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How Soon Is Too Soon To Date After Spouse Dies · The Erica Show

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  Now no backs to the Erica Show on g One Erica and Trevor and we
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  have Angela on the phone who has a dating question for us and she needs
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  advice. Hey, Angela, what's going on? Yeah? So I was
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  kind of wondering when is the appropriate amount of time to start dating after your
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  spouse pass is away? Okay, so did your spouse recently pass or in
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  the life? Yeah, it was hard. About nine months ago, you
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  know, he passed away from a heart condition. And then after that,
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  a guy I've known for years approached me and we've secretly been going out,
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  and you know what the thing is, It is going really well, but
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  my family and my husband's family, who I still talk to, will absolutely
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  lose it, like legitimately lose it. And I also feel guilty. But
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  the thing is is I'm really enjoying my time with him and it's been very
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  helpful. But you know, am I doing the right thing here? Well?
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  First of all, I'm so sorry about the loss of your spouse because
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  that's horrific, and people even different ways. Obviously, Now would you feel
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  guilty Erica, like nine months after dating somebody else? I mean it's different
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  for everybody, but I feel like I would be single for probably a couple
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  of years just to grow internally. So maybe you've gone through this unfortunately and
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  you can help Angela out. What should she do? Nine months after her
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  husband died nine one nine eight six zero one oh five to one? Is
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  it too soon to be dating? Do you? And if I see Erica
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  show, Angela wants to know when is too soon to date after her spouse
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  who died nine months ago. She's seeing somebody now. She's happy, but
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  his family and her family are not gonna have it. Missy, what do
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  you think about the situation? Well, to be honest, I have not
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  been to this myself, but I think I mean, who can blame her?
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  She's heartbroken, she lost her husband, she fell in love again.
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  That's that's absolutely like, that's a gift, that's amazing. So I do
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  think that she's got to be honest and she's gotta tell him some time has
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  passed. It maybe hasn't been a year, but like it has been nine
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  months. It's not like it was nine days. Should go or something?
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  Okay, so you say go for it again. I think people grieve in
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  different ways, so to each his own. I think the problem is like
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  publicizing it though, like be private about it. I feel like it's disrespectful
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  to your ex who just passed away. I could see that. At the
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  same time, you can't always worry about what people's opinions are about you.
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  Nine one, nine, eight, six h one oh five to one do
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  you? And of five as the air because show how soon is too soon
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  to date after your spouse passes? Angela is seeing somebody nine months after her
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  husband passed away, and she wants to know if that's too soon. Bailey,
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  what do you think I would say? At least a year is a
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  respectable amount of time. Probably a little longer depending on how long the relationship
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  was. Yeah, I mean we told her we were like, hey,
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  every to each his own, but I would probably be single for a while
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  just to regroup from that chapter of my life. Yes, agree, definitely.
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  I mean, if it was a twenty year relationship, you definitely want
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  longer than a year, you know, if it was six mins, Sorry,
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  maybe not easy to