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Asperger's Syndrome Signs YOU Need To Know (ODD) · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  OK, so people diagnose Asperger's syndrome.
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  Sometimes when they're talking, they'll run out of breath mid
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  sentence or mid story. This is really interesting.
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  Now there is a process going on here and I'm going to explain
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  all of that right now. And this is super interesting
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  and nobody talks about it. I think it's a lot because there
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  are a lot of speech patterns that autistic individuals, they
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  don't always match up to the neurotypical way of speech
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  patterns, right? And this can cause a pause mid
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  story or mid sentence, but it's not an A typical pause where
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  someone stops to talk. It's kind of like a someone
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  stops and then we're not a breath and they take another
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  breath and then we start talking again.
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  So why is this happening? Well, I'm going to go through
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  all this in this video. I'm going to talk about why this
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  happens and some of the ways that you can kind of have a more
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  easy flow conversation if you're someone on the autism spectrum
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  and this happens to you. Hey guys, what's going on?
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  My name is Dan and I have autism and ADHD.
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  If you're new around here and you want to learn more about
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  this topic, make sure to hit the subscribe button by clicking the
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  notification bell down below. Please go do it now I'm
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  watching. You can see if you're doing it
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  or not. OK, so basically asperges slash
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  autism. So Asperges and autism is one
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  thing, Asperger syndrome is autism, vice versa.
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  So in autism it isn't just speaking words, it's actually
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  processing through thoughts, emotions, security, different
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  sensory inputs. There's a lot of goes into it.
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  Someone with autism doesn't just sit down and decide, hey, I'm
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  going to talk and tell you the story.
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  Actually, in fact, there's a lot of things going on the emotional
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  side of it. Is this person going to listen
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  to my story? Do they want to listen to my
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  story? Is my story relevant?
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  I don't know, because sometimes in certain situations, stories
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  aren't relevant. But how do I know that?
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  Why don't I have to test it? How do you test it?
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  Well, you just tell the story. So this gives you an anxiety, a
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  fear, also a phobia. You're thinking about many
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  things. You're thinking about your own
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  body posture. You're thinking about the length
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  of time you're talking. There are many variables.
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  Think about this. Think about sitting down,
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  telling a story. And as you're telling your
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  story, you're thinking about everything.
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  You're thinking about the sensory world around you.
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  You're thinking about the people stood in front of you.
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  Then you get fully aware of your body.
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  Then you're thinking about the heat about your body.
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  And you're thinking, Oh my goodness, am I too hot?
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  Am I too, you know, cold? Do I need a jacket?
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  What? What's going to happen?
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  And because of that, the actual processing can make breathing
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  and, you know, pacing harder to cordon.
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  Because I was just thinking if you just may run out of breath
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  and I'll do a deep breath midway through the sentence and I'll
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  stop and pause because I'm trying to think and I'm also
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  trying to breathe. Because breathing whilst talking
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  is actually a skill that is developed through socialising.
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  Autistic individuals have an average of below to little or no
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  socialising understanding from the ages of three till about 20,
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  which means that for most of the time that you're learning to
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  speak in a social situation, there actually has a dip in the
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  practice and the understanding of it.
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  Because a lot of autistic individuals, if they don't
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  understand the social convention, then why are they
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  going to practice it? They're not going to.
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  They're going to be like, oh, I'll tell you what, I'm not even
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  going to bother in joining in this conversation.
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  We can't understand it anyway. They don't know the rules.
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  So you're missing out on all those things.
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  So the professionals sometimes call this a speech disfluency,
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  which is really an unusual word for it because like it's an
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  atypical prosody, which is basically just the part of how
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  the artistic brain works and how it's it's feeding the
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  information in to relate information out and how it pulls
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  in all the information around it to understand right.
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  And I get this. It's a really interesting
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  video. Now, I've been trying my entire
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  other life to try and not do this because I feel like I can
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  learn and understand this right? Because I feel like I could
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  learn this, but it never goes away fully.
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  There's always, sometimes there's a bit like boop.
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  So I'm basically thinking to myself, Dang, how can I really
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  process the lag? So the the brain is forming the
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  next sentence and you are trying to kind of think about it while
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  currently speaking. So you're you're forming the
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  next sentence and you're speaking.
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  So you get your brain doing something else and you're
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  speaking and you're trying to not lose flow of the
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  conversation. Because many people with autism
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  have this ability to be pulled in different directions on their
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  focus. Because we have ADHD also,
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  right? So Asperger's syndrome is really
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  comorbid, which means Co occurring.
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  It comes alongside ADHDA lot of the time.
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  I have ADHD diagnosis, so is my girlfriend and she has an autumn
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  diagnosis and I have an autism diagnosis.
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  So does her son. And many people I know with
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  autism also have ADHD. So it's kind of pat and parcel
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  of the same thing. Breathe awareness is something
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  that we need to consider, right? So the less automatic breathing
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  can be, the less rhythmic it's going to be.
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  Now, we do have a rhythmic understanding of breathing,
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  which is kind of binary from our like our self as human beings.
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  We're going to just breathe. You know, when we're asleep or
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  if we're unconscious, we're always going to breathe, right?
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  Our body has a binary function to do that.
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  However, when we're telling stories, there's a rhythm that
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  needs to change. Now if you're focusing on trying
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  to breathe when you're telling a story, the rhythm is going to
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  get completely messed up and you're going to lose sight or
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  focus on the thing you're actually trying to say slash
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  trying to do and then you may want to realise, oh I need to
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  take a breath. This is really interesting.
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  Now another point to think about is excitement or overload.
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  So the fastest paced talking people you'll find are probably
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  people on the autism spectrum like myself.
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  Now if you think I'm talking fast, please give this video a
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  thumbs up so I can see if you think I'm talking fast.
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  And if you have anything to add, just pop it in a comment down
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  below. I do read every single comment
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  now, talking fast from enthusiasm and being excited
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  about something or even wanting to just participate in something
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  can cause you to kind of run out of breath, which is another
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  experience where autistic individuals, autistic
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  individuals may run out of breath before even finishing the
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  sentence. So that can happen.
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  There also is the sensory overload to compete with.
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  Now managing sensory input whilst talking can interrupt
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  your breathing because it can stop you in your tracks.
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  And sensory input is simply all the things around you.
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  Sight, sound, smell, taste, touch, the air pressure, the
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  temperature, your clothing, the distance between people, all
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  those sensory input, they can impact your ability to focus.
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  And if you're getting again distracted and dis dis focused
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  or unfocused, you're going to stop and and not be able to
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  continue. And you might take a short
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  breath because of all the other things that are going on as
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  well, right? Like I just said, you know, the
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  processing lag, the breathing awareness centric processing,
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  excitement overload, all those things can happen.
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  Now the last thing is also, you know, you could also have the
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  support tools in place. So practice slow pacing and
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  planned pauses. So if I'm going to talk to
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  somebody, I always think after about 5 words I should take a
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  small pause and then I can breathe, right?
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  Typically, it doesn't always happen again because as a
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  practice makes progress kind of delial.
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  right now. The link will be on my bio and
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  my description, and I'll put it on a card here somewhere on
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  YouTube so you can get it. Plan pauses and breathing
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  exercises can be perfect, right, for these types of speech
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  patterns. And when you're planning to talk
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  to somebody, like if you're in an office job or if you're in a
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  school and you have to talk to people or you have to do
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  something that's going to reward you in dividends, then you're
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  going to need to be able to speak adequately confidently and
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  without kind of having pauses and breathing sharply to take a
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  breath in or yawning. Sometimes also take individuals
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  will yawn just because the social conventions, all that
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  stuff is just thrown out of the window, which is really, really
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  interesting.