Speaker 1: are in a slow period right now doesn't mean you
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  Speaker 1: won't get back to that pace that makes you feel
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  Speaker 1: a little bit more alive at times. And something I
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  Speaker 1: do to really embrace these slower periods is I have
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  Speaker 1: a list of things that I wish I had the
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  Speaker 1: time to do. So there's books on there I want
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  Speaker 1: to read. There are candidly things that I want to
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  Speaker 1: write about, whether that is a prompt or reflect on
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  Speaker 1: a certain memory. There are places that I want to go,
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  Speaker 1: some of them that are absolutely free in New York,
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  Speaker 1: and I've just never made the time, and so candidly
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  Speaker 1: having this list makes me feel like I have options.
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  Speaker 1: And it also circling back brings me back into this
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  Speaker 1: deep gratitude for the opportunity to slow down, to find
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  Speaker 1: the time. That reframe is really important when we think
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  Speaker 1: about slowing it down instead of thinking this, this is
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  Speaker 1: a time where I feel a little bit blah, a
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  Speaker 1: little bit like what's going on? I'm lacking structure. What
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  Speaker 1: if you looked at it as Wow, what an opportunity
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  Speaker 1: to do the thing that I've been wanting to do.
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  Speaker 1: What an opportunity to rest, What an opportunity to fill
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  Speaker 1: my cup up and do the inquiry as to what
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  Speaker 1: it would take for you to fill your cup up.
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  Speaker 1: Embrace the rest. It's not easy. I get it. I'm
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  Speaker 1: a little bit anxious with it too, but that list
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  Speaker 1: has been a really helpful tool for me and also
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  Speaker 1: that powerful, powerful reframe what an opportunity it is to
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  Speaker 1: have this slower time. That's it for this week, Another
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  Speaker 1: hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.
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  Speaker 2: He