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Rabbi Moshe Haber -Maintaining Mindset Amidst Changing Challenges 5.12.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  I was Asia, I normally we fundraise for learning every
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  year at this time. So it's back and forth over the
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  last couple weeks. Should I do it should or not?
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  It sounds ridiculous to ask people from the community for
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  money for learning why they're going through the stuff.
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  It sounds silly. All right.
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  You sound like a completely responsible.
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  What are we doing? Last Friday I have a
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  conversation with someone, another person decided to do it
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  on Sunday. I started to do it and some
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  people, OK, only one or two people turn me down as I meant,
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  but shocking. Some people said I'll buy
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  tariffs. I'm going to do it anyhow.
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  And some people want to add the conversation about tariffs were
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  going negative on themselves. And then there were people who
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  say, you know what, it's all for my sham.
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  We keep our they want to talk about the negativity or to keep
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  the positivity. It's all going to be good.
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  And you know what their mindset and their health and their mind
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  kept them strong throughout and they never had a mental dip.
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  And look, now they're back on track.
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  They didn't lose anything mentally.
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  Their family didn't get feel the pressure.
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  They didn't ruin their family at home.
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  They didn't ruin themselves. That means they leave them
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  around the home. And by the way, so far, it was
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  pretty much the strongest week I've ever had.
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  Why? Because people in our community,
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  the right people understood how to keep the beat at heart.
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  I only called certain people. I spoke to certain people.
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  But the right minds it is keep the positivity, keep the beat at
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  heart. Make it real and nothing's going
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  to tip at all. We have.
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  The life we live in today is up and down like it's never been
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  before. That's where we live in.
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  But. What, what?
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  What's that about? Why is it like that?
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  Yeah, 'cause you like to give us says who are the greatest body,
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  but the horn, the people who are on the ship, well, they have to
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  deal with the weather and they have 0 control.
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  Hashem has put us more into a more into a life much strongest.
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  You're not. That's the mindset up in the
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  bar. Exactly.
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  We're supposed to say to ourselves, people talk about him
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  when I'll be talking all day long.
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  Let's live it. If we can live it, we can
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  strengthen ourselves and we get down much closer.
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  Life was not like this years ago.
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  I don't know, in the 90s, in 90s, I think people are, I think
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  those into this. Like this in business?
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  Nowhere. In the streets business.
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  I think they say about a very good point is that a new
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  business is business. There was solid, healthy
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  community business that lasted now, yeah.
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  Retailers are the same thing is done right so then until.
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  You know, times retail is booming and it felt like it was
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  going to go on. Now for the last, I don't know
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  how many years, people have felt this looming mindset that
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  everything's going to end because retail is not great.
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  And then I would sell. I would sell us a lot to
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  retailers going to have trivial struggles in these things.
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  People have that looming mindset they're always talking about.
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  They can't, but the kids do the same business because it's not
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  going to last. How do you order?
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  That's one overall mindset then, yeah.
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  So that guy just created an. End, that guy is mine, it's all
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  over eventually, so he doesn't have a comfortable feeling.
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  Then you add COVID, which is obviously a complete shot, and
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  you add this was a feeling and you end in between the shipping
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  and different things. And the mindset always was this
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  is all over. And we found out a couple of
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  things. First of all, the companies were
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  doing far better than we thought #1 #2 nothing's all over.
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  It's never all over. You just look at the day ahead
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  of you, that's it, and you believe that I'm going to figure
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  it out for you. It's never going to be closed.
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  That's it. On a practical level, it's not
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  going to happen, and on a level it's not going to happen.
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  Person has to dig into the beat of horn much stronger than we
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  do. We talk about a lot.
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  We don't live a lot. If you saw the despair on
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  people's eyes, I remember we gave class Wednesday night, the
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  day the tariffs thing really did.
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  I'm telling you, I gave class going to write over people's
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  sites looking at guys close the eye, look at they were lost.
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  I never saw it before. Why?
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  Because they were so terrified and they're right to be.
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  And if you evolve, beat the horn, it's a whole different
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  world. And we learnt the agile really,
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  if they're really. It's also a bad idea that was
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  each guy you know they tend to be flying line to the horn and
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  it's a bit days about. That is then you sound to be the
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  horn you say on is that a share without the fact that a cookies
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  being different challenges why they're so many friends The
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  reason there's so many friends. What happens like less you
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  overcome one challenge. If let's say hazard Shalom
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  COVID, you know COVID 20 King right Oh what happened?
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  Wouldn't it be nervous? We would know that the
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  government's going to do this. We would be prepared.
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  We'd be fine. We know we're.
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  Leaking billions about that and like no but that rolled me but
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  that I'd say my ass. I know Christian, that's why.
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  I was less bothered this time as well.
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  Hi my lost good night. And then after a month I keep
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  on. I told you the story.
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  I put my hands up so I go a friend.
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  Nothing I can do. Every Lord is cancelled.
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  Everything, well, work. It does.
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  Right. So then you say, Yoan, this is
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  the main idea, be the horn. The front keeps changing, but
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  the enemy is the same enemy. Which means let's talk about
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  business alone for a second. He keeps being very different.
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  One time it's called tell the time it's retail problems.
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  Tell the time it's a fact that they shipping's an issue, the
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  freight issue. It just raises our problem.
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  All these things different fronts, but the reality is it's
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  insanely stay on Hashem makes us feel that we're not in control
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  of our money. Open, shut, done, case closed.
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  So once you realize that it's the same enemy and it's the same
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  challenge, what happens? You strengthen yourself, you
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  brace for the next one, you're ready to go.
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  You know, it's really nervous when it happens, even though it
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  seems that this, this one is the one that I can't figure out.
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  We're dealing with China. Everyone happens to order from
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  China. There's no way around this.
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  And even if they order from other places, it still comes to
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  China. It's a sketched whole thing.
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  It's impossible to function. And it happens to be the Chinese
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  and the most pride, proud country in the world, which
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  therefore means they're not going to bet they don't care.
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  They'll kill people before they've been right.
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  So it's the worst situation imaginable, but so was the other
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  one, so was the other one. And you know all the same
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  situation Hashem is telling us you have to be able to leave on
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  Him. I know only Him.
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  That's the mindset has the mindset.
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  Throw up common sense. Throw up common sense at that
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  point. Say it.
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  Throw up common sense that doesn't make.
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  To our common sense, because all mindset is to put you in a
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  situation where there is no common sense.
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  I surely could by the way, by the way, you didn't hear me what
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  you want today, right? Every single guy has every
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  single My father used to say I love this.
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  He used to say there was there was evil used to give business
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  advice when I thought was even though he himself was a
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  consultant. His biggest thing that bothered
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  him was the idea of wealthy guys giving business advice.
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  While did I agree with him that some people are very smart and
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  they created the company, it's not across the board.
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  But you can't just assume just because the guy is well off he
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  can give business advice, right? He's to say it's a sketch to all
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  the guy happens to be up in a harsh and blessed him and now
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  he's giving advice. You look around these so many
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  people are not smart at all. Some of them figured a way out
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  to develop a company. Great then you should what have
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  done you could have a non successful guy who can give
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  great business advice and you can have a very statistical guy
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  who has no clue what he's doing. Hashem is involved.
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  Sometimes we don't see it and the biggest thing is this here's
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  the main thing we are supposed to humble ourselves for once and
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  for all. If the fact is that all the
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  president's got to do is write a tweet, say something crazy, and
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  billions and trillions of dollars are being lost or
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  gained, that means we are in 0 control of life and not in
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  control. Odd Khan.
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  And we walk around with the guy of ours.
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  If we're in control, we're not in control.
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  Case closed, nobodies not from you know how to make a
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  difference if it's the wealthiest guy in the country of
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  the world. President of the United States,
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  that's making them sweet. Nobody is in any level of
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  control. Not that we're in ignoring.
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  What's that? The.
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  King for the president for sure level by the Shem or it comes
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  upon the size 1000% of Shem is in every area.
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  So let's stop and chill out and not have the Gabba.
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  All our medots come. What amigo challenges come from
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  Gabba. That's how it works.
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  The old stem. Flamboyant to look alive not
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  just this community, but the Jewish nation.
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  You mean you want to go to the spending thing Robert Joey spoke
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  about could be spending is a part of it, but it's more the
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  way you count on this but. That, but that's the link to the
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  guy about like. So there's Guy.
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  I don't know, like when life was simpler, right?
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  You were you were happy wherever.
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  Let's say you middle for dinner, like your parents have a cow,
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  right? Even if you got a chance to go
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  right today, you know, you have a little 8 year old kid telling
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  you they want to go to this, you know, $300.00 place or whatever
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  it is, right? That's what And all these,
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  they're little things, but they're really big things
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  because you know, now you don't want to take them back to the
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  deli and they're they're. Too good for it.
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  Good. Peer pressure Java?
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  No, I don't think peer pressure Java.
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  No. You need to function.
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  No, but after you do it, you have.
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  And a person doesn't have a proper sense of their own song
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  worth and they feel like the zero and a lot of time doing
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  this, you know, people grow, people blend, right?
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  People blend the two things and they think they're the same.
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  It's very different. Every person's got to be
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  extremely confident, very secure, have great self worth.
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  That's all there. And if you're chosen a challenge
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  with that, it's very scary. We're all put to put them into
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  that predicament rule equally important, as if we don't have
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  to build our self worth, fake it and start creating things.
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  And yes, spending sometimes either comes from Galvao or at
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  least the guy about. Those are both true.
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  And a lot of the things we do, we all talk so much in this
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  community, all the things and all the names and all the stuff,
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  It's all dependent on a tweet from a guy in the White House.
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  So it's all dependent on even less than that, all about the
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  Chinese. You're in control from the
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  Chinese. That's a very, you know,
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  humiliating service statement. It's the truth.
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  It's a humbly statement and we have to be humble every single
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  person. Don't be humble.
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  A conversation about it last night about be a rabbi in the
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  shoe. She says I was talking about I
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  think she says let's be real. I say this all the time for
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  myself. Trust me, you know, you know
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  you're not in any position because of your own doing.
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  You're not who you are because it's all up to Hashem 1000%.
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  I say this to myself all the time.
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  I told you my ruler I kept for a long time.
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  My rule was where I learned my Shiva.
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  They don't know they didn't know I was a rabbi for many years
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  didn't I was involved. Why?
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  Because I didn't want them to treat me any differently because
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  I didn't do this wasn't my own doing my father thing.
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  My father chose me to all business wasn't all I went doing
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  happened to be here to all business.
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  So you can't think of yourself as anything in any area.
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  You are 1000% in control other people and now you want to
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  think. I mean you're humble.
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  You know, people can be very successful and tell everyone's
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  super successful, but keeps the character like low key people.
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  That's the mindset we have to be that way.
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  If a person can be successful and be themselves, there's
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  nothing better. You're the best of both worlds.
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  You're the most likable person around.
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  You have the fan and you have the friendship of those who are
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  not so successful. And at the same time, life is
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  great and it's ultimately the best blessing and it's the goal.
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  How what does it take? Real humility and a real
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  understanding. That all comes from machine
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  standpoint.