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Grievorcée: A New Word for Grieving Someone Who Is Still Alive
I am not a widow. My wasband is still alive yet, I feel the version of him I once loved is not.
He breathes. His heart still beats. And yet I grieve him in a similar way that I’ve grieved the dead, in the good outfit, eating shiva loaf, being still, in the dark, in the small hours when the house is quiet, and my thoughts are loud.
A stroke took him. Not all of him. Just the part I married.
So if I am not a widow, what am I? I went looking for the word and found a hole where it should have been. So I poured something new into the shape of that absence and let it set. The word is grievorcée…
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