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Marketplace Proverbs & Coffee With Ernie · Marketplace Proverbs and Coffee with Ernie-A Proverb Per Day Keeps Stinking Thinking At Bay

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  SPEAKER_00: Have you been on the receiving end of unchecked anger?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's uncomfortable, it's embarrassing, and it's unforgettable.
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  SPEAKER_00: But sometimes the most powerful leadership lessons come
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  SPEAKER_00: from moments we didn't sign up for, when someone else's reaction becomes a mirror.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today, We are in Proverbs 14 verse 29 because it's the 14th day of the month.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to Marketplace Proverbs and Coffee with Ernie,
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  SPEAKER_00: where a proverb a day keeps stinking thinking away.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, hi,
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm Ernie Lansford,
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  SPEAKER_00: and each day we open the book of Proverbs that matches the day of the month and ask,
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  SPEAKER_00: what's it saying to us as marketplace leaders, coworkers, and shapers of culture?
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  SPEAKER_00: So grab your coffee and let's reflect on today's Proverbs.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm from the new King James, quote,
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  SPEAKER_00: he who is slow to wrath has great understanding,
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  SPEAKER_00: but he who is impulsive exalts of folly.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's Proverbs 14, 29.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's talk about how wisdom is revealed, not in what we say, but in how we respond.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm sharing something with you that came from my co-author and friend, John Cluter.
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  SPEAKER_00: Back in the early 90s, John was a 19-year-old college student working two jobs.
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  SPEAKER_00: He delivered pizza, and he helped out at a small appliance and electronics store.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, when his hours increased at the electronics store,
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  SPEAKER_00: he made sure to update his availability At the pizza place,
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  SPEAKER_00: he was clear, direct, and responsible.
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  SPEAKER_00: But despite his communication, the restaurant scheduled him during one of his blackout times.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when he didn't show, he was fired during his next shift.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, here's where it really gets interesting, according to John.
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  SPEAKER_00: Days later,
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  SPEAKER_00: he and his girlfriend,
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  SPEAKER_00: now his wife, Went to that same pizza place as paying customers.
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  SPEAKER_00: But during their meal,
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  SPEAKER_00: the manager who had fired him came storming over and publicly berated him in front
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  SPEAKER_00: of a full dining room.
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  SPEAKER_00: John was stunned.
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  SPEAKER_00: She unloaded on him with emotion and anger and accusations,
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  SPEAKER_00: and while her goal may have been to Teach him a lesson about respect.
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  SPEAKER_00: What actually happened was the opposite.
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  SPEAKER_00: John never forgot that moment.
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  SPEAKER_00: But instead of being shaped by her anger, he was shaped by what not to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that experience became a lifelong reminder.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't allow your emotions to define your leadership.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, we've seen that before.
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  SPEAKER_00: Many times in the workplace, a manager loses their cool.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hey, there's that mirror popping up again.
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  SPEAKER_00: A leader lets stress override grace.
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  SPEAKER_00: Boy, that mirror is getting clearer.
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  SPEAKER_00: And a peer erupts over a misunderstanding.
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  SPEAKER_00: Anger may feel justified in the moment.
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  SPEAKER_00: But Proverbs 14, 29 tells us it's folly.
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  SPEAKER_00: As leaders...
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  SPEAKER_00: The way we handle our anger, especially in public, shapes our culture.
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  SPEAKER_00: It reveals whether we're walking in wisdom or reacting in weakness.
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  SPEAKER_00: And as John said, he's had moments he's not proud of, and we all have.
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  SPEAKER_00: But remembering moments like this helps us pause before repeating them.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today's customer success code Wrath may feel powerful in the moment,
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  SPEAKER_00: but restraint is what leaves a legacy.
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  SPEAKER_00: So here's today's application points to reflect on.
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  SPEAKER_00: Number one, recall a short-tempered situation.
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  SPEAKER_00: Have you been caught up in the heated moment, whether as a leader or as a bystander?
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  SPEAKER_00: Number two is, how did you respond?
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  SPEAKER_00: Did you absorb, escalate, or moderate the situation?
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  SPEAKER_00: Number three is, could you have redirected it?
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  SPEAKER_00: If you were part of it, what might you do differently now?
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  SPEAKER_00: Number four, use it as a teaching moment.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even painful experiences can carry value when we use them to grow.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just think yourself of a question of what does this make possible?
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  SPEAKER_00: And then number five, commit to composure.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ask God to help you lead with grace, even when you're frustrated or disappointed.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember, people may forget what we said, but they rarely forget how we made them feel.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think about that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Lord God, thank you for teaching moments, even those uncomfortable ones.
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  SPEAKER_00: I ask for forgiveness in the moments I've let anger guide my actions.
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  SPEAKER_00: Please help me grow into the kind of leader who is slow to wrath and full of understanding.
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  SPEAKER_00: Teach me to respond with grace even when it's difficult.
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  SPEAKER_00: In Jesus' name, amen.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, thank you for joining me for today's episode.
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  SPEAKER_00: I look forward to meeting with you again.