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123: The Woman You're Waiting For Is Waiting on You · Walking Manifestator Podcast- Aligning Mindset with Spirituality

• Alexa: What if the woman you've been praying to become isn't somewhere in the future and she's actually waiting on you to show up? Waiting for you to make the decision, waiting for you to stop negotiating with your dreams, your aspirations, your goals, waiting for you to stop walking away from what scares you, and waiting for you to stop asking God, God, why is it happening for everybody else but me? And instead asking God, God, who do I need to become? Help me understand myself better. And for those of you that are new to Walking Manifestator and don't really know what the whole goal of these conversations are for, I'm going to reintroduce myself and share with you why I even take the time to make these videos. I believe that when you pay it forward, there's this magic that happens in your life that everything comes back to you. And I believe that that works for you or against you. I believe that when you're someone that's always ditching out lack, envy, animosity, that is what you're going to see in your life. And it's very, very subtle how it starts happening, but it's there. And in some cases, you might already notice it to a point where it's not subtle anymore and it's actually ruling your life because you're jealous of everyone, you're envious of everyone, you feel like everyone is getting ahead and you feel like you're falling behind. And on that same token, maybe you're someone that already started just working on yourself and you start just aligning with more of the messages that resonate with you. And this is why I started these conversations back in 2023. I wanted to number one share things that have allowed me to go from being broke, stuck in survival, feeling like I wasn't worthy, feeling like everyone else was winning, but I couldn't really get a grip on things. Or I felt like I was already winning in terms of making more money than I was, but I didn't really feel alive. And there's a saying that says there's a lot of people that are living but they're not truly alive. And that really has been the main passion behind making these conversations. My goal is to equip you with tools. That are going to help you become the woman that you are meant to be. The woman that doesn't just settle for the crumbs, the bare minimum, but the woman that actually is willing to be grateful for everything that you have, but is still hungry. That you still have so much more that you want to achieve. And when you continue to invest in yourself. This is where you become a trailblazer for your family, for your legacy, for the things that inspire you. You see, I recently started learning from this new person that I'm going to call her a coach, even though she's not necessarily someone that. I'm paying right now to coach me because she doesn't have any coaching programs. She's just like that much of a badass where she just shares a lot of her information, kind of like what I'm doing with you guys. And I thought it was so beautiful that she started a movement where she's helping kids that are abused, neglected, sold by their parents to end this horrendous thing that is happening with kids being trafficked. And she started off by actually being like her journey has been, you know, to summarize it here, has been ups and downs. And now that she's been making more money, like her goal is to continue to obviously grow. And she has an island actually that she owns. And she's now trying to just essentially Keep paying it forward because when you are blessed to the degree where my goal with these conversations are to continue to guide you, like I'm just here to share with you what's helping helping me, but you're going to be the one to do the work, right? But when you feel like, you know what, I have more than enough money in my bank account. Like legit, I could stop working right now for the next three years and I'd be good. Am I going to do that? No, I'm not. Because I value growing. And that's what I hope to share and inspire in these conversations for you so that you can be a change in the world. A lot of us complain about how things are and there's something in you that triggers you that you see that's happening in the world and you're like, why do people allow this? Well, because we're not standing up, because we're not being the ones to take the torch and say, how can I make more money? How can I be more abundant so that I can be a person that can make a difference? So in this whole conversation that we're going to be having, I'm going to be giving you practical tools and I have a community. So if that's something you're interested in, the links are always in the show notes. I have a YouTube channel where I also create a lot of content to help you guys. And my goal is that this allows for you to continue down the path that is going to inspire you at the highest level so that you can be a light. Because that's what you're here for. Like God placed a gift in every single one of us. And this is what I tell every single one of my coaching students. This is what I tell every single one of my agents that I have in real estate. Like, you need to be lethal with your boundaries, with your goals, with your aspirations, because nobody's coming to save you but you. And you see, when I've coached with some of the people that I've coached, like I'm talking about multimillionaires, I have coached with people that or in the B's and the billions, I have coached with people that have shared the same thing, which is once you have a bigger why than you, like not just you and what you're going to achieve for you and your family, which is great, but a bigger why. A why that's going to just get you out of bed. Everything changes in your life. And that's my goal with these conversations. So let's go ahead and get into it today. The first thing I want to get into is Give your life a meaning that empowers you. And this is where when you can understand that everything that has happened to you wasn't actually meant to destroy you. It was actually meant to redefine you. And I'm going to tell you some of the hardest things that I've been through because everything that I share with you guys is not from like, I read this thing on ChatGPT, I read this thing online. Like, no, it's legit my life, the things that I've been through that have allowed me to speak from experience. And the things that I don't know, I will be the first to tell you, I'm figuring it out, I'm going through it right now, and I'll share with you the things that are helping me in the process of it. But for the most part, the things that I'm telling you that are tangible things are things that took me from survival, like I mentioned, sixteen thousand dollars a year, single, mom broke feeling really overwhelmed to feeling empowered to having over seven figures that I've generated in my business to being able to sit here and tell you that it is literally a Thursday and I get to create my schedule. It is 11 a.m. I took my day to record my podcast. I took my day to go to the gym, drop off my kids, then I have some appointments in the afternoon. Then I get to go get my lashes done, then tomorrow I get to go get a massage, and tomorrow I go get to get my facial done. Like, this is the life that I have been praying for for the longest time, and I want that for you. But you see, if you would have told me that before when I was the victim of my circumstances, which is why we need to change the meaning that we're giving to our life, I would have laughed at you and I would have said, like, yeah, easy for you to say. Like, your life is figured out. That's why you think that my life can be good. But that's not true. And this is where. When you understand that you get the power to determine what meaning you give to anything in life, we as humans are extraordinary, like we are really resilient, and we don't need to continue to romanticize suffering. And this is something where when I went through the things that I went through. Which I've shared in other episodes. So if you're interested in checking that out, go to some of the first episodes. Like I talk about my story. And I think in one of the last two episodes I talked about my story. But like I really decided I'm I'm done with that version of me. I'm done with trying to please everybody else and in the process losing myself. That's the reason why I'm single, by the way. It's not because I can't be in a relationship right now with someone, because genuinely I'm very blessed to Just know my boundaries now. And because of that, it allows me to not just settle for anyone. It allows me to say, I know what I'm looking for, and I'm not just going to settle for whatever, which back in the day that wouldn't have been the case. Same thing when it comes to my business. I know what I'm looking for in a client because I know what I'm going to deliver to a client. So I set boundaries and expectations. Which when we change the meaning that we're giving to things, which is why this is like the first tip that I can give you here, you're going to change your perception of just like settling for like the mere crumbs of life because that's what you've been conditioned to accept. Because maybe you went through abuse like me, maybe you went through neglect like me, maybe you went through trauma like me. And you allow people to treat you like the bare minimum because you don't really respect and love yourself. And maybe you're sitting here and saying, like, no, no, like I do. But do you really? Because when you start journaling, like deep deep journaling to understand yourself to a different level, you see a lot of the things that were like blind spots for you. You see how you continue to lose yourself every time you're in a relationship and you actually forget who you really are. Like you forget to the point where you make that person your identity. Or maybe it's a job for you, maybe it's your studies for you, maybe it's your parents for you. Like we're all different. But at the very core, if you continue to assign the same meaning to everything in your life, you're going to feel like you're stuck. The second point I want to cover is stop trying to control how your prayer is going to get answered. And this is really where we really just create so much unnecessary anxiety. We don't actually just ask God, like, hey God, can you please bless me? We actually want to give God instructions. Okay, God, I want this relationship with this person by this age. And I want them to look exactly like this. And I also want him to make a lot of money. And I want to make sure that by December, all of this is done. And then because something doesn't happen according to our blueprint, now we're like, hey God, like what's going on? Like, did you just disappear on me? What's happening? And this is where surrender really comes into play. And that's the reason why I've created the courses that I've created. I believe nowadays we live in an air in an era where so many people can sell you like the solution to something. And unfortunately, a lot of these people are not living in alignment with what they're selling you, they're out of alignment. And when that happens, and I'll tell you that, like from personal experience, this past year, I was living out of alignment with some things that I wasn't really proud of. And maybe later I'll share more. But I was really hoping to be able to salvage something. Because of the idea that I had that something could look like. But deep down, I knew that it was out of integrity with my character, with who I had been building for years. And I needed to realize that I needed to surrender the idea of how I believe that it should happen. And just understand that it's going to happen when it's meant to happen, the way that God intends for it to happen, because sometimes our puny weenie little brain. Actually, doesn't even have a chance against the beautiful, miraculous blessing that God really wants to give us because we're thinking that it has to come in a nice red packaging when in reality God has an even better packaging for you. And this is what is going to lead me to point number three. Stop asking only What you can get, like how can I get more? How can I? How can I get this? How can I get that? And I need you to just do a quick mindset shift to who do I need to become? Okay. And this is directly correlated to our last conversation that we had yesterday, or not yesterday, the last week. And I had this conversation also with a coaching client. Which is we're always asking, like, where can I get more money? And how can I get, you know, the relationship and the body that I want? How do I get the business? How do I get more opportunities? But what if we just changed the question and said, who do I need to become so that I can actually hold that blessing? And I use an analogy that I think fits perfectly for this, which is imagine you and I go to the gym, right? And you want to do a hundred pounds on the hip thrust, but you've never done a hundred pounds on the hip thrust. Like You're going to hurt yourself, girl. Like, I love you, but you shouldn't do that. We should probably start with, you know, just like the barbell. And then maybe we can add fives and tens and twenties. And who cares what anybody else around you is looking at you like. That actually just happened to me yesterday. Actually, I went to the gym. I'm trying to change my schedule. I'm trying to go to the 5 a.m. gym class instead of the 8:30 a.m. class. And to make the long story short, I've shared this with you guys before. I started training with a gym trainer and she became a really good, you know, friend. And unfortunately I wasn't able to continue with her because I moved to the complete opposite side of town. And she really had me spoiled, to say the least, because I would just like follow her moves and I wouldn't really like try to memorize the like names of the workouts. So when I went yesterday to my class, typically when I go to the 8 30 s class, everybody's like really chill and super friendly. This five AM class, like they were just not Like, I don't want to say everybody, but the group that I try to gravitate toward was not the vibe. so basically the girl I thought she looked really pretty, and I thought, okay, well, she looks pretty, and maybe she's like one of those girls that's like open to like pay a forward. So I decided to try and go and work out with her. And basically, what this girl ends up telling me when I try to pick up the barbell, so the way that it works is that you're supposed to just put it on your like collarbone and between like your shoulders and then do an actual squat but I didn't pay attention to what the board said so I try to like take it off the rack and put it on the floor and then I tried to pick it up and put it like all the way up to my actual shoulder blades and my collarbone which was not the right technique is what I'm trying to describe to you. And essentially that was enough for her and the other girl that was there to chop me off as dead liver and basically say, like, yeah, no, you shouldn't work out with us. You should go and work out with that other girl. And that other girl was like by herself in like super lightweight. So I was just like, okay, cool. Like the petty side of me obviously wanted to come out. And the petty side of me wanted to girl, do you know how much I hip thrust? Like, I'm pretty strong actually. I can do, you know, four plates of 45 on each side. Like, come on now. But I just was like, you know what, Alexa? Like, I don't need to prove myself to anybody. I know for a fact that I could definitely improve my upper strength, but what does it matter what this person thinks? And this is where when we start asking, like, who do I need to become? It's so important in your life because now you're not going to go for the highest. Highest weight that you know you probably can't sustain, and again, we started with the fives, the tens, the twenties, which is what I ended up doing with my upper strength. Like, I could care less what anybody in that place was thinking about me. I was like, you know what? Like, I'm here to grow, I'm here to conquer a hard thing every single morning, and that's it. Like, I don't care what you think, and that's the approach that we really need to start adopting when it comes to our life because we keep asking God, please bless me. But God's like, my child, like if I gave you that blessing, you would be broken within a week. And I don't want that for you. Now the next point we want to talk about is that We actually do need a community. Like if you're trying to become the best version of yourself, you do truly need a community of the right people. Okay. And I'm not just talking about anybody. I'm not just talking about someone that's gonna tell you that you're doing great even when you're not. I'm not talking about someone that's going to encourage you. I'm not talking about someone that's just encouraging you when you're doing something wrong. I'm talking about a community, which one of my coaches says, community, if you like type out the last part which says unity like you need to be united with certain people that are in alignment with what you're trying to build and this is where discernment really matters and I've made a video talking about discernment so if you haven't checked that out go and check it out but the reason why I've come to realize that community is important and I've been more open to just putting myself out there these past like three years has been because you need mirrors, right? So let's say I go and I tell my grandmother right now, which for those of you that don't know, I take care of her and my grandfather. They live with me and they're, you know, they're badasses. They're like they've been there for me and now I feel like I'm going to be there for them as much as I possibly can. And I know for a fact though that she knows that I work hard. And if I went right now to her little house because I got a new property and she has a casita in the back. So if I went to her and I said right now, Grandma, I'm exhausted. Like I just wanna sleep all day. I don't wanna do nothing. She would say, Yes, you should do that. You work really hard. How can I help you? Like that's who she is, right? she will sh she don't I don't want to paint the picture that she that me and her relationship was perfect because we went through our own struggles back when I was growing up. So if like you felt that and you were like, but I don't have anybody like that, I promise you, like when you change, people around you sometimes can also change. Like those people that really should be in your life if it's someone of substance like my grandparents. so anyways, when I would if I were to go and tell her that right now, she would be like, yes, you should rest. But here's the truth, like I know the difference between when I'm being lazy and my body's just telling me like let's just chill and when I'm actually exhausted and my body's telling me you better relax because if not I could break down. And typically the way that it comes down on me is that I'll end up getting sick. So whenever I'm already starting to feel like very exhausted, like I've been pushing myself a little bit beyond my comfort, I will typically say, Okay body, I hear you, like I'm going to relax. And the reason where community is important and why I'm telling you this is because if I told that to my coach and my coach looks at me and says, like, that's bullshit. Like you could genuinely do more. Why are you quitting right now? Keep going. That's the difference between having the right community with you and the wrong community that is just going to coddle you and is going to essentially steer you off the path of what you know you should be doing. Right? And this is where having a coach really matters. Like whether you decide to coach with me, whether you decide to coach with any other woman out there that is actually doing the work. Okay. Like do research. Like make sure that they actually like and I know this is gonna sound so like I'm just gonna say it. It is what it is. Those of you that resonate with it, cool. Those of you that don't, it is what it is. But like if I'm over here teaching you how to buy real estate, okay. And I don't own real estate, like that's just hypocritical on my book. Like, don't tell me how to get fit and you're over there like 200 pounds overweight. Like, I love you and I send love toward you, but you're not a mentor for me in my book. Like, maybe you're a great person, but why would I hire you to teach me something when you're not even doing the thing? And that's something that has been like a big realization for me. Like all my coaches are people that are doing a lot better than me. That's just what it is. Like I want people that are doing things at an extraordinary level, not just someone that's like posting on Instagram and is like Instagram famous. No, like what's your bank account like? Like what do you own? How is your life? Like is your family with integrity or is your family like all chaotic? And I I really do stand by that because you wanna find coaches that can actually inspire you in the right direction and give you guidance in the right direction, not just coddle you, not just validate you, actually call you out on the things that they need to call you out on in order for you to redirect. And do what you know you should you should do. Like, that's just what it comes down to. Now, sometimes you just don't know, which I've been there, but sometimes you do know and you just need confirmation from somebody else to tell you, like, yeah, you you should leave that person. Or yeah, you should go for that job. Or yeah, you should start your business. And this is how you can do it. Now, the five, the five, the fifth point I wanna make right now is that Oftentimes we think that fear is in the way, but actually fear is the way. And I read this book, which is called The Overthinker's Guide to Making Decision by Joseph Newgen. I really, really love this book and I'll be making a full video breakdown of my biggest takeaways on the book on YouTube. So if that's something you're interested, check it out or just read the book. But he says this one thing that says that fear is not in the way. It's actually the way. Because think about it. If there's something that you have been really wanting to do, right? If there's something that you've been like, I really want to be a speaker or I really want to start a business or I really want to Just teach more women how to get fit, right? But then you keep stopping yourself. Like you know you have the strategy to make it happen. But you keep stopping yourself because you're like, no, I just don't know like how scalable this is, or I just don't know if you know anybody's gonna hire me. I just don't know if like I'm a good speaker. All of those things, if there wasn't something on the other side of that that you could really gain from it. It wouldn't actually be fearful to you. And what do I mean by that? Like, I don't get afraid, and I pray to God obviously all the time that He protects me and my family, but I'm not afraid to go and get in the car. Like, genuinely. Like I'm just like, God, take the wheel, I'm here, I'm gonna pay attention, like, let's go. But statistically speaking, driving a car can be one of the most dangerous things, right? Getting on a plane could be a very dangerous thing. And this is where When we realize it, I don't get afraid to get in the car because it's just something that I've overcome. But if you think about how fear shows up in your life, it's actually typically something that really excites you that you're just really afraid to do. So let's go back to when you first learned how to drive a car. I'm willing to bet you were nervous. I'm willing to bet you were like, my gosh, I don't know how to parallel park, right? Am I the only one? Like, I was afraid of parallel park. And now that I look back at it, it was like, because I I really wanted to learn how to parallel park. It wasn't that I was afraid of it because I didn't want to do it. I was afraid of it because I really wanted to do it. That's the same thing that you need to adopt right now when it comes to your life. Like you have the ability. to understand that even if nobody's clapping for you right now, like just genuinely, if nobody's clapping for you right now, clap for yourself. If nobody is like believing in the dream you have, you believe in the dream that you have. Because fear is not in the way. It's actually the way. And once we can see it as just like a test almost like how bad do you really want it? Because God is looking at you like, okay, my dear, you want that blessing, but I'm gonna put you through like a few trials to just make sure that you are actually strong enough to hold that blessing for when you get it. It's like one of my biggest, you know, pet peeves when people talk about like, my God, like I really want a husband that has like a lot of money and that's handsome and it's fit and he's like, you know, witty and smart and all these things. But then it's like, but like what do you do? Because if like you're not working on yourself, why would that man want you? Now unless they're just like someone that's gonna like take the best years of your life because you're beautiful and really like later when you're older, like just kind of throw you to the side because you didn't really fulfill him on the long term. It was just like more of a visual thing. And then once he has a visual thing, it's like off to the next. But like think about it. relationship of substance it's going to require two people of substance like some of my coaches like one that I have in mind right now they have a badass relationship and both of them are badasses like both of them have their own unique essence which just makes both of them like marinate so beautifully so that's something that you really want to adopt when you're trying to become the best version of you and then Overall, these last parts that I want to leave you with is like you're allowed to want more. I think that this is something that us as women, we really need to hear this, but you're allowed to be grateful, but still desire expansion. And this is really where you can say, Yes, thank you, God, for everything that I have, but I know that there's more inside of me. And someone else's life being objectively harder than yours doesn't mean you're required to abandon your calling. Someone might look at your life and think, what could she possibly want? Like, doesn't she have everything? But they're measuring life against their own capacity, not your capacity. And yes, gratitude says, you know. What I have done today, like I'm so grateful for. But there's a difference between gratitude and complacency, which is now because I have enough, I should stop becoming. And that's a really red flag. Because when you understand that if something inside of you keeps whispering, like, there's more, you know, like you can serve more. There's more that you can create, there's more that you can learn, there's more that you can give, experience, become. Then you shouldn't automatically shame that voice. You see, like from anybody that saw my life and that genuinely like knows my life, they could say, like, you have a good life, Alexa. Yeah, thank you. And I'm very blessed and I'm very appreciative of it. But honestly, I'm not, I'm not satisfied. I want more. And not just for me, because like I said, when you have a bigger why, there's just something that fuels you. want more things because I want to be able to pay it forward to other women, to kids, to animals that are out in the streets. Like when December came around we did a giving like it was a basically like giving event and essentially what we ended up doing is that we called it semillas de amor and with semillas de amor we went out to the community in Juarez, Mexico and we gave kids food, we gave kids clothes, we gave kids like snacks and you should have seen the face in these kids like the smile in these kids' face, the eyes, how they lit up Like there's one little kid that just comes to mind right away and it's like, that's what it's about. It's like how can you continue to pay it forward? How can you be a light in the world? Because once you can understand that you shouldn't shame yourself for what you want to achieve. Things are going to start changing. Now, I want to give you a quick little exercise before I let you go, which is I want you to just like understand like where are you and who do you need to become? So I want you to have a list. And on one side, I want you to write the current you, right? Like, what do you currently believe to be true in your life? What are you currently tolerating? What are you afraid of? What conversations are you avoiding in life right now? And where are you actually waiting for something to happen in your life and not actually acting? Right? Like you're praying, you're praying, you're praying, but like what are you doing to get that prayer? And then the second column, I want you to just write the parts of you being her. So imagine it's been three years. And I want you to just picture if you got crystal clear on all of the things that you were and all the things that you need to become, like, how is this version of you living differently? What is she thinking now? How is she loving differently? How is she managing her money? How is she taking care of herself? And when you can understand that, you also tie into What does she believe that I don't believe right now? What did she stop tolerating? What did she finally have the courage to do? Who does she surround herself with? And what does her relationship with God look like? Because there's something that I've said to you guys many times. My relationship with God is like a non-negotiable. I truly believe whether you decide to call it energy, healing, sores, I believe it's a God. Like God created everything. The crystals, the, you know, the books, the Buddhist, like He created everything that is. So for me, I worship God. I appreciate everything that God has done in my life. And I believe that when you work in unity with that relationship with God, I also feel feel that like as girls, we're kind of like a daddy's girl. Like if you didn't have a dad in your life, I didn't. And I've kind of started feeling like my relationship toward the masculine has been changing because I see God as like my mother and my father. And he's like that person that has been there for me from the beginning. And there's a a verse that I can't remember right now off the top of my head, but basically there's like people that like were asking like God, like when I struggled in the hardest times, like where were you? And God's like, I was right there. Like when you were taking the beating, I was right there. When you were being abused, I was right there. When you felt like you had nobody, I was right there. Like I was going through every single thing with you. And I think that's just so magical and so powerful. So when you work on your relationship with God, everything starts changing. And the last thing I want you to understand is like, what's one decision that you can make today that will change your tomorrow? And you don't have to give yourself 25 things. Like, just get crystal clear about what's that one thing that you could do today. That will help you get closer to that version of you. And maybe if you're like listening to this, you're like, Alexa, like I know exactly who I want to become. My problem is that I can't stop overthinking every decision required to become her. Like, what if I make the wrong choice? What if I fail? What if people judge me? You know, what if I leave something behind and then I regret it? What if I'm misreading, right? Like God's direction. And that's exactly what we're going to be talking next on our next conversation. And it's really going to allow you to understand like you can stop overthinking things and actually just get to a point where instead of like seeing fear as this like mechanism that's there to stop you, you start changing the way. And I'm gonna give you practical tools for you to Stop surrounding yourself around these thoughts that are keeping you from experiencing life at the fullest. So remember that that version of you that you have been praying for, like you're not waiting on her. She's waiting on you. So I hope this conversation was helpful for even one of you. Thank you for continuing to come back. For those of you that continue to come back every single week, I love you. I appreciate you so much. And remember that if nobody has told you this, you are loved, you are worthy, and you can absolutely manifest anything you want. I'll talk to you guys on the next one.