Latest / Terri Messenger's Genius Zone / Quit Stress and Procrastination: Take Control of Stress & Eliminate Procrastination — Step Into Your Genius Zone

Transcript

Quit Stress and Procrastination: Take Control of Stress & Eliminate Procrastination — Step Into Your Genius Zone · Terri Messenger's Genius Zone

• 0:00
  My name is Terry Messenger and I am hey, hey, hey and welcome,
• 0:08
  welcome to Terry Messenger's Genius Zone.
• 0:14
  And you know, this is the place in the space where you are going
• 0:19
  to get your own free master class.
• 0:24
  Absolutely free. Hello and welcome to Edge Radio
• 1:09
  Australia. I'm Martine Shepherd.
• 1:11
  I'm filling in for the amazing Mr. Aaron Malloy.
• 1:14
  He's away for a couple of days. Got.
• 1:16
  More hair on his 80s hair back. And I'm here with the beautiful
• 1:21
  Terry Messenger. Hi, Terry.
• 1:24
  Hello. Well, I was gonna say, Aaron,
• 1:26
  you look pretty today. Well, you look gorgeous.
• 1:29
  I know I do, but you know, so there you go.
• 1:32
  As he would say, I know I do. Well, we're doing a Clayton's
• 1:37
  studio here today at Edge Radio. So we're not quite all
• 1:42
  professionally geared up with our, you know, our lives and
• 1:46
  everything and our usual thing. So we have to kind of shout, but
• 1:51
  if everybody can let us know if you can hear us and if you can
• 1:57
  see us, OK. And today's subject?
• 2:00
  Do you know what it's all about? I don't know if it's anything to
• 2:03
  do with stress that might be helpful for me today, I can tell
• 2:06
  you. I think the whole world needs
• 2:09
  it. Well, you know, we were at a
• 2:11
  festival of healing on the weekend, man.
• 2:15
  There, you know, are people out there that need this.
• 2:20
  They really, really need it. People suffering, right?
• 2:23
  And you know, there's a lot of suffering going on out in the
• 2:26
  world. And this is actually one,
• 2:29
  probably one of the most profound techniques that I use
• 2:33
  in NLP because it is one that actually can literally get to
• 2:39
  the root cause of trauma. It can get to the root cause of
• 2:44
  stress. It can get to the root cause of
• 2:45
  anything, Martin especially, and it can totally just blow it out
• 2:51
  of the water. So it is powerful.
• 2:53
  I've been using timeline therapy.
• 2:56
  That's what it is. Now they say that it was created
• 2:59
  by Ted James. OK, but the fact is that it
• 3:03
  comes and it derives from neuro linguistic programming.
• 3:08
  And you know whether it is, I will give some glory to the late
• 3:13
  Ted James, who was extremely, very clued up on NLP.
• 3:19
  I'm gonna. Have to look.
• 3:20
  That up later and yes, but timeline therapy, we all have a
• 3:25
  timeline. So you know when you get
• 3:28
  stressed out, when you feel like you're running out of time, Do
• 3:31
  you ever get that? A little bit today, a little
• 3:34
  bit. It's like, oh boy, you know,
• 3:37
  have you ever felt like that? And you know, when I'm talking
• 3:41
  to most people anyway, it usually always comes down to not
• 3:47
  enough time, not enough money. So time and money are the two
• 3:53
  biggest factors. Absolutely.
• 3:55
  And you know what happens, of course, is that the more
• 4:00
  stressed that we are, the less time seems to shrink.
• 4:05
  Yeah. And when we're in our genius
• 4:08
  zone, hence the name of the show, what happens is time.
• 4:13
  Expands. Because you know, and, and one
• 4:17
  of the things that I, I start off with when I'm teaching
• 4:20
  people about timelining is are you an on time person or a three
• 4:28
  time person? Yeah.
• 4:30
  Now let me let me just talk about this a little bit whether
• 4:34
  you're on time or three time and maybe you'll get to know the way
• 4:39
  you tick and the way others tick as well.
• 4:41
  Do you find this isn't 1 because we did this this on the
• 4:45
  weekends, this sort of what would you call it?
• 4:48
  Timeline, yeah, but. It, it was an experience.
• 4:50
  You have to go through it, yeah. And So what I found is there was
• 4:53
  different subjects that I found that were like threw me in front
• 4:57
  of me to different sides. And so that was really
• 5:00
  insightful because I could see that that in some things it was
• 5:03
  really flowing and other things that was like a little bit out
• 5:07
  or sideways so. That's really interesting.
• 5:10
  You should. Have.
• 5:11
  So was it just one thing in general?
• 5:13
  Yeah, different subjects. Yeah.
• 5:15
  Do you know what that tells me about you?
• 5:18
  That you have quite a lot of control over time and you don't
• 5:21
  even realize it? I do.
• 5:23
  So when and you say you flip, what what you're doing is you're
• 5:26
  flipping in and out of time, correct?
• 5:28
  And so for example, what if you flip at the wrong time?
• 5:32
  So that that's the thing. And I'm not saying that's what
• 5:35
  you do, no, but it's what a lot of us do depending on where we
• 5:40
  are in our brain, because when we are stressed, we're not
• 5:45
  through time, OK, we've suddenly jumped out.
• 5:49
  Now we're either, you know, if we're anxious, we tend to jump
• 5:53
  into the past and we're, you know, we're, we're actually, you
• 5:57
  know, can I just reinstate that? If we're anxious, we jump into
• 6:01
  the future. So we, we are thinking about
• 6:05
  what's going to happen and Oh my gosh.
• 6:08
  And we're not living in the now through time.
• 6:13
  We're living outside of time, which is on time, yes.
• 6:19
  And then if we are actually sinking low into an emotion like
• 6:25
  sadness, depression, anger even, we're usually reminiscing about
• 6:32
  something that's happened. So we're angry over something
• 6:35
  that someone said, which is usually in the past, even if it
• 6:38
  was 5 minutes ago or yesterday. Or we're reminiscing about
• 6:43
  something that's sad that's happened to us.
• 6:45
  So that is also when we're outside of time.
• 6:49
  So is that though because I find that it's good to recognize the
• 6:53
  feeling and emotion. Yeah, but don't stay stuck.
• 6:56
  In because that's where you know, you stay in that timeline
• 6:59
  back here and you're carrying that through like a big money
• 7:01
  footprint through each new day. You know, that's how I look at
• 7:05
  it. So you need to.
• 7:06
  Wash the day off. You need to put your feet in the
• 7:08
  bath. Yeah, scrub that off.
• 7:10
  Yes, scrub that stuff off. You know, get.
• 7:12
  The salt out man. You're allowed to roll around in
• 7:15
  the mud. Yeah.
• 7:16
  You know, in fact, what you just said is perfect.
• 7:19
  I'm actually saying this to my mother last night, that when I
• 7:23
  was doing a lot of the training, some of the people became more
• 7:27
  fanatic than I did. And I would have my students
• 7:31
  saying, no, Terry, you're not allowed to say that or you're
• 7:35
  not allowed to feel like that because that's negative.
• 7:37
  And it's like, well, you know. It's not negative.
• 7:39
  That's life, yeah, that's life. That's the reality.
• 7:43
  That's presenting in the experience that we're having
• 7:45
  here is physicality. Yeah, even though we are a
• 7:48
  spiritual being experiencing the the and the whole inter dynamics
• 7:53
  of those levels of consciousness in this vessel and how it
• 7:58
  affects the body. Yeah, it's part of the
• 7:59
  experience. You can't.
• 8:01
  That's why I said spiritual bypass and you can't do it.
• 8:03
  No. This is why this stuff is.
• 8:05
  Really powerful. You've got a feel to feel.
• 8:08
  Yeah. Yeah.
• 8:09
  You've got a feel to heal. Yeah.
• 8:10
  So, you know, if we, it's understanding about this, it's
• 8:14
  more about the power of being able to take control of your own
• 8:18
  life. Yeah.
• 8:19
  So for example, if we are feeling this, feeling this
• 8:23
  emotion, if it's anxiety, when we recognize that, hang on a
• 8:27
  minute, if I'm anxious, what does that anxiety feel like?
• 8:31
  OK, I'm nervous. Or, you know, there's a fear of
• 8:36
  failure or there's too much going on and it feels
• 8:40
  overwhelming. You've got to be able to unpack
• 8:43
  that. But by actually understanding
• 8:45
  that, hang on a minute, I'm not living in the now.
• 8:49
  I see you and I work quite similarly in the way that we
• 8:52
  like to get to the the root. Cause of the issue.
• 8:55
  For true healing to occur, yes. And so we use different
• 8:59
  techniques because most people don't know that.
• 9:01
  Yeah, absolutely. They are complementary.
• 9:04
  Very much so. And The thing is that our
• 9:07
  feelings are the guidance tool or the arrow that's pointing in
• 9:11
  the direction of where there's imbalance, which is what you're
• 9:13
  talking about. And so that's where you're
• 9:16
  saying with anxiety, you're stressing about the future and
• 9:19
  depression is the past. So that's saying that your
• 9:21
  arrows either pointed too far forward, too far back instead of
• 9:25
  being in this the arrow, right? I love it.
• 9:28
  Is that right? Oh my gosh, yay talking.
• 9:30
  Class today it's. Keeping me.
• 9:32
  It's keeping me on track because actually with the time and the
• 9:36
  timeline and you're talking arrows, right?
• 9:39
  So if you think of it like the hands on a clock exactly, you
• 9:43
  know, so you've got one hand, let's say, what is it, 6:00?
• 9:46
  Yeah. So one hand's going out that
• 9:48
  way, one's going behind us, so that is where we can control it.
• 9:53
  So if we're feeling something and we're going OK, we're
• 9:58
  allowed to feel it. What am I feeling OK?
• 10:00
  I'm anxious about something I'm going to be doing soon.
• 10:05
  And what's the worst thing now? A little trick.
• 10:08
  Would you like to know a little trick?
• 10:09
  I love all these little tricks. Little.
• 10:10
  Tricks. Yeah, tricks.
• 10:12
  Bring it on. So let's just say you've got
• 10:15
  something pending, yes, and you're anxious about it.
• 10:19
  So what you do, this is a manifestation trick, plus it
• 10:23
  helps with that anxiety. So you jump time.
• 10:27
  So what you do is you quantum like now if you come into one of
• 10:31
  our workshops, because we're going to do a workshop together
• 10:34
  and that's going to be really exciting to have the spiritual
• 10:38
  and all of the insightful stuff that this beautiful lady does.
• 10:42
  And we're going to kind of blend it together with this NLP stuff
• 10:45
  and it's going to be freaking amazing.
• 10:49
  So stay tuned for that or drop it in the comments.
• 10:52
  If you want to know more about it, we'll send you out the
• 10:56
  invitation. So the way we quantum leap is we
• 11:01
  go past that again. Yes.
• 11:03
  So let's just say have you got, I'm not going to ask you what it
• 11:07
  is, but have you got something? Unless you want to promote it,
• 11:09
  of course. Have you got something coming up
• 11:12
  in the future that you feel a bit of angst about or you're a
• 11:15
  bit unsure? Like you know how you had your
• 11:17
  daughter's wedding? Oh, yeah, that.
• 11:18
  Well, definitely last week. Yeah, yeah, that explains
• 11:21
  exactly what it was. It was the anxiety was probably
• 11:24
  not just through the roof, but it was like a rocket just.
• 11:28
  Well, that's what we. Want only that's.
• 11:30
  Happened now so we need to let that one so we're looking at
• 11:34
  something in the future so let's just say you're.
• 11:37
  Symposium. Symposium Symposium.
• 11:39
  This lady is doing a symposium. There's going to be 1 in Perth
• 11:45
  and there's going to be 1 in Victoria, Victoria.
• 11:49
  So if you want to know about that, drop it in the comments.
• 11:51
  She'll get back to you now. OK.
• 11:54
  So there's, yeah, of course, we're going to get a little bit
• 11:56
  of anxiety about that. How many people are going to
• 11:59
  come? You've got a lot of big, weak
• 12:02
  people that you're connecting with.
• 12:03
  You're doing a lot there. Yeah.
• 12:06
  So what we need to do is we need to ask you a couple of questions
• 12:11
  and that is that firstly, how do you want to feel?
• 12:15
  Like what would be the emotional feeling that you would feel
• 12:20
  knowing that it was an absolute blast.
• 12:23
  It was an absolute. Hit a success, yeah.
• 12:27
  Success story. OK, yeah, so.
• 12:28
  How would that feel? What would success feel like?
• 12:31
  Tell me about success. What?
• 12:32
  What would that feel like in your body?
• 12:34
  For me personally, not what other people might say, success.
• 12:37
  For me, it is about having people that are there that their
• 12:41
  hearts and souls are really aligned to what the subject
• 12:43
  matter is that there does. Like to be so aligned.
• 12:47
  So aligned. And I do think that there needs
• 12:50
  to be a certain volume of people to show that it has been fairly
• 12:54
  effective in reaching our target audience to invite them.
• 12:58
  And how will that attendees? So then you've got the, you've
• 13:01
  got great numbers, you're really impressed with that.
• 13:04
  How does that feel? That would make me feel to a
• 13:07
  point where I I have been given the opportunity.
• 13:11
  Now it's like a sense of empowerment to probably I.
• 13:14
  Love it. So aligned empowerment.
• 13:17
  But 2 is not good enough. We need one more.
• 13:19
  So when you think about this being a blast, you've got the
• 13:23
  numbers in the room, everyone's aligned, you know you're feeling
• 13:27
  powered. Outcome.
• 13:28
  Too. Yeah.
• 13:29
  What does that? Feel like.
• 13:30
  So for me, it would be that the outcome would be those that come
• 13:34
  to this symposium first in the world.
• 13:37
  Yay, go on and and Australia would be that people are going
• 13:42
  away more empowered themselves because they are armed with a
• 13:46
  lot more information, the truth, the facts, science and which for
• 13:49
  me that is like gifting them the the opportunity to then go and
• 13:54
  educate other people about it. Yeah.
• 13:56
  So that's it is. That a fulfilled.
• 13:58
  Piece Very joyful. Very.
• 14:00
  Which one would you choose? Just choose 1.
• 14:03
  Peaceful, joyful, fulfilled. Fulfilled.
• 14:06
  OK, so we have got the field empowered alignment.
• 14:11
  Yeah. So that's your recipe?
• 14:13
  Yes. So what we're gonna do is now
• 14:16
  that we know that that's what it's gonna be, we're gonna
• 14:19
  quantum jump. So what you'll do, we won't do
• 14:21
  it in the shower because it'll take too long.
• 14:23
  But what I would say we jump from here and we go directly
• 14:29
  onto the other side. So it's the next day.
• 14:32
  So you're waking up in the morning and I know you'll be
• 14:35
  able to do this, but you, you know, you wake up and you feel
• 14:41
  that, Oh my gosh, that alignment, that empowerment and
• 14:45
  that incredible. Was it fulfilled?
• 14:48
  What was the, IT was empowered, aligned and fulfilled feeling
• 14:54
  and you wake up and you just imagine that you're in that.
• 14:59
  And we just switch that on now. This is what we'll be doing in
• 15:02
  the workshop, right? So you'll get to experience
• 15:05
  this. I'll actually drop you down
• 15:08
  inside it, and then what happens is we bring you back.
• 15:13
  So what that does is it actually gives a message to your
• 15:18
  subconscious that you've already done it.
• 15:20
  Yes. So the subconscious, because the
• 15:22
  subconscious is what's running our emotions, right?
• 15:26
  So it switches it off, it goes, it's already done.
• 15:29
  It's a done deal. Yeah.
• 15:31
  So not only do you feel more composed, I mean, would that
• 15:35
  come in handy? Yeah.
• 15:37
  And that, I've got to be honest, that is a technique that I have
• 15:39
  to use. Especially last week I used it,
• 15:42
  Yeah. And for me, I had to bypass it
• 15:44
  by using music, music through this visualization because there
• 15:48
  was so many other stimulus. Yes, that was happening.
• 15:51
  Yeah, that I put on some meditation tracks.
• 15:53
  Yes. Music yeah and sort of help that
• 15:55
  bypass through that emotional connection like through that
• 15:59
  music going OK this makes me feel elevated it makes me feel
• 16:03
  this and these those were kind of the words that I was kind of
• 16:06
  thinking of it's like you know the success of this is you know
• 16:09
  governed by the authenticity so when I started doing that then I
• 16:12
  breathed back into it yes and just went this will be as it's
• 16:16
  meant to be because I know that the people involved are some
• 16:20
  authentic that are coming to this with the right heart soul
• 16:23
  and they are willing to learn so I just kind of went and.
• 16:26
  There you go. I mean, and, and it's amazing
• 16:29
  what happens when and you do do that.
• 16:32
  So that's a big elimination of stress.
• 16:34
  So if people are looking at anything, it could be small, it
• 16:38
  could be, oh, you're going to meet up with your mother-in-law.
• 16:39
  I'm I'm just saying like. Would that be stressful for
• 16:43
  people? No, but you know, I mean it
• 16:44
  could be that you have to face something or.
• 16:47
  Yeah, interviews all kinds of things.
• 16:49
  Yeah, an operation, it could be anything, right?
• 16:52
  Or a person that you don't want to see that suddenly you got to
• 16:55
  meet up with. Deal with them face to face.
• 16:57
  Yeah, yeah, and, and you jump time, you jump time and, and you
• 17:02
  and, and we'll teach you all about how to do that and really
• 17:06
  switch on the codes as well, because it's about a coded
• 17:09
  system. So it's, it's like the geometric
• 17:13
  coding system of your subconscious mind almost aligned
• 17:18
  with the God conscious, the Super conscious.
• 17:21
  And as far as you know, letting go of like trauma, I mean trauma
• 17:27
  is a big one. It's huge to work.
• 17:30
  What we do is we will take you back in the workshop between
• 17:36
  Martine and myself. You'll be given this amazing and
• 17:41
  incredible experience to be able to spiritually align with your
• 17:47
  goals and you know some of the problems that you may not
• 17:51
  realize you have, and Martine will be able to take you through
• 17:54
  that and identify them. And then we will literally take
• 18:00
  you back to that where the subconscious mind knows the
• 18:06
  first trauma was. So it's almost like a root, you
• 18:10
  know, like a root of a weed or a tree.
• 18:13
  You can't just pull it off at the top because it's going to
• 18:16
  grow again, right? So what you do is you go right
• 18:20
  down into the ground underneath and you pull that baby up, Yeah.
• 18:26
  Does that make sense? Absolutely, yeah.
• 18:29
  Now, do you want to read out these questions?
• 18:31
  Sure, Martin, because we we had some people come in from the
• 18:36
  community, but we're doing things a little different so.
• 18:39
  Just rolling with it today. Yeah, so we have Fiona.
• 18:43
  Hello, Fiona. Thank you for your question.
• 18:45
  Fiona from Sydney. I have a big, I have big issues
• 18:49
  with procrastination. I know it's caused by being
• 18:53
  overwhelmed. Do you have any quick NLP tips
• 18:57
  to help me take control and focus?
• 19:00
  That's a good one. Focus.
• 19:02
  Because once you refocus, that changes everything.
• 19:05
  Right? OK, I'm gonna hold on to this.
• 19:07
  Yeah. So if it goes off, we just go
• 19:09
  like that? Yeah.
• 19:10
  Look, procrastination is a behavior.
• 19:15
  So it's the behavior that comes after the energetic emotion.
• 19:22
  Yeah. So, you know, some people might,
• 19:26
  you know, drink a lot of alcohol or turn to drugs, or they might,
• 19:31
  you might be sabotaging themselves by doing things that
• 19:35
  they know, overeating or, you know, doing things against
• 19:40
  themselves. That's kind of like a behavior.
• 19:42
  Yeah. And we all do it.
• 19:44
  There's nobody that is free of this.
• 19:47
  So in case you're judging yourself, guys, don't judge.
• 19:50
  Yourself, we all do it because. You know, to the subconscious
• 19:54
  mind, it a habit is a habit. Yeah.
• 19:57
  And whether it's a really like you might think of it as the,
• 20:01
  you know, ultimate sin to something small that seems
• 20:06
  harmless, it's all the same. So the procrastination, believe
• 20:11
  it or not, Fiona is a way to protect you.
• 20:15
  OK, self preservation. So your subconscious mind, let's
• 20:22
  drink out gin and tonic. It's not, it's water.
• 20:26
  She's not on the heart, so I can't get her to do the happy
• 20:28
  hour with me. I miss you, Aaron.
• 20:31
  Look, if I had had some more food consumption today, I'd
• 20:35
  probably like line them up, but. She's keeping me on the straight
• 20:39
  and. Narrow.
• 20:39
  I'm gonna drive. Yeah, I mean, I could talk about
• 20:42
  that because alcohol has been something that, I mean, I, I
• 20:47
  don't like to think that anything's got control over me
• 20:51
  because that's really what an addiction is about, including
• 20:54
  procrastination. So procrastination is an
• 20:57
  addiction. You've learned to do that really
• 21:00
  well. And I would say, wow, you're
• 21:02
  really stylistic at it now. You know, it might be harmless
• 21:06
  to have a glass of wine every day, but when it starts to be
• 21:11
  every, every every day. Yeah.
• 21:13
  And then and then you find yourself looking for it.
• 21:18
  Yeah. And I have to admit that I kind
• 21:21
  of liked that whole thing about 5:00.
• 21:25
  You know, where's where's that little?
• 21:27
  Glass. It's my baby.
• 21:29
  But it was. It's all.
• 21:31
  I almost treated it like a reward.
• 21:33
  System treat. So, you know, I made, I made a
• 21:37
  little deal with myself that I would, I wouldn't drink alone.
• 21:44
  Oh boy. So basically, you know, even
• 21:48
  though on Saturday we, we came home because we're housemates
• 21:52
  now and we came home from the Festival of Healing and I
• 21:56
  thought, yes, let's have a celebration drink.
• 21:59
  Nah, she didn't want it. I still did.
• 22:03
  But it was Saturday. So listen to me making up all
• 22:05
  the excuses. It was Saturday, I was.
• 22:09
  With. I was with Martine.
• 22:12
  She was having alone. She I wasn't alone.
• 22:15
  Technically, I wasn't alone, right.
• 22:19
  She was having her little bevy, which was the cup of tea, cup of
• 22:22
  tea. So tea.
• 22:26
  But you know, let's talk about procrastination.
• 22:28
  So for me, just to give you an idea, Fiona.
• 22:32
  So I'm kind of using that glass of wine as a way to reward
• 22:37
  myself. Like it's, it's kind of like
• 22:40
  moving into the fun and variety because we all want to
• 22:45
  experience love and connection, a sense of importance, a sense
• 22:52
  of certainty. Yeah, to a certain degree and
• 22:55
  the opposite of certainty, which is a little bit of fun and
• 22:58
  variety. So we look for it so that wine
• 23:01
  is like my sense of fun and variety.
• 23:04
  And it doesn't necessarily mean that it's a good thing.
• 23:07
  Sometimes we will actually, actually do something that is
• 23:12
  for a good reason. And this is what I want you to
• 23:15
  really hear, Fiona, because the procrastination, you may know at
• 23:20
  a logical level that it's a negative, but that's not what
• 23:24
  your subconscious knows because your subconscious doesn't care
• 23:28
  about right or wrong. It just wants to protect you.
• 23:31
  I also feel that. If you like, for me, when you've
• 23:36
  talked about that and I have people say the same, it's like I
• 23:39
  just can't get motivated. It's like, OK, that's
• 23:40
  procrastination. How much of your day do you
• 23:42
  procrastinate? It's a proportion as well.
• 23:47
  So there's times where I find myself and I very rarely
• 23:50
  procrastinate. Trust me, I'll go straight into
• 23:53
  it. She's like a.
• 23:53
  Bull in a China. Shop I'm a warrior, so I'll just
• 23:57
  go like no, that's good, let's move along, let's go.
• 24:00
  But when I do procrastinate, that's self regulating and I've
• 24:04
  realized that about myself. It's about self regulation
• 24:08
  because my system is overwhelmed and I will procrastinate and
• 24:12
  I'll put things off for a certain time and to my system,
• 24:15
  yes, feels like it's back in better equilibrium.
• 24:19
  Nice. That's the word I try and use
• 24:21
  you. Know that?
• 24:22
  Yeah. And and use it as a tool.
• 24:24
  You use it as a tool. Use it as a tool.
• 24:27
  Yes. So change it around, change it
• 24:30
  around. I mean, obviously you've got
• 24:33
  that kind of emotional IQ of understanding, right?
• 24:39
  And we come to know that by learning it, and you've learned
• 24:43
  that along the way. And it's fair to say that the,
• 24:47
  you know, a person wouldn't necessarily understand that.
• 24:52
  Procrastination comes with a high intention as well.
• 24:57
  Yeah. So when you understand it, like
• 24:59
  Martin, then you can control it. So this is the question you need
• 25:04
  to ask yourself for what am I protecting myself because your
• 25:10
  subconscious mind. So for example, I had a person
• 25:13
  the other day that I was doing a coaching session with, and it
• 25:18
  was about failure. And they were concerned.
• 25:21
  They were they, they didn't want to move forward because they
• 25:25
  were protecting themselves from failing.
• 25:28
  Yeah, that's a really good reason, right?
• 25:29
  Yeah, that would that would kind of mine once we go failure is
• 25:33
  that it's like, what if I fail? It's like, what if this is a
• 25:36
  failure, this symposium, I'm like, how can it be a failure
• 25:39
  when I've actually done it? So The thing is, it was like
• 25:43
  changing mindset, going well when you do something,
• 25:47
  regardless of what the actual outcome was.
• 25:49
  I had to set new boundaries or what I felt like the outcome
• 25:53
  should be and go. Was that unrealistic?
• 25:56
  I'd set them too high. Yep.
• 25:58
  What is too low? So again, it's like being
• 26:01
  flexible enough to not put so much pressure on yourself.
• 26:04
  Exactly. And that I think that's a
• 26:06
  keyword. Take the pressure off, be kind
• 26:09
  to yourself and also understand that, you know, you know,
• 26:15
  failure because failure is such a big one.
• 26:18
  You know, Napoleon Hill said it like this.
• 26:21
  There's no such thing as failure.
• 26:22
  It's feedback. You know, you, you've got to
• 26:24
  fail forward. So, you know, if you're doing
• 26:27
  something for the first time, you know what is failure anyway?
• 26:32
  It's it's just your definition. And even if it did fail, what
• 26:37
  you've got to say is, well, now I have figured out, imagine
• 26:41
  Albert Einstein, you know, the guy that did the light act like,
• 26:44
  imagine if he gave up. Yes, How many times?
• 26:47
  9999 times he figured out how not to make it work.
• 26:54
  Exactly. So I'm not saying that it's
• 26:56
  going to take you 9999 times and it won't, but let's just look at
• 27:02
  it as this is your higher purpose and higher, you know,
• 27:09
  potential of actually protecting you find out what it is and then
• 27:17
  see if you can replace it and say, you know what, I'm going to
• 27:20
  fail forward. Do you find?
• 27:22
  Also that if you like, for me, I set timelines of how long I'll
• 27:25
  let myself procrastinate. So my daughter does that now
• 27:29
  too, so they'll set it. They're like, I'll give myself
• 27:32
  25 minutes or half an hour or an hour to procrastinate.
• 27:35
  And once the alarm goes off. So it's like the alarm.
• 27:39
  Yeah. And for me, I'll actually have a
• 27:42
  different timeline. So like, I'll ask for a
• 27:45
  particular feeling timeline because I meditate.
• 27:47
  So I get that. My daughter uses alarms, and she
• 27:50
  has said that that has helped her so much in setting some good
• 27:55
  boundaries with herself. Can I change the language?
• 27:58
  That is gold that that's in fact, it's so gold.
• 28:01
  This is what I'm going to say. We're hitting the.
• 28:03
  Genius zone. Yeah, we are hitting and this is
• 28:06
  your genius zone. Everyone, whatever your emotion
• 28:09
  is, set a timer to it and say, you know what, I'm going to give
• 28:12
  myself until such and such a time.
• 28:15
  You know, you can do it with illness as well if you're
• 28:17
  totally. Yeah, OK, I'm going to give
• 28:18
  myself till 5:00 this afternoon. Boom.
• 28:21
  Well, that's already gone. So out of here.
• 28:24
  So are we going to have another question?
• 28:27
  Have we got time? We do OK.
• 28:29
  So we've got Brett from Florida. Hello over there beautiful USA.
• 28:35
  I'm obsessed with time. Oh gosh, you know I used to be
• 28:40
  able to relate to this. I have no no longer wear a
• 28:43
  watch. It freaks me out when my
• 28:45
  girlfriend runs late even though we arrive on time.
• 28:50
  Why does this stress me so much? Oh God, I can so relate.
• 28:54
  You sound like someone very very close to me, but I'm not going
• 28:58
  to mention my son in case. I get into my name anyway.
• 29:05
  Oh my word, have you been look, this this is a very common, this
• 29:10
  is actually a very common issue. So I'm going to see if I can
• 29:16
  relate to what you just said and get this right.
• 29:19
  So you time stresses you out. So if you are very similar to
• 29:25
  this person that I know, that means that you tend to be, you
• 29:31
  know, fretting if you think you're running late, but then
• 29:36
  somebody else that seems a lot more calmer and relaxed and
• 29:41
  chilled out freaks you out. But then you find out that you
• 29:46
  usually end up being on time any.
• 29:49
  OK, this is the total dynamics of me and my daughter.
• 29:52
  Oh my God. I'm always like, it's fine,
• 29:54
  don't stress. We'll get there when we get
• 29:56
  there. And that's the divine timing.
• 29:57
  But that's the right time. OK, it's all.
• 30:00
  Good. It's like we're not like 2
• 30:01
  hours. It was late.
• 30:01
  It's, you know, 5 minutes late is still on time.
• 30:05
  Exactly. So hey, guys, if you can relate
• 30:08
  to this, drop it down and I'm gonna tell you Brett, probably
• 30:14
  the way you operate and the way your partner operates.
• 30:19
  So this is this comes back to the on time in time and through
• 30:25
  time personality, yes, So you know, this is the weird part
• 30:30
  about it. You probably think and you, if
• 30:34
  you're anything like this other person I know, you probably even
• 30:37
  have arguments about who who actually is better with time
• 30:42
  than the other. And yet.
• 30:45
  Relationship issue, yeah. And yet I'm going to tell you
• 30:49
  something that's very, very ironic and that is that the
• 30:55
  chances are that your partner is better with time than you are.
• 30:59
  It's just that time freaks you out.
• 31:02
  So you are what we call a on time person.
• 31:08
  That means on time means that you've got to get this done,
• 31:11
  this done, this done, this done, this done and this time.
• 31:14
  So time is running past. OK, that's.
• 31:17
  How it's losing time. So you're literally you're.
• 31:20
  Literally, I, I actually use a metaphor like a tray.
• 31:26
  Yeah. And the train's running this way
• 31:28
  and you're, you're trying to jump in the carriage and.
• 31:32
  And that's sort of like an anxiety kind of a thing right
• 31:36
  now. Your partner is through time.
• 31:40
  So the interesting part is that I actually to train in timeline
• 31:46
  therapy, I actually used my son and my stepson as an example.
• 31:51
  And it actually epitomized myself often my husband because.
• 31:57
  Yeah, so there's a reflection. These are, you know, like
• 32:00
  myself, my son and Ian and his son.
• 32:04
  So, you know, the fact is that I, I don't know whether you can
• 32:09
  relate to this, Brett, but your partner is already sitting on
• 32:15
  the train. So the fact is that she is
• 32:19
  running through time. She time is inside of her, so
• 32:25
  she's not freaked out about it. And whilst you're probably
• 32:28
  having arguments, if you're anything like these people that
• 32:31
  I know where they're going, oh, he's hopeless with time or she's
• 32:34
  hopeless with time, but they've got it wrong.
• 32:36
  It's actually the other way around, unless the person is
• 32:41
  just. Behind time as.
• 32:42
  Well, you know, 3 hours, like that's just tardy.
• 32:45
  I know there's some people that do that.
• 32:47
  I mean, that's just that's in their own little bubble, but you
• 32:50
  know. When we're talking in terms of,
• 32:54
  you know, if it's within the time that yeah, you know, Kurt.
• 32:57
  Is 10 minutes either way? 10 minutes are they?
• 33:00
  Reckon 5 minutes and you're on time. 10 minutes to rubbish
• 33:04
  traffic in Perth. Traffic sucks.
• 33:07
  I'm sorry. It's got, it's got to be fair.
• 33:09
  So would you like a little cheap here?
• 33:12
  This is how you can manage it. So you know you're already doing
• 33:17
  it. I don't know whether you realize
• 33:19
  this or not, but you know how you talked about you.
• 33:22
  You're flipping time around, so sometimes you are running.
• 33:27
  Time is running through you. Depends what the subject gives
• 33:30
  out we're. On yeah.
• 33:31
  So you're probably through time right now.
• 33:34
  So we're probably sitting here. Very time, absolutely feeling
• 33:39
  forensic, very present. I do feel very present.
• 33:41
  OK, So you're present here now. However, before before we
• 33:45
  started say 15 to 20, I think 15.
• 33:48
  Timeline She. Was on time, out of time and she
• 33:51
  was all overtime. So what I.
• 33:52
  OK, So what I look at is not just time, but I'm looking
• 33:55
  dimensionality. Yeah.
• 33:57
  So there's things I'm having to deal with that are coming in the
• 34:00
  future that I have to do things to line up.
• 34:02
  Then there's things right now. Then there's things that are
• 34:03
  probably dealt with, should have done 2 days ago without a beyond
• 34:07
  my control. I'm like, what do I need to do
• 34:09
  to bring that up and realign it? That's how I'm looking like.
• 34:13
  Like a 360 yes. And remembering to breathe in
• 34:17
  all of that. Yes, because yes.
• 34:19
  And also also The thing is that you'll find that if you do hear
• 34:24
  something like when I was talking about timelining on the
• 34:27
  weekend, you'll pick it up so fast because of the work you
• 34:31
  already do. So if you, if you think of it
• 34:33
  like this, Brett, if you think of it like, OK, where do I need
• 34:37
  to be right now? Because I find that some people,
• 34:41
  if they are particularly, you know, on time people, so they're
• 34:46
  outside of time, time is not in them.
• 34:49
  It's very hard to get them present.
• 34:51
  They can seem very serious. They can seem always focused.
• 34:55
  On in their head. They're in their head.
• 34:57
  Racing. So you know what you do, I used
• 35:00
  to do this as a little trick. Some Some people people is is
• 35:08
  even even above above them them and and where where they're
• 35:10
  they're full full of of the the pressure pressure is is on on.
• 35:13
  but the way you perceive time is the way you feel so if you kind
• 35:18
  of start to think of it as a hands of a clock and you get the
• 35:22
  timeline and you pull it inside you and just go OK I'm here
• 35:28
  through time So if you kind of start to think of it as a hands
• 35:20
  of a clock and you get the timeline and you pull it inside
• 35:25
  you and just go, OK, I'm here through time, time through time.
• 35:31
  I'm moving through time right now.
• 35:34
  And then you can even shift the hands of the clock and see which
• 35:38
  one feels better. Like, does it feel better if
• 35:41
  it's, you know, your past is out there on your left and it's, you
• 35:45
  know, your future's on the right?
• 35:47
  Or is it better the other way where your past is behind you
• 35:51
  and your future is in front of you?
• 35:54
  So yeah, give it a crack. And that is actually the reason
• 35:59
  you're the on time person. Your partner is the three time
• 36:04
  person. Yeah.
• 36:05
  Have we got time for one more? We do, we actually do we're but
• 36:09
  us we're so productive keeping on task at all well.
• 36:14
  So we have the beautiful Genevieve.
• 36:15
  Thank you Genevieve from Perth. I'm not sure if this relates to
• 36:19
  time. Sure, it probably does, but I
• 36:22
  keep attracting the same kind of unhealthy relationships.
• 36:25
  Can timeline therapy really help with that?
• 36:28
  Oh. That's.
• 36:29
  A juicy. One, that is a very big one,
• 36:31
  Genevieve, you're in Perth, you're a Perthian.
• 36:34
  Get down to our workshop and let me enlighten you so we can talk,
• 36:39
  you know, through that. I think that was just the three
• 36:41
  questions from the community today.
• 36:43
  So all right, now firstly, the answer is 150,000% yeah, you can
• 36:53
  do something about that because you know, quite often you're
• 36:57
  treating your now partner as the one that you had two decades
• 37:04
  ago. And not all the time.
• 37:07
  Don't generalize. I don't want to generalize here,
• 37:10
  but quite often we get triggered.
• 37:12
  So we get triggered, they do something, they say something or
• 37:18
  something happens and it sets us off.
• 37:21
  But the reason that happens is because of the experience we had
• 37:26
  in our past. And quite often it's not even
• 37:29
  from our first boyfriend, girlfriend.
• 37:32
  Quite often it can be from a significant other, you know,
• 37:37
  family. Role modeling.
• 37:38
  A parent role. Model.
• 37:40
  Yeah, it it really. Yeah.
• 37:43
  So it comes back from and it's obviously around like when I was
• 37:50
  talking to somebody else, you know, when I was discussing
• 37:55
  like, how do you actually feel the word lonely and abandoned
• 37:59
  came up. And that's really a big one.
• 38:02
  I find loneliness and abandonment probably one of the
• 38:06
  most serious feelings that are really, you know, that if you
• 38:11
  are feeling them, you've got to get rid of it, right?
• 38:13
  Yeah. The other one that's a really
• 38:15
  popular 1. And I was famous for this one.
• 38:18
  I was really good at it. That's shame and guilt.
• 38:21
  Wow. You know, and, and you know, the
• 38:23
  shame and the guilt, actually, I found that that came from my
• 38:28
  grandmother. Can you believe?
• 38:30
  And I actually, I worked it out. Yeah.
• 38:34
  I was when I was doing a master's training, I went
• 38:38
  through a timeline session and I and I found, Speaking of trains,
• 38:44
  goodness me, I ended up on a train in my timeline and I
• 38:49
  realized I was my grandmother when she was 15 years old, who
• 38:54
  was actually carrying a lot of shame.
• 38:57
  Oh, so you're talking about, we're talking about ancestral
• 39:00
  DNA? Ancestral lineage, yeah.
• 39:04
  So yeah, yeah. So it can go back before
• 39:07
  because. Before you would even.
• 39:08
  Say our grandmother's egg is planted in.
• 39:12
  We are inside our grandmother's. We are the Yeah, as a result of
• 39:16
  the grandmother's egg. Easy.
• 39:18
  So you can understand that DNA comes from that.
• 39:21
  So it travels down through so, so in terms of your
• 39:26
  relationships. So it could have happened way
• 39:29
  back. I'm, you know, sorry to say
• 39:31
  this, but it could have happened 7 generations ago where there
• 39:36
  was that element of being, you know, perhaps under captivity
• 39:42
  or, you know, in that kind of, you know, how in that captive
• 39:48
  entrapment, that kind of relationship, whatever that felt
• 39:53
  like. So it's up to our subconscious
• 39:56
  to carry that forward almost like a bat in a legacy.
• 39:59
  It is. So we've got to break that.
• 40:01
  We've got to break that baby. So when you are meeting with
• 40:05
  these people, one of the things we're going to get you to do is
• 40:11
  we're going to get you to meet with all of them, especially the
• 40:13
  significant ones, and say thank you because yeah, you.
• 40:18
  You've brought to me something powerful.
• 40:22
  Yeah. And you are part of my history.
• 40:24
  Yeah. You are part of my history.
• 40:27
  And you do not have to be a victim of your history.
• 40:30
  You can be a master of your destiny.
• 40:32
  I look at it as a tool of evolution.
• 40:34
  So it's the lesson that I'm gonna evolve from because this
• 40:37
  is where I say, you know, this is what the issue was.
• 40:40
  This is where I felt disrespected or I didn't have
• 40:43
  clear boundaries or I didn't have strong enough boundaries.
• 40:46
  That's like, OK, so because of that, that were the
• 40:49
  consequences. Then it made me feel degraded or
• 40:51
  not appreciated. And then I was like, well, the
• 40:55
  only way I'm going to feel appreciated is to do the remedy
• 40:57
  of that and look at that and go, great, listen, thanks very much.
• 41:00
  I'm not dwelling on it though. Exactly, no point.
• 41:03
  Exactly. So these people, so the
• 41:05
  relationships that you've had in your lifetime, what we would do
• 41:10
  in the workshop. So put your name down because
• 41:13
  you're in Perth. Genevieve will let you know is
• 41:17
  that we would be looking at 3 structures because it is a
• 41:21
  structure, absolutely a structure of time.
• 41:24
  It will be the most recent, hardest relationship.
• 41:29
  OK, Oh, she's taking a deep breath in.
• 41:32
  Oh, I'm not going to anchor that.
• 41:34
  No, no. I catched it before, but that
• 41:36
  was a good one, so I've got to go on the other side.
• 41:38
  OK, I'm happy to be OK. It's getting hot around here.
• 41:44
  OK, She's gonna need a drink. Half of this.
• 41:47
  That was my that was my tactic. No.
• 41:49
  So. All right, so you're gonna need
• 41:51
  the the recent one. You're gonna need anyone that
• 41:57
  was really bad throughout your life that comes up, and you're
• 42:01
  gonna need one from the earliest childhood, which you may or you
• 42:05
  may not know. So they're like that.
• 42:09
  It operates like walls, if you like, you know, weight bearing
• 42:13
  walls. Yeah.
• 42:14
  So, you know, in the house we're living in, we've got an
• 42:17
  upstairs. Like, if you take out the wrong
• 42:19
  walls, you got to be careful because, you know, we might get
• 42:24
  elephants falling through the roof.
• 42:27
  I'm just joking, But the ceiling might fall in.
• 42:30
  Yeah, OK. Absolutely.
• 42:32
  We've got mice and elephants in our house, by the way.
• 42:34
  So anyway, that was a private joke.
• 42:37
  She's laughing. So when you take out the weight
• 42:42
  bearing walls and the roof collapses, that's actually a
• 42:45
  good thing because it's a domino effect.
• 42:47
  Yeah. So it it.
• 42:50
  So that means then, however, this is the part I didn't teach
• 42:54
  us and this is the the stuff that I have done since learning
• 42:58
  all of this stuff. And that is that.
• 43:01
  And you would understand all about this.
• 43:03
  We've got it then. Input we've got to input the new
• 43:07
  recipe because we don't want to leave it open.
• 43:10
  No, because if we leave it open, then the next person that.
• 43:14
  Comes in like, oh, I think just did this, don't I as well?
• 43:17
  Yeah, no. That's when you can become
• 43:20
  specific about who you want in your.
• 43:22
  Life, absolutely. Wow, I'm loving this.
• 43:26
  And I think that learning of these tips about
• 43:30
  neurolinguistics, what you're saying about our language, our
• 43:33
  words, how powerful they are, that timeline, like I said, you
• 43:38
  know, people, it's great to be able to visualize.
• 43:41
  So if you're not a group great visualizer, actually learning
• 43:45
  some techniques and that because I know a lot of people that are
• 43:47
  really hard to do that. Yes, you're right.
• 43:49
  But I, I, I, I find that if you grab a pillow and say, OK, this
• 43:54
  is the issue is that there, where is that to the relative of
• 43:59
  the feeling? So there is that kind of way to
• 44:02
  help people learn those techniques.
• 44:03
  And that's why. When you come into our workshop,
• 44:07
  you're gonna, you're not just going to hear about this stuff,
• 44:10
  you're going to experience it. So if you're not in Perth and
• 44:16
  you're going, Oh my gosh, I want to be there, just let us know
• 44:20
  and we can definitely give you a link and you can attend
• 44:25
  virtually because we do that as well.
• 44:27
  So just like how we are now, you'll be involved and yeah, let
• 44:32
  us know. But yeah, I think that's that
• 44:35
  just about wraps up our shot it. Is so again, let's go back.
• 44:39
  I want to just to reiterate to people, stress, Yep, is one
• 44:44
  thing. Anxiety is about the future.
• 44:46
  Yes, depression and sadness is about the past.
• 44:50
  So it's about like kind of a grief process too, right?
• 44:53
  Letting go of that and you don't know how to complete that cycle.
• 44:57
  Yeah, I find that sometimes people are almost there and it's
• 45:00
  like, you keep holding on to that one thing, let that one
• 45:02
  thing go boom. OK.
• 45:04
  Just, you know, procrastination. Procrastination is a tool that
• 45:09
  we use to self regulate and protect ourselves.
• 45:14
  And so in that you can use it as a tool that's positive or you
• 45:18
  can allow it to be out of control and negative.
• 45:20
  So where is your balance for your life to be successful?
• 45:24
  And that's why coming to learn all of these techniques, I think
• 45:27
  from beautiful Terry here. And then how we put that
• 45:31
  together as a workshop. I'm I'm intrigued by that.
• 45:34
  I can't wait. Can't wait indeed.
• 45:37
  So exciting. It is so exciting.
• 45:39
  Wow. Well, This Is Us wrapping up.
• 45:42
  Thanks, Mr. Malloy, for tuning in from probably where you are
• 45:45
  or not everyone else. Thank you for joining us.
• 45:48
  Yes, thank you so much for joining the Genius Zone.
• 45:52
  Genius Zone Edge, Radio Australia.
• 45:55
  Bye Ciao. A show where we have explored
• 46:10
  through this various topic along with all the exciting new topics
• 46:17
  that we bring every week to enhance your personal mastery of
• 46:23
  excellence. Now I'd love you to do me a
• 46:26
  favour, in fact be part part of the legacy 1,000,000 that I have
• 46:33
  in the vision for 2028. If you know someone who really
• 46:39
  would benefit from this recording from this episode,
• 46:44
  please share, share it with them.
• 46:48
  And when you subscribe, you get notified every week of our
• 46:54
  episode as soon as it drops. So let's do that legacy thing,
• 47:02
  let's share, let's care, let's enrich, and I look forward to
• 47:08
  bringing you another week of the most enriching content.
• 47:13
  So until next time, stay inspired, stay awesome, and keep
• 47:19
  on mastering your excellence.