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What Masculine Energy Looks Like In a Woman · Mindful Success Path

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  If you're a woman who's feeling very stressed out, tired, burned out, maybe you're having adrenal issues or hormone problems, or maybe your relationships are a mess, maybe you are married, you're having a lot of friction in your marriage at the same time.
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  Spark is gone or you feel like your man's mom or you keep going out on dates with men who are more feminine for lack of a better term asking you things like what do you bring to the table and thinking you should pay half the bills then this video is for you because chances are you might be spending a bit too much time in your masculine energy and I say that as a woman who used to spend way too much time in her masculine energy and experience a lot of the same.
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  Problem.
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  So in this video, I'm going to be talking about what this masculine energy looks like in a woman and what we can start Doing to shift it because if I can shift it you can shift it too.
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  Hi My name is amanda abaya Welcome to this channel where we talk about how to manifest what you desire in your life without all the extra stress chaos and drama And that most people are addicted to lately.
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  If you see me looking down a lot, it's because my cat just decided to hop on my lap, which is a really great place to get started with this story.
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  So when you start getting more into your feminine energy, one of the things that starts to happen is like animals start becoming a lot more attracted to you.
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  And the cat sitting on my lap right now, I don't know if you're going to see her tail at some point or hear her meow, uh, is a pretty good example of how I.
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  Shifted my energy.
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  So my husband got me this cat about a year ago for my birthday And she's a rescue and you know rescues tend to be a bit more anxious Uh, you need they need adjustment time those kinds of things But the funny thing was this cat and I did not get along My husband got her for me.
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  We did not get along She claims my husband as her human if you've ever had cats, then you know cats Claim they're humans and that's what no, it's okay.
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  Don't Don't do that.
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  She's like grabbing my hand and trying to lick me.
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  Don't it's okay.
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  Mommy's filming.
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  So one of the things that happened is this cat and I did not get along at all.
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  Now, if I look back to where I was when my husband got this cat for me, we were in the middle of a lot of changes.
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  We moved to another country.
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  We were planning a wedding.
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  Uh, I had like an immigration case going in the other country.
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  So I could be in the country legally.
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  Uh, we were still fixing up a house.
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  We, uh, we were both going through like career changes and things like that.
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  There was a lot of change and a lot of flux going on.
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  And there was a lot of having to manage multiple things and giant to do lists.
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  So I was naturally more in my masculine energy at the time when things finally started to calm down, because that was just the season.
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  When things started to calm down and I relaxed a lot more and I was able to spend more time in my feminine energy and my husband became the provider, so I spent even more time.
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  In my feminine energy, the cat's behavior started to change and now she doesn't leave me alone.
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  So if I'm in the office recording like I am right now, she will find me and plop herself on my lap.
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  If I am downstairs watching TV on the couch, she will find me and plop herself on my lap.
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  On my lap.
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  If I'm in the bedroom reading a book or meditating, she will find me and plop herself on my lap.
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  Now, what changed?
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  My energy changed.
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  And the cat's energy changed.
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  And that's one of the things that will happen when you're in your feminine energy, is Animals become more attracted to you when you are in that energy.
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  And so do men, not to say men are animals, but you might start seeing shifts in the way that men respond to you too.
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  And not just animals and men, but how the whole world, uh, responds to you.
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  To you so let's get into what masculine energy looks like in a woman and how we can start to fix it In the story that I just said I just said there were massive to do lists There was a lot going on There were lots of things to manage because we were in a season of life where there was just a lot of change Going on So if you have massive to do lists and you're constantly going going going going going going going You might be in your masculine energy.
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  Now.
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  There are seasons where that's okay Like the example that I gave was a season.
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  We literally moved to another country.
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  Okay, so that comes with very long to do lists and lots of appointments at government buildings.
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  And we were also planning a wedding.
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  So there was a lot more, uh, big giant to do lists at the time.
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  It was a season.
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  The problem that most women find themselves in, she just tried to grab my hand.
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  The problem that most people find themselves in, or a lot of women find themselves in, is the fact that it's not a season, right?
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  It's not a temporary situation.
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  It's literally how they run their whole life and they've been doing it for decades.
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  So we have to start shifting that and realizing that we have to slow down.
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  One of the ways in which we can do that is we can start to realize that we are more cyclical in nature and we can follow more of the seasons.
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  So, for example, with our hormonal cycle, we know that women are on a 28 day cycle.
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  We are not the same every day, whereas men are.
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  Men are the same every 24 hours.
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  We are not okay one week.
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  We feel this way the next week We feel that way the week after that we feel another way the week after that We feel a totally different way and then it starts all over again So maybe taking those things into account and realizing that there are seasons if you are not Cycling for whatever reason then follow the moon cycles.
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  That's the way of doing it.
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  You can follow the seasons realizing But there are seasons to everything.
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  So the same way that there was a very busy season that I had about a year ago and I was more in my masculine, that's why this cat on my lap right now.
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  And I were not getting along very well because she's very sensitive.
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  Um, It's just a season.
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  It's just a passing transient moment in your life.
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  It is not your whole life.
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  So that is one of the ways that you can get out of that because most women are operating in a way where they're men, like men operate where they're doing the same thing every day.
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  They're going hard every day.
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  They're managing all these things every day.
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  There's constantly chaos to manage.
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  Um, and you can't do that.
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  That will take a toll.
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  On a woman eventually to be in that masculine energy so much So start following seasons and cycles, even if it's just a little bit and that will help a lot another Sign of a masculine woman is that she keeps attracting feminine Men, right?
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  So the men who keep asking you to pay half the bills, the men who think they are the prize, the men who you know, ask you dumb questions, like what do you bring to the table, if you keep attracting those kinds of men, men who do not pursue you, men who who do not provide, and provision comes in many different forms.
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  So it could be money, it could be whatever resources they have, like their time, it could be fixing your problems.
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  If you've got, are attracting men who create more problems than actually fix your problems, that's usually a telltale sign that you are more in your masculine, and usually Particularly when it comes to the problem solving thing that I just mentioned, uh, usually very hyper independent women are so used to having to solve problems for themselves.
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  And I know speaking as someone who used to be one of those that sometimes they don't realize that other people can solve their problems and that men can solve their problems.
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  A lot of women have also been conditioned into thinking that men are useless, right?
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  Which is not true at all.
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  Masculine To be used, right?
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  They, they want to be useful to you that you're there, them being a utility matters, it helps them feel like men.
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  But a lot of women have been conditioned into thinking that men are the exact opposite, that they're grown children, which is also not true that they just, they don't solve problems.
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  They're lazy, they're dumb.
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  And how are you going to attract a masculine man?
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  If that's what you think about men.
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  So feminine women don't think that men are useless.
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  They don't think that men just create a bunch of problems, uh, and they're able to easily, uh, and by the way, right, they don't go around solving all of a man's problems either.
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  So another sign that you might be a masculine energy in a woman is when you go around solving everybody else's problems, instead of letting them solve some problems for you.
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  Themselves now if you have small children, that's a different story, right?
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  But we're talking about like grown adults If you go around solving problems for all the grown adults in your life And you don't let them solve their own problems or step up and be empowered human beings Sign that you are in your masculine energy as a woman and those types of women usually end up in relationships eventually, where they start deeming the men as lazy and useless, which healthy men are not lazy or useless and feminine energy women, uh, or women who learn how to do more of the feminine energy, you'll start seeing that shift in, in men and either the types of men you're attracting, or if you're already in a long term relationship, you'll see that start to shift.
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  Uh, as well, but those of you already in a relationship, you got to give it some time in order for it to happen.
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  To shift and then the other sign that you might be a masculine woman, which has to do with the last point is that you are constantly over giving.
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  So the feminine is about receiving the masculine is about giving.
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  It doesn't mean that there, you can't have reciprocity or anything like that.
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  Right.
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  But it's not like an exact formula either.
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  Right.
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  That's another sign that you're too in your masculine is you're trying to find the exact formulas instead of going with the flow and being more flexible.
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  Okay.
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  Well, let's get back to the first point, which is the over giving, right?
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  You're giving way too much to other people.
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  You are not receiving enough in return.
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  You will see this in the dating stages.
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  Quite a lot when women are paying half the dates or they're like, Oh, you get this one.
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  I'll get the other one.
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  If you're paying a man's bills or you're solving his problems.
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  Uh, and again, if you have small children, different story, you just have to make sure to replenish yourself.
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  Receive from other places if you're dealing with grown adults then, uh, they should you should they should be giving more to you than you are actually giving to them as a Feminine woman and then to the next point very masculine women or women who have a lot of masculine energy Are oftentimes very much in their heads Right.
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  So there's a lot of overthinking.
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  There's a lot of hypervigilance.
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  There's a lot of anxiety because all the energy is up here.
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  Whereas feminine women are more relaxed, right?
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  Because they know how to move that energy from all up here into their bodies.
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  They are more embodied.
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  Uh, a lot of women are walking around.
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  Like literally it feels like their energy from the neck down is just completely cut off and it's completely shut down.
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  Like all the energy.
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  is up here and that can cause problems in the bedroom where you don't feel anything.
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  Uh, by the way.
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  So that might be one that we can start solving.
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  And the way to start becoming more in your body, There's breathwork practices, there's meditations, there's dance.
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  Dance is a great way.
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  Stuff like belly dancing, salsa dancing.
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  Uh, one of the things that my husband and I did last year, and we're going to get back to it, is we were taking salsa dancing classes, and now we're going to start doing it again.
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  Right?
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  Because that was a really good practice in letting him lead and surrendering.
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  Uh, on my part.
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  Now, my masculine would come out, funny story, because I'm competitive.
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  Not against him, and not really against other people, but I'm very competitive with myself.
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  So I'm right there with you and I'm, I'm learning right along with you guys.
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  I've just gotten a little further ahead than maybe some of you watching this video.
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  So hope you guys found this video very helpful.
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  Hope it clarified a lot of things for you.
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