Latest / I Am All In with Scott Patterson / I have no one to blame but myself PART 1 (S6 E17 “I’m OK, You’re OK”)
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- 0:00Speaker 1: I am all in, I am all in with Scott
- 0:18Speaker 1: Patterson and I heart Radio podcast.
- 0:20Speaker 2: Everybody Scott Patterson, I am all in podcast one of
- 0:23Speaker 2: them productions. iHeart radio, I heart podcasts, I heart Media
- 0:28Speaker 2: by my Intrepid Crew and better than Ever Susan French
- 0:34Speaker 2: tire suit. Amy Sugarman has donuts.
- 0:37Speaker 3: She's done handicads.
- 0:41Speaker 2: I heart donuts, Blomars. Who got who got to take
- 0:49Speaker 2: home the most stuff after the live event?
- 0:53Speaker 3: Well?
- 0:53Speaker 2: Who took it all home?
- 0:55Speaker 3: The good stuff for the bad stuff? Because I have to.
- 0:57Speaker 3: I'm like a storage un so I have to take
- 1:00Speaker 3: home the bookshelve, the rug, like the wall art. You
- 1:07Speaker 3: know what we don't know where it is is somebody
- 1:09Speaker 3: has it. I think we have to deal with it.
- 1:11Speaker 3: Danielle the giant yellow mug that said.
- 1:16Speaker 4: I wanted that to go to Scott's house because we
- 1:18Speaker 4: don't want I would get it there, like save it.
- 1:21Speaker 2: But honestly, I don't want it. What am I going
- 1:24Speaker 2: to do with it? It's so big.
- 1:25Speaker 4: It would be the coolest background to just have a
- 1:28Speaker 4: giant yellow coffee cup behind you.
- 1:37Speaker 3: Oh that's hilarious. Oh my god, it could be the
- 1:41Speaker 3: garage door. So yeah, I have my house has like
- 1:44Speaker 3: the neon signs, like all this crap. I finally had
- 1:48Speaker 3: to get a storage thing for the garage. Here's the rug.
- 1:52Speaker 3: The yellow rug is TBD where it's going. It's a
- 1:57Speaker 3: fight right now because I don't want to get rid
- 1:59Speaker 3: of it.
- 2:00Speaker 4: Do you want a yellow road for any takers? Any
- 2:05Speaker 4: takers about?
- 2:06Speaker 2: How about putting it in your foyer?
- 2:08Speaker 3: Seriously, we don't live in mansions like you do. Apparently,
- 2:18Speaker 3: put it.
- 2:18Speaker 2: At the top of your spiral staircase.
- 2:21Speaker 4: I don't have one of those rich what.
- 2:27Speaker 2: Trying to help out?
- 2:28Speaker 3: I'll put it in my pool house. Oh wait, I
- 2:30Speaker 3: don't have a pool house.
- 2:32Speaker 2: Do you have a pool? You have a pool?
- 2:34Speaker 3: I don't know. I have a pool down the store.
- 2:36Speaker 3: I have a community pool.
- 2:37Speaker 2: But I don't have to have a pool for you.
- 2:40Speaker 3: I might get a hot tub if, if, if people
- 2:42Speaker 3: keep listening to this podcast, I might be able to
- 2:44Speaker 3: afford a hot tub.
- 2:49Speaker 2: Oh I have a nice well, I'm not gonna rub
- 2:52Speaker 2: it in.
- 2:52Speaker 3: It's all right. You're Luke, So we understand that you
- 2:57Speaker 3: might have a hot tub and maybe a couple other
- 3:01Speaker 3: things we don't have. It's okay, you're you're Luke. For
- 3:05Speaker 3: seven seasons and four movies. Starts all right.
- 3:10Speaker 2: I really enjoyed watching the live stream.
- 3:16Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, isn't it great?
- 3:18Speaker 2: It looks like a like a HBO special.
- 3:25Speaker 3: Really Well, so for anyone that still wants to watch,
- 3:29Speaker 3: you can because it's going to be available for a
- 3:31Speaker 3: little longer. And it's not like you're watching like crap.
- 3:34Speaker 3: We shot on iPhones like it's it's professionally.
- 3:38Speaker 2: It's like real professional, expensive TV. It's not zoom video no, no, no.
- 3:47Speaker 4: Weeps dot com.
- 3:48Speaker 3: Yeah, anybody wants to buy a.
- 3:51Speaker 2: Ticket, go to veeps peeps dot com. I got a
- 3:53Speaker 2: ticket anyway. Uh, we're gonna get into a little bit
- 3:59Speaker 2: of I'm okay, You're okay? Was that seventeen, season six,
- 4:03Speaker 2: episode seventeen? Yep?
- 4:05Speaker 3: What's your initial thought on I'm okay, You're okay?
- 4:10Speaker 2: I'm all over the place?
- 4:12Speaker 3: Really, I actually loved it.
- 4:14Speaker 2: Thought I thought it was unfocused.
- 4:17Speaker 3: It is a little a little there's a lot happening,
- 4:20Speaker 3: but I was giggling the whole time.
- 4:23Speaker 4: MM, lots of bones to pick.
- 4:25Speaker 2: And right, I have a boney I'm right there in
- 4:29Speaker 2: the boneyard with you, Danielle. There's something and maybe that's
- 4:33Speaker 2: my favorite line has to do with bones as well.
- 4:37Speaker 2: Who is doing the synopsisizations.
- 4:40Speaker 5: Danielle or Susanne Wait is gonna say we can let
- 4:43Speaker 5: Danielle have her job back.
- 4:44Speaker 4: I'm oh my god, I heard he did such a
- 4:47Speaker 4: good job. So I'm okay you keeping it? Why don't
- 4:50Speaker 4: you go for it?
- 4:50Speaker 3: All right?
- 4:51Speaker 5: Okay, we can alternate.
- 4:52Speaker 3: Yeah, that's good idea. I like that. Yeah, okay.
- 4:54Speaker 5: So this is season six, episode seventeen, I'm okay, You're okay.
- 4:58Speaker 5: It originally aired on April fourth, two thousand and six.
- 5:03Speaker 5: Things are not okay with Lugan, Larelei, and Rory and Logan.
- 5:07Speaker 5: Rory decides to forgive Logan a little quicker than we thought. Meanwhile,
- 5:11Speaker 5: Luke is accepting gifts from someone other than larele I,
- 5:14Speaker 5: plus Emily and Richard maybe moving to Stars Hollow, and
- 5:18Speaker 5: Zach finally gets approval from missus Kim to Mary Lane.
- 5:23Speaker 3: So, right off the bat, what stood out to me
- 5:26Speaker 3: is it's the very same moment as we left off
- 5:29Speaker 3: in the episode before no time has passed. It is
- 5:32Speaker 3: literally maybe five minutes later because Rory and Paris are
- 5:37Speaker 3: eating the Chinese food. Now, so I thought oh, okay, cool.
- 5:42Speaker 3: I like that. I liked that scene.
- 5:44Speaker 5: It was nice to see Paris and Rory having a
- 5:47Speaker 5: friendship moment and not yet arguing about something mm hmm.
- 5:53Speaker 6: And they kind of just cleared up the air between
- 5:55Speaker 6: like they're even between the paper and kicking around. They're like,
- 6:00Speaker 6: all right, I think we're good.
- 6:02Speaker 4: And they're both like, screw these guys, Like we got us,
- 6:05Speaker 4: you know, we got.
- 6:05Speaker 3: Our our friends with a sweet scene. And I was
- 6:08Speaker 3: glad we didn't labor sort of like drama between them.
- 6:12Speaker 3: It was just like, boom, we're good, we're good. Knock knock,
- 6:15Speaker 3: knock ye on the door.
- 6:19Speaker 2: They just blew past Paris, didn't he.
- 6:22Speaker 3: That was a funny scene for me. Logan and Paris.
- 6:26Speaker 3: I was like, this is actually cracking me up. And
- 6:30Speaker 3: I don't want to rot it, but my best line
- 6:32Speaker 3: is when he says I don't want you back. I
- 6:39Speaker 3: thought that they were great together. We don't get to
- 6:42Speaker 3: see them quite enough. I mean a few times, but
- 6:45Speaker 3: like they had a funny ping pong and she was
- 6:48Speaker 3: keeping up and so was he. It was like level up,
- 6:51Speaker 3: level up. I I really enjoyed the whole open of
- 6:54Speaker 3: this whole thing. Yeah, me, too.
- 6:57Speaker 2: That's good.
- 6:59Speaker 3: And then Doyle shows up with.
- 7:01Speaker 4: The jacket and the jacket and the rhyanstone jacket.
- 7:05Speaker 3: Oh my god. Yeah, like that, the whole thing was great.
- 7:11Speaker 6: That was funny, the part where he was like, oh,
- 7:13Speaker 6: I almost I don't remember the exact line, but like
- 7:16Speaker 6: I almost like like met.
- 7:18Speaker 3: Another girl tonight.
- 7:19Speaker 6: Laura and Rory quickly just like Chosai like, oh, it's.
- 7:25Speaker 4: Not gonna help your case, Doyle, shut up.
- 7:28Speaker 3: Funny lines. And then then the part that I sort
- 7:31Speaker 3: of wanted to dig into is like we go into
- 7:33Speaker 3: the you know, hallway of the apartment building where Logan
- 7:36Speaker 3: and Rory are really talking, and he's like, I love you,
- 7:40Speaker 3: I wanted to. I chose to be your boyfriend. I'm
- 7:42Speaker 3: faithful and it wasn't hard, but we were broken up.
- 7:45Speaker 3: And then they kind of have this conversation about it
- 7:48Speaker 3: and she's sort of like, I guess, I guess. And
- 7:52Speaker 3: then it was like, Okay, she's not she's.
- 7:57Speaker 2: Not convinced, but now she's not. She's going along with it,
- 8:00Speaker 2: but she's not convinced yet.
- 8:02Speaker 3: Which we yeah, at the end we realized that, So
- 8:04Speaker 3: what did you guys think of that? She kind of
- 8:07Speaker 3: took him back so fast. I mean, I don't know,
- 8:11Speaker 3: I like.
- 8:11Speaker 4: How to rewind the scene because I was like, did
- 8:13Speaker 4: I did I miss something? Like what like she she took.
- 8:18Speaker 3: Him back so fast the same day as the wedding, Yeah,
- 8:21Speaker 3: hours later.
- 8:22Speaker 2: Yeah, I just I just think she's worn down by
- 8:25Speaker 2: his persistence.
- 8:27Speaker 3: Yeah.
- 8:27Speaker 2: I mean, he's just at her so much and for
- 8:31Speaker 2: so long, and I think she just got worn down,
- 8:34Speaker 2: and like, oh god.
- 8:35Speaker 3: It is impossible that she likes him so much. She's
- 8:39Speaker 3: losing herself a little bit, Like she likes him so
- 8:43Speaker 3: much that she's sort of caving because I still agree
- 8:49Speaker 3: with him, right, So my opinion is he is right,
- 8:52Speaker 3: he didn't cheat on her. But pretend I'm on team
- 8:55Speaker 3: Rory on this. She likes him so much that she's
- 8:58Speaker 3: sort of like she's not willing to lose him. She
- 9:04Speaker 3: doesn't want to risk it.
- 9:05Speaker 6: I totally see that. But I also thought, like she
- 9:08Speaker 6: just doesn't have a backbone. She's kind of just like
- 9:11Speaker 6: doing whatever, Like she's like, all right, well, I mean
- 9:14Speaker 6: I need a place to live, so I guess I'll
- 9:15Speaker 6: just go back to your place instead of staying with pair.
- 9:18Speaker 6: Like it just she doesn't really stand up for herself.
- 9:21Speaker 6: But I also kind of agree with what you say, Amy,
- 9:24Speaker 6: like maybe she really loves him, or maybe she doesn't
- 9:26Speaker 6: know how she doesn't know how much she loves him,
- 9:29Speaker 6: like she's trying to figure it out.
- 9:31Speaker 4: I also think Rory and Lorlai share this in common,
- 9:35Speaker 4: especially in this episode. The two of them don't go
- 9:39Speaker 4: towards conflict, like they try really hard avoiding it. Yeah,
- 9:43Speaker 4: and so I think this was Rory's way of being like.
- 9:45Speaker 3: Okay, let's just get back together.
- 9:46Speaker 4: It's not worth like the argument and keeping this going,
- 9:50Speaker 4: you know, Like I don't know, that's that's how I
- 9:53Speaker 4: took it.
- 9:53Speaker 5: It was definitely a theme throughout the whole episode was
- 9:56Speaker 5: each of them in parallel trying to keep the peace
- 10:00Speaker 5: in their own relationships and is wrong, everything's fine, you know,
- 10:05Speaker 5: like the title of the episode, I'm okay, You're okay.
- 10:07Speaker 5: It's like, you know, let's just gloss over any issues
- 10:10Speaker 5: because we don't want to have a big fight about it.
- 10:12Speaker 7: And Logan has maybe oh sorry, go Scott, maybe sorry,
- 10:17Speaker 7: But maybe she's just giving him the benefit of the doubt,
- 10:20Speaker 7: right maybe right, like she has she doesn't come one
- 10:24Speaker 7: hundred percent back. It's just like okay, I'm about fifty
- 10:26Speaker 7: percent back, sixty percent back.
- 10:28Speaker 2: I'll give the benefit of the doubt. If he screws
- 10:29Speaker 2: up again, I'm out of here forever.
- 10:31Speaker 3: Yeah, I kind of I sort of agree with you.
- 10:35Speaker 3: My other sort of just thought is of all the boyfriends,
- 10:39Speaker 3: Logan is the one that sort of has what's the word,
- 10:45Speaker 3: a little bit of I don't want to say power,
- 10:49Speaker 3: it's not the right word. A little bit of something
- 10:51Speaker 3: over her whole leverage, you know how like in a relationship, right,
- 10:57Speaker 3: Like Jess and Rory were very easy. Rory had this
- 11:02Speaker 3: over Dean. Logan now has it over her just a
- 11:09Speaker 3: little bit, like just a tad. She's still like obviously
- 11:12Speaker 3: she wasn't gonna date him when he was dating one
- 11:14Speaker 3: hundred people, so she has like she's still Rory in it,
- 11:17Speaker 3: but there's.
- 11:18Speaker 4: Is like wearing the pants in the relationship kind of
- 11:21Speaker 4: but you're.
- 11:21Speaker 3: Something like that, right, It's like he sort of has
- 11:25Speaker 3: convinced her now of this, and she's like, Okay, let's
- 11:30Speaker 3: go home. You know, I don't know what I would
- 11:33Speaker 3: have done in her shoes. What I think I would
- 11:35Speaker 3: have done maybe is say, look, I hear you, I'm
- 11:38Speaker 3: not moving back in with you. I'm gonna stay here
- 11:40Speaker 3: with Paris. We're gonna talk again tomorrow. Let's let's have dinner.
- 11:45Speaker 3: You know, like she sort of just became too.
- 11:49Speaker 2: Well, maybe it's maybe, maybe it's the opposite. Maybe she
- 11:53Speaker 2: feels a little bit empowered now because she sees how
- 11:56Speaker 2: much he needs and how lost he is with her
- 12:00Speaker 2: because his desperation is real.
- 12:03Speaker 3: Wow, that's a great perspective and tracks with the end
- 12:07Speaker 3: of the episode.
- 12:08Speaker 2: So it's like she probably takes like, Okay, guys are weak.
- 12:13Speaker 2: My mom told me guys are like this. He's weak
- 12:16Speaker 2: two and he needs me. And now this feels like
- 12:21Speaker 2: a little bit more familiar territory to me because I've
- 12:24Speaker 2: experienced sort of mothering Jess and mothering Deans.
- 12:27Speaker 3: So I had not even considered that until you're saying that.
- 12:32Speaker 3: And what's interesting is it is how the episode tracks right,
- 12:35Speaker 3: because she just bails him. She goes to stars Hollow,
- 12:38Speaker 3: does not tell him, doesn't answer her phone as it's
- 12:42Speaker 3: ringing and ringing and ringing, right, and at the end
- 12:45Speaker 3: is sort of like, no, we're fine. But it's like, well, Scott,
- 12:48Speaker 3: you might be right.
- 12:49Speaker 2: She now has psychological advantage in you. Right, It's a
- 12:55Speaker 2: power shift.
- 12:56Speaker 3: Mm hm oh, I did not even someone think of that.
- 12:59Speaker 3: I sort of he had it, But you're.
- 13:02Speaker 2: Right, amore, doesn't whoa?
- 13:06Speaker 3: What does everybody else think of that? I'm sort of
- 13:08Speaker 3: thinking I might be changing my mind.
- 13:12Speaker 5: Shoot, I mean it does, Yeah, because the rest of
- 13:18Speaker 5: the episode supports Scott's theory more than mine.
- 13:21Speaker 3: Although I was certain I was right that she's more
- 13:24Speaker 3: passive to him the rest of the episode, because if
- 13:27Speaker 3: you're passive, puppy dog, she's not gonna leave him for
- 13:30Speaker 3: the weekend.
- 13:30Speaker 4: Yeah, I guess. And she's not answering the calls or
- 13:34Speaker 4: him or doing any of that kind of stuff.
- 13:36Speaker 3: And telling him the phone die, the phone didn't die.
- 13:38Speaker 3: We heard it ring ring ring ring ring. N Oh,
- 13:41Speaker 3: that's true.
- 13:42Speaker 8: God, whoa with the theory that Usually we're just humbling
- 13:49Speaker 8: him on how wrong he is, and in this case, Rappola.
- 13:54Speaker 2: It's like, you know, vulnerability is one thing, truth is
- 13:58Speaker 2: one thing, but he's really just, you know, he's just
- 14:04Speaker 2: I didn't even write for a takeover, and I don't
- 14:07Speaker 2: think she's going to take full advantage of it. I
- 14:09Speaker 2: just think she's going to have fun with it for
- 14:10Speaker 2: a while to see if he you know, she's he's
- 14:14Speaker 2: the one that's got to get the he's the one
- 14:15Speaker 2: that's got to get the backbone.
- 14:17Speaker 3: Or even subconsciously she sort of has realized now, right, oh, whoa,
- 14:23Speaker 3: this will be interesting.
- 14:24Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean there there is still that element of
- 14:27Speaker 5: passive aggressiveness in there on Rory's part.
- 14:31Speaker 3: So it's very much I think it's out. It's not
- 14:36Speaker 3: nice if your boyfriend's calling in, calling in and calling
- 14:38Speaker 3: you and you don't answer, that's intentionally making that person suffer.
- 14:42Speaker 3: And I'm not really a fan of that. And but
- 14:44Speaker 3: it is kind of a little maniacal. Yeah.
- 14:46Speaker 5: And but then when he's like when he's talking to her,
- 14:48Speaker 5: she's like, oh no, nothing's wrong, Like she's making up
- 14:50Speaker 5: excuses like oh, like we said, avoiding the conflict.
- 14:52Speaker 3: So it's like she's both.
- 14:55Speaker 2: Yeah, she is both, well she kind of she does
- 14:59Speaker 2: kind of have the moral high ground here somewhat correct.
- 15:03Speaker 3: You're right, she did not.
- 15:05Speaker 2: Go off and she wasn't with other guys, she wasn't
- 15:08Speaker 2: dating and it was she dating anybody? No, gosh, no,
- 15:12Speaker 2: I mean can you imagine that? I mean, what if
- 15:14Speaker 2: she turned around and act the same way he did?
- 15:17Speaker 2: And right, no, yeah, it's like it's it's it's it's
- 15:21Speaker 2: an odd double standard that actually you know, isn't it
- 15:26Speaker 2: play here? But it's like, just put the shoe on
- 15:28Speaker 2: the other foot, horrified would he be? How turned could
- 15:32Speaker 2: he be turned off? Would he just be like I'm out?
- 15:35Speaker 2: I mean, geez, right, I know, it's really interesting up Logan,
- 15:40Speaker 2: you know. And yeah, and then Jess came back and
- 15:43Speaker 2: we had a hooton Nanny, and then Dean came back.
- 15:45Speaker 2: He's single, We had a hoot Nanny and right broken
- 15:48Speaker 2: up and then all of Dean's friends too, because you
- 15:51Speaker 2: know they were cute, just like you did right with
- 15:54Speaker 2: all the bridesmaids, right.
- 15:56Speaker 3: I mean right, So do you think if she may
- 16:00Speaker 3: a pro con pro list pro con list, sorry, pro
- 16:03Speaker 3: con pro that's a sorory thing.
- 16:06Speaker 4: Anyway, I think it would be in Logan's favor.
- 16:10Speaker 3: I did too. Actually, he was right about that.
- 16:13Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean he did present a logical argument. You know,
- 16:19Speaker 5: he was like, in his mind they were broken up,
- 16:22Speaker 5: so in his mind, there was no reason for him
- 16:24Speaker 5: to not date other people. Yeah, it wasn't cheating, right, Yeah,
- 16:28Speaker 5: he didn't.
- 16:29Speaker 6: He didn't go out of his way to do it,
- 16:31Speaker 6: like maliciously, right, exactly, very I just think.
- 16:37Speaker 2: The fact that he turned into like he used a
- 16:39Speaker 2: car salesman and had to sell it, Yeah he did.
- 16:44Speaker 2: He did instead of weight you know, for a natural
- 16:51Speaker 2: migration back to the center here.
- 16:54Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, it didn't know what I mean, Yeah, yeah,
- 16:57Speaker 3: I totally know what you mean. Like it wasn't sort
- 16:59Speaker 3: of an emotional connection. It was like how you would
- 17:03Speaker 3: think Mitcham would handle it.
- 17:05Speaker 5: Like right, right, it's still that same night, Like it's
- 17:09Speaker 5: that same night and he's chasing her down trying to
- 17:14Speaker 5: get her to listen to him.
- 17:15Speaker 3: It's like, just you know, at least.
- 17:17Speaker 5: Let it sit overnight and let her just you know,
- 17:20Speaker 5: calm down a little bit and then maybe be you know,
- 17:23Speaker 5: more rational.
- 17:24Speaker 2: But yeah, he's lost all his cool.
- 17:28Speaker 5: I think he was panicking.
- 17:31Speaker 2: He's not even Absolutely, he's in a state of panic. Absolutely.
- 17:44Speaker 3: I sort of was kind of happy that I didn't
- 17:47Speaker 3: have to watch nine episodes before they got back together.
- 17:50Speaker 3: I sort of was like, I'm sort of blad that
- 17:53Speaker 3: was fast and I didn't have I don't know, Yeah,
- 17:57Speaker 3: I wasn't into like the whole because it's almost like
- 18:00Speaker 3: we've done that already.
- 18:02Speaker 4: We did do it.
- 18:04Speaker 3: Yeah know what's ahead.
- 18:07Speaker 2: To plus the episode Lust. The episode didn't have the
- 18:10Speaker 2: time to do it because we had to they had
- 18:13Speaker 2: to reserve space for that glorious Zach and Missus Kims,
- 18:18Speaker 2: which was so good, so good.
- 18:21Speaker 3: All right, So before we get to that, now, we're
- 18:22Speaker 3: going to talk a little about Luke and Lorelai, who
- 18:25Speaker 3: are at the apartment above the diner, because yeah, that's
- 18:32Speaker 3: where the spider is, so they're staying there, interestingly, and
- 18:36Speaker 3: there's the spider apparently a lot of spiders, and she's
- 18:41Speaker 3: doing her lotion, which we have analyzed before with the lotion.
- 18:45Speaker 3: Lots of actors like to put on that lotion so
- 18:49Speaker 3: they have something to do while they're talking. And then
- 18:54Speaker 3: we we sort of the the meat of it is
- 18:58Speaker 3: April's on the phone. He's going to chaperone the trip
- 19:03Speaker 3: to wherever it is for the Math team or whatever, Philadelphia, Yeah,
- 19:09Speaker 3: and she says you should go. And there's sort of
- 19:11Speaker 3: that same like she's saying one thing but feeling many things.
- 19:18Speaker 3: I think she genuinely is not lying. She wants him
- 19:20Speaker 3: to go, he should go, but it's sort of she's
- 19:23Speaker 3: not saying that, You're kind of like.
- 19:24Speaker 2: Right, Yeah, She's always testing him to see how he feels. Yeah,
- 19:30Speaker 2: if he's sensitive to how she feels. It's always like
- 19:32Speaker 2: this sort of she sends out probes, yes, yes, yes,
- 19:37Speaker 2: suggestive questions and permissions and yeah, it's just how Yeah.
- 19:43Speaker 3: And I can't wait to talk about the scene where
- 19:45Speaker 3: he gets the bag, but we'll talk about that, go ahead, Daniel.
- 19:49Speaker 4: I think she wants it to be his idea and
- 19:52Speaker 4: not her idea, so, you know, like you never want
- 19:55Speaker 4: to be on that side of things being like, well,
- 19:58Speaker 4: I need to meet your daughter, I need to do this,
- 20:00Speaker 4: like he she really wants him to come to the
- 20:03Speaker 4: table with it. Yeah, And I think that's why she's
- 20:05Speaker 4: sending out those you know, those little feelers.
- 20:09Speaker 5: Yeah, she wants him to realize what he's doing without
- 20:14Speaker 5: her having to tell him what he's doing.
- 20:17Speaker 4: Yeah.
- 20:18Speaker 6: I also never thought about this until watching back last night.
- 20:23Speaker 3: April's a lot like Rory.
- 20:26Speaker 6: Like it just made me think that, like April is
- 20:29Speaker 6: Luke's Rory because she's so smart and like she didn't
- 20:34Speaker 6: grow up with her dad and now her dad is
- 20:37Speaker 6: like reaching out again. It like was this parallel that
- 20:40Speaker 6: I noticed that I haven't noticed before.
- 20:42Speaker 3: That's good, Yeah, and she's so well behaved, and she's
- 20:45Speaker 3: so well behaved open to this relationship. She's not like
- 20:50Speaker 3: filled with teenage anks. She's very like smart girl, can't
- 20:54Speaker 3: you come? You know whatever you want to come?
- 20:56Speaker 4: Like she does a cool mom too, like yeah, Anna's cool, Yeah, yeah, yeah.
- 21:04Speaker 2: I kind of see April ahead of Rory at that age. Anyway.
- 21:07Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I see April going into you know, Yale
- 21:11Speaker 2: at next year at thirteen.
- 21:14Speaker 6: She's like yeah once at the head of Rory, like
- 21:16Speaker 6: no problem.
- 21:17Speaker 3: I think the thing too, I like about the scene
- 21:19Speaker 3: is there's sort of this heavy meat, but then we're
- 21:22Speaker 3: still getting these funny lines, like when I think you
- 21:25Speaker 3: must say something like what do you want to do
- 21:27Speaker 3: through spiders, We'll take them outside and try and put
- 21:29Speaker 3: them near a talking pig.
- 21:31Speaker 2: That's that's that's Amy and Dan's homage, or they didn't
- 21:35Speaker 2: write this episode, but the writer's homage to the Woody
- 21:39Speaker 2: Allen film. I think it's Annie Hall.
- 21:43Speaker 3: Oh was it kind of like that? I've never said Cornering.
- 21:45Speaker 2: The Lobster and at the Beach? Oh, no way, do
- 21:50Speaker 2: you remember that film?
- 21:50Speaker 3: And I never saw it. I know the film Yankee he.
- 21:53Speaker 2: Tried to date somebody other than Anny Hall and Annie
- 21:57Speaker 2: Hall I forget. It doesn't matter anyway.
- 22:01Speaker 3: So then we go to the apartment and they're sort
- 22:04Speaker 3: of jiggering around with the apartment. They're all kind of
- 22:06Speaker 3: moved back in, and the TV's facing the direction one direction.
- 22:09Speaker 3: Not where are they going to sleep? Are they going
- 22:11Speaker 3: to get their own place when they're married? Kiss? Kiss?
- 22:14Speaker 3: Sort of? You know you haven't told missus Kim. We
- 22:18Speaker 3: kind of get the setup for that, did anybody, Like
- 22:24Speaker 3: let's say it?
- 22:24Speaker 4: Oh god, Avidy catch Zach me and like we can
- 22:27Speaker 4: finally have sex.
- 22:31Speaker 3: We all heard it.
- 22:32Speaker 6: Plane's like, excuse me, Yeah, what a dude.
- 22:39Speaker 3: I know, He's like, what exactly. I just love that
- 22:44Speaker 3: they have those bunk beds in the living room. It's
- 22:48Speaker 3: just like that apartment is so like classic but it's cute.
- 22:54Speaker 3: It's just a nothing burger, but it's like a setup.
- 22:57Speaker 5: Yeah, And then they said about after Lane walks out,
- 23:03Speaker 5: and Zack and Bryant said, wait, wasn't the TV facing
- 23:06Speaker 5: the other direction? And they're like, oh, yeah, you're right,
- 23:08Speaker 5: and they go and they move it like two inches.
- 23:10Speaker 3: I know, I know, I know. That was so good
- 23:14Speaker 3: and that old TV that's so old mouth like, oh yeah,
- 23:19Speaker 3: nineteen seventy four, it's so good. Okay, So then we
- 23:24Speaker 3: go to the diner and Lore lies there and I
- 23:26Speaker 3: think in a blue coat, and Luke is sewing the
- 23:30Speaker 3: dethel bag. So we start to have this sort of
- 23:34Speaker 3: again a very nothing but it has a lot to it.
- 23:38Speaker 5: Can we go back to the blue coat for a minute,
- 23:40Speaker 5: because I loved about blue coat. It was like a blue,
- 23:43Speaker 5: kind of velvety, like a peacock blue. I thought it
- 23:47Speaker 5: was really pretty.
- 23:47Speaker 3: And then in the.
- 23:48Speaker 5: Same scene, Rory comes in and she had the cutest cardigan,
- 23:51Speaker 5: like it was like a button up cardigan with a hood,
- 23:54Speaker 5: and then had little palm palms hanging.
- 23:55Speaker 3: Off the hood.
- 23:56Speaker 5: I just thought both of those things were adorable.
- 23:58Speaker 3: That's why I agree. I I think the fashion is
- 24:01Speaker 3: always amazing and you really notice certain things. So I
- 24:04Speaker 3: agree with you that fully. Yeah. So she wants to
- 24:09Speaker 3: buy the luggage. She doesn't want the luggage, and there's
- 24:11Speaker 3: sort of the moment with Rory and the ring the
- 24:17Speaker 3: ring at the time, and uh, Luke had forgotten to
- 24:21Speaker 3: tell Laura LII about the ring. There's a funny line
- 24:23Speaker 3: about a Toomey store. It's all very funny and sort
- 24:26Speaker 3: of multiple things are happening, but obviously the importance of
- 24:30Speaker 3: sort of she wants to buy him this luggage and
- 24:33Speaker 3: he's sort of like, I don't need it, and I
- 24:35Speaker 3: don't think he's being a jerk about it. He's sort
- 24:36Speaker 3: of like, I don't need it. But there's such an
- 24:39Speaker 3: important moment later.
- 24:41Speaker 2: Yeah.
- 24:44Speaker 4: Yeah, And also in this scene, Rory just very like
- 24:50Speaker 4: nonchant chalantly tells Laura lie, oh, I'm back with Logan
- 24:54Speaker 4: by the way.
- 24:55Speaker 3: Yeah, and we're kind of like, what are you doing there?
- 24:57Speaker 3: What is she doing in star sool? We don't really know,
- 25:01Speaker 3: but it's like a little suspect but okay, And obviously
- 25:05Speaker 3: Laurela is not fine with it that there's I.
- 25:10Speaker 6: Feel like she just can't say anything because, like, you know,
- 25:13Speaker 6: twelve hours ago they were broken up and now they're fine,
- 25:17Speaker 6: Like and I think it's at that point Laurel lies
- 25:19Speaker 6: like she's an adult, she just has to deal with
- 25:22Speaker 6: her own relationships.
- 25:24Speaker 4: Yeah.
- 25:25Speaker 5: And last time, the last time Laurela I gave a
- 25:29Speaker 5: negative opinion, Rory like took off exactly out at her grandparents' house.
- 25:32Speaker 5: So yeah, I'm afraid, like I don't want to argue
- 25:36Speaker 5: with her about this because she'll just disappear again.
- 25:39Speaker 3: And Scott, what's your take on the Duffel bag and
- 25:42Speaker 3: the wanting not the luggage. It's hard to analyze fully
- 25:46Speaker 3: because we need to address the end.
- 25:48Speaker 2: But like, well, he doesn't want to spend money frivolously
- 25:54Speaker 2: when he doesn't need it. He's not a big traveler.
- 25:57Speaker 2: He is, always has been, always will be. He doesn't
- 26:02Speaker 2: want her spending money frivolously on him. It's nothing personal.
- 26:07Speaker 2: I know he understands it would make her feel good.
- 26:10Speaker 2: He understands what she's getting at, you know. I know
- 26:13Speaker 2: you want to be me to need you more. And
- 26:17Speaker 2: it would be nice to win the competition of who's
- 26:20Speaker 2: going to get me the new bag, But nobody's getting
- 26:23Speaker 2: me a new bag. I'm just going to sew it up.
- 26:24Speaker 2: And that's just his jam, you know.
- 26:27Speaker 3: And then yeah, and I just want to say this
- 26:30Speaker 3: now because I can't hold it back. And we'll talk
- 26:32Speaker 3: about it more when we get there. He handles the
- 26:35Speaker 3: devil Bag from Anna perfectly in my opinion, but we'll
- 26:39Speaker 3: we'll get there. So before that, I also there's a
- 26:42Speaker 3: big reference to s'mores. He's going to make Rory smores,
- 26:45Speaker 3: which is kind of random.
- 26:46Speaker 2: But I think I think the question is do you
- 26:52Speaker 2: think I think Here's what I think. I think Luke
- 26:55Speaker 2: is aware what she's doing. He just doesn't want to
- 26:58Speaker 2: get involved in it. He doesn't want to give it
- 27:01Speaker 2: any energy. You know, he doesn't I.
- 27:04Speaker 3: Mean later or now at this point.
- 27:07Speaker 2: He knows what she's angling at and he understands the stakes.
- 27:12Speaker 2: He just doesn't want to give it any credence or energy,
- 27:15Speaker 2: you know, because because because he knows that she's a
- 27:20Speaker 2: little wound up about this, and he's doing I think
- 27:25Speaker 2: everything he can just to call him, you know, to
- 27:27Speaker 2: put I get.
- 27:28Speaker 3: I think you're right.
- 27:29Speaker 2: I guess on the fire, It's like.
- 27:31Speaker 3: I think that's clear at the end to Suzanne. I
- 27:33Speaker 3: think he really told the truth about the bag without
- 27:38Speaker 3: he volunteers the information. Oh Anna brought it by. He is.
- 27:44Speaker 2: She He knows that that Laurel is a little worked
- 27:48Speaker 2: up about this, and you know, and I don't know.
- 27:52Speaker 3: I don't know. I don't think.
- 27:54Speaker 5: I don't think he's reading between the lines because Laurel
- 27:57Speaker 5: is being rather obtuse about her feelings about out the
- 28:00Speaker 5: whole thing, and I don't think Luke knows where she's at.
- 28:04Speaker 2: I think it's obvious the way.
- 28:10Speaker 4: Did he really the information.
- 28:13Speaker 3: I don't think he know.
- 28:15Speaker 2: The way she's like sort of hanging around these lines
- 28:19Speaker 2: and throwing because.
- 28:21Speaker 5: She's going along with everything he says, like he he
- 28:25Speaker 5: doesn't want her to see April. Okay, like we find
- 28:29Speaker 5: out in this episode, she still has never met April.
- 28:31Speaker 3: But I think that it's not easy.
- 28:35Speaker 5: Well, and we find out that what she knows about
- 28:37Speaker 5: Anna she heard from Miss Patty. She still has never
- 28:40Speaker 5: had a conversation with Luke about it. So I think
- 28:44Speaker 5: he's just oblivious.
- 28:46Speaker 3: I don't think so.
- 28:47Speaker 2: I don't know. Yeah, he can go through all that
- 28:49Speaker 2: being completely cut off from how she's feeling and what
- 28:52Speaker 2: she's trying to communicate.
- 28:53Speaker 3: I think you're right, that's why he volunteers the bags
- 28:56Speaker 3: from Anna. But go ahead.
- 28:58Speaker 4: I'm kind of like in the middle of both of
- 29:00Speaker 4: both of these conversations because I don't think he volunteered
- 29:04Speaker 4: the information about Anna on the bag. Lorlay had to
- 29:07Speaker 4: start the conversation about the Duffel bag, and then he
- 29:10Speaker 4: was like, oh Anna gave that to me. It'd be
- 29:12Speaker 4: different if it was he.
- 29:14Speaker 3: But he tells right away because she could have thought
- 29:16Speaker 3: he bought it. He doesn't know that Rory has gone
- 29:20Speaker 3: to the store, so she only has that information from Rory.
- 29:24Speaker 3: Luke has no idea, so she immediately, Oh, I see
- 29:28Speaker 3: you got a bag, which is right there on the
- 29:30Speaker 3: counter for her eyes to see. If he wanted to
- 29:32Speaker 3: be like weird about it, he could have been like,
- 29:34Speaker 3: oh yeah.
- 29:35Speaker 4: But that's my point. She is the one that started
- 29:38Speaker 4: the conversation, Oh you have that bag.
- 29:40Speaker 3: Oh, by the way, he's upstairs on the phone with
- 29:44Speaker 3: the cheese guy or whatever. He's not going to be like, oh,
- 29:46Speaker 3: by the way, if you happen to randomly see that
- 29:48Speaker 3: bag on the counter, he's not finding anything.
- 29:52Speaker 4: No, he finan fine. But I think if Lorlai hadn't
- 29:58Speaker 4: said that, he wouldn't have told her, oh, hey, I
- 30:00Speaker 4: got this gift.
- 30:01Speaker 3: Because he doesn't give a rat a baby moment. And
- 30:03Speaker 3: that's what was clear to me.
- 30:05Speaker 2: He I think, I think, and he just doesn't want
- 30:10Speaker 2: to make it a thing at all. He doesn't need
- 30:13Speaker 2: the aeration. He doesn't he know, he knows it's World
- 30:17Speaker 2: War three, could happen at any moment. This is a
- 30:20Speaker 2: really explosive situation, and he gets that. He understands that
- 30:25Speaker 2: being competitive, and there's a little bit of jealousy and
- 30:27Speaker 2: she feels shut up. But that's and I think that's
- 30:29Speaker 2: why how he's doing it.
- 30:31Speaker 5: You know, he's he's not making any move to reassure her.
- 30:34Speaker 5: If his life is that upset, wouldn't he want to
- 30:38Speaker 5: reassure her something.
- 30:41Speaker 3: He is doing that by being chill af he's reassured.
- 30:46Speaker 4: That's what Lorlai wants. She doesn't want.
- 30:49Speaker 3: But he's saying, I don't know. Look, I think he's
- 30:51Speaker 3: being steady. I think there is something to what Scott's saying.
- 30:54Speaker 3: He's being very steady and very to serve his aunts.
- 31:00Speaker 3: By being so steady, if he stirs it up and makes.
- 31:04Speaker 2: The whole thing outserve the relationship. Say that again, preserve
- 31:08Speaker 2: the relation. To Susanne's comment, preserve the relationship ultimately, because
- 31:13Speaker 2: it could blow up into a huge fire any moment.
- 31:15Speaker 4: I also think his energy, which is not a fault
- 31:19Speaker 4: to him, but his energy right now is very much
- 31:21Speaker 4: into April, Like that is where his energy is. And
- 31:25Speaker 4: you can't even just tell that with like the fact
- 31:28Speaker 4: that he didn't even tell Lorelai Lane is engaged, you know,
- 31:30Speaker 4: like those little things that he's like not like he's
- 31:34Speaker 4: not putting all his energy right now into his relationship
- 31:37Speaker 4: with Lorelai, which is what he was doing for a while.
- 31:41Speaker 4: You know, that was his girl forever. So like there's
- 31:44Speaker 4: definitely an energy shift.
- 31:46Speaker 2: Right, Yeah, but that's who he is. That's the type
- 31:51Speaker 2: of you've met those people. Yeah, Now now they're doing
- 31:56Speaker 2: this because that needs that attention. They can't split up
- 32:00Speaker 2: their energy the way some people can.
- 32:11Speaker 3: I also think this whole thing is so big, right,
- 32:16Speaker 3: Like you find out you have a kid twelve years later,
- 32:21Speaker 3: that's so massive that if you then come with a
- 32:26Speaker 3: lot of energy, good or bad into the relationship, like
- 32:31Speaker 3: this is what you think, now we need to talk
- 32:32Speaker 3: about this awful. It's so much that everything will include.
- 32:37Speaker 3: The only option to handling something this major is with
- 32:42Speaker 3: calm and steadiness.
- 32:48Speaker 4: Many would argue in conjunction with your partner, you know
- 32:52Speaker 4: what I mean, like and that that second half is
- 32:55Speaker 4: not there.
- 32:57Speaker 5: I mean he's he's basically he seems to think that
- 33:00Speaker 5: he has to choose between he either can be April's
- 33:04Speaker 5: dad or he can be larealized fiance.
- 33:06Speaker 6: Actually I don't actually don't agree.
- 33:09Speaker 2: That with that. I disagree with that. I think in
- 33:12Speaker 2: this moment, sure, but again he's you know, this is
- 33:18Speaker 2: a massive wave that just whacked him.
- 33:20Speaker 5: Are right, but it's been last six months. It's it's
- 33:24Speaker 5: we're in April.
- 33:25Speaker 3: And it's a kid, it's a human kid. My thing
- 33:30Speaker 3: is he wants to develop a and I think rightfully,
- 33:34Speaker 3: so he wants to develop a father daughter relationship. First.
- 33:40Speaker 3: He's not saying he's not eventually going to do a
- 33:44Speaker 3: father stepmother relationship, but he doesn't even have If you
- 33:48Speaker 3: change the dichotomy, right, say say he changed everything and
- 33:51Speaker 3: he's like, it's great to meet you. This is my fiance, Lorilai.
- 33:54Speaker 3: We're going to get to know you. That's one way
- 33:57Speaker 3: to do it. But it's a very different relationship coming
- 34:02Speaker 3: in as a two than him saying, first, I need
- 34:06Speaker 3: to be easy about this. I need to be a father.
- 34:09Speaker 3: I want to have a relationship with her. I want
- 34:11Speaker 3: to go on the math treat retreat, whatever is right.
- 34:14Speaker 5: And I mean we've had this conversation before. There's nothing
- 34:17Speaker 5: wrong with that. But she hasn't even met April.
- 34:20Speaker 3: Well maybe it's not.
- 34:22Speaker 5: That's that's a problem for me.
- 34:24Speaker 3: I don't know.
- 34:26Speaker 2: Is there a moment where Lorela goes to Luke and says, Hey,
- 34:32Speaker 2: I just want you to know something. I'm one hundred
- 34:37Speaker 2: percent supportive. I got your back here, I get what
- 34:40Speaker 2: you're doing and anything I can do to help let
- 34:47Speaker 2: me know.
- 34:48Speaker 5: I wish she would beating around the booshe prepending like.
- 34:53Speaker 2: She's because she doesn't do that and she is sending her.
- 35:00Speaker 4: Can I just say one thing really quick? Yes, but
- 35:02Speaker 4: I have a right Scott.
- 35:03Speaker 3: I love that.
- 35:04Speaker 4: If Luray said that, I would have loved that. Yes,
- 35:08Speaker 4: But in the same breath, it shouldn't be on her
- 35:11Speaker 4: to say that.
- 35:12Speaker 3: I disagree Danielle Tomorrow.
- 35:14Speaker 2: Why he would do it for her? And he has
- 35:16Speaker 2: done it for her, and that's who he is. Why
- 35:19Speaker 2: can't he get that level of respect and selflessness and
- 35:24Speaker 2: selfless behavior because the child's future is at stake and
- 35:30Speaker 2: her laurelized whole world revolves around Rory, and everything's Rory,
- 35:33Speaker 2: Rory Roy and everybody in the township and Ry and
- 35:36Speaker 2: Luke said, Rory Rory, he hasn't sacrificed for war. Now
- 35:39Speaker 2: he is a kid.
- 35:40Speaker 3: It's maybe right, I'm agree, Maybe it's.
- 35:43Speaker 2: His turn that the people in his life do him
- 35:48Speaker 2: the way he offered himself for all those years.
- 35:52Speaker 3: I totally agree, Danielle.
- 35:53Speaker 2: Let me say they rallying around him question.
- 35:58Speaker 3: I have a way to solve this. Okay, you know
- 36:01Speaker 3: what I'm gonna ask you.
- 36:02Speaker 4: I know exactly what you're gonna ask me.
- 36:03Speaker 3: Go for it, John Moreno ditches you or Angelina Jolie.
- 36:08Speaker 3: Tomorrow you've got a kid, then you meet somebody.
- 36:13Speaker 2: Well, you don't have to worry about it because that's
- 36:15Speaker 2: not going to last very long.
- 36:17Speaker 3: In like a week, When are you going to introduce
- 36:20Speaker 3: your kid to another potential father? FI?
- 36:27Speaker 2: That's huge.
- 36:28Speaker 4: I think you're comparing apples. That's very different, absolutely zero comparison.
- 36:36Speaker 4: You're talking about a kid that I have completely raised
- 36:39Speaker 4: my entire life, bringing in a new person to that
- 36:42Speaker 4: it doesn't matter different.
- 36:44Speaker 3: Well, I disagree because here's why. It's to each his own.
- 36:48Speaker 3: So if you told me you want to introduce him,
- 36:52Speaker 3: your kid to your new boyfriend Brad Pitt in two months, fine,
- 36:56Speaker 3: But if you want to do it in ten years, fine.
- 36:59Speaker 3: The person that gets to make that decision is the parent.
- 37:03Speaker 3: So Luke gets to make that decision himself.
- 37:08Speaker 4: But I agree, I do agree with it.
- 37:10Speaker 3: You don't because you're all like, why is he introducing you? No?
- 37:12Speaker 4: No, I agree that it's up to Luke to decide
- 37:16Speaker 4: what he wants to do. It is his decision, and
- 37:18Speaker 4: that's why Lorelai is not. That's you're kind of proving
- 37:22Speaker 4: my point, to be completely honest with you, because my
- 37:24Speaker 4: point is it shouldn't be up to Lorelai to say, hey,
- 37:28Speaker 4: I really want to be you know, suppose said you, and.
- 37:31Speaker 3: Luke has been clear with her he is not ready
- 37:34Speaker 3: yet for them to be of them with April, whether
- 37:39Speaker 3: subconsciously clearly, we all know it.
- 37:42Speaker 2: And Luke certainly isn't going to come around and be
- 37:45Speaker 2: accommodative if if Laurela I is spinning around, uh like
- 37:51Speaker 2: the wash cycle, you.
- 37:53Speaker 3: Know, well he's not read. And also, guys.
- 37:57Speaker 2: What are you talking about? She did it through the
- 37:59Speaker 2: entire episode.
- 38:00Speaker 3: I agree with you at she exactly He's right you guys.
- 38:03Speaker 3: And also, a man listens to us, A man listens
- 38:09Speaker 3: to what a woman says. They're not mind readers, right,
- 38:14Speaker 3: We're all women are like overthinking it all in our minds. Right.
- 38:17Speaker 3: A man listens to what a woman says, and everything
- 38:20Speaker 3: she has actually said in words is we should postpone
- 38:25Speaker 3: the wedding. Oh are you sure, yes, let's postpone the wedding. No,
- 38:29Speaker 3: I'm good, I understand. I'll be back at the diner
- 38:32Speaker 3: at eight fifteen after she's left. Everything she is indicating
- 38:36Speaker 3: with human words is making Luke, who is a man
- 38:40Speaker 3: fairly you know, not an overthinking man. Every indication is
- 38:46Speaker 3: it's basically fine. She even says, no, you should go.
- 38:50Speaker 3: He wasn't even gonna go on the math thing, and
- 38:52Speaker 3: she says no, you should go. So you don't get
- 38:55Speaker 3: to have it both ways and be like, no, you
- 38:57Speaker 3: should go. But behind the scenes, I'm all but heard
- 38:59Speaker 3: about it. No, Well, but I mean she she's not.
- 39:05Speaker 5: It's not that she doesn't want them to have a relationship.
- 39:07Speaker 3: She wants him to have a.
- 39:08Speaker 5: Relationship with his daughter, but she would like to at
- 39:10Speaker 5: least meet her.
- 39:11Speaker 3: The whole rest of the town is not ready.
- 39:13Speaker 2: But why not respect the fact that he's not ready
- 39:16Speaker 2: for that yet? And why not respect that has been
- 39:21Speaker 2: there for you? Maybe is an entire adult life making
- 39:26Speaker 2: sure that that Rory stays on the right path and
- 39:29Speaker 2: helps her out as a friend for all those years,
- 39:32Speaker 2: where's the respect coming back? And now he's being described
- 39:35Speaker 2: as something he's out of touch, and he's like, oh,
- 39:37Speaker 2: a typical guy. It's all about him. Yeah, right now,
- 39:40Speaker 2: it's all about him and his daughter.
- 39:41Speaker 5: And he's making the joice everyone else into the town.
- 39:45Speaker 3: Because they're not going to be the mother figure. He
- 39:48Speaker 3: is not ready yet to have the person enter in
- 39:51Speaker 3: that is going to play a mother figure in her life.
- 39:56Speaker 5: Okay, but what if they were already married when April came.
- 40:00Speaker 3: And maybe he would say, I'm gonna get to know
- 40:05Speaker 3: her on my own and then I will bring her
- 40:09Speaker 3: in when she's ready to Because he may be making
- 40:12Speaker 3: that decision. She has a mother, you guys, and that
- 40:16Speaker 3: may be bringing in another mother figure, maybe something that
- 40:19Speaker 3: he's taking slower, or it feels like he needs to
- 40:21Speaker 3: discuss with Anna and guess what he does. Because if
- 40:26Speaker 3: I was Anna and I had a kid and all
- 40:28Speaker 3: of a sudden she wants to meet her dad, Okay, fine,
- 40:31Speaker 3: I'll process that. Fine, Suddenly she's going to have another
- 40:35Speaker 3: woman that's raising her kid. That's a conversation that needs
- 40:40Speaker 3: to be discussed and handled very appropriately out of respect
- 40:45Speaker 3: for Anna too. That's the mom and you kind of look,
- 40:49Speaker 3: people disagree with me, but in my opinion you kind
- 40:51Speaker 3: of defer to that that person matters, and yeah, lor
- 40:57Speaker 3: might not go into the store and all that sketchy.
- 41:00Speaker 3: I agree.
- 41:01Speaker 6: The one thing that I was going to say is
- 41:03Speaker 6: would it be different if and this is obviously like,
- 41:06Speaker 6: I mean, I've never been in a situation, but I
- 41:08Speaker 6: mean April didn't even know about Luke, So would it
- 41:14Speaker 6: be different if he introduced Laura Lai, Like, hey, this
- 41:16Speaker 6: is my fiance because he does have a life without her,
- 41:19Speaker 6: and that's totally fine, that's understandable, But then like take
- 41:22Speaker 6: his time with her to at least introduce her.
- 41:25Speaker 3: It would be fine if that's what the dad wants
- 41:27Speaker 3: to do. The dad and mom get to decide what
- 41:32Speaker 3: happens with a kid, not the town, not us, not Loralai. Sorry,
- 41:39Speaker 3: I'm getting like, I don't mean to cut everyone off.
- 41:41Speaker 3: I need to agree. Luke has made the decision that's
- 41:47Speaker 3: right for him. Is it right for Suzanne, clearly not.
- 41:50Speaker 3: Is it right for Danielle clearly not? But it is
- 41:53Speaker 3: right for him. So I come from the place of
- 41:56Speaker 3: I gotta have some respect for what he's making the decision,
- 42:00Speaker 3: because that's the decision he's making for his kid. It's
- 42:04Speaker 3: his kid, right, how.
- 42:08Speaker 2: Many kids out there don't get enough attention from either
- 42:12Speaker 2: parent or get any attention from any parent. And look
- 42:16Speaker 2: what he's doing. Where's the positive What are the positive
- 42:19Speaker 2: comments about what he's taking his time? He's saying, I'm
- 42:23Speaker 2: going to focus on my daughter right now. I didn't
- 42:26Speaker 2: know she existed. Wow, what a mind scrambling situation. And
- 42:31Speaker 2: I'm taking responsibility here because I didn't know about this.
- 42:35Speaker 2: But now here, I am thrust into a situation and
- 42:37Speaker 2: I'm going to rise to the occasion. Where's where's the admiration?
- 42:40Speaker 5: I don't think anyone's disputing that, mad No, no, no, no.
- 42:48Speaker 2: This is not a situation where you know what takes precedence.
- 42:53Speaker 2: Here is what laurelized not getting now that she got before,
- 42:57Speaker 2: She's still gonna get it. It's just delayed right now.
- 43:01Speaker 2: That's exactly larger, a larger situation, that's exact. And if
- 43:07Speaker 2: her ego can't handle it, then her ego can't handle
- 43:10Speaker 2: that's right.
- 43:10Speaker 3: And also the kid, a twelve year old kid is
- 43:13Speaker 3: already meeting their father for the first time. Oh god,
- 43:16Speaker 3: it may be too overwhelming, in Luke's opinion, to have
- 43:20Speaker 3: her also meet her stepmother all in one.
- 43:24Speaker 5: Like, okay, but again, if they were already married, would
- 43:28Speaker 5: he make Lreli move out so that he caniculous.
- 43:33Speaker 3: Not doing that.
- 43:34Speaker 5: Here's the thing, he's not moving.
- 43:40Speaker 2: They're not married.
- 43:40Speaker 3: Even if he's keeping.
- 43:42Speaker 5: He's intentionally keeping Lorelei and April apart. And after six months.
- 43:48Speaker 5: I don't understand why they can't even like share a
- 43:50Speaker 5: handshake and.
- 43:50Speaker 3: Say he's not ready and we have to waiting for
- 43:56Speaker 3: it because he's not. It's because.
- 44:00Speaker 2: It's not up to laurel I. This is this is
- 44:02Speaker 2: up to Luke.
- 44:12Speaker 3: Okay, So Suzanne, say, my parents are divorced and my
- 44:17Speaker 3: dad has a new somebody, who is it up to
- 44:22Speaker 3: when I meet her? Me and my dad, not her.
- 44:27Speaker 3: She doesn't get to decide.
- 44:29Speaker 5: It's up to my she should be deciding. I'm saying
- 44:33Speaker 5: that she should be able to meet April like he should.
- 44:40Speaker 4: I think.
- 44:40Speaker 2: I think, hang on, it's up to April. It's her April,
- 44:46Speaker 2: because how many times he.
- 44:47Speaker 3: Never asked because he's not ready. We have to respect that.
- 44:51Speaker 2: We don't know that yet, we don't know all of
- 44:54Speaker 2: the conversations that they're having. Obviously, April has said I'm
- 44:58Speaker 2: not ready yet. This he's not ready, oh, or he's
- 45:02Speaker 2: not ready. No, nobody's ready. You know, we're putting they
- 45:08Speaker 2: have to be ready.
- 45:10Speaker 3: I admitted that, and that is fine, that he's not ready.
- 45:14Speaker 4: Yeah, I think I think the thing is is that
- 45:16Speaker 4: Amy and Scott your points are one hundred percent valid. Like,
- 45:21Speaker 4: I completely agree with you. I think it is up
- 45:23Speaker 4: to Luke, it is up to April. It's up to
- 45:25Speaker 4: them to figure out when it's the right time to
- 45:29Speaker 4: infiltrate Loreli into their relationship. I totally agree with that.
- 45:34Speaker 4: Yet in the same breath, it still doesn't sit well
- 45:37Speaker 4: with me in the sense that it's like, what what
- 45:40Speaker 4: is holding back Luke from bringing.
- 45:43Speaker 2: We don't know that, And that's sort of the craft
- 45:46Speaker 2: of the writers causing this consternation in totally all of
- 45:50Speaker 2: us because we don't have any of the answers. We're
- 45:53Speaker 2: not privy to the private conversations of Luke and April.
- 45:57Speaker 2: And also, you know, oftentimes the best right is what
- 46:01Speaker 2: is not written. Well, let me go to you this
- 46:03Speaker 2: way very actively participating in this.
- 46:05Speaker 3: You know, six months is not a long time. I
- 46:08Speaker 3: would not meet someone's children in six months. I would
- 46:13Speaker 3: definitely make it be years, not six months. So that's
- 46:17Speaker 3: all I can say too, is like, and most people
- 46:20Speaker 3: when they get and say, I understand that this is
- 46:23Speaker 3: a different situation, but let's just pretend for the conversation
- 46:26Speaker 3: two people get divorced. I know very, very few people
- 46:30Speaker 3: that are okay with their kids. Meeting their new significant
- 46:35Speaker 3: other six months in a standard is like be together,
- 46:39Speaker 3: and look, some people do it different. I have plenty
- 46:41Speaker 3: of friends that are like, I've been dating someone two months,
- 46:44Speaker 3: he's met my kids. Fine, that's totally fine if that's
- 46:47Speaker 3: what you want to do. I know other people that
- 46:48Speaker 3: have been dating for two years and they haven't met
- 46:51Speaker 3: the kids. So it's like, but.
- 46:53Speaker 5: That's a completely different situation, Like a parent child pair.
- 46:58Speaker 5: Bringing in a new adult is different than two adults.
- 47:02Speaker 3: And disagree her together. I understand where you're coming from,
- 47:05Speaker 3: but here's why I disagree. It's up to the person, right, so,
- 47:09Speaker 3: and it's still a child meeting her dad and someone else.
- 47:15Speaker 3: It's very overwhelming, and they may have decided this is
- 47:18Speaker 3: the right way for them, and.
- 47:21Speaker 2: We let's let's let's game theory it out right. Let's say, okay,
- 47:26Speaker 2: April and and Laurel I meet and they hit it
- 47:29Speaker 2: off right away, and it's fantastic, It's even better than
- 47:32Speaker 2: and then Anna gets triggered and it's a whole thing,
- 47:35Speaker 2: and that causes the breakup of Look and Laurel I
- 47:38Speaker 2: because we've got to take care of the kid. Kids
- 47:39Speaker 2: hurt Laurel I.
- 47:42Speaker 3: So well, Okay, we're not there yet right.
- 47:49Speaker 4: In the.
- 47:51Speaker 2: I want to ask the panel. I'm want to ask
- 47:53Speaker 2: the panel here, how would you feel and would you
- 48:00Speaker 2: feel it's justified? Maybe I'm not asking it the right way.
- 48:03Speaker 2: If it is okay, if you want to place a value,
- 48:08Speaker 2: because we're all placing values on these relationships, father, daughter, Luke, Laurel.
- 48:12Speaker 2: You know the value of this, and we know the
- 48:14Speaker 2: value of it to the fans of the show, but
- 48:15Speaker 2: in real life, let's put in real life terms. The
- 48:18Speaker 2: value here is is the Luke Apral relationship more important
- 48:25Speaker 2: than the Luke Laureli relationship? Would Luke sacrifice the Luke
- 48:31Speaker 2: Laureli relationship in order to preserve his relationship with his
- 48:35Speaker 2: daughter and make sure that his daughter is doing the
- 48:38Speaker 2: right thing, is guided the right way, and would not
- 48:42Speaker 2: make him a good guy if he did that? And
- 48:44Speaker 2: he went to Laurel I one day and say Listen,
- 48:46Speaker 2: this isn't going to work out. You know, she really
- 48:49Speaker 2: needs me and I've got to focus on her. And
- 48:52Speaker 2: I know I can't give you what you need because
- 48:54Speaker 2: I'm not that kind of guy or whatever it is.
- 48:56Speaker 2: Does this make him less of a person.
- 49:00Speaker 3: It's the toughest choice ever. But you might have to
- 49:02Speaker 3: make it right. I don't think you do, though.
- 49:05Speaker 5: That was my point earlier that I started to try
- 49:07Speaker 5: to make was that he doesn't have to sacrifice one
- 49:10Speaker 5: for the other. He can have a relationship with both
- 49:13Speaker 5: of them. An adult can have a relationship with another
- 49:16Speaker 5: adult and their child at the same time.
- 49:19Speaker 3: Correct, But he doesn't want to bring a third person
- 49:22Speaker 3: into his relationship. You're saying both things. He is having
- 49:26Speaker 3: a relationship with April, and he still has a good
- 49:29Speaker 3: relationship with Lreli.
- 49:31Speaker 5: He doesn't though he's totally pushing away out. No, No,
- 49:34Speaker 5: he's made a relation, not have her involved.
- 49:39Speaker 2: Whether he's aware of it or not. He's protecting his
- 49:42Speaker 2: child from a relationship with Lorelai in April that is
- 49:47Speaker 2: either really good or really bad, and it's only to
- 49:51Speaker 2: have the same effect on it, and.
- 49:54Speaker 3: It's only in the moment. He has never said future,
- 49:58Speaker 3: just in this moment. Six months not a lot of
- 50:02Speaker 3: time to get to know a human kid. He is
- 50:05Speaker 3: just making that decision for right now, and I respect it.
- 50:10Speaker 3: You all don't have to because it might not be
- 50:12Speaker 3: right for you, But for me, I get it. I
- 50:15Speaker 3: respect it, and it's his choice and Anna's choice. More
- 50:19Speaker 3: than anybody's choice. It is his choice.
- 50:23Speaker 5: And I feel like you're right. He's never said anything
- 50:27Speaker 5: into the future, but that can be taken both ways,
- 50:29Speaker 5: because he's also not said you will meet April Sunday.
- 50:33Speaker 5: He's not saying anything that's right.
- 50:37Speaker 2: Well, maybe he doesn't feel comfortable making that kind of
- 50:40Speaker 2: a promise exactly.
- 50:41Speaker 3: And this is the thing, this is the deal, whatever order,
- 50:44Speaker 3: it happens. If you are with somebody who has kids,
- 50:48Speaker 3: and this goes for Luke, with Loralai and Rory, you
- 50:53Speaker 3: have to be willing to play by their rules. It's
- 50:57Speaker 3: a choice that happens if you entering into a relationship.
- 51:01Speaker 3: So say Laura Lai had certain things about Rory, right,
- 51:05Speaker 3: she sure didn't want Max parenting Rory. That was a no,
- 51:09Speaker 3: no no. And also we all had a big problem
- 51:12Speaker 3: that Laura Lai was dating the teacher. There's a lot
- 51:15Speaker 3: of things that blur the lines. Right, Laura is not
- 51:18Speaker 3: freaking perfect. So my thing is you defer to the parents.
- 51:23Speaker 3: It doesn't matter if Anna is a the worst person,
- 51:27Speaker 3: beautch of the planet. That is the mom. So whether
- 51:31Speaker 3: Lauralai likes it or not, she gets pull position essentially,
- 51:35Speaker 3: And that's just the way the world works with parents
- 51:38Speaker 3: and kids.
- 51:38Speaker 2: Right right. And I'm not saying it's it's an ideal
- 51:41Speaker 2: situation for Lauralai. It's a difficult situation to be in, right.
- 51:45Speaker 2: She is. She's having some difficulty she should be having
- 51:48Speaker 2: anybody would be having difficulty with this situation because.
- 51:51Speaker 4: She's second place, right, She's a second place right now?
- 51:54Speaker 3: She's not in second place? Yes, she is.
- 51:57Speaker 2: She is.
- 51:58Speaker 3: She's not you guys, she's.
- 51:59Speaker 2: Not well, she's she's number one in his heart. But
- 52:04Speaker 2: now he's okay.
- 52:05Speaker 4: If if Lurla asked lou K, can we get dinner tonight?
- 52:09Speaker 4: And April asked, lou K can we get dinner tonight,
- 52:11Speaker 4: who's he having dinner with?
- 52:12Speaker 3: Guess what? Though? That doesn't make a second place? That
- 52:15Speaker 3: doesn't make that doesn't there's enough.
- 52:17Speaker 4: Priority right now? Is April okay?
- 52:20Speaker 3: So might be his thing?
- 52:22Speaker 2: Is you know, I think I don't think Lorelai is
- 52:25Speaker 2: being a pain in the answer about everything. I think
- 52:29Speaker 2: she's being pretty great. But she's being pretty great about it.
- 52:32Speaker 3: Priority thing.
- 52:34Speaker 2: I think she's being supportive, and I think she's been is.
- 52:37Speaker 3: She's it's hard, this is hard, and she's having a
- 52:40Speaker 3: quote hard time.
- 52:41Speaker 2: But I think she's handling it very well.
- 52:43Speaker 3: But I want to address this priority thing because my
- 52:46Speaker 3: thing is priority is different than love. He can love
- 52:52Speaker 3: Lorelai and April equally. Say you're a mom and and
- 52:57Speaker 3: your boyfriend wants to have dinner tonight, but you're kid's
- 53:00Speaker 3: got Violin lessons. Is it you're not my top priority
- 53:04Speaker 3: because I have to take my kids to Violin. No,
- 53:07Speaker 3: it's just it's just the world works. It doesn't mean
- 53:11Speaker 3: that he loves Lorelai any less because he's having dinner
- 53:14Speaker 3: with April. It is your kid, you are. If you
- 53:18Speaker 3: pick Laureli over your kid, you're a big toolbag. Your
- 53:22Speaker 3: kid has priority, But it doesn't mean your second position
- 53:28Speaker 3: or you love them less. Danielle, I guarantee you I didn't.
- 53:33Speaker 4: I didn't say love love less. That was not coming
- 53:37Speaker 4: from me, But I do I still stand by it.
- 53:40Speaker 4: I think his energy is completely shifted off Lorelai and
- 53:44Speaker 4: is on April right now, like I do. I do
- 53:46Speaker 4: feel that, And that's basically all I'm trying to say
- 53:50Speaker 4: is right now, his focus, his attention is it's right.
- 53:56Speaker 4: I'm not saying it's wrong.
- 53:57Speaker 5: No, I agree, yeah, I agree with and now and
- 54:01Speaker 5: and the now that it's been so long, the expectation
- 54:05Speaker 5: is that Lorelei just doesn't interact with April at all,
- 54:08Speaker 5: Like I don't see ever gonna.
- 54:12Speaker 3: Taste like a blink. Think of how fast six months goes.
- 54:15Speaker 3: I don't peo, don't even know how to play tickleball
- 54:17Speaker 3: in six months to get to know a kid.
- 54:21Speaker 5: Take the number off of it. It's just now become
- 54:23Speaker 5: the expectation that Lorelei doesn't get to know April. And
- 54:26Speaker 5: that's just how it is. It's not even a conversation
- 54:29Speaker 5: anymore now for now. Luke's not saying for now, this
- 54:33Speaker 5: is how it is.
- 54:34Speaker 3: But it is for now, Like if you date a
- 54:37Speaker 3: person with a kid, it is a whole different set
- 54:41Speaker 3: of rules. Now I understand that it's all backwards, right
- 54:44Speaker 3: because of the way this went down, So he could
- 54:46Speaker 3: have chosen to do it differently, but he didn't and
- 54:49Speaker 3: we have to respect that the parent kind of guides
- 54:53Speaker 3: it and the significant other needs to adapt to that,
- 55:00Speaker 3: and if they don't like it, then they have to leave.
- 55:03Speaker 3: If Laura like doesn't like it, she's like, I'm not
- 55:06Speaker 3: having this. I need to be in this kid's life,
- 55:08Speaker 3: then guess what. She has the choice to not be
- 55:11Speaker 3: in the relationship with Luke. But what she doesn't have
- 55:14Speaker 3: is the flex to be like, you're gonna do with
- 55:17Speaker 3: your kid? What I say this is just in my.
- 55:21Speaker 4: Opinion, Yeah, she's not doing that. I agree, she's she's
- 55:24Speaker 4: never asked that.
- 55:26Speaker 3: That's that's not any of what y'all want, because she's
- 55:30Speaker 3: saying you need.
- 55:31Speaker 5: To acknowledge her feelings.
- 55:32Speaker 2: That's what about Wait a minute, what about what Luke's
- 55:35Speaker 2: not getting?
- 55:35Speaker 3: He doesn't even know what her feelings are because everything
- 55:37Speaker 3: she says is like, it's fine, I'm fine, go on
- 55:41Speaker 3: the trip. Sorry, Scott, go ahead.
- 55:43Speaker 4: But I mean you're also saying that he does know
- 55:46Speaker 4: and that he can.
- 55:47Speaker 3: Yeah, your thing this is he knows that this is
- 55:51Speaker 3: so major and could be the thing that breaks them up. Right,
- 55:56Speaker 3: So what he's doing is just being steady and he's
- 56:01Speaker 3: that's why when she asked, Oh, I see, there's luggage.
- 56:04Speaker 3: He is very forthcoming. April dropped that off because she
- 56:07Speaker 3: had it at the store and knew I was going.
- 56:09Speaker 3: He doesn't lie, he doesn't even fudge the truth. He's
- 56:12Speaker 3: so forthcoming with it. So like I thought, he did
- 56:16Speaker 3: the right thing. And I know we're half an episode
- 56:18Speaker 3: from tom.
- 56:19Speaker 6: He also didn't cancel the wedding. He postponed it, so.
- 56:24Speaker 3: That's I'm so mad about that. She told him to.
- 56:29Speaker 6: I know, But I'm saying, just like he's taking the time,
- 56:32Speaker 6: and so I do see that, but I'm saying, like,
- 56:34Speaker 6: it's not like Lorlai will never ever ever meet April.
- 56:39Speaker 6: He's just taking his time. And that's the thing. It's
- 56:41Speaker 6: like there was never a discussion like you will never
- 56:44Speaker 6: meet her, this is my daughter. You are not crossing
- 56:46Speaker 6: paths like that never happened.
- 56:48Speaker 2: You know.
- 56:51Speaker 4: At the moment right now, Yeah, definitely not crossing paths.
- 56:53Speaker 4: You're not at the diner at the same time like
- 56:55Speaker 4: in this moment. That is because the reality, Yeah, many
- 56:58Speaker 4: people that's.
- 56:59Speaker 2: Appro Laurli has one move here. There's only one move
- 57:03Speaker 2: here for her, and that is to be as supportive
- 57:08Speaker 2: as she possibly and as supportive and as understanding as
- 57:13Speaker 2: she possibly can, because that's what a great partner does.
- 57:16Speaker 3: I totally agree with you.
- 57:18Speaker 2: It is he did it for her his entire adult life.
- 57:22Speaker 2: That's what great partners do. They understand and they are
- 57:26Speaker 2: there for you.
- 57:27Speaker 3: I agree with you.
- 57:28Speaker 2: And it doesn't matter how much sunshine is shining on
- 57:31Speaker 2: you in any particular day. You gotta take take one
- 57:35Speaker 2: for the team sometimes. And I mean if if a
- 57:38Speaker 2: kid showing up after twelve years out of the blue
- 57:41Speaker 2: is in a situation where you got to take one
- 57:44Speaker 2: for the team, then you shouldn't be on the team.
- 57:47Speaker 3: I agree, he's taking one for the team. I'm not
- 57:50Speaker 3: disputing that, but you're but Suzanne is ready for Lorelei
- 57:55Speaker 3: to meet April and Luke isn't, So it doesn't really
- 57:59Speaker 3: matter what Scott saying.
- 58:02Speaker 4: Then you shouldn't be on the team. Is literally leading
- 58:06Speaker 4: me to my very next point. This wedding is not
- 58:09Speaker 4: going to happen. And I haven't seen the series and
- 58:12Speaker 4: I don't know anything that's happening. But if I had
- 58:14Speaker 4: a crystal ball right now, this wedding is not happening.
- 58:17Speaker 5: Well you'll see it definitely doesn't feel postponed. It feels canceled.
- 58:22Speaker 3: Oh I disagree. It feels totally postponed to me because.
- 58:34Speaker 5: Because there's not been one word about the wedding.
- 58:37Speaker 3: Not true. They talked about it in Vineyard in the videos.
- 58:40Speaker 5: I was just going to say, except for the we'll
- 58:42Speaker 5: have lobster in our wedding, that's the last thing anybody
- 58:45Speaker 5: has ever said. I was like yesterday, that was literally
- 58:48Speaker 5: like that was that was three months ago.
- 58:50Speaker 3: What month is it now, April?
- 58:53Speaker 5: This episode aired in April.
- 58:55Speaker 3: Well, what month is it in Gilmore World?
- 58:58Speaker 2: It's April? Six months? Six months is irrelevant. We do
- 59:03Speaker 2: not know how much access or how much time Luke
- 59:09Speaker 2: and April are spending together, given April schedule, and she
- 59:13Speaker 2: lives with her mother, so her mother's running that show,
- 59:16Speaker 2: so he's at her back and call. It's not up
- 59:19Speaker 2: to Luke. He's on April and Anna's time table, when
- 59:24Speaker 2: he can see her, when they can spend time. So
- 59:26Speaker 2: maybe it's just these little chunks of time. Maybe maybe
- 59:29Speaker 2: once a week, couple times. So six months is nothing
- 59:32Speaker 2: to try to get.
- 59:33Speaker 3: Could be ten, It could be every other week. For
- 59:35Speaker 3: all we know, he's maybe seen her twenty five times.
- 59:37Speaker 3: We don't even know all.
- 59:38Speaker 2: Right, that's gonna do it. Everybody listen, We're gonna do
- 59:41Speaker 2: a two partner. So this is gonna end Part one.
- 59:44Speaker 2: Thanks for downloading, best fans on the planet. We will
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