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Playing small doesn't help anyone. · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places for chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey good morning, my friends
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  from the chicken coop so I want to talk to you about playing
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  small and doing it because you are afraid of what others are
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  going to think of you. Or you don't want to make others
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  feel bad or in this current situation, we are culturally.
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  Lots of people are wanting to play small so that they don't
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  offend other people. And I just have to call this out
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  because boy is that a colossal error in judgment and mistake
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  one should never ever ever play small.
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  Because they don't want to make somebody else feel bad.
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  What? If you playing great?
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  What if you doing all the things that you want to do and want to
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  be and show? The world is exactly what
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  someone else needs to create their greatness.
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  You know what if seeing you and what you're doing is going to
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  push someone else to do something even better for
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  themselves and you don't do it or you don't share it or you
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  don't talk about it because you decide hey, I don't want to make
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  anybody else. Real bad right now.
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  So I'm just going to keep it to myself, even though there's a
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  part of you that wants to share it wants to talk about it and
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  wants to celebrate it, or just wants to go out and do your
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  good, not even having to brag about it.
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  Not even having to put anything out there, but just says, yeah,
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  you know, I don't want to make other people feel bad right now.
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  This all comes back to the emotion.
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  That's behind it and if you're hiding yourself and your playing
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  small because you don't want to hurt other people's feelings,
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  Things, you are sadly mistaken about the intent of where that
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  is coming from and how that will, you know, show up,
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  overall, in your life. If we don't celebrate our
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  accomplishments to ourselves, I'm not talking about going on
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  line and talking about them. I'm not talking about being that
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  person. That puts everything up online
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  and brags about the I'm talking about with yourself.
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  That is proud of yourself that celebrates with yourself
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  celebrates with the people that are close to you.
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  Put Out into that that energetic pattern of being able to say no,
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  you know what, I am going to play Rock Star level so that I
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  can create Rockstar results in my life and you're holding back.
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  Because of people around you, boy, you have the wrong people
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  around you. You have to look at who's who
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  is, you know, the crew that you've decided to spend your
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  life with now, sometimes we will say, well, this is my family and
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  I don't have a choice, but I will challenge you to say no,
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  you do have a choice, you can actually go ahead and say I'm
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  going to do all this in spite of them.
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  I don't care what they think. I don't care what they believe
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  about me. I'm going to do exactly what I
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  want to do and how I want to do it because I know it's the right
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  thing. And to go out there and share my
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  gifts with the world and I'm going to do that because in
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  doing that it's going to help other people grow and expand.
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  And it might not be my family that that picks up the best of
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  it might be people outside my family and that's okay.
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  If that's the case that is totally okay because someone
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  somewhere is going to benefit from all the things that you're
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  pouring into yourself. And all the things that you put
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  out, might be a co-worker, it might be someone every day that
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  sees you. At a coffee shop.
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  You know, one of my clients was telling me a story about how a
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  girl at a coffee shop that he sees everyday.
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  When he goes in, to get his stuff over the course of the
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  last couple of years, he's been working really hard at changing
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  his life and going from stuff that was really, really tough
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  and bad. And now he's turned his life
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  around literally, and he has become just everything that his
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  soul has been working to attain. And this girl at the coffee
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  shop, a couple To go said to him, you know, I just want to
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  let you know. You look really fantastic.
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  Now she's like I used to see you and I used to think that you
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  were sad and now I look at you and I think you look amazing and
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  I just wanted to let you know that and I hope that you know
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  you have an absolutely fantastic day and he was so blown away by
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  the fact that this girl at the coffee shop that gives them this
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  coffee every day for a couple years notice this and he
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  actually said it brought him to tears.
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  He went out in the car and he sat there and cried because he
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  Like, wow, I didn't even think anybody noticed.
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  So I promise you people notice and as much as his peer group
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  was trying to hold him back, this young man is working very,
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  very hard to break away from all of this, his peer group, really
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  kind of was holding him back. And you know what?
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  He broke free of them and all of a sudden.
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  Now, here we are in a different place in a totally different
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  place, and Just have to say that that is the power of what I'm
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  talking about. That is the power of making
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  these choices. I couldn't be more proud of him
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  as a person. I couldn't be more proud of the
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  fact that he's living in alignment now with who he's
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  supposed to be. And I couldn't be more proud of
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  the fact that there was no attachment to it, where it was
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  being braggadocious, showing it off or anything, it was just
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  being himself and that's what I'm talking about going in there
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  and really pouring into that. That part of yourself.
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  We're just like doing it for the right reasons, but I refuse to
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  play small. So think about where you're
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  coming from. Thank you for holding back,
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  detach yourself from what other people around, you think and do
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  it because it makes you proud. All right?
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  My friends have a band tastic day and I will see you tomorrow.