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Why Narcissists LOVE social media so much. · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people.
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  Today we're going to be talking about why do narcissists love
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  social media so Dang on much like why do they love it?
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  If you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a clinically diagnosed narcissist and welcome to
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  another episode of The Narcissist Code
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  Babe. Welcome back, folks, welcome
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  back, welcome back, welcome back.
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  Yes, why do those pesky narcissists love social media So
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  Dang on much. Like why?
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  Why can't they seemingly get enough of social media?
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  I know it, it, it seemed like a, a super simplistic thing,
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  doesn't it? Everybody loves social media,
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  but not everybody. There's, yeah, there's some
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  people out here that I know my real life that even though
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  social media has been around for damn near what, how long has
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  Facebook been around? Almost 20 years.
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  Facebook has been around for almost 20 years.
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  I remember being on Facebook when it's called Duff Facebook
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  and you needed a college, you needed a college college e-mail
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  address to get on there. And that had to be back in like
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  2000. You know what I mean?
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  It's been a long time, right? It's been a long time since
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  Facebook came up, came out. You need the college, college
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  e-mail address to get on there. Like I've known people for that
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  long that have not ever really got into social media, right?
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  They just don't care about Facebook and things like that.
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  They don't care about Instagram and things of that nature.
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  It's just like 2004. Dang, 2004.
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  Was that in 2004? Dang, it's crazy.
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  I remember it sounded it might not have been just.
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  Yeah, it's been 20 years. It's 20 years.
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  But I know people for that long who've never really got into the
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  Facebook thing. But I'll be real with you.
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  A couple of people that I know that have never gotten into
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  Facebook or social media, they're still cheaters.
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  They just don't be on Facebook. They still be cheating.
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  They from my generation, same age, then their same birthday,
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  same same birthday year and be the biggest cheatingest people
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  out here. Like they don't just being on
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  being on off social media does not make you a better or worse
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  person. I promise you.
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  Some people just don't use it because they don't want to get
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  caught. They don't just want to get tied
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  up in it or whatnot. They just never felt the need to
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  dive deeply into it. But yeah, narcissists love
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  social media because you know, some narcissists.
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  Again, I tell you, I have narcissistic old friends that
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  are absolutely narcissists that you didn't use.
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  Don't don't need social media to cheat and do that type of stuff.
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  There's no cheaters, but they're a contingent of narcissistic
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  people. A lot of them, most of them, I
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  would say, love social media because it allows you to be
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  whoever the hell you want to be. It allows you to literally be
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  whoever the hell you want to be. Yo para social relationships are
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  insane. Narcissists absolutely thrive on
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  parasocial relationship. They absolutely dude.
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  That's why you see like a lot of times you get these high
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  profile, so celebrities, social media, politician, narcissistic
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  people. They have like this cult like
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  following because narcissistic people love to have that power.
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  They love to be able to cultivate this image and tweak
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  and change the image as they see fit, as they as they can, as
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  they grow, as they change their behaviors, as they do this, as
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  they do that. They love to be able to do that
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  type of stuff. It is like it is one of the
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  things that they can they yeah, they cannot get enough of it,
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  right. It's one of the things that they
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  love. They can't, they can't get
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  enough of it. They love the the power.
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  They love the ability to control the narrative.
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  They love it, they level when they have a flock of people that
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  follow them to do. You don't.
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  You don't know them in real life.
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  You have absolutely no idea who this person is in real life.
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  You just assume that you know them because of the stuff that
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  they post on social media. They love it.
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  They probably wouldn't even deal with you in real life, but they
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  but they love when people who wouldn't even deal with them in
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  real life, who they wouldn't even deal with in real life or
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  associate with in real life, love when they just blindly
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  support them. They love them because they can
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  cultivate whatever image they want to.
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  They absolutely thrive on it. There's always telling people
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  when you find these people who are super popular on social
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  media that you think are the nicest people in the world.
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  Are some of them actually genuinely nice people?
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  Yes. But a lot of them are just
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  posing as nice. Like they get to be a character
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  online. It's a caricature, caricature of
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  who they really are. It's not really them.
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  They're like, OK, they, they evil.
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  Look, they let's say right here, let's let's say I'm getting
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  ready to film this video and make people happy and make
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  people laugh. But right right before I hit
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  play, right before I hit record, I'm cussing my wife and kids.
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  I'm like, shut the hell up in there.
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  Like y'all pathetic. I'm down here trying to make
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  dude all this stuff for the family.
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  Shut the hell out of y'all. Put that I'm going to replace
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  all of y'all. All of y'all.
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  Sorry as hell y'all horrible people.
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  Why am I even with y'all? Why God I can't?
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  Boo. Hey guys, my name is Lee
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  Hammock. I'm a clinical guidance
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  narcissist and let's have fun today.
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  It's so damn fake. They love it because they love
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  being able to trick people. God, y'all don't know?
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  Y'all know Duper's delight is right.
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  It's like when they like when a person, a manipulator gets away
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  with something, then they have like a little sly smile on the
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  face like a chest sire cat. They just like, they can't
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  control, like they can't control the smile muscles.
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  The smirk muscles kick in automatically like they're not
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  even trying to do it. They just get away with
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  something sinister and they just like the smirk muscles just take
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  over like the whole side of the face like the joker.
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  You want to know how I got this smirk?
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  My wife, she caught me cheating and when I told her she was
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  lying. You see, my has my joker
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  pressure out and rub my cheek, but that's how it happens.
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  They love getting away with things, right?
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  They love being in a position to get away with things.
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  They love being in a position to trick people.
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  They love when they get the log off of they get the log off of a
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  live or get to post a video and get get get worshipped and
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  treated good and people love and validate them to get
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  narcissistic supply from it. Like they love it because
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  they're getting away with it. They're getting away with being
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  hard people. There are some self aware
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  narcissists who who, I'm not going to mention their names,
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  but who love getting away with being horrible people.
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  They'll do horrible stuff in real life, right?
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  This is not, this is one of the main reasons you get a lot of
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  narcissists that love social media because they can do
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  horrible things in real life, right?
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  Horrible things get exposed on social media and still have
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  people support them. Oh, we forgive you because
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  you've helped so many people out.
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  It's OK that you've been a horrible ass person behind the
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  scenes. It's OK that you cheated.
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  It's OK that you've been probably probably messaging, you
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  know, maybe some underage people or something like that.
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  It's OK that you've been doing it.
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  It's OK, It's OK, It's OK, It's OK.
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  It's OK. They love hearing.
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  It's OK for the majority of people in, in their following.
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  They love when they, they, it makes them feel justified in
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  their horrible ass behaviors. And so many people support it
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  when somebody does something horrible to a community that you
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  not, let's just say, I mean, this is the simplest way for me
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  to talk about it right here, right?
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  Because I'm black. Let's just say somebody does
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  something horrible. But you know, I'll put myself in
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  this example right here. I'm not going to, this is not to
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  play the victim. Let's just say I'm a black
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  person, right? I do something horrible to the
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  Hispanic community, right? I say something horrible about
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  the Hispanic community, right? I post this apology video to the
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  to to the Hispanic community. But guess what in my comment
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  section, guess who's accepting apology?
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  Black people, white people, Asian people, everybody but the
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  Hispanic people are accepting apology.
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  We forgive you, Lee, you are such a great person.
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  You did this, you done that, you helped so many people.
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  It's OK people. Everybody made mistakes.
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  So I don't give a damn about the original people I offended.
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  Now everybody else has just validated me.
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  Now I was just telling you a lot of y'all, a lot of people, if
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  you caught yourself accepting apologies for stuff that didn't
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  happen to you, stop doing that. Like goodness gracious, stop
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  doing it because you're validating horrible people.
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  You make them feel like they're validating in their horrible ass
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  actions in a terrible ass behaviour.
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  You make them feel like it's OK to do this horrible ass stuff.
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  It's not it's not. You know they love it when they
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  can do something horrible online, horrible in real life,
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  horrible online and get validation and narcissistics
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  apply from people that they didn't even hurt.
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  It makes them feel validated. They love coming to social media
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  for validation and justification.
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  Hey, guys, I did this. I I just want I wanted you to
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  hear it from me first. No, you they didn't want you to
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  hear from them first. They got caught.
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  They just admitting to it because they're going to be
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  exposed anyway. So it makes them look braver for
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  coming out and saying it, then getting the head of stuff and
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  getting forgiven by people who they didn't hurt.
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  Horrible. It's horrible.
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  I said all the time, it just blows my damn mind and I'm a
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  narcissist. I have a personality this or it
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  blows my damn mind. Damn.
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  Like y'all stop accepting apology because you're
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  validating horrible ass people. And if this doesn't apply to
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  you, if it doesn't apply, let it fly.
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  I know most of you are not doing that, but if you caught yourself
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  doing it, you caught yourself being a flying monkey, then stop
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  it. Stop flapping them flying monkey
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  wings. But that's what happens.
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  Tell me they love coming to social media for justification.
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  They love it y'all because they can get validation for doing
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  horrible horrible ass stuff. They can get validated for being
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  terrible people. They absolutely can.
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  That's why they love social media.
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  They love it. They love it when they can get a
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  get a bunch of flying monkeys to support them.
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  They love it when they can come to social media and perform a
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  smear campaign on somebody. They can lie, they can
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  manipulate, they can gaslight through social media.
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  They love it because it's just a tool of manipulation.
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  It's one of the is it like they got a damn tool belt on.
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  You know how tool belts have the, the hammer, the wrench, the
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  drill. The social media is right on
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  there beside the drill, right beside the hammer is their
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  Facebook account. Like let me use my Facebook to
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  manipulate, let me use my Facebook to be abusive.
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  Let me do this, let me do that. You see what I'm saying?
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  This happens so much. So you in these situations you
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  have to empower yourself to be able to do that.
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  You absolutely have to. Like I said, stop supporting
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  toxic narcissistic people that do things wrong.
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  I don't care how many times they helped you out.
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  If y'all heard something about me and it comes out to be true,
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  don't support me. You know what I mean?
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  That's because I know how I am. I'm like, I'm not out here doing
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  those horrible stuff. So I'm not even worried about
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  y'all not supporting me because I'm not going to do nothing
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  horrible to get exposed for. I'm in control of my reaction.
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  I'm in control of my emotions, you know what I'm saying?
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  But if you'll see somebody out here doing something horrible,
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  oh, you make mistakes too, you know, So we all make mistakes.
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  It's OK, you didn't message my underage kids, so it's OK.
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  No, One of the main examples of this right here, right now in
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  real life. Y'all wanna see y'all wanna see
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  y'all wanna see this happen in real life right now Go look at
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  the the dude Doctor Disrespect his name is.
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  I didn't even know. I didn't know this dude existed.
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  Go look at doctor disrespect on Twitter or whatever YouTube, I
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  guess he's a famous streamer or whatever got caught up messaging
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  underage people right And everybody's just like damn,
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  that's horrible. You 3938 years old messaging
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  kids being whatever you you got. You lost your twitch stream,
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  whatever you done lost your endorsement.
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  So you must have done something horrible.
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  The proof must be horrible. And there's people just like,
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  whoa, we all make mistakes. We all.
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  It's OK, I support you. Thanks for being brave enough to
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  come out and say it. What?
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  So he's going to try to go just keep going on with his life like
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  nothing happened because he's getting validation from people
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  that he didn't hurt. And people are, like I said, and
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  the people he didn't hurt are attacking people that are trying
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  to hold him accountable. So they love that like Doctor
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  Disrespect is a horrible. They make a video or tweet.
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  Doctor Disrespect is a horrible person.
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  I can't believe people still support him.
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  And the people that support him still, no matter what, come to
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  those comment sections and make videos about the people that are
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  attacking him, rightfully attacking him.
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  You don't know what you're talking about.
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  You're a simp. You're you're just jealous.
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  He apologized. And then he I'm just telling
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  you, they love it. They love it.
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  They thrive on it. It's, yeah, it's, it's like a
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  bit, it's battery charged, like being battery charged, right?
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  It's being battery charged. It's being powered up.
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  It's being this type of stuff right here.
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  It absolutely is. So this is what I tell people in
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  these situations, you have to continuously empower yourself.
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  Like to stay away from this type of person.
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  You absolutely do. Because if you don't, this is
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  the type of stuff that happens to empower yourself.
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  Stay, stay as strong as you can. Like I said, narcissistic people
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  on social media all can be very horrible, manipulative people.
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  So empower yourselves, stay strong, stay empowered.
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