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Grind In Silence – Master the Art of Quiet Determination and Relentless Pursuit · Motivational Podcast

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  Speaker 1: When you have a real fear of dying and being
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  Speaker 1: just another person that I lived to pay the bills,
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  Speaker 1: I mean a thousand dollars a month. This is my life.
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  Speaker 1: I sprayed for cockroach is man. If that makes you
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  Speaker 1: feel good, that's great. It didn't make me feel good.
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  Speaker 1: I wanted to the first time in my life, after
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  Speaker 1: twenty six years, it was twenty four to twenty five.
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  Speaker 1: Wherever I was, I wanted to feel good about myself
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  Speaker 1: as I have the ability to see.
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  Speaker 2: The end before the beginning even begins.
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  Speaker 1: And what that means is I know that to get
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  Speaker 1: to the very end, I can see it right now.
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  Speaker 1: So before I went to BUDS and I was losing
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  Speaker 1: all the waiting, I saw myself walking across the fucking
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  Speaker 1: stage at one hundred and ninety one pounds.
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  Speaker 2: That's why I had to get to get into the door.
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  Speaker 1: I saw myself six months a year later, whatever it's
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  Speaker 1: gonna take me to do it, I saw myself walking
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  Speaker 1: across that stage getting that certificate of graduation from.
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  Speaker 3: BUDS and I was able to be there at three
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  Speaker 3: hundred pounds, and that feeling that I was nowhere near
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  Speaker 3: that feeling I was able to put myself there a
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  Speaker 3: million times every day, and that feeling of like, my God.
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  Speaker 2: That is gonna feeling amazing, That's what made me suffer.
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  Speaker 2: That's what allowed the pain to be real and say,
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  Speaker 2: this is worth it. I want to feel for this
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  Speaker 2: freaking next eighteen months.
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  Speaker 1: It took me eighteen months to find become a navy
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  Speaker 1: to to just get through butts eighteen months and six
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  Speaker 1: months took me eighteen That's what woke me up every
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  Speaker 1: morning was I'm gonna put myself through this much fucking
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  Speaker 1: pain and suffering for a few seconds, so.
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  Speaker 2: It is a few seconds of joy, and it's.
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  Speaker 1: So worth it, man, I said. People don't get so
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  Speaker 1: I'm able to put myself at the finish line, even
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  Speaker 1: though I have no finished line, but at the finish
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  Speaker 1: line of an event before I even start the mother
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  Speaker 1: to say how are you gonna feel at the end
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  Speaker 1: of this? As far back as I can remember, I
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  Speaker 1: craved a seat at the table, even when I was
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  Speaker 1: a punk ass teenager. I knew that one day I
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  Speaker 1: wanted to sit at that mythical table among the greats
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  Speaker 1: in my field. I suppose you can trace it back
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  Speaker 1: to a deep desire for respectability. I desperately wanted to
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  Speaker 1: be somebody because I felt like a nobody. That's why
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  Speaker 1: I was drawn towards special ops at such a young age,
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  Speaker 1: and when I realized I was funking out of school,
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  Speaker 1: it's why I was so motivated to change. I knew
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  Speaker 1: that I would never arrive at that table unless I
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  Speaker 1: took myself in my life more seriously. And Yet, as
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  Speaker 1: much as I wanted to be among the greats, the
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  Speaker 1: decision makers, the anointed ones, I spent years waiting for
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  Speaker 1: a formal invitation. I don't know how many times I
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  Speaker 1: visualized receiving that embossed golden ticket.
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  Speaker 2: To the dinner.
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  Speaker 1: I dreamed of where steak and lobster tail would be
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  Speaker 1: served by those who admired and wanted to be near us.
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  Speaker 1: But I expected to have to prove something first. I
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  Speaker 1: figured if I inserted myself into the proper organization or
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  Speaker 1: structure and met the standard consistently, someone would notice me,
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  Speaker 1: a mentor or guide and give me directions to where
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  Speaker 1: all the power players gathered.
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  Speaker 2: I was not looking to be at the head of
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  Speaker 2: their table.
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't delusional. I just wanted a seat. In the meantime,
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  Speaker 1: I became one of the waiters who served the elite.
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  Speaker 1: Before long, some of my peers, who in my mind
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  Speaker 1: weren't as qualified as.
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  Speaker 2: I was, were seated at the table too. I sucked
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  Speaker 2: it up.
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  Speaker 1: And served them, still hoping that one day I'd be
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  Speaker 1: tapped on the shoulder and someone would.
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  Speaker 2: Pull out a chair for me.
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  Speaker 1: I wanted so badly to be anointed and validated by
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  Speaker 1: my superiors.
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  Speaker 2: I wanted to be told, you have finally.
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  Speaker 1: Arrived, David Goggins, you are now recognized to be one
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  Speaker 1: of the best. Trouble is that formal invitation rarely arrives,
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  Speaker 1: and for me it never did. But while I waited,
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  Speaker 1: I observed my so called superiors close range. I watched
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  Speaker 1: them work, studied how they presented themselves, and realized that
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  Speaker 1: most of them were fairly common mother workers. And I
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  Speaker 1: wanted to be uncommon because it is the uncommon story,
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  Speaker 1: the uncommon leader, that inspires others to seek more of themselves,
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  Speaker 1: work harder, and rise to the occasion. It's no secret
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  Speaker 1: that the vast majority of people prefer to be led,
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  Speaker 1: because it's easier to follow someone else than to break
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  Speaker 1: your own trail. Yet all too often we are led
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  Speaker 1: by bosses teachers, coaches, and powerful officials who wear the
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  Speaker 1: rank and title and deploy optimistic speeches, management lingo and
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  Speaker 1: strategies they learned in some university or seminar from their
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  Speaker 1: colleagues at that table in the executive suite.
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  Speaker 2: But do not inspire us.
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  Speaker 1: Perhaps it's because they talk way too much and do
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  Speaker 1: far too little. Maybe it's because their own lives.
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  Speaker 2: Are out of control.
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  Speaker 1: Whatever the case, over time it becomes obvious that these
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  Speaker 1: men and women who we once admired from Afar don't
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  Speaker 1: have what it takes to lead themselves, let alone anyone else.
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  Speaker 1: Yet when they reject or ignore us, we allow that
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  Speaker 1: to limit us and our ability to influence the organization
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  Speaker 1: we belong to and the people around us. It doesn't
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  Speaker 1: have to be that way. Too many people mistake leadership
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  Speaker 1: for what happens at the top in the spotlight around
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  Speaker 1: that mythical table. When some of the most powerful leaders
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  Speaker 1: are hard at work in the shadows, they know that
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  Speaker 1: opportunities to make a difference in the lives of their neighbors, family,
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  Speaker 1: co workers, and friends are ever present. They wield massive
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  Speaker 1: influence without having to say much, if anything at all,
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  Speaker 1: and the first step in becoming one of these unsung
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  Speaker 1: heroes is learning how to become a self leader. And
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  Speaker 1: I was a kid who got the kind of like
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  Speaker 1: the the bad genes, you know, all these little sickly issues,
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  Speaker 1: all these allergic I was a little sickly kid.
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  Speaker 2: It's funny how when people hear my story now they
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  Speaker 2: want to put a title on me, like I'm superhuman.
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  Speaker 1: And I love it because basically it makes you feel
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  Speaker 1: better by putt a title on me, you can do
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  Speaker 1: it too, And so basic choice. Yes's a choice. It's
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  Speaker 1: a horrible choice. It's a hard choice. It's a lot
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  Speaker 1: of suffer involved. So for me to get the start line,
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  Speaker 1: through that start line journey, I realized I'm capable. So
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  Speaker 1: what happens through this whole process is the change of
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  Speaker 1: the mind. It's the change of the guard. Someone once
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  Speaker 1: owned my brain. I never owned it. I never had
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  Speaker 1: no I had no control. Yes, right, everybody had it.
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  Speaker 1: It was my dad's fault. It was the kids that
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  Speaker 1: called me fault, my mom went home fault. My sooner
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  Speaker 1: be Stepdad's fault. The little kid that got rid of
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  Speaker 1: by the buzz fault. My life was everybody had a
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  Speaker 1: piece of my brain and through this journey of suffering
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  Speaker 1: and the suffering I put it in because I started
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  Speaker 1: finding myself and I started, oh, no, I'm taking back
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  Speaker 1: from me this part of my brain's mind.
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  Speaker 2: Now I started.
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  Speaker 1: Puzzling back this piece of my brain, and through that
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  Speaker 1: I grew confidence. I became the roughest critic in the
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  Speaker 1: world on myself, and that's what changed me. I literally
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  Speaker 1: saw myself in the mirror. I saw the truth versus saying,
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  Speaker 1: you know, my dad did this to me from you know,
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  Speaker 1: from beating me kids in school, from calling me. Did
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  Speaker 1: this to me? My life did this to me? My
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  Speaker 1: broken foundation did this to me. I took that and said,
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  Speaker 1: you know what, well, some people may help this happen,
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  Speaker 1: but now I have to own this. No one gonna
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  Speaker 1: come back to save me. No one gonna come back
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  Speaker 1: on this couch and.
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  Speaker 2: Say, hey, it's okay, You're gonna be okay.
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  Speaker 1: No I'm not. I'm not gonna be okay. I had
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  Speaker 1: to realize I had to take a stand. I had
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  Speaker 1: to make a real stand, and it was painful to
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  Speaker 1: look at who who I like, who I was, what
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  Speaker 1: the world and myself created. It created a very lonely,
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  Speaker 1: depressed insecure man that would do anything just to have
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  Speaker 1: a friend, and I saw that as very pathetic. When
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  Speaker 1: you look at the truth, it becomes very ugly and pathetic.
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  Speaker 1: I would call this guy up at almost every night,
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  Speaker 1: about ten thirty eleven o'clock at night and give him
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  Speaker 1: an update. I said, hey, man, I've lost twenty five pounds.
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  Speaker 1: No one knew what I was doing. I'm really good
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  Speaker 1: at creating an enemy. I'm really good at at creating
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  Speaker 1: something that I'm against. And I'm also good at if
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  Speaker 1: you ever tell me something that I cannot do, I'm
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  Speaker 1: going to let you know that I'm doing it somehow.
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  Speaker 1: You're gonna know, one way or another that I'm doing it.
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  Speaker 1: It may not be like in your face. I may
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  Speaker 1: make sure that I run across the dagone world so
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  Speaker 1: then it's on the news and you turn the news
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  Speaker 1: on the hell I want to do something that you
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  Speaker 1: know I'm here. So every every time I lose like
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  Speaker 1: a big significant amount of weight, I call that recruiter
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  Speaker 1: up and say, hey man, I'm here. And before I
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  Speaker 1: knew it, Man, this guy became almost like my best
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  Speaker 1: friend at that time because he started seeing I started
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  Speaker 1: seeing I.
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  Speaker 2: Started actually changing his life.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I started, you know, he started seeing wow, man,
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  Speaker 1: like I'm glad I took a shot in this guy,
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  Speaker 1: and not only did I lose weight, I had to
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  Speaker 1: go back and take the as baptisk to give us
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  Speaker 1: like a water down.
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  Speaker 2: Sat a couple more times just to get in the
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  Speaker 2: Navy seal.
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  Speaker 1: It was a big process. So that so that three
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  Speaker 1: months was packed full of like failures, depression even more.
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  Speaker 1: But what I found out in that whole three months,
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  Speaker 1: I lived a lifetime. In that three months. I started realizing,
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  Speaker 1: if I can flip, if I can flip these insecurities
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  Speaker 1: upside down, if I can flip this fear, if I
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  Speaker 1: can flip all this that maybe this depressed, insecure guy,
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  Speaker 1: if I can flip it and make it work for
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  Speaker 1: me versus against me. I started seeing the power, the
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  Speaker 1: power and failure, the power and insecurity, the power and
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  Speaker 1: self doubt because I looked at everybody. It may not
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  Speaker 1: be true, but that's how I looked at everybody as
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  Speaker 1: being way above me. I thought to myself, if I
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  Speaker 1: can be at the lowest part in the world, in
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  Speaker 1: the sewer and be able to overcome all this ship,
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  Speaker 1: I started using that as power and I slowly started
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  Speaker 1: passing the guys from Harvard. The guys were meant the
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  Speaker 1: guys who were these great from great families, And oh
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  Speaker 1: my god, I'm catching up.
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  Speaker 2: I'm catching up.
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  Speaker 1: I had nothing, so I started flipping it and using
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  Speaker 1: this power.
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  Speaker 2: Every day I wake up, I'll just run a mile,
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  Speaker 2: two miles.
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  Speaker 1: It's the one thing I hate the most to do,
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  Speaker 1: and I do it like I love it. Two hundred
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  Speaker 1: and fifty sixty seventy three hundred mile.
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  Speaker 2: Runs at one time, no sleep, and every step when
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  Speaker 2: I get to think about this, I get to the
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  Speaker 2: fucking start line cussing that Jennifer, Why the fuck am
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  Speaker 2: I here? I hate this ship.
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  Speaker 1: After seventy some hours of running, every fucking question I
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  Speaker 1: ever had is answered, Every question had has answered. I
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  Speaker 1: cap success, people, we mean you cap success for me
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  Speaker 1: to be who I am. So when I go smoke jump,
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  Speaker 1: I'm smoke jump three to four months out of the year,
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  Speaker 1: sometimes five. So basically you jump into fires, not into them,
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  Speaker 1: but jump by fires that people can't get to. So
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  Speaker 1: you parish o the airplanes and then you fight the fire.
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  Speaker 1: You and sometimes four other guys or maybe eight of
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  Speaker 1: their guys, guys and gals, and you're putting a spire out.
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  Speaker 1: So I lose millions of dollars every summer to do this.
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  Speaker 2: It blows people's minds. Why the hell are you doing that.
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  Speaker 2: I'm being sitting knees, are jacked up, hit hitting the ground,
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  Speaker 2: hurting whatever.
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  Speaker 1: Talking to normal people that'll never get it, so I
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  Speaker 1: don't even explain it to them.
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  Speaker 2: But this is why I call cap success.
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  Speaker 1: I'm talking financial success. For me to continue having that
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  Speaker 1: willpower the second I just become a speaking monkey and
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  Speaker 1: travel around and speaking gigs twelve months out of the year,
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  Speaker 1: put camps on, do this, put on lectures, get somethingment lines,
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  Speaker 1: and do this, and write more books. I've ruined the
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  Speaker 1: exact thing I worked out in my entire life. And
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  Speaker 1: while I didn't know it until the day, but something
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  Speaker 1: always told me this is a very very very perishable skill.
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  Speaker 1: This willpower that you have, because I do have a
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  Speaker 1: willpower that I have never seen in anybody in my life,
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  Speaker 1: is a haunting force that this keeps me going. And
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  Speaker 1: I know that that is my strength.
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  Speaker 2: If you have that, So that's worth every diamond ever
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  Speaker 2: made in my life.
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  Speaker 1: Is the fact that I can look at man in
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  Speaker 1: the eye finally and have a real conversation without going
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  Speaker 1: like this because I'm lying or I'm a piece of shit,
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  Speaker 1: or I know.
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  Speaker 2: You know how a person and so many people do
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  Speaker 2: this shit. They're talking to you on who they want.
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  Speaker 1: To be, they're lying to you, and they walk away
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  Speaker 1: af dinner.
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  Speaker 2: So many times you walk away like God, man, why goodness,
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  Speaker 2: tell me the truth? Why the hell can I just
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  Speaker 2: tell him the truth? No good it feels for me.
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  Speaker 2: Now look at you in your eye, and.
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  Speaker 1: Every man and man I see because women won't get this,
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  Speaker 1: women will not get this.
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  Speaker 2: Man, the man, that man.
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  Speaker 1: You're looking at a man in the eye, and you
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  Speaker 1: know that everything you can say and is real and
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  Speaker 1: it comes from.
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  Speaker 2: A real working place, something that you earned. It's the
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  Speaker 2: best feel in the world. Who I am and who
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  Speaker 2: I say I am. I am no more lies, no
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  Speaker 2: more skirt than the truth, no more bullsh.
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  Speaker 1: And that is worth every dime I've ever made in
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  Speaker 1: my life.
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  Speaker 2: And I swear to God on.
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  Speaker 1: That every dime I've ever made in my life building
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  Speaker 1: who I've built, so I cap success because I know
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  Speaker 1: that if I ever go twelve months out of the
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  Speaker 1: year and don't put several every day I'm going at it,
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  Speaker 1: but several months out of the year, I go right
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  Speaker 1: back to ground zero, which means I'm just fucking David Goggins.
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  Speaker 1: No Goggins, no carry boats, logs, bullshit.
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  Speaker 2: It's just pick up that in Pulaskian dig.
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  Speaker 1: Hey, get that fucking pump, walk down a mile, put
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  Speaker 1: in the Watermeskill is beaten.
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  Speaker 2: You're just David Goggins. You're nobody.
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  Speaker 1: Because that's where my growth is, that's where my willpower
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  Speaker 1: comes from, and that's where it stays. That's where I
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  Speaker 1: talk to you now, and I talk like this, Dade.
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  Speaker 1: People don't talk this kind.
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  Speaker 2: Of passion because it ain't there. It ain't there. They're
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  Speaker 2: they're regurgitating some shit from thirty years ago. I'm regurgitation
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  Speaker 2: from an hour ago, hour ago. Come on, man, it's
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  Speaker 2: just
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  Speaker 1: Be real.