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How do narcissists act when they MISS YOU · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful folks?
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  Today we're going to be talking about how narcissists act, how
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  they feel, how they react when they miss you, you, you, you,
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  you, or they miss someone. If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a self aware narcissist and
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  welcome to another episode of The Narcissist Code.
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  Boom, boom. Welcome back.
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  Welcome back. Welcome back, folks.
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  Yes, I love my theme music. Love my theme music.
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  Yes, yes, yes. Narcissistic people.
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  How the hell do they act? How do they react when they miss
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  somebody? Can can narcissists even miss
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  people in the 1st place? No, Lee, you're right.
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  Let me stop you right there, Lee.
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  Narcissists or the devil. They can't miss someone.
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  They've missed the supply. They don't miss the person.
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  They can't miss anybody. Matter of fact, Lee, you don't
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  miss anybody for your path, you devilish.
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  Beep, beep, beep, beep, beep, beep, beep.
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  OK, OK, OK. I hear you, I miss you, I miss
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  you out. Before we dig too deep in
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  today's episode, y'all make sure if you haven't already, check
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  out my kids book. It's called Remember it's Not
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  Your fault. It's available on Amazon today.
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  It's a conversation starter with your kids about those tough
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  conversations about toxic relationship dynamics.
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  Tell them the truth, boundaries, all that other good stuff.
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  Y'all remember it's not your fault it's on Amazon.
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  But yes, y'all narcissistic people, toxic relationship
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  dynamics, toxicity overall is a wild thing to deal with.
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  It just is y'all. And narcissists can actually
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  miss people. Y'all I miss like me personally,
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  and I don't speak for all narcissists.
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  I, I y'all know, I've never tried to speak for all
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  narcissists, but they're like, boy, I've been doing this for
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  almost five years now, 4 1/2 years now, y'all.
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  And there's still people out here like Lee doesn't speak for
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  all narcissists. Duh leads a narcissist that talk
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  bad about narcissist. Can you find can you talk nicely
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  about us? Like check the y'all make my
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  head hurt. But yes, narcissist can actually
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  miss you. There are a lot of narcissists
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  that miss people. But again, y'all again, just
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  because they miss you doesn't mean you should go back to them.
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  Just because they miss you doesn't mean you should give
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  them another chance to call them or break no contact and allow
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  them back into your life. Allow them to disrupt your
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  peace. Just because they miss you
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  doesn't mean you should do any of that.
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  That's exactly what that means right there.
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  Just because they miss you does not mean you should allow them
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  into your life. That's what I'm saying.
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  That's the that's the space. That's the trailer.
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  Yes, they can't miss you, but what do they do when they try,
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  when they miss you? If you're not together, they try
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  to Hoover you. A lot of just stay with me,
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  y'all, A lot of narcissistic people that miss you will try to
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  Hoover you back in. They want to hoof you back in.
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  They want to suck you back into the relationship.
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  They want to. They love it.
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  They need to. They love it.
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  Yeah. They want to suck you back in
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  because it benefits them. There's a great benefit in it
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  for them to suck you back into these relationship dynamics.
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  It just yeah, it really is. It's how it it's how it works.
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  It's how the mind works. They want to suck you back in
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  because they want, because they miss you and they want to get
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  that supply from yeah, y'all were right at the beginning.
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  They do miss the supply that they get for you, but some of
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  them can actually miss your presence.
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  Again, just because they miss your presence does not mean that
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  you should give them another chance.
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  It does not mean that you should go back to them.
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  It does not mean you should do anything differently.
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  This is not the hope video. Lee just gave me the hope I
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  needed. No, I didn't.
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  I got to be. I got to be stern with you.
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  I'm talking to you like a kid. No, I did not.
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  Do not take hope for me. I did not give you any.
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  I didn't give you any hope. Don't take it from me.
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  I didn't give you any, but y'all narcissistic people, toxic
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  people. This is how our minds work.
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  This is the inner workings of our minds.
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  We do this type of stuff. We miss people.
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  We try to Hoover them back in. Not everyone of them will try to
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  Hoover y'all. We know that not all narcissists
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  are going to try to Hoover you. Some narcissists miss you and
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  just allow it to just sit with it.
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  They miss you and they don't try to Hoover you because they've
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  done too much wrong. They don't think they can Hoover
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  you, you know, they, they, they, they feel like the, the chances
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  of rejection are so damn high that their ego can't take it.
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  So they don't reach out to you. They don't try to Hoover you.
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  They just let, they let sleeping dogs lie.
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  They let the relationship end. They don't, they don't try to
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  come back. They don't try to disrupt your
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  peace. They don't try to disrupt your
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  life. They don't try to do anything.
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  They just let you. They let bygones be bygones.
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  They disappear from the face of the earth.
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  That's because they miss you does not mean they'll try to
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  come back to you. Because they might miss you does
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  not mean that they'll try to Hoover you or anything like
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  that. It doesn't mean that at all.
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  So don't get it. Don't get it twisted and be
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  like, oh, they missed me, so I should go back, y'all?
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  No. Well, leave it.
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  They did. Well, guess that.
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  I guess I didn't matter, Lee, because they didn't reach out to
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  me. I guess they didn't miss me
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  again. Y'all hear what I just said?
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  Some of them will miss you and not reach out to you.
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  I will miss. Yeah.
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  I miss people that I will not try to Hoover.
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  Hell no. I ain't reaching back out to
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  them. My ego can't take it.
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  It's fragile. My ego is Charmin.
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  I got, I got Yeah, I got AI know how how fragile I got.
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  I got to be to have a Charmin ego.
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  My ego is made out of Charmin. Charmin.
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  Not even the ultra regular Charmin, not even Charmin Ultra,
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  just the regular Charmin. It's fragile, it's thin.
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  It's not even quilted. My my ego is not even quilted.
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  But no, not all of them will miss you.
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  We'll try to reach out to you now.
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  There are some narcissists. This is going to sound crazy
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  right here, y'all. There are some narcissistic
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  people who miss you, but instead of hoovering you, you know what
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  they do? They go find a new supply.
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  They miss you. Go out there and try to turn
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  their new supply into you. And there are.
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  They do. They might miss you so much and
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  be so obsessed with you that they try to turn the new supply
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  into you. Lee, I just saw the new supply
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  and she was a brunette. Now she's a blonde like me.
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  She's dresses like me. Get the same purse, same
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  clothes. They have a dog, the same name
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  of mine. What the hell is going on?
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  That person misses you, obsessed with you and and just doesn't
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  like the this model of person he has.
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  So he tries to change this person into you, whether whether
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  they know it or not. Sometimes they know it.
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  Sometimes they openly know it. Sometimes the new supply knows
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  it and tries to one up you, tries to be a better version of
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  you because the narcissist won't shut the hell up about you.
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  They bring you, they miss you, they obsess over you, they bring
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  you into the new relationship and try to change the new supply
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  into you. This can happen too.
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  I think a lot of people get confused and get twisted up, but
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  this can absolutely happen to so many damn people.
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  Like you got to be ready for it. You have to be prepared for it.
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  The mind of a narcissist, the mind of a an abuser, this is how
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  their minds work. They they get twisted.
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  Just because again, even if they're trying to turn the new
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  supply into you, does not mean that they will reach out to you,
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  surprise or not. Just because they miss you does
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  not mean they won't like and try to turn the new supply into you
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  Does not mean that they will Hoover you.
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  You might not even know to turn into a new supply into you
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  unless y'all have kids together y'all Co parenting or something.
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  Y'all go to the soccer game and like damn you like me like you
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  got your you got your new boyfriend growing dreads.
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  What the hell he ain't got no he bald headed you got you got that
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  man a hair transplant so he can grow some dreads so he can be
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  like me Girl, what you doing you narcissistic as hell.
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  You got to you got to get a hair implants to to get to grow
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  dreads. Damn we all doing.
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  But this is the mentality when they miss you, they'll start to
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  act weird. Y'all not again.
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  Not all of them will reach out to you.
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  Some of them can miss you and never you never hear from them
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  again. You won't know it.
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  Just know that you had a lasting impact on their life and they'd
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  like I said it doesn't mean again that you should reach out
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  to this person. This is not video.
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  I hope I didn't see the wrong message in the video.
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  Don't y'all don't Hoover. You do not reverse Hoover
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  yourselves because of this video.
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  I was looking for a sign and I saw the timely video say when
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  the narcissist misses you. And that must.
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  I was asking myself did my narcissist, the ex miss me?
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  And that video came right on my timeline.
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  So I reached I reached out, I hoovered myself, got my cheeks
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  clapped and now I got a baby on the way.
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  Now I got a baby on the way. Now I know what to do.
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  Is Lee hammerspoke? No, it ain't Lee that said
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  repeatedly, don't do it. Lee said do not do it.
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  And you did it. You did them.
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  You did it, you did them. This is what happens though.
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  Y'all, I'll be rooting for you. I want, I'll be wanting y'all to
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  have the best life you could possibly have.
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  I want y'all to be as strong as you possibly can be.
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  I want you to have, I want you to live the best life possible.
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  Because it's just because they miss you does not mean that
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  they're going to become better human beings.
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  Sometimes they miss. You've got to Hoover you back in
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  and make all these false promises to you in order to try
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  to get you back into their life. Please come back into me.
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  Please come back to me. I promise I go to therapy.
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  I miss you so much. I can't live without you.
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  Isn't amazing, Isn't it amazing? Isn't it amazing how they can't
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  seem to live without you when they were doing everything in
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  their power they could do to lose you?
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  Right? Is it that something crazy?
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  Isn't that crazy? I can't live without you.
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  I miss you so much. You didn't miss me while you are
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  here busting everybody wide open or busting a wide open for
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  everybody else. You didn't miss me then.
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  Don't miss me now. Miss me in my absence.
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  Miss me in my absence. If you don't appreciate me in my
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  presence, If you don't appreciate me in your presence,
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  this will be some fire. When I think about it again,
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  when I think about it again and that, that that phrase comes
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  back together, that's going to be fire.
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  They're going to sit on the Billboard with you, you know,
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  don't miss me in my absence if you didn't appreciate me in my
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  presence. Yeah, just because they miss you
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  does not mean that they will be a better human being towards
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  you. Y'all I keep, I keep having to
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  say that to you because I know how the minds of these toxic,
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  narcissistic abuse of people works.
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  I know how it works. I know how the mindset goes.
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  I know it, I know it, I know it, I know it.
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  I want y'all to win so bad, y'all.
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  But thing was, y'all think I've made to the end of my video,
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  y'all know I appreciate y'all every, every bit of y'all.
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  I missed y'all and I'm hoovering you right now.
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  This is the Hoover. This is me trying to Hoover you
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