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Ep147. Transforming Pain into Power: Navigating Life's Challenges with Intention. · The Inner Wealth Podcast

• 0:02
  Speaker 1: Do you ever wake up feeling like there's something missing in your life?
• 0:07
  Speaker 1: Do you ever feel the need to escape your business?
• 0:09
  Speaker 1: Are you running your life or is your life running you?
• 0:12
  Speaker 1: I'm Mike Kitko and I'll help you design and create a life so authentic and aligned with who you really are that you'll get excited just to wake up.
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  Speaker 1: I'll help you create real wealth, success and freedom from the inside out.
• 0:23
  Speaker 1: Welcome to the Inner Wealth Podcast, where we learn and choose to live inspired each and every day.
• 0:37
  Speaker 1: If you have listened to this podcast or watched this podcast for any length of time, you know that I derive most of my inspiration while I'm exercising.
• 0:47
  Speaker 1: Now, if you've heard that before and maybe you're just an audio listener or maybe you're just a video watcher, you go to the other platforms.
• 0:57
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• 1:06
  Speaker 1: And if you're only an audio listener, I would encourage you to go and subscribe to the YouTube channel and maybe check out a different media format.
• 1:12
  Speaker 1: But I get my greatest source of inspiration and my greatest source of content creation when I'm on the road, when my feet are hitting pavement and I run four or five miles a couple times a week.
• 1:27
  Speaker 1: I lift and I get great inspiration when I'm lifting, but I also like when I'm running, it's like everything opens up and it's like there's constant downloads and it's really, really cool to be me in those situations.
• 1:42
  Speaker 1: And what happened was on Sunday, which was just yesterday, I was out on a run and or yesterday when I'm recording this.
• 1:51
  Speaker 1: So, uh, I was out on a run and I got this ultra powerful download and I I started like playing with it in my mind.
• 2:01
  Speaker 1: Do you ever do that where you get a thought and you just start playing with it in your mind and it's kind of like at that point it just becomes Play-Doh and you get to form it and shape it and reshape it and you know, I don't know it just becomes something better than when you originally received it.
• 2:16
  Speaker 1: And the download that I got I started it was it was the second day in a row that I had run and I had run about five miles the day before and I started feeling like a little wobbly in the legs.
• 2:26
  Speaker 1: It's like I had two long runs two days in a row, the humidity starting to crank up, the heat starting to crank up, you know, and it's like reconditioning your body to those new climates and the new you know acclimatized, I guess, is the right word to say.
• 2:41
  Speaker 1: But I started feeling a little wobbly in the legs and I did a check-in with myself and I said am I hurt or am I injured or am I just tired?
• 2:53
  Speaker 1: Now I'm a football fan.
• 2:57
  Speaker 1: I love watching my hometown, baltimore Ravens.
• 3:00
  Speaker 1: I live in St Louis but I'm originally from Baltimore, maryland, and I follow the Baltimore Ravens.
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  Speaker 1: Angie and I, my wife Angie and I were season ticket holders when we were back in Baltimore and you know we love, we never miss a game.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I think in all the years that the Ravens have been around I've only missed a handful of games, watching them on television or watching them, you know, in person.
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  Speaker 1: But I remember when, in, in, in, watching some sports, some football watching you know it was probably Ray Lewis when somebody was limping and, like one of the football players that probably Ray Lewis said are you hurt or are you injured?
• 3:36
  Speaker 1: There's a big difference and what the differentiation in football between hurt and injured is can you play or can't you?
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  Speaker 1: Now, when you really unpack it and we're going to get into how this is applicable to you in a little bit.
• 3:53
  Speaker 1: But let me set us up nicely here.
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  Speaker 1: When a football player is hurt, that means their body is hurting, but when they're injured it means they're physically unable to perform.
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  Speaker 1: Now, when you listen to, I didn't play.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't play formal football, organized football.
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  Speaker 1: I did play some sandlot pickup games and lots of flag football and almost won a championship in flag football one year in my youth.
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  Speaker 1: But the point is is you're unable to perform.
• 4:29
  Speaker 1: You got to get off the field and when you're hurt you can stay in the game and it's just to keep going and work through the pain.
• 4:37
  Speaker 1: But what a football player will tell you and watching enough interviews and sports documentaries will tell you and watching enough interviews and sports documentaries is the only time a player, a football player, is ever truly not hurt or injured during a football season is the day that before training camp starts.
• 4:57
  Speaker 1: And the day the training camp starts, your body starts breaking down and it starts to get hurt.
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  Speaker 1: You get muscle soreness, you get these little aches and you get these pains and you get these little your shoulders disjointed.
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  Speaker 1: They're always dealing with some hurt in their body.
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  Speaker 1: They're always dealing with some physical pain, but when they're on a field of play and they get injured, it's important that they get off the field as fast as possible Because, first of all, they're unable to perform, but, second of all, they're just risking further injury if they stay in the game injured.
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  Speaker 1: Now, when I was running, I did a check-in with myself Am I tired, am I hurt or am I injured?
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  Speaker 1: Now, there's a difference here.
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  Speaker 1: So and tired is just when your body just isn't at full energetic capacity.
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  Speaker 1: That's it.
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  Speaker 1: Your body's not at full energetic capacity.
• 5:57
  Speaker 1: You've spent some of your energy.
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  Speaker 1: Hurt means that your body is literally like there's some aches and pains in your body, there's some tension, some physical tension in your body, and injured means that you're unable to perform.
• 6:12
  Speaker 1: It's probably in your best interest to stop, and I'm going to show you how it relates and talk to you about how it relates to your life and how you're showing up At the very, very bottom.
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  Speaker 1: And this is where I was in March of 2016, after I was 300 pounds.
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  Speaker 1: I was suicidal, I was drinking at toxic levels and I had just gotten terminated from my second six-figure position in about 20 months, and my life was a big pile of shit.
• 6:49
  Speaker 1: There was nothing good about my life.
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  Speaker 1: My home life was abusive, my work life was just out completely.
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  Speaker 1: I was just sacrificing myself for money.
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  Speaker 1: My marriage was in flames, my health was completely out of whack.
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  Speaker 1: I had no peace, I had no happiness, no joy, and I never took care of myself.
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't practicing any form of self-care and where I was back in March of 2016 was at the very bottom rung.
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  Speaker 1: It was in a complete state of depletion.
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  Speaker 1: Now here's what I want to talk to you about about the state of depletion.
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  Speaker 1: There's four states that we're going to talk about Depletion, being tired, being hurt and being injured.
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  Speaker 1: Knowing that the only time that you are not one of these things was before you were born.
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  Speaker 1: You were spirit entering the physical realm.
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  Speaker 1: You are a spirit living in the material world.
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  Speaker 1: Like the police song says you were spirit about to in a material world.
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  Speaker 1: Like the police song says, you were spirit about to enter a physical body, and that's the only time that you weren't depleted, tired, hurt or injured.
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  Speaker 1: And the rest of your life we go through our lives.
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  Speaker 1: We're either depleted, tired, hurt or injured.
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  Speaker 1: Now let me explain.
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  Speaker 1: At the very, very bottom is a state of depletion.
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  Speaker 1: It means, when you have no more physical capacity, no more mental capacity, no more emotional capacity, you're financially upside down.
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  Speaker 1: It means that spiritually you're bankrupt.
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  Speaker 1: And it also means that you're outside of your purpose.
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  Speaker 1: It means that you're not serving in your intended purpose in the world.
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  Speaker 1: So you can say, when it comes back to getting with you, if this is connecting with you and you feel like right now you are in a state of depletion.
• 8:37
  Speaker 1: I would have you check in first and foremost with am I serving my purpose and am I practicing self-care?
• 8:44
  Speaker 1: And here's a couple of things for self-care the acronym OWNER oxygen, water, nutrition, exercise and rest.
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  Speaker 1: If you're not honoring these five elements of your physical being, then you are not practicing radical self-care.
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  Speaker 1: So when you saturate your body with oxygen through meditation and deep breathing, when you hydrate and you drink half your body weight I would recommend half your body weight in fluid ounces every day when you get proper nutrition and only you know what fuels your body, versus where you're just chasing feelings, increasing feelings.
• 9:25
  Speaker 1: When you're getting some exercise every day and you're breaking a sweat and you're increasing your heart rate, when you're getting proper rest, your body is going to be physically present.
• 9:31
  Speaker 1: There might be some fatigue from time to time and you might be hurt from time to time, something might be hurting you.
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  Speaker 1: But when you honor oxygen, your oxygen intake, water, nutrition, exercise and rest your body, your physical body, your physical container, is going to have some life in it and it's going to have the energy that it needs to carry out your purpose.
• 9:54
  Speaker 1: Now the question is are you in your purpose or are you just in a job?
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  Speaker 1: Or are you just trying to make money, or are you sacrificing yourself for, for survival or for security?
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  Speaker 1: Because when you are in your purpose and you are honoring your body, then your mental capacity, your mental capabilities and your emotional container, your emotional capacity, your emotional courage, they start to immediately increase as well.
• 10:22
  Speaker 1: And when all of that your purpose, your physical well-being, your mental clarity, your emotional courage, when all of those come into alignment, then your spiritual connectedness to the divine increases as well.
• 10:36
  Speaker 1: And that's how you move from depletion into being tired.
• 10:45
  Speaker 1: Now, when you are in your purpose, trust me, a lot of the times you are going to be tired, because you are going to become inspired to show up, you are going to become inspired to serve, you are going to be inspired to execute and demonstrate your purpose.
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  Speaker 1: You are going to be inspired to create.
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  Speaker 1: You are going to be inspired to serve in that capacity.
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  Speaker 1: It's going to be almost I don't know demotivating not to serve and this creates a sense of fatigue Not fatigue, that's debilitating, but you're just going to get tired because you're going to be serving and you're going to be serving in your purpose and you're going to be sharing energy that you have inside.
• 11:29
  Speaker 1: That's the difference between being depleted and being in a state of fatigue and tiredness.
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  Speaker 1: In depletion, you have no energy, you have no vitality, you have no dynamism.
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  Speaker 1: In being tired, you do and you're sharing it with the world.
• 11:44
  Speaker 1: In being tired, you do and you're sharing it with the world.
• 11:47
  Speaker 1: When you're tired, keep going and go back and practice higher levels of self-care no-transcript, thus becoming more tired.
• 12:16
  Speaker 1: I hope this is making sense.
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  Speaker 1: And then there's a step above.
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  Speaker 1: The step above being tired is being hurt.
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  Speaker 1: Now, when you're running, when you are in your purpose and you are serving and you are you are throttled up and you are impacting the world.
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  Speaker 1: You are showing up, you are speaking your voice, you're speaking your purpose.
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  Speaker 1: You're, you're honoring your mission, you are completely in alignment with the divine essence inside of you and you're going ape shit in the world.
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  Speaker 1: Essence inside of you and you're going apeshit in the world and you were helping and you were serving and you were giving away your gifts and talents.
• 12:49
  Speaker 1: You know what.
• 12:51
  Speaker 1: Some people aren't going to like it.
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  Speaker 1: You're going to face some rejection.
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  Speaker 1: You're going to face some challenges.
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  Speaker 1: You're going to face some obstacles.
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  Speaker 1: You're going to face some things that ultimately challenge.
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  Speaker 1: If you're going in the right direction, you're ultimately going to face some things.
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  Speaker 1: You're going to face some doubts.
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  Speaker 1: You're going to face some things that ultimately challenge.
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  Speaker 1: If you're going in the right direction, you're ultimately going to face some things.
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  Speaker 1: You're going to face some doubts.
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  Speaker 1: You're going to face some some inadequacies and insecurities.
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  Speaker 1: You're sometimes you're going to feel insignificant.
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  Speaker 1: You're going to wonder why I'm giving everything I have to give away.
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  Speaker 1: Why isn't anybody taking it?
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  Speaker 1: Why do I need to force it down people's throats?
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes you're not going to be seen.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes you're not not going to be heard, and these things create sometimes a sense of physical, mental, emotional, spiritual hurt in our mind and body.
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  Speaker 1: But understand that these are things for you to work through on the journey.
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  Speaker 1: These are not things to stop your journey because of?
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  Speaker 1: Are not things to stop your journey?
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  Speaker 1: Because of?
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  Speaker 1: When you are fully serving in your purpose and you are in your inspiration and you are throttling up and you have the energy and you are just serving and you are giving and people are benefiting from it.
• 13:56
  Speaker 1: You are going to encounter things that challenge you in a way that's going to create some sense of hurt, but these are normal challenges and obstacles and hurt is not a reason to stop.
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  Speaker 1: When someone rejects you, you might feel hurt, but this is your chance to let go of the egoic part of you that got hurt, egoic part of you that got hurt, the story that got hurt.
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  Speaker 1: This is the reason for you to give up, the mechanism for you to give up needing to be accepted when you encounter financial challenges, the financial ups and downs of serving in your purpose.
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  Speaker 1: When your bank account goes up, you might get excited.
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  Speaker 1: When your bank account goes down, you might get excited.
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  Speaker 1: When your bank account goes down, you might get frustrated.
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  Speaker 1: This is the chance to give up any identification you have with money being the destination and money being your sense of fulfillment.
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  Speaker 1: Money is important.
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  Speaker 1: Keep making it, but give up the identity and the connection and the codependent relationship that you have with money.
• 15:04
  Speaker 1: But you are going to experience these states of hurt.
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  Speaker 1: But then there's a whole other state and that other state is being injured.
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  Speaker 1: Now, injured and depleted are very similar, because if you are injured in the process of serving in your purpose, it either means that you've lost track and lost step, lost alignment with your purpose, or you've stopped practicing self-care and something needs to be fixed.
• 15:43
  Speaker 1: Either you need to re-figure out what your next purpose is, what your purpose is, what your true destination is in alignment with your purpose, what your true destination is in alignment with your purpose?
• 15:59
  Speaker 1: It means that maybe you've given up yourself so much to your purpose that you haven't saved anything to restore yourself and from that your body breaks down, your mind breaks down, your emotions break down or maybe even your spirit breaks down.
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  Speaker 1: But being injured is indicative in life, not just on a sports field.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not just talking about being on a sports field, but being injured means that you're out of intent, out of step with your purpose, or you're not taking care of yourself at the highest level.
• 16:33
  Speaker 1: And I had a mentor one time says listen, the higher you climb on the ladder, the bigger pillow you need to fall back into.
• 16:39
  Speaker 1: The more you serve in your purpose, the more you throttle up in your purpose and the more you encounter the challenges and obstacles, the more rejection you face, the more you show up and share your truth.
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: And that truth is shot down because it doesn't align with somebody else's truth and their truth is no more important than your truth and your truth is no more important than their truth.
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: And when you experience these things you could experience and you don't take care of yourself and you don't resolve these inner conflicts in your mind and your body, and you don't take care of your body and you don't take care of yourself and you don't resolve these inner conflicts in your mind and your body and you don't take care of your body and you don't restore your self-confidence, your self-esteem, you don't restore your sense of self-worth that's not tied to outcomes.
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: When you don't restore your spirit, your connection to divine, when you don't restore these things, you're going to become injured in this world.
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  Speaker 1: And when you become injured if you don't get off the playing field to restore and to heal and to resolve these internal conflicts, these conflicts that you're facing, if you don't take time to reestablish your connection to your purpose, to take inventory, if you're even still on your purpose, if you don't hit pause for a little bit, you keep going, you're just going to be back into depletion, and from depletion you're not going to have anything to give.
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: Because that's when your body has no energy, your mind has no confidence, has no energy, your mind has no confidence, your emotions are fueled and run by fear, your spirit is broken and you feel all alone.
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: Your purpose is so freaking, confusing, and you're in such a state of confusion that you don't understand which way is up, which way is down and which way to turn.
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: And when you are in a state of depletion, there's nothing that could possibly benefit from you just throttling up.
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: You must get back to the basics understanding your purpose, practicing self-care, putting your body back together, putting your mind back together, putting your emotions back together, reconnecting to the divine, whatever that looks like for you.
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: And then from there, when you start to rebuild that energetic connection with your body and your mind, your emotions and your purpose and your spiritual connection, you will move back up into the tired level and from there you have more to give, you give it, and then it's just a matter of time before you run into a wall, there's some resistance, where you get hurt.
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: And listen, have you ever heard that you can either have comfort or growth?
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: You can't have both.
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: Well, that happens at the hurt level.
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: But if you don't protect yourself, if you don't do the resolving of the conflicts, if you don't take inventory, if you're not mindful about what's going on in your body, in your mind, in your emotions, in your spirit, if you don't honor your body, if you don't honor your body, if you don't restore your body, if you don't reconnect your purpose and you keep throttling up, you're going to hit that injured mark again.
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: So I would encourage you to allow yourself to stay in that hurt space where your hurt turns to purpose, where your pain turns to purpose, where, every time you run into a wall and an obstacle and a challenge, you let go of the stories, you let go of the beliefs, you let go of the attachments, you let go of the aversions and from that you grow.
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: And that's how we turn our pain into purpose and that's how we keep growing in our potential and in all that we have to give in this world.
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: You don't.
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: No one goes through this world, no matter how much they have, no matter how much they've accomplished.
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: No one goes through this world without getting hurt and being in a constant state of hurt, because if you're not in a state of hurt, then you're not going to be willing to love.
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: If you're not willing to get hurt, if you're not willing to get rejected, then you're not willing to get accepted.
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: If you're not willing to get accepted, then you're not willing to get rejected.
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: If you're not willing to serve, then it's just a matter of time before you're going to start moving back down into the depletion range.
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: And when you serve, trust me, it doesn't always feel awesome Guys it doesn't always feel awesome Guys.
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: I hope this was helpful.
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: I hope this was somewhat insightful.
• 21:19
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• 21:27
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• 21:27
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• 21:28
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• 21:32
  Speaker 1: All right, till next week.
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: Love you, guys.
• 21:33
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