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- Blake Holman: Welcome to Lead with Clarity. This is a space for leaders who want to grow without losing themselves in the process. Each episode is a short reflection on leadership, influence, and the inner work that shapes how we show up for others. It's not hype, not noise, just clear thinking for the journey of leading well. Today's episode is entitled The Leader Who Builds People Up, Sam Walton on Self-Esteem and Outstanding Leadership. Here we go. Think about the leaders who shaped you most. Not the ones who gave you the hardest feedback, not the ones with the most impressive titles, the ones who made you believe you were capable of more than you thought you were. There's a reason those leaders stand out in your memory. They did something most leaders never do deliberately. They invested in how you saw yourself. Sam Walton said it plainly when he said Outstanding leaders go out of their way to boost the self esteem of their personnel. Walson Walton was not a theorist. He was an operator. He built Walmart from a single store in Arkansas into the largest retail company on the planet. And he did it with a core conviction that how your people feel about themselves determines how they perform for you. I worked with a leader not long ago. I'll just call him David for today. David ran a regional operation for a mid-sized distribution company. His team consistently met targets. They never missed a deadline. But every by every conventional measure, he was producing results. But when we dug into his team's engagement and retention numbers, the picture shifted. People were leaving. Not for better pay, for better leadership somewhere else. When I asked David how often he recognized specific contributions from individuals on his team, he paused. He said he assumed people knew when they were doing well. That assumption was costing him his best people. This is the misread I encounter most often in senior leaders. They believe that praise is a tool for underperformers. That high performers are self-sufficient, that strong people do not need to be told they're doing well. That line of thinking is understandable, and it is wrong. Even your most confident, most capable team members need to feel that their work is seen. Acknowledgement and flattery are not the same thing. Recognition tied to specific behavior is information. It tells someone what to keep doing, it tells them what excellence looks like in your eyes. Withholding it does not make your team stronger, it makes them uncertain. Here's a reframe for you. Boosting someone's self esteem is not charity, it's strategy. People operate within the bounds of how they see themselves. Well a leader expands that view. When they say in words and in action, I see something in you, people begin to perform at a level that matches that belief. Sam Walton understood this intuitively. He walked his stores, he learned names, He celebrated people in front of their peers. He made the stock clerk feel as important as the store manager, because to the customer's experience, they were. That's not management, that is multiplying human capacity. Before your next one on one, ask yourself this. Do I know what this person is most proud of from the last 30 days? Do I know what they are working toward beyond their current role? If you cannot answer those questions, you're not close enough to their story to invest in their self esteem meaningfully. Get close, get specific. Recognize the work behind the result, not just the number on the report. Outstanding is the word Walton used. Not adequate, not good, outstanding. That word is doing real work in his observation. Most leaders do enough to keep people functioning. Outstanding leaders do what it takes to make people believe in themselves. That belief is what turns a team into something worth remembering. It's what turns a manager into a leader that people follow. Long after they've left the building. The organizations that sustain performance over time are the ones where people feel genuinely valued, not occasionally, consistently. That does not happen by accident. It happens because a leader decided to go out of their way.