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Funnels, Freedom, and Healing: How Alyssa Pitts Turned Pain Into Profit | EP129 · Jess Ask

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  Speaker 1: Okay. So because y'all, welcome to another episode, another episode,
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  Speaker 1: talk to her and I introduce her to the world.
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  Speaker 1: You know what, we're not gonna argue. I'm gonna I'm
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  Speaker 1: being reviewed in my mind about Omar right now. So
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  Speaker 1: this is what we're gonna get into it. So desil rate. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: we have a phenomenal guest today, and I'm excited to
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  Speaker 1: talk about the things that we need to talk about
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  Speaker 1: because it's gonna get us together. Because she got me together.
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  Speaker 1: Her got me together. What do you know about funnels.
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  Speaker 1: It's like this like this.
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  Speaker 3: It's all when I when I when I see wait
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  Speaker 3: what like not y M c A, but like uh,
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  Speaker 3: I think of like a shape. So you know you
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  Speaker 3: got like a thing like this that go inside. You know,
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  Speaker 3: think about the phone that's us in the kitchen when
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  Speaker 3: you put the the liquid de side.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, say that because I don't know what this is.
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  Speaker 3: It was almost it wasn't why the MC. I was
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  Speaker 3: just trying to you know, like this is the funnel,
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  Speaker 3: like the go go in, so we go in for
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  Speaker 3: a why why to very concentrate it down to.
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  Speaker 1: The little Okay you might be you might be onto
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  Speaker 1: some oil right there. You might it goes for a
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  Speaker 1: wide brand and then it's okay real slender and slim. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: folks target it there we go. Target might be the
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  Speaker 1: word okay. And so in this podcasting field, y'all understand
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  Speaker 1: that we have opportunities create offers, We have opportunities to
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  Speaker 1: deal with and introduce ourselves to entrepreneurs. And we just
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  Speaker 1: fussed at y'all not too long ago about systems and
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  Speaker 1: understanding your processes and understanding what's season you're in and
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  Speaker 1: the reason I can fuss your child, because I have
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  Speaker 1: people in my circle, like this young lady who kind
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  Speaker 1: of got onto me like she real deal. Came for
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  Speaker 1: my neck one day and it strayed me out so
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  Speaker 1: good that I had. I said, can you come, can
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  Speaker 1: you come fuss at the people on my platform? And
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  Speaker 1: she's not here to fuss at you. You might feel
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  Speaker 1: convicted afterwards, but she's here to help us because it
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  Speaker 1: is the holiday season. It's a great fuss. It's a
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  Speaker 1: great fuss. So the young lady that we're bringing on
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  Speaker 1: is the funnel Queen. Okay, she knows the ins and
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  Speaker 1: out of funnels. She understands the seals behind it, she
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  Speaker 1: understands the ease to your business, and y funnels are
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  Speaker 1: so important. And then we're gonna get a little bit
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  Speaker 1: in her business because she she is a powerful woman
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  Speaker 1: of God. And so I met this girl at in
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  Speaker 1: the morning meet up hosted by David Shan's and so
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  Speaker 1: I'm super excited to have my sister, the funnel Queen
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  Speaker 1: Alsa pit.
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  Speaker 4: And hal love. Thank you for having me. Okay sound board.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, yes, come on, she liked my sound just.
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  Speaker 1: Say yeah you just amp desiraate up. Alyssa you just
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  Speaker 1: amp desiraate up and so fit. Fair warning to you guys,
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  Speaker 1: if I call her Curlyssa, that she goes by Carlyssa
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  Speaker 1: as well. She's normally in some curls, all right, but
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  Speaker 1: she's braided down, bust down with the braids because she'd
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  Speaker 1: been out here traveling and she had to protect the help.
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  Speaker 1: So if I interchange that, it's the same person, y'all.
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  Speaker 1: So let's just go ahead and get that out the way. Alyssa,
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  Speaker 1: how you doing, sis?
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  Speaker 4: I am doing well. How are you?
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  Speaker 1: I'm good, I'm good. Thank you so much for joining
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  Speaker 1: us today. We're super excited to learn. I think I
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  Speaker 1: think you bring a lot of sauce. Okay, you are
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  Speaker 1: a well kept woman. Okay, but you young though. Tell
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  Speaker 1: the people how old you are? This wisdom fingna b
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  Speaker 1: t Okay, She's gonna keep us updated. How old are you, Alyssa?
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  Speaker 4: Yes, so I'm twenty five years old. I've been doing
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  Speaker 4: business for like since I came out the womb. Both
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  Speaker 4: my parents are entrepreneurs, so they kind of volunteered me
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  Speaker 4: for some of the things. I just come along and
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  Speaker 4: see some of the different things. But I've been making
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  Speaker 4: money since as long as I can remember and doing
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  Speaker 4: design competitions forever. But I am twenty five, robertda It's
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  Speaker 4: June twenty first shout out to all the cancers Geminis.
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  Speaker 4: I'm a geminiancer.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, that's interesting, a geminel. So I've never heard of
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  Speaker 1: that before. And I don't know anything about horoscope.
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  Speaker 4: If that's why you can't subscribe to those some of
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  Speaker 4: those things because for me, I don't fit inside of.
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  Speaker 1: Because you were fearfully and wonderfully made yes, clocked it, Tea. Well, listen,
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  Speaker 1: I think we about to clear something up before we
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  Speaker 1: get into your why behind funnels? Can we can you
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  Speaker 1: break down since you're the funnel queen, can you break
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  Speaker 1: down for us what is a funnel and what's the
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  Speaker 1: biggest misconception about it?
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  Speaker 4: Okay, good question. So what a funnel? Is this the
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  Speaker 4: process or what I say a funnel? Is this the
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  Speaker 4: process that somebody goes through from not knowing you at
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  Speaker 4: all to becoming a loyal customer or client. And the
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  Speaker 4: biggest misconception about funnels is because there's a metaphorical funnel
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  Speaker 4: where the funnel is actually the customer journey or the
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  Speaker 4: buyer's journey. What a lot of people say, and then
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  Speaker 4: there's actually the digital or physical version of the funnel.
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  Speaker 4: And this could look like example, a grocery store. You
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  Speaker 4: go in there for groceries, but on the way out
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  Speaker 4: you might see magazines and candy and you might pick
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  Speaker 4: it that's an add on, or you might see online.
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  Speaker 4: We have a lot of digital funnels, which I build
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  Speaker 4: out those and this is like landing page and you
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  Speaker 4: might have comment the words something and you get a DM.
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  Speaker 4: All of these things are part of a grand scheme
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  Speaker 4: of funnel, the process that somebody goes through from not
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  Speaker 4: knowing you at all to becoming a loyal customer or client.
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  Speaker 1: That's cool. So what's the biggest misconception of this process?
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  Speaker 1: Like when people think about funnels, what do you hear
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  Speaker 1: the most? That is the biggest false misconception that you
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  Speaker 1: normally get.
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  Speaker 4: That part is the kind of misconception that a lot
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  Speaker 4: of people don't understand that there's kind of the literal
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  Speaker 4: version of the funnel, which is like the processes that
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  Speaker 4: if that then this happens. The landing pages and the
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  Speaker 4: automation's part of it, but there's also just the buyer's journey,
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  Speaker 4: like everybody has a funnel, whether they know it or not.
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  Speaker 4: Kind of, I guess we can go with that's the
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  Speaker 4: biggest misconception. Everybody has a funnel, whether they know it
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  Speaker 4: or not. If they don't have all the online side together,
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  Speaker 4: that's okay. They still already have a funnel.
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  Speaker 1: That's a good point because I think that when me
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  Speaker 1: and you talk, so I'm about to get in my
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  Speaker 1: business with her, she chopped me up real good. She
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  Speaker 1: her chopped me up real good. But I learned a
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  Speaker 1: lot in my consultation with her. So one of the
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  Speaker 1: things that I thought that I couldn't have was a
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  Speaker 1: funnel as a podcaster, Like I didn't think that it
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  Speaker 1: was necessary for me too, because I'm still building my products,
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  Speaker 1: still knowing what that looks like for people that are
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  Speaker 1: in like the entertainment media spaces. What would a funk like,
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  Speaker 1: What type of funnel would you suggest for people like that?
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  Speaker 4: That's a good question, And I just smiled because one
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  Speaker 4: of my new clients, her name is Tamia, shout out
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  Speaker 4: to her. She's actually on the Beet Show and she sings.
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  Speaker 4: She's a singer, she has a band, So with her,
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  Speaker 4: we're actually built out a booking funnel. So because she
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  Speaker 4: needs to actually be booked for these different singing engagements
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  Speaker 4: or to be on different TV shows and have her
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  Speaker 4: music in the background, they still have to speak to
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  Speaker 4: her in some capacity. So we have the intake form,
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  Speaker 4: so we're taking in their information and then we're making
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  Speaker 4: sure that it cross references with her calendar, so if
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  Speaker 4: she has a doctor's appointment, there's never any double bookings.
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  Speaker 4: If she already has other meetings or already got booked,
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  Speaker 4: there's never any double bookings with anything like that, Or
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  Speaker 4: for someone like you, you have guests on all the time,
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  Speaker 4: the reminders, having all the people together and making sure, hey,
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  Speaker 4: we have their information, maybe we're giving them some pre questions.
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  Speaker 4: All this could be automated, and it just depends on
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  Speaker 4: what level of the industry you're in. The whole point
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  Speaker 4: of having a funnel is to simplify the processes so
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  Speaker 4: that you don't have to spend time doing these little
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  Speaker 4: tedious things.
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  Speaker 1: That's so good. We were just talking about that over
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  Speaker 1: our break, and we actually were talking about that before
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  Speaker 1: we started recording with you, because people tend to forget
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  Speaker 1: sometimes and with our schedule, both of us are busy,
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  Speaker 1: and then the assistance or admin that we have. They're
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  Speaker 1: already kind of, you know, bogged down with other things
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  Speaker 1: being mothers, and I don't want to negate that because
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  Speaker 1: my team is volunteering right now just to keep it
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  Speaker 1: very transparent. I thank God for that one day we
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  Speaker 1: will be able to fully pay. But the Lord has
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  Speaker 1: blessed us to where they're sowing their time, and so
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  Speaker 1: I've been trying to figure out how I could make
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  Speaker 1: it easier for them, my team, to make this thing flow.
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  Speaker 1: And so I'm curious to know how you even got
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  Speaker 1: into being a funnel creator, Like how did you even
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  Speaker 1: start tapping it? And you're so young, Like you're so young,
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  Speaker 1: you're so wise, you're so vibrant, you're so ambitious, and
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  Speaker 1: you're doing like you be dropping gems like real bad,
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  Speaker 1: like every day, real bad, and so how did you
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  Speaker 1: even tap into building funnels and helping people with their
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  Speaker 1: business like this?
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  Speaker 4: Okay, So I started off actually designing, Like I said earlier,
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  Speaker 4: I've been designing since I was younger because of my parents,
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  Speaker 4: and I was also in a lot of programs. For example,
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  Speaker 4: the first thing I entered when I was around eight
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  Speaker 4: was called the Great Space Race, where we literally were
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  Speaker 4: making flyers at a college level and competing against people
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  Speaker 4: from all over the world. It was crazy. But since
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  Speaker 4: then I evolved to social media management after I did design.
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  Speaker 4: At first, when I joined Morning meetup where I met you,
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  Speaker 4: I was doing fifty dollars fly or Friday. Then I
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  Speaker 4: started doing social media management. My first client was around
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  Speaker 4: eighteen hundred a month, and then I saw that all
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  Speaker 4: of my social media clients they needed to convert that
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  Speaker 4: into a funnel. A lot of them were contracting other people,
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  Speaker 4: and I ended up having to still work on the
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  Speaker 4: funnel whether or not I built out this. People pay
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  Speaker 4: a lot of money for funnels, y'all. If it's a
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  Speaker 4: good quality funnel and it has all the pieces, it
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  Speaker 4: is a pretty penny first what I've seen of my counterparts.
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  Speaker 4: But I kept having to fix things, and I was like, hmm, okay, Now,
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  Speaker 4: imagine if you just bought a house and then you
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  Speaker 4: still had to fix everything inside the house. It wasn't
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  Speaker 4: a brand new house. You had to fix everything inside
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  Speaker 4: the house. Except these people bought a brand new funnel.
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  Speaker 4: So I saw where the gap was. And especially for
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  Speaker 4: Brock and Brown people, it's marketing different. A lot of
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  Speaker 4: people don't think about Okay, if I'm going to this person,
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  Speaker 4: these people might not look like me, and they might
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  Speaker 4: not have studied that consumer whereas I have. So where
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  Speaker 4: I come in it's a little bit different from other people.
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  Speaker 4: So we branded ourselves as Fearless Funnels so that we
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  Speaker 4: can truly be fearless, so that if somebody does, you know,
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  Speaker 4: buy a funnel from us. We even have Tuesday calls
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  Speaker 4: every Tuesday so after they can come talk to us,
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  Speaker 4: learn some of the things, and they don't have to
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  Speaker 4: worry about Okay, I just invested pretty much. Sometimes funnels
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  Speaker 4: are people's rent and then they don't have any support
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  Speaker 4: after or they have a lot of pieces to connect.
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  Speaker 1: That's so good. So I'm gonna get the two questions
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  Speaker 1: after what you just said, because you just you're doing
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  Speaker 1: a great job of let's say, you're just making this
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  Speaker 1: so easy. Okay. So one of the things you said
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  Speaker 1: that the last thing you said was this is how
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  Speaker 1: some people pay their rent. And one of the things
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  Speaker 1: that in our conversation, our personal conversation you came from,
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  Speaker 1: this is where you came for my nick and you said, Jessica,
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  Speaker 1: how much extra money do you want to make right now, right,
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  Speaker 1: and you gave me an example of how you were
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  Speaker 1: able to pay for certain things by creating offers. Can
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  Speaker 1: we get into that, Like what I in my mind
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  Speaker 1: you have to be before I became an Eminemy member.
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  Speaker 1: I thought everything had to be together, everything had to
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  Speaker 1: be perfect before I presented it to the world. Can
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  Speaker 1: you explain to us why that's not true and how
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  Speaker 1: the steps to take to creating an offer no problem.
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  Speaker 4: So kind of having an offer for me, I have
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  Speaker 4: evolved in my offer creation. I do partner with AI.
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  Speaker 4: AI stands for artificial Intelligence. So for somebody who has
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  Speaker 4: a lean team like you, shout out to Cynthia, She's
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  Speaker 4: also one of my partners. She has build your AI
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  Speaker 4: Dreams lean team. But with that you'd have to be
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  Speaker 4: able to articulate some of the things. So for me,
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  Speaker 4: I actually did create an offer bot, and I did
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  Speaker 4: a little program where everybody. It was kind of funny
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  Speaker 4: because I did it when I was twenty four. Everybody
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  Speaker 4: in my program it was ten people. I was older
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  Speaker 4: than them, so we actually got to see, Okay, what
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  Speaker 4: do we need to do to create an offer for me?
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  Speaker 4: It's one hundred million dollar offers by Alex HERMOSI. I
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  Speaker 4: always start with what do people ask you all the time?
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  Speaker 4: So for you, it might be information about podcasts. I
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  Speaker 4: saw you did have a webinar where it was revolving
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  Speaker 4: around that, so congratulations for having that. After the webinar,
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  Speaker 4: what's the upsill for that? So what do people often ask?
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  Speaker 4: Is it okay? What type of equipment do you have?
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  Speaker 4: And then again for you, I'm asking you how much
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  Speaker 4: money do you want to make? So so my brain
• 15:00
  Speaker 4: goes into rabbit holes. I don't know about shaw if
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  Speaker 4: you've seen in Alice in Wonderland or anything like that,
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  Speaker 4: but there's rabbit holes inside my brain. So if people
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  Speaker 4: are asking me that, I actually just became a bronze
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  Speaker 4: member on Amazon. So what that means is I've shared
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  Speaker 4: my link enough times to where I leveled up my status.
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  Speaker 4: Because if people are asking me the same questions, where
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  Speaker 4: do I get my glasses? We're on live right now
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  Speaker 4: on my platform. We have viewers watching commenting and they're
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  Speaker 4: able to see. But when people ask, hey, where did
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  Speaker 4: you get your glasses from? I'm sending them this link.
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  Speaker 4: So that's part one of what you have. That's an
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  Speaker 4: offer you could make sure that you have a six
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  Speaker 4: week program that could be a part of your offer
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  Speaker 4: if you don't want to do one to one. If
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  Speaker 4: you wanted to do more one to one, that could
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  Speaker 4: be a part of your offer. You have to think
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  Speaker 4: of all the different settings that you could possibly have
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  Speaker 4: it in. Some people could make the same amount of
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  Speaker 4: money if it is more money goal with just never
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  Speaker 4: talking to people at all. They could pre record a course,
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  Speaker 4: So you have to think of the format that you
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  Speaker 4: wanted it. Is it live? Is it pre recorded? Some
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  Speaker 4: people just have text based courses. I've seen for it
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  Speaker 4: and they've sold it for and I've just been in
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  Speaker 4: a meeting where I didn't have it India or anything
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  Speaker 4: like that. Five thousand dollars for a text based course.
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  Speaker 4: So just thinking about the platform of what you want
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  Speaker 4: to sell. People make millions off digital products videos. It
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  Speaker 4: just depends on the format. All of these things go
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  Speaker 4: into your offer beyond you know, just thinking of okay price,
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  Speaker 4: what do they get out of it? What do you
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  Speaker 4: have the capacity for as well, because you shouldn't sell
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  Speaker 4: anything that you're not actually going to do. But for me,
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  Speaker 4: I do make sure that with all of my clients
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  Speaker 4: is our offer good, is it strong and then as
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  Speaker 4: the funnel girly, what can we build on the back
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  Speaker 4: end off of that. So to answer your other question,
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  Speaker 4: I think when you have something, it's easier to pre
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  Speaker 4: sale or pre qualify. Most of my clients actually come
• 16:54
  Speaker 4: to me for wait lists and pre sales. So when
• 16:58
  Speaker 4: we're writing the books, if you had this great idea
• 17:00
  Speaker 4: for this book or this course, let's sell it at
• 17:02
  Speaker 4: maybe half price or a quarter of the price or
• 17:05
  Speaker 4: whatever you want to do, add bonuses and pre sell it.
• 17:09
  Speaker 4: After we get to ten pre sales, then let's record
• 17:12
  Speaker 4: the course. Then let's write the book. But what if
• 17:14
  Speaker 4: people don't buy it? You're going to do all of
• 17:16
  Speaker 4: this stuff and then now you have to push it.
• 17:19
  Speaker 4: Let's push it now? Why not let's just pre qualify ourselves.
• 17:23
  Speaker 4: A lot of times, if we are thinking about God,
• 17:26
  Speaker 4: you pray about the things, but you actually have to
• 17:28
  Speaker 4: do the action as well, and as you're praying for it,
• 17:31
  Speaker 4: you can think of that as you're pre qualifying metric.
• 17:34
  Speaker 4: It has to actually of course come out. You have
• 17:37
  Speaker 4: to do it. You cannot just pre sell the things
• 17:40
  Speaker 4: and give a date and then never drop it ever,
• 17:43
  Speaker 4: or you have to give value. If you're not going
• 17:44
  Speaker 4: to do it like, hey, I'm not ready to release
• 17:47
  Speaker 4: this book, but instead, since you did buy it, here's
• 17:49
  Speaker 4: this version of it. But a lot of times the
• 17:53
  Speaker 4: answer is kind of pre sales to your question. And
• 17:55
  Speaker 4: when it comes to making offers, you have to kind
• 17:57
  Speaker 4: of think of what's best for you and what people
• 17:59
  Speaker 4: ask of you. Most of the time.
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: You just dropped. So does gen Borough like buruh like, So,
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: this is what I just heard you say, Lissa. I
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: heard you say that, let's especially for creatives, because you
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: know what creatives we talk about rabbit holes. We go
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: down a lot of rabbit holes. And let's say that
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: we get to monitor which rabbit hole we go down
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: based upon the pre sale or the prerequisite for the
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: that's where the final benefits me. So I can create
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: this weight list, I can do this pre sale and
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: this will motivate the finishing product. Is that fair to
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: some up what you kind of just said.
• 18:43
  Speaker 4: Correct? And then you have this opportunity to engage people.
• 18:46
  Speaker 4: Now you have qualified people, for example, even if it's
• 18:49
  Speaker 4: a free weight list, Now you can you have permission
• 18:51
  Speaker 4: to email these people, you have permission to text these people,
• 18:53
  Speaker 4: and you know, scientifically with marketing, it takes seven to
• 18:57
  Speaker 4: thirteen touch points before people buy, instead of just having Instagram,
• 19:01
  Speaker 4: maybe Facebook, maybe LinkedIn. If these people are consistent, now
• 19:05
  Speaker 4: we can do email and text, which some people check
• 19:07
  Speaker 4: every single day.
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: This is good. This is good. What is the biggest
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: mistake that we make in our offers when you see
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: us creating our offers, what are the maybe a few
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: things that you see that we have a bigger opportunity
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: in creating our offers.
• 19:28
  Speaker 4: Kind of going through all of the parts of the offers,
• 19:31
  Speaker 4: not having the sense of urgency and having the automated
• 19:35
  Speaker 4: part of the funnel like that. That's kind of one
• 19:37
  Speaker 4: of my favorite funnels to create. When people do have
• 19:40
  Speaker 4: the webinars and they do have these limited time offers,
• 19:43
  Speaker 4: they kind of add this fake sense of urgency where
• 19:46
  Speaker 4: it's like, yeah, we slash the price just for this webinar,
• 19:49
  Speaker 4: where instead I have worked with people where it's like, Okay,
• 19:53
  Speaker 4: our offer is fifteen hundred for this webinar. Specifically, we'll
• 19:57
  Speaker 4: do seven fifty just for you, but it only lasts midnight.
• 20:00
  Speaker 4: We on the back end build an alternative page with
• 20:03
  Speaker 4: a countdown at the top, and when that countdown runs out,
• 20:06
  Speaker 4: it's back to fifteen hundred, people will still buy it
• 20:08
  Speaker 4: at fifteen hundred. And the mistake is people don't send
• 20:11
  Speaker 4: all the offers out to everybody. They assume a lot
• 20:14
  Speaker 4: of people, assume a lot of stuff. We assume people
• 20:17
  Speaker 4: don't have the money. We assume people don't have after pay.
• 20:20
  Speaker 4: We assume people don't have clarner. We assume people don't
• 20:22
  Speaker 4: want to hear us. But who are we to assume
• 20:24
  Speaker 4: there's somebody out there? There was a baby just looking
• 20:27
  Speaker 4: up on YouTube how do I do marketing? And they
• 20:30
  Speaker 4: could have watched this video instead. So we can't assume
• 20:34
  Speaker 4: that people know these things. We can't assume people don't
• 20:37
  Speaker 4: want our product, and we can't assume that it's gonna work,
• 20:39
  Speaker 4: So why not do the pre sales?
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: That's a valid point. And I can say that I
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: want to go back to how you help me? And
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: I gotta I gotta give the tea because she is
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: taking clients. I'm just gonna ahead and throw that pluggin
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: right now. She is taking clients. We're going to have
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: her information included in the bio and you can just
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: click you can just click on it and just tell
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: a sent you okay, maybe we can have an affiliate link.
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: I don't know. Just see how many people came from
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: just as I don't know. We'll talk about it, I'll screamed.
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: But how you helped me was when we had the conversation.
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: First of all, you asked me what I wanted. So
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: I think that's a big, big Mixhalp. I've almost made
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: that mistake of not knowing or how to answer that
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: question to you, like what would it take me to
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: get what I want? Right? Or what is what I
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: even wanted? Right? And I'll be transparent with y'all. All
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: I did was I said, Hey, I just want two
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: thousand dollars, and Alyssa, you said. Your response was like, okay,
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: that's it. She said, that's it. I was like, in
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: my mind, it was so hard to get into two
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: thousand dollars. So she was like, okay, this is how
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: we can do it. She gave me like two or
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: three options, and I went with one of the options,
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: and I made over that when I did my offer.
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: So I gotta tell tell you, like what she is
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: saying and what she's giving you on this platform right now,
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: and if you decide to go hit her up, it works.
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: And she has several several testimonials like this, and so
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: when you when you broke it down for me and
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: you said, first of all, let's see what you want.
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: All right, now that we see what you want, let's
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: talk about how you can get there, and how you
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: can get Let's create this this this formal revenue for
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: you because you can make an offer for two thousand
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: dollars if you want to and just have one client,
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: or you can open up the door for you know
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: what I'm saying, she just start breaking things down. And
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: when we have a big goal, I think that sometimes
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: we can just be so overwhelmed with the big goal.
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: How what has been the biggest goal a client has
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: come to you with and how were you able to
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: meet that goal?
• 22:54
  Speaker 4: Alyssa hmm, that's a good question. Now, I do want
• 22:59
  Speaker 4: to actually put there to be a thousand percent honest.
• 23:02
  Speaker 4: As a twenty five year old who has had a
• 23:04
  Speaker 4: thousand lives and I mean y'all a thousand lives, I've
• 23:09
  Speaker 4: had lots of clients with astronomical goals, and to be honest,
• 23:13
  Speaker 4: there's some that I've heard that I'm like, I don't
• 23:14
  Speaker 4: want to be a part of that. I'm the first
• 23:17
  Speaker 4: person to say absolutely not, not me, especially if it
• 23:22
  Speaker 4: doesn't make sense for me. I'm fine with helping people
• 23:26
  Speaker 4: grow or actually reading the science of scaling right now,
• 23:29
  Speaker 4: and in that, we learned about somebody that took the
• 23:32
  Speaker 4: role of CEO for a year and didn't get paid.
• 23:35
  Speaker 4: While I've done that several several times at this point
• 23:39
  Speaker 4: in the game, there has been times even this year,
• 23:42
  Speaker 4: where I was offered somebody wanted to make multiple people
• 23:48
  Speaker 4: over a million dollars. I want to say there was
• 23:50
  Speaker 4: twelve clients that this person had to make over a
• 23:52
  Speaker 4: million dollars. They only wanted to pay me seventy five thousand.
• 23:56
  Speaker 4: That's the type of numbers we're talking about now. So
• 23:58
  Speaker 4: it's like, oh, when I was like twenty one and
• 24:01
  Speaker 4: I started getting serious about business, seventy five thousand dollars,
• 24:05
  Speaker 4: I was like, oh, oh my gosh, you know that.
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: I wow.
• 24:09
  Speaker 4: Yeah, But now I have to have real conversations with
• 24:11
  Speaker 4: people where I'm like, Okay, we're talking about twelve million dollars.
• 24:14
  Speaker 4: Seventy five thousand dollars. Of that goes to me. If
• 24:17
  Speaker 4: we're talking about that and I have to make this
• 24:19
  Speaker 4: solely and this was a faceless model, why would I do.
• 24:23
  Speaker 4: Let's talk about some real numbers so first time it
• 24:26
  Speaker 4: makes sense or we yeah, let jump into it. Let's
• 24:28
  Speaker 4: just say that I have had some goals that I've
• 24:30
  Speaker 4: heard that I've said no to, and I'm okay with
• 24:33
  Speaker 4: saying no to that. But some of my favorite things
• 24:36
  Speaker 4: are the clients that are like you, where we have
• 24:38
  Speaker 4: to ask we're having all of these things, and we're
• 24:40
  Speaker 4: doing all of these events, and we're getting all these
• 24:42
  Speaker 4: calls what is the goal? What is the goal? And
• 24:46
  Speaker 4: a lot of times people I'm the first time people
• 24:49
  Speaker 4: are asked, are answering these questions, and it's very funny
• 24:53
  Speaker 4: to see these CEOs and I'm like, you've been going
• 24:57
  Speaker 4: and going and going, and we don't have the Their
• 25:00
  Speaker 4: basic goal of how many people do you want to
• 25:02
  Speaker 4: watch the podcast? How many people do you want to
• 25:06
  Speaker 4: come to these events? So that's kind of the big
• 25:09
  Speaker 4: thing in the turnaround. So it's different goals per client,
• 25:13
  Speaker 4: but sometimes it's how many do you want to have
• 25:15
  Speaker 4: And when they don't have anything at all, and then
• 25:18
  Speaker 4: all of a sudden, it's like they're one of their
• 25:20
  Speaker 4: first webinars in a while, and we have over four
• 25:22
  Speaker 4: hundred people that do come on the webinar and you
• 25:25
  Speaker 4: actually sell your upsell of this course that you've already created.
• 25:29
  Speaker 4: And some few times I do have clients come to
• 25:31
  Speaker 4: me and it is either a very new venture, which
• 25:34
  Speaker 4: is a lot of different things to look at. Some
• 25:36
  Speaker 4: of their metrics are a little bit different. And we
• 25:39
  Speaker 4: have people that already have established brands, and that's kind
• 25:42
  Speaker 4: of the people I love working with. Their brands are
• 25:44
  Speaker 4: already established, they already have all the people, they have
• 25:47
  Speaker 4: the courses, but they're just not doing anything with it
• 25:50
  Speaker 4: right now. Those are the ones where I'm like, hey, girl,
• 25:53
  Speaker 4: actually just met somebody at podcast summit in the bathroom
• 25:55
  Speaker 4: and we made over three thousand dollars before she even
• 25:59
  Speaker 4: launched her her full wait list up of everything. While
• 26:04
  Speaker 4: she had the weight list, she sold about three thousand
• 26:06
  Speaker 4: dollars worth of stuff. When she launched, she still had
• 26:08
  Speaker 4: people that made money. The thing about it is this
• 26:10
  Speaker 4: is a continuity offer, so even more money that she
• 26:13
  Speaker 4: makes after that, we're looking at okay. And she gave
• 26:16
  Speaker 4: me solidified goals. This is a low income goal, this
• 26:19
  Speaker 4: is the mid income goal, this is the high income goal.
• 26:21
  Speaker 4: And then with that we played around with pricing. If
• 26:24
  Speaker 4: you want to make this much. We can make that
• 26:26
  Speaker 4: with this amount of people buying this much. But if
• 26:29
  Speaker 4: you want more people and a bigger impact, then we
• 26:31
  Speaker 4: might have to lower the pricing so you have more
• 26:33
  Speaker 4: people come in. We're looking at all of these different things,
• 26:36
  Speaker 4: so all of the goals dictate what the offer is
• 26:39
  Speaker 4: sometimes and how hard we push it.
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: Okay, now let me talk to the audience real quick.
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: If you're not writing this stuff down, shame on you,
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: key baby. This right here is a masterclass of its own.
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: And we know that the holiday season is coming up.
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: So Alyssa, how are you preparing your clients for the
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: holiday season?
• 27:06
  Speaker 4: So first again the core things that we said in
• 27:08
  Speaker 4: this thing, do you have an offer? Do we have
• 27:10
  Speaker 4: an offer for Black Friday? And a lot of people
• 27:12
  Speaker 4: have been panicking, as you know. I actually spoke in
• 27:15
  Speaker 4: the community of Morning Meetup and they were like, oh,
• 27:17
  Speaker 4: I don't want to have sales. Nobody said you had
• 27:20
  Speaker 4: to have sales. And even if people do have sales,
• 27:22
  Speaker 4: if you look at statistically in the past of other businesses,
• 27:26
  Speaker 4: sometimes they stop having any sales. They mark the prices
• 27:29
  Speaker 4: all the way up, so people have a different frame
• 27:32
  Speaker 4: of reference and then they discount it, or they add bundles,
• 27:36
  Speaker 4: or they do pre sales to other things, or there's
• 27:38
  Speaker 4: a lot of things to do other than sales. So
• 27:41
  Speaker 4: first off, preparing my clients by asking, hey, are you
• 27:45
  Speaker 4: ready for this? It's actually projected to be seventy four
• 27:48
  Speaker 4: point four billion with a B dollars in online revenue alone,
• 27:53
  Speaker 4: let alone the brick and mortar people, let alone all
• 27:56
  Speaker 4: the creatives. So let's just think about the online revenue
• 27:59
  Speaker 4: to be created. Why can't we be a part of it?
• 28:02
  Speaker 4: Step one? Do you have an offer? Step two? With
• 28:04
  Speaker 4: these offers, is everything automated? Black Friday's day after Thanksgiving?
• 28:10
  Speaker 4: Half of these people are going to be with their family.
• 28:12
  Speaker 4: Maybe for me personally, I don't know about y'all. I
• 28:15
  Speaker 4: live in Virginia, so it's the country. We go to
• 28:17
  Speaker 4: my grandma's house. There is no Wi Fi. All the
• 28:20
  Speaker 4: work that I do personally has to be set up now.
• 28:22
  Speaker 4: So we kind of started talking to some of our
• 28:24
  Speaker 4: clients about Black Friday two months ago because for me
• 28:28
  Speaker 4: personally in my business, I do not like to do
• 28:31
  Speaker 4: things that don't make sense. So I wouldn't actually take
• 28:35
  Speaker 4: any Black Friday clients after maybe November fifteenth, because if
• 28:40
  Speaker 4: Black Friday is the twenty eighth, we're going to be rushing. Yeah,
• 28:45
  Speaker 4: we don't have time to be doing some of these things.
• 28:47
  Speaker 4: So we actually have some clients that we do classes
• 28:50
  Speaker 4: with so that we prepared to them via classes. We're
• 28:53
  Speaker 4: actually doing Black Friday classes with my brand marketing besties.
• 28:57
  Speaker 4: We had our first class for free, which was prep
• 29:00
  Speaker 4: class and we called it get your House in Order,
• 29:04
  Speaker 4: and that was a pretty cool class. We had even
• 29:07
  Speaker 4: some of my clients come through. I have software clients
• 29:10
  Speaker 4: and I have actually done for you clients, So we
• 29:13
  Speaker 4: have different gamut of people, but just one talking to
• 29:16
  Speaker 4: people preparing them for everything. And then too, we have
• 29:19
  Speaker 4: some clients they're getting their funnels built out, they're getting
• 29:23
  Speaker 4: their automations built out, they're having their sales funnels. But
• 29:26
  Speaker 4: a lot of it is preparation for right.
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: Now, and that poor preparation prevents well, proper preparation prevents
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: poor performance, is it? How? I go? Okay, that's likeliteration.
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, I was like, so that's basically what she
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: said in a nutshell, like, don't becoming her last minute
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: because you haven't gotten your house in order. I love
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: it all. Get your house in order you went today.
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: I love it so so, Alyssa. I love that you're
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: great by yourself. But I heard we have a had
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: some authors on here and their platform is called Better Together,
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: and so I believe that my platform would not be
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: what it is without desiret dani Yelle. And you have
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: a partner, like you just said, your marketing bestie, and
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: I actually got to see you. I didn't get to
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: meet her, but I saw her at podcasts summing with you.
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: What is that partnership? Like, how did y'all come together?
• 30:37
  Speaker 4: Okay, funny thing. Okay. So I actually went to a conference.
• 30:41
  Speaker 4: It was hosted by Dame Dash and it was in
• 30:44
  Speaker 4: my city, so I was trying to, you know, get
• 30:47
  Speaker 4: out of the house, do more. I ended up winning
• 30:50
  Speaker 4: a venue. So at that venue, I'm like, you know what,
• 30:53
  Speaker 4: I had to come on stage and say something. I'm like,
• 30:55
  Speaker 4: you know what, I'm going to teach people. At the time,
• 30:57
  Speaker 4: I was more doing social and the sites I hadn't
• 31:01
  Speaker 4: niched all the way down to funnel. So I was like,
• 31:03
  Speaker 4: I'm gonna teach everybody how to make money online, and
• 31:06
  Speaker 4: I charge people this amount of money per month, and
• 31:09
  Speaker 4: instead I'm just gonna have a class where I can
• 31:11
  Speaker 4: teach you all how to do it, and it's going
• 31:13
  Speaker 4: to be called Content Creation Retreat. From there, I got
• 31:16
  Speaker 4: invited to other events and I saw her out. She
• 31:18
  Speaker 4: had a camera on's this thing called Femfest and I
• 31:21
  Speaker 4: was like, hey, I'm actually looking for photographers for this event,
• 31:24
  Speaker 4: because in essence, it was going to be, you know,
• 31:27
  Speaker 4: have all these photographers who teach you content. We have
• 31:30
  Speaker 4: the headshots for you, we have the videos for you,
• 31:32
  Speaker 4: and you learn how to do it. By the end,
• 31:34
  Speaker 4: we'll actually schedule all the content so you can leave
• 31:36
  Speaker 4: and have all the content done. When I met her,
• 31:40
  Speaker 4: I was like, hey, are you a photographer for this event?
• 31:42
  Speaker 4: She was like, girl, this is my event.
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: I was like, oh.
• 31:48
  Speaker 4: Clock, I met the one. Okay, cool, so actually I'm
• 31:52
  Speaker 4: having events. It was a dope event. There were so
• 31:54
  Speaker 4: many people there. I was like, oh okay. So from there,
• 31:58
  Speaker 4: I actually was a part of some of our events.
• 31:59
  Speaker 4: She invited meet a model on her platform. We did
• 32:01
  Speaker 4: it on the ocean front, so we I live in
• 32:03
  Speaker 4: Virginia Beach. Shout out to Virginia Beach. We're home of
• 32:06
  Speaker 4: Missy Elliott for real. You know, Chris Brown Hill from
• 32:11
  Speaker 4: a little up Northwolk. He wanted to come party down here.
• 32:13
  Speaker 1: But I'm just saying I heard he was from the
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: VA and okay, okay, I just had to let y'all
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: know that I.
• 32:22
  Speaker 4: Like goodbye anyway. Yeah, so she invited me to some
• 32:29
  Speaker 4: of her events, so I start her modeling all this
• 32:30
  Speaker 4: other stuff. So I'm like, girl, we do all this stuff.
• 32:32
  Speaker 4: You do like more than in person events. She was
• 32:35
  Speaker 4: a social media manager, so since I wasn't doing that anymore,
• 32:37
  Speaker 4: I was like, here, take all this stuff. You haven't
• 32:40
  Speaker 4: out send you the clients. She told me how much
• 32:42
  Speaker 4: she was charging. I was like, same thing. Okay, which
• 32:45
  Speaker 4: can you do with that? Absolutely nothing? Let's get So
• 32:48
  Speaker 4: then we got some of that together, and I was like,
• 32:51
  Speaker 4: you know what, let's just call each other marketing besties.
• 32:54
  Speaker 4: Because when I first met her, I was I sat
• 32:56
  Speaker 4: her down. I was like, let's have a sit down
• 32:58
  Speaker 4: a little pow wow. I've met some girls in this
• 33:03
  Speaker 4: industry and I did not like the experience. So I
• 33:05
  Speaker 4: just have to tell you going into this, let's just
• 33:09
  Speaker 4: you know, we're gonna have to mediate you know, the
• 33:13
  Speaker 4: friendship and the working together. We'll have to figure that out.
• 33:16
  Speaker 4: So that's how kind of marketing besties came along. So
• 33:19
  Speaker 4: we actually meet, She's like, girl, we have to meet
• 33:22
  Speaker 4: once a weekend. I'm such a non committal person. I'm like, girl,
• 33:25
  Speaker 4: so you de right.
• 33:31
  Speaker 5: Right.
• 33:31
  Speaker 4: We're trying to figure out is you my man? Like
• 33:39
  Speaker 4: the foundation that she's the person that has all the
• 33:42
  Speaker 4: design and the branding and that side of things, and
• 33:45
  Speaker 4: I'm like, girl, let's talk about the money and the goal.
• 33:48
  Speaker 4: Here's the agenda for when we go out of town.
• 33:50
  Speaker 4: And actually we have this event coming up and we're
• 33:55
  Speaker 4: so we have where she's high, I'm lower, I'm low,
• 33:58
  Speaker 4: she's high. And that's kind of how we form marketing besties.
• 34:00
  Speaker 4: And we've had to tell each other like it's not
• 34:03
  Speaker 4: gonna work right now, it's right now, let's back it
• 34:06
  Speaker 4: on up yeah, or oh, how are you feeling today?
• 34:09
  Speaker 4: Or oh we have to check in on those type
• 34:11
  Speaker 4: of things. But then we made the brand so that
• 34:13
  Speaker 4: we can meet other marketing vesties because there are some
• 34:16
  Speaker 4: people that focus more on email or they are more
• 34:19
  Speaker 4: of the creatives, or she's also a modeling culture. There's
• 34:22
  Speaker 4: that side. And I'm also into AI and the metaverse,
• 34:24
  Speaker 4: so there's that side. So we can connect with different
• 34:27
  Speaker 4: people on different levels, but for all marketing besties, y'all
• 34:30
  Speaker 4: got the podcast. We have a podcast, but we don't
• 34:32
  Speaker 4: post on there. So that's why we talk to different people.
• 34:36
  Speaker 4: We do different things, and we're all marketing besties. But
• 34:38
  Speaker 4: that's how I met her, and that's how that came about.
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: No, you said something so powerful, and I think it's
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: so important that I pinpoint, like poke it what you said.
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: Because people think that they see the line light, they
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: see the elevation of something like the marketing besties or
• 34:58
  Speaker 1: with me, and does a ray pot has on purpose
• 35:00
  Speaker 1: that we are pushing out. I don't think they understand
• 35:05
  Speaker 1: the back end headache and no sit down conversations that
• 35:11
  Speaker 1: are necessary for the benefit of the business. Right like
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: right now, I'm not your friends, We're not friends. Right now,
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: we're business partners. And I had to learn that quickly.
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: Does a raid Thank God that she is who she is.
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: I had to learn it quickly, and she knows, Like
• 35:31
  Speaker 1: if I'm in a mood where I'm like, stop asking
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: me questions, I get in those moves, I'm like, I'd
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: have to be honest with her because we only work
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: as well as healthy as we are right. If the
• 35:41
  Speaker 1: relationship isn't healthy, then the business relationship is not gonna
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: be good. And so I'm so glad you brought that up. So,
• 35:48
  Speaker 1: speaking on a personal matter, I think that we ask
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: ambitious women people see the the limelight, the forward progression.
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: But there are some opportunities even in our personal life
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: that kind of like people would never ever know about us.
• 36:15
  Speaker 1: And in our conversation, you can tell me no right now,
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: because I think you know where we're going. You want
• 36:21
  Speaker 1: to go there, it doesn't matter, Okay, Okay, cool nness.
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: So I was as ambitious as you are and as
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: driven as you are, I was surprised to find out
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: that you had experience with domestic violence. Can we walk
• 36:40
  Speaker 1: that journey a little bit? And how? Because I want
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: it's not just talking about domestic violence. Is you're this
• 36:45
  Speaker 1: ambitious woman and you were doing this while in the situation,
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: you were growing your brand while being in this in
• 36:54
  Speaker 1: this domestic situation. And my viewers know that I've announced
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: I've been a domestic vote twice. And domestic violence is
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: not just physical, it's mental, emotional, financial, There are levels
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: to domestic violence. But you're looking at Alyssa and Alyssa
• 37:11
  Speaker 1: talking about these pall nows and she's giving you the game,
• 37:14
  Speaker 1: but out she in her personal world like fighting, like
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: fighting for her life, fighting for peace. Can we go
• 37:21
  Speaker 1: from how how did we even get there? What time
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: period was this? And can you journey us through? How
• 37:28
  Speaker 1: did you manage being this bossed up lady while dealing
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: with something as harmful as this?
• 37:36
  Speaker 4: Okay, so let's preface this by saying that while all
• 37:41
  Speaker 4: this was happening, I was in the process of I
• 37:47
  Speaker 4: always like to say Tyler Perry wrote my life like,
• 37:49
  Speaker 4: I don't know what in the world. I came from
• 37:52
  Speaker 4: a regular household to a parent household. Both my parents
• 37:56
  Speaker 4: are teachers. So for me life that I was experiencing
• 38:02
  Speaker 4: as a young twenty year old, I just could not
• 38:05
  Speaker 4: believe that life was lifing like this. So let's take
• 38:09
  Speaker 4: it back before I even met this person. Prior to this,
• 38:12
  Speaker 4: I had gone to college. I did graduate from college.
• 38:16
  Speaker 4: I have my degree in business. I have my actual
• 38:19
  Speaker 4: Associates degree. I did go away to college. During this time,
• 38:23
  Speaker 4: I actually started my first business, which was called is
• 38:25
  Speaker 4: It Bad? So I already had this online brand. So
• 38:29
  Speaker 4: this is also a cautionary tale for some of the creators.
• 38:33
  Speaker 4: There is a point where you can build your life
• 38:37
  Speaker 4: and other people watch it and they want to become
• 38:39
  Speaker 4: a part of your life. That's a part of being
• 38:43
  Speaker 4: a creator, and you have to be conscious of these things.
• 38:46
  Speaker 4: So because I already had this brand, I had already
• 38:49
  Speaker 4: built you know, my business already, I was going also
• 38:55
  Speaker 4: through a process where everybody that I did meet in
• 38:59
  Speaker 4: college for some and everybody was passing away or going
• 39:02
  Speaker 4: to jail. So that was very heavy on me because
• 39:06
  Speaker 4: now the person that I actually built a business was,
• 39:08
  Speaker 4: she ended up passing away and she was murdered. Crazy fact,
• 39:13
  Speaker 4: we just now are getting to the trials.
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: Now.
• 39:16
  Speaker 4: This was in twenty twenty, So at the time I'd
• 39:20
  Speaker 4: moved to you know, and with my other roommate, and
• 39:23
  Speaker 4: she had gone through all of this with us. And
• 39:27
  Speaker 4: because all of us lived together, we had this business together.
• 39:30
  Speaker 4: We did the content house, we did everything. We lived together.
• 39:33
  Speaker 4: We moved to a new place and had actually had
• 39:36
  Speaker 4: a party. It was a Halloween party. So I had
• 39:39
  Speaker 4: a Halloween party and this was on the end of
• 39:42
  Speaker 4: a pop up shop. So at that time the person
• 39:45
  Speaker 4: DMed me and was like, you know, I'll come to
• 39:47
  Speaker 4: the pop up shop. I invited them to the Halloween party.
• 39:50
  Speaker 4: So this is how this person was introduced into my life,
• 39:52
  Speaker 4: honestly through Instagram. So this is the start of like, okay, yes,
• 39:57
  Speaker 4: I was already going through some crazy stuff. I had
• 39:59
  Speaker 4: just moved, moved. It was kind of like, okay, intro
• 40:02
  Speaker 4: to my friends and to my apartment. I'm from Virginia.
• 40:07
  Speaker 4: We consider it Virginia the South. Anywhere you order sweet
• 40:09
  Speaker 4: tea or tea and it comes out sweet, I.
• 40:11
  Speaker 1: Think it's yeah. I think that's fair. I think that's
• 40:14
  Speaker 1: that's that's fair.
• 40:17
  Speaker 4: So as such, I was a girl that would have
• 40:19
  Speaker 4: these different parties. But you can't come into my house
• 40:21
  Speaker 4: unless you bring something. So you need to bring something something,
• 40:26
  Speaker 4: you gotta be something. So that's kind of how this
• 40:28
  Speaker 4: person was introduced into my life. And fast forward. I
• 40:32
  Speaker 4: think for him it was so intense because when you
• 40:37
  Speaker 4: meet me, you make money. I mean, he already had
• 40:39
  Speaker 4: the ebook, ideas, he already had all the stuff. So
• 40:41
  Speaker 4: we were just making money quickly. And then we started
• 40:45
  Speaker 4: forming businesses together, started traveling together. Because I'm the type
• 40:49
  Speaker 4: of person I was getting sponsorships, Unlike I need somebody
• 40:52
  Speaker 4: to travel with. It just worked at that time, but
• 40:55
  Speaker 4: he had a whole entire life. I don't want to
• 40:58
  Speaker 4: speak too much on his life, but because of that,
• 41:01
  Speaker 4: I just didn't want to want to be involved. And
• 41:03
  Speaker 4: when I started speaking on not wanting to be involved,
• 41:06
  Speaker 4: that's where measures to stay became physical. I ended up
• 41:12
  Speaker 4: to the last point. It happened a couple of times
• 41:15
  Speaker 4: where you know, arguments became Now I'm getting pushed around,
• 41:19
  Speaker 4: Now I'm running into walls, Now my phone's getting thrown
• 41:23
  Speaker 4: cross rooms. All of these names are coming out that
• 41:27
  Speaker 4: my mom didn't name me, all of these things, and
• 41:31
  Speaker 4: I can't even I don't even want to speak on
• 41:33
  Speaker 4: half of the things that ended up happening. But by
• 41:35
  Speaker 4: the end, I actually he wasn't even around. It was
• 41:40
  Speaker 4: like the events had occurred. I had bruises all over me,
• 41:44
  Speaker 4: and I was on Live, just minding my business on Live,
• 41:47
  Speaker 4: and I look, all these names are coming out again
• 41:50
  Speaker 4: that my mom didn't name me, those of which are
• 41:54
  Speaker 4: mostly saying that I'm being permiscuous where I'm not. I'm
• 41:57
  Speaker 4: literally doing my work on So I had a panic
• 42:02
  Speaker 4: attack and I called my mom. I was like, I
• 42:05
  Speaker 4: can't do this anymore. His friends lived in my building,
• 42:08
  Speaker 4: so it was almost like even if I kicked you out,
• 42:10
  Speaker 4: you still would find a way to come. So I
• 42:13
  Speaker 4: was like, mom, I can't do this anymore. And I
• 42:15
  Speaker 4: had left for my own apartment, which he didn't have
• 42:17
  Speaker 4: any rights to several times, just uprooting my life. So
• 42:23
  Speaker 4: if ladies do not uproot your life trying to you know, partic.
• 42:29
  Speaker 1: But at the time, at the time, you felt like
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: you needed to do that because here and this is
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: somewhere I've been. I've left well, I mean, I'm paying
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: rent and my name, my name is only you ain't
• 42:42
  Speaker 1: got no job like you not making money. Both times,
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: I ain't drawn by one. So if you want to,
• 42:49
  Speaker 1: if you watching this, watch it. But you don't have
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: anything yet, I'm so desperate for peace, I'm willing to.
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: So that's a real thing. Like I think in the moment,
• 43:02
  Speaker 1: you have to do what you need to do, but
• 43:04
  Speaker 1: long longevity wise, like no, no, you got to come
• 43:08
  Speaker 1: up with a plan and get out and get out quickly,
• 43:11
  Speaker 1: but proceed. I'm sorry for.
• 43:13
  Speaker 4: No worries because honestly, some people haven't gone through these things,
• 43:18
  Speaker 4: or they know somebody going through these things, and they
• 43:21
  Speaker 4: don't understand how you could be in this situation, but
• 43:25
  Speaker 4: it wasn't like and I've heard even people that we
• 43:28
  Speaker 4: know say people that act like that want to be there.
• 43:31
  Speaker 4: I didn't want to be there. I told everybody that
• 43:34
  Speaker 4: I could tell. I did everything, but then the last
• 43:37
  Speaker 4: situation was two hours two hours of just getting slung around,
• 43:43
  Speaker 4: of hitting stuff, of just and all this started because
• 43:47
  Speaker 4: I didn't want to lay down with this person. It
• 43:50
  Speaker 4: started just like that. So because of this, my family
• 43:56
  Speaker 4: was dropping off my sister to college and I was like, yeah,
• 43:59
  Speaker 4: you can just come get me on the way back,
• 44:00
  Speaker 4: because I didn't live him in the city with my parents,
• 44:02
  Speaker 4: and my sister wasn't going to college in that city,
• 44:04
  Speaker 4: so there was like my my where I was living
• 44:06
  Speaker 4: was in between. So I was calling my family members.
• 44:10
  Speaker 4: I'm like, yeah, I'm just coming home, like I'm gonna
• 44:12
  Speaker 4: need help, basically like call my boy cousins, like I'm
• 44:14
  Speaker 4: gonna need help, like we gotta get this stuff. Like yeah.
• 44:18
  Speaker 4: So I called my aunt and she's like are you
• 44:20
  Speaker 4: getting hit? Like is he putting his hands on you?
• 44:24
  Speaker 4: Are you okay? And I was like I'm not okay,
• 44:27
  Speaker 4: And then she was like hold on and she called
• 44:28
  Speaker 4: the police. So from there, The actual charges were kidnapping,
• 44:34
  Speaker 4: domestic violence of a family member, excessive phone calls. I
• 44:38
  Speaker 4: had to put a restraining order on him. Still violated
• 44:42
  Speaker 4: some of the restraining orders. At a certain point, I
• 44:45
  Speaker 4: actually allowed a restraining order where we could communicate because
• 44:48
  Speaker 4: I was that did see, Like sometimes you don't realize
• 44:51
  Speaker 4: an these situations you are did see.
• 44:52
  Speaker 1: You're still caring about them, like there was still a
• 44:55
  Speaker 1: care because obviously you care for him, because you wouldn't
• 44:59
  Speaker 1: have been with someone that you did not care about.
• 45:01
  Speaker 1: And the way ambitious women love, they love hard. As
• 45:05
  Speaker 1: hard as you go for your business, you're gonna go
• 45:07
  Speaker 1: for your man like you gonna believe. That's the thing
• 45:12
  Speaker 1: a lista. I think that people are so quick to
• 45:15
  Speaker 1: judge like those type of situations because I would never
• 45:18
  Speaker 1: do this. I would never, please say nothing. Do you
• 45:21
  Speaker 1: think I wanted to be in a situation like this?
• 45:23
  Speaker 1: Let's start, who volunteered for the mystic violence? Not me? Okay,
• 45:27
  Speaker 1: nobody puts their hands and say, hey, I want you
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: to harm me mentally physically and emotionally. Let's chatchpt that. No,
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: that's not what somebody's saying. But I think that the
• 45:38
  Speaker 1: same drive ambitious people, not even just women, but we're
• 45:42
  Speaker 1: women right now. So I'm speaking to women from a
• 45:45
  Speaker 1: woman's perspective. The same ambitious ambition. It takes for me
• 45:50
  Speaker 1: to love my company, but for for me to be
• 45:52
  Speaker 1: so passionate about you know, funnels or podcasting. It takes
• 45:56
  Speaker 1: that same seed to love a man of a mate
• 46:01
  Speaker 1: to put be invested. And so I think that if
• 46:04
  Speaker 1: you're listening to this and never have been in a
• 46:06
  Speaker 1: situation like this, think of it like that. The same
• 46:10
  Speaker 1: energy that I'm taking to develop and build this this platform,
• 46:13
  Speaker 1: it's the same energy I'm willing to give in a relationship.
• 46:18
  Speaker 1: And so I think that I just want to I'm
• 46:21
  Speaker 1: not I want to affirm you in that, because that
• 46:25
  Speaker 1: is a level of ignorance just people don't have, and
• 46:27
  Speaker 1: I want That's why I'm bringing this up, because you're
• 46:30
  Speaker 1: still a great woman. You just went through a difficult experience,
• 46:36
  Speaker 1: and so one thing I'm proud to hear you did
• 46:38
  Speaker 1: were able to do is that you were able to
• 46:41
  Speaker 1: speak out like you ask for help. I don't. I
• 46:45
  Speaker 1: didn't ask for help the first time, and I don't
• 46:47
  Speaker 1: the second time. I didn't even realize until afterwards that
• 46:50
  Speaker 1: the abuse. It was the abuse, Like in my mind,
• 46:53
  Speaker 1: I didn't realize it was abusive until I looked and
• 46:56
  Speaker 1: I was like, oh my gosh, I allowed this to
• 46:58
  Speaker 1: happen again. And I was more upset with myself and
• 47:01
  Speaker 1: I was with him, Like I was more upset that
• 47:04
  Speaker 1: I allowed this to happen again because I knew what
• 47:07
  Speaker 1: abuse looked like. Now I'm fam It shows up in
• 47:11
  Speaker 1: a lot of different ways, and not just physically. This
• 47:15
  Speaker 1: one situation was more mentally and emotional manipulative, like that
• 47:21
  Speaker 1: manipulation is so strong, and so when you realize you
• 47:25
  Speaker 1: are in these in these situations and then they'll tell you,
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: I don't know if you heard this, Oh I'm not
• 47:32
  Speaker 1: gonna do it anymore. You know, I do that because
• 47:34
  Speaker 1: I love you and I just don't want you to
• 47:37
  Speaker 1: leave type thing. It's just kind of emotionally confuses the situation.
• 47:44
  Speaker 1: So I wanted to I'm bagging my girl up on
• 47:48
  Speaker 1: what she's saying right now.
• 47:50
  Speaker 4: Yeah, And for anyone that is going through it, it's
• 47:53
  Speaker 4: kind of like a reality check that you need to have,
• 47:55
  Speaker 4: like let's have well, come here, let's have a reality check.
• 47:58
  Speaker 4: Reality check is one you're not alone. There are people
• 48:02
  Speaker 4: that love you, even if you don't have anybody anything
• 48:05
  Speaker 4: is better than you allowing yourself to be harmed. So
• 48:09
  Speaker 4: there's that piece. There's also the piece of enabling. There
• 48:12
  Speaker 4: are people that are maybe around other people. In my situation,
• 48:17
  Speaker 4: I told people before it got to the point that
• 48:19
  Speaker 4: it did. Even afterwards, I had people in my life
• 48:22
  Speaker 4: that were also in his life telling me, oh, instead
• 48:25
  Speaker 4: of you don't want to actually go to court, instead
• 48:27
  Speaker 4: of doing that, let's write this letter and let's try
• 48:30
  Speaker 4: to get him off on these charges and let's do
• 48:33
  Speaker 4: all of this stuff. There are sometimes people that will
• 48:36
  Speaker 4: have the back of the other person. I've actually had
• 48:39
  Speaker 4: people in the situation tell me, well, you know, you're
• 48:41
  Speaker 4: a little fire cracker. Sometimes you might have said something
• 48:45
  Speaker 4: that So you have to realize that sometimes there's the
• 48:52
  Speaker 4: people around you, it's not you. And if you want
• 48:55
  Speaker 4: to continue to be alive and have thoughts and do
• 48:58
  Speaker 4: these things, sometimes you do have to get away. And
• 49:01
  Speaker 4: there are people that in their places that can help
• 49:04
  Speaker 4: you even if you don't get the police involved. There
• 49:06
  Speaker 4: are people that have organizations to help women out of
• 49:09
  Speaker 4: domestic violence. There are people that will actually come in
• 49:13
  Speaker 4: and provide support, and sometimes you have to look at
• 49:16
  Speaker 4: the other person, like, what is your background? Like my
• 49:19
  Speaker 4: background it looks like this, but this other person's background
• 49:23
  Speaker 4: looks like Okay, they might have already had charges before,
• 49:26
  Speaker 4: They might have already had women in the past that
• 49:29
  Speaker 4: had said this, this or this. And you have to
• 49:31
  Speaker 4: kind of when people show you who they are, believe them.
• 49:33
  Speaker 1: Believe them.
• 49:35
  Speaker 4: If they already put their hands on you, believe them.
• 49:37
  Speaker 4: If you're already just being emotionally hurt. Why would you
• 49:41
  Speaker 4: want to keep going through these things? Why if somebody
• 49:44
  Speaker 4: loves you, what is your ideal of love? Write it
• 49:47
  Speaker 4: down on a piece of paper. And if this relationship
• 49:49
  Speaker 4: that your in doesn't match, what steps do you need
• 49:52
  Speaker 4: to take? Same way with money, what steps do you
• 49:54
  Speaker 4: need to take to get away from the situation? And
• 49:57
  Speaker 4: even still now that somehow the court just missed this
• 50:00
  Speaker 4: case without I went to court and everything get there,
• 50:03
  Speaker 4: we're talking about some we just missed it a couple
• 50:05
  Speaker 4: of weeks ago, after I'd been summoned multiple times, that
• 50:10
  Speaker 4: this person still finds little ways to do little things.
• 50:14
  Speaker 4: And it's like, even still to this day after doing
• 50:18
  Speaker 4: this having a restraining order for multiple years, this person
• 50:20
  Speaker 4: even came to podcast summit one year told me they
• 50:23
  Speaker 4: knew I was going to be there while I had
• 50:24
  Speaker 4: a restraining order. It's just very interesting you have to
• 50:30
  Speaker 4: beware of these people. And I haven't really talked about
• 50:34
  Speaker 4: any of this stuff because it's like I stopped posting.
• 50:38
  Speaker 4: I stopped doing a lot of stuff that I was
• 50:39
  Speaker 4: supposed to do. So that's the downside of it, Like, yeah,
• 50:42
  Speaker 4: I did do all this stuff, but I didn't do
• 50:44
  Speaker 4: a lot of stuff that I wanted to do because
• 50:45
  Speaker 4: I'm like, will this person now know where I'm at?
• 50:48
  Speaker 4: Will they come get me. I've even had to end
• 50:50
  Speaker 4: other relationships cause they're like, oh, heck no, why would
• 50:53
  Speaker 4: you even go to a conference and now your ex
• 50:55
  Speaker 4: is there and you knew he was going to be there.
• 50:57
  Speaker 4: It's the conversation that I'm getting. So it was just
• 50:59
  Speaker 4: like I still deal with this stuff to this day.
• 51:03
  Speaker 4: I wish I didn't because I just want to focus
• 51:06
  Speaker 4: on me right now. I'm just worried about Okay, I
• 51:09
  Speaker 4: am twenty five, I am doing pretty well in business.
• 51:12
  Speaker 4: How well much do I want to grow? But at
• 51:14
  Speaker 4: the same time, in the back of my head, it's like,
• 51:17
  Speaker 4: of course, I'm not happy to have gone through the situation.
• 51:19
  Speaker 4: But now I have the security clearance in the back
• 51:23
  Speaker 4: of my head, like, Okay, if I do meet somebody,
• 51:26
  Speaker 4: what's going on in your background? What's going on? And like,
• 51:30
  Speaker 4: even with business, why do you need a funnel? Like
• 51:33
  Speaker 4: it's like kind of a lot of parallels that I did,
• 51:36
  Speaker 4: like learn a lot even hearing others women's story as
• 51:39
  Speaker 4: I'm sitting there in the courtroom, like, dang, this one
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  Speaker 4: lady she thought her husband was coming back to kill her,
• 51:47
  Speaker 4: was turning on the gas inside of her house to
• 51:49
  Speaker 4: slowly kill her. And I'm like, this is so crazy.
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  Speaker 4: But that's why I like to help people online because
• 51:56
  Speaker 4: being that again, a lot of my friends were murdered
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  Speaker 4: prior to this happening. Now the person that I'm supposed
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  Speaker 4: to be trusting and doing a business with is harming
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  Speaker 4: me physically, and everybody's helping them cover it up. So
• 52:07
  Speaker 4: now it's just like, Okay, I didn't go anywhere for
• 52:11
  Speaker 4: a long time. I did not go anywhere. I just
• 52:14
  Speaker 4: sayed and sad and did stuff in the house. But
• 52:17
  Speaker 4: I made a lot of money online. That was my repriet.
• 52:20
  Speaker 4: Funnels was kind of like my way out of doing things.
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  Speaker 4: Because now I can bury myself inside of the business,
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  Speaker 4: and I have had lots of opportunities because of this.
• 52:28
  Speaker 4: As we said, normally my hair is curly, but we
• 52:30
  Speaker 4: have braids right now because we just went to Jamaica,
• 52:33
  Speaker 4: because we traveled with a travel agent client the week before,
• 52:36
  Speaker 4: not the same week, we went to Saint Thomas speaking
• 52:39
  Speaker 4: with one of my software clients because she's in Saint
• 52:42
  Speaker 4: Thomas and she's teaching the people about AI and I
• 52:44
  Speaker 4: got to talk about that. So I get to see
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  Speaker 4: how I can impact people and tell my story and
• 52:49
  Speaker 4: help other women out and help people out that are
• 52:52
  Speaker 4: going through some of these struggles. But a lot of
• 52:54
  Speaker 4: people they're like, oh, you know, I have you know,
• 52:57
  Speaker 4: the stereotypical life. No, Tyler Perry wrote this.
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  Speaker 1: Because.
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  Speaker 4: You're with y'all, imagine some of the stuff that I
• 53:04
  Speaker 4: haven't even mentioned. So for me, I'm just very blessed
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  Speaker 4: because a lot of these things could have been different.
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  Speaker 4: Last Saturday, I actually got into a car accident, a
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  Speaker 4: whole entire car accident. I did a whole one to
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  Speaker 4: eighty on the interstate. But I share these things because
• 53:19
  Speaker 4: now we can say to women, hey, if you're in
• 53:21
  Speaker 4: a domestic violence relationship. Watch out for this. Hey, if
• 53:24
  Speaker 4: you're in a car and it's raining outside, you might hydroplane,
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  Speaker 4: So make sure you do these things. Like we can
• 53:30
  Speaker 4: talk about these things and let people know. Like a
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  Speaker 4: lot of people, I hate that all my friends have
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  Speaker 4: passed away, but I've been able to coach a lot
• 53:36
  Speaker 4: of people through grief, whether I wanted to or not,
• 53:38
  Speaker 4: because I've already dealt with some of these things. So
• 53:43
  Speaker 4: while we do go through a lot as women, I
• 53:46
  Speaker 4: have no clue shout out to the moms. I don't
• 53:49
  Speaker 4: know how y'all do it, but we go through a
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  Speaker 4: lot as women. So I just like to share some
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  Speaker 4: of the things that I go through so people know
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  Speaker 4: that they're not alone and that we talk about our
• 54:00
  Speaker 4: preventative measures. Because again, I just think, what if I
• 54:03
  Speaker 4: could have gone back to talk to a little a
• 54:05
  Speaker 4: Lisso or a little Jess about these things before they
• 54:07
  Speaker 4: met these manipulative people, or that it changed the course
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  Speaker 4: of our lives forever. Because even still I have to
• 54:14
  Speaker 4: now tell people like, hey, got a little person that
• 54:17
  Speaker 4: might pop up by I hope not, but like that's
• 54:20
  Speaker 4: just not something that I want to do. But I'm
• 54:23
  Speaker 4: not even huge yet.
• 54:24
  Speaker 1: I'm not even Beyonce yet, So what's.
• 54:25
  Speaker 4: Gonna happen down the road? Like?
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  Speaker 1: Lord?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, just like I have to take these take these steps,
• 54:33
  Speaker 4: you know.
• 54:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Well, we're gonna pray the Lord's protection over you continuously, Alyssa,
• 54:38
  Speaker 1: because we don't take this lightly. And I think it's important.
• 54:42
  Speaker 1: I'm so glad that you kind of like landed a
• 54:44
  Speaker 1: plane there with that conversation, because it is important to Hey,
• 54:48
  Speaker 1: the same strategies I'm using my dating life now I'm
• 54:51
  Speaker 1: using in my business. And it goes back to being
• 54:54
  Speaker 1: able to use those tools. Those tools work for every situation.
• 54:58
  Speaker 1: You just need to know how to work them. And
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  Speaker 1: I think that it's a blessing to have you here
• 55:04
  Speaker 1: because we believe here on just as that we overcome
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  Speaker 1: by the blood of the Limb and the word of
• 55:09
  Speaker 1: the testimony that is in Revelations twelve. And when we
• 55:14
  Speaker 1: are not revelations Baby revelation that was real ghetto of me,
• 55:21
  Speaker 1: okay anyway, But it's one thing to be able to
• 55:27
  Speaker 1: see a woman of your caliber and not only see you,
• 55:33
  Speaker 1: but talk to you, do life with you and understand
• 55:39
  Speaker 1: you from a lens of accountability community. But it's another
• 55:44
  Speaker 1: thing to be able to understand you in the intimate
• 55:48
  Speaker 1: version of you, to what keeps you, keeps you motivated,
• 55:52
  Speaker 1: keeps you out of the dark places because you've been
• 55:56
  Speaker 1: there before. Right, I was telling I was talking to
• 56:01
  Speaker 1: somebody and my sister recently had like a tattoo party,
• 56:07
  Speaker 1: and when got a tattoo, but I was nervous about
• 56:09
  Speaker 1: it because I have I had before the getting the
• 56:11
  Speaker 1: third one. I have one on my side and one
• 56:14
  Speaker 1: on my foot, and those are two of the most
• 56:16
  Speaker 1: painful places to get it. And it's been but it's
• 56:19
  Speaker 1: been over ten years. And so I was telling them.
• 56:22
  Speaker 1: I was telling them, I said, I don't remember the uh,
• 56:26
  Speaker 1: I don't remember the pain. I remember my response to it.
• 56:30
  Speaker 1: And sometimes we need to recall the response so we
• 56:34
  Speaker 1: know we don't want to respond like that again. And
• 56:37
  Speaker 1: in order not to respond like that, sometimes it takes
• 56:40
  Speaker 1: in a word, but it also takes us to avoiding
• 56:44
  Speaker 1: things like that, saying caution, caution when those signs, caution
• 56:47
  Speaker 1: signs come up, How am I am I dodging them?
• 56:51
  Speaker 1: Am I breaking? Or am I going? You know what
• 56:54
  Speaker 1: I'm saying, And so I think that knowing that what
• 56:58
  Speaker 1: you've been through while being as powerful and anointed and
• 57:03
  Speaker 1: driven as you are. They need to know what the
• 57:06
  Speaker 1: caution sign looks like, Like, what is the caution for
• 57:10
  Speaker 1: sign for Alyssa does a ray? Does a ray? You've
• 57:13
  Speaker 1: been over there writing notes? Is you've been you've been
• 57:16
  Speaker 1: over there? Just bust down in notes. I want to
• 57:19
  Speaker 1: hear from you real quick.
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  Speaker 3: No, this was a beautiful conversation. And Melissa, thank you
• 57:24
  Speaker 3: for sharing your your testimony and your journey with us,
• 57:27
  Speaker 3: because like Jess said, we do overcome by the blood,
• 57:29
  Speaker 3: lamb and the word of our testimony. But the beauty
• 57:32
  Speaker 3: of it is, Yeah, it's unfortunate that we have to
• 57:37
  Speaker 3: go through things in life. But when you're able to
• 57:39
  Speaker 3: take your journey, your experiences and share them with somebody else,
• 57:44
  Speaker 3: that's how God gets the glory. That's how it all
• 57:47
  Speaker 3: works together for the glory of the Lord. So thank
• 57:50
  Speaker 3: you for that. And yeah, I was writing some notes
• 57:52
  Speaker 3: because because since was really dropping dropping gems on and
• 57:59
  Speaker 3: I think the thing that she said about we're in
• 58:01
  Speaker 3: a funnel, whether we realize it or not. Right, So
• 58:04
  Speaker 3: one of the things that I really think about a
• 58:06
  Speaker 3: lot of times in my business is how people experience
• 58:09
  Speaker 3: me and how they experience the journey. So knowing that's
• 58:11
  Speaker 3: technically a funnel kind of gives me some more clarity
• 58:14
  Speaker 3: on how I want them to walk through how I
• 58:17
  Speaker 3: want to walk through the process with them, you know
• 58:18
  Speaker 3: what I'm saying. So this was a very rich and
• 58:21
  Speaker 3: inspiring conversation. So I'm hoping that you guys were taking
• 58:26
  Speaker 3: some notes because and drop what you got from the
• 58:32
  Speaker 3: conversation in the comments, because we really want to hear
• 58:36
  Speaker 3: it as well as so Alyssa can go back and
• 58:39
  Speaker 3: check the comments and see what y'all was picking up
• 58:41
  Speaker 3: in that thing, because she ate.
• 58:43
  Speaker 1: Down and y'all not gonna lie. She ate, she ate, Alyssa.
• 58:47
  Speaker 1: I'm honored that you would spend this time with us,
• 58:50
  Speaker 1: like you could be anywhere else, but you chose to
• 58:53
  Speaker 1: spend your time with Desiree and I and I just
• 58:56
  Speaker 1: asked family, the Safe Space family, and so I know
• 58:59
  Speaker 1: we talked about a lot, right, I know that we
• 59:02
  Speaker 1: kind of we talked about funnels, but we also talked
• 59:04
  Speaker 1: about your ability to overcome, and so, as a traditional
• 59:09
  Speaker 1: just as the podcast, we like for our guests to
• 59:12
  Speaker 1: lead the final words. But I also want to make
• 59:15
  Speaker 1: sure you include how people can follow you and connect
• 59:19
  Speaker 1: with you, especially as creating their funnels. So the floor
• 59:23
  Speaker 1: is yours.
• 59:25
  Speaker 4: Okay, well, thank you again for having me both of
• 59:28
  Speaker 4: you ladies. It was great to talk to both of
• 59:30
  Speaker 4: you as well. Just have different insights. I think the
• 59:33
  Speaker 4: Just and dest podcast might need to come home from anyway.
• 59:40
  Speaker 4: So yes, thank you again everybody, Thank you for listening.
• 59:43
  Speaker 4: My name is Alyssa or Curling, So you can follow
• 59:45
  Speaker 4: me at CURLYISA c U R L Y S SA
• 59:48
  Speaker 4: and if you've got good content, I follow back. I
• 59:50
  Speaker 4: think social media is social, That's the part a lot
• 59:53
  Speaker 4: of people forget about, so I do follow back. If
• 59:56
  Speaker 4: you need a funnel, you can find us at Fearless
• 59:58
  Speaker 4: Funnels dot com. If you just want to build it
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 4: yourself and you need the software, we do have lots
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 4: of templates and the automations already built at out at
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 4: plugmachine dot com and you can check out either one
• 1:00:08
  Speaker 4: of those. As we are going into the holiday season,
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 4: we have Thanksgiving, Black Friday, Cyber Monday, Small Business Saturday,
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 4: we have thanks Oh, we have Kwanta, we have Christmas,
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 4: we have Hanukkah. We also have New Years. We have
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 4: Valentine's Day coming up. It's just so many holidays that
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 4: you can have as your sales holidays, so you might
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 4: as well make sure that you happen to our holiday
• 1:00:33
  Speaker 4: sales playbook, and you come to our classes that we
• 1:00:36
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• 1:00:39
  Speaker 4: a class. Whether you want to join us at any level,
• 1:00:42
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• 1:00:44
  Speaker 4: with our plug machine, or just have you know, come
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 4: to your classes and learn the education side of things.
• 1:00:49
  Speaker 4: So no matter where you are, we are here to help.
• 1:00:52
  Speaker 4: And again, thank you so much for having me. And
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 4: you know we have to say just ask. Is that
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 4: the part that we're.
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 1: On now that we about to get to that for
• 1:01:01
  Speaker 1: a girl, because you gotta just ask, I mean, what's
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 1: what's what's the what's the hold up? Okay, Alyssa, you
• 1:01:09
  Speaker 1: are beautiful? Okay, sis Now, I feel like we're just
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 1: gonna have to do this at least once a year
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 1: with a little so like give us, give us what's
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 1: what's tea? What's tea?
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 4: She?
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 1: I think she's worthy of the reoccurring y'all. Like Desiree said,
• 1:01:29
  Speaker 1: let us know in the comments what you got, what
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 1: you learned, what you digested. I'm pretty sure that Alyssa
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 1: would appreciate, and then if you have any questions, I mean,
• 1:01:39
  Speaker 1: she's gonna pay attention, so you might want to go
• 1:01:41
  Speaker 1: ahead and interact or interact in the comments. Okay, all
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 1: right you guys, We've enjoyed you. You know what it
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 1: is until next week. Until next time, remember life could
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 1: be much more simple if you just asked.
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  Speaker 6: Thank you for tuning in to this week's episode.
• 1:02:04
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  Speaker 5: Smith, I know I won't see you back until next week,
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 5: but until then, remember to love always yourself and always
• 1:02:20
  Speaker 5: thank thank God.
• 1:02:21
  Speaker 6: For one another day.
• 1:02:24
  Speaker 2: Hey, Hey, I know we could be another way. Hey,
• 1:02:31
  Speaker 2: pray thank God for another day. Hey hey, I'm just
• 1:02:37
  Speaker 2: thankful for another day. Hey hey another day? Oh another
• 1:02:44
  Speaker 2: day wise, another day to get it right, another day
• 1:02:47
  Speaker 2: to rise up, another day living another day.
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  Speaker 6: We loved ones.
• 1:02:50
  Speaker 2: I always remember hold it down for a ball one.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah,