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Dear Banya: A One-Woman Swarm · Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley & Tanya Rad

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  Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Beca Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio
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  Speaker 1: and two times People's Choice Award winning podcast.
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  Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in.
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  Speaker 3: Yes we are, another day another pod.
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  Speaker 4: That's right. You know I'm feeling a little bit lucky today.
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  Speaker 1: Oh tell me more, Mark, do you think there's any
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  Speaker 1: chance in the next ten minutes you could make a
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  Speaker 1: birthday game?
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  Speaker 5: I'm on it, absolutely, I can.
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  Speaker 4: I agree. Wow, what is it?
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  Speaker 3: What? Why are you feeling lucky? Well?
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  Speaker 4: I think it's my May Cause Miracles book.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, I was gonna ask you about that.
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  Speaker 4: It's so good. So what's the what do you what's
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  Speaker 4: the process that's.
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  Speaker 6: The latest miracle?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, well thanks for asking Easton. It's not like about
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  Speaker 1: creating miracles. It's about opening up your space.
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  Speaker 4: To receive them.
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  Speaker 6: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: We when we lean into fear, when we lean into
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  Speaker 1: negative self talk, when we leave into lean into like
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  Speaker 1: bad attitudes, when we lean into scarcity mindset, those are
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  Speaker 1: all blockages or miracles. So it's kind of like like,
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  Speaker 1: imagine there's like a spider web in front of you
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  Speaker 1: in life, and I'm just kind of like cleaning out
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  Speaker 1: the spider web.
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  Speaker 4: So I have a clear path.
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  Speaker 2: What are the like, what are the daily tasks to
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  Speaker 2: do that?
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  Speaker 1: Off the top of my head, it's hard to remember,
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  Speaker 1: but like the first they they're in chunks. Each week
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  Speaker 1: is like a different theme, and like the first theme,
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  Speaker 1: the first week was all about like identifying the fears
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  Speaker 1: that I have in my life and then kind of
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  Speaker 1: reverse talking about those fears, like pointing out the positives
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  Speaker 1: and like what could come instead of leaning into like
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  Speaker 1: the fear. One day it was like all about gratitude,
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  Speaker 1: like leaning into gratitude.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So they're weekly, they're daily, other daily, Yeah, but like
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  Speaker 1: every week is like a different kind of like what's
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  Speaker 1: the word.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, okay, gotcha. So that's why you feel you're film
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  Speaker 3: lucky today?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm just like good vibes, good cobsweb cobwebs are
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  Speaker 1: coming down, and.
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  Speaker 3: You major you were throwing paper into.
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  Speaker 1: The towns making buckets earlier. It just like feels like
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  Speaker 1: good vibes.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, all right, Well stay tuned.
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  Speaker 2: We do have some dear Bonio questions to get through
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  Speaker 2: before we play games.
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  Speaker 4: We gotta we gotta my advice hat feels strong.
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  Speaker 3: Oh wow, wow.
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  Speaker 4: Halfways have cleared? Whoa the guru hat?
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  Speaker 1: Is on.
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  Speaker 3: Well, let's jump in.
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  Speaker 5: Here we go from Brook. I have been a single
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  Speaker 5: mom of two young kids for a year and a
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  Speaker 5: half and I have my kids full time, so it's
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  Speaker 5: hard to date. I recently noticed the guy who moved
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  Speaker 5: into a house in our neighborhood and I'm thinking about
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  Speaker 5: approaching him. I'm a pretty reserved and shy person, so
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  Speaker 5: this is out of my comfort zone to approach a man. First.
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  Speaker 5: I wanted to get your thoughts on how to introduce
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  Speaker 5: myself and find out if he's single. I've only seen
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  Speaker 5: him outside a few times our daily family walked. I
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  Speaker 5: thought about leaving him a note in his mailbox. Is
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  Speaker 5: that creepy?
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  Speaker 2: I think personally I would stick to you know when
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  Speaker 2: you run into each other, or you could leave him
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  Speaker 2: like I would say, like a basket of Like okay,
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  Speaker 2: well I would say basket cookies, but like times are
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  Speaker 2: just weird now, but like maybe an unopened bottle of
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  Speaker 2: like champagne or something, say like welcome to the neighborhood,
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  Speaker 2: so that it's friendly but like thoughtful.
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  Speaker 1: Well, we don't know he should recently moved in. I
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  Speaker 1: feel like there is a grace period, like if he
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  Speaker 1: moved in six months ago and she brings him a
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  Speaker 1: bottle of champagne, saying welcome to the neighborhood.
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  Speaker 4: It's a little late, No.
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  Speaker 2: Would just be like, I've been busy with my two kids,
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  Speaker 2: but I wanted to welcome you to the neighborhood. That way,
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  Speaker 2: you just throw it in there that that you're you've
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  Speaker 2: got kids, and you're If he sees you out, he'll
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  Speaker 2: be like, oh, that might be the girl that left
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  Speaker 2: me the champagne.
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  Speaker 1: So I love the note in the mailbox. Personally, I
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  Speaker 1: think you start out with a lot of eye contact.
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  Speaker 3: Oh my god, that's really intent.
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  Speaker 1: So during the walks, you give him some eye contact,
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  Speaker 1: you exchanged some pleasantry.
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  Speaker 3: Show me what that would look like for you.
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  Speaker 4: Like you're on a walk and I lock eyes with you.
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  Speaker 4: It's cute, well, smirk eye contact.
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  Speaker 1: So heavy eye contact on your walks, Okay, establish some
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  Speaker 1: sort of pleasantry, some sort of interaction in that way.
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  Speaker 1: After a couple of those, then I say, go into
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  Speaker 1: the mailbox.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, well, because who cares?
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  Speaker 1: If he doesn't like you, he's not going to follow
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  Speaker 1: through with whatever you ask him to do in the mailbox,
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  Speaker 1: No harm, no foul, Who cares?
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  Speaker 2: I think you leave a bottle of champagne, say welcome
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  Speaker 2: to the neighborhood, and then when you see him on
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  Speaker 2: a walk, they like, hey, like, I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: I left you this champagne.
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  Speaker 2: Or maybe he'll say like, hey, did you leave me
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  Speaker 2: the champagne, and then that starts a conversation.
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  Speaker 3: That's what I would do.
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  Speaker 5: How about you this next time you see him outside
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  Speaker 5: of the house, when you're on your walks, you say, Hi, Hi,
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  Speaker 5: you the neighborhood.
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  Speaker 3: Hi.
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  Speaker 5: I just want to let you know I'm brook, I
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  Speaker 5: live right around the corner. Nice to meet you.
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  Speaker 2: She just doesn't know when that time's gonna happen, so
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  Speaker 2: she's trying to expedite that. You my others, my other
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  Speaker 2: thought was just wait till you see him out again.
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  Speaker 2: Keep it simple.
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  Speaker 4: But I have the eye contact can break barriers.
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  Speaker 5: And really weird people out there.
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  Speaker 4: Probably if he is weirded out by some eye contact,
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  Speaker 4: he's not your guy. He's just not.
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  Speaker 3: I would just be really super cool, casual and like.
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  Speaker 1: Hey, we can't all for seed in life being cool
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  Speaker 1: and casual like becatilla. I'm just gonna say that as
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  Speaker 1: a fact. Know all have all people swarming to be
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  Speaker 1: with us. Some of us have to work for it. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: how how was that my life at all?
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  Speaker 4: You had a lot, You.
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  Speaker 1: Had a lot of swarmage in your day before you
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  Speaker 1: were locked up.
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  Speaker 3: That was like ten years ago. Whatever.
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  Speaker 1: They still swarmed you. I was never swarmed. I had
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  Speaker 1: to swarm.
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  Speaker 4: I had to.
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  Speaker 1: I had to the honey I swarm.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, if they're not swarming, you go out and swarm.
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  Speaker 5: Exactly.
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  Speaker 1: So Becca was swarmed and I was the swarmer. There's
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  Speaker 1: two types of people in the world, and I'm by
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  Speaker 1: with Brooke. If she's on my side. You got to
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  Speaker 1: put yourself out there.
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  Speaker 2: All right, Brooke, you have three options. Heavy eye contact
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  Speaker 2: that could break barriers, or put security out. Put the
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  Speaker 2: letter in the mailbox after.
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  Speaker 3: Oh wow, double whammy.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, heavy eye contact plus leather letter in the mailbox.
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  Speaker 2: I say, leave a bottle champagne, Welcome to the neighborhood.
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  Speaker 2: See you around. And then Marcus just wait, wait until
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  Speaker 2: you run into.
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  Speaker 5: Him conversation First, to kind of suss out the situation,
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  Speaker 5: he made something. Oh yeah, I moved out of here. First.
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  Speaker 5: My wife's with the kids back in New Hampshire and
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  Speaker 5: they're coming out here. Like, who knows, get a little
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  Speaker 5: bit of life story first before you make a big
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  Speaker 5: thing that's going to make it super awkward in the future.
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  Speaker 3: I don't think any of these make it. The letter
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  Speaker 3: in the mailbox, what.
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  Speaker 4: Is that you bring him a bottle of champagne?
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  Speaker 2: Oh, well, then you can gift it to someone. Well,
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  Speaker 2: oh was that going to come up in the first conversation?
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  Speaker 6: If then, are you working the steps?
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  Speaker 1: I'm just saying, like a bottle of the alcohol is
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  Speaker 1: a little risky, bottle of milk.
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  Speaker 2: Club soda whatever, milk okay, broke good luck, But I
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  Speaker 2: don't know that we helped you at all. But we
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  Speaker 2: did get three different options, so keep us posted on.
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  Speaker 5: All right, d says, Oh, I'm so yeah. We'll got
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  Speaker 5: one time for one more before we take a break.
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  Speaker 5: Dan's been listening to Scrubbing In since she was sixteen
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  Speaker 5: and just got her license to be a therapist. She's
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  Speaker 5: now twenty four, pursuing a doctorate to become a therapist.
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  Speaker 5: Hearing Beca and Tony each we talking about their lives
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  Speaker 5: and friendship has built me up in so many ways
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  Speaker 5: as a young, confident woman. Wow, my girlfriend and I've
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  Speaker 5: been dating almost six years want to get engaged in
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  Speaker 5: next spring. Wedding planning is tricky because in the six
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  Speaker 5: weeks we've been dating, my girlfriend's parents have expressed how
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  Speaker 5: disapproving they are for religious reasons. They've never acknowledged us
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  Speaker 5: as a couple. They've never had me over to their home.
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  Speaker 5: They've never been invited to family events. I've never been
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  Speaker 5: invited to family events. Talking about our weddings brought about
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  Speaker 5: questions about how we go about the ceremony without her
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  Speaker 5: parents and most of her families. Specifically, how do you
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  Speaker 5: think would be best for us to walk down the aisle?
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  Speaker 5: I always thought I'd be walked down by both of
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  Speaker 5: my parents, but my girlfriend's expressed it that would be
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  Speaker 5: difficult for her because no one and her family would
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  Speaker 5: be willing to walk her down the aisle. Do I
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  Speaker 5: walk alone and risk disappointing my own parents, who are
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  Speaker 5: super supporting and loving. By the way, I'm looking for
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  Speaker 5: creative solutions for walking down the aisle and the wedding
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  Speaker 5: as a whole with her family being unavailable to the idea.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, this is so hard. First of all, you listening
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  Speaker 3: since her sixteen just blew my mind.
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  Speaker 6: And now right now she's engaged. That's insane. Just started
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  Speaker 6: the show last year.
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  Speaker 2: I'm so happy that you have found someone that you
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  Speaker 2: love and want to be with forever. I think navigating
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  Speaker 2: people who are not approving of your relationship, especially family,
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  Speaker 2: is really challenging and difficult, and I don't think that
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  Speaker 2: pain goes away no matter how excited you are to
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  Speaker 2: be with someone and have like a celebration like this.
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  Speaker 2: I think the main thing is the beauty of life
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  Speaker 2: and getting older is getting to find people who are
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  Speaker 2: around you who are your chosen family. And I know
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  Speaker 2: we use that term a lot, but I think those
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  Speaker 2: people that you surround yourself with and that are supportive
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  Speaker 2: and make you feel so loved and seen are so valuable,
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  Speaker 2: and I think that focusing on them is going to
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  Speaker 2: be really important for your or future fiance, future wife.
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  Speaker 2: And I think when it comes to walking down the aisle,
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  Speaker 2: I don't think you should not have your parents walk
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  Speaker 2: you down, because if that's something you've always dreamed of,
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  Speaker 2: I think it's really important for you to get to
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  Speaker 2: have that moment. But maybe your girlfriend or your partner
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  Speaker 2: can find either someone who is like a father figure
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  Speaker 2: or a sibling, or someone who's really special to them
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  Speaker 2: to walk them down the aisle, or maybe your parents.
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  Speaker 1: I would say too to say, I think your parents
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  Speaker 1: should walk both of you down.
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  Speaker 2: The aisle, or maybe one at a time so you
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  Speaker 2: both get your moment. But I think that could be
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  Speaker 2: really special. Since your parents are supportive and they're going
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  Speaker 2: to be her in laws, then getting to like introduce
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  Speaker 2: that dynamic and to the people that are most important
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  Speaker 2: to you, I think is a really could be a
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  Speaker 2: really impactful special moment for them. And to be honest, like,
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  Speaker 2: at the end of the day, her parents are the
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  Speaker 2: ones that are going to have to live with the
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  Speaker 2: fact that they weren't a part of that and that
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  Speaker 2: someone else took on the role to walk their daughter
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  Speaker 2: down the aisle and they missed out on something that
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  Speaker 2: was so beautiful and important. And your partner should be
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  Speaker 2: able to celebrate being loved and being seen by you
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  Speaker 2: and not letting that damper it even though I know
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  Speaker 2: it's like a painful thing.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I wanted to say too, sorry that you guys
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  Speaker 1: are going through that. Yeah, I it just it sucks.
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  Speaker 1: It's super selfish and it's not okay. But I also
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  Speaker 1: had the idea of your parents, like walking one of
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  Speaker 1: you down at a time, like taking one up, leaving
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  Speaker 1: one going back and taking the other end. Because I
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  Speaker 1: do think honoring your parents that way because they've been
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  Speaker 1: so supportive, and I just think that's such a beautiful
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  Speaker 1: way to honor your parents. And then kind of, uh,
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  Speaker 1: I don't want to. I don't want to say, like
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  Speaker 1: stick it to her parents.
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  Speaker 3: But like I kind of kind of like listen, like
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  Speaker 3: you guys want to be here.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I do have support elsewhere, which is it You
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  Speaker 2: never can replace the feeling of getting support from your
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  Speaker 2: own parents. Like I don't think that's a realistic expectation,
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  Speaker 2: but I do think I don't think it's fair for
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  Speaker 2: you to take away your moment with your parents on
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  Speaker 2: a day that you've probably dreamed of in a moment
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  Speaker 2: you've dreamed of. And I think you're and you have time,
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  Speaker 2: like you're not even engaged yet, so you have time
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  Speaker 2: to kind of figure out what that would look like.
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  Speaker 3: But there are so.
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  Speaker 2: Many people who, even people who are in queer relationships,
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  Speaker 2: who have family dynamics where it doesn't make sense to
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  Speaker 2: have a parent walk them down the aisle or they
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  Speaker 2: walk down alone, and it's going to be so beautiful
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  Speaker 2: either way. And I think just knowing that your partner
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  Speaker 2: is going to your girlfriend is going to have moments
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  Speaker 2: where it feels really sad and heavy and that may
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  Speaker 2: not ever go away, but she's also going to get
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  Speaker 2: to have beautiful moments of seeing who is there to
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  Speaker 2: support her and focusing on that.
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  Speaker 6: I like to throw out one more thing. Allison's father
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  Speaker 6: tragically passed before we got married, and so talking about walking,
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  Speaker 6: who is you know, how is she going to walk
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  Speaker 6: down the aisle was a big topic. And we walked
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  Speaker 6: each other down the air like there was no one
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  Speaker 6: up there, you know, from like I wasn't up there already.
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  Speaker 6: And then she and I walked down together and it
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  Speaker 6: was a really spared moment for her and I. And
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  Speaker 6: that's another option, you know.
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  Speaker 3: I do love that too.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: I Also we went to Dean and Kaylen's wedding and
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  Speaker 3: Kaylen walked down by herself and it was so it
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  Speaker 3: was like a movie scene. I'll never forget that, like
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  Speaker 3: kiss me by Yeah Rich I was playing.
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  Speaker 2: It felt like in the weather was beautiful, and she
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  Speaker 2: walked down and it was so powerful that she was
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  Speaker 2: by herself. So you know, maybe your girlfriend can find
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  Speaker 2: feeling empowered by that too.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So I'm really sorry you're going through that. And I'm
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  Speaker 2: also so happy you found someone that you want to
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  Speaker 2: be with forever. And there's there is beauty there two
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  Speaker 2: things can exist at the same time, and I've learned
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  Speaker 2: that a lot.
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  Speaker 4: So say it again for the people in the back.
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  Speaker 3: We love you and we're so happy for you.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, so happy for you.
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  Speaker 1: Dee.
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  Speaker 3: We need to take a break, we do.
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  Speaker 5: Indeed, all right, we'll be right back.
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  Speaker 3: We're ah, gotcha.
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  Speaker 5: I think Becka won every single commercial break this whole week.
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  Speaker 4: I would like to point out she did not, in
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  Speaker 4: fact on Mondays.
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  Speaker 5: Well for the birthday game for her from anonymous. Am
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  Speaker 5: I crazy? Or is this normal? This is my second
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  Speaker 5: Mother's Day. My husband's the best person ever. He is
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  Speaker 5: Robbie two point zero. Wow, He's everything I could ever want.
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  Speaker 5: I'm not complaining about him, But my question is about
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  Speaker 5: Mother's Day. On the day itself, he posted a story
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  Speaker 5: about his mom, who he's really close to, but he
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  Speaker 5: never posted anything about me, the mother of his child.
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  Speaker 5: I was a little sad about that, so we had a conversation.
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  Speaker 5: He told me I'm not his mother.
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  Speaker 4: Oh.
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  Speaker 5: In a nice way. And that's why I didn't post
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  Speaker 5: anything about me. I know this sicilian stop, but I
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  Speaker 5: shouldn't be caring about it because the oh day was perfect.
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  Speaker 5: He took care of me, he gave me the sweetest things.
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  Speaker 5: But am I crazy for feeling sadilled down because he
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  Speaker 5: didn't an Instagram story for me?
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  Speaker 4: I would murder.
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  Speaker 3: I'm a murder.
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  Speaker 4: Murder murder.
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  Speaker 3: Oh my god, I'm murder.
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  Speaker 4: Here's the thing.
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  Speaker 1: If he didn't post anything on Mother's Day, I'd be fine.
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  Speaker 1: I would be like Robbie two point zero. You're good,
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  Speaker 1: we're good, we're solid.
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  Speaker 4: Thank you for me.
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  Speaker 3: But he did other things in person.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, she said the day was perfect. He was so great, great, right,
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  Speaker 1: no problem. You decide to post a public shout out
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  Speaker 1: to your mother, but not to the mother of your
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  Speaker 1: child is absolutely diabolic.
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  Speaker 3: Di'monical, and you're not You're not.
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  Speaker 4: You are not my mother. No, but I am the mother.
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  Speaker 2: Honestly, she is the matriarch of your your unit.
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  Speaker 3: Now she's a matriarch.
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  Speaker 1: I would be I don't know what should be angrier.
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  Speaker 3: That is my advice.
• 15:59
  Speaker 1: I don't let me tell you father's days around the corner.
• 16:01
  Speaker 1: You better do a carousel of your dad and like
• 16:06
  Speaker 1: your neighbor's dad and your your word.
• 16:11
  Speaker 4: Father, yeah, father, priests, the community church. You shout out
• 16:15
  Speaker 4: every father in your life. Yeah, but you except for
• 16:19
  Speaker 4: him because he's not true daddy.
• 16:21
  Speaker 5: Yankee should.
• 16:24
  Speaker 3: Why did you shout out all those guys? Well, you're
• 16:27
  Speaker 3: not my dad, Yeah, you're not my father.
• 16:29
  Speaker 4: My father. That might be the petty approach, but I'm
• 16:34
  Speaker 4: all for it. Right around the corner, I'm over it.
• 16:37
  Speaker 4: It's right around the corner.
• 16:38
  Speaker 2: The amount of things that moms go through to be
• 16:41
  Speaker 2: a mom.
• 16:42
  Speaker 3: For your husband not to do a simple post while he's.
• 16:45
  Speaker 2: Praising mommy, mommy dearest is in furying the boy mom thing. No, no,
• 16:56
  Speaker 2: you should be angrier.
• 16:57
  Speaker 3: And that's my take.
• 16:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I honestly like you should be much angrier, Like
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: like like a fact to give us his number.
• 17:06
  Speaker 5: To keep in mind, he's Robby two point zero best
• 17:10
  Speaker 5: guy ever.
• 17:10
  Speaker 6: Let's remember that I didn't forget that.
• 17:12
  Speaker 4: Okay, goods on me. That was not lost on me.
• 17:17
  Speaker 3: Robby knows, Robbie one point oh knows better.
• 17:22
  Speaker 2: The fact is if he had been like, oh my god, baby,
• 17:25
  Speaker 2: you're so right, I.
• 17:26
  Speaker 3: Don't I was just thinking.
• 17:26
  Speaker 4: About my mom, Like, you're right, you are.
• 17:29
  Speaker 2: The mom in my life, like that is so important.
• 17:33
  Speaker 2: Next year, this will not happen. And I'm really sorry,
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: but that responds being.
• 17:38
  Speaker 3: You are not my mother.
• 17:40
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, you're not my mom.
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: It's like I don't even know what I would do.
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: I honestly think I would do the Father's Day thing,
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: just like match the energy. Yeah, you want to play
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: this game? Two can be on the court, buddy.
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: Oh.
• 18:05
  Speaker 3: Someone wrote into my podcast I listened to and it
• 18:09
  Speaker 3: seems like they had a similar situation. This is their advice.
• 18:12
  Speaker 5: She should play this for him. They would both get
• 18:13
  Speaker 5: a big kick out of it.
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, or played this for him, or wait till
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: Father's Day and give him a taste of his own medicine.
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: Whatever you choose, we don't support your support.
• 18:22
  Speaker 3: Listen and don't.
• 18:24
  Speaker 5: Yes, well, all right, here's a fun one before we
• 18:27
  Speaker 5: get mom.
• 18:32
  Speaker 2: Uh.
• 18:33
  Speaker 5: This is from Marissa, Becaitania, Mark and Easton. What are
• 18:36
  Speaker 5: your five most used emojis? What do you think they mean?
• 18:39
  Speaker 5: And how do you use them? How do you how
• 18:41
  Speaker 5: do we know such a thing?
• 18:42
  Speaker 4: Okay, Like you go.
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: To your text message and then you go to the
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: emoji like you're gonna put an emoji and your top five.
• 18:50
  Speaker 3: Are is it going down?
• 18:52
  Speaker 5: Yeah?
• 18:52
  Speaker 4: Or cross it goes down?
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: So like the first one, two, three, four on the
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: left are the ones you use the most, and the
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: next four over are the ones you used the next most.
• 19:00
  Speaker 5: Well, I think these are most recent, aren't they?
• 19:03
  Speaker 6: They are recent?
• 19:04
  Speaker 4: Oh so it's not most How do you use your favorites? Well, well,
• 19:09
  Speaker 4: e Scrubbert, we can't answer that.
• 19:10
  Speaker 5: Because we don't have and I can look into it.
• 19:12
  Speaker 5: Maybe there's a way to do it.
• 19:14
  Speaker 3: Well, I think those are your most use.
• 19:16
  Speaker 5: So no, because I have a gravestone on mine, I've
• 19:18
  Speaker 5: us did exactly one time. It was like a week ago,
• 19:21
  Speaker 5: So that's not my most use. Morbid everybody puts the skull
• 19:26
  Speaker 5: and crossbones. I can't do it.
• 19:27
  Speaker 4: Oh yeah, oh like dead laughing, Sure.
• 19:30
  Speaker 5: I don't remember.
• 19:32
  Speaker 3: That's true.
• 19:32
  Speaker 2: I have a black heart, and I never used a
• 19:34
  Speaker 2: black heart, but I recently use one, so.
• 19:36
  Speaker 6: And it's different on my phone. I'm on my laptop.
• 19:39
  Speaker 3: WHOA, we're having.
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: Some complications with this question. Well, let's just name some
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: of our tops that you feel like. Name some from
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: that section that you do use all the time, because
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: mine are all in there.
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: Okay, mine is the praying hands. Okay, the ones that
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: go like this, I.
• 19:56
  Speaker 3: Don't have that.
• 19:57
  Speaker 6: Some people say it's a high five too, yeah great.
• 20:00
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 20:00
  Speaker 4: I also have the hearthand I have that too.
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 20:04
  Speaker 4: I have the thumbs up okay, classic.
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: And then I have the guy with the eyes that's like, oh.
• 20:12
  Speaker 3: Like wide eyed.
• 20:13
  Speaker 4: Yeah, like I'm in my bed so little love.
• 20:15
  Speaker 6: I am like it's like shocked or embarrassed.
• 20:18
  Speaker 4: Yes, yes, I think it's shocked.
• 20:19
  Speaker 3: Okay, what about you, Mark? Did you know?
• 20:22
  Speaker 5: Okay, it says it says the chick out of the left. Okay, what.
• 20:28
  Speaker 6: Mine. Let's say I use the devil smiling face a lot.
• 20:31
  Speaker 5: I like that.
• 20:32
  Speaker 3: The purple guy, Yeah.
• 20:33
  Speaker 6: Purple, I love him. I use the person speaking. It's
• 20:37
  Speaker 6: like a silhoute of a face.
• 20:39
  Speaker 4: I like that one too.
• 20:41
  Speaker 6: Your favorite one. This is a new emoji is I
• 20:43
  Speaker 6: don't know how you describe this, but it is like
• 20:46
  Speaker 6: it's wide eyes, but they're on opposite sides of the head. Uh.
• 20:51
  Speaker 6: It's it's like kind of bulging.
• 20:53
  Speaker 3: Oh, I don't I mean to have.
• 20:56
  Speaker 4: Let's see, I don't have that. Yeah, I don't have that.
• 21:01
  Speaker 5: Oh wow, that's cute.
• 21:02
  Speaker 3: I love I like him.
• 21:03
  Speaker 5: It's like a Boston Terrier.
• 21:04
  Speaker 6: That is, that's Joe Jonas's uh profile picture.
• 21:09
  Speaker 3: That's funny anyway, Yeah, I.
• 21:12
  Speaker 6: Love I love that and uh, I mean shell, I
• 21:15
  Speaker 6: keep going. I have many more, the Wilting Rose. I
• 21:17
  Speaker 6: use a lot.
• 21:18
  Speaker 3: Oh wow, this is so interesting all.
• 21:20
  Speaker 5: Right here, Well she asked me, So, I'm just gonna
• 21:22
  Speaker 5: tell you. I used the one with the teeth straight across,
• 21:24
  Speaker 5: not smiling. Use that one a lot. I don't know
• 21:26
  Speaker 5: what I mean.
• 21:26
  Speaker 3: Nervous.
• 21:27
  Speaker 5: Yeah, I usually like when I asked, like Sabrina, hey,
• 21:29
  Speaker 5: would you mind? Can I get that information earlier than usual?
• 21:32
  Speaker 5: Teeth like hey like that. He's got a lot. I
• 21:35
  Speaker 5: used the smiling tear and the and the and the
• 21:39
  Speaker 5: eyes filling up eyes yeah yeah, yeah yeah, emotional ones. Yeah,
• 21:43
  Speaker 5: I used to.
• 21:44
  Speaker 4: I don't know why mine didn't pop up.
• 21:45
  Speaker 5: I use that ah like I'm upset and uh and
• 21:51
  Speaker 5: then thinking, oh used thinking a lot, actually a lot. Yeah.
• 21:55
  Speaker 3: See I have the cry laughing one.
• 21:58
  Speaker 2: Uh huh, solid, have the'll figure a shock sometimes just
• 22:04
  Speaker 2: that's what you need to say.
• 22:07
  Speaker 3: I have this one like clock it.
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 22:11
  Speaker 4: I want to use that one more too, And.
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: Then I have the dead skull and then the heart
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: heart with like heart, the smiley.
• 22:18
  Speaker 4: With a heart.
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: So I used to use the school a lot, but
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: I quit because I don't want to be dead.
• 22:26
  Speaker 4: I want to be alive. Do you know what I mean?
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: Like I hate using like dying, like I'm not using
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: that anymore, okay, because I want to be like living okay.
• 22:36
  Speaker 2: Something probably thank you for sharing that.
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: Yeah, So in case you wonder why where the school
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: went and all my emojis, Oh yeah, I retired okay
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: for now?
• 22:46
  Speaker 4: No no, no, no more, only living?
• 22:48
  Speaker 3: All right? So is it time?
• 22:51
  Speaker 5: I'm ready? I got a good in for you coming
• 22:54
  Speaker 5: up next, he finished, Here we go. I've got the
• 23:15
  Speaker 5: birthdays for this week. I have seven categories, seven items.
• 23:20
  Speaker 5: We're gonna start over here with Tanya and we go around.
• 23:23
  Speaker 4: As such the raining champ.
• 23:24
  Speaker 5: Tanya is the raining champ, and that's why we begin
• 23:26
  Speaker 5: with her. Is everyone ready? We're ready. You'll hire a
• 23:29
  Speaker 5: lower today. They will all give a number, and then
• 23:31
  Speaker 5: we'll see who's the closest. If there is a tie,
• 23:36
  Speaker 5: whoever did not go over wins fair. Yes, here we go.
• 23:40
  Speaker 5: Today is not a great day for birthdays, but it
• 23:43
  Speaker 5: is today's birthday for Gautier. And if you don't know Gautier,
• 23:47
  Speaker 5: he's behind someone I used to know that song. How
• 23:51
  Speaker 5: old is he today? Forty two forty two, Becca, forty four,
• 23:56
  Speaker 5: forty forty Easton chees forty he is forty six. And
• 24:02
  Speaker 5: that's a point, Rebecca, jelly wow, I know it hurts,
• 24:07
  Speaker 5: all right, Next up, give her a point. This is
• 24:11
  Speaker 5: I did one point. I don't think he didn't.
• 24:13
  Speaker 6: Okay, I'll remember.
• 24:16
  Speaker 5: This is coming up on Saturday. This person's birthday. She
• 24:18
  Speaker 5: was not someone else terribly familiar with, and then suddenly
• 24:20
  Speaker 5: she became the most popular person or the most famous
• 24:23
  Speaker 5: person in America. Taylor Frankie Paul. How old is she
• 24:27
  Speaker 5: this weekend? Becca? She's twenty eight, twenty eight Easton? I
• 24:33
  Speaker 5: think thirty one, thirty one time, yeah, twenty nine, thirty
• 24:39
  Speaker 5: two Easton. That's the point. Very nice.
• 24:43
  Speaker 3: She was in her twenties.
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: I didn't think I saw her celebrate at thirtieth, but
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: I don't follow her, so I might have figured I
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: would have seen that somewhere.
• 24:52
  Speaker 5: All right, funny man and the host of the Price
• 24:55
  Speaker 5: is right. Drew Carrey's birthday is this weekend? How old
• 24:58
  Speaker 5: is Drew Carrey Easton is fifty six fifty six, Tanya
• 25:04
  Speaker 5: sixty seven sixty seven, Beca.
• 25:07
  Speaker 3: Oh, I have a huge I'm gonna say fifty nine.
• 25:16
  Speaker 5: Drew Carry this weekend turned sixty eight.
• 25:19
  Speaker 4: Years old, six seven currently.
• 25:24
  Speaker 3: He threw me.
• 25:25
  Speaker 4: I was like, wait, he's definitely on his fifties.
• 25:28
  Speaker 6: He looks good.
• 25:29
  Speaker 5: It's definitely good, Tanya, were going to you on this one.
• 25:32
  Speaker 5: I'm changing up a little bit here. I have two
• 25:35
  Speaker 5: celebrities this weekend that were both born on the exact
• 25:38
  Speaker 5: same day. So you have two different people to think
• 25:40
  Speaker 5: about when you guess their ages born on the exact
• 25:44
  Speaker 5: same day and same year. Yes, Wow, pop singer Jewel
• 25:49
  Speaker 5: and Jeopardy host Ken Jennings. They were born on the
• 25:51
  Speaker 5: same day of the same year. How old are they
• 25:53
  Speaker 5: both turning this weekend?
• 25:58
  Speaker 4: I wish I knew what Ken Jennings will. I have
• 26:01
  Speaker 4: no idea.
• 26:02
  Speaker 5: Well, you know Jewel, I know Jewel.
• 26:04
  Speaker 4: Doesn't give me much. I'm gonna say forty seven.
• 26:08
  Speaker 5: Forty seven. Becca, I'm gonna say forty nine, forty nine Eastern.
• 26:16
  Speaker 6: They both strike me as young gen X forty.
• 26:20
  Speaker 5: Six, so away, I'm sorry giving to me again.
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: Forty seven forty nine forty six fifty two Becka.
• 26:27
  Speaker 5: I gets the point and she leads two to one.
• 26:30
  Speaker 5: On Sunday Dancing with the Stars, dancer Mark Ballas has
• 26:36
  Speaker 5: a birthday. Mark Ballas, how old is he? This weekend?
• 26:41
  Speaker 5: I feel like there's somebody You've met both of you
• 26:45
  Speaker 5: many times at Easton. I would imagine I've not met him,
• 26:47
  Speaker 5: Oh my.
• 26:48
  Speaker 4: Gosh, many many times.
• 26:51
  Speaker 3: I'm gonna say thirty.
• 26:52
  Speaker 5: Eight thirty eight Eastern thirty six forty he is forty
• 26:58
  Speaker 5: spot On to Tanya to Becca one Easton, moving on,
• 27:05
  Speaker 5: I've got two more here. I mean it a tiebreaker,
• 27:07
  Speaker 5: I don't think so. Yesterday was a birthday for a
• 27:09
  Speaker 5: legend Share. This one goes to Easton.
• 27:17
  Speaker 6: Share is.
• 27:20
  Speaker 5: Seventy one, seventy one, Tanya seventy eight, seventy eight. Becca ooh.
• 27:33
  Speaker 3: Seventy six.
• 27:36
  Speaker 5: I see yesterday Wednesday, Share had a big birthday, the
• 27:41
  Speaker 5: big eighties, oh eighty.
• 27:45
  Speaker 3: And I was like, there's no way she's.
• 27:46
  Speaker 4: Eighty seventy nine. Wow, I'm good.
• 27:49
  Speaker 5: Here's where we are. Tanya three, Becka to Easton one.
• 27:52
  Speaker 5: I have one more to go. So if Tanya gets it,
• 27:55
  Speaker 5: she wins. If Beca gets it, we'll have a tie breaker.
• 27:58
  Speaker 5: If Easton gets it, Tanya wins because it'll be three
• 28:01
  Speaker 5: to two to two at that point.
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: Wow, if you get it, I went like, yeah, if
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: you just get it straight, Yeah, yeah.
• 28:07
  Speaker 5: That's right. This is the time there's questions she could end.
• 28:09
  Speaker 4: It right here, last person.
• 28:11
  Speaker 5: You know, both of these people, because it's the same
• 28:13
  Speaker 5: situation to celebrities, same day.
• 28:16
  Speaker 4: Really was not fair.
• 28:17
  Speaker 5: You know both of these DJ Marshmallow, which is tough
• 28:21
  Speaker 5: because we haven't seen his face.
• 28:23
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 28:24
  Speaker 5: So to help you with that, I'll tell you that
• 28:25
  Speaker 5: on the same day and the same year was born
• 28:27
  Speaker 5: Sam Smith, Marshmallow. Marshmallow and Sam Smith, same day, same year.
• 28:32
  Speaker 5: How old are they turning? How did they turn on.
• 28:36
  Speaker 4: Tuesday thirty seven?
• 28:42
  Speaker 5: Well, the game is not over because that is not right.
• 28:44
  Speaker 3: Shoot, I was going to say that. Shoot, I'm going
• 28:55
  Speaker 3: thirty six.
• 28:56
  Speaker 5: Going thirty six Easton, it goes to you. If you
• 29:00
  Speaker 5: win this, Tanya wins.
• 29:02
  Speaker 6: Can we make my point worth ten thousand?
• 29:07
  Speaker 5: You cannot, okay?
• 29:08
  Speaker 6: I think Sam Smith and Marshmellow are thirty nine.
• 29:13
  Speaker 5: Went what you went? Thirty six times? No, thirty seven
• 29:15
  Speaker 5: times thirty six? Becca thirty nine? They turn thirty four?
• 29:22
  Speaker 5: Is the closest and we will have a tie.
• 29:25
  Speaker 4: I knew he was younger than me.
• 29:27
  Speaker 3: I know, I was like, I know, he's younger than me, but.
• 29:31
  Speaker 5: Was getting warm in here. My goodness, Wait, how old
• 29:35
  Speaker 5: did they turn?
• 29:36
  Speaker 3: Thirty four?
• 29:37
  Speaker 5: Thirty four?
• 29:37
  Speaker 3: Are significantly younger?
• 29:39
  Speaker 4: I mean, come on, three years, that's not significant. That's
• 29:42
  Speaker 4: like pennies. All right, Victoria Garret Victoria Garrick Brown is
• 29:47
  Speaker 4: significantly younger. Yeah, yeah, yeah, respectfully.
• 29:49
  Speaker 5: All right, I'm going to go back to Monday and
• 29:51
  Speaker 5: grab somebody. Somebody had a birthday on Monday. All right,
• 29:55
  Speaker 5: here we go. This goes to Becca Easton. You will
• 29:58
  Speaker 5: not be a part of this. You will give the age,
• 30:04
  Speaker 5: and Tanya will say, Hi, you're a lower. Oh hire
• 30:06
  Speaker 5: a lower because it's only tour. Okay, okay, okay, Becca.
• 30:11
  Speaker 5: On Monday, it was a birthday four Tina Fay. How
• 30:16
  Speaker 5: old did Tina Fay turn on Monday?
• 30:29
  Speaker 3: I'm going to say Tina Fey turned forty five?
• 30:33
  Speaker 5: Higher, she's fifty six.
• 30:44
  Speaker 3: She was lucky today.
• 30:46
  Speaker 4: Let's do something else.
• 30:48
  Speaker 3: What do we do.
• 30:52
  Speaker 4: Something?
• 30:53
  Speaker 3: What's on a roll?
• 30:56
  Speaker 2: What's the place near Palm Springs?
• 31:03
  Speaker 4: I don't know. I'm not a big gambler, but like
• 31:05
  Speaker 4: I gotta do something.
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I like to thank myself and my knowledge and
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: what about Mark my brand the list.
• 31:17
  Speaker 4: No, I'd like to not think Mark because Kat was his.
• 31:22
  Speaker 5: Name is Ken.
• 31:24
  Speaker 3: I think you're thinking of someone else.
• 31:30
  Speaker 2: Wait before we go, Jong, before we go, we have
• 31:35
  Speaker 2: a really special guest on Tuesday.
• 31:39
  Speaker 3: We're not here Memorial Day.
• 31:40
  Speaker 4: Yes, spoiler alert.
• 31:42
  Speaker 3: Were vacation on Monday for Memorial Day.
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: So just know we're coming on Tuesday with Hailey Kyoko
• 31:49
  Speaker 2: in the building.
• 31:50
  Speaker 4: In the flesh. Girls like girls.
• 31:53
  Speaker 2: Like girls, and we're gonna be talking all about everything
• 31:57
  Speaker 2: she has going on because it's not just one thing,
• 31:58
  Speaker 2: because she is a multi high school happening. So everyone
• 32:03
  Speaker 2: tune in next week and have a wonderful week.
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: And we love you some may we love you Boom